"1. Be a challenge, make him earn it every step of the way. 2. have a lot of self-respect. Always be your self-respecting, challenge-representing self all the time, no exceptions".

Having good boundaries and self-respect are so important for a healthy relationship.

“Don't let anyone treat you like free salsa. You are guac, baby girl. Guac.”

My mother taught me well while I was a young woman. She told me this and more. She noticed that men were looking at me when I was too young to date, so she schooled me about men early on! RESPECT yourself! You make the choice of how it goes. You are the treasure! Thanks for sharing. My friends and I have a saying...You may be alone while waiting on the right one but, you are not lonely or desperate! Love yourself and the rest will fall in place! 😊❤️

Brian teaches women things that every mother should have taught her daughter from a young age.

his voice just so calming

"When a woman is a challenge has a lot of self respect and very direct about her boundaries", the second he said that I couldn't help but smile i swear he was describing me... It felt so good to be appreciated for having those qualities instead of been constantly told that you think too much of yourself or you obnoxious etc . Thank You Brian

Don't ask from a man to say that he loves you, let him show you .

Our emotions completely blinds us from thinking wisely .

Great points. If girls had strong support, growing up, they would become women who were strong like those you mentioned. Sadly, too many don't and arrive in adulthood; bitter, confused and weak.

Thank you, following you I left my narcissist boyfriend and I have a date on Sunday with someone new! Thank you 💖💖💕

If he ask for time ...give him a watch!!! 😂😂😂😂😂⭐❤

It's sad that my parents keep telling me that I should obey and do whatever they want me to do. They always tell me that how bad I am and always see the good things in others, the result is I have low self esteem. Even though I'm good looking and have many boys chase me, I don't know how to value and love myself. I tend to sell my self short because in the bottom of my heart I don't believe I deserve better. I ended up being with people who didn't love and respect me, it's just the reflection of how I feel about myself. I've learned it the hard way. P/s: Dear me, I'm sorry that it took so long but baby I love you, you deserve the best and never let anyone make you think differently.

I got my husband tht way and must say it worked. I just let my self run on my own rules, definitely not rude but the self respect worked for me. It really works no matter how u look no matter how beautiful or not so beautiful u r but darling ur self respect definitely works.

Let him invest on you ( Value ). Self love , self respect ( integrity ).

Oh my gosh! Everything I’ve heard since discovering you on KZfaq, (and buying all your Audible books, so far), is already making massive changes inside of me. Not being taught to value and respect myself growing up, (in fact quite the opposite!), I never knew how to do that. I tried and tried to, but I couldn’t do it. I didn’t know how. I just felt like I was as worthless as a piece of garbage. What you are saying seems to be like the mirroring that a healthy father would do to his daughter to teach her to love herself and to truly believe, deep in the core of her being, that she is beautiful and a deeply valuable human being, who can believe that no matter what anyone else says. Wow. My insides just resonate so deeply and feel so nurtured by hearing this stuff. It’s like an old, hard, dried out sponge having water just poured out all over it, saturating it with nurturing life. Like a dead flower coming back to life and blooming. Thank you!

I really wish I had seen this video in my younger years.(I’m not that old, 32.) I spent a lot of my 20s giving myself away to men very quickly, but it wasn’t because I was a “whore.” It was because I wanted them to like me. This video explains why every time I did that with a man, a relationship never flourished. I hope a lot of women see this video because women should know that they are valuable and worthy and shouldn’t give themselves away to just any man, especially if the only reason is because you want them to like you. Don’t do that. Love and respect yourself like this video says. Don’t give yourself away to anyone who doesn’t deserve you.

Brian you're honestly so admirable. It's crazy how I sometimes sit back and already know everything you're explaining in these videos but still hearing it from another person is so powerful. When I watch your videos you really make me so confident in my choices. It's hard to explain and put into words. Sometimes in a hard positions you know your standards but I guess at times you can question them and watching your videos always remind me how important it is to never doubt your intuition.

Men are so complicated all this makes me so exhausted.

Stay classy and never accept mediocre behaviour from men. Self-respect makes no room for bs

"He thinks getting her companionship requires a thumb and writing one simple sentence". Wow. Just, wow.

Women don't believe me when I tell them that men like challenges. I hope they will believe this video. Everything said in this video is true and I've seen it happening!

I don't usually leave comments on youtube but I just had to. Thank you so much for doing what you do. You have such a wise and beautiful insights regarding humans' minds and behaviours. Your words always speak so much truth and wisdom. Your voice is always calming and reassuring. You have no idea how powerful your words are, they make us so much stronger and wiser mentally, emotionally. They strengthen our faith in Ourselves again. I'm sure you have changed so many lifes for the better. Thank you very much for Empowering us all women. I truly appreciate all your effort and everything that you do.

Wait, wait... HE WASN'T INVITING ME OVER TO PLAY MONOPOLY?!!!

I love this! Thank you for the reminder to not fall into the needy trap. I started doing everything with my guy as I started falling for him and he started pushing me away. I saw your videos and reversed it, and let’s just say we are very happy now!!

Amen on the standards! My date and I are currently a bit very busy and we don't communicate as much because of our schedule (I am in class when he is free and he is working when I am free, it's a bit hard) Yesterday after 4 days of no calling, just a bit of texting, he asked if we can talk on the phone. I was busy trying to catch my train and I was not about to wait 1 hour for my next one so I told him "I am running to my train, catch you later". He said "see you later". When I got in my train I asked how long he would be awake in case we could talk but he said "I don't know". Obviously I was a bit displeased and just responded with "let me know as soon as you know". He immediately responded with "tomorrow, before noon?" And I responded with a simple "we will see". He called me today and we had a normal conversation, no passive aggressiveness, no shade, nothing. Just two people talking about their days, some plans for the future and how we missed eachother (and he initiated the "I miss you")

YES! So true Brian. Women have more power than they think over men. I LOVE this. ♥️♥️♥️

Now I know why my bf chose me over prettier women out there. I remember he said that I am respectable and I respect him. :) Thank you Brian for this video. Your tips are all true when it comes to relationship. Of all love and relationship coach I have watch online, you are the most straightforward and realistic one. :) continue to inspire women all over the world. ♥

Always be a challenge 👍 make him earn every step of the way. Know your worth. Communicate it. Know that there are many men out there that would fight for your time & attention. Show your standards always. Do not fear being called "high maintenance" by your crush 😁 let him feel like a man, fighting for the relationship. If I have a ton of self-respect, what would I do now? Ask yourself...let thinking override feelings (my paraphrasing 😄)

I love this message. All of this is so important. I have friends do the opposite of this and are miserable and depressed. Keep the self respect high ladies because we have to live with ourselves and self love is so necessary.

In short, if he is doing level 1, don't give him level 10! 1 deserves 1

Geez, I am going to watch this a couple dozen times to thoroughly wash my brain..it so needs this rearrangement. I was imagining myself as the goddess you were describing and it definitely feels attainable even amidst the pangs of doubt. I have been her before, with this one guy I reeally liked. For about 2 weeks I was all sass, from that clear place of knowing-not trying for his sake, or at least I thought. And then, I reverted back out of some desire to "seize the moment" (fear of abandonment) because he was so strongly coming towards me. I fell for the bedazzlement. Oh brain 🤔😂

Never respond to low invest

Now I know what I've done wrong, oh... my entire life! And I've already sworn off men a few years ago because I got tired of being hurt. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, I'm sure you've helped so many people. God bless you.

This is the one male with advice for woman I really really like. Not at all condescending, doesn't try to tell us we need to contort our lives around the eccentricities or egos of men...quite the opposite, he guides us towards valuing ourselves. Thank you Brian Nox!

Brian, you give such valuable, reasonable, understandable information in all your videos. What you talk about should be put into middle school curriculum and taught to ALL girls BEFORE they start getting in relationships with boys. If I had know even a fraction of this 20 years ago I could have saved myself a lot of heartache. I’m so happy to have discovered you...better late than never. Thank you for enlightening me and so many women. Lots of love to you 🥰

His voice is so soothing, I want him to read me a book and or sing a song to me. His partner for sure is blessed with someone this relaxing. Sigh. I love the sound of his real name though, I wonder where it is from.

I'm in a relationship for about a year now it was very deep until I forgot myself to please his bossy attitude it didn't serve at all. At the moment when I understood I have to be the first priority I become a challenge again. Thank you Brian for making this video it helps me a lot about the confidence I have to acquire to save my relationship.

Brian what you’re saying is so hard when you are so into the guy but it is still so true what you are saying. You have opened my eyes. Thank you

Brian: This is, bar none, THE best video on the World Wide Web. #1 primer for young girls entering the dating minefield, as well as women of all ages. It’s never too late, Ladies, for a mind-check. On a personal note, I said “Buh-Bye” to a former love interest 6 months ago. He first attempted to ‘Friend Zone’ me. Plan B was playing the “I need space” card. Both scenarios: I shut him down and showed him the door. This video should be MANDATORY VIEWING for every female on the planet. Thank you, Brian!

Ya'll give this gentelman a medal

Brian, being a man you are teaching these very important things to women..... I really adore you and respect a lot !! God bless you!

He is so real and humbling. Great Guy.

Yes, I agree. I know don't care about pleasing a guy just because he thinks he is a catch. I want actions, work. And it works for me. I have beautiful relationship with my boyfriend now. He surely proved himself. 😊

You know what all these techniques also do to you ? Make you feel like you're failing every time some of these things do not work. As if you were not enough, and always had to work to get into a relationship or be respected and valued for who you are... Don't misunderstand me, I understand the value of these techniques and coaches, and I really appreciate it because it's accurate... I have respect for their implication. But be careful to not start feeling like you're always failing a test, as if it was your fault because you didn't know how to apply this best. Thank you, I hope you all here have a beautiful day.

I get it... It's just like raising a child. As A Mother, I want my Son to have everything he could ever want or need. I don't like saying no, but if I'm going to teach him how to be a well-rounded, Man, with a healthy way of thinking and treating people. I know I must tell him no sometimes and allow him to work hard for certain things he may want. I try to enstill the idea of "Once you walk out that front door, no one will treat you like your Mother has. You'll have to earn and show respect and give and show appreciation to others before they trust or Love you..." That's my job as A Mother. To be a great Teacher to my Son or any child I may know. Like my Nephews. It's also my job as an Auntie. We adults have to build a great foundation and set our children up for success!

Brian, congratulations! This is by far the best video i've watched in years regarding to relationships. I thank you so much and appreciate the effort you constantly put in all the work you do. You give us the tools to build amazing relationships and to always show that we respect and love ourselves above anytbing else. I've improved so much my behavior in general and definitely my love life has changed for the better since i started watching this kind of videos. God bless you Brian... 👏👍

My father would always give me great advice similar to this and after he passed away a few years ago, I didn’t have anyone to remind me. Thanks!

Thank you! I'm in love and normally put a man first. I'm remembering to put my life, my job, my happiness first. It's paying off because I see more effort to show me I'm valued. Respecting myself helps show that I'm not co-dependent or a door mat. I'm worth respect and effort.

Where are these guys who wrestle tigers and spend an entire paycheck to fly to see me? Haha 😂

I ❤️ your videos. You have such a unique, communicable, deep way of getting your message across. They make me GET IT. And such important content. You're helping the world to value and experience true love. Very admirable.

The one with the least interest holds the power. This is how I got engaged after the break up. I did not call or try to contact him. 10 days later he contacted me and proposed. Sadly he told me I can't eat, I can't sleep, life has no meaning without you. It was all about him, not a word about how wonderful I was.

Omg you are really the best. I fell for a “low investment, inconsiderate punk” 😶 never again

You probably have heard this before but love so much when you pronounce your name, such a beautiful name 😊

Do men like Brian still exist?

Can we be a challenge even in our marriage? Sometimes our spouses forget our value

I have a long distance boyfriend, and I know I have shown him how I like him so much. I always make time for him, telling him that I aways missed him, and everything. But just last night, I was hurt. This is not the first, but I always believe his explanation and accept his apology. He asked not to talk to me because he got some problem and he wants to be alone but he promised to make it up for me. I understand he has problem and wants some space, but the thought hurts me that he asked me some space. I feel bad about myself. Am I not a good companion for him? Am I rather a disturbance for him ? Can I not make him forget his problem? He keeps on saying he loves me and I Iove him so much. But, I just blocked him. This video is just right for me, if he don't need me, why would I stay for him. Now that he ask for space, I gave him all that - forever. It's painful, and I will miss him alot, but I have to let him go. He doesn't worth my time, so much for my love. I deserve better. ... but still this is he'll so painful. Part of me wants him back, but the other have had enough. I had already cried for him, and will never cry again... hopefully

Thank you for this and reminding us even when we catch a feeling we still need to remind ourselves not to make it too easy for him. Bit hard but it's worth it.

Hi Brian, standards and self-respect are important, but can you get more into detail on how to be a challenge and still show availability so the guy does not loose interest thinking the Girl is not interested?

Hey! I have been married for 27 years but I love watching your videos. Having always been in an all girls school, I didn't understand much about guys. Mine is a more or less arranged marriage. I sometimes use your advice in my marriage too.

I seriously want to see a video with you and Matthew Hussey. You guys taught me so much. Thank you!

I have watched 3 of your videos today. They were very effective in helping me to understand where I have been going wrong. Thank you for your gentle delivery of the facts along with clear examples. Many talk about this subject but they are just not believable. Thank you again Brian Knox.

Thanks, this video just boosted my confidence back as I was about to loose it! Back to normal now. Cheers!

Strange! I texted a guy yesterday saying hi ans hope all is well he never replied till a few hours ago. He replied but I felt zero investment. Thank goodness I had the presence of mind to tell myself you know what he isnt interested or playing games and in general his text does not deserve you to write hik back.

Been watching videos like this and you gave the most mature advice so far. Thanks! I needed to hear this.

Thank you for being such a great influence .

You are so good at descriptive euphemisms.... very humorous and enlightening. You make me chuckle and have a great manner of delivering the point to your discussion. Many thanks.

Thank you so much, this is exactly what I need to hear right now.

Geert, it’s hilarious how you incorporate turtles and tigers into relationships 💪🏻. LOVE IT😃

Your voice is so soothing.

Thank you so much Brian .. You always speaks the truth .. I heard this kind of advice from my grandma its classic but never gets old.. Now , I am happily married with my husband.

You are the best sir! I owe you... God bless you.

Now I watch all your videos Brian. 😁 I feel like were talking in person and you're giving me lessons. Your voice is so comforting esp what im feeling right now. You gain a subscriber 😊

Thanks for sharing this valuable information. I messed up. I’ll start over with another, but first, focus on myself & my goals.

I strongly agree. Not making any effort no way go away from me! Hahahahaha it happened to me although his good looking dude but not make any effort who are you?!! Lol “ chatting with him” Him: you wanna meet? Me: let me see on Saturday after my hiking! Him: okay. “ the next day” Him: Saturday I can’t meet, Friday I can. Me: nope do your things Goodluck! Him:okay “ end of story” Lol 😂 Watching from Australia Love your vid B 🥰😘💖🙏

Thank you. Love Aboriginal Australia 🖤💛❤️

Thanks Brian, always very helpful! Stay blessed!

Thank you so much for these brilliant videos.

you are amazing ! thank you so much for teaching me as a high value woman , I used to be a door mate to him , he treated me like a shit and meanness, I want to change...

You don't need to thank us for watching... We Thank you!! for all of this important and crucial knowledge that you share so simply with us!! Really helpful.!!

Excellent! I've been telling my kids this for years!

I love his advice that I press the 👍 button, watch his videos to the end and watch all his ads plus bought his book on amazon. That’s how I appreciate his wisdom🥰🙏

Thank you Brian for your education to teach us women to be better ourself and prevent a lot of heart ache in the future God bless you Brian.

The way you lay it out clear as day is the best way to convey these crucial guidelines to our life

you are my saviors for being a doormate to a toxic man. thank you so much for making this subject...i have learned what your message is to us ! very very accurate ! 🖒🖒🖒🖒

Brian is highlighting the roadmap and driving you to the destination…Society has become stupid…but not men. (married 33+ years & own a (logistics) trucking firm, so listened n watched mens lives & comments for 3 decades-🙌)

👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽Thanks! For the knowledge and support Brian. Some people are raised up, some are dragged up, and some are beaten down. It's good having access to videos with sound advice, and good common sense, that's not so common.😘😘😘

Thank you Brian. Just in time. Très apprécié.

You talk my mind.. appreciate your efforts in helping high quality women 👍

This is SUCH a good video and advice.. I always put my needs before theirs (considering this is a man I barely know no matter how hard he makes my heart beat), and I always leave with my self-respect intact, and I garner respect from men. They only seem to try harder to make me like them..

The BEST advice ever, thank you Brian.

I love your videos ! I especially love that you keep it classy and don’t have the need to use foul language❤️❤️ . Thank you !

I love you Brian knox . you are such a genius. thank you for your wise and informative videos

Excellent video! I see so many women indiscriminately accepting "friend request" on FB from men until they have thousands of male friends. To seek attention, to gain popularity, etc... Then the virtual hearts and kisses start coming in from the wolves with every post she makes on her timeline, and gradually she reciprocates with hearts of her own. Then it's a chat onf FB messenger, then it's a date, not aware she 's turning herself into a low-value woman. I wish more women would watch this video!

Thank you, I’ve been doing so many wrong things lately 😥

So ladies....let's remember to always be a challenge! That's what keeps them interested.

Maybe I’m just listening to this at the perfect time but I this is the best relationship advice I’ve ever heard. I watched all my videos and you helped me get my self esteem back

You make so much sense. Thank you

So helpful as I am working on improving my boundaries. Thanks ☺️

What if it is love at 1st sight? An overwhelming feeling of love and need for this person? Literally happened and I am not a dating type. Never actually have. I was with my husband for 21 yrs from age 18. He passed 3 months ago and I knew for a fact there would never be another man that would compare nor would I ever want one. 3 months of the darkest days of my life. My 14 yr old boyfriend who I briefly dated and his parents moved him away in the middle of the night recently found me. Like 2 weeks ago. He found me and my brother. It’s been 25 yrs. I had no interest and barely remembered him. I was out saying hi because my brother insisted saying it was rude of I didn’t. I started crying over my husband. My brother and this man are consoling me and telling me it’s ok and I’m not alone and my husband will always be here with me. Then this man says God brought me back to you for a reason. I looked up at him and thought wow. And cried harder. I then went inside and I instantly had this feeling that I said I felt as though I know him, I love him, I need him. I want him in my life. It’s crazy and ridiculous. I thought maybe I have PTSD. Well I started texting him after we all hung out the next day. I decided to tell him what happened and how I feel. I was already feeling like he felt the same because it appeared he was with me, texting me and not my brother. He was showing respect for my husband and my kids. This dude is amazing. So I started being a little flirty. I started saying things to let him know he was amazing, attractive, and I wanted him in my life forever. Finally after days of flirting he calls me to tell me about his job because he is moving back home where we live. Currently he lives 4 hrs away. We get off the phone and he texts me to tell me my voice is so hot. That’s the first time he ever actually said anything although I could feel his feelings. I told him exactly how I feel and he says he has loved me for 25 yrs and he wants to never have me not in his life again. He wants to be with me forever. I feel the same. Like what has happened? This is all a matter of 2 weeks, maybe 2 and 1/2! We r now planning to move in together!! He had his own career and I have mine. Pretty equal. We both went paralyzed from 2 different incidents and had to learn to walk again. We are madly In love and the only kiss we ever had was our first kiss at 14!! What is this! Are we both crazy?!! Have we both lost our minds???!!