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@Minionette611 Жыл бұрын
I appreciate you. I have had a lot of emotional trauma the last couple of years and I feel more codependent than ever and it has costed me quite a bit of control over my own life. I have to get better.
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
@@Minionette611 hey Mimi! I’m so glad you found me! I have lots of resources on codependency on my website too! Just let me know what you are needing help with and I’ll help you anyway I can!
@naturalist3698 ай бұрын
Thank you kindly . I've always been so independent with so many accomplishments I did all on my own, including moving out at age 16, putting myself through college while working etc. so I didn't see how I could be codependent . I like giving and being kind, also extending the things others in family did not extend to me. Now I found out my mother is a narcissist and I keep getting partners like her, even though she is the one whose behaviour I had to run from. I understand how this happens now & I agree establishing self trust is key as that's been insidiously stripped away along with our identity in so many ways. Recently I've experienced betrayal from the one I thought I could trust and spend my life with who acts like nothing has happened 🤯 Thank you for the self help tools, much appreciated 💜🙏🏼🎶😇🕊️💫
@naturalist3698 ай бұрын
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@MichelleFarrismft5 ай бұрын
@@naturalist369 you are so welcome! You sound like a courageous, hard working person. It gets better!!
@MsKnaz100 Жыл бұрын
I am currently focusing on “I am not responsible for other’s emotions”
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Yes!! That’s so great and will help you with boundaries!
@amyproudfoot661110 ай бұрын
It's a tough one 😞
@Lilith.Lenore8 ай бұрын
I have a sticky note in my kitchen that says I am not responsible for other people's -Actions -Reactions -Fears -Behaviours -Excuses -Feelings -BULLSHIT I read it when I need to and having a few sticky notes in my kitchen with these honest reminders really helps!! You've got this! Remember it's all a process! 🖤
@Shaina_singh_amrita3 ай бұрын
But this is not entirely true. It you are an abuser you have to be accountable for your actions and tha in that case you ARE responsible for your VICTIM'S emotions. This line is not totally true. A lot of Abusers hide behind this line and hurt everyone emotionally and walk away while leaving someone to die emotionally/physically/financially If you ARE the CAUSE of someone's misery by YOUR deliberate ACTIONS than you ARE definitely accountable for the VICTIM'S Emotions
@miranderkawalala8642 ай бұрын
Same here. ❤ Dealing with the guilt that keeps on coming up, but I'm getting through it. I know I got this
@JoshAronoff4 ай бұрын
Wow! “I wanted to work on my relationships more than I wanted to work on myself” so true for me.
@MichelleFarrismft4 ай бұрын
Yep, that's really the heart of codependency. :)
@mareehutchin2702 Жыл бұрын
Realising I’m very codependent… especially regarding finances… I expect other people will take care of me because I don’t trust myself to take care of myself financially
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
That’s s great awareness Maree. Great work!
@lizedbf73343 ай бұрын
Setting boundaries is useless. The relations you have now at this moment will not acknowledge these boundaries. They are used to walking all over you. I had to quit my job, leave my narcisissit husband and narcisissit father and i had to leave everyone and everything behind except my daughter. I now live in a small campervan with my early retirement pension. It's not easy, i have very little money but finally i'm no longer a slave or a robot. I am living my life ... finally 😊
@MichelleFarrismft3 ай бұрын
Yes with narcissists boundaries are typically not respected at all. I'm glad you took care of yourself and I'm sorry it's been a struggle.
@miranderkawalala8642 ай бұрын
Love this for you ❤
@MichelleFarrismft2 ай бұрын
@@miranderkawalala864 thanks Miranda for watching and showing up for some healing!
@realestatecoach8626Ай бұрын
Praise God!
@MichelleFarrismftАй бұрын
@@realestatecoach8626 Thank you for watching!
@LG-wm1nw8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. I am healing from narcissistic abuse, physical, emotional, verbal, mental, and spiritual abuse.
@MichelleFarrismft8 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching! You might find my journal prompts on healing narcissism helpful, they're in the description of this post.
@Andy-mm2us3 ай бұрын
The pattern throughout my adult life tends to be, obviously because I am here, I keep choosing the same type of relationship. But the other pattern is that once I recover and find myself again I immediately lose myself once I get into a relationship. In finding myself after a relationship I spend all this time and effort becoming a well-rounded individual but the second I couple with someone I give all of that away and try and become “everything” for the relationship. I so easily give myself away and when I don’t get that same effort in return, I become empty and resentful.
@MichelleFarrismft3 ай бұрын
Have you considered checking out Al-Anon or Coda? Both of them deal with issues of codependency.
@StephanReed15 ай бұрын
I’m in the “setting boundaries” & “feel your own feelings” phase of this now. It’s ROUGH. I am/was the “giver.” I’ve done so much work on figuring out why she did certain things. Only recently did I start figuring out why I am in this cycle. It’s because of my mother. She passed away when I was 18 & I always felt the need to protect. Do everything I could for this person who often felt powerless. The situation I found myself in last almost 3 years. The dynamic was great at the beginning! But the scales started to tip. I did EVERYTHING I could to help her - with work, mental health, physical health & family. She stopped growing. Her problems persisted while it took a drastic toll on me. I don’t know if I’ll ever be with her again. I don’t know if I would want to be. But I hope the absolute best for her. She couldn’t grow with me; I hope she grows without me - because I am starting to be a better person without her. Bittersweet.
@MichelleFarrismft5 ай бұрын
Yes, it IS bittersweet and a painful yet important lesson that some people aren't meant to stay in our lives forever. Sounds like you've done some really good work on yourself!
@boitumelomasipa49909 ай бұрын
I've spent hours and hours wondering what is wrong with me and why I have to help everyone I come across, even if a small part of me doesn't actually want to help. I didn't know what to call it…
@MichelleFarrismft9 ай бұрын
Well that is a huge step - knowing what the problem is! I'm SO glad you found me. I have lots of resources on my website too :)
@colettesmith589111 ай бұрын
This has bought tears to my eyes. The realization I am a codependent. Now I know, I can work on this. Thank you, you're very kind x
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
Yeah, this is not easy but you are in the right place :)
@colettesmith589111 ай бұрын
@@MichelleFarrismft Thank you so much for replying,🙏. It's really not going to be easy, I'm 49 and only just excepted my childhood. I have had 2 relationship's with a narcissist and it's all finally making sense. I will work on this, I'm determined. You have really helped me and I am so grateful 🙏
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
Absolutely- you are not alone in this!
@colettesmith589111 ай бұрын
@@MichelleFarrismft Thank you. You're doing a great service x
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
@@colettesmith5891 yay!! That makes me so happy!
@aprilplacek9264 Жыл бұрын
It’s definitely a recovery process and breaking the habit of trying to cater to everyone else’s emotions. They will get ok while I’m over here needing more Botox
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Lol! Yeah I know we go through a lot don’t we? Thankfully recovery helps a whole lot!
@jenniferrackham8107 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for putting this out to the world. Today I am bawling because my alcoholic husband doesn’t think he needs help. I can feel the pain deep inside of him and it scares me. Building self trust and going to al-anon are my next steps. My brain keeps going to my marriage relationship instead of going to me first and healing there. This video opened my eyes. Thank you, Michelle
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thanks Jennifer, my heart goes out to you. I know it's so hard when others don't seek help but I'm really glad that YOU are going to help yourself in Al-Anon. You are on the right track! One day at a time, it will get better especially with that extra support!
@brendarose8338 Жыл бұрын
Hope you’re doing better x
@jacquelinegrace3 Жыл бұрын
@jenniferrackham8107 Thank you Jennifer for thanking Michelle! ❤ because my alcoholic husband doesn’t think he needs help either! And I too can feel his deep pain and insecurities…💔❤️🩹 my heart goes out to you and your husband! And my thanks to Michelle! I just found her!❤ My 6 mos in AlAnon was eye opening! But week after week the folks only looked backward in pain and frustration, focused on the alcoholic. As the program began to help me, I started to wonder when our circle would begin to focus on ourselves? OUR interests. OUR fun plans. But it never did. Always about the sick one. So I stopped going. I’d like a coda group. 😢
@gillianmountford49426 ай бұрын
Hope he feels he needs help eventually Good luck and Karma for yourself!
@gillianmountford49426 ай бұрын
@@jacquelinegrace3 Good point- Looking at/ to the future…
@JohnyW.HamiltonNguyen7 күн бұрын
I finally feel like i can trust myself not to do drugs ...im taking therapy and rehabilation and my relationship with my sister is healthy, self rewarding, and determination to gain trust
@MichelleFarrismft7 күн бұрын
@@JohnyW.HamiltonNguyen that’s great Johny!
@kims19128 ай бұрын
I attended a 12 step for codependency, but I don't like how they want you to say your name and then "codependent". I'm much more than just codependent traits that I learned. I'm a loved, cherished, child of God. I'm not going to label myself like that. I trust God to heal me of these behaviors that don't serve me well.
@MichelleFarrismft8 ай бұрын
Interesting- I’m Al-Anon they don’t do that but every group is different. You can always decide not to do that if it makes you uncomfortable but I agree we are many things - not totally defined by our codependency. ❤️
@Christine-jg3hf6 күн бұрын
AMEN 💞🌷🌹💪🙏🙌 🙏
@wistariawhispers937Ай бұрын
A process of unlearning unhealthy behaviors in relationships with self and others. 1) Build solid relationship with self. 2) Learn to assess our relationships i.e., stop the fixing, neg. outweighs the positive 3) Set boundaries in all relationships 4) Feel your OWN feels, not others 5) Identify enabling behaviorsi.e., doing too muvh, fixing, control 6) finding the right support 7)do family of origin work 8) Build self-trust
@MichelleFarrismftАй бұрын
Thanks for the great summary and for watching!
@cynthianewell5746 Жыл бұрын
Love your pup in the background. Very comforting. ❤
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Yeah sometimes she's right there with me! Thanks Cynthia for watching!
@mrswb3630 Жыл бұрын
Cute puppy chilling out in the background ❤
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thank you, she is pretty old now but loves to be right there when I’m filming. Thanks for watching!
@desidarocha6650 Жыл бұрын
Codependency hurts so bad . It’s just such an agony
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Yes, it does -have you considered checking out Al-Anon? It's a free support group for codependency related to addiction.
@domingo36325 ай бұрын
it is
@paul873119 күн бұрын
Agreed. Funny thing is that living outside of codependency is so much easier and freer. But the default behaviour learnt in childhood is hard to break out of, making life and relationships so hard and painful. Wishing you a peaceful recovery, you are worth it ❤
@nathalieprange17136 ай бұрын
Great video which gives solutions but also describes codependency so well!
@MichelleFarrismft6 ай бұрын
Yes! I was aiming to give both the problem and the solution!
@destiniandhaley11 ай бұрын
You have hit me perfectly. Boundaries. I am working hard on these! Thank you! ❤
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
I hope it was a gentle nudge! ❤️
@courtneysigler5984 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. Really just finding out I’m co dependent and wondered why my relationships were awful and I felt awful everyday. Connecting the dots finally. This was helpful
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Good for you! I have lots of free resources listed in the description too.
@BlindfoldSniper Жыл бұрын
Hi Michelle. I come from this as a person that has mostly healed from codependency and this is a way of me checking up. Very important as I have (largely through the help of online therapists such as yourself) mostly done this all on my own. I know you wouldn't recommend it and I agree in the main, but I am an INFJ so I'm actually quite willing to be self-reflective and introspective once I intentionally choose to focus on my own problems instead of others around me. This has helped a great deal and part of the reason why I was able to instinctively navigate the onslaught of difficult emotions that I'd kept repressed and hidden for decades. While I have managed to overcome a veritable laundry list of issues I still see there are parts of me that are needing encouragement. Fortunately I now do all of those things you have mentioned in this video. I have finally rescued that broken child with the wounds of abandonment, neglect, guilt, shame, people-pleasing and anxious attachment. I still see that I have yet to trust myself fully with this new mindset (which is liberating in any case) and do worry as to how I'll navigate life and relationships at the other end, but I'm more than aware of the boundaries I need to set and that includes this relationship I have with myself. Thanks for the clarity you bring to this subject and know that your approach to it will definitely help people to heal.
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
I admire you for doing so much work on your own - few can do that but I agree that it IS possible. Self-trust is a MAJOR key - so I hear you there. I created a journal on that too if you're interested. Thanks so much for watching and taking the time to comment and share your story.
@jonathanstewart91615 ай бұрын
Its like codependancy is the polar opposite to the narccissist? I guess this is why narccissists always seem to be in a relationship with a co dependant person? We fuel them? Thank you for the video, I have just realised that the psychologist I was seeing fortnightly was trying to get me to do exactly what you are saying to do to recover from co dependancy. Why didnt he just tell me I am co dependant? I have exited a 17 year marriage nearly 2 years now, the lonelyness is a killer but I have started to take up hobbies I used to have as a kid. But I still feel empty and struggle with self worth, validating my feelings and even listening to them. Its a long road to recovery 😔
@MichelleFarrismft5 ай бұрын
Sounds like you are doing a lot of good work. Actually narcissism isn't the opposite though it may seem like it :) - they both need external approval but seek it in different ways. Thanks for watching!
@through.a.barrel.she.breathes4 ай бұрын
This has been really helpful, and such an important guide to start healing and moving forward.
@MichelleFarrismft4 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching and saying so :)
@sweepstakesluvr Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being you. I always love your content. I'm learning how to set boundaries and evaluating what relationships I want to keep and which ones need to end.
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thank YOU! That means a lot to me - I hope you consider joining my email community so I can help you even more!
@amandablake4691 Жыл бұрын
yes and ditto! and thank you so much Xxx this has been really helpful, and such an important guide to start healing and moving forwards. Xxx
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thanks Amanda! I'm glad it helped! If you have any topics requests, let me know! I love sharing on codependency!
@C-ge9kb Жыл бұрын
I've been doing coda 12 steps for almost 7 months now and I haven't felt like I've been doing step work in order. I've been listening to others at my therapy and becoming more and more self aware of how I have been doing things unknowingly based on fear so I've been looking deeper into myself. I have only just surrendered to the higher power, the universe. Only just releasing controlling aspects of my personality and getting a better relationship within myself. I copied it all from my mums behaviour after the break up with my dad but I think he also had some Co dependant traits and it lead to a toxic break involving kids. I love my parents and still speak to them but it's hard to heal around the people who made me this way. Hopefully soon I will see more of a change and be less frightened of intamcy. X
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thank you Catherine, yeah it's hard to look at our childhood wounds but that will make a huge difference in the long run. I love hearing that you are building a relationship with yourself! It took my many years to realize I needed that. You are doing great!
@wareforcoin57809 ай бұрын
I've always known there was something wrong with the way I relate to other people, I just never knew what to name it. I even know where it came from, I've already had all the memories and the revelations. Now that I know what it is, I can go about fixing it. I'm just beginning to heal from it, but I think I'll start with trusting myself. I think if I can rely on my own feelings, it'll be easier to unlearn all the horrible anxiety I have surrounding voicing my own will.
@MichelleFarrismft9 ай бұрын
That's great that you are so eager to start recovery! I love working with codependency. I have lots of resources on it too.
@danrudolph31711 ай бұрын
Really good stuff. This had taught me that a relationship only enhances the way I already feel.
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
Oh that is SO true and very wise!
@MariaM-qq6kvАй бұрын
7 Key Elements to Recovery Unlearning dyfunctional behaviours learned in childhood Relationships + Relationship with self 1. Build a healthy/solid relationship with yourself 2. Assess your relationships, do the negatives far outweigh the positives? 3. Set boundaries in your relationships, help us honour our own boundaries and needs 4. Feel your own feelings, you feel others feelings other than our own. Your body is where your feelings get stored. We can make dangerous assumptions of others 5. Address and identify enabling and controlling behaviours. We only have control of ourselves not others 6. Finding the right support. Al-anon meetings, Life Coach, Therapist, coda 7. Do your family of origin work. Pain of the past, childhood abuse and trauma Building Self Trust, Intuition - Journal
@MichelleFarrismftАй бұрын
Thank you - that's a great summary!
@juliemcmillian6445 Жыл бұрын
That was freaking awesome!! Thank you so much for sharing this video! xoxo ❣️ 😁
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome! I'm SO glad it helped!
@Sunshine-eq2zs Жыл бұрын
This is very helpful. Thank you for sharing!
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome Dee!
@bjspinks5735 Жыл бұрын
Many of us need to listen to your messages for the healing process
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thanks BJ - that’s my hope! To help as many as I can!
@daydream106611 ай бұрын
I am just now admitting to myself I am very codependent in close friendships… which I think stems from my codependent relationship with my mom (which she admits to) and my separation anxiety stuff 😅 It even comes at the sacrifice to self preservation. I literally had an allergic reaction to eating lobster and said NOTHING for over over an hour as it progressively got worse. Why? Because I didn’t want my friend to freak out or be a burden 🤦♀️. I was getting a migraine, my tongue and neck was swelling up, and I felt electric down my limbs as my nervous system was shutting down but chose to say nothing. When I really needed a Benadryl and medical attention. Needless to say this would have been kept a secret from my friend but my mom forced me to tell her. My friend was very angry with me that I basically could have died and yet chose to do nothing 😅. And no longer am I allowed to try new foods in her presence because new allergies have emerged and I am not trust worthy in telling people I need help. So I need help I admit it now, I need to stop this need to be needed because it is driving me crazy! And it’s not okay.
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
Oh my...I'm so glad you are okay. I agree that speaking up is CRITICAL for you. You might consider Al-Anon al-anon.org
@opu_exe8 ай бұрын
This journey of slowly building myself has not only realized what I have done, but also how my former partner may have read my behaviors. Helping me realize the unspoken boundaries that I had crossed, and how to avoid it in the future
@MichelleFarrismft8 ай бұрын
Good for you, it sounds like you have been doing some great work!
@vishasaili7431Ай бұрын
Detachment and self care
@MichelleFarrismftАй бұрын
@@vishasaili7431 both super important!!
@IamwhatIam201211 ай бұрын
Your pup is the OPPOSITE of anxious and troubled! Let’s all be like that awesome pup on the couch❤
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
Yeah she was the best! She passed away this last May. Cookie was great ❤️❤️
@IamwhatIam201211 ай бұрын
Oh NO!!! So sorry… that is super painful to go thru I know❤️🩹 I also wanted to say thank you for the wise tips… I need it now more than ever!
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
@@IamwhatIam2012 thank you, I’m grateful I could grief and didn’t get stuck there.
@christabellahimbazwa39339 ай бұрын
This is 100% me right there 😢
@MichelleFarrismft9 ай бұрын
I’m so glad you could relate!
@nelliemoore3792 Жыл бұрын
Hello Michelle, thank you for amazing talk, I heard a lot like this in the past however your help re talks have opened my inner eyes , after a long time. Kind regards (Nellie) Natalie
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thank you Nellie, I really strive to provide helpful tips that are easy to follow :)
@kirstenschweikert7181Ай бұрын
Very good explained. Thank you.
@MichelleFarrismftАй бұрын
Thanks Kirsten! I appreciate that!
@fondacormier477322 күн бұрын
Great Information. Thank you!
@MichelleFarrismft22 күн бұрын
@@fondacormier4773 you’re very welcome!
@ckl58017 ай бұрын
I think we have a lot of support on YT! ❤
@asmaezerouali4678 Жыл бұрын
I found out that i am a real co dependt ...my last relationship wasn't that bad and i feel guilty to have a desire that I want to save... especially that the person is helpful and supportive..he knows my problems
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
You are in the right place! I have lots of videos and free resources to help you heal codependency 😀
@tashat604 күн бұрын
Thank you❤
@MichelleFarrismft4 күн бұрын
@@tashat60 thanks for watching!
@davidcalixte97857 ай бұрын
Jimmy is the man. What a great corner
@MichelleFarrismft7 ай бұрын
Who is Jimmy?
@commanderrussels261210 ай бұрын
What a great video, thank you for this. I've just recently discovered what codependency is and I think I'm suffering from it.
@MichelleFarrismft10 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
@amiellenberg1037 Жыл бұрын
yes. ditto. thank you.
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thank you Ami!!!
@Willsontime2 ай бұрын
Co-dependent Anonymous - who would know that there would be such a thing? Thanks for good summary.
@MichelleFarrismft2 ай бұрын
I know, I’m very grateful these programs are so accessible!
@zacharymason-to2vmАй бұрын
YES!
@MichelleFarrismftАй бұрын
Thanks Zachary for watching!
@will_Iam6110 ай бұрын
Ditto. Wish I had found this video two years ago when I was figuring things out.
@MichelleFarrismft10 ай бұрын
Better let than never and I do a lot on codependency so hopefully you’ll be back!
@phyllisboyle11627 ай бұрын
Thank you. I’m subconsciously trying to hold on to a part of my mom by living with panic disorder because that’s how she lived. I haven’t had contact with her for years, but I’m struggling with this.
@MichelleFarrismft7 ай бұрын
Have you considered Al-non or CODA? They re both free 12 step programs that are online.
@phyllisboyle11627 ай бұрын
@@MichelleFarrismftno. I don’t even know what CODA? How would Al Anon help my panic disorder?
@MichelleFarrismft7 ай бұрын
@@phyllisboyle1162 since you were watching a codependency video I thought that might be connected - if not then I’d recommend therapy.
@MichelleFarrismft7 ай бұрын
@phyllisboyle1162 Coda stands for Codependents Anonymous - a 12 step program for healing one sided relationships and self-neglect. If that is part of what’s causing the panic then it might help but therapy would be what I’d recommend for panic disorder.
@angelanewton80043 ай бұрын
Yes
@MichelleFarrismft3 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching!
@wiyaka788 Жыл бұрын
I can relate!
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Yes! You’re in the right place!
@sarainammur5 ай бұрын
Great video. Your story resonates with me a lot. ❤
@MichelleFarrismft5 ай бұрын
I'm so glad Sara. I hope you come back again!
@myersladies Жыл бұрын
Love this!
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thank you Karen! I’m so glad!
@mrstoner2udude7992 ай бұрын
Very good video.
@MichelleFarrismft2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, I have lots more on this topic :)
@jeffdana940211 ай бұрын
What are some examples of boundaries for a relationship?
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
Removing yourself when someone mistreats you, saying no to something you don’t want to do, not putting up with unacceptable behavior by removing yourself. Hope those help!
@ckl58017 ай бұрын
Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend are the experts. I found their books at library and it changed my life!
@cassiestevens8382 Жыл бұрын
Thanks💕
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
You're welcome 😊
@phyllisappenzeller5673Ай бұрын
Indeed I thought I did intil my sisters both got dementia
@MichelleFarrismftАй бұрын
I'm sorry, many of my aunts and uncles have struggled with that too.
@tschinzel9 ай бұрын
Very helpful
@MichelleFarrismft9 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@sharonmbi9733 ай бұрын
Thank you so much
@MichelleFarrismft3 ай бұрын
You are very welcome Sharon! Feel free to check out my free resources in the description.
@justme_brentg10 ай бұрын
Being alone is a "one minute at a time" situation. I wish I were healthy.
@MichelleFarrismft10 ай бұрын
I totally hear you, the withdrawal from relationship can be excruciating- I hope you have plenty of support.
@ckl58017 ай бұрын
It gets easier every min of every day. Focus on learning to love you.
@MichelleFarrismft7 ай бұрын
@@ckl5801 that’s a great focus!
@JennyB95710 ай бұрын
Thanks , watched for a friend.
@MichelleFarrismft10 ай бұрын
How nice is that! You’re welcome!
@Ebspired Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this ❤
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Absolutely, you’ll probably find this one helpful too! 5 Ways to Start Recovering from Codependency in Relationships kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e9xxaqyG2avXc3k.html
@melissarenee69984 ай бұрын
I want to be free of this in my marriage and with my son.❤🙏
@MichelleFarrismft4 ай бұрын
Hang in there, the good news is that there are LOTS of resources to help :)
@thespaceguardin1116 Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching!
@taramackenzie687710 ай бұрын
Ditto! Thanks for your video
@MichelleFarrismft10 ай бұрын
You’re so welcome! Glad you enjoyed it!
@kristinschoenborn984511 ай бұрын
That was really nice. Thank you
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
Oh great! Thank you for saying that!
@rebecauchoa_21 күн бұрын
Ditto!
@MichelleFarrismft21 күн бұрын
@@rebecauchoa_ thanks Rebecca!
@eddieagnich1875 Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
You’re very welcome!
@maryneary4855 ай бұрын
Ditto!!! 🎉
@apriliacess80532 ай бұрын
Ditto❤
@MichelleFarrismft2 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for watching!
@ilysejohnson-rosella3314 Жыл бұрын
DITTO. Great video WOW. Thank you
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thank you SO much! I hope you come back and subscribe :)
@drleo6409Ай бұрын
I know that’s right
@MichelleFarrismftАй бұрын
@@drleo6409 thank you so much for being here and watching!
@phemery11826 ай бұрын
Yes!! Ditto++
@MichelleFarrismft6 ай бұрын
Thank you! So glad you found my video, I hope you found it helpful.
@KawaiiPinkPunkStar4 ай бұрын
How do I do the tip that comes before the bonus one?
@MichelleFarrismft4 ай бұрын
Remind me which one that is?
@suehavens3521 Жыл бұрын
yes, ditto
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thanks Sue for watching - you're not alone!
@supriya65728 ай бұрын
yes
@MichelleFarrismft8 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@hopeortiz1343 ай бұрын
Ditto 💯
@MichelleFarrismft3 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@hannahryder96111 ай бұрын
I've recently discovered I'm codependent. My boyfriend wants space from our relationship whilst I work on it. Your links are US based and I'm in the UK. Do you know any that may work for me? Thanks
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
My links should work outside of the US - have you looked at my codependency workbook? I'm sure its in the description of this post. It includes some very short videos. I'm also releasing an online course on codependency soon. :)
@ckl58017 ай бұрын
I hope you are in a good space!
@susyvallejo217Ай бұрын
Wet love eachother but I left my life and hometown behind including my young adult kids for him and almost 2 years later it still doesn’t feel right to start for yurt long run and he can’t leave his town
@susyvallejo217Ай бұрын
And yes I feel everyone’s feelings and worry about if everyone is ok
@MichelleFarrismftАй бұрын
@@susyvallejo217 Consider getting some support - Al-Anon, Coda or She Recovers all offer free support.
@krystalwhite5243 Жыл бұрын
Thankyou
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
You are very welcome!
@kayleegomez6372 Жыл бұрын
Hey I need help. I don’t know why I have a hard time expressing and feeling my emotions. I feel like I’m always overreacting or at times I don’t know if I am or reacting just fine
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Well your feelings are valid no matter what! You might consider therapy to uncover what’s underneath that. You might try journaling - I have a self-trust journal that focuses on building self-trust/self-esteem.
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Or you could try Alanon for support and learning more about yourself. It’s a free program for people struggling with codependency 😀
@aliciahopegage790411 ай бұрын
Yes😊
@MichelleFarrismft11 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@chellaeevee8 ай бұрын
Ditto! 😮
@MichelleFarrismft8 ай бұрын
Thank you! You're not alone!
@kimhardy58966 ай бұрын
The links are not working. Is there another way to get the worksheets?
@MichelleFarrismft6 ай бұрын
Thanks - lead pages is experiencing an outage so go to my website www.counselingrecovery.com - I have theme there too.
@jessklay85947 ай бұрын
I recently found out I’m a full blown codependent
@MichelleFarrismft7 ай бұрын
I know it may seem like a lot but there are SOOOOO many tools to help you recover. I have a whole playlist on this topic plus journals and courses. 😀 welcome to the club! You can do it! Baby steps will make a difference and sometimes it will feel like you’re stuck in mud but it will change your life for the better!!
@V829564 ай бұрын
Ditto
@MichelleFarrismft4 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for being here willing to learn!
@reneebishop2880 Жыл бұрын
Yes and ditto
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thanks Renee!
@brendarose8338 Жыл бұрын
I’m going to find ME!
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Yes!!!! That’s exactly what codependency recovery will do! Help you discover you!
@brendarose8338 Жыл бұрын
I hope so, I’m stuck at bottom now I think
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
@@brendarose8338 I have some free journal prompts on self-care and figuring out boundaries if you’re interested.
@brendarose8338 Жыл бұрын
Yes please where can I find it please?
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
@@brendarose8338 here you go counselingrecovery.lpages.co/codependent-worksheets/
@trishmillican1696 Жыл бұрын
I can't get to that part at all ! I need help my addict husband has my stomach hurts an can't sleep can't eat it freaking hurts
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Try Al-Anon al-anon.org this is a free support group that will give you the tools to cope. You don’t have to go through this alone!
@mrbrady1981 Жыл бұрын
I’m very co dependent
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
You are in the right place! I have lots of videos and free journal prompts to help you!
@gtohenry6469 Жыл бұрын
ditto 😕
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thanks for participating!! We are not alone right?
@gtohenry6469 Жыл бұрын
@@MichelleFarrismft We are not, thank you for all you do! Have been in Coda and now in therapy, thank you again for all you have posted!
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
@@gtohenry6469 that’s awesome!!!
@carlosmartinez96769 ай бұрын
ditto
@MichelleFarrismft9 ай бұрын
Thanks Carlos! Hope you found it helpful!
@ezazkhan4233 Жыл бұрын
mam what are hilling codepency
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Sorry I don't understand what you mean.
@ezazkhan4233 Жыл бұрын
my family not understand what are codepency
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
@@ezazkhan4233 yes we’ll they may not understand it, but you are here willing to learn and that’s great!
@ezazkhan4233 Жыл бұрын
mam you are great work
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
@@ezazkhan4233 thank you so much!
@jaimebufkin9 ай бұрын
So if I am with an alcoholic who is also codependent, should I just cut my ties?
@MichelleFarrismft9 ай бұрын
Not necessarily. The first thing is to consider Al-Anon, a free support group for families of alcoholics. It can provide tremendous support and mentors to help you work through these issues.
@capitaldiverse Жыл бұрын
im currently in a relationship where the guy got married arranged ) in a differrnt country and had her pregnant while his high on drugs yet still im settling i dont know why i am doing this pls can you help me change my thoughts are crazy i dotn know what to do :(
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
I would suggest attending Al-Anon or Coda 12 step meetings. They are free, online and provide very helpful tools.
@capitaldiverse Жыл бұрын
@@MichelleFarrismft oh thank you ! ill chck now !
@haihai5293 Жыл бұрын
Super
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@ianlacour3947 Жыл бұрын
Feeling like the only guy in here lol
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
Well I'm happy that you're here! Thanks for watching!