Yep!👏🏽

Fact!!!

Yes!!! And if they cant, they won’t be scared to tell you why.

@@ilinavelkova858 be careful. What goes around comes around We all make mistakes & bad choices

What if he simply say that work his priority and I comes second?? But he also say that he loves me?

Thank you for great message...as always your message is valuable to those who have gone through this..

You would think, right?

@@nvb455 sometimes, it's best to keep it simple and realistic. Of course we shouldn't be blaming anyone for anything, neither ourself nor them for why the relationship failed. We should just except the results and move on with an open mind for the possible future and them. I'm writting this for the people with the same mindset as the original commenter and myself cause i just got ghosted by someone i'm extremely compatible with and i just made the mistake of freaking out and made the ghosting final. And it's ok

@@nvb455 everyone has their reasons and their own problems for why they do the thing that they do. So does your friend. But it doesn't give them a pass on hurting others by ghosting. Whatever their reasoning is, they are hurting people and they should only be accepted when they're aware of their problems and are actively trying to get better. I understand your point of view and the original commenter's point of view. I'm here making a statement of my own relative to both sides, not trying to combat anyone.

They're prolly not mature enough to tell u you're not what they're looking for which should be the 1st question u ask them upon 1st meeting. Wish I did that but now I will next time around if I do which I doubt. Can't deal with with these hassels. Better off staying single & content. Dating is nothing but playing insecure mind games. I don't know how people get married.

Exactly! The right one won't run but will work with you to make your relationship solid. Men know what they want and are not going to let a true opportunity slip through their fingers.

Totally agree!!!

My dear Astrid! Wow

Sistah!!!😳😳 SAY THAT!

Ouch reality hurts!! 😭 Am i not enough? 💔

I feel ya. This is exactly what we need and want. Should hold this standard.

Good luck

Thank you. We all have trauma.

Hahahah... Good luck with that 🤞

YES. Also, we live in a dualistic world where we all will always have healing to do and the #1 place we do that is in our closest relationships. So it’s about knowing your worth and ALSO knowing that they are not perfect, just like you.

True.

Yes

Exactly. First man who broke up with me ghosted me and I had to beg him to be honest with me and give me closure and not ignoring me like that. He wrote back and broke it off and that was enough for me and I respect him for that. Rest of my relationship, a man shows inconsistent efforts and ghosted me I straight up blocked him and never begged for closure. NEVER AGAIN!

So sorry this has happened to you. Hope you're ok now. Keep strong

@@tg9898 thank you for your kindness ❤️

That is so bad! This crappy behaviour should be illegal!

@@sw8916 . I mean it hun. I sympathise. I've been there its hurtful. As much as I live my life and depend on no one, I'm in a situation ship at the moment and I'm thinking this will happen to me too. He has contracted covid and communication is not good but it wasnt before

WOW that sounds absolutely awful!!! (I’ve had something similar happen to me once but not as bad). I’m so sorry to hear that sweetie, hope you’re able to move on and live your best life because you deserve it! Your person will find you! And as for him....he is NOT a good man and karma will deal with him. You dodged a bullet!

100

True dat. But we should alway be aware of these info so that we don't blame them or hold a grudge on them and learn to understand and except

I actually wasn't looking them up.. he was recommended to me.. but I agree with you..

@@metamorphosisjewel233 I used to wonder this as my exes were all violent and abusive. My ex husband even had the nerve to excuse his bad behaviour by telling me that i was the common denominator! ie it was 'my' fault he and the rest hit me! After a couple of years watching channels like this and researching Narcissism to understand the dynamics of my family members . ..I decided that no more was I going to accept or toletate bad behaviour from anyone. People who truly love you will not continually abuse or hurt you! I used to give people 3 chances. ..then i realised how ludicrous this was! One mistake, one warning gut feeling even a tiny one and I was gone! i joined an online dating site Dec 2019 and weirdly circumstances were such that i only met two men. As they all happened to be visiting parents or cancelled dates. Both very nice but the first messed me about with dates, asking me out but not sorting out the third date. Everything was said by text message. 3 weeks of waiting was too long for me and a full 3 days of texting and compliments whilst he was off work but no date. He only lives 10 mins drive from me.... said he would have got "around to asking me out eventually"...well tough luck.. too late. The other is my wonderful boyfriend of almost a year who treats me so well and with respect. Everything is just so nice and easy and he is so reliable. I never had to worry about him calling or making a date in the early days. I am 56 and he is 3 years younger. I am very happy and even my health has improved. Beware tho there are men who troll sites like this and tell you that you are too old etc or be abusive to the women leaving comments but take no notice...the only thing that you are doing 'wrong' is not valuing yourself enough to walk away from bad behaviour. Everyone attracts the wrong people now and again and kind people do get used but don't keep allowing it. At some point in our lives we were conditioned to accept and put up with bad behaviour. Please dont get to your 50s like i did before valuing yourself. And if you are...don't worry...plenty of time to become used to someone who sticks to their values and only surrounds themselves with the kind of person we wish to be. You are obviously not conceited or you would not even consider it being your fault. Well...it isnt! Its not a sin to be a kind person but it is a waste of your time and energy to continue to put up with people who treat you badly. So all the best for the future. There are plenty of good uns out there. .but you only need find one. Value you yourself and he will find you. Just put yourself out there and have fun.

or your searching videos like this because you have relationship anxiety

I absolutely agree that you should focus on yourself and enjoy living your life, but I also think you should remain open to a relationship. This doesn't mean you have to actively seek out a relationship, but if you're completely closed off to one it will show, and if there is ever going to be a chance of finding one, it will prevent that from happening.

I was hoping men would be more mature at that age but i guess they never mature

Ditto! I’m in the same boat!

I understand exactly how you feel! But, the moment we start closing our hearts...💜... Everything goes downhill.You got this 🤗

It blows my mind how men in their 50’s are the same or worse! The wonderful Man I wasted years on completely blindsided me and yet Still wants to continue!

good for you! Waste of energy and time!

He showed his true colors

He sounds indeed like a feminine man who wants to be chased. Yiak.

Glad you know your worth 👏❤️

Well done you!

But how though if it's a relationship ? .. should I not pick up calls ? Allow him to come over? Etc

@@melcab1433 Its really really hard to do. But you have to value what you need from the relationship more than your connection that is not what you need. It's hard, but what you need matters.

Preach it sista!

this is such genius advice omg !!!

❤️it, especially the last sentence. A gem I'm keeping..

👌❤

Indeed!

So true!

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True, but learn from it so it doesn't happen again. Sometimes ghost never leave the haunted mansion. Don't let his ghost repeat in others, you know what I mean?

@@tempest0078 🎯👏👏👏👏🏆another gem, say that point 👍

Haha 😂 true story 😅😅😅💯💯👌🏾🎊

A weak dead guy..😂 karma will find him

This!!! Communication is key!

I agree with you!

100 fact!

Yes!

But if a good guy finally ghost you, its because something happened that he feels wrong and dont like about you. But if he said that to you, he afraid that he might be fighting with you. Ghosting is an unacceptable behaviour of man. But the only thing we can do is let him go. Dont ask or cry and dont show that you cant live without him. Just move on. Brian knox videos are most right!

Very true.

Facts

Don't ever idolise men 🤢🤮

Same thing happened with him

@@sansadrake4133 I learned the hard way 😂

@@nurarich4945 at least you learnt your lesson lol

Same. I match their energy right back to them. Even if I’m internally screaming “no don’t go” they’ll never know

if he wanted to, he would. get feeling better ❤️

Bottom line is you deserve a man who is so sure that you're the one he wants. You want to be with a man who knows he wants you. If he's unsure, he's not seeing your value.

@@Rene-po7im💯💯💯💯

Yip !! Mine just ghosted me for someone new xx

Exactly!

*women/options

Sure is unfortunately

Not necessarily. This video even explains why it’s not the case.

😄 spot on. Welcome to today's dating world.

Exactly

Once the pin is pulled out, boom 😀😀😀

I had to laugh at this one. Kudos, that was good, lol.

🤣😄😆 right? Screw the games

A man should test like a woman test, but sometimes theirs is stupid.

I enjoyed your advice just what I needed. I am in a long distance relationship. . My guy was a high profile guy and I never in my wildest dreams thought a man of his class and integrity will behave like a spook Everyday he would make me feel soo special and let me know he was crazy about me. I received endless pics and videos. I really starting loving this man. I had not been in a relationship since my divorce fourteen years ago. I trusted him respected him and was very proud of him. He told I am the full package and I am everything a man is looking for in a woman. He just went quiet and ignored my messages. Anyway I became worried and missed him and kept looking at my phone dropped a line or more out of concern. After two days he answered . Not in the sweet way he would normally chat. He was away a few days and retuning to his place of work. He wrote, On a flight back . "I am tired. Hope you had a great Sunday. ". Not a word about boo or baa. . That's it . We were chatting just over four months. I refuse to answer. So glad I watched this video. Even good men are creepy..

Not true

Sadly every man will test you there is no exceptions

I wanted closure too but all I got was a big lie and another lie after lie. We are not going to get the 'honest closure' we need, anyways. They moving on fast. The only closure we need is to move on even faster remember ladies MOVE ON.

He was a chump then, no honor in doing that! Dishonorable and cruel.

@@emanaturalsaus yep if you stick around it’s all lies and more lies.

It was enough right?

I'm surprised it lasted three years. Don't waste your time on men who aren't worrth your time and energy.

@@messrsandersonco5985 because I was stupid to forgive him whenever he cameback and tell me he's sorry and how much he miss me. When he ghosted me again and again I felt like I was being played by him. I don't want him back. No more pain and suffering

@@amyyellowrose2798 don’t take him back for your own sake,he will break you until there’s nothing left.

@@nurarich4945 true. I will not let him ruin my life anymore. He told me he loves me all the time but he was just using me for his own convenience. During my difficult time he is not with me but when he's down he's expecting me to be there for him. I've had enough and I just want to heal. Being single is better than being in a broken relationship

I love you!!!!! Lol

It really is. This man is helping me soooo much with my relationships! He's the best I've found thus far.

Good thing I found this vid before I confront my man and freaked out. 😂

I’m gonna play that on a continual loop

I did so, six months later he asked if I was angry that he disappeared. I said that I see no reason for being angry. Then he asked if that means I forgot him, I said that I never forget people I had relationship with. He was confused....

Yes!! So true! Thank you for this reminder!

I hope so. I'm 29 and have never been in love. 😕

So sweet! Thank you! ❤

but don't tell them they are beautiful haha

But why get needy for someone who basically dont care if you exist or not. Never understand why women do this

@@sansadrake4133 It's not a gender thing, trust me. I've had plenty of males chase after me even tho I clearly said I wasn't interested. Love, hope and hormones can render any human life form irrational. Hindsight is always 20-20. The older you get, the more cautious and rational you become. It's unfortunate, but also inevitable.

@@808Fee i would say there are more women who do this though than men.. and yeh i guess so..

@@808Fee i agree with you, its like the guys you actually dont care about are stuck on u like glue even if you show them you are not intrested by your actions. While we chase the ones that are not that into us... Ugh

THIS. to me, it's all good info for why things didn't work out in the past--it explains a lot!--and even though i'm naturally an accommodating person, i refuse to walk tightropes and use scripts just to protect fragile men. if he's not strong enough to take me as i am, he can take a hike.

Yes honey 👏🏽💯

Or when you are in a new great relationship!

Each time he apologised but no honesty there. Just empty apology & lies. No real honest, closure.

Hey diva

Yes, but please, marry your own kind.

@@richricogranada9647 The fuck is wrong with you? Yikes

Lol so true. He's unintentionally funny lool

I agree! I’m in my early 60’s and I find Brian’s information so much more practical and logical than others also. Best of luck to you!

If it triggers his ex it means he is not over her yet. He's still in love with her.

Yep but not how she was at the end, only how she was at the start. He's in love with what they had and he can't let go of the future they planned, even though she was pretty horrible to him for over a year before they split up. But yeah he knows he's not over her, we had long chats about it. He's just very hurt and feels broken. Nothing I can do.

@@robertoliver9585 Hello Robert yes It would nice to talk to someone!

Update: I ignored most advice and trusted my instincts. A little over a month ago was when I decided to give him a sign that I was interested still, despite a month of ghosting from him. I sent him some music because that was our thing when we were together. He liked it and said we should talk and he felt bad about everything, ashamed of his behavior and he missed me so much. He disappeared for days with no word after that because it was the holidays and he has a very demanding job. I got impatient and told him how I felt about literally everything, the budding relationship, the ghosting, ect. That's when he said he got scared by his feelings. He had never experienced anything like that and didn't want to hurt me. So we didn't talk for a month since I posted this comment but I kept getting this feeling that we both were missing out on a great experience with each other. I tried to wait in that month for him to get some courage and reach out to me, because I don't want to be with a cowardly man and decided I would never reach out again and I would fully move on in the new year. Everything else about him is perfect besides that he finds his feelings for me frightening and he can't speak up about them. I focused on letting go and acceptancing of situations beyond my control. It was working but I still couldn't shake thoughts of him completely. My mind was letting go but my body was depressed. I finally reread our last messages and realized it looked like I wanted nothing to do with him. I knew he was thinking he should just leave me alone. So I decided to be crazy once again and message him, possibly scaring him off forever. After all that time of us both not talking to each other, I told him that I wanted to be with him. To my surprise he said he wanted to be with me too and we spent new years eve together. So far things are going strong in the new year. I don't feel attached to him any longer, I no longer feel like I can't live without him. That ghosting period and then that month where we both didn't talk allowed me to come back stronger as the person I want to be. He calls me multiple times a week now and asks to hang out. He tells me how he feels about me constantly. It's only been a week and a half but he seems to like me even more now. And I finally am functioning with logic and have peace and know I'll be fine even if things don't work out. Overall, Knox's over arching message is 100% true. Do not give more than you're getting in any relationship and never allow yourself to feel like you can't live without someone. Leave if your boundaries are being broken and you're being mistreated. I happened to meet a very good guy who checks off all of my boxes and I knew him well enough to know that I unfortunately had to do things a bit differently in my situation than the advice given here, since I knew it best. Maybe compromising on my desire to have the man be more aggressive in the beginning will come back to bite me later. But I know I become more feminine and let men take the lead when we finally get past the fear of confessing our desires to be together, so I'm never aggressive in the actual relationship and I don't have to compromise fully.

@@nonalolagirl I too went through something like this for 2 1/2 years long distance relationship. He’s a lot younger than me. So I chased him. I am very independent woman . So I took the lead . His behavior was very off and he would ghost me . I would ask him about it. He would say I’m not a good man for you blah blah 😒 I’ve realized that I should of have been in my feminine energy and allowed him to chase me and pursued me . Unfortunately I learned this a little too late 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’ve let go and I’m now moving on . Lesson learned. lol 😆 oh well .. lol now I know better .

@@alwaysattractinggreatthings luckily we aren't long distance and we have known/liked each other for 5 yrs before we were ready for each other. It took a breakup for me and him growing into a good, mature man. I guess being a hero in his professional life and some past hurt makes him less aggressive in his romantic life. But I'll suspect I'll get tired and move on if he makes me feel like I have to be the aggressor again. When we're together he's not like that at all. All of the texting when hes on 14hr shifts and when I can't see him for 4 or more days can make things weird from time to time. Luckily things are still good despite the crazy hours. Live and learn for sure 😩 good luck out there. Being an independent woman who wants a partner is tough. I've been single longer than I can count.

Me too in it right now and the slowly disappearing is an awful feeling! I am done no more ever!!! Never!

@@meganruchwatercolors7186 yes, better to focus von ourselves , i showed too much my feelings to him now im going back to focus on myself n know my worth..we deserve someone who value us , i wish you the best 🙌

This! You don’t always need to run in the other direction!

I too found out why a relationship with someone on the rebound was a bad decision. Too many recent reminders of the other person. Healing time was the best love I gave myself. I healed, became emotionally whole, and met my soul mate, also healed and emotionally whole.

I know someone who can help you ☑️

Message him on WhatzApp ☑️

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I hope you are experiencing healing, sorry this happened to you, thank you for sharing

Mines will text me back, which I appreciate him doing, I just hope he keeps it up?

Awww that's so sweet

@@kimgordon3695 Interesting! I've never heard the term limmerence but it was an interesting read! After my comment we actually talked things out, worked on ourselves (and continue to do so) and spend time together to get to relearn things and get to know things about one another instead of being intense like in the beginning. Recently we got together and are very happy. One of the most caring and calming relationships I've been in. It's been a great catalyst for some amazing growth in my life.

Exactly!!

Yes, having a conversation is the ideal constructive part of getting to a solution between two rational people. But it's impossible to have a conversation with a 'ghost' who is boffing someone who is easy.

@@cinnamonparsley6384 Very true. His emotional immaturity is another red flag. A man has to be open to wanting to discuss things if there is to be any growth. I guess in that case he just has to go.

Dear Jacky, I am only responding bcos you specifically requested it. I coincidentally watched this video after going thru a similar situation and I handled it almost 100% as Brian advised but with my own words of course. Relationships could be quiet complicated even with the roght man. And how we handle challenges depends on the context, confidence level and power of communication. You cannot be your fully confident self when you're needy, scared or walking on eggshells in your dealings with men. You should understand that most men are not able to verbally express their feelings/emotions as we women do that is why it seems as if the women are doing most of the heavy lifing in this area. By this I am not referring to men saying a simple 'I love you' when all is going well but more importantly how they express their feelings when things aren't as well. As the woman and the better emotional communicator it's up to you to harness your innate prowess to your advantage. I can't possibly provide you with the exact words you should use in every kind of situation but you can follow a few guidelines or rules. Please let me know if you would want to know