I hope must people know how those people works. Thanks for sharing 🙏

Yes very much so. All I hear my ex saying is, you won't be anything and you'll get into this and that without me. He's delusional

It is true and also applicable to narcistic friends. They pick up the strongest girlfiend just beacuse they want to prove “I can befriend such a fantastic person, so I AM fantastic” and then they work hard to bring their friend down and compensate for thier insecurities… what a twisted mental and emotional ego 🙄🙄

That’s what he did too me! I’m building again without him. He’s so pathetic! Now he’s flipped to a submissive person to make him rise! Jimmyd is a crazy!

Holy Moly, YES!! I've never thought of it this way, and it's happened to me so much of my life. Each time it's happened my internal dialog and self-direction has been to become stronger. What an unconscious psychic setup! Now what?!! I'm so strong now that no man can cross the bridge to me... I see them coming a mile away! 😉😄

Why do women give narcissists first preference?

@@andrewstuart2236 still no answer

I have mixed feelings about this. Narcissistic men want to MARRY an ultra sweet submissive giving serving over compliant wife who will worship the ground he walks on and appreciate him for doing the bare minimum.. and will never leave him or will easily be bullied by him into submission But they want to DATE the strong independent fearless type of women and slowly break them and clip their wings to make themselves feel powerful They also shame strong women as hoes, sluts or cat ladies when they refuse to be manipulated

​@@truthh8597. Narcist ex wife had all the attributes of the things talked about.

Yes strong as you are they take off the moment you stand up to them

I have mixed feelings about this. Narcissistic men want to MARRY an ultra sweet submissive giving serving over compliant wife who will worship the ground he walks on and appreciate him for doing the bare minimum.. and will never leave him or will easily be bullied by him into submission But they want to DATE the strong independent fearless type of women and slowly break them and clip their wings to make themselves feel powerful They also shame strong women as hoes, sluts or cat ladies when they refuse to be manipulated

@@truthh8597 I think Narcissistic men feel stronger when they break strong women. Twisted, I know.

I have mixed feelings about this. Narcissistic men want to MARRY an ultra sweet submissive giving serving over compliant wife who will worship the ground he walks on and appreciate him for doing the bare minimum.. and will never leave him or will easily be bullied by him into submission But they want to DATE the strong independent fearless type of women and slowly break them and clip their wings to make themselves feel powerful They also shame strong women as hoes, sluts or cat ladies when they refuse to be manipulated

You was smart for leaving when you did. I wish I would have left in 6 months instead of wasting 5 years.

@@octavia7141 stop selling your witchery. Be careful Karma is real, just saying.

I had the same with my husband who is no my ex and just preparing for the divorce which I know that it’s going to be a battle but I will keep courage for me and my children .

What were some of the signs you saw?

@@kandrenep good luck. Be strategic and dont back down. Watch Dr. Ramani vids and similar to arm yourself with what's to come. Don't even waste your brain thinking your ex spouse will be logical or cooperative. Just arm yourself with facts and straightforward coparenting tactics.

My father to a T

Very true

I totally agree with this and it makes perfect sense . Happened to me , got completely duped

Display is the key word. They wear a mask. They hide behind it. They are a mess. No woman would be attracted to them if they revealed their true self.

@@kaitlinkennedy2600 a strong man has boundaries, a strong man has dignity and honor, a strong man fills the role of protector and leader, a strong man looks for a submissive woman to love and honor. A strong man doesn’t look for a woman with manly qualities. If your strength as a woman was masculine, it means you weren’t actually strong. A strong woman is brave and faithful in her submission and embraces her role in the relationship. Strong women are attracted to Daddy figures, weak women try to be Daddy because it gives the illusion of power. A goalie is not most powerful when they leave the goal and try to be a forward. As a strong man I don’t want no woman who’s going to be trying to have a bigger d than me, it’s just not attractive. How are my instincts of protection and providing supposed to be activated when a woman is constantly challenging me? If I can’t protect and provide then I can’t be a man. Not being a man is not attractive, and no real man will live like that. A real man, a truly strong man, will lead, that means you must follow, period. It should be the best following ever, it should bring out the soft and vulnerable sweet goodness that will in turn make your man more of a man towards you. My daughter is absolutely in love with me and I am in love with her, one day I will watch her get married, but because of the nature of our relationship, she knows what to expect in a man and how to act herself. When she starts acting bossy and out of her element, I remind her that sweet and beautiful little girls like her don’t talk to their strong and handsome Daddies that love her so much like that, and then i pick her up and look in her eyes and tell her i love her so much, and then i kiss and tickle her. Next thing you know she’s feeding me ice cream, and grabbing my face and telling me I’m her Daddy and she’s going to marry me! 😂 I don’t tell her she can’t marry me, I just say we are definitely super duper in love with each other baby girl. When she grows older she will naturally start to find interest in boys, im just laying the foundation. It used to amaze me how some women say they want one thing in a man but go after something else. I realized that there was no healthy foundation laid doen by their father. And if there was, they then let their daughter go and be with whoever caught their eye. My daughter is not a rental, she will not be trying out men and men will not be trying her out. The man that knows how to lead and love her like I did will propose to her, he will promise to love her for life, cherish and honor, protect and adore. He will have the privelage of being her husband and she will have the privelage of having such a husband. She will not be having sex with men and breaking up in the name of sexual freedom because although that sounds good and freeing, sex created bonds and breaking those bonds over and over GREATLY diminishes the ability of women to bond securely and stay with a single partner for life, especially when trouble comes. I’m single and im loving and im strong. I demand respect and submission. I demand that a woman let me protect and provide for her and adore and honor her. I’m looking for a woman who wants to fill that role. If she cannot be like my daughter then she can’t be for me. I realized that as I was teaching my daughter what to expect from a man, she was teaching me what to expect from a woman. So sweet!

Interesting nuggets - i just hope yr daughter learns her independence and doesn’t grow up to think she needs or depends on a man because eventually everyone will let you down if yr looking for someone else to buoy you up in life

I have mixed feelings about this. Narcissistic men want to MARRY an ultra sweet submissive giving serving over compliant wife who will worship the ground he walks on and appreciate him for doing the bare minimum.. and will never leave him or will easily be bullied by him into submission But they want to DATE the strong independent fearless type of women and slowly break them and clip their wings to make themselves feel powerful They also shame strong women as hoes, sluts or cat ladies when they refuse to be manipulated

Why did u block him? Let him learn from you by yr thriving - u don’t have to block ppl to be strong

Totally agree. You can’t be vulnerable. They will shut it down.

This is a very profound observation.

@@BrokeTruckerGyal 🙏😊❤️

yes i must say my narc ex wants to be like me, i am the only child of the family of love, got job in big companies at early career, etc etc. then he dumped me for another chick who he wants to marry, a kinda strong woman but like, arrogant. she is very promoting herself on social media so he could see it everyday. he cheated and made me questioning my self worth.

@@fatuilumine605 male narcissist moves from woman to woman - never satisfied, because its immaturity and inability to look within and unwillingness to change something. it is NOT your fault🤗

« …they show you how strong you are. They are your mirror. » Beautifully stated.

Yeeees! They will want to attach themselves to you even to get ahead or to try to learn your secrets to prove you are not as great as you seem.

yes and its starting to devalue quickly when he/she found your flaws. they want a perfect partner like in their dream but we’re human never be capable of that. his/her brain structure is different compared to us normal people. they are real monster who cursed to have a fail life.

THIS COMMENT💯 My exact experience with a bunch of female narcissists.. They will befriend you.. try to steal and take everything from you.. Then discard you and smear campaign and scapegoat you to no end

Bring up all your awesome qualities from childhood and how special you were from birth and when she arrived you had someone to watch as to how not to do life, then thank her ☺

My sister too! Same exact situation. I've gone gray rock with her.

My younger sister provokes me to start talking about my abusive marriage. She gets me to talk so she can get all the details. Then the next time we talk, she'll pretend like i never said anything amd will even change the topic. It's happened a few times. She was visiting my city recently and was absolutely cold and heartless. I'm considering NC. But that's hard when you have no onr and your whole family is narc. So my question is, how am I attracting this? They say relationships are mirrors?

@@blueskythinking8312 Honestly…I’ve had to learn to not share personal things with her that feed the need in her to feel superior. I also came to a much deeper understanding that she’s a very insecure and hurt person. You know that saying, “Hurt people, hurt people?” It’s true. Then my heart began to feel compassion towards her and I was able to be free from resentment and I felt genuine forgiveness towards her. That doesn’t mean I just walk in front of an oncoming train. I now know where to go and not go. This is a recent revelation I have actually shared in a video under my channel’s community tab. I was asked to share it during an Intl zoom call. I’m not looking for views, trust me. It’s been such a life altering change for me in the positive that I want to share it. It’s faith based, just so you know. The time when I posted my previous comments I was not there yet and was in a lot of pain, but since then that pain is gone. You will see and hear such a major contrast. 🕊

@@ShoutItFromTheHousetops Thank you for responding to my comment. I had to figure out through some googling to find my comment and see if someone replied. I understand what you are saying about hurt people, hurting people. However I just dont see that as applying to her. Yes she was an underdog during her childhood. But she's overcome all that and she is in a very good place. Now she turns my entire family against me. It's a nasty and venomous attack. Honestly she doesnt have many redeeming qualities

My husband says he married me so no one else can have me.

Narcissistic men want to MARRY an ultra sweet submissive giving serving over compliant wife who will worship the ground he walks on and appreciate him for doing the bare minimum.. and will never leave him or will easily be bullied by him into submission But they want to DATE the strong independent fearless type of women and slowly break them and clip their wings to make themselves feel powerful They also shame strong women as hoes, sluts or cat ladies when they refuse to be manipulated

I experienced it , 9 months pregnants and he showed zero empathy, instead he was hurting me everyday.

@@blessingnyota6792 I went through that with my second pregnancy and I almost lost my daughter because of the stress I was under. I was 4 months pregnant when I almost lost my daughter. I went through living hell everyday with my 3rd pregnancy and my 4th pregnancy I started getting physically abused. My children are all on their own and grown now. I've been married and divorced twice. I will not get married ever again. I'm single, disabled with many medical conditions and limitations. I don't trust anyone anymore because of everything I been through.

I am sure you will become better. waking up from the nightmare that you thought was a sweet dream must have caused a lot of heartache. You are strong and you will get through it and heal!

@@hajarsweet870 Thank you ❤️

@Octavia I went through the exact same ❤ sending strength and love to your soul ❤

@@MINDFULARMOR Thank you for your kind words ❤️ 🙏🏽. I pray that your better now and @ a place of wholeness.

I agree with you. I was that woman. I am very successful with my therapy, I learned that and I am very strong woman otherwise. Good observation though. I can say I already eliminated all of the characteristics you’ve mentioned.

It’s interesting that a woman can have some or all of these traits and STILL maneuver through the world with strength.

And not always It could be they had a narc parent or familiar person in their life like that Or really, it can happen to anyone.

You sound like a narcissist big on facts low on empathy. Or you sound like someone who was hurt by a woman who was involved with a narcissist perhaps your mother. Either way you have some healing of your own to do. Time to drop the self righteous attitude and get yourself into therapy.

Some of them yes, some might have all, i have some, now but AFTER the first narc broke me but it still definatly are some of this now that attracts more of them(or im attracted to more of them now) but it can happen to anyone also who are whole and have nothing of this to. Problem is, abusive narcissists.

Narcissistic men want to MARRY an ultra sweet submissive giving serving over compliant wife who will worship the ground he walks on and appreciate him for doing the bare minimum.. and will never leave him or will easily be bullied by him into submission But they want to DATE the strong independent fearless type of women and slowly break them and clip their wings to make themselves feel powerful They also shame strong women as hoes, sluts or cat ladies when they refuse to be manipulated

Yes they are called covert narcissist!! I had one for 31 years after picking myself up and gaining my strength from my parents narcissistic traits and my first husband being a Overt Narcissist I can understand where you are like Stephanie always says affirmations, affirmations.. They do work I sleep with them. Only a few weeks and I’m feeling kite like myself again! It’s amazing!

@@Sheywh12 thank you for sharing ❤

@@Sheywh12 you must own a lot of cats

Girl you not the only one God bless you in your healing process by now I hope you can see hear them from a mile and you can see them also in women. Set yoyr boundries around these unhealthy individuals block say you need space and thats it you may need to report them if u feel unsafe in anyway. Keep you safe

You need to STOP dating for a while and if you are to date again WAIT at least 1 year to 1year 6 months before you can Claim the guy to be boyfriend/husband material. People who suffered from childhood trauma we struggle finding love because we are sending Signals Unconsciously to these Narcissists which make us their Target. The first Signal is Lack of Strong Boundaries or enforcing boundaries. If you stick to what you said you gonna do, no matter what, No Negotiating Sex especially. Close em legs for a while.

I’m sorry

Be thankful because it could have happened later when life changes.

@@fingerprint5511 This has happened to me, during both our change of life, the pain excruciatingly bad!

So Sorry to hear, I’m there now! 😅

@@OnjelieMarie thank you 🙏

Good for you that you know THE Signs,so they can't not munipulate you anymore. You're SMART you educated your self on narcissist. Stay positive ❤️👍❤️

Narcissistic men want to MARRY an ultra sweet submissive giving serving over compliant wife who will worship the ground he walks on and appreciate him for doing the bare minimum.. and will never leave him or will easily be bullied by him into submission But they want to DATE the strong independent fearless type of women and slowly break them and clip their wings to make themselves feel powerful They also shame strong women as hoes, sluts or cat ladies when they refuse to be manipulated

This

They love the weak

Wow this is exactly what happened to me

@@andravat7551 I still don't get it. Because we couldn't do anything wrong. Nothing turned him off. We could have been late or disrespect him. I just realize that maybe because we became HIS we became flawed! That because we want him, there must be something wrong with us. I just realize that maybe because he never loved himself he can't live that which truly wants him. The more I tried telling him how great he is the more he pulled back. It's been 2 years. He's still the same. Seeking status. He has enough money. He makes 40.000 per month. He just bought a gold Rolex with diamonds. These big purchases are the only things that can push his dopamine and make him happy. But this fades soon as he always tells me. He's got an old Ex living with him. She's his fall back girl and first girlfriend! He sees her as a sister but won't part and be 100% single. He has several chicks for dating and Sex. This is so sad. He's turning 45 and still thinks he's 25🙄 Does Botox, facials and even gets his nails done professionally😂 I know He knows I know how empty he is inside😶 so sad

Why would you want to keep him?? Run as far and as fast as you can. Ick.

Why would she entertain him in the 1st place?

@@therealkoolaidandkale ‼️

My sisters husband has been a mess, she's always been crying to me over the phone. He beats the hell out of her and moved into thin air. I had him tracked and his social account accessed with the help of the above👆👆

Agree with you. These types of narcissists are hard to detect initially.

I have the same soft nature and trying to work on not being a people pleaser. I’m curious as to what attracted you to you’re husband initially?

Good observations

@@oceandove He was nice to me and he had a lot of get up and go in him . I was wondering where he got all that energy from . I was the opposite , that is , a low energy person as I have a health condition called Fibromyalgia . I saw things in him that I lacked . I also met him through a family friend . I never had the experience of dating different guys as I only had one boyfriend before my husband . So therefore I failed to see the red flags . After I got married his true colours slowly started to show . I also grew up with a bad tempered father who used to smash things when he was angry . My poor mother didn’t not cope and ended up with a nervous breakdown. I didn’t know any better because I thought it was normal for a man to be angry . I have been doing a lot of thinking and wondering what I am going to do with my life . Me and my husband ran a business together but now he is retired . I haven’t been able to find a job sone then . Hopefully one day I will gain my power back .

Yep, that’s the cycle. We are the only ones that can stop it. Their disorder does not allow them to love and they can’t do relationships. You have to accept this is a personality disorder to protect your heart and move on with your life .

My sisters husband has been a mess, she's always been crying to me over the phone. He beats the hell out of her and moved into thin air. I had him tracked and his social account accessed with the help of the above👆👆

I agree. They know strong women are good supply. I know mine did. But because they can’t do relationships the woman catches on or they trip themselves up in their own lies and manipulations, thereby, losing the relationship.

Sure. Who would. But they will keep trying and it’s exhausting fending off their negative energy. Remember they wear a mask. They seem amazing and too good to be true. They future fake to reel us in.

Yeah, this confuses me, too. I just kicked a pathetic covert narcissist out of my life and he tried every manipulation and boundary- testing method known. He'd fail miserably because my boundaries are solid, and then just end up frustrated and being really passive- aggressive. After he was truly gone, I connected the dots of him being a covert narcissist, but I couldn't help but wonder, "Dude: your usual manipulation tactics failed. You weren't on my level (I thought that he had ambition but he doesn't).... why'd you even bother?? 🤔" Meh. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@@therealkoolaidandkale yeah they have never won with me. I am a super Empath crying out loud. I read their BS a mile away 😆

@@therealkoolaidandkale Exactly.

@@Lucida1818 Yeah she had me confused with this one. We’re not entertaining it AT ALL. When you have experience & discernment, you can smell the bullsh1t easily.