They’re mutually exclusive?

lol

Lol agree

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Dude! Totally!

I agree, I always think the same thing. In this case I believe he didn't want to pay child support for 4 kids. It's 'cheaper to keep her' as they say.

Because these men are CONTROL FREAKS!

Control freaks are called that for a reason. 💔

It's bc their motive has nothing to do with love or companionship and everything to do with maintaining total control. Losing control of anything or anyone delivers an unforgivable blow to their fragile ego which sends them into a rage filled attempt to regain control at all costs. It's fricken weird....and sad really.....but most importantly dangerous

Money?

It sounds like you are gifted with intelligence. Stick with Dr. Grande; he is a wise mentor.

Pretty narly u got a like from the man!

We know why women don’t leave the home, and it’s not the reason you said

Maybe it’s sometimes possible for women in danger to go to a relative, or friend without telling the spouse who is the danger.

@@enjoystraveling Women's domestic violence shelters accept women and children in secret locations with security precautions.

I am so shocked that women in USA chose to stay at home without an independent income... After all it's not Afghanistan.

... anyway it is wrong to point the finger on the blame of the victim! We should not. There might be any money issue but no murder can be justified.

Doesn’t the fbi get involved in missing person cases?

I’m so sorry my condolences

You might want to try getting her case discussed on channels that do cold cases. Condolences to your family 🙏🏼

Maybe a private detective could help 🤔? Or I just saw an interview with Psychic detective Pam Coronado (who even worked for the FBI at times) - she stated she specializes in missing persons cases, also cold cases - whether or not one believes in it, maybe someone like her (or as qualified!) could help

@@ember1794Don’t be stupid. ‘Psychics’ never help.

Brilliant. Very well put. He did it. No doubt in my mind. He also had an incredibly hot temper and resentment issues. He'll do anything until the end of time to punish the people that charged him (and others that believe he's guilty) not out of being wronged but simply "messed" with. His lawsuits were without merit. He knew that he could screw with everyone because he could never be charged again. He's a really weird guy. I believe he's a narcissistic, hotheaded killer.

Some women stay with their abusive husbands because they're too emotionally weak to leave. Up until last year, Colorado Congresswoman Lauren Bimbert stayed with her husband Jayson despite him physically & sexually abusing their kids because she couldn't afford to support herself on just her Congressional salary.

Some Mothers are very hesitant to disrupt their children's lives.

She could have been taking drugs, for example antidepressants and benzos. She would also have feared rejection from her family and friends if she had left her husband. It's even worse with people who have 'good moral values'. All the 'therapists', 'counsellors', 'psychiatrists' and of course the priests in the area where I grew up focused on 'keeping the family together', 'forgive and forget' etc. We had psychiatrists, psychologists and the like coming to my Roman Catholic school to give us lectures against divorce. I've recently come across a dismal femicide case in France, Jonathan Daval and Alexia Daval. Looking at Facebook and such they were an extremely happy couple, they had met when they were 20 and 16 respectively, quickly became a couple, and eventually married when they were 31 and 27. They both had good, permanent white collar jobs, no money problems whatsoever, they went on nice holidays (they had honeymooned in the Pacific), drove nice cars, they also owned a big house (which had belonged to Alexia's grandmother) with a swimming pool, which they were renovating, the only issue they had was that Alexia struggled to conceive. Jonathan beat her up and strangled her to death one night, then took the body to a wood nearby and tried to set it on fire. The body was found 2 days later. The 'gendarmerie' waited for 3 months to charge him for murder, they wanted to have enough evidence. They did a sterling job of making the body talk, the GPS system of Jonathan's car also gave damning evidence, and the text messages Alexia had been sending her husband and other people were also incriminating. What struck me is that Alexia's family initially stodd by Jonathan, he had even moved in with his parents in law after the body was found. He managed to fool everybody, then, when he was charged with murder, he accused his brother in law of having murdered his wife in front of the whole family and of them having attempted to cover it up... In fact, he had probably premeditated the murder. He had also been drugging up his wife with Tramadol and Tetrazepam (Valium, which is banned in France) without her knowledge, maybe he was hoping she would dir from respiratory depression during her sleep? Appearances can be really misleading.

Things like that happen anywhere and everywhere. It happens far less in a rich house though, compared to well, everyone else. So I’ll continue to dream

Like serial killer Herb Baumeister who buried his victims in the woods behind their sprawling, Indiana, 18-acre family's estate.

@@tiggerpup_nzGet real. "Far less." I don't think so. Often rich people are bored, plus they're used to getting what they want when they want it. When that doesn't happen, they get angry. Show me a rich family without some sort of violence or immorality.

@@alukuhito “get real” proceeds to offer just feelings and demonstrably incorrect “facts” that no rich family is non violent or immoral. I’m guessing by your black and white view of reality that you’re just a kid, so I’ll let that slide. One day, when you’ve grown up, you’ll realise that there is also a lot of grey areas in the world. Not everything is black and white

@@tiggerpup_nz It's like you didn't even read my posts. You're the one trying to paint things as black and white, not me. Begone, troll.

Karma catches up to us all though. It might not be instant. Sometimes it takes years. Some think lifetimes. Anyway, what goes around, comes around.

Not only that but people get away with murder whilst others are found guilty and are innocent.

Other people go to prison for crimes that they didn't commit

​@@alukuhito Nah that's just wishful thinking. Stalin died peacefully in his sleep, an old man. Think of the many millions who died because of him.

@@SY-ok2dqDid you even read my post?

That’s Sneha Phillips, Dr Grande made a video about her too

@@bebop2523 Thanks!

I'm pretty sure he did a video on that caae awhile back

I have a theory that a few of the 9/11 victims, aren't really dead. They were unhappy with their lives, and used the event, to disappear. Difficult to pull off, for sure, but not impossible.

You have 2 cents, while has hundreds of millions of cents.

Money sways

sounds like 2 cents is all you have lol

Heyyy, that's what I always say! lol! No = justice system!! Yes = legal system (though even that's been less & less fruitful for those who are innocent)! PS. Did he say she had a 2004 Ford Windstar?? A millionaire family?! Either way, sad - sad - sad story. One that's becoming more & more common. Greed.

​@@Boutys_mom2000 Ford Windstar.

This is what I was thinking too. She didn't have many options and he wasn't going to leave. He probably also threatened to take the kids and likely would have just for control. 😢

Bad advice to threaten spouses. Better to give them positive incentives for desirable behavior. Also, a spouse (you) is equally responsible for the taxes.

"It's easier to fool someone than it is to convince him he's been fooled." (Some say Mark Twain said it; I have no proof of a source.) It's incredibly easy to fool a police investigator, and incredibly hard to change his mind.

To go alongside that it always seems the legal system is much keener to find somebody guilty rather than spend any time eliminating them from the enquiry.

Ironic that you're making a theory as well without gathering all the evidence.

@@alukuhito A defendant's innocence is not a theory; it is the presumption. Evidence is required for a conviction. Lack of evidence leads only to acquittal.

Sometimes you need a theory to discover evidence. It’s not that black and white. Prosecutors DO collect all the evidence before trial, but new things can come to light during trials. Sometimes prosecutors go for a trial with weak evidence because they don’t believe more will be obtained and at least want a shot at prosecuting the defendant. It’s better to take a shot in the dark sometimes than leave a murderer on the streets when there’s no expectation of further evidence coming to light.

I did know a family, in our former church, who was approached to hide a woman and her kids from a violent partner. They did it. I don't know for how long but I guess he couldn't find her or the kids for whatever time period and he gave up. I think the woman was somewhat fortunate in the fact that she wasn't married to him and the kids weren't his.

i just busted out laughing when i heard him say that - his voice and tone 😂😂😂 so subtle that it makes me laugh all the harder

JHj - I was wondering if you could send me some of those wonderful wild mushrooms....

@@ScrapCat26 -Me too!🤣 I wrote that before the end of the video,& I agree with you,Dr Grande comes out with the best 1 liner's without even changing facial expression!❤️'d your comment!

@@cjjohnson9413 I would be happy to.But getting them through customs might be iffy.I'd give it a shot though, just for you 😁

Well he got sole custody in the end.

It's inconceivable to me how people lose sight of what's really important, their children. Children don't ask to be born. Stupid, self centered parents.

Nope. It's more important to be having sex with other people. Kids are a burden and they should be lucky they got to grow up in such a nice home with money.

She probably was. Dudes like this guy are more concerned about “having things” and pleasing themselves. Everything else is a burden.

Yes...not something I would dream up in a hurry.

Never marry a woman who likes sex too much.

Yup, the adage I've always heard.....ask for a jury trial if you are guilty, ask for a bench trial if you are innocent.

Either way, these two adults were shitty parents who were selfish and self-serving. How can people have affairs when you have four damn kids

​​@@user-pn2jy9bi4dI think having an affair is easier if [1] your spouse has already had an affair, and you know it, and especially if they have admitted it, and/or [2] if you are _either_ (a) trapped in a marriage you _cannot_ end, or (b) you don't _want_ to end (presumably for financial reasons), _or_ [3] your marriage is already doomed anyway, and you don't care about fidelity.

@@pulaski1 I loved my father, but he was a serial cheater, he was the milk man. My mother NEVER cheated, avoided having anything to do with men that tried to flirt with her. She was always there for us, and even after we grew up she stayed with him until the day he died. I don't buy for minute that this lady in this case became a serial cheater over night.

@@walkingwolf8072 Respect to your mother, she sounds like a good mother, but I only said "easier", not that _everyone_ becomes a cheater when they discover their spouse is unfaithful. ... In this case it is known and documented that both spouses cheated.

Where did you learn about this payment - and how much was it for?

To add on to your probable theory, it could be the steel worker didn't do it BUT in a state of panic burned anything he had of hers in fear of being suspected. That is of course, if he knew she was dead and wasn't the killer.

@@eadweard. I don’t believe they’re saying that there is a known payment as of yet, but suggesting that an investigator should go looking through financial records to see if there’s potentially any hints someone else was paid off to help with the murder/body disposal.

@@Sanakudou Ohh I am sure they already did.

He didn't murder anyone. He was acquitted 4 times. Maybe one of the hussies 2 boyfriends killed her.

Both adults? are you stupid? in what way did she made unspeakable actions?

NO, and if I was guilty of a crime and got away with it I would be happy. This man was mad, and I would be mad as hell if I was innocent.

Is there blood drops in your house? I bet there is, there is in mine. That is why companies make band aids, and people keep first aid kits in the house. Most people get cuts, I have cut myself in the home several times over 3 decades.

I thought that was odd that the 'witness' shows up many years after the fact with his little bit of knowledge. Why would you wait that long to go to the police?

@@kimberlyward5963 He was a farmer, do you think farmers spend their time watching/reading murder stories? He probably found out about it years later, and decided to do the right thing. Funny thing about farmers, they are the moral fabric of this country.

He did hire his own private investigator, the guy even wrote a book afterwards about all the evidence the court prevented the defense from using.

@@walkingwolf8072 Correct, he learned about it from the verdict being in the newspaper, as he recognized the outfit she was wearing in the photo.

And with urine poor case to boot. Hell they did not even have a body, she might still be alive today in the back seat of some young man's car.

That sounds like the case of Michael Peterson ("The Staircase" on Netflix - though too pro-Peterson) - I think Dr. Grande even already did a video about him - The Behavior Panel did a really interesting video on him (here on KZfaq), they also didn't seem to believe him!

@@ember1794 Honestly, maybe it was because he was such an extremely strange man with that gigantic superiority complex - which frankly he and his children had - I couldn't see past all that nonsense plus the gay lover - who I found did NOT take any of this seriously - plus the whole book of his being lies to the horrifying description of the fall and her terrible death which was far from instantaneous to the pictures of the blood up and down the walls and them trying to explain that which was totally over the top to the grand finale'......an owl attacked her head. Oh, and I forgot about the lover in Germany that he threw down the steps and murdered. I guess this was foreshadowing. I'm telling you, there was so much going on that I honestly get dizzy just thinking about all of this. Oh, and I forgot to mention that either he or they ran through ALL THE MONEY THEY HAD and they were on the verge of bankruptcy and she was about to be laid off. Jeesh, she probably killed herself!!! If this has been analyzed by the good Dr. Maybe he can make some sense out of this for me because I'm lost. Thank you so much for responding to me.

Oh my gosh, yes, that case. That poor woman. Yes, very unsettling case. I watched the Netflix thing, and I still can't quite make up my mind. And those poor kids. I never could quite wrap my mind on how the 2 adopted ones (daughters of the first stairfall woman) ended up with him. Like... Didn't they have a dad already? I thought the 2 couples were friends while stationed/working in Germany. Like didn't they live in base housing? Ah, I could be remembering incorrectly. But it was definitely such a weird and unsettling case. I would love to have Dr. Grande's take on it!

@@lizbensoncox You recall more than I do on the 1st killing in Germany. The children ending up with him? I've no idea. My brain was so overloaded by all the other stuff going on I honestly don't think I was capable of taking that in. I do know that there were a ton of kids in that family. Now I know where 2 of them came from. It's a crazy story. An absolute bottomless pit of places to go with it. Just delve into the children s thoughts . That would be interesting.

Same

Some of these people with money are real tightwads. You'd be amazed at some of the things they do and how much thry hate paying people.

Remember this is what she claimed to others. Cheaters often make up ridicules excuses for their cheating to family and friends. IIRC it was Judge Judy had a saying something like if it sounds like a lie, then it is probably a lie. Not the actual words but what I can remember. My theory is she was laying the ground work for getting rid of Cal, but got cold feet when her boyfriend showed up to do the deed. They then got into a argument, and he did her in instead of Cal. I highly doubt Cal killed his wife with four children at home.

That's your evidence?

Then explain why her lover left the state immediately after the disapperance, had blood stains in his truck, and burned clothes similar to what she wore that day?

Where do you buy your cars.

@@sadiestoltzfus9798 Apparently from a scummy place...

Or Cal just didn't kill her.

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Do you have proof that he murdered her?

So why couldn't she take the children with her, she would have got child support from a rich man. Most times that is a lot of money, we see all the time how women take sports stars to the cleaners with just one child. Face it, she was a slut, and if she is still alive probably still one. His money afforded her a promiscuous lifestyle. From what the farmer claimed, and the evidence at her boyfriend, if anybody killed her it was him.

A guy in a black truck, that is who.

That is very true.

Because he’s smart, funny and very handsome. Oh did I mention he’s young enough to be our son?

Because introverts are great! They’re like a slowly unraveling present as they shed more personality. Lol

Also unique. Yes, young enough to be my son!😁

@@debishaw9355 Handsome 🤨

You mean Joe Biden?

What's "autonomous evidence"?

@@user-hz8of4hz3b 😐Been happening lately for some reason...

And even without the threat a judge would have given her the children, the house, and child support separation. That is why many rich men stay single, even well off men, there is actually a movement called MGTOW because of fear of women.

How could you possibly know that?

Yeah. It would definitely put the breaks on for me. 😮

How did he know her "personally"? Or should I ask intimately?

Because they want to be disappeared? Seems like she should have "just left".

Who taught you to say this?

They leave all the time, especially rich men. It is in the gossip news daily of rich men taken to the cleaners by women. Johnny Carson made a career of making women rich by them leaving him.

I noticed that; turns out he said 2000 Ford Windstar, not 2004 Windstar.

Bad housekeeping a new excuse to cheat. If my husband threatens to kill me I move out asap. Agree with your points, great analysis again. Thanks Dr G😊💛💛

Hopeless misunderstanding. They didn't have retrials cos the state lost. The state won the first two. This was all explained in the video.

​@@eadweard.This time, I agree with you

As another reply stated, the state WON the very first trial and he was successfully convicted, but a new wittiness came forward after the trial, triggering the subsequent court cases.

Ask how women take celebrities to the cleaners?