There is no such thing as a female/male friend. Most times these so call friends are a detriment to a relationship/marriage. Let your husband/wife be your best friend👍

I had a male best friend, whom I pretty much grew up with. He eventually asked me out, but I didn't feel the same, much as I loved him as a person. When he got a girlfriend, I was a bit irritated when he wasn't willing to hang out as much as before. On top of that, he and the girl weren't good for each other. We were all pretty young (22 and younger), but my brother pointed out that that girl was the one who wanted to keep him warm at night, so whatever problems our friend had with her weren't for us to solve. That helped me to grow up--I was wrong to want emotional access to someone who needed more from me than I was willing to give. I always thought of my friend like a brother, but he wasn't my actual brother. It was my turn to be a true friend and do what was best for him, which meant putting some distance between us. I didn't want to be the woman in his life, so I had to make way for the girl who did. Guy or girl, the mature and sensible thing to do is always step back when you're opposite sex friend finds a partner. No one should have to sit you down and establish boundaries. If you are soooo tight with that person, go on and marry THEM. Otherwise back off like his sister and his mother did.

Being friendly with the opposite sex is fine...but being best friends, and spending time with that person all the time? Texting first thing in the morning, last text at night? WRONG. Doing this is not only disrespectful to the sanctity of marriage, it is crossing a boundary, and opens you up for temptation. Before there is sexual infidelity, there is first emotional infidelity.

While I do understand that people have friends before entering into a relationship or marriage; however when you know you're endeavoring to seek a relationship or a season of love it's your responsibility to utilize boundaries and minimize the information you share with your ”friends.”

I honestly believe in letting God pick. God literally picked out my house and car, because I asked Him. What He picked out, I now drive and live in. So if God blew my mind with the home and car, He getting ready to blow blow blow my mind with the man of God He chooses for me.

I thoroughly enjoyed this session. I am one of those who prefer that my future husband does not have female best friends. In my view, that’s the way to flee from temptation because I also believe that you are most vulnerable when you think you are standing. That said, I also believe the time to prepare for your spouse is in your singleness. The time to have those boundaries set up is not when they show up. That puts your spouse in bad light because they become the reason you withdrew from these friendships with your close friends of the opposite sex. I strongly believe in creating the environment prior to the person coming in. It may also be informed by my personality 🤷🏾‍♀️. I also always say that another woman’s man cannot and should not be your Superman! You cannot be calling up another woman’s man when your car breaks down, or whatever other situation comes up. (This is something I told a female friend of mine who was getting too comfortable with a married male colleague, and she felt ok with it because the wife knew her as his friend and had never brought up any issue). As the woman coming into a man’s life, you don’t want to be seen to be trying to alter his life. That’s why I am all for already walking in a manner that would make your future spouse comfortable coming into your life and forging a union with you. Those close friendships with people of the opposite sex are where we are most susceptible to falling - going way down the deep dark hole with our eyes fully open, but seeing nothing at all.

It’s best to have no opposite sex friends that you talk to often or see unless you are both friends with that person.

Please bring her back! I loved the energy and how easy this conversation flowed. I also couldn't stop laughing at the REALNESS. 🤣😂

I was always taught by my Grandmother if you don't want the man you don't take his money that's what i live by.

Men and woman can be friends, in a relationship.. it may not be good to hang out Alone together and no late night calling and texting. The problem is when men or woman find out about the “friend”. If you two are really friends they will come up in regular conversation and actually meet each other. A true friend will respect your relationship.

She's the perfect LIT person , realist and she s the one person who made you open up more. I love the energy and her speaking her truth. Gi gal

Gorgeous girl...with valuable insight. Her spirit reminds me of Amanda Seales 🌹

This lady is exactly how I am...that bad boy thing, I had to figure out and I did, thank God. I no longer have a "type"...I now am attracted to men that are not worldly, fleshly...I'm definitely looking for more of a spiritual connection...I had to have a stern talk with myself and acknowledge that I have evolved, no longer the chic that grew up in the hood and that I alone, am enough! ❤😊 This conversation was EVERYTHING!

Dear future wifey podcast is everything 🙌🏾. I’m loving these transparent conversations. The letter at the end is everything!

I agree you have to set boundaries if your are in a serious relationship.

Oh she is bomb🔥 I love her insight. I love how she was the interviewer and interviewee. She's an experienced woman and full of wisdom. This is one of my favs. 🙌🏾

In relation to being led by God (Him choosing) for you in terms of a spouse: 1) Abraham sent his servent to choose a wife for his son-therefore leaning and trusting in God is the way-Mark 4:22 asking the Father to reveal that which is hidden to manifest it... 2) Praying without ceasing for a spouse that the Father will be the central focus of the future marriage. 3) Praying even more e.g. 4 times a day when one was single... Stepping up the spiritual guidance to double or more, when a person is presented. 4) The Father is Alpha and Omega...who knows all things before time-therefore He knows what is best fitted for you spiritually and emotionally. 5) Fruits of the Spirit-are these characteristics present in the person ? How it is seen in character, action and deeds of this individual? 6) Asking the Father to adjust our viewing from carnal to spiritual... Removing the scales and allowing a single to see through a spirit led lens people...e.g. When getting to know individuals. 7) pray and fast-be in the Word and on your face before the Father. 8) The Father's ways are higher and His thoughts are too... Therefore, the Father's ability is greater and superior to any human beings. 9) Have a deeper faith, trust, patience and confidence in the Father... Because what He has for a single in terms of a spouse may not be what you WANT e.g. Flesh wise, but He will give you what you NEED to grow and flourish to be more like Him (divine, royal and LIGHT-FILLED. 10) The Father never makes mistakes and the man or woman He has for you will demonstrate love, kindness, patience, long-suffering, gentleness, self-control... They will be understanding and highly respectful of you. The future God given spouse WILL be liken to a hand in a glove... Trust the Most High to take the lead on this matter for singles....

I feel hopeless about LOVE. - but your show makes me feel better 🥰. Keep them coming !

If it doesn't feel right for the most part it ain't right.

My ex loved taking selfies & loved attention too much from others to make our relationship a safe & secure place for me. He would rather be intimate & connected with social media rather than his woman so that was the end of that.

I love Jade's personality. She is definitely my kind of people... I love people who can have that random authenticity in relationships like y'all kicking it on the porch or at the kitchen table!!! 😊

I just went through a break-up and there are many factors as to why that relationship did not work....One of the most important factors and a deal breaker was/is inappropriate conversations with the opposite sex. Not to mention that some do not view this as inappropriate. I release all control to God.

Jade's T-shirt >

The mere fact that she hesitated and took soo long to articulate whether or not in outside friendship is inappropriate, shows that this difficult and confusing Dynamic should never be introduced into a serious relationship. Why introduce a third party that could potentially be hazardous? You are sabotaging the relationship before it could ever get off the ground. The real Question that should have been addressed is why people feel as though they need an opposite sex friend while still being in a relationship? It's unfruitful and unwise. Only a simp would allow such a thing

I feel her on men taking selfies.

Wow! There was so much maturity in your final statement when you said that “ Instead of safeguarding your marriage, you started safeguarding that friendship. “ I admire and appreciate your public accountability❗️ Keep up the great work❗️✊🏽

Man, THIS was a great interview, Jade had me really thinking about how I haven't healed from my failed marriage. There is still work to be done. 🙏

Married to someone who never told me he had a female friend that he considers a best friend. I had to discover her cause he never mentioned her. 21 years married and there is no respect. He has to lie to see her and talk to her. The women is disrespectful too. He gaslighted me, told me I am making more out of it then what it is. I am done for many reasons.

One of my top 5 favorite interviews on the "Dear Future Wifey" Podcast. I could relate to Lady Jade and I enjoyed the dynamic between you two. It led to some real honest conversations.

I real enjoyed your guest Jade; she seems fun and independent. I also appreciate her perspective about therapy. She’s not giving up on herself. Great episode

I would be interested in your perspective on these terms people use like "Work Wife" or "Work Husband". I think it's disrespectful to put that title on a work friend or work relationship. Even if it's in a playful way. And I say this as a person who is married and have a male best friend. But I would never call him "husband" in any manner.

I loved this episode, she was so articulate and I felt like described the challenges of women so accurately! Also loved the reflection at the end.

This episode was so good. This topic can be touchy for some but needed to be discussed. I believe that the individuals involved in the relationship know beforehand which friends of the opposite sex are just that and those that are a little too close. So therefore they have to make the decision to set those boundaries out of respect for their partner and the relationship. Some of those friendships depending on who you’re with will have to be cut off. You can definitely have those friendships with boundaries as Jade stated. You guys are hilarious and I hope you bring her back to discuss those different topics that were touched on.

Thanks for your openness. Sharing your experience here is great. Let your wife be your best friend

Great conversation! I love lady Jade! I love the transparency of this podcast. All this is helping me. ❤

I don't know why it has taken me so long to discover your pod cast! The transparency of all the guest..and yours as well has blessed me. Bless You,Sir Laterras! ,✨🙏🏽🍷

This podcast has really changed my outlook on relationships. Thank you!

This was really really good. I throughly enjoyed this episode. Lady Jade hit the nail on the head!

God can definitely pick when you ask him to remove the things that are not his pick and to reveal signs. The only way you can successfully let him pick is to seek him FIRST and truly get into a relationship with him. That way you will clearly see the signs he is revealing to you. His pick will also never EVER contradict his word so knowing that is also a major key.

Yes Jade!! Someone kind!! I underrate the value of kindness! I thought treating me well was enough. Now I realize that treating OTHERS well is the new standard.

Love this! Such a hard subject. Jade thanks for being LIT!

I just stumbled on this channel today and now I have to binge watch and listen. Love it already! Bravo!

I truly enjoyed this discussion and her honesty.

This has been so fulfilling. Thank you 😊 I love your podcast 😌

Hey, that last part was so great. God grant your wishes Sir. Thanks for having your friend over. She has shared so much. I also appreciate her advocating for therapy. It does help to talk about issues that have affected us in the past to help us manage our present and future. I wish you both the very best of what life has to offer! God's blessings to you all! :)

I appreciated this discussion, your honesty, and transparency. I think couples can learn from the discussion points in this podcast with Lady Jade. Well done.👌🏾

Great Interview. I can so relate to Lady Jade. Thanks for being "LIT."

Congratulations to reaching 10K, God has truly smiled on you. Keep doing what makes Him 😃 Bless you!!!!

I'm a new subscriber, and I must say that I love the concept and content so far. Keep up the great work!🙏🏽

I been with my male best friend for 30+ years. His first wife and I were good friends. He married twice since her passing. I sèe my best friend as my brother. I am not physically attractive to him. Don't get me wrong he is very Attractive. I don't ever want to cross that line. He is my best friend and I want keep it that way. "Everyone is not mature in those types of situation" Be wise!!

DFW has done it again! From the first episode to now, every episode has been challenging, thought provoking, and filled with points well taken. This truly was a great conversation! It felt like sitting in the living room with friends talking about relationships. I laughed so hard at times I had to press pause or just decided to watch it again and again, because I would miss it the second time!🤣🤣🤣 Lady Jade is hilarious. I can't believe she is an introvert. She is so down to earth, and her transparency is refreshing. She could definitely fit in my friend circle. I could relate to every point she made...even the "bad boys" preference. Being with them has led to nothing but a headache, a backache, and a yeast infection! 🤣🤣🤣 I'm just saying! This episode has definitely landed in my binge worthy vault. Awesome job!

I agree with everything Jade said. Great conversation yall ✊🏿❤️

This was a very good and funny segment.I felt this one in so many ways.

Your comments on boundaries struck a cord with me. Made me think , it must also apply to situations where we start safeguarding other relationships- including those with our own families - more than we do our wedding vows, trouble is surely on its ways. Awesome show! #LIT

I absolutely love your podcast! Great interview. I personally believe you can't tell people who they can be friends with. If I had a friend of the opposite sex he would also need to be friends with my significant other and the same in reverse. If my guy's female friend didn't want to be friends with me, I'd see that as a problem. With all that being said, no man or woman wants a friend of the opposite sex knowing more about their mate than they do. I would cut off any friendship that made my SO uncomfortable and as a friend, I would pull back the communication with a male friend out of respect for his relationship. It's all about boundaries and respect.

Excellent conversation 🔥🔥. I used to listen to Lady Jade on the radio when I lived in Dallas. I was pleasantly surprised to see her as your guest. She has come a long way! I'm loving her energy and maturity. Thank you for such a wonderful topic, as usual 🙌🏾.

I LOVED this topic and lady Jade is amazing!! Great job guys 👍🏼👏👏

I thoroughly enjoyed this topic and I’m loving this platform!

Great interview! Learning so much!

So loving Lady Jade's T-shirt! This interview is so funny! I can tell y'all are genuine friends. 😀😂🤣

Love it! Lady Jade mirrors my mind! ❤️

This 🙌🏾. I love the insight from both sides.

Man I was so sleepy but she is dope one of my favorite female on the podcasts thus far. I love her energy. She would be someone I love to meet. So real. Good people is hard to come by

This cast's letter is so beautiful. However it feels scary. For someone to be the expert on me would mean being totally open to them. Having the confidence that they will respect my information. More work needed. I am learning so much about good relating. Sore in places but healing. Thank you.

I am truly enjoy this topic. She is so good with sharing her experience. She is so real!!!!

Laterras you and your shows are the bomb! Your podcasts are factoring in my healing. Also, Lady Jade is soo real and I can see why there's a friendship!

Keep Inspiring. Great podcast!

This was a fun conversation! I like her spirit and I agree with all that she said. Friendships should not have priority over your relationship ! I truy enjoy your letters to your future. Your relationship is already blessed!

I love this channel. Great work!!!!

Loving this podcast kinda stumbled on this channel now I have to binge watch

We need more of these shows please

Small "t" trauma as coined by Dr. Anita Phillips. Great topic and conversation again!! I truly love this channel and content! Jade is so refreshing! I'm an introvert as well. I'd listen to her in Chicago!

Lady Jade is hilarious while being truthful. I love her energy. As long as there are boundaries and integrity, the opposite sex shouldn't be a problem.

I am here for another interview with her. I agree with everything she said.

Wow that is spot on when presenting rationale.

I so needed this!!! TY...

Loved this show and Love Lady Jade❣️

Enjoyed this show...as I always do the others. Jade is fun and funny! Great conversation. My soon to be ex husband doesn't believe in platonic friendships with the opposite sex and it was hard while we were together because I am a big people person!

This podcast came across my videos to watch and I love this channel. I appreciate your work. Please continue to educate us. New subscriber and hoping and praying your channel grows fast!!!

This podcast is so real & true. As a women, I too have dated someone with friends in the past & had to tell him about setting boundaries. In a relationship the women or man should always know besides God your relationship/family should always come 1st! I really enjoyed the transparency in this podcast & the letter at the end touched my soul! Beautiful message....

Excellent episode!

You two are a trip! I enjoyed this show, I was laughing right along with you two!

Lady Jade was a delight. Thank you for sharing her with us.

This was so entertaining and so much to comment on...very good show.

I LOVED this interview!!! Yooo, I had an ex that was a selfie "queen" dude and it was such a huge turn off!

Loved this one. 👏🏾

Thank you for this

I love the take away ~ #facts and #truth

This conversation was so good I loved his guest she reminded me of me.

Yass my love language is gift giving, quality time & words of affirmation. Bro jade is literally me. The securing the bag with a man requires giving up the sugar which for me i always say getting what you want with a man comes at a cost. I NEVER EVER want to date a influencer or someone who is in the music industry, sports. Can jade be my mentor!! I love her!

Awesomely Awesome show!

Lady J I want your T-Shirt drop info Lol! Definitely had Laterras laughing. Communication and transparency is the key to any healthy relationship. “Lit” 🔥

I started laughing after 2 seconds 😂😂😂 can't wait to watch the whole show. I already know I'm going to enjoy this and following her for sure 😄

Woowww!!! This was wonderful!!! Much needed.

That was a good topic relationship. I could relate to Jade about picking the wrong guy. I'm older now and wiser therefore I know what I want. That's the best God 🙌💯 have for me.

Great conversation ❤️

I like this podcast for it's Christian values. Finally some real meaty conversations for God's people

I'm new to this channel and I love it. I can totally see myself being friends with both of them. I can totally relate to everything she was saying.

Very informative. Love it!!!

Thank you.💜