In 1998, I declined to attend my only sister's wedding because I absolutely knew I would not survive it. As it turned out, a bombshell was dropped on my uncle, which caused him to get a divorce after having been married for almost 30 years. I live with the knowledge I made the right choice even though I was the only family member who did not attend. There is only one you. You have the right and even the responsibility to protect your own life.

Can we just pause to appreciate Patrick Teahan for a sec ♥️.

Ugh God your channel is a gem. You are a true gem. Thank you. No toxic positivity. No pretending that everyone will get along. Cause life just isn't like that and your info is so useful! ❤❤❤

People may think that the opposite to love, is hate. I've found the opposite of love is indifference. Really enjoying your videos.

I had an extremely similar relationship with my biological father growing up. I went no contact as soon as was feasible. After years of not speaking to him, my grandfather (his father) died, and we inevitably both attended the funeral. You know what happened? He ignored me the whole time! It was fabulous. Most narcissists will not publicly rock the boat in order to keep the appearance of being likable and perfect, and I think he understood that if he confronted me in any way, he'd be letting his image slip. My suggestion to Jessie is to not reach out beforehand, especially given his past behavior. That could open a chasm, as he may see that as an invitation into your life. Show up, celebrate your beloved niece. Your father may sulk or act victimized, but you get to go back to your peace without him afterwards.

I keep as much distance as possible. Every significant date - birthdays, Christmas, etc - can be accompanied by high anxiety in anticipation of possible contact and sometimes nightmares, reliving past experiences.

The 12 year old will appreciate your staying focused on the celebration. ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉

I 100% agree with the Fairy! Emailing first will not guarantee a smoother time. Narcissism tends to make constructive conversations almost impossible. If you’ve gone no contact there’s no need to connect via email about issues between you. Since you’re going to be at the same event, better to keep things distanced, cordial, and superficial when you’re there, and don’t feed or cultivate private exchanges beyond what is practically necessary. It’s possible that your father may never have the emotional maturity to “not be toxic.” I personally think it’s better not to open the door to a toxic person unless we know for sure that it’s different now.

So true! Gem of wisdom to realize to STOP trying to "clear the air" w these people. Not our responsibility to speak for them. Whatever they do say, just nod and realize that if their mouth is moving, they are lying. Let them move on to someone else for Supply... Running dry for a while is the Only chance to stop looking to Others and START looking at themselves.

Exactly...you will never get anywhere with narcissist. You will only expose yourself to more disappointment and hurt. Let it go!

She is still trying to get his approval, connection, etc. She is still trying to make it work. You are healed if you really feel no need to work on a connection that is so damaging to yourself. It is still self abandonment. She has to become aware of the fact she is still playing out the past patterns. ❤

I get triggered every time I try to contact and involve myself. Even harder when you seem like the only one acknowledging the issues and trying to heal from it.

If you don’t want drama then don’t go looking for it. If attending a family function is that important, stay focused on your goals and avoid toxic people. Don’t expect them to change or need something from them in order for attending the function to be okay.

“That’s not rape” in the same way that coercing a 15 year old girl watch sexual content isn’t abuse!

Sending up prayers for the letter writer that she may have the peace, safety, security and stability she needs in her life. Thank you so much Ms. Anna, for helping so many people!

These tactics have strangely worked well for me: 1) Use absolute words like "NEVER" and "ALWAYS" when setting boundaries - least beating around the bush and extremely concise. Direct it completely towards the thing or action you don't allow. 2) Ignore their attempts to rage or belittle - this usually works, let them be alone in the attack... simply be present and walk away. Even walk when they accuse you of walking away... the real silence leaves them in their head. 3) In rare moments, it's ok to shout back (we are partly still primal) and then explain in a calm composed tone "I just needed you to experience how you sound so I became a mirror for a moment" 4) Calm EYE CONTACT and be as PRESENT as possible when they're losing control (of their presence). I've had several times they came back and apologized and acknowledged appreciation that I was keeping my cool around them losing control. 5) Stop worrying what the hell they think about your own core personality, needs, boundaries - live mostly in your present authentic self and feel compassion for those who struggle otherwise. This is perhaps the greatest one of all. We can cut things out of our life but the reason we have to forgive them and wish them well is to stop our own self from dwelling on maintaining a negative perception of them. The positive one lets go and allows more freedom to focus on our own life. Chronic worry and control of others ultimately neglects our self.

I really hope the son, who’s kept contact with his father, realizes that he needs to keep his daughter AWAY from the man who behaved inappropriately with his own daughter. And as for making the 15 year old daughter, watch a sexual show with him, I believe that can be grounds for calling in child protective services in many states. So it’s definitely a form of abuse.

Can I just say, I LOVED the thumbnail for this video. The title plus your happy innocent facial expression makes it everything. 😂 It's probably better to not give him a preemptive letter. It will look like she's trying to be nice for no reason. The narcissistic father may not understand why she sent the letter and misinterpret or twist her intentions. Just show up to the batmitzvah as a happy positive presence for everyone else, and he can stew if he doesn't want to approach you or if he can't.

I pretty much stay away from family. I have worked so hard to find my own peace, I am not ready to give up what took me many years to gain. Doesnt matter WHO you are. Took me a VERY long time to resepct and place MY boundaries.

The first time I ever said, "Go f&*k yourself" to my husband we nearly had to rush him to the ER for oxygen. Because it's so out of character, he thought it was the funniest thing he'd ever heard. I'm so glad you made this video. I certainly couldn't say such a thing to the rest of the family.

Wow, what a letter! Sending love, support and encouragement to the letter writer. CCF, I really appreciate what you said at the end about the father not being likely to change. The strategy is to assume he’s going to be the same as he’s always been and to figure out a way to be neutral to it. The fact that she says she’s ‘afraid his coldness will set her off’, indicates that she still is hooked in and wanting some kind of healing, or resolution with the father. Which is perfectly natural but it’s unfortunately a part of the trauma we have to deal with. I really don’t mean to sound critical of the writer, I’m not criticizing, it’s just that there’s a HUGE final piece of her power that is locked to the very understandable wish that THIS time he will… be supportive, protect her, appreciate her, basically be a decent human being, or a father … but somehow Different. And as long as we want them to change, we are STUCK in the trauma, and we can’t complete our own healing in before the empowered and fully free. The writer certainly deserves all that support and more, just as she deserved to be comforted and protected when she was assaulted at 19. But as you say, Crappy Childhood Fairy, all we can control is our reactions, and our life changes when we change our reactions. So dear writer, may I offer you this: realize that you are BIGGER than the horrible situation that you grew up in. You are literally a larger Being, a larger context than all of that crap. And then you have to release your father to do his own healing. If he ever changes you’ll be the first to know, but in the meantime, just be neutral and don’t go back into the pattern of trying to get him to understand, clear the air, etc. etc. if he had been amenable to that message like a normal person, don’t you think he would’ve heard you decades ago? Take your beautiful self to the bat mitzvah, and have the best time that you can. Your niece is lucky to have you as an aunt. Believe me I know how hard this is and I can’t say that I have perfected it but I try I really am trying. I’m sure everyone who views this vlog is rooting for you, I’m sure we would love to know how the bat mitzvah went, if you feel like updating us. You go and be happy. I vote your victory

7:09 “sexually off”…. Yes. I named my fathers’ similar behaviors (and others) for myself in my healing, as damaging my sexual psyche. Maybe not overtly physical, but deeply damaging in other ways.

This really helps me, especially with a toxic sister. I sometimes temporarily block to take a breather. I'm working on inner child, finally realized my problem growing up was not my Dad but my sister and Mom. She has kept the bullying and competing a lifelong mission. If I do stand up, then I am not being"fair". Your discussion on toxic relatives bias really helped me and to not feel "guilt" for wanting to limit contact. My therapist always says," Remember she is your sister and your inner child is growing while hers is still b was to there". I do, but it still brings up those yucky feelings.

You have NO IDEA how much I needed this today. ❤ After having to do this with my mother, for the 4th... and FINAL time in my 50 years

I hope you see this message Crappy childhood fairy! You are one of the most amazing, straight forward women I have ever been blessed with coming across. Thank you for your advice and the beautiful, compassionate way you put everything in perspective in a way that makes sense! You are a true inspiration! As soon as I’m back on my feet I will love to take your classes! Until then, thank you for making free content we can all access! You are changing lives! I’m sorry it took your own trauma to be so wise but holy hell! What a gift of insight you have. 🤗

How did I miss this one!!! I've been waiting for this my whole 57 years! 😁💖🥰

I got this video at a very right time .my mom just created a drama with me.

I love this channel so much. It’s like the family I never had.❤

This video is definitely going to help people... Thank you so much for everything you do for people who are on their healing journey! 💖💖

Being able to set that boundary with a parent is so important and can be so difficult to do! ❤

Jessie you are a real one. Good luck at this event! You sound like someone I would love to have as a friend. Your friends and family are lucky to have you!

This letter reminds me of what is happening in my extended family now. I went 'no contact ' with my mother-in-law several years ago, except for the obligatory Xmas day, which is always with my husband by my side. She most likely recognized my vulnerability from the get go. On the eve of my wedding day she accosted me and made sure no one else was around and told me "you weren't supposed to get married!" Yelled that in my face. Also yelled at me and told me the wedding goodie bags were "not necessary" even tho they were specially made with our names and wedding date on them. This was 25 years ago. She has continually barraged me with insults and accusations at EVERY family gathering for 15 years. I told my husband 10 years ago, NO MORE. I went no contact with her. This Saturday I had to Regretfully Decline an invite to my husband's niece's shower because my husband won't be there. I feel awful, but this is my only solution to deal with this highly functional narcissist. What do you think, Anna, is this the way it will always be?

That letter touched my heart. Such a wonderful occasion to get together with family and one bad apple making it difficult. I’m going to say a prayer for her and her family. Thank you for having a relatable place for us to find others who have toxic families.

My Mother also said Blood is thicker than water In a flash I thought Blood will never be thicker than Water

I think you are right and that if she tries to have an interaction he will not take it well. He will probably be offended she assumed they/he would have a problem. Speaking from my own experience, sometimes in an effort to avoid drama i try to find a way to control the situation because i feel i will be in danger if i dont get ahead of it. This sounds like what she is doing. She believes she can get ahead of it. Her dad is unstable though so trying to get ahead of it could very well backfire. I think you are right, the public nature of the event will keep him in check.

Yesterday I saw my father after 9 months of silence. I have divorced my father a couple times over the years. These past 9 months have been intensive outpatient therapy for my mental health. 9 months ago he picked me up from the mental health hospital. Yesterday at our spontaneous visit he laid into me AGAIN. My dbt skills helped me not engage in fighting back. My 17 year old was proud of me for not raging. I feel like I took it in the ass by silently walking away. I also know I spent less energy on him which is good for my nervous system.

She has explained my life. ( With a few awful , few more trama s) 😢

Great answer. My birth-giver chose to create drama at my daughter's graduation and spoiled the end of the event. I looked like a million dollars as I'd been taken clothes shopping by a friend who is a professional stylist and by far the most stylish person I know. My 'mistake' was to upstage a narcissist unintentionally by respecting the importance of the occasion for my daughter, by looking the part for her. My birth-giver looked frumpy and it would have been difficult not to upstage her. Shortly afterwards I went no contact after more drama. A couple of years later she was present at my son's wedding and she ignored me completely and even avoided eye contact. I'd been through mental gymnastics thinking about whether I should re-initiate contact beforehand to make the day better but I think the way it played out is as good as it gets and trying to set any expectations with a narcissist exposes your vulnerabilities unnecessarily. Recently my birth-giver had a wedding anniversary party for family, having never had one before for any of the major anniversaries. It appears that the event was staged primarily to exclude me as she told invitees that I wasn't invited. It didn't get to me - I was able to shrug it off as one of those games that narcissists play. I'm at peace and it's clear that she isn't. The boundary is priceless.

When in doubt, there's old Southern favirite "Bless your heart!" 😈🕊 (P.S. Profoundly grateful for the truly immeasurable positive effect you've had on my life starting with the first video that popped up in my feed as nothing short of Divine Intervention less than a month ago. It was one on hoarding "comfort OCD". I felt as if I could breathe for the first time in 50+ years. That afternoon I stood up and began a new life in earnest.)

Jesse sounds amazing. So impressed with her maturity and wisdom.

The father will never change. It is a waste of your time and energy to even try. I have learned this through decades of family get-togethers that I call BFHF (Big F-ing Happy Family) Events. And I agree that these times are not the right time to address historical and on-going issues. I have a BFHF week at the cottage coming up, and I use my own camper and limit my exposure while doing activities that I love. Hopefully this will be enough to protect myself. If not, I'll just pack up and leave early.

Agree with the advice. Her impulse to clear the air could easily backfire given these particular personality disorders. Ultimately, she's looking for a way to lower her anxiety ahead of this run-in. Rather than reaching out to the father, I'd reach out to someone more reliable. Perhaps that's her wife, her brother, and/or someone else in the family who knows the history. Discuss the fears with them, the various ways things might play out. Come up with a plan for each of them. For the worst case scenario of the father making a big scene, recruit someone to watch for this. Someone willing to step in/run interference so she can just disengage and walk away. A little support can go a long way in a situation like this.

I was 28 yr old when I finally blew a gasket going through an ugly divorce. Years of bullying , condescending comments and walking on eggshells around my father had to stop. Especially at this time. I was so afraid to tell him my x cheated that he would unleash rage towards me. I hid it for few years until my Ex finally left. I was physically sick holding it in so long and now I had to deal with it explaining why my ex would not be at my parents for our sons b day party. I one day left work to go tell my father and had hives and diarrhea. He wasnt happy and I thought I got through it until I called him one night about someone else. He yelled at me for ruining his dinner and that I have been screwing things up all my life . And what did I do to make my ex cheat. I finally yelled louder and over him asking him what I screwed up and give me details. He couldn't come up with anything . As his bullying got worse I said I was hanging up the phone. He yelled "Don't EVER hang up on me " I was so angry I through my cordless phone against the wall and it shattered. Since that day I didnt care how I talked to him . He started to be afraid of me now.. I have dealt with many nasty Narcissistic bullies and I will let them have it Especially if they want try to put me down in front of people. This is Not love or respect so I don't have a problem dishing it out anymore. I only care about people who love me unconditionally. I do care how I speak and what they think about me. Could not careless anymore Narcissistic bullies think. And go **** yourself and the horse you rode in on is my favorite saying..

I needed to hear this. I am very grateful to find this. I cut off contact almost 10 years ago and constantly second guess the decision. Thank you. The most important thing I heard is that I don't have to feel guilty that I don't need anything from them. ❤

I’m new to this channel.. but listening to some of these stories.. I just keep thinking if she thinks these stories are horrible.. she definitely don’t want to hear mine.. 😂💯 but listening makes me proud of myself for being half sane.. after the constant abuse I have went through💯😂 TY Lord 🙏

Almost makes having sister's that couldn't care less more bearable. They won't even come to visit one on one. I guess I'm the one they're deciding to go no contact with 🤔

I have a personal question how do you separate from all the pain you read? You have such heavy issues that we deal with daily but how does it not weigh you down?

No joke; for years, I have been trying to find a way to let assholes know they are being an asshole in a polite, constructive, friendly way. I even asked a friend from England if they have a way of doing that across the pond. No. The title of this video is on the right track and such good news!

What a excellent facet to consider when on the path of recovery! Some things just don't matter any longer!

Welp - as a single mom, I depend on my parents to help with my daughter. My parents are thankfully not nearly as dysfunctional as some, but my mother (a fellow CPTSD-er) and I trigger each other constantly, to the point of my mother trying to physically fight me in front of my daughter (only happened once, but it's almost happened several times).... Not to mention the trauma it likely inflicts on my daughter to see us fighting constantly. :/

This letter really spoke to me. Thank you, I'm going to see my dad and his side of the family on the 30th and it's going to be a lot.

Woow just looking for that topic I was healed from pstd, but my family triggered my old traumatized version they still treat me like a child

I am sorry for the writer of that letter,but please would you inform her that her dads action is insidious emotional incest and is considered a sexual assault and I suppose she should potentially warn her brother for the sake of his daughter,a man like her dad should not come near to any child,and l know about that because l have read a lot about different forms of sexual abuse

A lot of how this dad acted…reminds me of how my sons father was..watching p@rn in front of them and never having space for them…now he has nothing to do with our youngest son…it’s heartbreaking but my son has handled it well…

Excellent wisdom

I don't know if I got caught up the story of the letter, or what... I will certainly watch again....but I was really looking forward to the sound advice of telling a toxic person to "eff-off" in a nice way thus thwarting drama in a situation like this when family comes together. Im bewildered. Ugh.

Hello Fabulous Future Fairy, massive love, all the blesings on your work, and thank you! The work sheet is really great! Thank you!

My family court lawyer told me that "I'll take that into consideration" was latin for F you.

OMG I so relate To every video abt toxic family! My parents were Not That abusive, I mean not in that manner, but still abusive and causing me to be soooooo afraid of them. Like Ana said, I just say what needs to be said in order to keep the air as clean as possible and play along in the family reunions but it is soooooo draining for my soul! With all the daily practice and all the healing and acceptance of the fact that they won’t change and everything, I find myself to be completely drained and disregulated after the family gaterings and all I dream is that one day I can live peacefully and not be so terrified when I think abt them, when they call me and all. I pray to God that they will try to get rid of me bcs if I try to go no contact it will increase the drama!!! I am married now with 2 kids and a great husband, I m 38 and still scared like a little child when I think abt my mom and my sister. They are sooooo toxic for my soul! My father alone is not but because he doesn’t see the dynamic and he is passive, he becomes toxic as well by participating in the dynamic blindly. Ufffff, I literally save all the videos regarding this dinamycs and replay them every time I need to reassure myself that I’m not rude or evil for trying to avoid them as often as possible and that I’m just trying to keep my peace and be a present loving mummy for my kids, not a dysregulated emotional wreck 😢 thanks CCF for ure work and for ure great insights. Sometimes going no contact is even worse and the solution is radical acceptance and ninja boundaries!❤

Also, isn’t this a c-ptsd childhood need for trying to control the future and all possible outcomes? She is trying to guarantee the actions of her narcissistic father …but that’s impossible and not her job

really helpful and positive advice

I love this! Might jump on this challenge with you 👀👀

Deep healing vibez ✌️💞🤟. . . Thank you for sharing ❣️

You are so spot on Ana and truly understand CPTSD like no other ;-) Thanks

" clearing the air " with a borderline narcissist is like a zeplin exploding throughput all infinity lol I know this the hard way 😂

Great advice!

Solid advice given to the writer.

Thank you so much darling..this helps.

Am I the only one who thought of Woody Allen and his family drama while listening to this?

I agree with Anna any attempt to connect and set boundaries ahead of time will likely fall flat or even esxalate conflict which is okay if you feel ready to handle. Your call just sharing :) It sounds to me like you have found rhe best boundry is ghosting. I would try to think what does ghosting look like at a public event. As a narascist i think he will look for trubute from you he will want public acknowledgement and niceities and also with grey boundries might even flirt or something subtelly inappropriate. I think try to establish the mind that you are not there to see him. And if he approaches. Matter of factly say i am here for my brother and not for you and walk away. You dont owe him a converaation or acknowledgment. But he will try to make you feel like you do. For the least conflict you can just go through the motions maybe that is also best. For inner growth i think acknowledging with him that you dont even care he is there or are even unhappy he is there might build on your sense or inner power.

Don't forget all the friends who had to give their opinion on the divorces.

Baby grrl the only thing you owe that man is a legal charge of abuse and failure to report abuse of his minor child...love to you dear one❤❤❤

I can relate to the unstable dad. It is terrifying when a parent goes berserk. My dad did ( completely lose it) and I still feel nausiating fear when I say no to something, especially when I can tell he is not calm. I don't believe it's up to her to 'keep the situation calm', it's not all in her hands anyway. Also, I feel like her dad wasn't just 'off', it is some form of abuse what he did with that sexfilm, it must have been so awfull! I wish her strength and also the feeling that she has a right to not even go if it doesn't feel safe to begin with. I do feel like someone needs to protect that girl though.

I needed this damn, had a bad fight yesterday

Oh man. Do not make contact. It will not go well. The best she can hope for is to interact with him as little as possible at the event. Keep it polite but very brief. He will make a scene and blame it all on you. Do not engage. Focus on the niece and brother.

I have the most toxic siblings and had to go no contact.

I had to set boundaries with my Father due to his explosive temper.. And our relationship has improved since then..

Blood isn't always thicker!!!! ( I know. )!!!!

I don’t look for apologies.

Based on what the writer said and my own experience, she should not email her father. Show up, say hi, be happy with the people the want to see, and it's his issue to deal with.

OMG. That happened to me! When i tried to tell my mom that the 15 year old boy next door took me up the road and made me take my pants down I never got to the details becsuse she said That couldn't have happened. I was 7.

I audibly gagged when she said that her parents were on their third marriage by the time she was 11. Both of my parents are on or past their third marriage. It isnt bad per say, but i know her parents must have hang ups or troubles that lead to either a) getting with the "wrong" person or b) not being able to maintain a healthy relationship . Or both at the same time. And that reality creates drama in the lives of the children. Your parents chose people to bring into your life and you have no say in who or when or how. The new dynamic can be confusing. The relationship coukd be toxic, where both people shouldnt be together or one person could genuinely be more to blame. Regardless you as the kid watch this play out, withstand the repurcussions or fallout, whike still just trying your best to be good. Do well in school. Make your parents happy. Etc. I have lived a variation of her life and i hate it for her. I wish none of us had to watch our parents get their heart broken or break their own hearts.

Ohhh...I need to talk to someone re that inappropriate sexual stuff. I have experienced that with my mother but didn't know that was a thing, I have know something was off those for decades now. My mother has been extremely inappropriate sharing with me my dad's bedroom 'issues' whenever she feels like throwing that into a conversation. I have straight out told her I don't want or need to hear it. She continually brings up how her and my dad stopped being intimate about the time I got married the first time. I don't care, that's THEIR business and I did tell her that. She informed me that she would share with me if she wanted to because I am 'her daughter' and if she wants to share with me she will...ugh. My dad passed away this past March and I'm pretty sure she's BPD and I KNOW she's NPD. Will likely never know though because even though she's been encouraged many times, she will never go get help. Now that she's alone she's worse than ever. It's like she expects someone to hold her hand and pull her through life now. Not too long ago she shared with me that when she was 16 yrs old she went out on a date with a guy and they ended up having sex. She said she did not want it to happen but didn't know how to say 'no'. All these years later and my mother says this guy's wife looks at her and smirks because mom just KNOWS she knows what happened way back then. My mother is 82. So there is something else I did not want or need to know. Things like that just makes my stomach twist. Sorry so long.

I started saying go step on a rake. That's my F u equivalent.

I hope she doesn't make that call but rather chooses instead to accept the discomfort allowing him to be hostile without focusing directly on the negative energy, but rather allowing it/him to be a reality that exists within her peripheral vision so to speak that does not need to be addressed. As long as she is not the aggressor and remains calm she might hopefully make it through this event if she can pour tons of positive love and energy into her niece. For some like him, an act like "extending an olive branch" merely reinforces their own sense of importance and victimization by you because they will see it as you trying to _make amends_ TO THEM for the wrong that you have purportedly committed, potentially making a gracious and considerate act more DEstructive than CONstructive. I'm so sorry she suffered and continues to struggle through all of this and GLAD she has had the strength to divorce herself from that destructive relationship irrespective of WHO he thinks he is. I hope she has a wonderful time celebrating her niece...and *_Mazel Tov!_* ✨🙏✨

Man, it feels like it's always women or non binary who have to do this sort of social work. It probably never crossed the man's mind. It's better just to ignore him at the event and not do any pre-emptive contact. If he had grown he'd have contacted you prior to this to try reignite contact but you already know he hasn't changed because your brother still struggles with him.

I feel I need to get my life off my chest too.

1:51 important note: making a minor watch porn with you is DEFINITELY sexualized abuse. Not a grey area at all!!!

"Oh yes helllooooo!" 😂

Maybe her perspective is valid, maybe there's a lot of supposition. The fact remains that we aren't able to get the father's view. It would certainly be interesting, as well as fair, if we were only able to get his take on their shared history.

Hello, is there a video where the Crappy Childhood Fairy talks about CPTSD and work/pay as in not advocating for self or seeking higher pay because of CPTSD? Warmly, K

There are a lot of parallels between my early life and hers. However, my parents never divorced, despite my fever pitched prayers.

In his book The Wounded Heart Dr..Dan Alldender would describe what she experienced as sexual abuse

Thank you for the work you do here. I do, however, feel disappointed with this video’s title. I patiently listened to another person’s dilemma & was waiting for the advice that the title suggested. Maybe it’s just my lack of understanding but I’m still not sure how to tell a toxic family member how to go f**k themself in a nice way, which is what the title implies. Thanks again for sharing your wisdom on your channel 😊💜🙏

Any contact that may begin to erupt could possibly be handled with a reminder that you are there for your niece, that is who the gathering is all about and everything and everyone is not only secondary but on hold for another place and time. This is all about your niece and no one else. I dunno, they all react and overreact even that may not be the thing to do.

Oh crap!! Anna!! I just totally screwed up!! I sent a venting text to my brother instead of my friend. It’s about his wife, now he’s angry with me!!! Talk about self sabotage 😣😣😣😖😖😖 I might be homeless again 😱🥵 But, if I have to leave… it might be better, living in a judgemental toxic place isn’t so good for my healing 😣😢 Breathing, breathing 😖☹️😒

there's a nice way??!?

I said this to my father who bull ied me. He nearly un ali ved me. My mother made it look like i did it to my dad instead. All younger siblings are fly ing mon keys.

I just didn't respond to a text. Is that ok?

In the south...we just say... OH, HOW NICE.