True

true

Exactly right....👍👍👍 The choice is yours .

Exactly. Knowing which one is “better” is meaningless and lacks purpose, because you could always go from single to married or from married to single

The world is yours 🌎 life is what you make it

Facts and women now a days want so much when they give back so little

@@dogeofamp6037 Yeah bro just a piece of double sided meat

@@dogeofamp6037 bruh u give in 95% effort and she put in 2% ,and still complaining about how u treated them and such hahahahah the irony

@@jonathanwilliams365 true

Amen

That's for sure.

That's how I felt like too when I was married for six years. My ex-wife verbally abuised me to the point where I asked myself "Why am I doing this?" No matter how ard I tried and what I did, my ex-wife always said something negative about me to make me feel like I'm worthless. After our divorce, I rediscovered my worth and I've been much happier ever since. I'm just so glad we never had any children. So, I agree with you 100%.

Same here

@@chrisconsorte7893. After reading about your experience! THANK GOD YOU NEVER HAD CHILDREN WITH HER!!! Otherwise, you'd be F**ked for life!👍💯✨

I could have written your comments as well.

in elementary school we learn FACT vs OPINION so who's to determine AND/OR say whether these things are true false AND/OR neutral SERIOUSLY and before covid we had 7.6 BILLION people so life as a WHOLE still VARIES ALL in ALL SERIOUSLY why wouldn't it

What in the heck are you talking about? Your keyboard is going out; the CAPS get stuck on some words, but only in sentences that makes no sense and contain no punctuation.@@youtuber3328

I'm failing to see that any of these "reasons?" are exclusive from a state of marriage. 1. This, you can do whether married or not. 2. Would a wife, and potentially children, not be family? 3. Why would you not want to do the things that are incumbent upon a partner? I suppose you could just marry a housekeeper and give her children to keep her too busy to complain, but really? 4. A wife can bring her own resources, look, a single income for younger people is pretty meager, you can handle the bills, but not much more, at least until you've developed your career and start making much better income. But a wife can bring that income level up much sooner, and together, you can either get out of debt or better yet, never have to go into debt. Debt is what makes a bright future look unattainable, it's to be avoided, seriously. A Minor loan is something you can get beyond without real trouble, be serious debt, a mortgage, new car loans, student loans, etc. these are the chains of modern slavery. Look, a relationship that falls apart, that's hard, I don't know very many people who have never experienced it. But it's not a universal constant that all relationships are doomed. I've been married 40 years, own two houses and never carried a mortgage. The first one took work, but once we had that one licked, the next one was easy, and I've easily got the funds to buy a third with more left over. I've just learned that I don't want to be renting any longer so as I retire soon, when my current renter moves out, I'll sell that place, and use that money along with investment funds to buy a retirement place, move to it, and sell my current place to replenish my investment funds. I'm not some super successful business owner, nor is my wife, we didn't hit it big with crypto. We both had modest careers and avoided any serious debt, and major health issues as that can also make life difficult. We raised kids, bought cars, sent them to school, etc, and you could say that we made the American Dream work, that would be fair. But you can't do that giving away 20% of what you earn to interest on debt, not every month for your entire life, you can't do it. Debt kills dreams, ruins marriages, and blinds people to reality, because once they are in deep, they can't even see a way out, and they can't see a path to a future that is free of those chains. You walk away from debt, everything else is possible, even a lasting relationship and the American Dream, opportunity, not 2.3 kids and a house in the suburbs, opportunity is and always was the American Dream. But you can't have it when you're chained down under crushing debt. Slay the right dragon friends, I wish you well.

Well, let's keep the format going; it works. You are using the term "wife" exclusively, as though everyone needs one. It is possible the person who wrote the list is female and she may not want a wife. The author could also be a gay man, who would also not relate to having a wife. You did say partner once, so you're getting there. 1. This, you can do whether married or not. - No, you can't. The very term "marriage" negates that possibility. You are incorrect and illogical. Marriage and solitude do not mix. 2. Would a wife, and potentially children, not be family? - No, not in the meaning that was given. They were referring, or eluding to an existing family, not making one. Married people do lose friends. 3. Why would you not want to do the things that are incumbent upon a partner? - Why would anyone want to? For the same reason I feel the same way. I don't want to and neither does the author. I would ask, Why have a partner? But that is rhetorical since that is your argument. We are not like you. 4. A wife can bring her own resources.... - If you think that is a reason to have a relationship, then that would explain your overwhelming obsession with debt. But the author may have particular resources they might want to share with a variety of people, for only one instance. Maybe they don't need extra resources. You: it's not a universal constant that all relationships are doomed. - No one said anything about a prior relationship or any doom; those are your assumptions (or experiences). I'm single because I want to be; I enjoy it and it is my preference. We are different. There is no indoctrinating me into a lifestyle I am not comfortable with, anymore than I can convince you out of whatever it is you like. I share the same opinions and lifestyle as the author you responded to, and your lifestyle is in direct conflict with that. With the exception of extra resources (maybe), everything else on the list is exclusive to non-married people, as the author pointed out. Bear in mind, some people come with less resources than others, unless that is a prerequisite for you, and sounds like it is. The original author is correct. Being married to anyone would make #1, #2, and #3 impossible. @@piperp9535

@@floridaredneck Perhaps we're just different, perhaps someone else will find value in my comments.

😂

Yes because you spend time with the *same* person.

HAHAHAHA

Hahhaaa... this is so funny😂😂

Lol

+1

Great stuff.

Totally

I’m in an arranged marriage

@@mjolninja9358 well, is that a right or wrong reason for you?

They want you to suffer like them that's why

Sucks to be them! You go my brother in singlehood!

As long as you have friends in your life, it really does not matter if you have never married. In fact, you can do mostly everything with a friend that you would do with a spouse or a lover. The only difference is that you are with a friend because you both want to be together. With a spouse, you have made a legal commitment to be with them, even if you don’t want to. You have made a legal obligation.

Try this out, works every time. Ask the same person today, "Why did you get married"? Then, wait a few days, a week or just a great time and ask, "Why are you married"? I'll bet you anything the answers will not be the same. If someone asks me why I'm not married, I say, "Cause I'm not jumping in the fire just because you did".

You're not "an oddball." You're a good man that would rather work and improve upon himself instead of being codependent and in a relationship that doesn't suit you. Those "friends" aren't worthy of your time.

Same here, it can be very liberating, if you're not the type to get lonely!

It's good I realised this at 23

Sometimes it takes the experiences you've been through in order to help undo the programming our society has instilled through the generations. I'm in my 40s and have been happily in the single flow for about 6 years. I wish I would have known this earlier in my life but the bombardment of family, societal and media pressure brainwashed me into thinking marriage and kids are what is normal and natural. The desire to be a single and child free person was seen as weird, suspicious or "a loser in life". I think when some people get divorced, the shame of those labels from society is worse than the actual end of the relationship. I think the tide is changing now and more people are seeing how being single can be a sign of strength, confidence, maturity, humbleness, creativity, freedom, etc., etc.

@@coolbreeze5683 You do?

Dude I know you I was married for 25 years to a lazy bitch drama going on person

And, so True!

Many people don't understand that. I think there are a lot of introvert who are single. I've never married & love every minute of my life.

@@carolmiller5713 I'm not an introvert and I was at one time (long ago) married. Actually I think introvert is a misconception for a lot of people who embrace solitude.

@@captbosco Except introvert is, by definition, person who gains energy being alone.

@@carolmiller5713 There's not just one way to be an introvert, rather there are four shades of introversion: social, thinking, anxious, and restrained. And many introverts are a mix of all four types, rather than demonstrating one type over the others.Aug 25, 2020

Well said friend. I agree completely

Yeah. I remind myself of this if I ever feel desperate, and just embracing that feeling as OK, you realize it's actually not gonna do anything, it's more about you giving it the negative judgment and saying, I can't feel lonely, I need someone.

This shit, right here. +1

@@Dezzyyx Spot on man! So true 🌱

@@GamerSix66 So important...

Who said being single means you have to be alone all the time? Make friends and maintain platonic relationships

Bad take. You should do better.

What a bunch of bs

Lol that's why you get a dog. Problem solved.

OK. @ William77511

Thank you for your comment specifically 🙏

How did u gain self esteem

Same here. How did you gain self esteem?

Thats the thing. So many arent happy or fulfilled within thenselves and seek that from others...that doesnt work. Single people need to find peace and contentment and happiness within themselves before even contemplating marriage. A marriage can be healhty only if both parties are fine being on their own and happy within themselves.

How did you get that self estil. I Really need it now

Lmfao

Life is guaranteed unhappiness

The same thing here. They are in a constant war.

That is a waste of existence..i wish atleast they are just friends

You not lying 😏

Depends on a distraction, really. If its something truly meaningful, it may keep your attention away from those problems youve got

@@zdzistrix ?? Are you 12? Relationships are outdated? Never had a girl? Jesus

Correct...get to the core.

Absolutely 💯

YES. I would also add do not do drugs, alcohol , junk food , gambling or digital adictions.

you’re happy being alone, Jenny? Until something happens in your life where you wish you had someone there in your corner. But hey you’re happy being alone and that’s exactly how you’ll die. Wow what a great life you lived.

​@@JP-cb8bzJust how do you mean that to her?

THANKS YOU GOODNESS 🌟 DAPHNE COTTON ALWAYS 💜

@@daphnerodriguez9980 Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child. 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons. John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind. What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.” We start feeling lonely, because we are on our own, lonely comes not from BEING ALONE. We all suffer of something and as we like “diagnoses” then lets diagnose ourselves: too often in the company of people, leading us to fear ALONE TIME, which each soul needeth. The cure for all of our problems are: ALONE TIME AND BIBLE. Hollywood has teached us how to live and love, way too long, lets risk with all that we have and give chance to GOD through His word. KJV Bible says; Matthew 6:31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? Luke 12:22 And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on. Matthew 6:25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?

That would be great, but just live life without worrying about what is/isn’t accepted in society. It’s pretty refreshing.

@@generalkenobi2088 yes i do, but there are tangible factors that put you at a disadvantage when you belong to stigmatized group. People make assumptions about you, single people earn less in the workplace, you get treated unfairly, etc...

ive always been single and never stigmatized, also because the number of singles, like it or not, is increasing in most of the countries. And it seems they re not so desperate. Where do u live?

@@micheladerry5681 i liv in Seattle. Yes the numbers of singles are growing, but there still is the stigma man. You can't deny the stigma still exists, even in the most liberal of cities. And Seattle is among the most blue of all the cities in the world. We still got a ways to go. I'd say we won't fully get rid of the stigma until the number of adults in their 30s and older outnumber the number of those in relationships ( 30s and older)

@@micheladerry5681 and the reason i say 30 and older is because people who are single in their young years aren't really stigmatized nearly as much as adults in their 30s+. Once you turn 30, your parents, your grandparents, your aunt's, uncles, cousins, friends who have kids, etc., all start asking you about when you're gonna settle down. As if you're incomplete without a partner.

For guys not for girls

Ahahahah that's funny but true. Tho I feel like the pleasure one can get from love is a lot. I am single but I don't despise short term love. It's exciting!

Arthur was a pessimist. He didn't have philosophy on anything that wasn't doom.

@@m916c OH, cry me a river. Are the big bad girls pushing you around and beating up on you (fat lip emoji)?

@@JaysonT1 no they are getting away with possessions they have not earned through divorce settlements. Read between the lines you dunce

Well I guess God is doing me a favor by making my current boyfreind dump me and giving him a woman better than me......even though it hurts I better thank the Almighty because I will be free from anxiety over this relationships. Relationships stress me out too much. I hate them now. I'd rather be single again. They never work out in my favor anyways. God and satan always sabotages them in the blink of an eye. Yay to singleness for life.

You speak truth!

but most of famous people are in a relationship.

@@okkyadit2 and so ?

It’s a partnership they are not happy at all if you pay attention to social media and all these celebrities either they are divorce going threw things or single.

Peace of mind is priceless I agree with all you said but it's easier said than done. Sometimes we may want to have a romantic partner that joins us in our endeavours and listens to us when we need attention . From my own experience that's when feelings of loneliness appear and the longer we feel it the worse they get All the best

Agree. Peace of mind is the secret treasure❤.

@@Jorge.1419 I brainwashed myself to sexual neutrality lol ☠️. It was a long process though

Agreed. Nothing else is worth it.

@@user-kr5gs6zc7w are female or male?

I mostly agree. But I also think that having bad friends and broken family members can add more stress to your life than they’re worth. I love being mostly alone, and I don’t miss the drama

Pet bereavement is utterly brutal.

Very true. A woman was weeping to me recently, saying she didn't know how she'd survive because of her dying dog!

There's a saying that 'You have to learn & be comfortable by yourself first before you can be with others'

@@JTL664 Yes!

👍x1000

People know that. The thing is, probably most lonely people are the one who's alone. We are social animals in the end

Yeah, both mean single, but lonely means not being fine with it, despising it. Currently i'm single and looking for someone but at the same time i realize that i don't "need" them, i just want them (as an option).

@@ghardy2922 I know we are social animals (sometimes)but I don’t think you need to be in a relationship to be social and I’m sure you can be lonely in a relationship.and most people don’t know how to be alone

@@spiritea5640 Not true loneliness. Just the fact you say that makes it obvious you cant even comprehend how devastating true loneliness can be. I wouldnt wish true loneliness on my worst enemy its like someone is stabbing your organs from inside sometimes you always feel like you are not whole.

Oh my girl did I write that comment through someone else?

They are the selfish ones, not you. Having children is immoral.

@@truthserum5855 true

People having to reproduce on an overpopulated planet with so many orphaned children out there just because they feel the need to pass on their dna is selfish. Do whatever makes you happy.

I'm a guy and you just described my life

;-)

Pickachu 🤣

Pikachu*

Pikachu pika pika chuuuu

lolol wtf

Schizoids are perfectly happy being completely alone, without friends or family or any other relationships.

no one should be alone or aim to stay alone with no friends or family, it's not what humans were built for

I'm alone and single, except for my dog. People are shit, at this point. I'd rather it be this way.

brutally true

Life is not easy depending on whether or not you are alone. It is easier if you’re with the right people and harder if you’re not. And yes, that includes the wrong kinds of friends and family members. People need socialization, but not necessarily friends, and even not necessarily family, if they are bad people, even if it means being without long-term relationships. Because being afraid of being alone will only make you more vulnerable to the wrong type of people.

🤡

Until you have a medical condition and you need somebody to be there and there’s no one there because you chose to be by yourself so then life gets way harder for you and you wish you weren’t single anymore.

​@@JP-cb8bzyes, yes, of course, get married so you'll have someone to spoon feed and take you to the bathroom.

Unforrunately,being engaged with someone does not guarantee that he/she will be with you if serious medical troubles occur.​@@JP-cb8bz

I tried them both. Even child. Single now. Forever.😎

@@JP-cb8bz that's not a good reason to seek a relationship

56% marriage end up in divorce, 80% of divorce is initiated by women, men suicide rate is much higher than women, out of 1000 men only 6.5 men is getting married. So never make women the highest priority in life. Invest your time and energy in building up your career, job, money, health, friends relatives etc.

@@De-tw7by then why build up a career or other goals Individuals build their lives to show off thats in their nature Its highly unlikely that a person grows and shows off other aspects of his life and not tend to grow in romantic arenas He will eithers its all in or all out in my humble opinion!

There's also the added benefit of having all of your resources for yourself. You can spend your money and your time how you want, and there is no one in your corner to make fun of your efforts or to tell you that what you're pursuing is wrong. Some people even see single people making a good income and call it selfish. Its called investing in the future, because we may not always be healthy or able to work. There also always seems to be a stigma against people doing better than another person. Just because someone prospers or is happy, that doesn't mean that there is less for others.

48 year female here...single two years.. I hear yo vibe!

Nietzsche quoted that lol

Nice. Thank you

It's already in description with timestamps.

@@hakimdiwan5101 I wrote this for myself. For myself as notes as this video is something I really need to survive on a daily basis. I need it as reminders and am sure the purpose behind this youtuber’s attempt is also to help people who are dealing with this issue . And not everyone goes to description. I’m a huge fan of this channel and big supporter. My comment wasn’t a snide one but for help.

@@Zoya194 Oh alright.

I already am single but just wanted to watch this to make sure if i'm doing the wrong thing. (Spoiler alert: i'm not)

I'm 75 and though I've had a few long term relationships I never married. I am familiar with those romantic CYCLES. I really enjoyed the liking and the getting to know you phases. In a happy world ppl would stop after the getting to know you phase and get up from the table, shake hands and then RUN. Away not to.

It is man. The best stage is ofc the getting to know stage, only because y’all both know y’all are into each other and there are little to no problems. But once y’all are comfortable, watch out the problems are there! Super exhausting cycle. Being a loner can be horrible at times, but it’s better than being mis treated by the wrong person. Protect your feelings and keep your head high! 👑

That happens in lust not in true love, wait until you find your soulmate...

well said. and no heartache!

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You can’t be selfish to something or a situation that isn’t in your life. It’s your life to live, don’t live it through what other’s expect of you.

There is nothing wrong about caring and helping yourself out. Im selfish too ❤❤❤

then stay single

You enjoy being single because you're smart.

Keep on rocking that authenticity! For me, I've had such a crappy childhood that I'm determined to dedicate the rest of my life to celebrating youthfulness. I want to be able to come home drunk from the club and pass out in the middle of my living room floor, or hit a morning dab in my kitchen before heading out to work, and NOT be judged as a terrible person for not taking better care of my children. Plus, being single doesn't have to mean not still finding pleasure in the company of others. It just ultimately allows us to embrace the alone time and honor ourselves rather than submit to the expectations of a stupid and shallow society. Cheers to you, Princess Bittercup!

You are correct. You can do whatever you damn please and don’t have to answer to anyone.

@@frederickrapp5396 you don’t have to wait for anyone, no one has to be worried about you and you don’t have to worry about anyone. It’s darn peaceful.

That's definitely the best part.

People who are afraid to be single, are the ones who are in a mental state of depression, always being dependant on others and never have faith in themselves, thats why they create fear as an excuse

If you were perfectly happy being single then WHY did you marry? Obviously you knew somewhere within, the happiness of being with someone

It's the society what makes you believe you need someone else to be happy.

@@freeman405 yes I agree, to a large extent this has always been the " norm" but at the same time look at this.. society thru tv, media, and of course social media has now been making giving up on love and not making the effort and sacrifices it requires the new " cool"..it's why so many relationships don't make it 6 months, cuz media, social programs (for females) and a million other outlets make relationships and marriages seem disposable throw away things so people get lazy and don't try

@@brandonnguyen9555 what you said is something that making me think now. Thanks for sharing ur thoughts

But you still get to interact with women right?

I've been single all my life (by choice) I've listened to complaining, worrying, tears & divorce from friends. Not sorry I missed it.

@@carolmiller5713 not only that but think about all the "married" people who are sexless or even sleep in different beds 🤷🏽‍♂️

Yes. Never been in a relationship (I'm glad I'm not in a toxic one) but my parents do have a toxic married life.

@@dallasmedic Right? I have friends like that. I guess if you like them as roommates, but I'd rather live alone.

then please tell me why are CERTAIN relationships so long and successful

​@youtuber3328 I think there's several factors. It could be the way they were raised. Some people are really into keeping their families together, they will keep it going no matter what. Sometimes it's trauma from their upbringing that pushes them to stay. It could be financial stability, or it could be societal pressures, there's so many factors at play. I don't think it's one specific thing, just my thoughts.

@@youtuber3328 Because some people realize emotions come and go and successful relationships are built on trust, empathy, kindness, etc. Yes chemicals like oxytocin are good for bond forming and if you use it too much it might affect it but if you realize these things you can have a successful relationship imo.

After 3 times... Who cares? 😮

How you afford to live? 🤨 These streets are expensive nowadays

You sum it up nicely.

I agree

I'd even go as far as to say if you have deep widom inside you and you're not fighting for very basic survival needs you'll also be really happy.

I don't have friends yet :(

@Casual Scum Get a second job, namely the job of finding another job or exploring new lifestyles. Otherwise, you could die young and unhappy.

It's as if I just read my own post.

The way of the samurai.

I am independent and enjoy my solitude.But still likes to do travelling with decent and interesting people. Covid made it very difficult ...

@@logosoni7119 the way of the ronin. I have no masters.

and do you expect this "love that might happen again" to drop outta nowhere as with the "flow of life" 🤔 seems like you're just waiting for a timer to run out

"Stacking my money" 🤣. Agree with most of what you said.

I hear you! I saved up a bunch of money, bought a home a few weeks back and am redoing the front and back yard. I'm adding a ton of different fruit trees, cacti, palm tree, roses, a succulent and grass garden. It'll be my own little paradise. Would not have been possible if I was chasing tail.

@@thedude8526 glad to hear it

100% Agreed, except the money part, LOL.

100% this 👍🏻

Good for you bro .

Respect.

Sigma -Balls- Male moment

Exactly

Even if anyone want sex, there is always sex workers if there is urges, it is not that hard. If people want serious relationship then sure go for it. It is clinging onto ideals that is the cause of sufferings.

wow, cool story, cheers!

in elementary school we learn FACT vs OPINION so who's to say ad/or determine these things ESPECIALLY with PROBABLY 7.2 BILLION people in the ENTIRE world and life still VARIES ALL in ALL SERIOUSLY why wouldn't it ESPECIALLY with PROBABLY 7.2 BILLION people

Don't sign anything.

Right

Yea bro I told this to my cousin. Most relationships end with someone getting hurt, then you can’t eat sleep or do anything cuz it brings you pain etc. Fr I don’t have time for that shit or to be worried about another person.

Don't be afraid... even if you get hurt, it will only prepare you mentally! Love is a wonderful thing even with pain

Gab hug maybe you are too trusting

@gab hug Monster bean

@@ermerijc5398 Only good if it's not from an abusive or manipulative partner

Am in Colombia right now. I agree wholeheartedly with you.

I agree! I watch all of my married friends in miserable marriages. I never married, I also travel and do things that I want to do. Living freely = happiness.

With All those hookers over there it's impossible to be unhappy as a single man haha

But what about when you get older and vulnerable. Wouldnt you need a spouse and your children to be by your side?

@@adibzouak6106 That’s never guaranteed. I know people who are widowed and their children don’t speak to the remaining parent.

Am your age ! I had the same issue with my sister after my dad died - luckily I had another house to go back to 🙂....and never returned

Having a stressfull job + a toxic wife at home is a killer combination.

Well said! That’s what I live by

That's exactly how I view it. I see enough faces, I hear enough gossip at work. When I get home, I can look forward to peace and quiet, with some low music in the background. THERE'S NO PLACE LIKE HOME!

I'm so sorry you went through that. Women can be devilish. I'm currently going through it. Hope i can escape her before its too late

Me too

I agree.

This is the healing part. Once you get through it. Nothing can stop you.

Keep pushing.. let them go. .. focus on MONEY

All this philosophy and yall normies cant find someone to be happy with. You should all read Industrial Society and its Future.

Man, you said it.

You don't depend on anyone for anything?? That's self centered nonsense. No one lives in a vacuum. You depend on other people for almost everything you have in your life. You wouldn't have a house, car, phone, internet connection, food, clothes, and the thousands of other things/products you use if it weren't for other people. Human beings are social animals, we have a fundamental need to be connected to and share life experiences with family, friends...

@@joli395 So you make money out of thin air? Another person pays you or you charge someone a fee for a service. Financially speaking, you're not in a vacumm either. If you have your own business, you depend on your customers, otherwise you don't have a business. The whole 'I dont depend on anyone for anything' talk is newthink nonsense.

Agreed do what makes you happy don’t change a thing ❤️❤️❤️

@@lululestat Don't change a thing= have no accountablility for anything you say or do. If your parents were as selfish as people like you, you wouldn't even be alive to give your opinion in the first place.

Stop lying to yourself and others. You're not independent from anything, you deluded feminist. Making your own money doesn't make you 'independent and strong', it's make you a functioning adult. Do you work for a company? If so, you depend on that company (other people) for your income. Do you work for yourself? If so, you depend on other people (your customers) for income. Enjoying your own company is one thing but claiming you 'don't need anyone for anything' is utter nonsense.

We need to learn from that

Good for you!! Being in a relationship is overrated!!

Me too. My last relationship ended (completely) Dec 2020 and my life long struggle with anxiety is gone. Calm and happy is my daily mood even when things go wrong at work. I can deal with a problem and move on not making it a big deal. Sweet sweet relief!

Wow.... you should have watched the redpill when you were 20, now you live the life of regret, I hope the afterlife is a better one...

You hit the nail on the head

Amen

AMEN, AMEN, AMEN!!

Exactly! Well put!

But...that view doesn't make good clickbait titles on youtube

What if I’m not happy regardless?

What's the norm. I read some that the new norm was first used after WW1 that's the thing with the norm it always changes

But than also goes against the thing about being unique

@@ddsjgvk Talk to people around you and live your life, then you will know the norm.

Celibate 3 years myself. It's kept me out of trouble being as selective as possible or just living my life as it comes to me not worrying about jumping into any kind of physical relationship. Not absolutely necessary.

Western society and tradition and the sheer false obligation to follow these dictates is the source of most people’s suffering. Amazing to me how some people never went think to question these things. Amazing.

Wow that's awesome. I find your story to be rather inspirational in all seriousness. I'm 20 and spent most of my early teen years complaining about single. Since then though staying single has allowed me to find my main passion in life and do other fun things that I receive absolute happiness from. I find your story inspirational because to me it just goes to show life can be enjoyable without someone else, you can find out more about yourself/what you want out of life, and just because you don't have a partner earlier in life isn't a bad thing either. I'd want a relationship eventually but it's never something I'd force on myself

@@BrandonJFlores I'm glad you found it inspiring. Go out into the world and enjoy! Learn awesome hobbies, learn about yourself, find your love (if you want that) through self-love.

@Elma Kano Prieto Go to bed. You're obviously too young to be able to engage in mature discussion. Run along now.

@@helenaville5939 did you just assume they age??? 😳 WOW! 😂

👏🏻💙🦋

+1

Now that is the truth.

So true, you should be able to be happy by yourself. If you need someone else to feel happy, it means that you lack something.

Ai ai sir

What if you can't find happiness in being in a relationship will you find happiness being single. What if happiness isn't related to happiness directly

ive never spent money to date, what kind of partners did u date?

@@micheladerry5681 No. I don't like dating women. I'm not dating any of them. I don't like to spend money and buy women needed. I know women are toxic and gold diggers. I'm 34 years old and have not been a gf since birth. Being single is better and I'm happy to spend of time with my family and friends than having a girlfriend. So freaking stressful.

Humans are social beings, wanting to be alone means you had some form of trauma in your childness and feeling safer being alone means you only try to avoid the experience you had or you saw some bad experiences of others and you are afraid of getting those experiences like them. The modern culture had succesfully divided this social need with people feeling safer alone with internet entertaining/porn/sharing content with other people alone, remote at home. Most alone people still have the need to be with someone who accept them for who they are and being confortable with them, but they are just avoid every chance to even try to talk with others...because they think they will be rejected anyway. The truth...it happens...people get rejected, bullied or harassed, and after this trauma people try to accept their situation and try to logic their isolation as something that is better for them than trying again to talk with other people. After a point...this is untreatable, and there is no poing going back after spending decades of social isolation, it would be probably too hard to get back into the social ground unless...by luck you meet THE ONE person that has the same vibe as you and you WILL talk with eachother it being friendship or relation..if it happens...you will see what you missed..and..yea.. Basically being alone for some people is good, but most people are social so they feel better talking with other people(that accept them for who they are) because this is the principal trait of human beings, sociability.

The reason why modern society became "modern society" was because of the family unit. Nomadic loners wandering around like a dumbass never contributed to a civilised society. Not hard to understand.

No

Agree👍👍me too Im 29 yrs old now and im so very happy to be a single

@@bernagordon5637 You never need permission to do anything. even if it's nothing

@@Magnetron33 oh ok😁

Well, honestly, I'm single but I'll do my best to find some short term love. I'm not good in relationships but I wanna learn.

@@lucaseverini2002 The problem with STL is it may become LTL. Therein lies the danger. Romantic love is a wonderful thing until the expiration date shows up. Good Luck with that!

5!!!!!! We live in a sick world. I loved being married in beginning. I’d do it again in a heart beat if we had the ability to make sure we knew their intentions of not using us or treating me like arm candy! Never marry again. One was a enough! Not sure I’ll date.

what do you mean number 5 ? people won't respect you when you are single

@@Portia620 I agree. I used to love being marry, until I lose trust on anyone, especially love. The reason is family problems, toxic friends, my anxiety. Bsides I never had a crush on anyone before, and I dont mind being single 👌

Ideally, you wouldn't have to go to places you don't want or do things you don't want in a relationship either. No respectful partner would make you do those things. Sure, people can be dishonest & disrespectful, but they can also be generous and helpful. I have no idea what your 4th statement means, but there's pros and cons to everything. Being single can suck just as much sometimes.

6) no need to interact with the partner's relatives and friends out of respect for the partner. (sometimes people force themselves to interact with their own relatives out of respect but both cases are not healthy, if you want to avoid it is already a sign that won't be good for you somehow)

You wrote what I was thinking, and put it more clearly.

Great point.

You’re very wise for your years!

Ayyy, same

That's really relatable. 🤝🏼

Same here, Its a single thing

hey LOGAN!!!!! go chek a video out from Joyamina (that cute gal with an awesome accent)....she has a video out about "walking away from a girl"......I had a problem since April and when I saw this tonight.....I probably could have my head up and walk into the shop.

I'm 21 years old. My parents suspected I have autism since I was a kid, but it was never diagnosed, to this day. I also feel lonely sometimes and feel the need to have a girlfriend

Im Sorry For My Comment Earlier About Women Im Just Upset

But I Know I've Got No Need To Apologise

@@comfortable_eastyes it maybe bias to say that it is better to be single just because I came out of a toxic relationship. But I what I mean is for the mean time, its like a breathe of fresh air when you've realized that you were in a really degrading relationship and you need a break alone with yourself to reflect everything why it has came to that point

I just came out of a toxic relationship and I miss her terrible

Dude I feel you. I'm 42 and was in a 8 year. I miss the body but not Werth trading in my peace and quiet. I just finished building a 3k surround sound system. Life is good.

I am so jealous kinda haha. Yea i got cheated on just because she felt i wasnt "paying enough attention" to my ex fiancee. I was just playing games, sleeping or watching shows when i am not with her. Every waking moment i was driving her to work, taking care of her meals, being nice to her, help her at her busniess and console her when she have night terror. She even scratch me in the middle of the night lol. Not a single shred of gratitude for what i did and went fuck around with guys. I cant do anything without her planning, every move i made was a mistake and i didnt earn enough money lol. Essentially she just wanted control to mold me into what she wants. I honestly am so much more productive and happier now without he meddling. Anger havent left me though. It sucks when people keep taking and feels entitled about what they should recieved. You are very lucky my friend. I wasted 7 years with a person that keep sucking and cheated on me and hurt me in the end. Einzelganger video kinda save me lol. I hope you can keep being that way in your relation and all the best! I wish to find someone that respect me too! Your story does inspire me. Thank you for sharing!

@@lukelim5094 hope you’ll be able to heal your wounds and keep on becoming a better person for yourself

Thank you for sharing. Relationships can be wonderful but I think a big problem that, unlike @Notimortant, people expect their significant other to fill a hole in themselfs that can be filled by another person, a need for self love. I think the issue these days isnt that marrage is bad or outmoded its that their is a shocking amount missunderstanding or underpersuing of self love. It sounds like the two of you have enough self love to not expect another to try and fill that need. I think its often a case that we modern people fear loneliness more than love to love the other. If the love comes from an expectation to fill a personal need that with some effort can be given to oneself is it really love? Either way it sounds like you got a great thing. I will say, Don't forget to tell eachother just how grateful you are for your relationship at its core love is an appreciation a gladness, a gratitude, that the other person place or thing exists regardless of what they do for you in return. Best to you and yours.

That's true goals! Congratulations to you two!

That's the way. Live your own lives together. The moment you rely on anyone, including your spouse/partner, to make you happy, you are setting yourself up to fail.

Lmao

Precisely. I'm 20 but spent a lot of my early teen years complaining about being single. All that changed though when I found my passion in creating/playing music. And I've done some cool stuff since then. Nothing too crazy but in the works. Even now I've found more things that I love doing where what I put out is equally returned in happiness

I'm in that situation rn where I'm stressing over relationships cuz I see so many people get into. It actually is hurting me at this point. I'm so glad to see this

Are you in love with a pigeon

Perfectly said

Sounds great but I still liked the idea of marriage having a partner in someone do things with and they had a benefit of sex!!! I’m in my 49’s too And I never subscribed to this but I’ll tell you what after one marriage I’ll never get married again but I do want a relationship again

She didn't leave you man, she set you free! You will never have as much raw energy as you do now, use it to transmute yourself and bring the divinity inside of you into your world. There is no limit to your transformation and no better time to do it right now dude! Be kind to yourself and get as much sleep as you can, time heals all wounds

I also love the "Philosophy for Breakups" video although what I'm experiencing is technically not a breakup, but a heartbreak.

@@tiggerknowsbest6817 Thank you for that perspective change. Stoicism is teaching me that “good” and “bad” are perceptions that we bring to external forces. It’s my choice entirely to see this relationship end as a good thing or a bad thing and how it will impact me. I hope through this time alone in a new city with no friends that I will find my path and stick to it boldly. I want to become the person I’m born to be.

Thank you for your comment, and I'm sorry to hear. Hopefully, Stoic philosophy works as a bandage on the wound. Stay strong! - Einzel.

I always found break ups very traumatic; it was almost akin to mourning a death, except the grief doesn't last as long. If you add betrayal from a best friend into the mix, I can sympathise with the hurt it must be causing. You will definitely get past it, and I think stoicism really helps in these situations - if you create a good self-narrative you can sail by without too much emotional toil, but you'll no doubt still experience those ups and downs for a while yet. Sometimes there's a silver lining to what feels like the worst situations.

It seems to be that those who love being single also often times love to travel. I'm like that too. I used to travel a lot and I'm contemplating on breaking up with my partner because I'm losing that freedom of travel whenever and wherever. Also, yes money. That's a big one. Especially since she is younger and poorer so I end up paying for everything.

@Clay & Cats I love your name

Agree

Cause you're still young

Keep it up, men probably don't want to impregnate you anyways, with that attitude.

And marry your cousin.

yeah Albert Einstein... we can ask Hiroshima and Nagasaki people about him.,

Yes, and if your goal(s) are met, you will feel good about your personal growth and accomplishments.

@@CarlosMartinez-ie8se yeah. Pearl harbor history doesn't exist...

Dosen't achieving goals require people doing things?

Yah, like .Developing constructive habits .Learning new skills .Being in more control with your money

Absolutely right. I have friends and loved ones that turn out to be disloyal and burden. It takes a long time for me to heal and move on. Being single, it really gives me the freedom and independence.

Yessir. You can't trust anyone out here. I have no friends and I don't care. One of them tried to stab me. I have such an immense amount of ptsd over it that I haven't talked to anyone on the phone in months. Family doesn't care either. When you lose everything, you find out who's really there for you. Turns out I had no one after all. All I have is my job and I hate that as well. I swear, video games and music are the only things keeping me sane.

So what do you do when you want to have sexual intimacy?

@@Ulfrich_Stormcock I don't have an answer. That's a problem that I'm having. Who am I kidding, being alone is awful and does more harm than good, but I got ripped off so I don't trust people anymore. Everyone hates me anyway, so I'll die alone. Oh well sucks to be me

We live on opposite sides of the house. Sometimes even that isn't enough distance.

Some in different rooms, some in different houses. They made it work and are happier than being typical couples.

I’m here Mike haha 😂

Yeah, same.

It's still needed to have kids so that the ethnicity will stay preserved. It won't matter that much about being happy in a relationship, it's about securing your future with the kind of people you trust and accepted your references.

Uhum❤️

Damn.

So true

Me too!!!

I'm in that same cycle. I have not found that human that complements me and challenges me to make the energetic drain of the relationships worth it. We are complete beings alone first.

Welcome to the married men world.

Me too.

Same

Judging by your profile picture, I'm guessing that you were smart enough to realize that a dog is a far better companion than another human.

Same here

@@BLACK-AUTUMN-MAGICK Exactly! Unfortunately, I dont own a dog lol.

Those are not wise words whatsoever.

Everyone gets lonely

@@thomasrudder9639 they’re stupid ass words. Being lonely doesn’t mean something is wrong with you or make you a bad person. People try so hard to sound smart. 😂👍🏽

@@thefirsttrillionaire2925 Leggo my ego

@@thomasrudder9639 You got a better credo? Come on, tell us. You're obviously a source of tremendous enlightenment...share it with the rest of KZfaq.

Such a valuable advice ✨️

When I was young I was a touring musician. Gone about three times a month just for a few days in a row . Nothing extreme. I was solid and have never cheated on any of my girlfriends. Still they felt threatened, and in three relationships in a row I was faced with the same ultimatum. "Now that we have been together for three years I want to have children...and I want you to stop playing music. In each instance the decision was painful, but not difficult. There is a country song called the fishing Song. The ultimatum there is " It's fishing or me, you can't have both. The name of the song is: I'm gonna miss her when she's gone! LOL

You're in the wrong realtionship then

@@becky2235 You're right. 3 in a row....I was always clear upfront about what I was all about. Music #1 and no Kids. But they played the long game thinking that over time they could mold me into what fit their agenda. From what I hear it's a pretty common scenario.

@Unfluencer... When you are in your younger age, it is idealistic inspiring to be SINGLE throughout your life, but in your golden (old) age, dying in your bed, looking back, tears will fall from your eyes, and you wish you did the right thing... I have interviewed many single old people dying in their beds (mostly in the hospital) where I work, most of them are successful in life with their chosen field of careers but unanimously said, "DYING ALONE IS THE SADDEST PART OF THEIR LIFE."... and FRIENDS are nowhere to be found, but if you have a family of your own, even if your Spouse/Partner is not there for you (divorce), your own children or grandchildren will most probably by your side before you die... They unanimously said, "IF ONLY THEY CAN TURN BACK TIME."... unfortunately, SAD to say, "REGRETS ALWAYS COMES AT THE END."