Complicated Grief Healing | Coping with Trauma and Loss

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Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Qualified Clinical Supervisor. She received her PhD in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Florida in 2002. In addition to being a practicing clinician, she has provided training to counselors, social workers, nurses and case managers internationally since 2006 through AllCEUs.com #Complicated Grief | Coping with Trauma and Loss
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Counselor Toolbox
00:27 Complicated Grief
00:40 Objectives
01:23 Definitions
05:16 Complicated Grief 1
09:12 Complicated Grief 2
09:13 What Exactly Are We Talking About?
13:50 Grief Takes Time
18:27 Grief Impact Us Holistically…
20:51 Physical Responses
22:54 Intellectual
29:03 Social
34:49 Emotional
40:17 Spiritual Beliefs are Challenged…
41:54 Common and Unique…
42:44 Complicated Grief
43:07 Models for Normal Grief
43:37 Bowlby 1
46:34 Bowlby 2
49:20 Bowlby 3
51:18 Grief is Work: Worden’s Four Tasks
56:15 Alan Wolfelt’s 6 Reconciliation Tasks
1:00:42 Rando’s 3 Phases and 6 Processes
1:02:23 AVOIDANCE
1:02:51 CONFRONTATION 1
1:03:29 CONFRONTATION 2
1:03:49 ACCOMMODATION
1:04:53 Rando’s Treatment Approach
1:06:23 Risk Factors for Complicated Mourning
1:11:18 Rando: Treatment Tips
1:12:38 Remember the Five Areas of Focus
1:16:16 Summary
1:19:31 Counselor Toolbox

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@DocSnipes 9 ай бұрын

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@djharrington2432 2 жыл бұрын

I can't stop crying - I have lossed both parents, and much more - I feel so empty and lossed. The tears will not let up right now

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Condolences on your loss. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness. A local, licensed counselor could help you process your grief.

@kirstinstrand6292 2 жыл бұрын

Crying is good; it will get better. So sorry.

@corinneharrison9113 2 жыл бұрын

I pray that you run out of tears; that you can exhale and inhale and love your self.

@loveothers7429 2 жыл бұрын

Same, loss my parents and only sibling. I’m so sad but holding on to God. He is the only one who understands 🙏🏽 The Bible says, God is close to the broken hearted and He bottles up our tears. He sees us and will help us get through this 🙌🏽

@laurencochran6626 2 жыл бұрын

I too have lost my parents almost lost my child. Both sides grandparents and I'm an only child and never really had a real connection with anyone else on either side of the family. I've become an orphan and have been stuck resisting, then sabotaging and resisting the resistance. 😔 Didn't really have parents around growing up either. Dad worked all the time while mom did whatever she wanted the pain has been constant and idk how I manage or how I'm still here but I'm awfully tired 😩

@phartzyphartz6393 Жыл бұрын

It’s really sad to me that I have to go on KZfaq to get good information about my mental health. No therapist I’ve ever seen have ever explained any of the things I’m learning here. Thank you for what you do!! Without you I’d still be stuck in my old ways! This one is a hard one for me. I’m grieving the loss of all three children. One passed away and the other two stolen by the state. My dog just died too. Also my son died in a very traumatic way that makes me blame myself everyday. I’ll probably never believe it’s not my fault but if I at least find some coping mechanisms it won’t be so hard. Ty for reading if you made it this far.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry that happened to you. I appreciate you being here and watching

@elbareyes2838 7 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. 🙌🙌

@HappyNHealthyTV1 4 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry this happened to you. 😢 I understand the state thing. My God daughter was murdered and I've had two still births. Not the same but definitely profound change. I'm grateful for videos like this. Thank you for sharing. Sending hugs and peace.

@HappyNHealthyTV1 4 ай бұрын

@MichelleLohde-uv2rx 3 ай бұрын

@@DocSnipes i lost my boyfriend to MIND last year his name was Jesse i stood by him and i loved him and misses him badly what kind girlfriend i was to him and how long the pain be in me ??.

@bradwalton3977 4 ай бұрын

I lost my partner about 4 months ago. This is one of the better discussions of grief that I have found on KZfaq.

@DocSnipes 4 ай бұрын

I am sorry for your loss.

@clynnadams32 Жыл бұрын

I'm using this video today during my grief group therapy. I'm already crying because in this past year I lost my little dog that I had for 12 years, my husband left me 3 weeks ago and my son moved to Florida last July. I feel empty. Plus I had stage 3 breast cancer three years ago and lost my breasts. I'm hurting so badly right now but each day I have to put on a happy face for my patients. 😢

@aprilerains4578 Жыл бұрын

Lost my husband, best friend, liver, partner. Now I’m lost without him, no dreams, no future, alone, empty.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about your loss and I am grateful for you being here and watching the video. What tips from the video will you use to cope with grief?

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 5 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, I’d love to talk to you more and have nice conversation more privately if you don’t mind .?

@chaylajohnson-tucker5241 5 ай бұрын

I hope you’re doing better now

@astrosdiva86 2 ай бұрын

I hear you.

@cathywestholt5324 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for mentioning the loss of a sister. The grief community does not recognize this devastating loss. There are support groups for all other relationships except adult sibling loss. My sister died almost three years ago. My life has been such a void since. Nancy was born with some mental disabilities. We were best friends. After both of our parents died I became her legal guardian. We lived together all but 11 of her 63 years. I love her so much. Nancy was my purpose in life. I have no purpose in life now. I am all alone. I hurt every day. It took me two years to cope enough to pick out a cemetery plot for her ashes. It all seemed so final. I am a mess.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about your loss and I appreciate you watching the video

@tammiguzman8317 11 ай бұрын

I understand that feeling of no purpose for sure. I only know taking care of my kids and being a wife and taking care of others. The few people who i do know just don't get it . Which doesn't help. Reminds me nobody is here anymore to comfort me. Or care anymore.

@KellenAdair 8 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry. You 2 were much closer. Yet, I still grieve the loss of mine 3 years, later.

@ElCaminoHaciaunDueloConsciente 3 ай бұрын

The time of grief is personal and non-linear. It is related to individual history and the management of past losses.

@DocSnipes 3 ай бұрын

Yes, you are right. Thank you for watching the video

@IIXIMMXXII 2 жыл бұрын

My grandpa was watching me on the day he passed. I was 6 yo and he was eating chicken & rice. He started choking and I’ve tried helping as much as I could, I ran outside to look for help. Ran back inside and he was still choking, I untied his shirt and patted his back to help him, but it wasn’t enough. He started foaming at the mouth and then he passed. My aunt finally arrived and total chaos afterwards, when everyone found out. I don’t believe I dealt with this as a child, but here I am 24 years later and it hurts me like it was yesterday. My grandpa was just as important as my parents, he was my main caregiver during the day, when both my parents were working. None of the adults thought of speaking to me or taking me to a specialist, thinking that I was just a child and not really get what was happening. The wake lasted almost a week, freezing weather during this time of the year, and they had a choir during every day of the wake. The funeral day was so hot and sunny! I remember my father, only 26 at the time, crying and smoking cigarettes, one after another, while on our way to the cemetery. What hurts the most is that these memories are most vivid, and the beautiful ones of my wonderful grandpa are fading away slowly. My mom always reminds me how much he loved me and how much he cared for me, and that everything he did was for me to see me smile. I live every day thinking about him, and how much I wish I met him now, what we say to eachother, would he be proud of who I have become? So many unsaid thing. Angel in Heaven, watching over me, I love you and will forever keep you in my heart, mind and soul!

@dysfunctionoverhaul Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your tragic experience. How helpless you must have felt. I understand about no one getting you help to process this experience and your loss of your beloved grandfather. I experienced the loss of my brother in a different way.. he and my parents had a fallout and he became estranged when I was a teenager.. it was all about their pain and their loss of the relationship. I had no way of reaching out to him and would've have even tried as it was implied that would be disloyal to my parents.. There were no cell phones, no computers, email, etc. It wasn't until years later that it occurred to me that no one was there for me. I thought all along it was my parents loss only. Plus, it was like a family secret, he was never mentioned to others. I was told not to bring him up as it was painful for them. Then I went through some anger and resentment that my feelings were never considered. This all occurred decades ago. Actually, the same thing happened with my other brother, my only 2 siblings. By then there were cell phones but again, the message was clear... I would be disloyal and uncaring to reach out to him. It's easy for someone to read this and think I should have called him... which I secretly did a few years later, but what we do and don't do are highly influenced by our upbringing. I'm sorry for all you experienced. I hope you've been able to heal over time. Blessings ❤️

@user-dz4hr1qc3n 5 ай бұрын

Your story is heartbreaking. The pain you obviously still feel isn’t anything anyone else can or imagine feeling. Our experiences in this life are so similar but so different. You have probably never met anyone else who has experienced that same situation. It’s so difficult to understand life’s everyday challenges, but you can at least talk to your friends and loved ones about it but this???? This sounds Excruciatingly painful. Nothing compares. I hope you find healing, comfort and peace in your life. May you have an abundance of blessings in your future . Don’t let anyone compare their stories to yours. Yours is unique in every way. Theirs will never give you comfort or peace. It will never make you feel better only them. Don’t let it make you feel worse because they can’t relate to you or your experience. I pray you find someone that can help you process your pain. Take care of your heart, and be strong for yourself and your Grandpa.❤

@Lucy-no9ow 4 ай бұрын

It will help to write him letters . I know it sounds weird, but that’s a good way to go through this pain and feel the empathy space in your heart..

@cathywestholt5324 Жыл бұрын

After Nancy died. I signed a DNR for myself. If I get diagnosed with any terminal condition, I am just going to opt for palliative care over ravaging treatments. I would have fought anything like crazy to be here and take care of my sister. Now that she is gone and I am alone, nature can take its course.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry your sister is gone. Other videos that might help you cope with grief can be found at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=grief

@tammiguzman8317 11 ай бұрын

I've lost everything everyone else mentioned, 3 dogs, sister, husband, 4 kids, 2 parents I took care of with alzihiemers, my breast implants due to illness. My best friend, my job of 13 years, now my house, my entire life. Moving across country alone now. Leaving the last place I had my family in. My parents died in , my doggies died in and i had the love of my life in . I have no will to live. But I'm trying. All loss hurts but I'm not sure I can bounce back after losing all this in a year and a half.

@DocSnipes 11 ай бұрын

I am so sorry for your losses and I appreciate you watching the video

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 5 ай бұрын

@klanderkal Ай бұрын

Sorry to hear of so much loss..!! Even that job loss of 13 years.. that to can be devastating. Hope you're doing better.... 🙏

@katyhopkins3910 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Dr Snipes. I lost my father in February and can relate to all the symptoms that you described. It is of such comfort to know that this is part of the grieving process - memory loss, inability to concentrate, sleep issues, anger and feelings of hopelessness. Listening to you was like wrapping myself in a soft blanket with a warm cup of cocoa. I have learnt so much from this podcast but mostly to be kind to myself and give myself time. You are not only a very talented therapist but also have a big heart.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

I am terribly sorry for your loss. Sending healing thoughts.

@worldbestalways 3 ай бұрын

My grief is neverending, because he is not dead. If somebody dies, from there you could start recovering, in a way. He is alive but he got very mentally ill and he is always in my life, so there is never a starting date to start recovering for me, every day is a trauma day and a nightmare grief day. He is totally gone but not gone, but he is totally gone

@DocSnipes 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that.

@klanderkal Ай бұрын

Hi,... my dad was a well known state champion, it top athletic shape, and had his dream job, my whole life. His friends were all city bus drivers also. Something happened,..I remember him stressing terribly. He thought he had to retire, do he did. But found out he didn't have to.. it was a mistake! But, he couldn't get his job back. He couldn't sleep, and was totally destroyed. He couldn't do anything training, workouts, swim, jog.. work on his classic car... things he did everyday. Now, he starts talking outloud all the time, of how he loved his job, and who we're involved with his job loss and his mistakes. Now, he doesn't go outside, not do anything. Just sit... and do nothing. His vocabulary is only of the incident. He was so used to socializing at work and with passengers. He's going coocoo 😭.. we don't know what to do. Did your dad, have a traumatic event? That caused mental illnesses.? Just searching for help for dad. T Y. 🙏😓

@chrisburnell8591 3 жыл бұрын

This was one of the most comprehensive and informatal pod cast I ever heard. This this and this word for word. The woman literally asks the exact questions that one has to thereselves during this time and give answers. Absolute understanding over this. Thank you for this video it literally gave my thoughts questions and answers over all this knowing someone gets it. Sometimes someone that communicates they been through things and understands is a major aspect to this healing,

@tomtbi Жыл бұрын

I lost a dear friend when she was murdered by her fiance 9 years ago .. I still miss her to this day!!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about your loss and I appreciate you watching the video. You can find more videos on grief at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=grief

@truthseeker3773 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being a guide for those of us grieving 🙏🏼

@tsrocks2029 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your videos. Lost a close friend, only 26 years young. Glad to have this information to navigate the grieving process. My husband considered him a brother. This has left a huge hole in our hearts, he had so much life left to live. But we must go on .

@angelalopez2003 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so grateful you said that mourning 2-3 years is normal. My husband died suddenly in 2020, right as the pandemic was starting. It was extremely traumatic finding him on the floor and then trying to save him while I had 911 on speakerphone. His death has been just devastating. I grew up in an alcoholic home and then married (and later divorced) an unreliable man. Until my Gabriel, I never felt I could count on people for much of anything, including basic needs. now that he is gone, I find myself feeling frustrated and helpless when I need help, and people flake out. For the most part, I am independent, but there are certain physical things I can't do because of limitations. Also, I don't trust people, especially men. I feel like a target out in the open and have experienced others trying to take advantage of me in my vulnerable state, so I withdraw from society. I'm lonely, but I'm lonely for HIM... if that makes sense. I am slowly trying to re-enter life, but it's not easy, and there are a lot of tears.😔

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry for you loss. My condolences. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@lizafield9002 Жыл бұрын

Your angel Gabriel is there with you. Helping & protecting, encouraging you to live on for his sake. We have just a blink of time here & will be reunited verrrry soon. I was my folks' caregiver, & after their late 2020/ 2021 deaths, was in a stormy cold isolated ocean of grief. Listening to "Helping Parents Heal" speakers at youtube has sooo helped, as we all can, like a breaved parent, feel responsible for the departed we loved so dearly.

@sunshine9122 Жыл бұрын

I feel you so much on this, friend. My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly. I discovered his body and he was beyond help at that point. He was my life and my soul mate. It's been nine years since he died. Still lost and heartbroken. I send you a big hug.❤

@angelalopez2003 Жыл бұрын

@@sunshine9122 Big hugs right back to you. May we find peace.❤

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 5 ай бұрын

@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723 2 жыл бұрын

I lost my sister, then my health, then my 27 year marriage and did not get to keep any of my memories…. I feel so STUCK. Thank you for addressing this on this platform. There is a great deal of trauma too due to stalking after my divorce and am getting into more intense direct therapy. I try hard to focus on joy, and not overthink my losses. As I know it’s already overwhelming enough, but am so stuck in the process. I can only pray I will someday feel again, as I did, before my world was flipped upside down.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear about your loss.

@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723 2 жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes thank you, compassion is a beautiful gift. Thank you also for posting such helpful information.

@johnsr.wright8117 Жыл бұрын

I wish you well on Your healing journey, as I am on one as well ❤️‍🩹 it can be done.

@JP-kg6wn 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much I didn't know what this was and been stock in this stage after been the care taker for my Mom. Thank you so much for all your hard work.

@sirgeralt2175 Жыл бұрын

I lost my grandpa in January of 2018, and my grandmother in july 2019 wasn't even done getting the help I needed for my grandpa's death before my long-term therapist retired. I shut down when my grandmother passed. Finally, after 2 and a half years after my grandmother's passing, I finally started feeling the anger and sadness of her death and am seeing a new therapist through my works mental health program. He recommended this video to me, and after a few weeks, I'm finally watching and listening to it. It's been a rough 5 years, and to be honest, nearly every day for the past 5 years, I haven't allowed myself to feel happy lately I've been allowing that tiny bit of old normalcy and I haven't thought or had a suicidal ideation in over 2 weeks. Just letting yourself feel happy or letting in more emotions instead of attempting to ignore them is a good first step in the recovery process. I can't blame myself for their passing, I can only move forward one day at a time and look back on the good times.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry for your loss and I appreciate you watching the video. Here are more videos on grief that might help: kzfaq.infosearch?query=grief

@westfield90 2 жыл бұрын

My beautiful kind selfless mother passed away yesterday (March 11, 2022) and I cannot express the depths of my sorrow, sadness and the emptiness I feel. She was the most wonderful person I’ve ever known. She was the source of all joy, the rock and the life of our family. I really cannot see how I can recover when we had hope and she seemed like she was going to make it. I just wish I had one more week, one more month and one more year with her. I pray pray pray I get to see her again.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

So sorry for your loss. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@westfield90 2 жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes thank you. I appreciate your kind thoughts very much.

@elizabethmarielunacordoba9956 Жыл бұрын

March 11 my mom's sister died too 2022 ,😭

@thinkpink0608ify 6 ай бұрын

You aren't alone. I lost my Mom Oct. 2022 and I still feel lost, helpless and on an emotional roller-coaster. It's like learning to walk and talk all over again even though we were independent when they were alive. I am the only child and I am traumatized. ❤

@bonniebikowski7478 Жыл бұрын

Dear beautiful souls, sending love and light from my heart to yours ❤️🙏🙌💞😻🌈

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=grief

@honestlygio7830 2 жыл бұрын

Thumbs up! 1. Simple to follow w/o leaving us guessing what different terminologies mean 2. PowerPoint slides are amazing!!!! 3. No distracting music 4. Realistic examples 5. All of your videos are great. Thx!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thank so much! and Thanks for watching.

@andrearoberts1873 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for mentioning your stepfather's recurring reaction. When I was 35 a friend told me I got depressed every February and I brushed the comment off because we lived in England and after 4 months of winter everyone's depressed right? Then when I was 42 a doctor pointed out that I only ever came to see him on February 6th and I finally started taking notice. When I looked back at my life I had left jobs, husbands and friends on February 6th. My mum had died suddenly on that date. I'm 71 now and still have problems every Feb 6th, accidents or ill health - it seems my body is at a low ebb around that time.

@DawnSTyler Жыл бұрын

Wow, my mom passed away this last February 6th. Know that there’s another person out there missing their mom on that day too ❤

@birendsinghfxuzethhczeulik1257 3 жыл бұрын

What a blessing to hear this..going through a major grief after 27 years of marriage. It is only two and a half months. God bless the speaker..very informative and relieving and comforting. Thanks for all your hard work.

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

Best wishes to you. Thanks for watching.

@latinaalma1947 2 жыл бұрын

It will get better eventually. Some people stay in the shock phase, usually the first few months,longer than others. Often waking up our minds have not yet process what has happened so we may wake up with the expectation the person is still with us and we slowly reach full consciousness the reslity hits us...it is a terrble shock alll over again. This reaction will eventually go.away as our minds gradually take in the person is gone. SOMETIME from generally three to six mos we are suddenly hit with the permanence of this loss..before that we may have been somewhat numbed by shock. This realization of permanence is.part of the process. Our minds can only take so much pain at one time and our minds actually protect us from being overwhelmed by pain. Our minds are built to take care of us we eventually realize later. This second phase is usually the toughest phase. Gradually we finish the practical things that have to be done. Gradually we start to think about the future without the person...this can be a confusing time thinking about options for the future. We need to give ourselves permission to take time...to be kind to ourselves. Bodywork can help tremendously to dissipate stress. Yoga, any physical movement can help even just walking. After more time generally the grief starts to lift. Anniversaries you will always remember the person you have lost many many decades later. Sybil Francis BA MA PhD CLINICAL psychologist, resesrcher and professor of psychology for 20 plis years...ALSO widowed at age 32 with a 7 yr old child

@Leesie924 Жыл бұрын

I have CG from mama dying in 2008. My husband of 34 years has terminal cancer, and I have no idea how I'm going to cope with it when he's gone. Scares the crap outta me, so i try to stay in the now. I try to not project into the future w/o factoring God in it. I can't afford to think about it.

@CynthiaSchoenbauer Жыл бұрын

You are helping me recognize grief and re-connect with my humanness and the fact that I am not a machine for other peoples needs. As a human, I have been grieving the loss of a father since my father left for Korea and "never came back". (The person who came back is a bad person and I have been his slave for his emotional needs.) Thank you kindly Doc Snipes. The human and the creative is beginning to emerge thanks to videos just like this one!!!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome, Kitty Kat! I am so sorry you experienced grief and at a young age. I humbly thank you for your kindness, for supporting the channel and for watching videos.

@jeffyholla1095 3 жыл бұрын

This is such an insight for me as a husband. My wife just lost her mother and just 3 years after her father. Both with without closure. I hear her choking up a little so you know she is giving information over her feelings to give help . God bless her!

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

Best wishes to you both.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Bless you. I also have another KZfaq Channel, I just started: Good Orderly Direction | Practical Bible Study kzfaq.info/love/YYJCD94NU3_qdbkSEyHLrg Please consider liking and subscribing.

@angirgie729 Жыл бұрын

Jeffy your a good husvand to yoyr wife. Thank you for being understanding

@angiemayhew7300 Жыл бұрын

God is soooo good! I was watching a video & had my Bluetooth in my ear...it ended & this came on...much muchhh needed!! Thank u

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. Thank you for watching the video. What did you find most helpful from it?

@EricBryan-d3c 2 күн бұрын

I completely understand how this songs clearly makes you feel and I know exactly how it feels to lose the person we love, I lost my wife 4yrs ago on a crossroads she was hit by a drunk truck driver, It’ would be nice to talk to you more if you don’t mind ??

@gingerbee6719 2 жыл бұрын

U touched on so much for me. I have experienced all the above .. I lost my Beloved son, who was only 28, it was right before Christmas 2019 .... I don't really know how to be the new person I've become, because part of myself Died with him... Anger, Guilt, questioning WHY are part of my everyday thought processes ... The Pain is Unbearable at times ... 😢 I am THAT person who has no social support, No Family to check in on me, I have lost so called friends in this difficult time... I feel very alone and empty...in addition to losing my Son, I have lost 3 beloved animal babies as well, which is also Grief ....

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@lennysoenaryo4313 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry for your loss...please stay strong...In July 2021, I've lost my father and youngest brother within 2 weeks due to covid. The pain and suffering are heart wrenching. I believe we are alive because God still wants us to live and change for a better person. "We can't control what come on our way, but we can make a choice on how to make out of it" Sadhguru

@esthervetuukatjiuongua-kam1971 2 жыл бұрын

I feel for you dear. I Lost my first and only Grandbaby girl on the 10th of December 2021 due to SIDS. The pain is devastating 💔 😢. 😭😭😭. She was just 3months and 30 days old.

@nauxsi Жыл бұрын

Sorry for your loss. I can relate. the why question never ends, it has no ending. You have to change the question / perspective. Without it you will be in a dark place needlessly. Instead of why.... Think of how grateful you were to have had that persons love in your life and you loved them. You could had worst kind of kid, but you had him. Aren't you thankful for that? To see smiles, laughs, to eat together. Then branch out to rest of your life and look for love and be thankful. For being born. For walking. For waking up. For being able to brush your teeth. Light the way with gratitude.

@nickspitzer1896 2 жыл бұрын

I found these videos helpful . Im 48 and she was 40. I lost my significant other on may 10th 2022 in a single car rollover. Trama yeah im devastated my heart is broken. Tears almost everyday. I don't dont wake up without her i have all the symptoms described in video. This is the worst thing ever nothing else matters.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@gregoryegan 2 жыл бұрын

Love this video, it’s so relevant to some of my ptsd clients, x soldiers and emergency services workers I work with and injuries workers I support and also people who have lost people in their lives. It’s great for helping people understanding the complexity of grief and loss.

@lorraineamico42 Жыл бұрын

Emotionally num for 67 years now no more frozen but now needed you and my therpy right now now I have to face up without frozen

@lb-xl1yp 3 жыл бұрын

thank you so much this has finally made things come to light for me and help me accept and understand what i've been going through.

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help

@vdosmimi Жыл бұрын

I lost my mom 1 year ago. I was with her when she passed…it was NOT like in the movies, where the person breathes their last and just peacefully lets go. I won’t go into details here, but it was an awful thing to experience. On top of that, our relationship was very complicated - she was abusive when I was younger, then I became her caregiver the last 17 years of her life…13 with her in my home. Things were beginning to improve in our relationship the last couple of years…so there’s that added layer as well. Now I’m a year out and the trauma of her death experience is back in the forefront of my mind. Again I am second guessing every decision I made for her, including invoking her DNR. Not sure how to process this all

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@lizafield9002 Жыл бұрын

You are a SAINT. I am sure your mom is thanking you for everything, including helping her work out difficult karma while still alive & embraced unconditionally. Heaven is going to so uplift & infuse you with joy this coming year! Have a divine, free, beautiful Christmastide.

@oisin8152 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, your videos show the value of staying with your plan. I have been watching for less than a year and there were maximum hundreds of views when I first viewed, I felt sorry, you had this very helpful insight and what felt like maybe a few of your private clients tuning in, now I see your views are through the roof, 100,000s. Well done staying with it!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

You are SO kind for noticing. Much appreciated. Thanks for being with the channel!! 😁

@miss.conduct8083 2 жыл бұрын

😳@07:00 OMG, Doc! You have just described where "I've been existing" going on 2 years now. I have never experienced such helplessness and homelessness. I am static frozen? You know when you drive all the way home from work and there you are, in park in ypur driveway. You creepishly take a deep breath & realize the danger you escaped. Feels almost like out of body? Laterally, dissociate several times daily. Out of all the F responses, my body takes up frozen? I'm still inside the meat suit, just not sure how break free? Thanks to you're amazing teaching videos - I have GOT to rise! Thank you, Doc. Sincerely, Roberts housewife 😟

@monams2514 2 жыл бұрын

When you talk about your Dad that made me feel so close because my father too had the cancer and I tended to him for 2 years even with my own bad health. I knew he would leave one day but I was not prepared for the day he finally did. I will never get over my parents passing and my younger brother. I guess I should not say never but at this present time that is what and how I feel. So glad I found your channel today. Blessings

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

My condolences on your losses. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@bonniebikowski7478 2 жыл бұрын

Dear beautiful souls. I just lost my little baby boy Saturday 3-26-22. Please pray🙏 sending love and light from my heart to yours❤🙌🌈💜

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

My condolences on your loss. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@lyjuslyjus2201 Жыл бұрын

Prayers 🙏🙏🙏🙏 I also lost my child . Can understand your pain

@bonniebikowski7478 Жыл бұрын

@@lyjuslyjus2201 dear beautiful soul, sending love and light from my heart to yours ❤️🙌🙏💞😻

@MaxineM-lr5uh Жыл бұрын

This has been so insightful, my boyfriend/ex-boyfriend seem to fit the bill to a tea. I've been educating myself on Neurology and trauma related issues through your videos, I am so grateful for you, I truly am✌🏽❤❤❤

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Glad you are here! Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@salema120 8 ай бұрын

I lost my mum when I was 8 im now 28. Life feels empty, I have no role model, no one to show me or support me. I'm trying to mend my heart, but it always feels like I'm doomed.

@DocSnipes 8 ай бұрын

I am deeply sorry about your loss and I appreciate you watching the video

@sunshine9122 2 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry, Salema. I send you love and hugs.❤

@thisisme3238 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for explaining the grieving process and how it works...differently for each person. Looking forward to more videos.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I appreciate you wanting the video and I am grateful to be of help

@babytt8487 2 жыл бұрын

I lost my dad in February, I don’t think I will ever get over his death, my dad died a month and a day after his earth day. I am so sad, I have not stopped crying since he died, I wish I could see my dad - I’m having counselling twice (paid) but I don’t know how I will get over his death it was just so sudden. I wish I could hug my dad one last time. 😢

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

My condolences. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@babytt8487 2 жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes thank you

@nauxsi Жыл бұрын

Your dad lives on through you.

@babytt8487 4 ай бұрын

@@samia6888 I gave my life over to Christ, whilst I do still think about my dad and I still cry. I have accepted my dad is in a better place and away from this evil world we live in.

@estelle9188 2 жыл бұрын

Grief has been so very difficult I have struggled with it since 2014 when my partner died it was very very hard within 3_5 yrs I lost my 2 nans it was very traumatic 3 close friends very very hard for me but I have just recently started to heal and recover thank you for your video much appreciated!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 5 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry about your loss, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, I’d love to talk to you more and have nice conversation more privately if you don’t mind .?

@philly111 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video, much appreciated!

@wess7831 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the great presentation. My uncle murdered my aunt and then killed himself. Such a hard thing to process. Seeing your timelines for grief seems to be spot on as it took me about three years for my mothers normal death. Seeing the timeline for complicated grief makes my gut sink as I am only two months after this tragedy. So many of the details of your slides apply to my feelings and I certainly don’t feel like the same person I was prior.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

My condolences on your loss. I can't imagine how devastating that must be. I am glad you found this video. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@truthseeker3773 2 жыл бұрын

Four months ago, my husband of 30 years was diagnosed with metastatic melanoma on admission to hospital. We were in hospital for 7 weeks with his rapid decline. Took him home to die 3 days later. I am in shock, enormous pain, I don't feel alive. So confused and hurting. I wish I could feel God, I just don't understand. I would welcome any prayers of hope.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Send prayers and our condolences. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@patriciaking62 2 жыл бұрын

I lost my husband in November of 2020 to prostate cancer after 30 years of marriage. I don’t feel like I can move forward. My husband also found out about the severity of his cancer upon admittance to a hospital. He only had weeks to live and was sent home to hospice care. I was the only one to care for him other than a nurse that came by once a week. I was so busy that I didn’t have time to think or process any emotions. Some days the pain is unbearable and I don’t get out of bed. I miss him so much. I would love to tell you that it gets better with time but it hasn’t. I feel like I’m in the Twilight Zone. I thought that I would move through the stages of grief but they keep repeating. The world is going through a pandemic so if I express any emotions that I feel, my family pretty much makes me feel as though I’m being selfish because everyone has experienced a loss of someone or something due to the virus. I’m just tired and I just want my husband back. I would not be here if it wasn’t for my faith in God. I’m hanging on to that with what little strength that I have left. I pray for you and your family and I’m sorry for your loss. May God send You Peace, Love and Strength!!!

@domINkl Жыл бұрын

I lost my wife of 32 years 4 months ago. I know exactly what you mean. It´s so indescribably bad. You said "I wish I could feel God" - me too - but I´ve come to realise that the ideas many people have of God or reincarnation are just ideas....nothing more. They can give people some comfort or structure - but not if we don´t believe/feel them. I don´t, I can see it would be nice to....but I don´t. I pray for your peace. and for mine...... I don´t have to believe in an external God to pray. What I think I am realising now is that I have to cherish the good memories, give myself time to grieve, and also know that I have to plan for the future. mentally staying in the past and trying to make sense of something so senseless as a horrible death of such a beautiful person will only trap me into perpetual suffering.....it will never give me an answer. I have to accept that......and its tough. but has to be done. Maybe it´s like that for you too. One day at a time......one breath at a time. You must take care of you. I wish you peace.

@truthseeker3773 Жыл бұрын

@@domINkl thank you for your text here. As painful as our shared experience, your thoughts bring comfort and understanding. I welcome your insight, and wish for you peace as well.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 5 ай бұрын

@@truthseeker3773 I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, I’d love to talk to you more and have nice conversation more privately if you don’t mind .?

@Coco-og7zw 2 ай бұрын

This was great!! Thank you for posting it.

@DocSnipes 2 ай бұрын

You’re most welcome. Thanks for watching

@steveadiska6834 Жыл бұрын

The content on your videos is always very detailed and informative. Thank you!!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

So welcome. I appreciate you watching

@monams2514 2 жыл бұрын

Wow I do not know how I found this page but sure glad I did. When you speak of losing both parents and then a younger brother all within a short time sure leaves one at a loss for even words sometimes. The mind goes numb at times. I miss my family. Especially my mom and dad. :(

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

@sarahcampbell2498 Жыл бұрын

Wow…so I’ve basically been grieving for years 😢 I literally have felt so drained, like no life force to do anything…now I understand why

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that and I am grateful for you being here and watching the video. What tips will you use to address grief?

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Also, other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=grief

@ppdayz888 2 жыл бұрын

LOVE LOVE LOVE this channel TY TY 4 U 🙏 BLESSINGS BEYOND BLESSINGS Angels 🙌

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

@kristinaasimova601 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for another great video! I use them a lot for my school, so helpful!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Wonderful. Thanks for sharing.🙂

@jillseither4176 Жыл бұрын

I HAD to share this with my peeps on Facebook..I HOPE it's ok...at least 6 friends and neighbors have died from fentanyl over the past two years...I appreciate your presenting this great info. I love my hometown and the folks I grew up with...I had to share it...I've got to say a lot of this resonated deeply with me. Thank you

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing the video. My mission is to provide access to free mental health tools that anyone can access so please feel free to share any videos you find helpful.

@shaunalove9591 3 жыл бұрын

This podcast helped me greatly with a family members loss thank you very informative thank you

@katrinad3828 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, I'm really impressed by the value of this channel.

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

TY!

@boogiegroover1 Жыл бұрын

Thank You So very very much x

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching!Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=CPTSD

@LB-kt9rd 4 ай бұрын

What if you've been through all of it. Lost parents, 3 homes, child, husband, 17 year old dog, reinventing myself twice? I was emotionally numb until now. Now, I'm starting to feel extreme pain. So emotions are on and then off.

@DocSnipes 4 ай бұрын

I am sorry for your losses

@BipolarBowler Жыл бұрын

Sorry to you🕯

@wickedbunny2020 2 жыл бұрын

I have this, I lost my son 2 weeks after his birthday and then 3 months 3 days later my husband fell dead in front of me and now I’m being kicked out of my home of 18 yrs by my gpa that’s mad because I’m disabled and can’t drive him everywhere. I won’t be “here” much longer.

@angiemyers9759 2 жыл бұрын

Please look to God sweetheart..I understand exactly what your going through..I lost my only son 2 1/2 months ago and the grief and depression are almost unbearable..If not for God I probably wouldn't be here..most days I feel like I don't wanna be here anymore..and then I think about the 2 daughters I have and my grandkids that I know love and need me..it's just hard to focus on what I still have because all I think about is the son I don't have anymore..we're all hurting and grieving..I'll be praying for God to bring comfort and help to you and everyone else in our situation 🙏

@tomtbi Жыл бұрын

And I am grieving the loss of a vacation I was looking forward to because of fears of dealing with airports and or planes will trigger another anxiety and or anger attack like the one I had yesterday when I had to deal with an incident at the apartment complex I live in that almost put me into the emergency room ..

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that. What tips from the video will you use to cope with not going on vacation?

@gabriellemorellisinger1608 4 жыл бұрын

I’m so grateful I found this podcast what a blessing

@DocSnipes 4 жыл бұрын

I am happy you find it helpful. Thanks for watching!

@elisekirby4303 3 жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes IMO mom o No K M I’m my

@elisekirby4303 3 жыл бұрын

Momok kom

@elisekirby4303 3 жыл бұрын

I’m Mom MLK ooo

@valeriegaytan5356 2 жыл бұрын

You have no idea how much of a face of reality that I just had listening to this. Thank you for this. By any chance do you therapy sessions covered by insurance that isn’t PPO?

@JS-tv8sf Жыл бұрын

I'd love to see something on grieving mentally ill, abusive or parents or family we're estranged from. Also stuff on emotional incest.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

There are many videos on the channel that your would find helpful. Just search KZfaq for DocSnipes and the keyword(s) you are interested in.

@judyscantlin3866 9 ай бұрын

Sometimes it is right in your face especially when adult children live with their parents and dad died at home mom died in hospice at the hospital that is just example of how it went with me and brothers losing our parents mom passed in November of 2018 and Dad passed June 20th 2023 and me and my brothers would go in their bedroom and lay down across the bed and we would just talk we continued the routine of going into the bedroom and laying down across the bed to talk to dad now we are learning to deal with being by ourselves

@DocSnipes 9 ай бұрын

I am so sorry about your losses and I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=grief

@mcjs8640 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry, but I knew all this anyway and it doesn't help me in the least. I have had prolonged grief for over thirteen years. I understand all this stuff on an intellectual level, but I can't choose to move on.

@klanderkal Ай бұрын

Wow... I can't seem to accept or let go also... No matter what the VA crisis counselors, psychologist or 988 says....

@user-em3np4vr8c 4 ай бұрын

I lost my young cat, i had to give him away, he was ragdoll beautiful and i miss him so badly i can't stop crying and then i had implant tooth, could'nt eat, pain then yesterday i had sore throat, no energy, i have been depressed, tried to get cat back, can't stop thinking about him, he was great company and a good little guy and i feel guilty, i want him back, i even think about getti g another one who wont need to go outside, this is the problem, no garden, but a big park but dogs everywhere! I have cpstd as well, I am taking too many pills to sleep and stimulant through day and ta,ing extra to overcome lethargy!

@DocSnipes 4 ай бұрын

I am deeply sorry for your loss. Here is the video on pet loss: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ic9hirl4t9bXeaM.htmlsi=A9C_sAZY0gpGyseJ

@klanderkal Ай бұрын

Sorry to hear of you're loss. I too cannot sleep.. I refuse sleeping medication,.. so I'm missing out on many days a week... I ruminate all day... My mistakes, that caused my loss.. I just cannot move on. I'm just stuck.

@michellestreater3296 Жыл бұрын

I’m a adult but I just want my mommy back 😢😢

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

We all need our mothers, no matter our age. I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will you use to address complicated grief? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=grief

@DawnSTyler Жыл бұрын

I’m 48 and I just want my mommy too. She died in February this year and the world just looks wrong without her in it. This is the longest I have ever gone in my whole life without talking with her. She was my mom and best friend. When I was little I had a hard time being separated from her for sleepovers because I would be overcome with panic that she might die somehow. There is a part of me that is still 5 and feels like my worst nightmare has come true.

@EricBryan-d3c 2 күн бұрын

@therissiarose 9 ай бұрын

Until I get my life back that was stolen, I will never be ok!

@DocSnipes 9 ай бұрын

I understand how difficult it must be to feel like your life was stolen from you. It's natural to feel that way, but remember that recovery is possible, and you have the strength to rebuild. With support and determination, you can work towards reclaiming your life.

@klanderkal Ай бұрын

I feel that.!!! I can't though! ... so my system won't accept it. I only think of life and my hopes and dreams if the past... .... depression, anxiety, insomnia.. Just horrible

@sherifuller9530 4 жыл бұрын

I so wish I had researched grief after losing my husband. I had horrible support and now grieving my entire life. I made a horrible decision while grieving due to bad side effects of Lexapro. I lost everything because of it. My doctor said most widows take antidepressants and I should not have because I had no support..

@DocSnipes 4 жыл бұрын

Sorry for your loss. I am glad the educational video may help you a bit.

@dr.jones.3832 Жыл бұрын

i believe most doctors have never taken anti-depressants in any form!! i know its been 3 years, buy my condolences. How are things doing for you nowdays?

@StanKochanoff 5 ай бұрын

Very helpful information for my Flourishing Life Coaching program

@DocSnipes 5 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful. Thanks for watching

@emilyacoxpsychic 2 ай бұрын

I lost My Dad May 11, 2003 and still haven’t grieved

@DocSnipes 2 ай бұрын

I am sorry for your loss and I appreciate you watching the video

@neonnights16 3 жыл бұрын

This was so great and well put together. As a somewhat new therapist I appreciate the foundation this offers for an issue that can be overwhelming to figure out where to start. I really found the attachment and serotonin interesting and the models of approach to help me help a client navigate grief. THANK YOU!!!

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@renitawoods8121 2 жыл бұрын

My partner's mother passed 6 months ago and she's feeling so much guilt, now she has pushed me away and will not speak to me, so now I'm grieving because I feel helpless to help her.

@kirstinstrand6292 2 жыл бұрын

How about Complex Grief? Chunking all Grieving together. Sibling, nephew, Climate Issues, World in Crisis, recently resolved childhood memories. What is the equivalent of CPTSD in losses. (You just mentioned cptsd!) Emotionally numb...makes me feel incompetent...and depressed. Will it end? Grieving, not deep depression; this video is Very Helpful. Thank you.

@cindyforehand1448 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. How is this different from ambiguous grief? For example when a parent has been alienated from their child that once loved them but child has been brainwashed to the point that the child vehemently attacks said parent and is unsafe for both child and alienated parent.

@craigo3849 2 жыл бұрын

23 minutes through this and I'm miserable. Maybe that's the point, but I was really hoping for some encouragement and action steps !! Kind of wary about spending another hour of grief triggering or can I expect some coping skills. Speaker definitely has the triggering stuff down pat, how about something encouraging along the way so I can get through the next hour of this client sales pitch

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

I don't really see private clients much now, I am too busy with AllCEUs and making videos for this channel. This channel helps thousands of people. (Certainly not trying to make people miserable.) It sounds like you may benefit from working with a professional, licensed, local counselor.

@craigo3849 2 жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes actually Ive been listening and learning from your videos for 2 weeks now, and occasionally, falling asleep to them intentionally to learn further during my sleep stage. So candidly I do trust your thoughts and guidance. But I guess this complex grief video was too complex for me in my conscious state. I listened to it twice just before sleeping thus week, but of course consciously, seemingly, missed everything...so I was determined to "hear" everything this morning but I guess I got too triggered and began life reviews as I followed along. That was unbridled. I'm sure that your ideations are worthwhile and I Apologize for more poor choice of comment messaging. Have a pleasant week, Dr. Most Sincerely craig

@Ewl1908 7 ай бұрын

13:53 Ouch.... I didn't think of it that way until now.😢

@DocSnipes 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching the video

@lab4389 4 ай бұрын

This is great information. There is one type of complicated grief that one has when their adult son has been estranged for a year and a half, along with my grandchild. It is almost unbearable. My mom just died and I don’t have her support re my estranged son. I don’t know how to deal with this much grief.

@DocSnipes 4 ай бұрын

I am sorry for your loss and I am sorry your adult son had been estranged for a year and a half.

@sandbar3000 2 жыл бұрын

Only child day. Single person day. Those that have no family day

@musicmom2161 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this wonderful and helpful video. I am dealing with my favorite therapist moving. I have 2 sessions left with her. I am devastated. What coping would you suggest for the pain? I have also lost both of my very abusive parents 3 years ago as well.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. Maybe you can talk to her about continuing sessions online

@musicmom2161 Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes thank you so much. Sadly she is leaving the practice and will be working at a different area. I was referred to a new therapist but still grieving the loss of my 1st therapist.

@Ofeliamarino 2 жыл бұрын

I still can’t do my taxes, I lost my dog 2 months ago and I still cannot think straight

@shellybuttrum8869 Жыл бұрын

I feel so lost. My beautiful daughter died suddenly. I'm exhausted all the time my body hurts I can't even hardly get out of bed. I'm so sick all the time. I've been to the doctor, I've had a few test but nothing so far.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear. Wishing you peace, health, and, happiness.

@Invisibility397 Жыл бұрын

I have never experienced any emotional support for anything my entire life. Therefore I have lived 29.5/41 years in solitude and celibate. Isolation and loneliness has been the baseline experience for me. Optimism is a choice... Love is generated internally... Nothingness exists externally... Society has nothing to offer me that I want or need... Hope for a better tomorrow was lost decades ago... I will exist until I don't, may I never experience the material plane again... This is the perception of my total life experience... Hypersensitive (Fe)&(Se) INFJ-T Indigo + Genetic Primary Psychopath that had no chance at living a fulfilling life... Yet I still exist until I don't. Patiently awaiting my final moment... Then I will go back to where I belong Enjoy your journey

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@sandbar3000 2 жыл бұрын

2nd year was harder than 1st year. My mom was all I had. Now I have no family.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

My condolences. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@sarahbazinet5863 2 жыл бұрын

🙏🕊💔

@suew1127 5 ай бұрын

This is hard. I'm so sorry😢❤

@sd3864 4 жыл бұрын

I've been heartbroken after my fathers death and became immensely addicted to opiates afterwards for years. I'm on suboxone now but I still have a hard time moving forward. My dad died, i moved, my 17 year pet died and I was promoted at work all within the same month, plus a cpl other things. It was too much for me. Is there life after death? Thank you.

@ulrikelehmberg4150 4 жыл бұрын

I'm very sure that there is life after death. I have lost my 24 year old daughter in an accident two months ago and I'm sure she wants me to be happy, I'm sure she is sending me little signs and accompanies me on my way. I'm sure it was her who sent me my new little dog from a rescue. I feel much better for it. I'm sure we will have a lotto talk to each other when we meet again. I don't have to forget her and she is part of my life. She is always there with me. In a way I have managed to feel immense gratitude for the times we had together but it will still take time for me to be 'normal' and to be interested in everything that is going on around me. But time takes time, and if you don't feel up to take your promotion just now, people will understand. I wish youall the best. Maybe you can talk to people who have experienced something similar, they can understand you. Take care.

@DocSnipes 4 жыл бұрын

I am very sorry to hear about your back to back tragedies. I can only imagine how exhausted you are dealing with all of that still.

@syamsyamansyur6280 3 жыл бұрын

A soul never dies. It's only the physical body gone. The soul is still around and sometimes they visit us. For sure you'll be reunited with your loved ones when your time has come. It's only a matter of time for us on earth now while in the afterlife there's no concept of time. Hang in there....

@youknowthenyouknow.1530 3 жыл бұрын

Yes. There is life after death. I know the Lord God. I want to encourage you to seek Jesus christ. He comforts, sees you, loves you, and wants a relationship with you. Jesus Loves you. God bless you my friend. Seek him.

@10mmfan 3 жыл бұрын

I’m 100% sure there is life after death. Actually there is no death. Only the meat suit we are in dies and then your spirit kicks it off like a worn out pair of jeans. Then our spirit enters a place of perfection and unconditional love. I’m looking forward to that better world but I still have work to do here. God bless

@camillel7174 2 жыл бұрын

My love went to light the pilot light, the house blew up, I found him naked, on fire on his hands and knees by the back door. I put him out helped him away from the house. Laid him down behind the shop called 911. He had no skin, eyes, ears and asked me to pour water on him but there was none. They flew him to the city but he died 6 hours later. I lost the love of my life. I lost my home. I lost pictures of my babies, lost my cat, lost everything. Got an answer? Why am I even looking for answers.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

So sorry for your loss.

@PrincessDie187 Жыл бұрын

Holy crap I am so sorry Camille L

@lyjuslyjus2201 Жыл бұрын

Praying hard for you 🙏🙏🙏

@klanderkal Ай бұрын

Very saddened of your devastating loss.!!

@hurricanewave212 2 жыл бұрын

I loosed my wife and most of these symptoms I deal with

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@irishdivajeffries6668 2 жыл бұрын

I lost my husband of 37 years suddenly on 03/06/22. We moved to AZ to enjoy our retirement and chose our home carefully. I can’t stay in it though so am searching for a condo on the first floor. I forgot to factor in the remaining mortgage in my figures. I’ve lost 75% of his pension and a bit of his/our Social Security benefits. Yes, I’m grieving! Not for the loss of money but for the loss of hm!

@irishdivajeffries6668 2 жыл бұрын

He was a tall , handsome, man who never had a sick day in all the years I knew him! It’s just awful.

@karinlarsen2608 3 жыл бұрын

What are symptoms of unprocessed grief? I'm 65, attend Al-Anon due to addicted parents in childhood. I lost my brother when he was 23 and I was 24, several marriages, 2 husbands died. The natural loss of grandparents and parents. My dad was only 50. How can I know if unprocessed grief is an obstacle to my personal development?

@brendadrumm9708 3 жыл бұрын

I've lost a beautiful daughter and gent of a son yr half apart a few yrs ago I'm finished I'm done I will never feel any dif my complication is some days I cry more for Joe then I feel guilty about Claire then vice verser cruel cruel world

@karinlarsen2608 3 жыл бұрын

@@brendadrumm9708 I hope you'll find your way to Al-Anon meetings, Celebrate Recovery is exactly the same except from a Christian perspective. You can find a group to help you recover from grief

@jacquelinestewart3820 3 жыл бұрын

I feel your pain there is no light at the end of the tunnel for me I am just surrounded by darkness I lost my beautiful daughter so I can’t even imagine the pain you are going through losing to of your children I’m so sorry for your pain no words

@shivigarg4158 11 ай бұрын

I lost my mom a year ago on 24th Dec. due to cancer. I can't imagine my life without her. She was the whole oackage of ebtertainment and laughter for me she was also a great healer for me. The whole drastic change that come in my life has shook me up completely. I don't feel like myself anymorem i was already going through some mental issues and was fucjed up with my life before my mom died now I'm dealing wuth a major trauma . Sometimes I think I should just die. Also I'm dealing with delayed grief. I'm not able to find a new perspective in life.

@klanderkal Ай бұрын

Dr. Snipes. This is a little different. I'm 62. My dream job was to drive the city bus. It took forever.. but I got in. The best, most enjoyable job ever. Long sad story short. Mistakes on my part, and others. I lost my job of 25 years. My job was connected to every aspect of my life, including all my closest friends. I stressed SO bad! I got terrible insomnia, anxiety, and depression. The grief and regret and guilt are overwhelming. I can't really move. Unable to accept! My life was planned out, and my hobbies and activities were all workplace related. It totally was my identity, purpose, and my structure. I lost all my interests in life and living. I don't even go outside anymore. I just don't want to do anything I used to. And I feel no pleasure. It's been 7 months. It's the same as if it just happened. No sleep, just ruminating on the mistakes I made and how great my life was. I'm withering away. .... Mentally and physically. I'm afraid of this paralyzing state of apathy. 🙏

@DocSnipes Ай бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

@klanderkal Ай бұрын

@@DocSnipes I was really hoping you might understand this complicated trauma/grief.. that caused this severe depression and anxiety. I'm so stuck. I just sit all day,... with no desire to do anything. I won't even go anywhere.

@djbond6241 Жыл бұрын

THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH XOXO,*(** DR.SNIPES **) FOR THESE EDUCATIONAL VIDEOS....😎🙂😍🤗😍🙏😇🙏

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=grief

@kathythureen9341 4 ай бұрын

I HAVE HAD HAD GRIEF BEING IN SPECIAL EDUCATION WITH A LEARNING DISABILITY.

@DocSnipes 4 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that

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@fractalizedspiritz 9 ай бұрын

can you have complicated grief but not it be the cause of a death but the loss from just overall abuse and trauma ?

@DocSnipes 8 ай бұрын

Yes, the loss of overall abuse and trauma it is possible to lead to complicated grief. Complicated grief is a condition that can occur when an individual has a difficult time recovering from a loss and returning to their normal life. This type of grief can be triggered by various types of loss. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=grief

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@fractalizedspiritz 8 ай бұрын

@@DocSnipes do you mind trying to send the link again? it sent me to your main page

@chilloften 4 жыл бұрын

Is it possible that other things, besides a death, cause complicated grief? Thank you for sharing.

@stephanie_smith 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!!!

@pisces_chick2511 2 жыл бұрын

I think the biggest theme around this issue is loss of identification. So in what ways do humans find themselves identifying what makes them who they are or their purpose? Loss of job or career, divorce or a break-up, losing a home (fire, foreclosure, eviction), an illness, diagnoses or terminal disease...etc. Death is definitely going to cause grief. I see Complicated grief as an incident other than death that causes a person to grieve. Most people understand the grieving period of a death, many do not understand how someone can still be grieving a year later after losing a job & hasn't "snapped" out of it yet. I left my abusive alcoholic husband two years ago & legally divorced for 10 months. I am still grieving & adjusting. I am still sad, angry & having a hard time forgiving myself. Even though I know I had no other choice & he was abusive, it is still a loss. I understand that now. I identified immensely as a wife, mother & through our family. It was a huge change. I felt like I lost my right arm. Some people just attach to people, job titles, a home... so deeply. When they lose said thing they literally lose a chunk of their soul & it takes months if not years to come to terms with what happened. There is so much denial, cognitive dissonance & heartbreak to muddle through. The biggest help for me was educating myself about what I was emotionally & mentally going through. That there was actual terms & definitions that I didn't have the words for to even express what I was dealing with in my marriage & during the aftermath. Therapy, of course was a big 2nd! Helping me process my thoughts & feelings, plus the validation that I was dealing with narcissistic abuse syndrome, that I Definitely was a Domestic Abuse Survivor & that it was ok to grieve my marriage, my ex-husband & my broken family even though it was a toxic situation relationship. Blessings & healing to everyone out there going through this right now.

@mccoolth Ай бұрын

This will also apply for anyone who is "Grieving for the Living" Simce after 2021. Has anyone been abandoned by their family due to unacceptable views?

@DocSnipes Ай бұрын

Being abandoned by family due to holding views they deem unacceptable can be a deeply painful and isolating experience. It's important to recognize that such estrangement can lead to feelings of invalidation and psychological unsafety, especially if you're constantly being told that your ideas are wrong or that your perspective is not valued. Here are some steps you can take to cope with this difficult situation: * Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's normal to feel a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, and confusion. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment. * Seek Support: Connect with friends, support groups, or a therapist who can provide understanding and validation of your feelings. * Self-Compassion: Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that your worth is not dependent on your family's approval. * Set Boundaries: If possible, set boundaries with family members to protect your emotional well-being. * Focus on Self-Acceptance: Work on accepting and loving yourself for who you are, regardless of others' approval or disapproval. * Create a Chosen Family: Build relationships with people who respect and accept you for your beliefs and who you are as a person. It's also helpful to learn skills that can help you integrate your past experiences into your present life in a way that doesn't continue to negatively impact you. Acknowledging that your past does not have to define your present can be empowering. Remember, while you may not be able to control your family's actions or beliefs, you can control how you respond and how you move forward. Focusing on your own growth and well-being is paramount. You can ask my AI to learn more on that and more easily find information in the video library allceus.com/AskDocSnipes

@Hendrixtanell13 2 жыл бұрын

My girlfriend loss her son so I'm giving her space we are in a long distance relationship Im concerned for her and she may or hopefully her cancer is gone going through this tough time

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you both peace, health, and happiness.

@yuli-wx2yg Жыл бұрын

😢

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry if you are struggling with loss or complicated grief and I appreciate you watching the video. Here are more videos on grief: kzfaq.infosearch?query=grief

@kathythureen9341 4 ай бұрын

I HAVE HAD GRIEF BEING IN SPECIAL EDUCATION BECAUSE OF A LEARNING DISABILITY.

@DocSnipes 4 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that.