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hi craig is it possible for two amxious ,avoidant people to work out? or is it a,waste of time?

Hey Craig good evening I love ur coach and it make redirect myself after breaking no contact rule..I saw many coaches online who says I have to ignored my ex for one month even though she contacted me and I did DAT..my ex text me she miss me four days after she brokeup wit me and I ignored her and I contacted her 30 days after that but she did not reply my message.

Craig My ex unblocked me from whastapp after 1 month and 10 days of being blocked.. 5 days before her bday. Did she want me to wish her happy bday? Was it a test to see if i remembered and still cared? Or just to reinforce her ego if i did? I almost texted her but everyone told me not to so i contained myself..but now i live in regret a week later..thinkin she was maybe giving me a chance to talk to her..but now i lost it for good.. thoughts?

My ex unblocked me from whastapp after 1 month and 10 days of being blocked.. 5 days before her bday. Did she want me to wish her happy bday? Was it a test to see if i remembered and still cared? Or just to reinforce her ego if i did? I almost texted her but everyone told me not to so i contained myself..but now i live in regret a week later..thinkin she was maybe giving me a chance to talk to her..but now i lost it for good.. thoughts?

J J My opinion says it was a test. You did good by staying NC and letting her reach out. Sometimes women do that just to see if you’re still available for them...and the minute you start whining you lose them again. She might have wanted the birthday wishes, to see if you remember, but if she was reaching out hoping to reunite she would have opened up to you and made that obvious. Listen to your gut. Good luck and stay NC. As a man, you must be emotionally stronger than her. If she still loves you she will cave man. If not, you may not even care in a few months and might be someone better for you.

unguided728 Don’t do it. You should make a conscious decision avoid anywhere she might be for awhile until you’re strong enough.

this is 101, thanks for the reminder

awesome words

This ain’t it chief

Truee!🙂

True.

He has left once two years ago the reach at two months. Then dissapeared for two more months. This time, it was me who broke up on July 3rd. He was living a double life. He having dinner with her once a week. He sleep at her house every other Saturday. While I was sleeping at his house 4 and 5 nights a week. I walked out on him; he didn't reach. I reached on August 12. He has moved from his house is changing jobs. After talking with him. He said there were things he need it to have time to think. I figure he is full of it! Craig can you do a video on what to do whem your ex is cheating? Specially from a woman point of view. He is an avoidant attachment style.

@@aliceallmon2409 walk away u don't need that in your life.

If you love someone let them go, if they come back let them go again cause nobody else wants them either.

Even If you was the one that messed up by not caring for her?

@@Drewcipha What should you do, If you was the one who messed up the relationship?

@@Drewcipha I was dealing with some personal issues and went cold on her and everybody for like 2 or 3 weeks. I eventually came back, and Skype her, apologized like a man, told her that now I see I should had done better and that It wasn't because her or It wasn't because I was messing with other chicks. She said she thought I was with another female. I said no, that I went cold on even my own family. She said ok, then cut our convo short and told me she will call me back and never did. So after a week, I texted her and she was cold and took forever to text me back. Now she on a vacation to her hometown In Dominican Republic. She hadn't call me or texted me, but like a pic or 2 on my Facebook. Last we texted was the next day when she left on her trip, I wished her a safe flight and to have fun out there, she replied 3 days later with a 😘 emoji. What you think I should do?.....This girl was so Into me before that, she would answer my text or calls right away, and even told me she wanted to be my girlfriend and have a relationship, all before I went cold.

@@Drewcipha Thank you brother. She video chatted with me like 3 times yesterday. Which was cool, the only thing Is that she was drinking, so I dont know If It was Just the liquor talking. I have done the same when drinking to other females that I wasn't Interested. For now, I will sit back and wait and see where she Is at. I've learned alot from this situation and looking forward to my future dating experiences. Thanks for all your Input brother!

@@Drewcipha my girlfriend broke up and told me it's over by text, it's been really hard, I keep texting her over and over, she said she doesn't want a relationship or to get married. And told me she hasnt changed her mind. Kind of think there might be someone else.. she 41 and u emotional attached

I think the relationship really dies when the person who got dumped finally moves on. Because once the dumpee moves on, like you said, they don't want their ex back because they have grown and developed so much as a person because of the break up. The saddest part of a break up is knowing that in order to get your ex back, you need to move on... But when you move on, you won't want them back.

@@gmoney5173 its a shame

James Cavanaugh SPOT. ON. It is really sad. Because deep down we all know, that when we move on, we won’t want them back. But that is our best option. It’s the best option for our own well-being.

I think "hey hope your cat is good" etc is them testing the water/saying sorry I'm trying to see if you're still mad/if we can reconcile without them bruising their ego tbh

I agree

Are you still together

Amazing!! This is very inspirational. Congratulations!

Men tend to come back faster than women. Most Girls will date a few guys before even giving their ex a chance again.

Kisses😘

Lucky u

My ex unblocked me from whastapp after 1 month and 10 days of being blocked.. 5 days before her bday. Did she want me to wish her happy bday? Was it a test to see if i remembered and still cared? Or just to reinforce her ego if i did? I almost texted her but everyone told me not to so i contained myself..but now i live in regret a week later..thinkin she was maybe giving me a chance to talk to her..but now i lost it for good.. thoughts?

@@ch1bob let it be and contain yourself .If she ever decides to want to be with you or see you ,trust me she will let you know. She probably needs to cut ties completely now . What would you get talking to her ? It wouldn't change anything . Only time will tell. Meanwhile ,take care of yourself . Stop thinking of her and what she is doing and with who. Im in the situation right now. 6 weeks now . Im being strong and letting it be . She will contact you if things ended up in a non fighting way. LET HER GO .

@@dimicaimano5734 non fighting way? Things ended with her mad at me for contacting a friend of hers asking about her and also because i sent her a cake with a written letter

Is that fighting?

@@ch1bob Its not fighting , but it will upset her or show weakness from your part if you speak to her friends ,family and so on. You are also disrespecting her by speaking to her friends. Be strong and pull away. If you keep on doing this she will never get a chance to miss you.

How you doing now?

@@DrewTyler15 we’re back together 😂 doing great now. No contact really works. I did it twice and he came back every time

@@anairaham Wow wasn't expecting that! Happy for you

Never works

Victoria Nike I recently had an ex contact me and pursue me after 4 years of zero contact. She thought I hated her, but I didn’t. I never stopped loving her, I just walked away and let her go. I never imagined I’d see her again. We hit it off, it was incredible. We were so in love and for a while I was still in shock that she was back in my life. I assumed I’d never see or hear from her again. You have to let them go and if and when they feel like they let something special go, they WILL come back.

Nothere Justhere I wish there was a happy ending...she recently ended things after about 5 months. She moved in and I don’t think we were ready, it only lasted 3 weeks and I came home from work one day and all her things were gone and she left me a note saying she’s sorry for doing this to me again....I’m sorry fir the ending lol but the initial part can help people still

In my case the ex who returned and I have become f***friends. He is trying to make me forget the other guy, the long distance one (I still miss him and cry a lot). Ex# 1 usually says to me: 'Why do you cry? Remember how much you cried long ago? What was the use of that? I'm right by your side mad about you!' So the best thing, as J Brazo says, is to let them go...probably they will come back! Good luck everybody! :D

I wouldn’t consider taking a man back who left me for another woman. His cycle will most likely continue and he’ll leave you heart broken and alone again. People treat us the way we allow them to treat us. Don’t give either of them the chance to come back into your life and disrespect you again. Recognize your worth. They made their choice to leave. Let them both live with it.

I’m going through a divorce after being married for 7+ years and she was all mine as I was her first love and first everything. You guys provide me with hope and if letting go is the best thing for them to come back, at this point what’s there to lose. I didn’t want the divorce but obviously it only takes one to divorce another. No amount of begging or pleading got me anywhere. No amount of trying to get her to seek the lord with me or going through marriage counseling worked for her and she’s in the mindset of following her heart and giving up on me and our marriage. To add, there was no infidelity, not lying, no gambling, no addiction to porn, sex life was amazing, but my one flaw, I said hurtful things that I didn’t mean in only SOME (not all) arguments we had over some petty stuff. She’ll say all sorts of stuff like my mental issues being the problem as she doesn’t want our kids to develop them through genetics, having no unity(which is a lie), and not being compatible (which how are we not compatible if we’ve been together for 7+ years and we’re madly in love once before this process). I feel compatibly is thrown around like candy yet just because you have some different likes doesn’t mean your not compatible such as her liking country music and I like metal. I swear she would say we’re not compatible after just different music tastes. Anyways, it’s good to hear you guys get your lives back. Hopefully the love is stronger the second time around and you live happily together forever.

I think I am in 2 weeks NC since our last email (LDR), it sucks. Keeping a positive attitude, though I do not want to hope.

Update? Are you guys back together

Completely ignoring them is like refusing to play, go all in and they’ll likely fold. The key is to keep getting them to slowly put in chips (I.e. investment)

This please!

Yes bc while the person broke up with you they’re creating other soul-ties with additional partners so where do they go once we get back together? These “soul ties!”

This is part of the grieving process. This too shall pass.

They always do

If you are sleeping with other people you should know your ex has the power of choice to sleep with others. You aren't together. Take it on the chin.

Your ex is 100% sleeping with someone else. Get over it. They slept with others before you too

If? Come on, man. It’s in their DNA to sleep around. They jump from bed to bed, create collateral damage, and don’t give a crap how it affects you.

He doesn't say ignore

No it's not childish if u educate yourself it's about healing self respect and he may realize if not that's ok too but begging him didn't work

@@carmensmith1453 facts

How did this turn out? I'm right there right now

It's not been quite as long for me, but it feels so difficult still feeling this way😕

It's been one month for me 😭😔 and I genuinely want to know what do I do after no contact or no reaching out....like what I mean is if or when he reaches out to me what if he tells me he just wants to still only be friends :'( it has been so hard and I'm just watching these videos looking for the answer to that.... like what if after more time he just does not want me and ...idk...I'm sorry I'm just so lost and torn😔💔

... still no contact at all... it's been two months :(

J C it’s now 6 months

3 months here, not easy but moving forward and working extremely hard on myself. changed so much, working on maintaining that change.

Global that is similar to what i am feeling. Don’t want to be stuck in limbo land or worse yet... the friend zone. So hard!

@@sherrytee4077 yes

Same here. My ex reached out then started ignoring me. At that point I told her that if she gets the urge to contact me again that she should never even consider it.

@@ZukoTheShinigami Should I ignore her during no contact if the reason for break up was the lack of attention from me?

@@cipryan96 thats a diff case , you may wana respond but nothing to indicate you still care. Keep her guessing

Know your worth for sure!!

You was the rebound, he used you to get back with her, sorry to have to say this.

oof so he went back to the wrong ex

I will ignore him just like he ignores me may God forgive him us but he put me thru so much pain

update?

Lol I also recite the beginning and whistle the jingle

@@lalisasmr lol same here

Update?

Update

Yeah update

Hi can I get an update did you guys ever get back together just wondering cuz it's been 6 months for me long story short I beg I pleaded for 4 months and now I've been doing the no contact because obviously he would ignore me with any text or call did you ever get her back

Are you still hoping?

Still hoping?

Keep it that way as long as possible

stay strong, it will get easier over time

@@vambo13257 chilllll im good its been over 9 months

@@kenkham6145 me 1 year 🤣

@@kenkham6145 tell the people how you got to your higher place 😃

@@iamu2247 How? TIME HEALS ALL

Shortcake07 From my perspective, it's not being mean..it's giving them time to think about things and then deciding what changes need to be made. 😄

Unfortunately, this is the mere truth!!!! when you treat someone well,they don't appreciate you!

Yeah, you've got to go for it and set a date, that's how you avoid bread crumbing

@@rwentfordable I decided that I don’t him back. He did try to contact me from a fake profile though

Hahah, it’s funny. I just bumped into that (male) friend and he asked how my situation is going. I said it’s been 3 weeks tomorrow since we’ve spoken. He said “nope. Leave her be. It’s over. She won’t come back.” I’m so glad I found this channel🥲

repent and come to the Lord Jesus Christ, the pleasures of this world are nothing compared to the bliss of God

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It can't be a time frame though. Just until you know it's working

Emily Painter hey, it’s been 10 months, what happened between you two? Any updates?

We're sitting in suspense lol

Hi Emily its been 2 years please update

Facts. I'm going through that. I'm the dumpee.. and he could care less about what's going on with my emotions bcuz he's with someone else and is happy... so, there's no chance for reconciliation. Compared to her, I'm not on the level.

Mine said the same thing. Nc for 27 days for me

Bs, what's with the alone and be at peace, when they start drama themselves at times. They weren't thinking about being alone and at "peace" when they were all over, makes u wanted ignore them even more with that nonsense

Hang in there Sarah! Sounds like he's hanging on in "survival mode". So sorry that you are going through this troubling time in double speed! Work on yourself. Find new friends, old friends get some hobbies, anything to get this guy out of your heart and head! You will get through this!

RollingnBodfish93518 thank you so much!! I’m starting school next week and I’ve been going to the gym everyday. Spending lots of time with my fam and friends!! It’s helped me so much! I’ve been in NC for 90 days. I’m doing better but it still stings a little when I think about him and her.

@@sarahboyd7754 that's great! Your now on the right path to enlightenment! You are much stronger now. Can you feel it? You are a Superstar and don't you forget about it! Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family. Big hugs from sin city!

@@sarahboyd7754 update??

John Smith I’ve been with my new man for 10 months now and he’s everything I’ve been looking for! Spoils me like no other and isn’t a cheater!! Such a good man! I finished cosmetology school and am now in a salon and doing great in my career. My ex came back and said he wanted to marry me 😂 but I was with my now boyfriend!! Lmao. What a loser!! I am well over him and so glad my new man is in my life! I’m doing great. Thanks for asking!

Contact her. She loves you. Life is too short. Lemme know how turns out.

You should have said so at the time. Serves you right. Why are men who are meant to be so strong act so weak and scared??

Dark Horse Since he blocked you then his offer to be there for you doesn’t really stand. Even if you were able to reach out out- his comfort would be cold and short lived as you’re not in each other’s lives anymore. I’d reach out for others for support that will be genuine and longer lasting. Sorry for your loss, for both of your losses, but you’re stronger than you think 💗

You’re right. Thanks for your kind words. It’s crazy that he said and did contradicting things. Why even offer his support? Surprised he hasn’t reached out w his condolences which also hurts- but maybe he doesn’t know. I wrote a tribute to her on my IG. These past few months really couldn’t get any worse

Dark Horse He may think contacting you will give you the wrong idea- that he’s ready for a relationship. My ex thinks that way. He’s very careful to not lead me on into thinking he’s ready for anything more than casual. Also, an avoidant ex buries themselves into other responsibilities and activities and are experts at suppressing thoughts and feelings. They go numb and don’t dwell on things like AP with their ruminating thoughts or even secure.

I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

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Any updates

Updates?

@@adrij4961 I moved on hard after the last update. That was a mega turn-off for me. I decided I don't like playing to their level. 💯

This approach is becoming more common with guys......

Hope Craig sees that. I also get random memes/jokes and funny vids.

In my opinion yes. Why bother to make someone jealous if you have no interest.

did he break up with you?

No. I cut things off with him when I found out the hard way that there was someone else.

@@lethellsing omg and he had the nerve to try and spin it on you saying what he did like its your fault??

@@itsbritneybitch69 nothing like that

Sean Williams They are childish Ignore them and move on See what happens 👍🏻

Hey sorry to hear that man, Try looking for the vids on the grass is greener syndrome. And go full on no contact. You are a wonderfull person by already trying to improve yourself and do not ever stop doing that. If its meant to be she'll contact you later on. Life's a mess a times but in that chaos there's you who can take full control and responsibility to your own actions. Take pride in knowing you did your best and don't devalue yourself. Try some new things, read some books, talk to friends. If you can pull yourself out of this mud in these times know that nothing is going to keep you down because you're a strong willed person who's willing to communicate and fix things. Don't play the victim card on yourself but enable to grow by understanding your strength and weakness. I can give you one thing for sure and that is that another wonderfull person like you will join you on your conquest of life if you let it. Take care and heal up, we need self conscious people like you in this world!

@@Elmaffo2008 Thank you, that's very good of you to say. I did everything possible the past few months, but it appears that she had already found someone else. She's talking on tinder/snapchat/whatsapp none stop and I cannot do anything about it.

naw, that's some weak-minded beta male crap.