that's generous.

How beautiful

Aw

Could be the difference between being hearing and deaf 🤷🏻‍♀️ people develop skills based on their environment and (for lack of a better word) “non abilities” 🙂

@@ScrotumCat Oh 100%

What an excellent point!

Ah, yes, Jamie and Shaaba, Claudia's children 😂

@@boldanabrasevic3020 I'd watch the heck out of that sitcom

Truly lesbian mums of us all, didn't you know 😋

can anyone explain this sjjdjdj

@@coolgirlzinuwu1615 The way Jessica said the sentence made it seem Claudia was pregnant with Jaime and Shaaba, ie. she gave birth to them

with his Montessori toys !! kick kick punch

I actually commented this at the start then you talked about it anyway

Just what I needed to read today, having just kinda made a new friend and feeling fully freaked out I'll be too odd for them :)

@@stellangios If you're too odd for them, then they're too basic for you!

THANK YOU! Needed to hear that!

@@lillieblack9702 Most people leave University and move on beyond their friends, so you are not behind in life. When life gets back to normal a little more join some meetups that you are interested in what they are about. You will match on that level then.

@@lillieblack9702 i wonder if any universities have a society for commuters yet...

sorry to hear that 💔 I hope you have people in your life who do value and understand you though ❤️

@@britischenadligen3760 Thank you. My best friend does. He is wonderful.

My mom does the same thing *sigh*

How old are you?

I’m sorry ❤️ Straights can be so weird 🤣

This is definitely relationship goals

You sound like absolutely wonderful parents.

You both have developed a wonderful family. You are both involved as you two can, and make it work. So great. It is your choices to make. Early in the 70s Woman's Movement, I had to explain that the movement was about a Woman's choice. If a woman chose to stay at home with the children, then that was her choice. We should support her for that.

@@westzed23 I agree. And the thing is, I never planned on staying home. It never felt like the right thing for me. But when we had him, it was the right thing for us as a family in our circumstances at that time. And then I discovered that I loved it. That it wasn't the punishment it felt like it would be when I was growing up, but instead was the most amazing gift of my life, even beyond having him. I didn't have a job to go back to when he was 6 weeks old and STILL cried hysterically at the thought of handing my glowing ball of joy that made my soul sing over to another person so I could go to work without him. And we don't have an expectation that I will always be a stay at home mom. But we also have no definitive plan that I will stop being one either. We're doing what feels right for our family, whatever that it is now, and whatever it becomes down the road. And I'm very lucky to have had my baby with a man who was completely fine with me telling him 'I know I always said I wanted to work, but....'. Because he agrees. He agrees its what's best right now. And he agrees if we keep thinking it's what's best for us, that we should keep doing it without a time limit on it. And that's a gift I never understood prior to having our son either. I had such strong feelings that I was sure of, and I made negative judgments (silently) on the families who had a stay at home parent. And I had no right to make those judgments, especially under the guise of feminism, which is what I thought I believed in at the time. I'm so glad my views on things have been challenged and widened.

@@thayerwilliams905 You and your husband have made a wonderful family that works best for you. Family dynamics change through the years, and you both are working together on this. I wish you all the best. ❤

@@thayerwilliams905 it really sounds like honesty and openness with eachother and truly expressing your needs is a real strength of your relationship and because of it I hope any times of unease when it's not feeling balanced or not working will only be temporary because you both have given each other permission to communicate discomfort honestly... It sounds like that would really reduce that general anxiety about unknown futures because you know you can share and unload anything with your partner and work on solutions together. I truly wish you every happiness, you sound like an amazing family and your kid is lucky to have such sensible, doting parents and your relationship as an example of how to be in a relationship and be a real team partnership xxxx

Yep. My mom would basically scream at me anytime I asked her for anything. Now she wonders why I have an anxiety disorder and don't talk to her much.

Here in the states, we have doggy day care centers. Dogs can go there foe a few hours or as long as over night. They get to play with other dogs, get groomed, get massages, special treats, and generally have a special and marvellous time. I had a friend who's dog got mad when he missed his weekly visit. It can be good for them and you.

I feel you and I get that every pup and owner is different, but I personally can get very stressed out when someone else is looking after my dog (I don't even 100% trust my parents with her), plus I'm perfectly capable of doing chores with her around, so I usually keep the playdates for times when I must travel somewhere.

@@jackiejames4551 also anyone who has money for that kinda thing is very well off - it's not like anyone can just put hundreds and hundreds for their dog to be somewhere for few hours.

See I am very much of the mind that parents need some time to just be adults. Like my parents would drop us off at our Granny's house for a sleepover, they got to have some grown-up time and me and my sister got to have a bunch of fun because as long as we weren't fighting she let us do whatever and it was GREAT. Or with dogs, nothing wrong with doggy daycare or asking a friend or family member to puppysit for a few days (one of my friends had dogsat for a family friend before) You're not shipping them off to Siberia, you're sending them to a friend's house or grandma's house and they will have a marvelous time and you get some time to yourself.

I know that this wasn't really the point of your comment but thank you for sharing about your age. I'm 26 and I rarely see LGBTQ+ people past their 30s. Seeing people beyond that, being out and open, kind of gives me hope about my own future. I'm still trying to figure out my identities and to come to terms with not being cis-het. As I'm sure many can relate to, I often have a hard time visualising a life for myself years or decades down the track. So thank you for this heart-warming start to my day 💙

@@notadev1590 All good glad you got something from it. I have lots of stories about meeting people alot older than me when I was much younger. A very short version of one is when I was going cross country on motor cycle I helped 2 little old ladies who in turn invited me to stay overnight it turned out they had been together since WW II they had met as code breakers in the Army and had lived secret quiet lives for 60 years. For whatever reason they shared their story with me.

@@notadev1590 another old bird here 🖐️ 63, not a good time as a teenager, came out as lesbian after marriage to a man. Only relatively recently coming to terms with realising that I'm non binary whilst being partnered with my very understanding wife for thirty years and more. Hopefully because these things are up for discussion now you will be able to recognise who you are and how fluid are gender and sexuality that you will suffer less trauma and public humiliation than we did. Be kind to yourself and good luck in your life and love. 🤗🌈

This comment section makes me really happy 😭 gives me a lot of hope for my future.

Everyone thinks I'm gay, so I say the same thing lmao

I keep mentioning I'm non-binary too 😂

That definitely describes Claudia perfectly. ❤️

Thank God! In product development it's minimum viable product!

@@emmaliefmann9984 hahha a little different !

Ahh I knew it was the American version of Man of the Match but never knew what the letters stood for. Could!

*cool

being gender fluid is much less talked about than being non-binary, often the two get lumped together but being gender fluid is quite separate from being non-binary.

@@SevCaswell i mean it depends on the the person. The people I know who are NB also identify as gender fluid.

Hence why I worded the way i did but any expression or lack of is acceptable and valid

@@gothicanimegirl44 precisely. I am Nonbinary but also Librafluid which basically means I fluctuate from Agender to Vagauely feminine.

If the relationship works dose it matter who does what I think folks get far too worked up about who does what and how. If it works then its good & children are fine with that. So bravo both of you and keep it up.

I'm sorry you didn't get to grow up with your mom, that must have been hard.

fyi there’s a whole series of ask your lesbian mums if you enjoyed the vid :)

Or when everyone has a coming out because everyone is given freedom to choose their sexuality, gender identity and proper education till they are able to decide. Even if they are straight.

Well, it's getting there. People will always make assumptions - it's only natural. But, by and large, most people don't think it's a 'thing'. (UK)

​@@Kat_tea I'm talking about "coming out" in terms of its long history, particularly as a political action against society-wide homophobia. In my generation, to "come out," by definition meant one had to be hidden (i.e. in a closet, and many were for good reason). And that includes not just choosing to be hidden, but unintentionally being hidden by someone else's erasure (e.g. someone asking Claudia about her "husband" erases her lesbian identity and her wife). So many people still keep themselves in the closet because they fear rejection by family and friends and/or violence, all still very real fears that those of us who grew up in families that had homophobic ideologies know very well. I don't know what generation you are, and if you are a lot younger than me like Jessica and Claudia are maybe the phrase has a different meaning, but for many in my generation "coming out" has been an important rite of passage but the phrase also by definition has a particular meaning with a degree of anxiety and fear of non-acceptance baked in. I want a world where kids are raised in an environment where they can express their orientations and identities as part of normal development, so that there is no "coming out" to be done, just feeling comfortable sharing their own self-discovery and development on the matter. And that the assumption when meeting new people is that they might be of any sexual orientation, with broad knowledge that sexuality and gender identity are highly individual and can be fluid and one's understanding of them can change over time, and certain identities can be unintentionally obscured by one's assumptions (erasure when you have kids and/or are bi and in a straight relationship are very real), so it's better not to make any. There are all kinds of ways to change language and social/cultural norms to achieve this. So we're kind of saying something similar but I want to get beyond the language and the included various historical connotations of "coming out." We've had to fight for recognition and our identities because so many of us have faced that rejection and violence. You and I want the same thing and are talking about it differently. But the way I see it, in a world where all our various identities and orientations are normalized as typical diversity, there would be no need for "coming out" because nobody would have anywhere to "come out" of.

@@Kat_tea one of my friends, who is a lesbian, said shortly after she had 'come out' that it really wasn't fair - straight people don't have to make an announcement that they're straight. I agree with her and I really wish we lived in a society where anyone who isn't straight and/or cis-gender has to formally announce and explain that. The sad fact is we're not there yet. My reaction when that friend told me she was a lesbian was something along the lines of "great, I'm happy for you." She was so relieved and I really wish she hadn't needed to feel that way. As far as I'm concerned, my reaction was the only acceptable one in the circumstances, but a lot of other people apparently didn't feel the same way and made her life miserable. I had another gay friend, some of whose former 'friends' crossed the street to avoid speaking to him when they learnt he was gay. That just isn't okay. I know that as a society we've come a long way from where we were decades ago, but we're still nowhere near where we need to be yet.

Or, if we're talking about Claudia: Most Valuable Person.

@@RichardGadsden or Most Valuable Parent? or is that too judgemental?

Holy smokes I've been wondering what it means ever since kissing booth 2

@@SevCaswell just a bit

@Billie Mello yes and I would add that you should be able to present yourself as you feel comfortable without fear *or embarrassment*...

Just be you. Labels are not important.

Legit^ I present extremely feminine (long hair, dresses for every occasion, etc) so it hasn't been questioned with me by strangers, but I've been wrestling with the fact that I am Agender (nothing) for the last 10 years minimum. Although I'm very sure of my feelings, I'm also very conflicted because of a number of factors. 1) I'm a woman in STEM and I feel I want to encourage other woman... but I don't align with "woman" in my head. 2) My mum always wanted a daughter and I've been happy to be her daughter. Although she'd love me no matter what, I don't want her to worry or stress. Obviously I'll do what's best for me in the end as it's my life, but the impact always crosses my mind 3) very high chance I have undiagnosed autism which in women often leads to gender conflict... so... It's still valid? But it's also a whole other can of worms and my paranoia also prevents me going for a diagnosis because my stupid monkey brain doesn't want anything recorded in my medical history (It's dumb I know) 4) because woman are second class citizens based on all the BS still faced, part of me can't help but wonder if that played a roll? I don't want to be sexualized. I cannot wear anything that shows below my collarbones without feeling icky because my chest is inherently sexualized and I'm not okay with that, so the less visible I can make it the more mentally comfortable I feel. 5) Although identity is a deep innate feeling that is innate, and I know mine to be true, I still fight with my own internal self and am like... there's no right or wrong way to be a woman, so why can't I just identify as a woman in my woman born body and leave it at that? 6) Thus, I am just me. Labels are important to be able to articulate your feelings and find a sense of peace perhaps (I'm pansexual and having a word to use for loving people ~ hearts not parts~ has been useful) but when it comes to gendered labels all of these factors and more whiz around my head and I don't wanna have that discussion 7) let's be real, society sucks, so I also wrestle with this because of the stigma, but that also makes me more keen to stand up and show that this is a normal thing any human can feel and we deserve equal human rights. In short, I have been blessed to not have been asked and have to go through the turmoil with strangers, but I also hope we reach a point where as a society this is such a non issue, not worthy of commenting on. Everyone is equal and respected, and can present how they like without question Wishing all the best to anyone reading this, although I've wrote an essay about all my inner conflict, I can honestly say though that things do get better. That things HAVE gotten better to me over all these years. It's just when you think too deeply in to why etc it can become a mind fook, but I feel a sense of peace as I exist in this meat vessel that allows me to experience this beautiful crazy world 💜💜💜

@@TheHelveticanbarbie I feel you.I don't want to write another essay (lol), so long story short I go through similar conflicts. And currently I think like you. And also I believe that over time, being aware of our gender and trying to understand ourselves we tend to be more and more ok with it, with label or not. And that's the most important part, being okay with who you are. At the end of the day labels are just a way to help us express ourselves, but the label we use (or don't use) won't change who we already are

Wow. So true.

my nieces were different in that area. One would climb over into the empty tub, the other would be more likely to ignore it.

I myself am wrapped up in blankets. Blankets rule. Hope you feel better or at least hopeful soon. Love from a stranger

Like Karen above, also sending love from a stranger. Take care

Yayyy to love from strangers lol😁 warm hugs from Nice France🌟🍀🤗

hope for day gets better

I send my love as well, also in a blanket 💚

I think that boy might start talking really quickly !! He's getting such a head start in life. Which is Not discounting any other baby .

He is the star of the show

yes in a marriage , responsibility and duties go up and down at times.

Hahaha, I really like that, 'internet siblings' 🤣 great way to describe is all!

Hi internet sibling, I hope are going to have/are having/had a good day.

So, she used it properly cause Claudia is the MVP

@@angel-ke9vs and Jessica may get that distinction in the future, and has in the past. UP and down, and no wrong.

I came out as nb to a few people, i dont use a different name but the nb label seemed to not fit me as well as i thought it did, i still feel in between i guess but its hard when friends ask "are you still with that non binary thing?" Like if its a phase :/ i hope things get easier for you

god, i relate to this so hard. personally, i have/have had a lot of names, and every time i think of a new one that i really like or i don’t want to use a name anymore i wonder whether i should tell my friend, who i’m out to, about the name change or just continue letting them use the same name(s) for me.

ive gone through a LOT of name changes and im still not 100% settled on what name i want to have used for me like overall/from a legal standpoint! my advice would be choose some people who you speak to frequently that you are close with and that are nice and understanding and use being around them as time to practice with new name. online games or quizzes where you get to set a name are also a nice spot to try out names with low pressure. i find it easier to go ahead living with the name i tell people that im OK with and then when ive settled on a name i really really like in private then i can switch to that and let people know to refer to me by that name! good luck

Ive had many friends who, throughout figuring themselves out, have gone through several different names. By and large the response I have always seen when they switched again was "ok got it, thank you for letting us know!". Obviously everyones situation is different so you have do what feels best for you, but there is definitely a chance that using a new name again wont be a big deal at all. Theres also the option of trying out different names with just 1 or 2 people before announcing it to everyone!

Yes, yes, I know I can only tell few people. But like then I tell only very few people, then I wait, then I'm like "gosh this is much better now that ppl are not using my deadname" and then suddenly I tell way too many people :D. I just have no patience.

Most aware people would not judge your floors !! They'll be clean, one day. lol

whatever he is saying, I'm down !!

well said.