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I have the same thought often. This world is crazy. We should create a wonderful place with just pleasant people. I'm sick of the hurt and the pain.

I want to join this party!!!

Yes imagin us at a work place just working and being kind, showing love and support, no ego and rudness 💔🥺...

I felt that comment!

Exactly why I trust and love no one.

KidCity Lynnwood, Exactly!

Same

Right, Be brave not timid

Being nice when you cant stand up for what you believe is weak, choosing to remain nice despite of being capable to stand up for what you believe is truly strong

Same here, once I get angry they looked shocked, cant believe I can be so aggressive.

metal garurumon Sorry....but, You might have to walk alone!

+K Dub i am always alone. i have to be evil sometimes

metal garurumon you may be a codependent. Was one of your parents unfulfilled and unhappy?

+Colum Nolan what does it mean by codependent? what does it mean by unfullfilled?

metal garurumon codependents are people who were brought up by one or more people that were unhappy or unbalanced or even exposed to a narcissist. Where saying no or disagreeing was not looked upon kindly. Codependency means you were in a relationship where you were dependent on eaxh other to maintain the thing. Unfulfilled.. as in unfulfilled in their life in some way. Thereby taking out their unhappiness on others by forcing them to behave in a certain manner. It is possible to heal from it ☺ just takes time and persistence

SCORPICAL don't change your good heartedness. You're streets ahead of a big portion of the population. So trust in your goodness and trust in your gut feelings and put yourself first. Putting yourself first doesn't mean selfishness it means honoring your needs when you have them. You're a naturally giving person but when you really don't want to do something, don't do it. In your relationships start saying what it is you want. Start simple eg. Going to a movie and your friend says what shall we see, instead of saying I don't mind what we see or something to that effect, pick something. It's about making small steps in expressing 'your choice in things'. You will train yourself bit by bit to express your choices. Just make it a fun exercise and you will get the hang of it. And another thing is you probably don't ask for help much because you are self reliant but start asking for help in small ways. Eg. if something is really heavy to carry and you really would like to have help, don't soldier on. Ask for help. It's too heavy. You need help. End of story. Just by doing these 2 things you will experience more joy and support. People will start to get to know you by your choices but most importantly you will become very self aware of what you need and what makes you happy. You won't be a constant giver but will also receive in life too and this is key to a happier life. Please try these 2 small suggestions they WILL change how you're feeling and you will also keep your beautiful kind heart which is a gift to this world.

SCORPICAL read book by Robert green 48 laws of power first and then how to win and influince poeple by dell carngy

This is soooo me now. I was being too nice as well but it ruined my whole life upto now. Now people think I have changed a lot amd forgot the past even I'm not. But fuck sake, I don't give a shit now. That's old me. Not new me

SCORPICAL I'm 47 I'm just learning this ...im tired of it!!!!!!!!!

SCORPICAL Be kind instead. Always stand your ground.

Sarahjane ~ Ohh, it's on! Yeah! Wait... Is it ok with you if I join in?

Mechelle Huna I feel the exact same way, you are not alone 😤😧

Logan Parks let's just be mean so people would respect us. It's a strange world 😑

Mechelle Huna right!!?? My friends called me fake because I was being nice to someone else and they thought I was ditching them smh

Fucking literally. I hate it

Crazy world. everyone is trying to take advantage of each other. Nice people can’t survive in this. It comes with the agreeableness trait (Jordon Peterson). So this is what I’ve learned to do after having been taken advantage of until my late 20s by my parents, siblings, friends, Work bosses, peers, and even church family (it was a very nasty experience that I let happen multiple times because I was too nice to address the other types of people (“mean people”?) 1) be selfish - think about yourself first, your goals, your desires. As hard as it sounds, remember, the person asking you a favor or taking advantage of you is doing the same thing. 2) solo ride - from a song, it’s just me, myself and I. Don’t relay on anyone, become extremely independent. So when someone flakes on you, your not shipped wrecked because you weren’t relaying on them to be there anyways. 3) push back - no one ever said you have to do something for them. Your not bound by law (unless contracted) or by force. If they try to leverage their friendship, then this is someone who doesn’t care about you or your friendship. Distance yourself from them, and research narcissistic and manipulative traits. 100% guarantee they are using these strategies against you. Red Flag! Get away from them or emotionally distance yourself. Also (3A) grow some teeth, people learn behavior modification. When they feel you have some teeth and will standup for yourself, they will realize they can’t push you around anymore and will go find some other weaker being to manipulate and take advantage of. Be careful and realize they will try to pin this on you and say you are mean or rude in order to justify to themselves and the group that your friendship is no longer worth it, ( they will even “gaslight” you to do this). Cover your ass by having things in writing (email or text) when appropriate and or voice recording (app on your phone). Crazy, I know, but these little basters are even crazier and the only way to expose them and up them, is to think even crazier. Know their tricks so well that you can use them against them. And then be nice to people who are really worth it and that you are able to get something in return for (1=1, not 1=0). BONUS: realize it’s terribly hard to find honest, loyal and trustworthy people in the world, in your life. If you find them, hold on to that friendship, and if they are that kinda of special, marry them.

This happened to me yesterday. Not sure what will happen. Time will tell.

Rose J. Not vary often because people know if there taking the piss and if you don't let them there attitude changes

I think we should be benevolent and helpful and not nice.

A Keeper Of Odd Knowledge word!

Well said.

Epic!! :)

Dang! I'm so using that response. I hate it when I say 'no' to pushy, overbearing people and then get that question, 'why?' Often times that makes me feel so uncomfortable that I will say, "yes" so as not to come off as mean. People have been telling me that I'm too nice since I was little.

Thank you for sharing

Ambriel Apps I do like your perception, this is exactly how I feel: Unfortunately, my kindness is not always welcomed and my character and strength is often undermined. Some even consider me as a narcissistic people pleaser, yet I'm not, I'm simply genuinely kind, it's how I was brought up. Today, I often feel out of place.

mrebholz Thanks for your opinion and exchange. Yes, the few people on this planet, like you and me, are often misunderstood or very wrongly interpreted. That's due to their faulty education, society, and later distorted viewpoints. For us, it's challenging to keep in track, and often very difficult to cope with the harshness and extreem unkindness between humans, but this also enables us to spiritually evolve and to show others that true kindness is possible and not wrong! 😉😏 You know who you are and what your are doing is good. Just be careful not to go too far in giving, (I know that's hard, and contrary to your nature, but boundaries are vital), nor to loose yourself in other peoples perverted way of being. Always ground yourself to Mother Earth, and be blessed by the Celestial White Light of God's Universe. 😊 Peace. 😙

It's fake when you don't feel like being nice, but you are. Someone steps on your shoe and you smile and say thank you, that's fake.

No one is being nasty, they just hate the good for the sake of the good, but not being nasty to them doesn't work, I will be mean for your own good, I will be mean because it saves you from the mess you're in. I will kick ass being a gentleman and make it cool again. :)

This is why I can truly say I trust Nobody

This is also why I will be mean to my mother, being polite but mean, and unfriendly. :) I will use bad manners by being polite, no more good manners, my niceness is what people use to abuse me. I will be outraged at an ultimatum, I will not agree and say yes anymore! I will be mean and say fuck you and justify my moral behaviour. :)

Summer Time yep

I still haven't learned 😧

I know you feel sorry for them, so you over help.

xrayiiis I used to feel sorry for them, not anymore, they have systematically tried to dismantle my life too many times.

Empathy is useless when sympathy controls .

Raleisha Guallaz Agreed.

Sam Ann kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jJ99Zrlz1qvGlZ8.html this compliments the video here very well, imo.

Remnant Soldier great point 😊

PlusHeight4PlusGut yeah man. You nailed it

PlusHeight4PlusGut I'm going through it right here with you. I decided tonight's the night I cut contact. Narcs are what they are and as you know, they don't give a fuck about you. You need to start giving a fuck about YOU. I hope you can find peace. Stay strong.

Of course it's also possible that you are arrogant, so if others don't agree with your "constructive criticism" you can't stand it. You have to right to say whatever, and others also have the right to reject it.

Most monarchs are narcissists. That's the only way they are not gonna kill or demote you.

I was talking about the original commenter, not monarchs

clear mist you've already got the base of his point, then. It is more genuinely nice to tell someone yes when you want to, for example. But a lot of people feel obligated (myself included) and take on more than they can actually handle. That's the "nice" he's talking about.

Ink C, yeah, but I feel like a lot of times, this slight sacrifice can be useful or not that bad. Meaning, in life we have to sometimes deal with people and you can't really change the situation, so it really doesn't matter what you are. Being assertive doesn't make that much of a difference, so you just go through the motions. I guess what I mean is that that extra "sacrifice" is not really that much of a sacrifice. The other side to this is that if you're constantly worried about ever displaying any sort of weakness of any kind, you might get yourself into fights that are just not worth getting into. Often times, if you're just dealing with someone that you just see every once in awhile (at a workplace, school) or that you're never gonna see again (public place), it's almost always best to just avoid or be nice or just escape. Now, on the other hand, if you're dealing with someone toxic in your life or someone that you have to be around, and it turns into an abusive situation, then yes that can be a case where you have to stand up or just cut off ties with that person or continue to avoid.

Zack Watkins ... any advice or tips?

Zack Watkins lol. How did you get out of it

Zack Watkins in the process need help...

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J.B STYLEZ kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jJ99Zrlz1qvGlZ8.html this compliments the video here very well, imo.

good luck

You need to find a way to maintain your values while protecting yourself. Nothing wrong with being caring and kind, but you also need to adapt to this changing world.

s mc Same!!! It's on them how I have to defend myself from them. And they're too ignorant to even see that.

be nice to yourself first

john bines kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jJ99Zrlz1qvGlZ8.html this compliments the video here very well, imo.

@@angebrowne1730 Thank you

Gmail 1 Q. What is a SAP ❓

mrebholz... it's an insult, a derogatory term meaning a gullible person. It also has a backronym, "Sad and Pathetic". I disagree with the assessment.

Tom Upton Hey there beautiful person. I know it's not a thing....I said it was a "great " word. Much love and God bless. Sam 7 x