COPING WITH SUICIDE | Paul McGregor: The Process #3

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COPING WITH SUICIDE | Paul McGregor: The Process #3

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Male suicide, anxiety, depression, grief and coping with the bereavement of a loved one are all topics that aren't discussed enough by men. James Lawrence Allcott sits down with Paul Mcgregor who lost his Dad to suicide in 2009 to discus male mental health and explain that hope is all you need to begin to feel like you can move forward when you're going through tough times. Enjoy The Process #3
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@JamesLawrenceAllcott 5 жыл бұрын

Empathy and understanding is what it's all about, I truly believe that and this series is all about hearing different points of view. Hopefully this episode offers something that shows how important it is for everyone to understand how important mental health should be to us all. Massive to Paul for speaking so honestly with me.

@dickieOiRed_07 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for making this video. The more people understand the better it is for those with depression and other mental health problems.

@reecec8789 5 жыл бұрын

Nice to see a video on such a sensitive topic being handled so well. It’s so easy to use mental health issues for views and likes, but instead you’ve made something of real value. Massive respect to you and Paul 👊🏼

@JamesLawrenceAllcott 5 жыл бұрын

Cheers mate

@markwoods1504 4 жыл бұрын

In 2015 I was diagnosed with clinical depression, I’d had an operation which went wrong the result was I ended up with chronic pancreatitis and permanently on morphine and other strong painkillers, I had to retire at 47, the same year both of my parents died of cancer. It was a tough year. I waited 2 years to see someone regarding my depression and when I did that was just to access my depression. I was then told to call a specific number to register !!!!!! Mental health in men is not taken seriously enough in this country and know one has any answers to the problem.

@ieuanmorris2812 5 жыл бұрын

Cheers for this mate really needed to hear this,not many youtubers have the balls to come and do a serious video like this,defo one of the most underrated youtubers and defo should have more subs, should be proud mate

@sufyaanirfan4962 5 жыл бұрын

Paused just after the intro and James I'm just like you in the regard my life has been quite rosy. Videos like this matter to us lads because sooner or later this challenge will arise and us understanding these issues will make us more tolerable and better people for it.

@sarasutherland1793 5 жыл бұрын

As the wife of a man that was suicidal and suffered severe PTSD, and as a person that subsequently had suicidal thoughts when he got better ( there is always an aftermath) I can honestly say you have explained very clearly and accurately how you feel on both sides and how a tiny bit of hope can help so so much. It is a long process but it can certainly get better. So glad I have found your channel .

@JamesLawrenceAllcott 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your comment Sara ❤️

@mooseyman12345 5 жыл бұрын

This video may not get the views it deserves but James this is a quality video which speaks about really important issues. Keep up the great work and love the way you handled this subject

@JamesLawrenceAllcott 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks mate. I really appreciate that

@DashinDachshund 4 жыл бұрын

Have to say James this is definitely a video you can be proud of and personally my favourite so far out of 'The Process' series. You tackled the topic really well, it's made me realise how lucky I am and I'm going to make it known to my dad and mum about how much I appreciate them. As someone who's turning 20 soon who has experienced mental health issues personally and in my family, I feel we sometimes get caught up in our own problems. Forgetting to stop and appreciate the people who have stuck by us and supported us. It's important to let them know they are loved. Cheers for this James

@danjadzz 5 жыл бұрын

Just clicked on this! Looking forward to it 🎙️

@markblackford7131 5 жыл бұрын

Amazing story, amazing of you James to raise awareness and give stats on this issue, we all as men put up the wall of IM FINE... WELL sometimes we aren't fine, and the stats show it. It is ok not to be ok and we all need to care for each other and try and spot the signs, speak out and always keep fighting. All the best lads and thank u for your story Paul.

@TheJaanTV 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you mate! This one is amazing! It takes some balls to talk about this stuff. Hope this topic gets the attention and funding it needs!

@jamesstephens24 5 жыл бұрын

This was brilliant

@allieh4117 5 жыл бұрын

how on earth has this not got more views?

@taylormckenna7456 5 жыл бұрын

Truly amazing James, would love to ever get the chance to have one of these chats with you

@markwoods1504 4 жыл бұрын

James I’ve watched a few of these KZfaq podcasts and I must say they’re very close to reality especially this one there’s nothing made up , well done James for bringing this subject into the mainstream of the public eye. #YNWA

@JamesLawrenceAllcott 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark

@zXGeo4 5 жыл бұрын

This is a top video James, we need more people to share their experiences and talk about their problems in order to continue helping others and preventing these tragedies from happening.

@drunkhaus6961 5 жыл бұрын

Really impressed with how you handled a very sensitive topic.

@JamesLawrenceAllcott 5 жыл бұрын

We've got to brave enough to talk about this stuff. There's nothing to be ashamed of to admit we don't know enough.

@scottrichmond1738 5 жыл бұрын

You both should be so proud of this.

@JamesLawrenceAllcott 5 жыл бұрын

Cheers Scott

@8evvied 5 жыл бұрын

ANOTHER brilliant episode.

@alexcoyg3281 5 жыл бұрын

Great video. Great channel. Thank you!

@owentaylor92 5 жыл бұрын

If I could teach anyone just one thing about mental health it would be to not be afraid to sit in the moment, emotions and difficult conversations with that person that needs help. Our first thought is to fix or to help. Don't just straight into problem solving, let that person feel what they are feeling because validating feelings is so much more powerful than any medication. You can't talk someone into attempting suicide but you sure as hell can relate and connect to them by having an honest and curious conversation around what they are going through.

@JamesLawrenceAllcott 5 жыл бұрын

Great comment. That's something I would be guilty of in the oast

@tezwhitby5097 5 жыл бұрын

Very powerful video James with an incredibly important message. Well done to you both and keep the good work up!

@JamesLawrenceAllcott 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks mate

@PanhandlePrepping 5 жыл бұрын

Excellent job, James. It’s important for everyone to discuss and be empathetic towards mental health issues. But I also think it’s equally important that men in particular discuss these things openly. Both young men and older men alike need to know that it’s not only ok to discuss mental health, but it’s necessary. I thank you for providing a both a voice and an ear for so many. Well done lad.

@bbbbear9 5 жыл бұрын

This is such a good series mate, this episode was really sad but fascinating.

@patrickbrennan9187 5 жыл бұрын

This was top notch James. Love your work.

@JamesLawrenceAllcott 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man.

@efcdk92 Жыл бұрын

Brilliant this. And important.

@Joe-dz3ie 5 жыл бұрын

Fair play to both, you both deserve a lot of respect. Nice one James!

@padraigdoyle9262 5 жыл бұрын

brilliant insight from paul there and great questions from yourself aswell

@marcus47069 5 жыл бұрын

Much love to everyone. If anyone's experiencing this, speak up. I'm sure there's someone who would want to be there for you if they knew

@jamestomas9849 5 жыл бұрын

Unreal video James, love this

@jamescarragher1089 5 жыл бұрын

Unbelievable mate, so good to hear this!

@siddyfisher1765 5 жыл бұрын

Great work James

@librarygary1618 5 жыл бұрын

Anybody with depression should be extremely careful with anti depressants. I've tried 6 different ones, all of them didn't help even a little bit and instead all of them made me feel worse and had terrible side effects. For 2 of them, I should have genuinely been on suicide watch, I was so manic and upset, I set up an attempt to end my life, and genuinely had I not convinced myself to see if some weed would help calm me down, I wouldn't be alive. Another thing, you hear a lot "depression is a chemical imbalance, just get medicine" that chemical imbalance can happen randomly and naturally, but generally, that imbalance is triggered by real world experiences and thoughts. It doesn't just come from no where, the root might be buried and you won't know exacty what's real and what your real issue is, but just getting massively or suicidally depressed out of nowhere and taking your life is uncommon to say the least. talking about what you think and how you think with a professional and personally progressing mentally is how you fix a problem that SSRI's just mask, even when they work successfully, and when they don't work, it can lead to the worst thing.

@librarygary1618 5 жыл бұрын

@Paul McGregor on Mental Health absolutely. It's also worth mentioning in the US at least, professionals are literally incentivized to hand out antidepressants. A lot of people's issues could be alleviated if there was a building with a red Cross that you could stay at for free until you were better mentally or physically with care being focused on the patient not what the patient can afford. It's possible and it just doesn't exist, there's still far too many barriers socially and economically for people to live healthier within our current system. This is a major thing to me especially as someone who is partly disabled, and I hope its something that you can spread awareness for as you continue being a positive influence on the world. A lot of people need help and we as a modern civilization, aren't doing enough to take care of our own people.

@dickieOiRed_07 5 жыл бұрын

Definitely. As someone with depression and an anxiety disorder I thank you for making this point. Anyone with any form of depression should see a mental health professional on a regular basis, regardless of how good your support network is. Antidepressants should not be prescribed as a cure and your doctor should not prescribe them before you're assessed by a mental health professional. Everything should be done in consultation between the patient, their doctor, and their mental health professional. I wasn't prescribed antidepressants until at least a year after my first session with my psychologist, and only this was agreed upon between he, my GP, and myself. Also, antidepressants can take up to 6 weeks for some people, 8 weeks or longer for others. I feel your doctor let your dad down with the way he was prescribed initially and subsequently. This may have been how mental health was dealt with at the time, but I really feel more should have been done to care for him. The hospital should have cared for your dad better too. I'm so sorry you lost your dad at such a formative time in your life and you don't get to share your experiences with him. Take care, and thank you so much for spreading your message. Take care.