Dealing with an Inferiority Complex part 1 of 2

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14 жыл бұрын

Part 1 of 2. In this video I talk about Inferiority Complexes. This includes my story, emotional neglect, separation anxiety, social anxiety, BPD and self-injury. I'd like to learn how to deal with my Inferiority Complex and I made a list of goals that I hope that will help me and you guys to defeat this complex.
I'd love for you to join me in this recovery. LETS MAKE A LIST TOGETHER THAT CAN WORK FOR ALL OF US!
Here is what I've got so far.
List of goals:
- Write down where your Inferiority Complex is coming from (childhood).
- What are your shortcomings? Are they realistic?
- How are you still dealing with it today?
- Try not to be what people want you to be for two weeks, but just be you. And write down what happens in those situations. What's different?
- Don't accept it when people are mean to you. Do something about it. Write down what you did.
- Don't try to deal with everything on your own, try to ask help.
If you have more/better ideas, please make a comment on this video and I'll include it in our list!
'Trophification' (Karen) made a wonderful video response:
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Take care you all : )
Bas
This is the second of my nine or eleven videos about all different kinds of self-defeating/self-destructive/negative life patterns.

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@lookatthisjamoke 10 жыл бұрын

Something I have realised about my inferiority complex is that its stupid. I realise having this complex is stupid but I still have it. I'm concious of myself and my thoughts. For some reason I feel as though everything I do is selfish and whenever someones nice to me I feel as if they are being too generous. It seems the only time I can be myself is when I'm high. My complex just easily goes away. But I want to be able to overcome mine through something besides marijuana. So I found this video helpful

@kaitling989 11 жыл бұрын

My mom and dad always seemed like they wanted the best for me. But they did it the wrong way by expecting me to do everything perfect, and not make any of the mistakes that they did. They treated me more like a friend than a child. There's this distance between us. Hugging feels awkward.

@LolVermillion 13 жыл бұрын

Wow, this has happened to me also, this one girl I overheard saying I was "cute", all I can think is "WHAT DID SHE JUST SAY??? No, she must've been talking about the guy next to me, yeah.....yeah that's it". Even if she told me straight up to me I would not believe her.

@Honeysucklebommie 12 жыл бұрын

Brilliant work mate,you have looked into the mirror and went back beyond what you saw on the surface. You have found a great path. To err is human but to forgive is divine. That works in forgiving others and then spills over into forgiving yourself.If you catch your thoughts WHEN they get tied up to your emotion and recognize that point of attachment is very good to practice, practice, practice because in a month or so those thoughts give up and their power over your past and future declines.

@binbinli2412 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing and opening up. This was truly enlightening. You have such a brave and kind heart

@skhakansson 11 жыл бұрын

Dude, you are so courageous. Thank you for being willing to share your story. I am so thankful for people like you. Keep up the good work.

@Ralijah1012 11 жыл бұрын

You make me laugh! THANK YOU SO MUCH! I have very recently been diagnosed with BPD after struggling for over half of my life with this faceless disorder. Well now it has a face and it's great to find your videos. You help me so much!

@Oaks510 11 жыл бұрын

these videos are literally turbo-charging my therapy, thanks!

@jornatan567 9 жыл бұрын

ive never seen anything as relatable. i think this video helped me diagnose me

@suspira2 11 жыл бұрын

I can totally relate to how you were brought up, angry father, mother with a rough past, being neglected, never good enough, and trying to be perfect. I don't have BPD or separation anxiety but do we really need labels? lol Anyone can work on themselves. I think what you are doing is great, this video made me realize I do have an inferiority complex. Interesting to find something out about myself because now I can work on it. Thank you! Keep up the good work!

@marciggibson9979 10 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. This video was really helpful - I've been through many of these same issues. Thanks.

@chedie 13 жыл бұрын

This video stabbed my heart... in the sense that I know I've been carrying this all my life. It's good to know I'm not alone. Can't relate it well to my family and friends. So this is a great help. *sniff sniff*

@reremae 12 жыл бұрын

Man... Thanks so much for sharing. :) It really helps me feel less self conscious about sorting out my own self. It also is comforting, what you said about your parents being wonderful people who have had a hard time. I feel the exact same way, but it's frustrating not knowing where to put your anger, you know?

@MissLizenka 14 жыл бұрын

I had almost the opposite problem to you at school - I was very clever, so my teachers (and parents) pushed me. They thought they were encouraging me to reach my full potential, but actually it just made me feel like nothing I ever did was good enough. I always had to get the highest grade, write the best story, make the best project; I wasn't good enough unless I was better than everyone else! What a joke. Megalolz @ the taking-over-class story, can't wait to hear how that ended...xD xxx

@themilkman1188 9 жыл бұрын

For someone that has a massive inferiority complex you look and sound very good. Good luck on your road to enlightenment ; ) I would like to see you do more videos on this and the progress you're making. I've had this issue since a little child. I fear it is so embedded in me that the most I can ever do is trick myself into thinking my subconscious does not still harbor these feelings. But I also know with that outlook if there is a chance to change this, change will never come at all.

@rw9692 11 жыл бұрын

What a sweetheart you are. Thx for honesty.

@MoonGoddess24 11 жыл бұрын

Wow, I am dealing with super anxiety! I have been dealing with borderline depression since I was 13 teen years old. I was diagnosed when I was 16. I have been battling with it for many years. I am 33 now and find myself going back to some behaviors that I have fought. I have children now so it is very important that I have control over it. I don't want to live my life like this and I am determined to fight it but it can be exhausting. Anyway, Thank you for sharing!

@ThePoll321 12 жыл бұрын

Hi, I dunno what your name is but I must say I feel what you are feeling and I still in this vicious cycle between trying to be perfect and then withdrawn because I felt that I am not being perfect. I wish to say that let us be strong in this hard situation we are in, I know it has been 6 months and you are probably feeling much better now but I just want to say that you have my support! =)

@AngelSeraphiel 12 жыл бұрын

A very informative video! Thank you for providing so many examples from your own life =)

@Melissa08087 13 жыл бұрын

I feel embarrassed to talk about it but I'm fairly sure that I suffer from inferiority complex. I've never been physically abused (luckily) but my father was an alcoholic who would shout a lot and beat my mother and we had to run a lot from him when I was very little. Obviously, I was terrified from him. Thanks for this video MeAndMyBlackTable, it gives me the feeling I'm not alone!

@melaniewillard4007 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you! From a BPD 27 YRS, PLUS the things that led up to and followed diagnosis. I'm thankful to see a guy who seems to have it together. I don't if you answer questions, but are you a recovery therapist?

@Chrissy4605 11 жыл бұрын

I did change my life after coming out of prison. I didn't like who I was with all my extreme emotions. So I changed my live in many ways. I rarely get mad any more. I still feel disappointment and anger but I am so much better at how I approach these things. Although I have not felt inferior for many decades, I have grown by leaps and bounds since I was first diagnosis.

@lumyn 13 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the insight. :)

@Chrissy4605 11 жыл бұрын

I was abused through out my childhood. My step father was physically abusive as well as psychological torment. My mother was a verbally and psychological abuser. After divorcing my first step father we moved from Racine, Wisconsin to Costa Mesa, CA. After that move she became promiscuous and started drinking heavily. The last time I saw my mother she didn't know who I was and only asked for my sister. I have only talked to my sister. She lived with my Father who was left behind after my Mother

@fluterify 14 жыл бұрын

I was never good enough at anything in my mind. The worst part was I told my self other people thought I was not good enough too. I think a lot of my issues came from my Dad putting as much space between us as he could/can. For all intensive purposes he abandoned me. But I am slowly learning to forgive him and to stop blaming my self.

@francismausley7239 4 жыл бұрын

A thought to remember is... "O Son of Being! Thou art My lamp and My light is in thee. Get thou from it thy radiance and seek none other than Me. For I have created thee rich and have bountifully shed My favor upon thee." ~ Baha'u'llah, The Hidden Words. Baha'i Faith

@MeAndMyBlackTable 14 жыл бұрын

Yes i do think it is possible. Once I could see my parents as people with their own issues and background instead of just the person that is my father or mother, I was able to start moving past the past. But what happened , happened, it's not that it's all over and ok now. I'm not running away from it. I try to deal with it.

@alandouglasbr1839 6 жыл бұрын

my inferiority complex comes from being bullied at school. I wasn't accepted and had no friends, the ones I had betrayed me, my classmates would call me ugly and tease me bc of my weight and acne. Today I feel ugly and always feel guilty for my actions, I avoid swimming pools bc I don't want to be compared or listen to jokes about my body, and I don't feel confident about my sentimental life

@asphyxiafeeling 13 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU !!!!!

@kulkikumar256 11 жыл бұрын

Hey! great video. Please keep making this videos. And Could you please make a video on the '3 SITUATION'. Because I get that feeling every time someone approaches me. Please make a video because you have just pointed all the 3 situation that are actually true to people you have inferiority complex. I want to know how I can get over that feeling. Please give some solution.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 14 жыл бұрын

Hey, that sounds familair :) ..but it's great about the stop blaming yourself thing!!

@groovekiller 13 жыл бұрын

You're the best. Believe it.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@chedie Hope you are doing ok. All the best!!

@kr3642 5 жыл бұрын

I can feel my own issues starting to develop in my child. I have to find a way to let this go and become healthy so she isnt like me when she grows up. It is SO hard.

@nomisme 13 жыл бұрын

I am always in emotional pain. I truly feel I am short and ugly and I am not that smart with ADD which causes me make mistakes all the time. I have totally no confidence in myself. I have zero friend and I don't speak to anyone if not necessary. I have been struggling for more than 8 years. It definitely costs me a great deal of brain power and time which eventually disrupt my academic career and my social life. I can't bear to think about good looking people having a real good relationship.

@MissLizenka 14 жыл бұрын

Well, as you probably know I'm at Oxford, which is competition city! But actually, though it was really hard at first having to compete with loads of really really clever people, I got over it during 1st year. It's very much sink-or-swim; either you learn to deal with everyone else being very clever, or you don't - and luckily I did! I still do compare myself to others - doesn't everyone? - but thankfully it's not like it was at school! x

@jamesc313 10 жыл бұрын

I have to click the like button. Thank you.

@gazineyes 11 жыл бұрын

You are soooo sweet! x

@groovekiller 13 жыл бұрын

@MeAndMyBlackTable No worries bro. By the by, you should try this book: "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen R. Covey, it really explains A LOT about the stuff you talking about but it gives you amazing amazing insight and strength. I do not suffer from an inf-com (abbreviated lol) but after reading a few chapters of this book and applying its lessons I feel like a 100% more effective person man, it really allows you to undo a lot of negatives. Wish u well on ur journey bro.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 14 жыл бұрын

@TheGeneticMutation That is very true Humongous! Thanks for your comment.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@Narutokyuubihokage02 It's hard. I know. I often feel the same way. But when i do, it makes me feel so strong afterwards!

@GRAHAM2109 10 жыл бұрын

Its me to a tee. I could be in a room with 20 people. 19 of them can think im great and really like me, but I would be upset about the one person that doesn't like me.

@musicgirl999 10 жыл бұрын

I have an ex with this! And the things you said about when someone is interested or if there's problems in the relationship the person distances themselves more and more, and don't bother communicating the issues and just ends the relationship.

@groovekiller 13 жыл бұрын

@groovekiller I'm saying this because I believe you're a wise person who has identified his problems and is dealing with them , i wish you well!

@MeAndMyBlackTable 14 жыл бұрын

@amprater77 Hi, I'm so sorry for taking so long to response. Congratulations on receiving your degree!! I can totally understand you about inviting friends and family to your graduation. I hope it still was a moment to always remember! Take care.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 14 жыл бұрын

@cmonutube Thank you for your kind comment!

@richardreptar1 11 жыл бұрын

The story with his mother and the classroom situation I can relate to COMPlETELY....

@realaudioreviews 9 жыл бұрын

Relatable.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@groovekiller Thanks! I'll check it out.

@silverplatypus0 10 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about your story and I think it's great that you are making these videos to inspire others to overcome the effects of childhood issues.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 14 жыл бұрын

@ceezr5723 Sounds like life hasn't been that great for you. I hope you can find the strength to start a life in which you have the control and you can make the decisions that make you happy. Take care ok.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@adrienne317 :) thank you so much!! I think around 4 years now. At the moment i'm in a psychoanalysis group.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@parakmiakokatsiki well thank you for writing this one!

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@MsBixy That's right. But it is a start.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@lumyn You're welcome :)

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@Tamoto08 You are welcome! And I hope you are doing ok. Take care.

@Usrabella808 9 жыл бұрын

I like your video.

@trophification 14 жыл бұрын

very interesting... inferiority complexes branch out to touch so many problems in my life... i made you a video response. getting over this is so hard...

@LaPersonaNonGrata 10 жыл бұрын

I can't remember where I pick up this severe inferiority complex along the road of my life !? When I was around 18 I did have very negative friends that did put me down on several occasions. I am 33 now and there are moments in my lifem like a trigger, that a flow of self- deprecating thoughts bring me right down to the floor - I feel utterly helpless. I feel like I can't do this anymore ( feel this completely frustrated with my life) that suicide does become more and more a viable option.

@SillyGooseTV 11 жыл бұрын

I'm not sure but i believe that the knowing that my birth mother til i was two was not able to take care of me was the beginning of emotional negelct. I was hoarding as a toddler because i was also not fed a whole lot. I know now that she did love me and didnt have the ability to. But maybe that lack of motherly attachment at a young age spurred emotional neglect. Does that make any kind of sense?

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@razorsparag You are welcome!

@Eowynnofrohan 11 жыл бұрын

I don't want to change. That would mean that I am not okay as I am.

@SecretGas 11 жыл бұрын

My issues began when i had my first B in my second grade. My parents were fuming. I was obviously depressed. They decided to put me one side and to focus on my brother and cousins. I was left alone. Well, coming from an asian family, is this a common issue?

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@ketsustyle Your welcome of course.

@MrChristianDT 11 жыл бұрын

I'm not sure if this fits me or not. I know being in a Pentecostal Church as a kid gave me latent issues that exploded as a teenager & I've had anxiety issues ever since, but my issues as a whole can & may have several different causes... in short, it's incredibly difficult to be your own psychiatrist...

@MeAndMyBlackTable 12 жыл бұрын

@ThePoll321 Well thank you so much!! :)

@tuberoako777 11 жыл бұрын

Both of my parents were very supportive.. I was doing great from pre-school to early grade school... but in the end.. I still feel super inferior and is ruining my performance on all aspects of my life :( Damn it! It's probably GENES! xD

@MeAndMyBlackTable 12 жыл бұрын

@nielsz1972 First of all I think the book is really great! I read it several times. Personally, I don't approach things in a way that is like : cured, not cured. But more like: you have symptoms and I want to learn to deal with them and make them fade away in my life. You know what i mean. Take care!

@MeAndMyBlackTable 14 жыл бұрын

@1983Deeps Hi there, It's never healthy to swallow stuff. But i guess you've found a good way to release a lot of pressure by doing your flexi excercises? take care. Greets, Bas

@poshdelux 13 жыл бұрын

wow………. im speechless , u are smart, self aware , and can i say ur a really REALLY good actor reffring to ur example of BPD video examples. .. screw a therapist …I want Bas! lol jk i swear. u have FB?

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@demyxiv Hi Bruno, Well i am no therapist, but imho i think that could definitely be a reason to have a Inferiority Complex. take care.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@MySerenity11 Thank you :)

@MeAndMyBlackTable 12 жыл бұрын

@kwsixpack You're welcome. Hope you are ok. Take care.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 12 жыл бұрын

@AngelSeraphiel You're welcome :)

@kaushikarmy01 5 жыл бұрын

i can relate to your story i am overcoming inferiority complex by using joe dispenza's meditation ..you may try it

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@chinonononozu Ok, I'm sorry for that. i edited it this way to save time..

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@groovekiller Thank you!

@Narutokyuubihokage02 13 жыл бұрын

@MeAndMyBlackTable thanks =)

@cchh556 8 жыл бұрын

i dont have any childhood trauma but still feel social anxiety

@SalvatoreEscoti 8 жыл бұрын

my inferiority-Complex, Depression and Muscle dysmorphia is because of my childhood. But its not because of my parents they have always been very loving. It is because of been bullied in school! So I am very lonley know, because I cant trust anybody, I feel ugly and unmanyl, like a very bad caricature of a real man..

@rinopjoseph06 11 жыл бұрын

super

@SKYDORMER 11 жыл бұрын

i am suffering with an insanely big inferiority complex. i think that i don't deserve a boyfriend because i'm not pretty or thin like most of the other girls my age in college.i have tried a councellor, but that only worked for a short time. now the complex is back and has gotten worse.i also think that i am ugly, my family tell me im not but dont believe them. i tell myself that they only tell me that to make me feel better, but it only makes it worse. [ if that makes sense]

@myttydohun4851 5 жыл бұрын

Your comment is pretty old but I will respond anyway. 1st of all, majority of men don’t care if you’re skinny or not. Only girls care about that shit. Guys who have half a brain will date chubby, twig thin, average body type-we seriously don’t give a fuck. Men who do are retards and are like 2% of men. 2nd: if your family tell you you’re attractive and you don’t believe them, that’s seriously your fault. YOU cannot decide whether you’re ugly or not, only the people around you can. Either choose to believe what the majority of people say about your looks (or in other words, the truth) or you can keep lying to yourself and believe you’re ugly. There are also a number of websites that can calculate based on eye placement and head shape whether you’re attractive or not. Might take a few minutes to set up, but they work. So to conclude all you have to remember is that men are not picky whatsoever and you don’t have the authority to decide whether you’re ugly/attractive or not. Hope this sheds some light on a few things.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 14 жыл бұрын

@legi0nnaire :-) Thank you for being so honest!

@kevinmckenzie6349 10 жыл бұрын

I have B.P.D, my xgirlfriend left me and had sex with someone eles. I hate myself I feel like less of a person

@GRAHAM2109 10 жыл бұрын

Kevin I have bpd. My family can't understand why my relationship breakdown has affected me so badly. I get suicidal tboughts frequently. Hope you are ok.

@alandouglasbr1839 6 жыл бұрын

that's not your fault

@KesserCFC4eva 12 жыл бұрын

But I don't wanna change. I don't wanna have to change myself to satisfy my own selfish need to be good enough and give into the shallow guy in the mirror and the shallow nature of society Quite simply, me not being good enough means that others can feel better about themselves. So I am saving the world!

@myttydohun4851 5 жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong with being selfish, pal. Everyone is selfish. The point is not shitting on yourself for no reason because that doesn’t benefit anyone or save the world, you’re just filling the world with one more sad person. (That being you) Seriously this is the saddest comment I’ve ever read in my life.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@mrfadedjeans I'm glad it didn't bother you John :)

@africanchina1 13 жыл бұрын

@xxfroobxx How did you know?????????

@greenbanana1001 9 жыл бұрын

My mother chose drugs and a child abusive man over me and said she was going shopping and never came home .. I ended up getting pregnant young n got dumped at 6 months pregnant ... My dad then disowned me .. Since all of this I have inferiority complex and separation anxiety :(

@realSpook 7 жыл бұрын

oh my god, i'm sorry that this happened to you

@Robynchaban 11 жыл бұрын

I'm dislexic sadly but then a gan I'm a good drawer so that makes up for that I gess I have pritty bad napoleon complex I gess that is why I hate being short in stuffs

@killerkite333 14 жыл бұрын

geez. thats me.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 13 жыл бұрын

@xxfroobxx Yeah, i am :)

@MeAndMyBlackTable 14 жыл бұрын

@MissLizenka Well actually i did pretty well. But you can aaaaalwayss do it better of course (said the voices in my head) lol! i can imagine how difficult that must have been to you..is that still going on now that you are at the university?

@lpr5269 12 жыл бұрын

I noticed that you said you were sorry because the video was 2 parts. I also constantly apologize for everything. If you really think about it there is no reason to be sorry that the video is 2 parts. That is a result of you tube's limitation of the duration of each uploaded video.

@waveofthoughts 11 жыл бұрын

check out eckhart tolle book..a new earth.(.awakening to your life's purpose),,wonderful book,it explains the EGO and how it forms theses types of thoughts,he's on here as well.

@nazdalaan 2 жыл бұрын

I think good percentage of kids grew somewhat neglected home.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 14 жыл бұрын

@MissLizenka I hope not :((((

@danilpendikov 10 жыл бұрын

i like your video but the jump cut editing is very annoying

@marcelcadiz8456 7 жыл бұрын

Rum Sissy Boy i like the edit cut.

@melbourneopera 9 жыл бұрын

superiority complex of human being hidding inferiority complex.....the "Roman Empire"

@kaczan3 8 жыл бұрын

You bottom left one is distracting. Do you have any vids on OCD? ;)

@MariaFortiz 11 жыл бұрын

Try googling 'critical race theory' and 'ethnic studies' and find a writer whose work speaks to you -- no matter what your race is. I am biracial, Latina / White, my favorite writers are actually in the genre of African American studies - writers like Cornel West, Audre Lourde and Bell Hooks. Hope that helps. We should all be proud of our race and ethnic heritage :)