Do You Feel Wives Should Submit To Their Husbands? They Say It's Best Way For Marriage To Succeed

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4 жыл бұрын

As many of you know, I am a collector old 16mm films, especially ones that deal with the social issues Americans and others were involved with over the last 60 years, especially the 1950s and 1960s. The organization that is being shown in this documentary is called Fascinating Womanhood, and they had a rather precisely developed set of techniques that held the man from going astray. Reducing or eliminating extramarital affairs. It involved basically doing what your husband wanted and needed and putting yourself aside as his wife. It was based on certain Christian values but not connected to the church in any way. The organization still exists. And I know that some percentage of women practice what they taught and believe it is the "right thing to do." I can't speak to that but for myself, my wife would be sickened by having to behave in this way. I do believe that a strong marriage is one of the best most wonderful experiences in life and hope it for everyone watching this clip.
There have been so many comments by subscribers and viewers presenting different points of view towards this issue. Some feels strongly that women should stand by and support their men and be subservient to them. Some feel that will make the strongest marriage and partnership. Some feel that God has designed marriage that way - that women should be second to their husbands. Some commentators indicate that this works for them. Others feel exactly the opposite. They describe abusive relationships where the boss, the man, is abusive and often times wrong in his judgment that he knows better than she does. In my own relationship which is very successful, we have different strengths my wife and I put in many many areas, she is more right than I am because she is using a gut instinct that I just don’t seem to have. When it comes to my filmmaking, I’m the best add it and she feels that I am a very good dad. I'm the best at that. And some other areas as well. But in many many areas of our lives, certainly in the personal areas like our home and the food we eat and who to trust, it is she and her incredible gut instinct that drives us both in certain directions and towards certain people and away from others.

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@ceciliacorson1804 4 жыл бұрын

Each time I do something small and sweet for my husband, he returns the kindness ten-fold. I was taught: A man’s strength is measured by how gently he loves his wife.

@infinity4evr 3 жыл бұрын

♥️

@Slay_No_More 2 жыл бұрын

Imagine that, the tried and true tested act of marriage still work.

@wandacrowell3627 2 жыл бұрын

Well Said

@Hklbrries 2 жыл бұрын

So… treat one another well. 💕

@sand3882 4 жыл бұрын

This reminds me of the old joke: When asked why their 70 year marriage had been so successful, the old man replied...We agreed when we married I would make all the big decisions and my wife would make all the small ones. So far, there haven't been any big ones. 😄

@ShushLorraine 4 жыл бұрын

😄

@ShimmeringWind 4 жыл бұрын

From what the ladies were saying it is exactly opposite of that. the guys were making all the decisions... do whatever you want honey I'll just be here waiting for you even if you f*** ed your sectuary tonight. then you can f****** me if you want. Perfect for the patriarchy. Have a slave wife.

@Antagraber 4 жыл бұрын

San D Well, there is a variation. In addition to the small ones, the wife decides what is big and what is small. In other words, what is important and what it is not. Greetings from Catalonia and thanks for posting the video.

@user-ht4ii1wi6u 4 жыл бұрын

@sand3882 4 жыл бұрын

@@Antagraber , that's the point of the joke. She has decided what was big and small.

@pattytheseeker8902 4 жыл бұрын

Desperate & very fearful of change. My mom who was born in 1919. She was never a submissive woman. Her mom was a Suffragette! These women were country women. Very domestic & very strong. I have never been submissive, I am quite fair minded though. My husband & I have been married 40 years. We have never had the audacity to have to run each other down. We still love each other after all these years. Things are working fine.

@spirit1366 4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like a winner Pat

@Pathdrc 4 жыл бұрын

When i met my wife, she was reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of a Husband". She takes care of so many things that I would be hard pressed to do, due to working. I depend on her, lean on her, ask for her thoughts about ideas i am considering that can impact the home and/or finances. She takes care of me in so many ways, and I do all i can to make her happy.

@insomthegreat 4 жыл бұрын

"If a woman marries a King, she becomes a Queen. If a man marries a Queen he becomes the Queen's husband." - Patrice O'Neal

@AmosPressley 4 жыл бұрын

It depends on the man and the woman, and the foundational Truths that they have built their relationship on.

@Arklysirzirgas 4 жыл бұрын

my God that is so true, Just look at Queen Elizabeth and Prince (AKA little bitch) Phillip

@youbigdummy4866 4 жыл бұрын

Mr. Oneal is the 🐐

@Guappbeatz 3 жыл бұрын

😳 awesome quote

@bigsnacks913 3 жыл бұрын

Church of Patrice all day rest in peace king

@w0lf864 3 жыл бұрын

My wife and I share responsibilities depending on our strengths and weaknesses. Thank goodness my wife doesn’t let me move forward with my stupid thoughts. It’s good to have checks and balances and diversity of thought between a man and a woman.

@ceooflonelinessinc.267 2 жыл бұрын

The idea that a woman must be submissive to his man in this context could only afford rich people. My grandparents worked both under very hard conditions.

@AnnaLVajda 4 жыл бұрын

Some women like to be submissive but were not raised to submit to someone unworthy of them. Getting a good husband is probably like getting a good boss in those days they appreciate you or don't you have creative freedoms or you don't. I used to work in retail and hear all the divorce stories many women were submissive and pretty could cook etc. that did not mean their husband would respect them or be loyal if they are not of that temperament or were not raised to value their spouse they won't regardless of the woman.

@dumfriesspearhead7398 4 жыл бұрын

This.

@alkimsalaam677 4 жыл бұрын

You heard only one side of the story and ran with it. Smh

@AlxandreNotavo 4 жыл бұрын

"Some women like to be submissive but were not raised to submit to someone unworthy of them" i can confirm >.>

@WonderBoy0403 4 жыл бұрын

And vice versa 😄 but children get it's only about how mommy feels 👍

@booniec1078 4 жыл бұрын

men only have one mother in life not two.nag nag

@bridgettarvin5626 4 жыл бұрын

I feel the HAPPIEST when my HUSBAND is happy. When I see pride..respect..joy on his face for me, that makes ME happy! And I’ve felt the LOWEST when I knew I let him down; when I saw him disappointed, or hurt; when I was being selfish or greedy or didn’t consider his feelings or wishes or wants...that hurts MY heart. If this Thought process is reciprocated...Then I really do think you’ll have a great, lasting marriage. I’ve been married a little over 18 years... less than some, but long enough to know what I’m talking about.

@anneb889 4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you have a really good marriage. Happy for you!

@bayareanativechochenyo 4 жыл бұрын

You sound so much like my wife! Thats so beautiful to hear that I'm not the only man that is blessed with an angel. May you and your husband live for many wonderful years to come.

@annarodriguez9868 Жыл бұрын

We got married in 1968 and he was 22 and I was 20. I acted like a brat when my husband and I were first married. He was patient and kind because he knew I was brought up by very strict parents and I wanted to feel free and unrestricted by anyone. One day he just asked me to do something, I can't remember what and I yelled at him that he was not my father. He very quietly said, "I'm your husband who loves you. What do you need from me?" That made me cry. He was the most loving person I have ever known and I was acting like a spoiled child. That wasn't the last time I was that bratty. It took me awhile to see that we were truly equals and he was head of the family, but he was not the boss of me. God blessed us with children and he lived to see grandchildren. I miss him terribly even after 18 years, he loved me and only me. That's a gift from God and I thankful for the time we were together. ❤

@annarodriguez9868 Жыл бұрын

@@veronicajata3121 Thank you for your kind response. I wish you love and a deep friendship with a man who will be worthy of you. Peace and blessings, Veronica.

@elvisslo Жыл бұрын

@@annarodriguez9868 Very sweet story Anna. God bless you and your family!

@southerncross3638 4 жыл бұрын

Marriage is a job that takes 2 people.

@memekodd 4 жыл бұрын

That is what you call an egalitarian relationship .

@intuitionz1198 3 жыл бұрын

@@memekodd that's what it should be

@thund3rstruck 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly, my wife and I are partners. If I wanted a pet then I'd get a dog. When it comes to a marriage equality and mutual respect are key.

@lisarodgers8372 3 жыл бұрын

I was born in 1962. My mom and her best friend studied this book. She read to her daughters from it all the time. We were taught to walk with books on our heads, be graceful, how to greet our husbands properly when they came home from work, etc. I started laughing when you were just doing the introduction and knew I’d be sending this to my sister. Lol It was a real thing 🤣

@sj122s 4 жыл бұрын

The divorce rate was growing rapidly in the 50's, 60's, and 70's... This was an attempt to make couples try to understand each others needs, before just throwing the towel in... When couples can't compromise, and try to understand each other, and show each other the love they deserve, the union will fall apart... The divorced mother and father usually recover from the ended marriage with success, however the children from failed marriages suffer...

@janetjoiner9204 4 жыл бұрын

Not if the parents handle it correctly. It's more detrimental to children to be witness to a dysfunctional marriage.

@cjmcdowell9584 4 жыл бұрын

Divorce not high in 50s or 60s not until birth control

@BJ-mb2ug 4 жыл бұрын

Divorce was frowned upon. So was premarriage pregnancy. “Oh, Susan went to the country for school.” Aka: pregnancy. Many stories I’ve heard from my great aunt to us.

@evad7933 4 жыл бұрын

In the early 70s 'divorce on demand' was legislated (driven by feminists) and opened the divorce floodgates. LIke most new law it left society worse off. iT resulted in women trading their partners in like used cars and generations of children growing up without fathers.

@shaunw9270 4 жыл бұрын

@@evad7933 A trend that's still popular .

@argyleeuphoria6200 4 жыл бұрын

The question of “submission” needs to be considered in context. The husband may be the head of the family, but a wife is hugely important and influences decisions. The husband can not be a tyrant. A properly ordered traditional home can be very satisfying to many women and men.

@ay613 4 жыл бұрын

indeed,submission can simply mean to listen and to act on . but there can be bad context and good

@ronnetteharvey2002 4 жыл бұрын

I find that most people severely misunderstand what "SUBMISSION" even is in a kind and loving family. But that's a whole nother book.

@whazzuphere 4 жыл бұрын

@@JamesBond-yp2hl How much of the cost for Capital (Building, inventory, etc.) and operating expenses did the minimum wage worker put into McDonald's? If he/she/they did..guess what? That is CAPITALISM; they are the owners.. If they put nothing into it, but expect to keep all of the profit, that is THEFT .

@waynegouin939 4 жыл бұрын

You said alot with few words. You got it. Thanks!

@ronnetteharvey2002 4 жыл бұрын

Lawrence Makin and James Bond. Y'all must have transported from another dimension. Your conversation is off subject.

@VictrolaJazz 4 жыл бұрын

My mother (1902-1997) never could understand the "woman's" movement. She always loved and deferred to men. At every meal we ate in the dining room, my father in his three-piece suit, my mother dressed beautifully and serving graciously because that's the way he liked it and she liked it. She always carried a linen handkerchief in her hand because she thought it was the ladylike thing to do. My father liked to smoke and my mother liked the taste of it and would have liked to smoke when they married in 1923, but he didn't think it was ladlylike, so she didn't--my father died in 1958 at 59 of lung cancer and my mother lived 39 more years without him. Mother thought women should be ladies first and didn't have any respect for those who didn't fit the bill. She didn't know how to open a door, thought the man should open it for her and stand up when she left table. All the woman in their circle of 12 couples whom they met in 1924 through her best friend Olna were very much like my mother and lived to great old age, my mother was the last one left when she passed away on Mother's Day, 1997 at 94, still living alone and driving her car every day.

@spicydamesvintagejewelryth2155 4 жыл бұрын

Your mother sounded like the upmost ladylike lovely lady. I love it.

@kurt11110 4 жыл бұрын

VictrolaJazz i was raised by my grandparents, my grandpa born in 1902 and my grandma born in 1903. every few months it was my grandpa’s turn to host his poker group at our house. my grandma would spend the day cleaning the house, baking a pie, and bring out the percolator to make real coffee. then she would put on her nicest dress and sit in the living room while the men played at the table set up in the family room. at break time in the poker game, she would go in and ask who wanted pie and coffee. the men were all so civil, polite, well dressed and friendly. i wonder if that tradition survives at all these days ?

@VictrolaJazz 4 жыл бұрын

@@spicydamesvintagejewelryth2155 Thanks, Spicy! My parents' referred to their friends variously as the "gang" or the "bunch". After a nice meal prepared by the lady of the house, the ladies would play bridge and the men would retire to a small recreation room where they played poker for a couple of hours. In 1954, they had a big party at the local country club to celebrate 30 years and it was based on the popular TV show of the time This is Your Life. Enid and Willie B. Wilie were the oldest of the group and got it started and my parents were last couple to join them. Each would say a few words out of sight before coming out to great applause and enjoyment. The real show presented the subject with a new car and in this case Enid and Willie B. were given a 1/25 scale model yellow AMT 1954 Chevrolet. I would see that car through the years because I collected them and wished they would give it to me, but I guess some family member got it when they passed, probably didn't even know what it represented.

@VictrolaJazz 4 жыл бұрын

@@kurt11110 I expect in some places, but it's not the majority for sure!

@spicydamesvintagejewelryth2155 4 жыл бұрын

@@VictrolaJazz your most welcome They really sounded like wonderful people . People I wish were still around to day.

@mimis8251 4 жыл бұрын

P.s. I ordered the book. I don't look at it as "submissive", I look at it as being humble, tender, not always competing with him.

@dottiscamprunamuck2830 4 жыл бұрын

I agree and I'll add respectful.

@nikkiracks485 4 жыл бұрын

I agree!

@forgottenjewelsurbex7635 3 жыл бұрын

I think that's the better word. It takes a lot of strength to let someone else make the decisions. Once they know that's it's in their hands alone, they will be inclined to think more deeply on any decision and ask for your input. It only makes it harder when your giving him flack and he has something heavy weighing on hid mind..I'd run away too!!

@intuitionz1198 3 жыл бұрын

I think your comment is ridiculous. why would you refer to it as a competition? it isn't. marriage is 50/50 and there are no rulers. I think you guys missed the entire point of marriage. the biggest problem with marriage is that it's now being controlled by religion. Marriage from the start had nothing to do with religion it had to do with property. then the Christians came along. I don't happen to agree with either, but it sure as hell is never a competition! your comment makes me think you need some counseling.

@fromobese2abeast 3 жыл бұрын

It is submission

@dewilew2137 3 жыл бұрын

I don’t trust men who say that women should collectively go back to the home, but also don’t make enough money to support a family on their own, and don’t have a solid plan to change that.

@thebrinksf69 3 жыл бұрын

That's fair

@SpectreDM 3 жыл бұрын

So you only trust men based on money? Until we fix how we do things, which will take a decade at least, most men will not make enough. If everyone went out today to do what it took, everything would stop. The things that make enough money can only be done by a few, and they are rarely production jobs. If everyone is an entrepreneur, nobody is an employee. This is why men obsess about money and status and have to be aggressive; they have to fight for resources to have any say in who they get to marry.

@juancpgo 3 жыл бұрын

It's an arrangement. You make the food, I bring the food. If I can't bring the food properly, I can't expect you to make it properly. However, it should be considered that making food only requires the food being there (other than my effort). But bringing food requires a working outside economy. So there's some imbalance in that arrangement. So, if the economy is really bad, it's understandable that the man may have difficulty completing his part of the arrangement. In that case, the couple should consider finding some other arrangement that works, like switching roles, or maybe both doing both roles.

@mazscsu 2 жыл бұрын

Very fair.

@9liveslisa 4 жыл бұрын

I'm glad there are submissive women so I don't have to be one. I love men, but for the most part I think the majority of them are clueless about women and a lot of things. Men and women are from different planets. I divorced my husband after 10 years of marriage because of his drinking. His drinking was escalating and I told him to get help and quit or I was leaving him. A year later I left him. He went to go see an attorney and the attorney told him "your wife is not ripping you off, let her handle this." I did not rip him off and I made it so easy for my attorney that she refunded $500. That was a surprise. My husband and I remained friends for the rest of his life, but I didn't have to live with him anymore. I was at his side when he died in the hospital. Drinking was a large part of why he died and he was still in denial that he was an alcoholic. May he R.I.P.

@arnibah 4 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth Page You're right.Most men don't have a clue of what women want,i.e.being strong enough to correct them.

@alexandernokison917 4 жыл бұрын

@@arnibah do you mean women want to be corrected, just curious? It seems these days no one wants to be corrected

@9liveslisa 3 жыл бұрын

@Minnie Rodriguez I don't recommend anyone stay with a drunkard (male or female). I also don't recommend marrying a man that has to be corrected by his wife. I had wanted to marry a man who can stand on his own 2 feet. I never married again because I never found one who could. I'm not sure men ever grow up unfortunately. I'm much happier being alone. There are enough women out there who settle and they can take care of them.

@t-squared6406 3 жыл бұрын

that is too bad,addictions are hard to overcome,great you were supportive of him at some level!!!

@infinity4evr 3 жыл бұрын

It sounds like you were the submissive wife in the best kind of way. Submission has to do with love not dominance.

@nickmcfly3506 4 жыл бұрын

I think my generation ( Gen Z) is pretty mixed but more would love a traditional relationship. Not super crazy like “ stay in the kitchen” but just that sense of respect and effort being put in on both sides. I think we’re also pessimistic on the matter because of the rise of hookup culture and E-girls.

@blippypippy8167 2 жыл бұрын

And F-boys

@flowerfield3468 Жыл бұрын

I’m Gen Z and I definitely agree! Too many young people feel lost and give each other terrible life advice with no long term foresight. There needs to be more middle ground and healthy relationships and family structures being promoted.

@BeautifullyModest Жыл бұрын

@@flowerfield3468 Yes!

@Sodoyoulikestuff 4 жыл бұрын

I love these time capsule gems. Most of all seeing how our culture has changed since then.

@tomservo5347 2 жыл бұрын

I've learned through 10 years of marriage that it's better to hold your tongue in a moment of anger because a week later you'll realize how silly the confrontation subject was. Another big one is that I've been dry for 8 years and wouldn't have made it without putting up the booze.

@MarilynCrosbie 3 жыл бұрын

If a man is deceptive and a bully, the "fascinating woman" won't change tgat. In fact, he will get nastier as time goes on. The abuse will be behind closed stores. He will be "Mr. Nice guy" to anyone outside his immediate family.

@sandraolson1022 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!!

@werebilbyj4449 3 жыл бұрын

I grew up in a household like this. No. It was not great. What it taught me is that my mother's opinion didn't matter, my father was all that mattered. Still happens to this day. My mother still has to get meals on the table while my father sits and waits for it to be done. He will sometimes do it himself now that he's retired. Marriage should be a partnership and each should be equally responsible for eachother's part. No one person should be a slave to the other.

@hangukhiphop 2 жыл бұрын

did he not have a job?

@kurisu3000 2 жыл бұрын

Yet your father worked to put clothes on your back and food in your belly.

@anthonyanderson5855 2 жыл бұрын

50/50 partnership? So you both pay half of the bills? If an intruder breaks into your home then you get up confront the intruder and protect your husband? There is NO such thing as a 50/50 partnership. There never has been. Haven't you learned anything in the last 50 years at all? It's safe to say that you are single? Get yourself a dog and live out the remainder of your life with it!

@werebilbyj4449 2 жыл бұрын

@@anthonyanderson5855 I have taught myself how to do most everything a male can do. Yes, a marriage should be a partnership. 100%. I was married and was doing everything in said marriage and trying to support my kids. I have been on my own for over 18 years and it was ME who had to deal with intruders, a house fire, tornadoes, cyclone. Do not EVER tell me that only a MAN can do the protecting mate. Oh, I didn't need a gun for that either BTW. I am the most independent person there is. If I don't know something, I get someone to teach me or look it up where I can and then I learn something new. It's not rocket science pushing a mower, whipper snipping, drinking beer and watching tv. Fixing a hinge, repairing a washer - all on the internet - no man needed ☺ Not that I drink or anything. I also work full time and never relied on a man, even when I was married I was the one working, he had to find the "perfect job" so I was working then. So please, put your misogyny away and learn some things from others experiences. Single mothers deal with this on the daily, pull your head in mate.

@devontindle8149 2 жыл бұрын

@@werebilbyj4449 sounds like your single an you have to do these things like other single women. Never said yall couldn't do so its just so much easier with help an understanding from your partner from both sides. If a woman likes being independent then cool no one should look down on her for that. An if a woman like to cater to her husband an takes of his needs then that's cool too an she shouldn't be looked down on also as a slave or weak.

@BunnySlippers82 4 жыл бұрын

There's something really sweet about wanting to make your marriage happy and fulfilling by following your own moral code. What works in one marriage may not work in another, but it is generous and loving to be selfless toward a spouse.

@intuitionz1198 3 жыл бұрын

now that I agree with!

@myfairlahey5738 3 жыл бұрын

That's not selfless - that's brow beaten

@annarodriguez9868 Жыл бұрын

@@myfairlahey5738 You just don't get it.

@waynegouin939 4 жыл бұрын

Hi again David. You're sure getting lots of comments and feedback on this one.And I love it!

@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Wayne. David Hoffman - filmmaker

@robertl.fallin7062 4 жыл бұрын

Married fifty years and all I can say is I married a STRONG WOMAN!

@jordachejordan90 4 жыл бұрын

Look at the blonde woman's hair. It's taller than me and I'm 6'3.

@AA-cw4jb 3 жыл бұрын

Lmao 😂

@TheStandUp2011 3 жыл бұрын

From a gen z perspective, I find it really interesting that they seem to conflate submission with communication and compromise. It seems like their strategy for sparking compromise was to always have the woman raise the olive branch first. This would be rather unattractive to me personally since trust and communication accomplish the same thing without sacrificing equality, but I can see the value that it would have to a relationship if it is a mutually understood and VALUED aspect of the relationship.

@leschatsmusicale 3 жыл бұрын

When I think of my ancestors who lived very poor, struggling to survive, the men and women worked side by side together. The hand movements they were concerned with were to grow and raise their own food, make clothes and keep shelter over their heads. The women also fended off an invading army at home while the men were away fighting. When you look back through history that was the kind of life and marriage most people had. Submissive femininity is only possible with high levels of economic and political stability, and a very secure income coming in to the home. It boggles the mind that what these ladies are talking about is considered "traditional." I see it as very modern.

@trevon_thedragon4034 Жыл бұрын

Even when men and women worked together they did not always have the same responsibilities around the land women did not fend off armies at home the men fended them off. Women often looked to men for protection rich or poor. Men and women had different responsibilities women usually cooked, watched kids, made the clothes(even most clothes making industries had women making them), washed the clothes, and did most of the non labor intensive work. The issue is these women worked but not same jobs nor in the same intensity as the men. If a man couldnt get his own land or wasn’t a serf had to work in a different field lots of times long hours and more deadly jobs that paid more. Submissive femininity happens at every level you have poor people back then who had their “good robes” or “good dress” that they brought out for occasion. Many women still tried to look good for their men. This is traditions always has been ways will be as men and women at the top and bottom of the economic scale like the same things. These are biological attractions and predestined behaviors. These behaviors are literally still seen today in many traditional societies that haven’t had the plague of feminism. You can go to Africa, Asia, Latin America and still find women who conduct themselves in this manner. Men and women toiled together that does not mean we toiled the same way.

@leschatsmusicale Жыл бұрын

@@trevon_thedragon4034 what a fool believes

@srky4346 4 жыл бұрын

Another thing. Why am I always seeing videos about women trying to improve themselves for men? Would LOVE to see men doing some introspection and learning how to be providers and fathers.

@stempki 4 жыл бұрын

@dalesalsa 1 I don't know a single woman who finds the kind of attitudes that Peterson and MGTOW teach appealing. I am sure there are some but it's more of an acquired taste.

@anneb889 4 жыл бұрын

Agnieszka Furtak. I’m not an expert on Jordan Peterson, but the videos I have seen he does challenge men to get their act together. MGTOW is more men feeling like the current marriage laws (really divorce and custody laws) are so skewed to women, that it’s too much of a gamble to even get married or have kids. I don’t really disagree with them, as men often lose a lot more in divorce than women. Women are even encouraged by lawyers to say he was abusive. Their solution is more to just focus on yourself, career, hobbies, friends, etc, and don’t buy into the Hollywood happily every after wife, kids, picket fence. Because in a decade when she files for divorce, you’re paying for that house with a picket fence while you live in a one bedroom apartment, and will be lucky if you get to see your kids two weekends a month.

@jbtex784 4 жыл бұрын

I know, I'm a man and when a woman is ready for marriage she's already wonderful; then she tries to even be better! A man mainly just looks for ways to make more money. Women are better than we are - - - waaaaaay better.

@stempki 4 жыл бұрын

Anne B I am aware what Peterson and MGTOW stand for

@clacicle 4 жыл бұрын

Wow! It’s hard to believe but there are still people who think this is the answer to society’s problems.

@valariebrowning9763 4 жыл бұрын

It's hard to find a good man worthy of the royal treatment..My mother said marry a man who loves his mother he will be a good husband..it's absolutely true.

@Tuxy79 4 жыл бұрын

Or woman.

@Tuxy79 4 жыл бұрын

Sheerkat7 as a momma’s boy I agree with you.

@elsab2710 4 жыл бұрын

Sheerkat7 You don’t want one of them

@evad7933 4 жыл бұрын

and a hard man is a good man.:)

@nowhereman6019 4 жыл бұрын

@@Tuxy79 how's it feel dying alone? Nah, just kidding. I already know.

@owlthepirate5997 4 жыл бұрын

✨I just want to say, that while I enjoyed the video, what I REALLY enjoyed, was, those hairdo's!! Especially, the blonde in the very end! I would have loved to have watched her "constructive" that, it's just perfection! (Is that what you call a "Bee-hive"?)Also, loved all there short, floaty, pastel, dress's! This era was so iconic for it's fashion, and they're hair-do's..this was a time where everyone was expressing themselves, (and they're opinions) Everyone wants to be happy, of course, and this era is no different..in the end, it all boils down to the fact, that we all want happiness, and for the happiness and safety of our loved ones. Everyone wants to find they're own happiness✨❤️

@Livetoeat171 4 жыл бұрын

Puma Bear Those hairdos are called a beaufont or beehive. A lot of times they were a parcel wig. You put your hair in bobby pinned twirls and then put that on top of it so it looked like there was a lot there but you could actually only have short hair

@trainer1158 4 жыл бұрын

The blond's hair was a hairpiece, attached to the back of her head. Look on Google for an example of a beehive.

@owlthepirate5997 4 жыл бұрын

Wow, thanks Ladies, for the info! I would have never guessed it was a hair piece! I wonder if they're were some women that had enough hair to do one without one?

@S.C- 4 жыл бұрын

It looked like a wig to me

@claudiahudkins439 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting this. The book saved my marriage 25 years ago. Her daughter and granddaughters are carrying on her legacy now on you tube and a new book. God bless

@emeraldskeleton2540 3 жыл бұрын

You can't both be angry and stubborn in a relationship, somebody's gotta give way just enough to solve each problem.

@avg1712 4 жыл бұрын

It wasn't a movement, It is biblical teaching.

@Neil-Aspinall 4 жыл бұрын

And totally natural.

@evad7933 4 жыл бұрын

What does the Bible have to say about blow jobs?

@pittsburgh-gal 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, written by MEN....get my drift

@cyberpunk11x 4 жыл бұрын

@@pittsburgh-gal Bible is Holy Spirit inspired..you dumb feminists are a lost cause.

@sand3882 4 жыл бұрын

@@cyberpunk11x , judge not, lest ye be judged.

@DixieandBob 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting this David. We not only still teach Fascinating Womanhood, we also have a sequel to the book for modern women today. This video is an important part of the story of Fascinating Womanhood and how it began. You are correct about a “good man” being someone who isn’t an abuser, but also a man with mostly good intentions. A good man meaning he wants a healthy marriage/life. Thank you so much once again for posting! 🙏🏻

@bamjungle Жыл бұрын

Well teach on! Nowadays the statistics are horrible and folks don't trust each other. It is needed, the trends only get worse. These used to be the basics, now they are revolutionary and radical counter culture. Tradition is foundational to a thriving society and sustainable for generations. This teaching was kept from everyone in the miseducation system when I came up but the psychological research in gender relationships showed all this was true and that militant Feminism was destroying our communities. Now men are being taught just as destructive ways due to lack of proper male leadership and fear of being exploited. The gender war has worsened. I have found very few men teaching authentic traditional values and only a couple women teaching it correctly for the females. As a man that knows how rare it is to find, this movement was refreshing to learn about. I found your channel and you have a new subscriber. Is there a male equivalent to teach the next generation of boys how to be good men, fathers, and how to pick good Women? Thanks for your work. As I teach in the rough modern climate, protect yourselves at all times, protect the children at all ages, and protect the family at all costs. Peace and power.

@ShushLorraine 4 жыл бұрын

My daughter, now 19 read the Fascinating Girlhood in junior high and began to practice the suggestions. She became all the boys' favorite girl, but never had a boyfriend because she held her standards high. Now with a really good young man who had to figure how to turn the other interested boys away from her in high school, (THAT was funny to watch!) he is eager to marry her after their sophomore college year.🤭 The formula works. I could explain more about the submissive part that gets so many angry, but it's really something we can all agree with -- it's difficult but there has to be order in the home to get things done. A book could be written on that subject alone.

@harrietpotter649 4 жыл бұрын

This is the first time I can remember seeing your channel, even though youtube tells me I'm a subscriber. It's so interesting! Thank you for bringing so much light and color to the past :)

@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker 4 жыл бұрын

Welcome back!

@norcalbry 4 жыл бұрын

“Happy wife, happy life” is an accepted saying in our modern days, yet the idea of a woman catering to her husband is out of touch. 😂

@Gen-yh1jz 4 жыл бұрын

Actually that is an old saying.

@norcalbry 4 жыл бұрын

happy las yes. And it’s still acceptable in these modern times (my original comment doesn’t address the age of that saying). Yet it’s ‘oppressive’ or ‘patriarchy’ for a woman to dote and want to please her man.

@ryanjensen4692 4 жыл бұрын

Literally...

@Blood0cean 4 жыл бұрын

The phrase is another way of saying submissive husband. A better saying is "A happy man is a happy relationship, A happy woman is a miserable man". Meaning if ur in a draconian way of thinking of relations as 50/50 or agreed to being the stay at home husband against ur instinct. U have lost ur relationship. Know that it will always be the man's fault for not guiding the relationship and letting it fall apart.

@THEDUDE912 4 жыл бұрын

And how's that working out? Man is the only animal who defies nature.

@drew8235 4 жыл бұрын

My girlfriend's mom is one of these women, thinks a woman's only place is in the kitchen or in the home (ironically she can't cook or clean and refuses to work even). Maybe there was a point in time where this sort of mindset was somehow acceptable, but that time has definitely passed. People are people. No matter your gender, you should be your own person, capable of taking care of your own self and serving no one else.

@munchkineatsalotvent9899 4 жыл бұрын

People don't understand this at all

@taraclarke6850 Жыл бұрын

🙏👏👌

@VNExperience 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this gem of a video once again, David. It leaves me wondering how you've managed to keep so many films (I remember you lost so much of your collection in a fire), and how many more you have in store that you haven't posted on KZfaq. Thanks again for the delightful and in many ways informative content. - Pasi Palosaari

@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker 4 жыл бұрын

I am about 30% done with what I have to post. Many years more of material. David Hoffman-filmmaker

@tinah6423 4 жыл бұрын

As an almost 50 yr old woman this made me cringe. Fascinating from a sociological perspective and not unexpected for the time. If that is how someone chooses to live today it’s not for me to judge. When one insists that is THE WAY then we have problems!

@MoisesJha 4 жыл бұрын

This is very interesting indeed. Personally, I never heard about this "movement" before. Another gem from you collection D. H.!

@parkerbarnes7726 4 жыл бұрын

This is wild, almost like a multi-level marketing scheme for desperate housewives in failing marriages.

@janetjoiner9204 4 жыл бұрын

They should go to orgasm classes!

@Blood0cean 4 жыл бұрын

Well the marketing indoctrination of leftist movements lead to their failed marriages so if anything this is the push back.

@SheriBear1 4 жыл бұрын

Best comment ever!

@forgottenjewelsurbex7635 3 жыл бұрын

No. Not a desperate marketing scheme. It was a teaching that was trying to bring back women to their feminine roots. Women are born to be feminine, I do not care who agrees.

@Biobele 3 жыл бұрын

@@forgottenjewelsurbex7635 I agree

@awakenasleepsheep2861 4 жыл бұрын

Me and my husband have been together for 24 years after I experienced my first husband being killed in a motorcycle accident. He was killed a month after my 18th bday and a month before our second anniversary. The weirdest thing is, is they were stationed at the same place twice but never knew each other. We have a wonderful relationship. Thank You again David!!! Bless you and yours in all you do!!! 🙏❤🇺🇸😊

@lowenwelle1044 4 жыл бұрын

“When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her. The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.” ― Fulton J. Sheen, Life is Worth Living

@2367J 4 жыл бұрын

beautiful quote

@sheilamarie6897 4 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏❤❤💋💋

@MrAnperm 4 жыл бұрын

Men are the truth seekers. Women are guided by emotion.

@nicandrews1370 4 жыл бұрын

It's funny how in every since of life it's always about the quality of the woman, except for some reason when it comes to humans then the man becomes more superior??? Most men expect themselves to treat women like work horses and subordinates, and in return the woman is supposed to be grateful?

@craigezell4261 4 жыл бұрын

@Brandon Clarke Like Charlie Sheen?

@waynegouin939 4 жыл бұрын

Hi David. I think now days it's all about equality. A partnership, for better or worse. I don't believe in divorce. Women must be treated as equals, because they are. My Precious, Sonja is gone now. 35yrs together. I didn't want to live. But my children, and grandchildren need me. The Almighty has blessed me with another. With us it's 50/50 about everything. 100% faithful.

@sarvaise 4 жыл бұрын

You sound like a great man

@Reversingthelies 4 жыл бұрын

That’s not biblical but I hope your happy non the less

@MrCgot 4 жыл бұрын

Im sorry for your loss wayne. Im glad youre doing well now

@cyberpunk11x 4 жыл бұрын

"Equality" is unbalanced.. Man is the head of the house.

@waynegouin939 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Carmen.. You are special. Everyone of us should be treated as such.

@jahcSoft 3 жыл бұрын

This isn't about being submissive at all, they just changed his behaviors by choosing different reactions and worked on their awareness of their feelings. This is just basic psychology, you can use this for improving workplace relations for example by being aware of your emotions then catching it early and choosing a different response. I like it, but I think everyone's been mislead into thinking this is about being a submissive house wife.

@Syne7h 4 жыл бұрын

A lot of this isn't really submission. Your partner is your teammate, best friend, family member, and lover. Pick your battles wisely and have empathy. I know that's not a magic cure but I believe we have a good shot at great relationships if that's kept in mind. Can't agree with pinning a permanent leadership role on a partner though, unless, idk, that's your kink.

@spirit1366 4 жыл бұрын

100% percent agree Wise words

@janetjoiner9204 4 жыл бұрын

I see so many women holding onto some scumbag husbands. Back in the day the man was the provider so a lot of women felt they had to hold onto them to maintain they're standard of living. I noticed this with my mother. My dad was in control. I didn't like that idea. I was a middle child, female with 4 brothers. So I decided never to depend on a man for anything, to always have my own earned money and not have to go asking him for shopping money. I really don't care about their ego. That's their problem. Like I said, they were not emotionally ready for my brand of woman. They tried to tear me down and make me feel inferior. That's why I never stayed married. Lord knows I tried it 3 times but marriage and me just weren't to be. I raised my daughters to also be financially independent.

@zoraster3749 4 жыл бұрын

Janet Joiner And from your 3 marriages you never received a dime in assets, alimony, or child support from any one of them... because you’re strong and independent and made your own money, right? Anytime I hear a woman tout independence I see roads, sewers, power plants, buildings, and law enforcement built and provided for by men. I also see the network of laws and social constructs designed to provide for women; alimony, division of assets, child support, wic, welfare, Title 7. All redistributive support provided to women by men through the government under the veil of “independence.”

@cyberpunk11x 4 жыл бұрын

It's No wonder you can't stay married with your pathetic attitude.. the same thing will happen to your daughters.

@suzannereiser4720 4 жыл бұрын

Janet Joiner That is an important point - telling young girls to make sure they’re always financially independent.

@janetjoiner9204 4 жыл бұрын

@@zoraster3749 I put in equal share, I got equal share. That's fair.

@janetjoiner9204 4 жыл бұрын

@@cyberpunk11x It's not that I couldn't, it's I didn't want to. They wanted some submissive airhead. That's not me. My daughters are fine.

@texas1949 4 жыл бұрын

Get this straight... loads of American women believe in being submissive to their men. If I choose a “flower” to represent me in my marriage it would be a blooming Venus Fly Trap! 😂 Happily married for 39 years!

@nicandrews1370 4 жыл бұрын

@Texas 1 happy wife happy life! I dont get why men dont get it, and I'm sure the quality of your husband's life is better because he has a WIFE!

@boundariessetinstone5893 4 жыл бұрын

Are you financially dependent?

@boundariessetinstone5893 4 жыл бұрын

Maybe if it’s a good man

@pheenobarbidoll2016 3 жыл бұрын

My parents dated in hs then married and have been together for 50 years. My mother has never been submissive and point of fact told my father " if God had meant me to be a slave Id have been born with a collar around my neck". My dad is a 6'5 built like a gorilla man, who held a career in law enforcement for 45 years. Including teaching courses like tactical arms manuevering, as well as solving homicides for the FBI. Not a feminine man in anyone's eyes. They're equals. Always have been. She has opinions and he respects her. He has opinions and she respects him. Anything short of that is unacceptable.

@zebraskin 3 жыл бұрын

Same with my parents. My father liked his women short, sassy and strong willed. They have many differing opinions on things but respect each other. My mother also has a mental illness that would be hard for some people to deal with (mainly stemming from abuse when she was a child) and he has been a true rock.

@ladya3038 2 жыл бұрын

People think submissive means being a slave. That's not it at all. It's also a requirement of man to submit his wife. We are feminine our submissions is to show respect. He is masculine he submits by showing love. A relationship needs both roles. A woman shouldn't be tough/masculine and man shouldn't soft/feminine. Each role is important in marriage. Submitting..is basically being subjected to the role that God has created for each of us...it is beautiful when it is done accordingly.

@pheenobarbidoll2016 2 жыл бұрын

@@ladya3038 It's utterly made up, and different cultures have different roles. They're just as successful.

@anthonyanderson5855 2 жыл бұрын

That sounds different but the thing is, men and women are not equal. We never have been nor will we ever be.

@dmaclego 3 жыл бұрын

This just proves there are many, many ways to happiness. Mr Hoffman, thank you for the collection of films you've put together. I explore it rather regularly and enjoy it immensely. It's a fascinating journey through decades and people's lives. Thanks again.

@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker 3 жыл бұрын

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@harleyquinn5774 4 жыл бұрын

Finding a man who would not abuse his wife *and* had objectively good judgement and decision making skills. How can a wife obey the decisions of her husband if she can see his judgement and decision making skills are genuinely bad?

@findvoltage 4 жыл бұрын

A good man is one that helps and does pulls his own weight. The protector, lover, giver and much more. Just because you dont hit a woman dont mean your a good guy, just means you have an ounce of sense.

@findvoltage 2 жыл бұрын

@@bathombre9739 cant you work that out?

@findvoltage 2 жыл бұрын

@@bathombre9739 and who are you?

@slimpickins09er87 4 жыл бұрын

A good man doesn't lie, cheat and steal. With those three traits you are honest, loyal and self reliant in away that isn't criminal. Once you get those, the rest fall in place. If matched with a good women, lie, cheat and steal, abuse will never enter the picture.

@evad7933 4 жыл бұрын

Men need sexual variety. Cheating (as you put it) is okay.

@piyh3962 4 жыл бұрын

What about murder?

@slimpickins09er87 4 жыл бұрын

@@piyh3962 if you're murdering people I think it's safe to say you not being a good man is the least of your problems.

@slimpickins09er87 4 жыл бұрын

@@evad7933 as long as you're willing for her to get her sexual variety. Once the trust is gone the partnership is over.

@evad7933 4 жыл бұрын

@@slimpickins09er87 Knowing she is tempting other men makes her more appealing to you ... it raises her sexual value. It is quite a game for a couple to go to a party, for the wife to prick tease other men, the husband to see this and to fuck his wife like a demon later. In fact sex therapists recommend it.

@tondriasanders6306 4 жыл бұрын

I think the key idea here is compromise, but it sounds like the women are the ones doing all of the compromising. I have found in my married life that communication and compromise are vital on both sides. I could not be married to a person who expected me to do all of the compromising. Mr. Hoffman, you did clarify that in the book women were advised to find a good man. I can agree with that. A quality partner is easy to give to and treat well because there is reciprocity. But I fear that part of these women’s message has gotten lost in this clip.

@crowsbridge 4 жыл бұрын

Those hair styles, wow

@jeaniechowdury576 3 жыл бұрын

Interesting. I was a kid during the womans movement in the 1970s and remember it well. The women in this video were in denial about what was really going on. Imo.

@dshepherd107 4 жыл бұрын

This clip has me wondering if “The Stepfford Wives” is based upon this movement? It sounds positively medieval. Essentially the philosophy is that a woman should accept any type of treatment/behavior of her husband with open arms, while the husband suffers no negative consequences, thereby reinforcing his negative behaviors toward here. I was born in 68. A lot of this type thinking persisted even into the 80s in many parts of the country, Assertive, independent women were often labeled “aggressive,” & “forward.”

@Livetoeat171 4 жыл бұрын

When I graduated in 1974, my parents didn’t even expect any of us girls to go to college. If we couldn’t find a boyfriend to marry, then we needed to get a job which was waitress, secretary or clerk, etc. they sent both of my brothers to college and expected thats the way it was supposed to be. All three of us girls were disgusted by the lack of support, so each one of us, one year apart, joined the military, went to college in there, and made very nice careers.

@janetjoiner9204 4 жыл бұрын

I'd love to see all those women now.

@trainer1158 4 жыл бұрын

@@janetjoiner9204 oh, so would I. Wouldn't you love to hear how it turned out, if they stayed with it?

@shaunw9270 4 жыл бұрын

I don't believe these women were aggressive, more like cunning and manipulative. This is an acting class . Behave like this or say that and your stupid man will behave how you want him to. Toxic Feminity anyone?

@abandonedstuff4930 4 жыл бұрын

Funny you mention physical abuse towards women. My mother, back when my parents were together, punched my father and slapped him repeatedly and threw stuff at him during arguments and he never went to the police. You know what was the worst my father did? He punched the wall... You want to know what changed in our society? Our social expectations toward each other has changed in dating and marriage. No one wants to understand but they want to be understood. No wants to help but they want to be helped. As a sidenote, there is abuse towards women and men in relationships. The difference is there is no battered shelter for men and no shoulder to cry on. Hey I'm all for womens rights and feminism but as a society we have shifted in the wrong direction in SOO many ways. I personally can't stand someone who would abuse their wife or girlfriend. And just thinking about sexual assault victims makes me extremely angry at the state of our world, at the perpetrators. We have to stand up for each other and not just look at it simply as "mens" or "womens" issues. I fully support equal pay, equal opportunity for women. And strong and independent women. But to be in a relationship you have to share your life and give away a little of your independence(not all of it, just a little) for a powerful, deep and lasting relationship. This goes for men and women.

@darkcoeficient 4 жыл бұрын

This reminds me of the relationship of my stepmother and father vs my stepfather and mother. My mother is not feminine at all. My stepmom is feminine. But both are strong-minded and strong-willed women. Yet my stepmom acknowledges that some things are not her domain, while others she guards close to her and you are not to interfere. My father and my stepmom lead each other. My mother is all about leading even if it means leading you off a cliff, your opinion be damned.

@khutchinsoncpa1 3 жыл бұрын

It is difficult to find men worthy of this. My own spouse mistreated me when I behaved this way. Abuse is too easy for the dishonorable. Were a man worthy of this, he actually would not have to ask for it; she would offer it willingly - the shrew would be tamed.

@ceilconstante7813 4 жыл бұрын

I believe this is a very good thing but don't attempt this with a Narscisst, addict or womanizer!! The book is available now free on line as a download. Thousands of copies have sold and the reviews are all positive. Women tell about how much better their marriage is. This works because of the principal of polarity. The more feminine s woman is the more masculine a man will be. Feminism doesn't work because being like a man is just going to create tension and is a turn off to men! p.s. *this doesn't mean you ever take any abuse!

@handlmycck 4 жыл бұрын

Hey David, I'm typing this because I know there's a good chance you'll read this. I'm a 21 yo boy from semi rural Finland. I came across one of your videos i think a coupe of years back, when i was doing a lot of psychedelics. We all know why people use drugs but i like to think im trying to learn something from them rather than get the dopamine, hence why i only use(d) psychedelic drugs. I can't remember exactly which video it was, but i remember how intriguing it was and how i was genuinely interested on what the speaker had to say next, and how cool i thought he was. Your head must be so far in the future, because i for once couldn't honestly even care what's going on around the world. Because it's so insignificant and small. But you KNOW someone will love seeing it and look back how things were, even if it didn't feel important at all at the time. Maybe that's just becoming wiser and growing up(you will never get old ;) your body will). Anyway i just come across your videos almost every time im stoned or just not sober, ;), and i just get so lost in the stories while feeling warm. You earned your chocolate today. Nice weekend David and keep looking forward.

@bayareanativechochenyo 4 жыл бұрын

It takes a really man who has moral values, is respecful to others and himself to appreciate a women as such, who allows her husband to be the king of his domain while she's holds the title as queen. All I can say is the 20 years with my wife has been a blessing for she's my angel, best friend, the lover of my dreams and the most beautiful women in my life. I've never taken advantage of her submissive character for I always treat my wife as an equal and will always respect, protect and do anything in my power to make sure that I appreciate everything she has done for me and that is allowing me to be the man that I am today.

@christinedavis4972 4 жыл бұрын

Great video upload ! It’s important to watch all angles whether you agree or not. No more paying all the bills and making all the decisions - what a break this could be ! Wow! Sounds amazing 😉

@JD.......... 4 жыл бұрын

It’s so important to realize that “Submissive” does NOT mean “Subordinate” ! -It just means that when there are 2 roles, someone has to be leader. And it’s not 100% leadership. It’s give and take!

@intuitionz1198 3 жыл бұрын

they're the same thing 🙄 you know women like you all seem to be worshipping, produce children like Trump. all these comments do not some beautiful to me at all! it all sounds like a bunch of weak women making excuses four men that don't know how to behave.

@intuitionz1198 3 жыл бұрын

no, someone does not have to be the leader 🙄 why would anyone think of that 🤷‍♀️

@glong86 3 жыл бұрын

@@intuitionz1198 You seem pretty angry at men. Please keep that same energy and be upfront and honest when you meet men so they know what to avoid.

@ingenueblue8914 3 жыл бұрын

Why have any leader? Why would friends be leaders in each others lives?

@ingenueblue8914 3 жыл бұрын

@@glong86 that doesn't sound like anger toward men. You are projecting.

@izzyplusplusplus1004 4 жыл бұрын

I think that there's a balance of modernity, and respect for tradition.

@1956soulmate 4 жыл бұрын

I'm a 63 year old woman and it took me until just recent years to realise that behaving in a submissive manner towards your husband does get you a happy marriage and also what you want in the marriage. Too bad I was too young in the 60's to have seen this video then I wouldn't have had to wait and work it out for myself. I don't know if this would be of any help to young women today as they have turned men into women. Thanks for your video David.

@kaylacoffey9420 4 жыл бұрын

Why you added that last part? Do you feel men are more feminine now? I noticed a change in men as well....

@bitmojiali1791 3 жыл бұрын

@@kaylacoffey9420 Yes, ever heard of the saying "Where have all the good men gone"? they were referring to mostly alphas and men that stood by their values.

@intuitionz1198 3 жыл бұрын

any Man worth his salt would not need nor require his woman to be "submissive" if any man's ego is that fragile than you need to find a new man! this is the first time David Hoffman has posted something that I haven't thoroughly enjoyed. 😔 I'm sad for our country and our culture. no human should have to be subjected to being ruled over by another. I've come to realize that it's mostly the Christian culture that believes this. most non Christians that I have met, don't equate their marital life with some religious hierarchy. and I still can't believe anybody would be happy being a servant through a man with a really fragile ego. smh

@intuitionz1198 3 жыл бұрын

@@BOZ_11 I'm not destined to be unhappy. for you to say that is extremely presumptuous. I'm very happy without some man trying to control me. 😁

@loganw1232 3 жыл бұрын

Porn, Feminism, and our culture trying to make men and women the same is what is causing the rise of beta males, plus technology as an escape for men.

@microassaultrifle1280 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you good sir for giving us the point of view of that time! Its much more clear to me now

@TVrawks301 4 жыл бұрын

I find it interesting (let alone a little disturbing) how these pro-femininity movements seemed to revolve so much around being married - even the ones today are like that. As a single, childfree, career-focused woman, I don't think I could get into this or that I would be accepted. Groups and movements like this sometimes make me feel that I have to be married to a man in order to be feminine, and I know that isn't true. I am feminine because I was born female and choose to stay that way.

@hawaiingirlbeth 4 жыл бұрын

I'm a 42 yr old classic. I love domestic life and all the housewifey stuff. Food on the table everyday. All of it. 🤷

@ELDELD 4 жыл бұрын

I credit this book for helping me win my husband. I still own a copy and should read it again for a refresher course. We’ve been happily married for 14 years.

@awakenasleepsheep2861 4 жыл бұрын

I absolutely LOVE ALL OF YOUR WORK David!!! Thank You FOR ALL YOU DO!!! 🙏❤🇺🇸😊

@MoneySavingVideos 4 жыл бұрын

A good man is hard to find .... and a hard man is good to find.

@cleethogwallop 3 жыл бұрын

Hmm, Mae West, she'd have had no truck with the gals of Fascinating Womanhood.

@proudcynophile1901 3 жыл бұрын

@@cleethogwallop Mae West was fascinating! Not these pathetic duds! They're laughable!

@mikicerise6250 3 жыл бұрын

Oh my! I do believe I have a case of the vapours!

@kimberley5592 4 жыл бұрын

this is right for the most part...we've lost our god given roles...men to be men...head...feeling like a true man..they need that...women being the help mates...taking care of them...as long as love and care is given in return...not abused....

@willgrissom5398 4 жыл бұрын

Love the variety of subjects you show on this channel

@dhutch71 3 жыл бұрын

The five "C"s have worked for us for 50 years: Communication, Cooperation, Consideration, Compromise and Cuddling.... lots of Cuddling.

@discod 4 жыл бұрын

Very different times back then when most women still worked in the home. My husband was raised by a stay at home mom, so he still expects me to do the bulk of the housework and cook dinner, even though we both work 40 hour weeks outside the home. So the whole submissive baby act is very unappealing to me, because we should be equal partners.

@j.p.3345 4 жыл бұрын

If he wants that just tell him that then you need to quit your job to make your house your job, of course no more than 40 hours ;) or just get a maid

@munchkineatsalotvent9899 4 жыл бұрын

Please stop working full-time I find it DISGUSTING when a woman says she works full-time with a man at home. 😷😷💔 & Also men n Women are not equal.

@munchkineatsalotvent9899 4 жыл бұрын

Try to cut down your hours or please completely quit.

@alexandergapour1253 4 жыл бұрын

So tell him to get a housekeeper just make sure he doesn't cheat on you with her

@mikemiller539 3 жыл бұрын

@@munchkineatsalotvent9899 both should pull their weight . Nobody should work less hard than the other .

@miriambucholtz9315 4 жыл бұрын

Good Lord, now I'm extra glad that I've never fit in because it kept me from joining in with this kind of nonsense. Life is not for the submissive. If I had been that type, our little family would never have survived hard economic times that came when he lost jobs. If I hadn't taken charge because I had been through such things in my own childhood, I don't know what would have happened. I was the one who made our clothes, who threw together meals out of next to nothing, who came up with whatever strategies were needed, who kept a copy of the Merck Manual to look up ailments to decide what could be treated at home, etc. I got married right after having been released from a mental institution. I was still in warrior mode. Submission? A word in someone else's dictionary.

@girthbrooks7645 4 жыл бұрын

Yes, submission. You did that for you husband. You dont see the connection. I guess not with your mental health.

@jimmylangis5113 4 жыл бұрын

what a look into just a short time ago! i was born in the wrong era! great material david!!! u bring me back into a place i've always wanted to visit!

@tsopmocful1958 4 жыл бұрын

The main thing here is that the women are being proactive in trying to improve their relationships, so it isn't a role being forced upon them. Men are readily told that they are supposed to live up to certain expectations, and women too need to realise that men don't marry women just to get regular sex, as the clip points out. Clearly the best chance relationships can have is when both parties have the other's best interests in mind without it meaning that either of them are doormats for the other. It's all about mutual consideration for each other.

@emmabennett7699 18 күн бұрын

people eed to stop marrying for the sake of marrying and marry people they actually know and *like*

@trainer1158 4 жыл бұрын

This was awesome to watch. I was a teen around the time this was made, a little young to be a participant, but old enough to observe. No one in my middle class Jewish family would ever have considered adopting this lifestyle. Oy vey. I have a FB group devoted to mid-century fashion with over 30k followers; I'm going to share this and watch the sparks fly.

@luxuryedition78 2 жыл бұрын

@B N I love mid-century fashion wardrobe! What is your FB group name?

@rebecam.8397 3 жыл бұрын

Love my husband and he loves me. Throughout the history of our entire relationship we've always seen each other as equals. We're best friends and we dont make decisions about things without the other. We are BOTH humble towards one another and BOTH respectful BOTH understanding and BOTH equal. No other way to do it. And if there are people in relationships who are trying to take control, they have pride issues.

@revolution-english1707 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks David your videos are classic and give great insight into how people think, and used to think.

@TheTruthlady 4 жыл бұрын

Couldn't believe it when I heard you say the title of the book...I was involved then with the nation of Islam and it was one of the books assigned for the women to read. And there were classes...wow...wowowow wow...brought back memories. And is the advice I give to my daughters still to this day. "Fascinating Womanhood". I think we could get the world back to sanity if women adopt this attitude.

@DemonBunnyQueen 3 жыл бұрын

I LOVE these updos. I wish people were still this ballsy to wear them out.

@txvoltaire 4 жыл бұрын

I am disturbed by philosophies that place the burden of the relationship on 1 person, with the ability of the other person to act with impunity!

@DonRobertson82 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, all those keadership responsibilities and stressors should not be falling on the man alone while the women gets to frolic around the house with the kids “being supportive”. Woman, get a damn job too! This ain’t some free ride and you ain’t that damn beautiful!

@RicardoReyes-849 4 жыл бұрын

Hello David. Your videos are always so interesting. I love your channel. Greetings from Montevideo, Uruguay.

@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your comment, Ricardo. David Hoffman-filmmaker

@humanebeing6230 4 жыл бұрын

Trippy. My mom’s age, so unlike her. But she was in a sorority, they do etiquette. I’m so curious about what she may have heard/been told. Excellent work as always and fascinating. Thanks! -j-

@ronnetteharvey2002 4 жыл бұрын

I lived in a family where my step mother was like this but my dad kept a job and made sure we had beautiful clothes and plenty of food and the things we needed. But I wanted to be with my brawling mother. Sure miss her. She was WAY more fun.

@spirit1366 4 жыл бұрын

The secret sickness of womanhood. ( not all)

@BJ-mb2ug 4 жыл бұрын

Okay,...give the illusion to the husband that he’s in control so that he doesn’t have to go chase it elsewhere. 🙄 that’s also the message in the comedy movie “My Big Fat Greek Wedding”. The wife tells her daughter: “The man is the head, but the woman is the Neck and she can turn the head anywhere she wants.” Me personally, if a guy can’t handle it, it’s over. Remember that video you posted, directed?, the wife asks her husband why he’s never home. Going out late/ having an affair. It’s tricky.

@mattm7378 4 жыл бұрын

Are you single?

@BJ-mb2ug 4 жыл бұрын

I’m female. Am not single. Have kids. I think I have a problem with women being put down, and told to be quiet, just because they have a female anatomy. The man is being manipulated to stroke his ego. He’s weak, if that’s the case, and therefore, not for me- I’d leave him.

@BJ-mb2ug 4 жыл бұрын

Omar Ignacio Silvestrini - if a male can’t handle a woman wanting to be his equal. Hes not above doing house chores, child rearing, changing diapers, dirty work..and she doesn’t need to be: “okay. Okay whatever you say, sir. You’re the man of the house and therefore my lord. I’m at your feet.. My king.” The catch being in the book she is with “a good man”. He could be a good guy when courting, then turn out to be a narcissist. Hence, divorce. If a man has to be superior to feel like a man- I am not putting up with that. To each their own.

@maestroCanuck 4 жыл бұрын

@@BJ-mb2ug I agree with you and I am a man. I would add if a woman has to be superior to feel more secure, or to feel like a woman, no man should ever put up with that. Men and women are equals and should support each other. Sometimes though, the man must have the final say and other times the woman. It is up to each couple to work out the strengths each one has, recognize them and act accordingly. It can not always be 50/50, but sometimes it will be 49/51 in either one's favor, that's life.

@spirit1366 4 жыл бұрын

You women sound like plotters and planners.how sad.I feel sorry for your mates and your kids.

@philosophyoftrucking 3 жыл бұрын

These looks into the past, the context David provides, it's very interesting and relevant even today.

@fandude7 2 жыл бұрын

Fascinating. I think I agree with this movement. The movement of the hands, wrist and arms is a sign of the elegance of femininity. This is deep stuff indeed.

@mrmike2119 4 жыл бұрын

I think this is why some today say, "Marry your perfect husband/wife second." I know in my case it has worked out to be a better, solid, loving, kind and lasting relationship. I think my first wife would say the same of her second and current marriage. Women are smart to have standards and hold to them. In turn, a real man should look for and appreciate a woman with standards The free love cultural revolution we remember is probably why there are so many screwed up households and absentee fathers today. As corny as they sound in this excellent documentary film, I think these women may have a good point.

@rosemaryangela1825 4 жыл бұрын

Hi David! Love this kind of work

@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much, Rosemary. David Hoffman-filmmaker

@Bennevisie 4 жыл бұрын

I definitely saw these hand movements mimicked in The Stepford Wives! But even though this is not my cup of tea, I can see how some couples might prefer (and thrive) off of this type of relationship. Different strokes for different folks!

@batman5224 4 жыл бұрын

I think there needs to be a balance between traditionalism and radical feminism. Personally, I’m attracted to strong career women, but at the same time, I don’t find promiscuous women to be desirable.

@Chloe2000mm 4 жыл бұрын

Promiscuity is unattractive in both sexes, especially now that we have so many health concerns.

@stephielulu9096 4 жыл бұрын

If a man treats me like a queen, I'd treat him like a king. Have to mention those amazing hairdos though!🤣💖

@evad7933 4 жыл бұрын

Treat a lady like a dame and dame like a lady.

@spirit1366 4 жыл бұрын

Makes sense to me.

@huMANs_channel 4 жыл бұрын

The character traits that would have a man love and care for a woman is continually being held back by most men for sensible reasons. Men can love a strong/secure woman that respects and listens to a good man, but he can't love a bitter woman that treats him like a defective household appliance.. One cannot keep trying to love a dog that is trying to bite his hand.

@TyranyFighterPatriot 3 жыл бұрын

Music to my ears. All I see these days are "women good, men bad. Everything a man's fault, women most affected blah blah." Thank you, Good Sir.

@veganc5028 3 жыл бұрын

I read that book "Fasinating Womanhood" and to this day, I still think its a wonderful book.

@shaunw9270 4 жыл бұрын

This is a fascinating & slightly humourous film clip. Funny that childlike thing, I could never stand , it's like, "Get to the point , what do you actually want ?". This was almost like an acting class lol