Great advice, bar. As my friend used to say “there is lid for every pot”

@@larsf.4756 your analysis is absolutely correct. Additionally, no alien abduction was an excuse.😂

Good point. And that’s why toward the end of the clip I brought up the fact of “assumptions.“ And that if anything had seemed off in the relationship, or perhaps they thought the other person wasn’t interested… That would be the perfect time to reach out and express those sentiments. The specific cases that I have dealt with, my clients’ first reaction was to pick up the slack and do the work for them; calling, texting, inviting out, pursuing, making a point to like their posts on social media, etc. That is a very clear indication of interest

Teresha! Thank you for this commentary. I love hearing from one of my colleagues. I have noticed times when my client call share the same topic- different events, but the same upshot of getting stuck in a loop of obsession because someone was pursuing them and stopped. I’d love to work with you again. I just don’t like shooting in my New York City apartment. But let’s stay in communication.

@SusanWinter You're welcome - I very much enjoy and respect your work! I totally hear the part about obsession, and it can cause so much anxiety and unrest. Like you have beautifully guided the viewers in this video, it's important to bring it back to what's within our 'circle of control.' It would be an absolute delight to work with you again! I'm looking forward to that time and will send you an email to keep the comms flowing 🌷🙏🏽💜

Cleopetra- sounds like you have found a system that works for you

@@SusanWinter yes, especially when you have suffered enough.. You gota have a strategy.

@@cleopetra87 Yes, exactly

I want people to remember that it is the dream we saw in our mind when we met this person that activated all of our emotional attachment. We can replace the person and still fulfill the dream with someone who is a good partner and allows us to have a healthy relationship.

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Absolutely I speak about this like a car that’s running on empty. You’ve been running and running and running taking care of them and putting effort into it and they’ve put nothing in your tank. That’s the time you know that you’re in the wrong relationship.

Sounds like a fantastic system!

Happy to have you join this channel. Keep coming back.!!

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Oh my goodness, I wish I could tell you I have never heard this story before, but I have. I had a client who was ghosted by her four year partner that she was going to marry. No fight. No breakup convo. Bad dating behavior such as this can even happen in a long-standing relationship. I am so sorry for you.

@@SusanWinter Thank you so much Susan for your response. Your videos are very helpful and almost like a dating Bible. You are always right.

@@hushpuppies872 much appreciated hush puppy. I recognize your handle from the live shows. I think I’ll start those back up in October. I appreciate you coming to this channel.

The question is also whether the guy thought he was being in a relationship. I once made it to a six month anniversary without knowing I was in one. (A very awkward discussion.)

@@larsf.4756 wow it's like sleeping with someone and saying you didn't know you had a child together. Just goes to show how much he was really involved. This is men!!

I love reading this comment and I get this on most every video that I produce. We are all in sync. I’m grateful that you have found the information you needed and thank you so much for writing me.

I agree and thank you for the resource referral

Thank you cBarry

Thank you Susan! So many clients have been looking for the “other door“- some different answer than the one I gave them. But the only way out of the loop, is to see that it’s a dead end.

Thank you, Tony. Much appreciated.

Hi Clara. This is a specialty area, and I only have a general knowledge. I would refer you to those who specialize in this. I think the issue is far greater sociologically. There is a general tendency overall for individuals to not want to commit to a relationship. And this is a blanket statement for what I see going on. The individual within this non-commitment structure may be a dismissive avoidant. But your best option is to walk away.

@@SusanWinter that’s exactly what I’ve done and beginning to heal myself

@@SusanWinter this what I precisely have done and now my healing have begun

Adam Lane Smith, he has a YT channel and he is very good about that subject... I learned a lot

@@bar9849 yes I watched

Yes, they probably will. they’re getting bored, not meeting the right people, or just had a curiosity and decide to test the waters of your interest. They will do the exact same thing the second time around.---UNLESS--they have had a profound and dramatic, spiritual transformation; got sober, went to therapy, had a major breakdown… And discovered that they had had horrible behavior and are intent upon proving to you they are a new person

But this is only the smallest percentage of people. And they begin with profound and meaningful apology from the heart. They acknowledge and take responsibility for all that they did wrong and seek to win back your admiration and trust.

Oh my goodness, all I know, and interact with our women who are looking for something serious. So I'm confused by the fickle nature of what you're finding. I would start with person group events that you truly like. Whether it's an alumni meeting, or it's a meet up of something, you enjoy learning about, a hobby, a seminar, lecture, class,.... You just have to expand your horizons beyond dating apps because now they are proliferated with bots and scammers

@@SusanWinter Thank you. That makes perfect sense and people tell me to go out and socialize more in groups. It can be difficult as an introvert, but I think you are correct.

Exactly. 😊