If a therapist did get angry, would that make them theraPISSED?

Kati, you are actually the happiest and bounciest person on youtube. You're so animated it's AMAZING.

I 100% agree that knowing so much about psychology makes it very scary to have kids. I never wanted to bring a child into this crazy world.

I had two different therapists get angry with me and raise their voices because I’m guessing they got frustrated that I was so stuck at the time and was going through a very low moment in my life. I felt attacked and like I had to defend myself. I remember I was crying trying to get them to understand. I settled for telling them what they wanted to hear so they would stop. They seemed satisfied like they had finally gotten through to me even though it was just me pretending. Needless to say I never went back to either of them after that. The trust was broken. After spending all that money and time, trusting a person to not judge me and guide me through my worst times and then having them behave in the way that I feared the most... I was done. Looking back, I was in a very dark place at the time and their actions pushed me closer to not loving myself and my thoughts of suicide intensified. But I guess something else was for me in the cards because I got through it. Mostly on my own.

I feel like you would be the perfect therapist for me😂😂 I'd definitely get along with you

i cancelled all my therapist appointments recently because she yelled at me and said "you must not want it badly enough!" i just don't feel safe talking to her anymore. :'(

I saved a woman from a fire by entering the fully engulfed building. I administered CPR to a 3 year old child and it was successful. I handled fatalities and found a dead body one day while going to the store. These incidents contributed to my depression, PTSD, anxiety, and suicidality. I've been in recovery for 9 years...now I cannot even be a security officer. So my career is not available to me. There are consequences to getting help.

For the record I think you would be an absolutely wonderful mom, from what I've seen of you!

Tbh: ALL of my therapists I've ever had have actually gotten angry at me for not moving forward. I feel like they should have been more caring or something. :(

Anger, impatience, criticism, judgement all warrants for a new therapist immediately.

Depression is so extremely common with fibromyalgia, a lot of times they actually use antidepressants to treat fibro because with fibro your body doesn't make enough "happy chemicals" that are responsible for pain, sleep issues, as well as depression. I was put on an anti depressant for my fibro and it made my pain go from unbearable to completely manageable, it also improved my mental stability along with helping my sleep. Be honest with your doctor, there's no shame in honesty :)

My therapist pushed me out too early. I told her I wasn't ready, but when she pushed, I withdrew and became compliant. She knows, based on past trauma sessions, how I get when I'm pushed in certain ways. Shortly after leaving therapy, I spiraled into my darkest depression yet. For the first time in my life, I did my research and made an active plan on how to end my life. All other suicide attempts were impulsive decisions. I've never actually planned it until recently. And she's none the wiser. When she called me a few months after discontinuing therapy, to check in as we had agreed to, it was clear that she didn't really care. She wouldn't even let me finish what I was saying. But, she said in that sickeningly sweet voice which I used to love, but now I hate, that I was doing a great job using my coping skills, as if I were a child. I think therapists need to really watch for changes in patients demeanor and behaviour. She should of noticed when I started withdrawing in sessions after she made the plans to stop seeing me. She even said that I no longer qualify for a diagnosis of PTSD. The symptoms have been worse in recent months than they have ever been in my life. I had to withdraw from school and quit my job. I'm going to be homeless in six weeks. I truly believe that if I had proper support, I wouldn't be this fucking low. But, I refuse to call her back. I know she can't fix this. Not after ruining my trust in her like she did.

If your therapist EVER seems angry, frustrated, or raises their voice at you...RUN. Don't pay for the session. Get the hell out of there asap and never look back. That is appalling behaviour and shows a therapist who is themselves triggered and counter-transfering their own shit onto you.

what i tell myself when i'm feeling guilty about my progress not going as ''it should'' is that i am a challenge and my therapist can only improve in their practice through more difficult cases, and if i'm feeling like i'm being a nuisance and my problems are too small to be worth their time then i tell myself practice makes perfect so my therapist can strengthen their work muscle through me. ideal would be to know that it's my therapists responsibility to deal with their own emotions, not mine, but that's an idea i aspire to, my obsession with control is in the way

Having a baby in THIS world is scary! 😳😥

Kati my therapist is lovely but sometimes when I go to see her I get worried as she looks like she's been crying. I always feel bad when I have therapy with her and she looks like that.

Thanks Kati, you and your videos have helped me a lot and my therapist has shown other patients them as well, so you are doing good. Love you lots

the journal topic is amazing... I really like this one

omg ur great. ur so happy it is actually so refreshing

I'm watching ALL your videos and you're sooooo amazing!! Thank you so much for this vids

The quote that you shared with us at the end of that video is so true. When i was seeing my therapist I didnt tell her everything i was really nervous and shy and quiet and just put on my brave face and I masked how i was really feeling I pretended everything was fine and so after a couple of months she thought i was completely fixed but I didnt even like the therapist I dreaded going there every week and so when my parents just stopped taking me there nothing had changed I was no better than when I started and Im still struggling the same now but are too scared to ask my parents to see a therapist again I have EDNOS and social phobia and I self harm and I have relapsed many times since seeing my therapist my parents wouldnt let me change therapists either. So my message is definetely speak out and just be you dont hide behind a mask and if you dont like your therapist change.

I'm so happy this is on the internet. it helped calm my nervous system.

I feel like if you are trying to get a job a good boss will be glad you got the help that you needed.

I avoided therapy for years for this reason. In my security clearance process, it was a 5 minute conversation and had no affect.

My therapist is pregnant right now and I'm so happy for her. :) She'll be a great mum. And I'm lucky, I'm going to be on summer break when she has her baby, so I'm not going to miss any appointments with her! (She's the therapist I see near my university.)

I love watching you Kati, I have had 6 kids my baby is Turning 18 Dec,1 st My oldest son is in heaven he died in March of 92 he was 6 1/2 yrs old he died of a pedestrian /school bus accident , all my children and grandchildren are the hugest joy in my life!! Caring for your own children are so much different, I Babysat and care for many many children growing up!! I have 7 siblings as well!! Thanks for all you do to help people with your gift!!

#2 My current job gives everyone a health screening questionnaire prior to starting work. One part asks specifically about mental health diagnoses. They can't access my records but they ask for you to disclose the information yourself. I've just not handed it in the three times they've given it to me. I don't want to face that stigma. But in my experience a lot of jobs have forms like this in the UK under the guise of supporting staff better.

You have beautiful blue eyes!

Hi Kati, thank you for your videos. I have been struggling with eating disorders (amongst other stuff) for quite awhile and am always asked "why"... to hear that they can morph is so reassuring, because mine definitely have, and not for the better. I do have a great therapist who is there for me, I just always seek out more knowledge. Take care.

If you're worried about a job looking into it just tell them you were studying counselling and as part of the course requirements you had to do 50 hours of personal therapy.

Awesome video today :)

I felt like such a failure when my therapist would get so obviously frustrated with me. I stopped going...

If you want to pursue a job on a ship, you must be drug-free and symptom free for like two years or something (at least in Germany) because otherwise you might just jump off the ship and die and also it's very difficult to get help if you're out at sea and suddenly need help.

love your videos! thanks for posting ^_^

2023 and still embracing this background; always loved it.❤️

My therapist told me that I'm not trans out of nowhere and said he wouldn't work with me unless I "came to my senses" I never talked to him about it but he saw it in my files, I hate going there now cause instead of helping me he's critiquing me, HeLp

OMG just watched this now! You'd make an amazing mum and oh my goodness I'd love to see baby Kati's running around!!!!! :D But of course it is a massive decision! ;)

you rock kati!

My therapist got really angry with me today because I made a mistake and acted according to my stuck point thoughts even though we had already talked about them thoroughly and I still hadn't realised what I was doing. She used the entire Session telling me she was angry with me for disrespecting my mental health like that and that we are not at the beginning of therapy anymore and that I should have known better. I haven't felt this terrible in a long time and I am afraid to go Back next week. She was so mad and frustrated and I felt like I was the worst, dumbest and most incapable human being ever. Still do, I am such a failure and I don't think she meant to, but she made me believe in that as well.

Honestly, none of my therapists have actually told me the diagnosis they tell the insurance companies. I know they are concerned about anxiety because that's the medication I am on. I also know she's ruled out bipolar. Does anyone's therapist actually tell them what they're diagnosed with? #KatiFAQ

I remember for a brief time during high school my Mom had me start seeing a therapist, this was over a decade ago but I remember he’d ask me how I was doing in school and I’d tell him “not too well” so that’s the thing he honed in on and he urged me to seek out tutoring from my teachers. So, to avoid any conflict I told him I would and during my next session the following week he got around to asking me if I had sought out tutoring and I told him no I did not... I could see he was upset and he asked “so you lied to me?” He Then got around to asking me again if I would seek out tutoring this time around and before I answered he said “don’t tell me you’ll get tutoring if you’re not going to go, I don’t like being lied to.” Then he asked again “will you go to tutoring?” So I told him no I would not.. I could see he was furious but he held it in, I could tell he wanted to back hand me right then and there. I understood his frustration and knew at the time that he was trying to help but I was too fearful to seek out any kind of tutoring from my teachers because I always felt embarrassed for not understanding like all the other kids so what I did was make it seem like I was just a punk that didn’t care. For whatever reason that second session was the last probably due to my mothers inability to keep paying for the sessions. I hated being in that environment and I would not ever want to go back because I know me and I know what I struggle with and what I need to overcome but being thrown into a room with someone who’s tasked with the responsibility of helping me grow and lead a better life is a responsibility that’s far too heavy for anyone but me to bare because I will not move if pushed and I will not overcome if I’m told that I need to.

The worry about what's on the record affects a lot of people in the military as well. I've heard some people say their careers have been adversely affected and others said that it's been nothing but helpful and probably more that are mostly open in Mental Health clinics but hold back specific things.

you´d be such a great mum Kati!!!!

Lol my psychologist I saw last year when I was at my worst actually got angry at me and started shouting at me because “he couldn’t see a way forward!!” :( I’m with a much better much more understanding therapist now I’m back in my home country

LoL! Ohhh the second you mention your D.I.D. it's alll about that progress and shoving forward at lightning speed! Some therapists, especially those in the dissociation specialties LOVE getting that "I fixed a DID" under their belt! All the ones I've tried going to their eyes actually light up.. that's when I know it's time to get far away. My first "DID specialist" I went to yelled at me only 3wks in bc I didn't have a system structure worked out yet. As if that's an easy thing for us to do.

Thank you

The one I've been seeing has gotten frustrated when I didn't answer her question as direct as she wanted. It also seemed like some of our conversations were more about her being right rather than allowing me to have my own opinion. Are therapists always right? Should I listen to her, always assuming that some of my beliefs stem from a broken place/trauma?

The first question was a fantastic one because I am now menopausal so the decision to have children has been taken out of my hands I'm 41 no children but on the flip side of the coin I've a strong beautiful relationship with my 6 yr old god daughter/niece.

EMS in USA yes they can especially to do with addiction issues. law varies state to state though

I'm always worrying that my treatment team are angry at me. I use to just obsess over it and let the thoughts run round and round in my head. Now I have learnt to just ask them, and then we can talk about it...they never are angry at me, usually I am angry at myself and have projected that onto them.....anyways just ask them then it's out there and you don't have to waste massive amounts of time worrying about it.

I have had therapists that have gotten really annoyed at me. Not just one time, but like really, really annoyed and frustrated at me several time during the same session. I immediately recognized the bad communication and that I started the session with sayng things that made her feel really, really uncomfortable.

For question 2 in South Korea jobs can go through your medical records Which your mental health records go on (I'm not sure if mental health goes on your medical record in other places buT it goes on it in SK)

lovely wallpaper in the background

Awww I can just imagine baby Kati or baby sean!!!

Great videos.

I ask my therapist if she’s angry with me. She’s totally open and tells me no.

I had my school counsellor roll her eyes at me for not wanting to go on with what we were doing and she was the second counsellor that I didnt wanna keep going with. It stung a little but I've read some comments here saying things way worse than what my councillors have done and after paying them as well. Therapy/counselling isnt easy but dammit if you cant do it without being destructive, dont do it.

I’m a psych undergrad and I love sneaking in questions for my therapist about his experiences as a counselor. He was a grad student when we started. Anyhoo, he’s only said certain clients are more work than others. Haha am I one of them? I think we mutually enjoy working with each other, but it’s been a slow hike towards change 🤷‍♀️

#katifaq I can never remember alot of my week when I go to therapy so I always act so happy is that bad ?

My therapist did a diagnosis deferred because of my MSW status and I was terrified of the profession learning what was going on. It is an actual DSM-5 code, I can't recall the code and don't feel like going through that whole book to find it at the moment. It is kind of nice though for people worried about professional implications.

Any federal government position with a security clearance that requires an FBI background clearance will know all about your health history, both mental and physical. That said, I’ve known active duty military personnel with a PTSD diagnosis. These folks can keep their jobs but they are steered away from the most stressful, traumatic jobs which is detrimental to their careers. But you don’t lose your job. You just have a “caution”/black mark in your record.

I must confess that I am afraid of going to therapy. My first experience with it wasn't a good one and then when I had a second experience with a psychologist because I needed to get tested for work, again I felt misunderstood like the first time. They asked me about compulsive thoughts and I thought I will actually try to open up about them. I've tried telling the psychologist about it but she kept asking, if i was sure it was really bad and she kept asking this which made me give up trying to talk about it after which she just went on. These experiences coupled up with the fact that the doctors in my country aren't very reliable makes it hard to find the courage to put my trust in another psychologist although I am in a very dark place right now.

Hi, Kati. I love your channel. You are such an inspiration for aspiring therapists. One question. Why do you think it takes less time and money for those interested in MSW programs than those who are interested in the LPC programs although have very overlapping knowledge and training?

I've been working with my therapist for 4 years now and sometimes it seems like my therapist gets mad at me or doesn't really like me but she tells me she's not mad an she really enjoys working with me and sometimes I feel like I disappoint her. What should I do?

Mental health history is looked at when getting a CDL license. It isn't an outright disqualifier but they'll want to know if you're stable and side effects of meds you're on. There's a pdf on the DoT website with recommendations to tighten it further. Not sure what came of it. It was published back in 2009.

My therapist did get frustrated at me and told me he was frustrated at one point of time . How do I recover from this ?

I couldnt get gastric bypass surgery because of my mental health records.

When I was younger I would make my (main)therapist at that time, angry. Just so I felt more save around them as when they would get angry I would see them as real people.

I got accepted into the US Navy but quit before going to boot camp for ethical reasons, and if you're just doing therapy and not on medication and you're paying out of pocket they can't find out however they will ask and recruiters will instruct you to lie.

I have had anxiety, panic attacks and serious agoraphobia since the age of 13 years old. I am 69 now. When I finally totally broke down at age 30 I started seeing a psychologist. At one session he just lost it and tore into me, I assume for not getting better. It really shocked me but I made sure I didn't show it.

Q2 not sure how it works in the U.S. But I'm pretty sure that in the UK criminal record checks can also reveal if you have ever been sectioned - so it's always best to voluntarily admit yourself as that doesn't come up.

Airlines often request records from therapist, and most of the time won't hire you if you don't give them a full record.

My therapist got angry at me once

I am in school to be a police officer and I will apply at the dept in a few months when I finish this semester. Here in KY, they do a psych evaluation and research, but nothing TOO intrusive unless it was extremely serious (and like you said it would obviously have to be on your record for them to see). I'm friends with the captain at the dept and I had a discussion because that was actually one of the things I was worried about was a past hospitalization for a cutting and ED etc a few years ago. I see a therapist now that I stick to religiously. And most of my friends at the dept know about past and current issues so I got lucky. I don't know how it will be when I choose to go to another place. But if I'm still seeing my therapist and I pass the psych evaluation, then I don't see a problem since this is what I've wanted to do my whole life?? :)

FBI has to see all your records as well. As well as if you were to get a job at Fort Knox or the Pentagon. Pretty much any high up government job.

When I tired to get in the military ADHD for me denied. ADHD can also increase life and car insurance.

I just thought of a question. I had a therapist for a while that I didn’t care for (though she did give me some good insight into some things). Thing is, she wasn’t a very good therapist. Should I have told her what IMO were some mistakes she made? For instance when I told her I was going to take a break for a while she got upset. She also was trying to take me in a direction I didn’t want to go. I knew what I needed to talk about. Also when I would get angry about something that I was relating to her she would try and quash my anger. I didn’t say anything to her about any of these issues because I don’t think she could have handled it.

I had a therapist that I would have a weekly session with. I have a couple mental disorders and am an alcoholic which has not helped but only made my symptoms worse so my counselor would tell me strictly to “just stop drinking” (like that’s such an easy thing to do)... Anyways, next session would come around and she’d ask me have I drank this week and I say I managed to cut down my drinking a bit (let’s say, instead of 5 days a week, I cut it to 2) and she would get actually frustrated and angry about it and make me feel like I had made zero progress at all... then would usually follow up with something along the lines of “well I can’t help you until you get completely sober” even though I had so many other things I wanted to talk about and needed answers to so many questions of what was happening to me that she would just ignore completely. She would never let me talk about anything I would have liked to discuss. Absolute worst therapist I’ve had

What's it mean when you make the therapists cry, immediately regret opening up, then you manage their emotions?

This is one of my fears. I am studying to be a nuclear engineer and currently on a therapy. And I don't know if I will even be able to do that job in the end because of the record. I really worry about this as power plants are understandably very strict about the type of individual they let work in the facility. Also I am afraid of getting fired from this job if I need therapy in the future.

You actually don't have to show the Army your records from the civilian side. They create a whole new medical record for you when you enlist. If you do go to Behavioral Health when you are in the military, it will be in your military medical files, but you cannot be discriminated against or just kicked out for seeing a therapist or even receiving diagnosis's. But if you disclose during the enlistment process you have mental health issues, after further evaluation they can choose whether you will be able to enlist or not.

Law enforcement because you have to to take psychiatric testing.

If my psychiatrist gives me Depression/Anxiety medicine does that mean I have Depression/anxiety

This is an older video so idk if you’ll see this, but you asked if there are other careers that ask about mental health history... I’m a RN and when I applied for my license it asks if you have been treated in a facility in the last 5 years... tbh I don’t know how answering would effect my license but I’m sure they are asking for a reason.

I'm not sure if you answer questions in KZfaq comments, but I have a quick one. How do I ask my therapist for a diagnosis? And How can I find a new therapist if I don't think it's working and how would that work?

I am the asker of question 2: The security industry - at least in the UK requires a mental health background check if it comes to being detained within 5 years of applying then they need deatails -this is the industry I was concerned with though also concerned about my media business in future when it becomes larger, and as I'm in the UK it's not a matter of cash or insurance but NHS or private and I can't afford to go private so that means there would be a record then? it's university services I'm thinking of seeking at the moment who would probably then refer me on to someone but unsure x

For question 2 I think it was. One of the reasons I'm so reluctant to get help is because I really want to worm in EMS. Do you know if they would hire a paramedic who went into therapy for depression and anxeity?? I have anxeity attacks all the time but they are not cause from stressful situations. All I want to do it help people. But I know I can't help people if I'm not well. But I do think my dealing with these thinngs help me have a better understanding of people I could help. I really don't know what to do. Anything you could say would be very helpful and really appreciated. Thank you.

I'm hella scared of going to therapy😂

Hey uh ive kinda lied to my conselor because if i self harm again my mom said i would have to go to a place to stay and i dont want to and idk what to do ive self harmed more sense than but i told her i havent

I was once feeling really bad for myself and complaining how hard things are for me and my therapist lost it and start shouting at me. I laugh at it now.

I suffer from chronic depression

Long term care insurance and life insurance companies will require reviewing mental health records...and they are not fans of eating disorders or depression.

my therapist had two kids and her 6 week i totally had a melt down and its wasn't about her all kinds of stuff happens in those 6 six smh

Hi kati! I have a friend who my friends and I have been encouraging to see a therapist. He refuses because he wants a concealed carry/weapon permit eventually and is worried that they wouldn't give him one because they'd see in a background check he's been to a therapist and deem him "crazy and illegible". Is this true? We're in Orange County btw, if that helps with any laws.

Can I ask you something. I want to help people but it's very difficult for me to live with the fact that people are struggling. My wife has bipolar that's already very difficult for me

Medical field you can potentially get fired if you have a dx and/or you don't disclose that you're seeing a therapist that may give you a dx.

Ok so some one that needs dbt does the therapy get easyer for people because me opening up to people is hard for me

Are you disclosing confidential information about your patients/clients if/bc you give examples about their private cases here on your KZfaq channel? I know you don't say their names, but isn't it still a form of disclosing confidential information? Just wondering...

***** I saw on one of your other recent videos you mention the genetic factors and how they are trying to break down specific eds to diff chromosomes etc, i never really understand how this could be for many people as i know sooooo many who may start out for example as anorexic and then move onto bulimia, ednos, BED etc etc. How can it be so common for eds to morph if they are based so much on genetics (i do believe genetics are a huge factor i just dont understand how it could be narrowed down that much when ed disorders can change so much...?

A lot of times talking about it triggers me having CPST