Dating Mistakes: Why Being Too 'Agreeable' Backfires

Dating Mistakes: Why Being Too 'Agreeable' Backfires - Expert Relationship Advice

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2 ай бұрын

Are you being too agreeable (to please your date)? This always backfires. Here’s how to diplomatically express yourself and create dynamic attraction at the same time
When we first begin dating, we often try to morph into the person we think our partner wants us to be. This means we might suppress our own wants and needs, striving to be agreeable and easygoing. In doing so, we become a blank canvas for them, adapting ourselves to fit their expectations.
However, as the relationship progresses, our true needs and desires inevitably surface. This can lead to conflict and disappointment if they differ significantly from the persona we initially presented. It's crucial to express our authentic selves from the start to build a genuine, lasting relationship based on mutual understanding and respect.
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@GigaChad_169 2 ай бұрын

This woman is a national treasure! Completely true. Don’t dim your light to make others comfortable. Be you and see if the other person is ok with it. Saves both people time and energy. The truth eventually comes out.

@aras.relationship.support 2 ай бұрын

I agree with you!

@SusanWinter 2 ай бұрын

Huge thanks!! ❤❤

@Malithi-P 2 ай бұрын

Hi Susan, hope you’re well. Miss seeing you on Thursday live so I was glad to see you here. xx

@SusanWinter 2 ай бұрын

Malithi -I thank you so much and the real issue is that I have a series of doctors appointments and a surgery. And rather than cancel Thursdays and then have an occasional time when I can show up, I thought it would be best for me to cancel through September and the end of all my medical procedures. However, I do hope to be sending you more videos. And so this way, I can still be with you. I really don't like taking time off from the live show for that. I am so sorry but I really need to take care of my health.

@Malithi-P 2 ай бұрын

Yes, our health is our priority. I hope the surgery goes well. Take care ❤

@carenshapiro5999 2 ай бұрын

I tried promise to year with the dismissive avoidant I gave everything I had, and I’m glad to say that I learned an awful lot in regard to taking care of myself and my well-being and adding stress to my life was not a part of the program does it make it easier in the heart, but it’s what’s best for me. Thank you, Susan.

@johnmoreno5965 2 ай бұрын

Just incredible!!! WOW

@SusanWinter 2 ай бұрын

Thank you John!!! I appreciate that message.

@Glen.Murphy8 2 ай бұрын

Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

@SusanWinter 2 ай бұрын

It’s only one month. And it’s normal to miss a person you’ve spent five years with. She was your “person.” And now there is a void so this is completely understandable. However, it does sound like you’re pedestalizing this woman. And right now you’re only remembering the good. But there were also bad days, rough days and days perhaps when she was pulling away or not there for you. I really suggest you consider downloading Breakup Triage: The Cure for Heartache. It’s free I think to audible subscribers or just a couple dollars. It’s 33 minutes of an audio where I walk you through every step of disconnecting and getting out of the loop.

@YouTubeUzername 2 ай бұрын

My goodness this is spot on! I feel like the lines get blurred between not wanting to be too agreeable and not wanting to change the person. I want to see the real them and decide if it’s something that I can handle long term.

@SusanWinter 2 ай бұрын

What a great assessment. Thank you for your share.