Reasons Not to Have Sex

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In most modern-day societies, the idea of not having sex may sound preposterous. After all, isn’t physical intimacy one of the key ingredients of a healthy and fulfilling life? Well, if that’s the case, then we stumble upon a problem, as the visibility of sexuality and eroticism only increases in this age, the frequency of sexual intercourse actually decreases.
Recent numbers suggest that people, especially young men, are having less sex than before. So, if we put such a high value on sex and view it as a life necessity, we could say that an increasing number of people are deprived of something essential. But is this truly the case?
Do we need sex as much as we think we do? And could not having sex even be beneficial to us? The purpose of this video is not to discourage lovemaking or to shame those who do it. It’s simply an exploration of reasons not to engage in the “pleasure of all pleasures:” sex.
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#celibacy #buddhism #makinglove
00:00 - Intro
01:09 - (1) The sacrifice may not be worth it.
04:07 - (2) The less you scratch, the less it itches.
06:55 - (3) A different, more expansive life
10:00 - (4) Alleged 'sexual transmutation'

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@sixteensquared 2 жыл бұрын

Finally, a subject I'm an expert in.

@shannushannu5494 2 жыл бұрын

🤣

@JaguarDave54 2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣 same

@hissyfitz7890 2 жыл бұрын

🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭

@Xscape128 2 жыл бұрын

Not by choice tho lol

@insanoibro6331 2 жыл бұрын

@@Xscape128 facts

@jacob_massengale 2 жыл бұрын

it can be traumatizing to be intimate with someone who apparently doesn't really care about you

@darrylschultz6479 2 жыл бұрын

@@lesxo4306 People enact a plan that suits THEM in order to achieve THEIR desired goal at that moment in time. It's only by displaying the same assertiveness as them, and enacting a plan that may take you towards YOUR desired goal, that there's a chance of waking them up and making them aware of what they're missing. Which is done by suggesting that the possibility of something more than just a quick "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" may be worth considering.

@rickjay2011 2 жыл бұрын

agreed

@addajjalsonofallah6217 2 жыл бұрын

So don't get intimate Sex is simply lust just don't let your emotions get the better of you its easy

@jacob_massengale 2 жыл бұрын

@@addajjalsonofallah6217 to me sex is intimate by nature.

@addajjalsonofallah6217 2 жыл бұрын

@@jacob_massengale sex is lust by nature it's a purely physical thing it's not love love it a spiritual I keep the two seperate in my mind Makes my life Alot more stress free Plus makes it harder for people to manipulate me through sex and people will indeed try to manipulate you by used sex Infact people will try take advantage by literally any means they can come up with

@VDAM1984 8 ай бұрын

My hormones keep trying to push me towards it, but my rational mind wins every time

@rahmasamir909 4 ай бұрын

Transforme your sexual energy to spiritual one

@univuniveral9713 4 ай бұрын

That is where the power is: hormones. If you win them, you can win anything.

@user-qr4jf4tv2x 4 ай бұрын

fap

@gayanmadushanka4330 2 ай бұрын

For me it’s other way around, always feeling wins😢

@Geechee_Chick 13 күн бұрын

Me every time I ovulate. But I'm a few months away from my two year anniversary of being abstinent and I have no intention of breaking it

@Myviewingtime07 10 ай бұрын

I don’t want to have sex till I find someone who I have feelings for. I’m in my mid 30’s and still a virgin for that reason. People think they’s something wrong with me, but I don’t like the idea of using someone. I value people and myself, and I don’t want to hurt or use anyone.

@hugo-scylla 10 ай бұрын

I'm 23 and still a virgin - also because I live in Poland, I have to be careful with sex.

@albertoaguilar9773 9 ай бұрын

@@hugo-scyllawhy careful? And why do you to be specially careful in Poland?

@jestheljoygarcia5093 9 ай бұрын

same

@user-my5wy2eo8g 9 ай бұрын

Your doing it the right way don’t let anyone pressure you..

@grantchoitz1420 9 ай бұрын

I made the mistake of giving my virginity to someone I thought was "the one." In retrospect she so obviously wasn't the one, and I was definitely pressured into sex by her. She's the only mistake I will ever make when it comes to sex. I've lived the last 8 years in self-hate, only now accepting the situation for what it really was and moving on from it. Sex with someone who lusts you, not loves you, isn't worth it, trust me. That's why marriage and sex are married in most monotheistic religions.

@leanderrowe2800 Жыл бұрын

When I tell people that I don't drink, they automatically assume I was an alcoholic. I guess it's the same way when you tell people that you are not interested in any relationship, they assume there's something wrong with you. People just cannot accept that we are all different.

@filbertfaustine7357 Жыл бұрын

Me too, people they say that may be i have a problem.😄

@arpitasom624 Жыл бұрын

Correct

@volpeverde6441 Жыл бұрын

the SHEEP FEAR DIFFERENT....

@giovannamoro8564 Жыл бұрын

Ahahahah you must be american . Only in america if you say you don't drink they assume you must have been an alchoolic .

@leanderrowe2800 Жыл бұрын

@@giovannamoro8564 You are close, I am Canadian. In terms of drinking and relationships, all western culture is the same.

@johnankrah299 2 жыл бұрын

"You should control your desires, otherwise people will control you through your desires" - Farrakhan

@bjap1563 2 жыл бұрын

In modern sense: "Don't be a simp!"

@victoriaporsiempre 2 жыл бұрын

woah that was deep

@jaxthewolf4572 2 жыл бұрын

Control your desires or your desires will control you.

@ayalove6285 2 жыл бұрын

That's the thing, you all can't control your desires. That's why it should be avoided.

@devanshujoshi4372 2 жыл бұрын

@@ayalove6285 well we can control our desire.

@Lastskykey 8 ай бұрын

As a virgin I believe in love before sex. If I ended up being alone and die a virgin then that’s ok. I think it’s cool and not everyone can accomplish that when they’ve died.

@Theforgottenone291 6 ай бұрын

☠️ get escort and it change your life 100% promised sex is the best thing ever

@prettywhenyoucry9911 5 ай бұрын

finally someone who think looks like me you’re so right

@madridpool4420 5 ай бұрын

@@prettywhenyoucry9911same but I definitely want😢😂

@lilachodan4941 5 ай бұрын

I had this thought that I will be a virgin till I die but now it kind of changed

@prettywhenyoucry9911 5 ай бұрын

@@madridpool4420 when u fall in love with a boy but he just want to use u and deceive u, u start to stay away and idc if there is no love im willing to be alone until i die

@ua3584 4 ай бұрын

I am a male in my 30´s, still a virgin, never tasted a beer, never smoked. I am self employed, 2 Masters degrees, own my own house without a mortgage, I always have food to eat, exercise at 4AM everyday. I do desire companionship but I prefer to wait long than to marry wrong

@univuniveral9713 4 ай бұрын

Try Eastern philosophies. Maybe a monastic life and the search for enlightenment is what you need. Marriage might take away all you have worked for. Most divorces started as soulmates.

@darkrose4409 4 ай бұрын

Stop waiting and go get a wife

@univuniveral9713 4 ай бұрын

Stop waiting. What will be will be. If the very first woman you love will destroy all you have worked for, so be it. There is no guarantee. Chances are that if women actually desired you, they would have approached you and you would never have resisted successfully - and that is the case with most guys. This means they will marry you for your success, and you never know their agenda.

@abrahamabraham9942 4 ай бұрын

👍🏻

@AcidGubba 3 ай бұрын

You should change your strategy. What does the house bring you? I sold mine and am now free of boundaries. Instead of always doing the same thing, you could leave your path. What you describe as successful is not a factor that makes it worthwhile. It's crazy how much time you invest and don't question whether it's really effective.

@jonathanohearn3077 2 жыл бұрын

I went monk (no sex, just worked on me inner self) for over 7 years. This allowed me not to try to go after women for just carnal means. Not allowing myself to think about women in a sexual way allowed we to think about the mate I actually wanted to end up with. I eventually did find that mate and have a very happy life with her. Sexual desire clouds the mind and our society today is obsessed with the desire for sex.

@doloresvangaal2248 2 жыл бұрын

Good for you. Ironically, the people who end up having the most fulfilling relationships are the ones who don't need it them per se. It's like a bonus, but you don't need them to survive mentally.

@joannagipson12 2 жыл бұрын

Good advice 🤔👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@lapepa1699 2 жыл бұрын

Not necessarily

@joannagipson12 2 жыл бұрын

@@lialialia9647 Same❤

@hoasam5786 2 жыл бұрын

Sex is disgusting behavior we need rid our body's of.

@alexandersaint5854 2 жыл бұрын

“Having the fewest wants, I am closer to the gods.”-Socrates

@kshitijghormade584 2 жыл бұрын

Diogenes

@deyvydh.jogadorprofissiona5182 2 жыл бұрын

more like closer to a plant

@bushcraft3773 2 жыл бұрын

Which does not exist.

@tomlambert915 2 жыл бұрын

and Jesus was a homeless guy ?

@cangkirkosong8870 2 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@GameArchon215 10 ай бұрын

As a 27 year old virgin, I see this as an absolute win

@koshak7910 8 ай бұрын

i'm 22 and i just don't understand why people so obsessed with it, like damn this world have much more interesting things than poking each other with genitals and wasting your time on other people

@Lucas-gm3bv 5 ай бұрын

It’s fun, it’s sensual, it feels so natural and good to connect with people like that. It’s not just poking each other. Have you ever gotten oral? It’s pure bliss!

@sambistabeauty Жыл бұрын

It is almost abusive to have sex with someone you don't love, knowing they are falling for you. It feels like a lifetime of emotional concussions.

@callidawkins85 Жыл бұрын

lol. so dont have sex unless your sure. no one is forcing emotional abuse.

@goldendiamon Жыл бұрын

It's already sexual abuse since there is no love about that

@Matdildi Жыл бұрын

It's pointless when you feel it's not gonna last 'cause he doesn' t really loves you

@goldendiamon Жыл бұрын

@@callidawkins85 What if you are forced into marriage or trafficking by your family without your consent? It's not easy to speak against it especially when you have no one else listening to your side,stop being f***King judgemental

@FaniFani-cl4rs Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry did someone do bad thing to you ? Your comment is worrying so please tell me if you're fine or not

@JSRenow54 2 жыл бұрын

As a loner, inveterate romantic who takes seriously the quality of my relationships and is waiting for the one, I 100% agree with the video. It's exhausting how shallow are people nowadays.

@reitairue2073 2 жыл бұрын

This

@thehuman2861 2 жыл бұрын

True

@sunji5390 2 жыл бұрын

Almost all guys I met always talk about girls/sex, very exhausting indeed.

@joiamed8544 2 жыл бұрын

It's amazing how many losers there are. I mean total losers!

@thehuman2861 2 жыл бұрын

@@sunji5390 yeah I can understand 🥺 That's the most guys nowadays

@gimmeagig 4 ай бұрын

I am 67, I had a string of long term relationships since I was in my mid 20s. After my last breakup (very amicable) 6 years ago, I decided not to date anymore. I love my life now, Serenity, no fights, no arguments ,no need to be accountable for every moment of my existence, no need to spend time doing boring things for the sake of the relationship...I could go on LOL I regret not having come to this conclusion sooner. Life is good

@univuniveral9713 4 ай бұрын

You shouldn't be having s3x after 45. The grey hair becomes complete turn-off, especially down below.

@ReckSaber3664 11 ай бұрын

The last time I had sex with someone, I had no feelings for them, and I didn’t even find them attractive. I gave into my lust and I felt disgusted and broken afterwards.

@KaliBeatsYoSoyAquel 2 жыл бұрын

I just spent one of the greatest nights with a girl and we didn't even touch at all. We had dinner, we drank vodka, smoked and talked all night and still watched the sunrise. We cried while I drove her home and it was honestly one of the best 12 hours I've ever spent and I would never change for however long sex could last

@thelovelylife7451 Жыл бұрын

Any updates?

@FaniFani-cl4rs Жыл бұрын

Did you eat spaghetti because spaghetti is delicious Also good luck with your trip

@KaliBeatsYoSoyAquel Жыл бұрын

@@thelovelylife7451 It's gotten worse over time. She recently confessed her feelings for me and I had already done that long ago but she's not emotionally available right now. Still zero physical contact and it is pretty overwhelming

@rabbit_aizakku Жыл бұрын

@@KaliBeatsYoSoyAquel hope it works out for you somehow.

@LuciferHades7733 Жыл бұрын

@@KaliBeatsYoSoyAquel i hope everything goes well for you

@nomorepowderpuff 2 жыл бұрын

When I began not pursuing all this, my power, creativity, and inner strength exponentially improved. I also stopped attracting unconscious beings and stopped GIVING valuable energy to things not serving me. Self-respect. Passion for life. Inner world, first.

@True38 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. Internal world > External world

@nomorepowderpuff 2 жыл бұрын

@@True38 💜

@mabd7340 2 жыл бұрын

How old r u

@Bimbo-Balls 2 жыл бұрын

@@nomorepowderpuff How did you do it?

@LifeInsightsjk 2 жыл бұрын

Life itself is mysterious as sex is

@doritoxx 5 ай бұрын

Started my celibacy a month and a half ago, it's a blessing tho protecting my energy at all cost

@Jakepearl13 9 ай бұрын

Awful dating experiences have made me swear off both love and sex. Thank you so much for keeping it real.

@the_viper_mc4404 2 ай бұрын

sex is just a stupid pleasure act, finally I've found some good advice.

@bulkeh 2 жыл бұрын

Been celibate now for almost 9 years. I get flare ups of wanting a relationship, but I know I'm not capable of sharing myself fully with another person, so it would become unhealthy very quickly. In that span of time I've broken down, built back up, changed drastically, grown, regressed, grown again. It's been an amazing experience that I know I would not have had, if I'd pursued a relationship with someone else. What I have now is a relationship with me, and it's more satisfying than I ever expected it to be.

@alexanderulv3886 2 жыл бұрын

I think that’s beautiful, society should not look down upon being single. I’ve tried both, and so far I prefer being single quite a lot. I’ll wait and see what happens, either way I’m good and not dependent on being in a relationship like the majority

@MarkNOTW 2 жыл бұрын

Same here. 10 years.

@joyempire462 2 жыл бұрын

How about a relationship that's celibate wouldn't that be more ideal?

@jacobjacob4139 2 жыл бұрын

@@joyempire462 If your partner wants to be celibate that'd be more than ideal, but the irony is people do not enter the relationships to be celibate, they want romance and a thick fuck.

@Sublime_visions 2 жыл бұрын

I've been celibate for 7ish years now. I enjoy redirecting my energy into my hobbies(: I could never have enough sex. It was like getting hungry for food, even after you eat, you'll get hungry again in several hours. It was so exhausting chasing women to satisfy my sex drive. Definitely got easier the longer I went without sex. I'm content.

@PlantagenetRose 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve never understood why people think giving in to the most animalistic and carnal desire, somehow made them better than others who didn’t. Wasn’t self control important for human beings?

@jacobjacob4139 2 жыл бұрын

Hahahahaha I ask my friends the same question every time they start telling me about how I am depriving myself of great pleasures if life.

@reitairue2073 2 жыл бұрын

@@jacobjacob4139 dude i heard that stupid shit so much years ago... now 3 of them have kids and are salty about it lmfao. Im chillin 😎👍

@jacobjacob4139 2 жыл бұрын

@@reitairue2073 hahaha I loan them cash and charge them interest without remorse, most of them have bitten more than they can chew, and I laugh inwardly everyday.

@reitairue2073 2 жыл бұрын

@@jacobjacob4139 thats life man, nature is brutal

@Ty1er 2 жыл бұрын

Wtf r u talking about

@vexqty 10 ай бұрын

I could never imagine having sex with someone just for the "fun" of it, doing it with strangers or people you barely know, it feels like you lose part of yourself if you can give your body away so easily, which is why I will only ever be intimate with someone I truly love, and the feelings are mutual.

@Millixxxxxx 9 ай бұрын

I wholeheartedly agree. I only have sex with people I can imagine having a kid with. Because, even though there a multiple forms of birth control, 1) they are never 100 % safe and 2) creating a new life together is, in essence, the point of sex. This opinion has brought me to the incredible body count of 1 at age 25. Do I feel bad about my low body count? Not at all. In fact, I think it's pretty gross to think about your sexual partners as just "bodies" and I can't shake the feeling I'd feel cheap and hurt if I had sex with a stranger or someone I had no true connection with.

@idontcarewherejustfarr 8 ай бұрын

@@Millixxxxxxfinally someone like me 💗

@Millixxxxxx 8 ай бұрын

@@idontcarewherejustfarr Yeah!

@nasrinnski 8 ай бұрын

I can't really control whatever ppl had in life but I have to agree the amount of ppl chill with casual sex is creepy... condoms don't always work, birth control pills usually came with side effects, abortion isn't a free option for many ppl, but when it is ppl also forget to tell it can also drain you mentally and physically

@notzeyee1673 5 ай бұрын

Couldn’t agree more! Me too. I can’t with the hookup culture as well

@SandraZavala22 9 ай бұрын

I’m glad there’s at least video that is against sex… I’m tired of our society trying to convince everybody to have sex because it’s “cool” but I find nothing cool about it… as a woman, so many men have tried to manipulate and hound me into having sex with them but i don’t want sex or any intimate relationship… the other thing is most people that “want sex” are looking for lust not love nowadays…

@raginbacon9202 2 жыл бұрын

I have to agree. My mental health started going down hill when I tried to have a casual relationship. After about a month I called things off and I'm doing way better now

@brendamichelle4783 2 жыл бұрын

I did the same thing recently

@rffrostbite9989 2 жыл бұрын

I think this is happening to me right now went 2 yrs w/o sex then a few weeks ago I had sex with Someone I met at nightclub I mean it happened so fast 💨

@lioneldemun6033 Жыл бұрын

As a young lad I had a few casual relationships most of the time it ended badly I was feeling depressed and worthless after a while.

@tikrineloja Жыл бұрын

Yes

@dragoncat5767 Жыл бұрын

@@whatafablad312 having sex and having serious relationships are two very different things You can still have sex but for causal fun and without expecting serious relationship both sides You may have a serious relationship later on,but at that time you can't give sex more priority or base the relationship on it I should say it's like eating junk food, there is nothing wrong with eating occasionally but if you eat it daily,then you might have problems

@lightreign8021 2 жыл бұрын

It’s easy to be a monk after you’ve met these desires and aged out of the obsessive phase. It’s liberating to be past those limitations, social illusions, controls and manipulations.

@supremeintrovert7404 2 жыл бұрын

@Black Magick Sorcerer what do you mean by "loss of testosterone" ?

@avoidperil1022 2 жыл бұрын

You don't need to be a monk to achieve liberation just sayin from a Hindu pov

@Tuber-sama 2 жыл бұрын

It's a nightmare to try abstinence in adolescence. I really want to survive this phase.

@reitairue2073 2 жыл бұрын

@@Tuber-sama not bad if you dont want a kid too soon lmfao

@Tuber-sama 2 жыл бұрын

@@reitairue2073 The sexual revolution changed that, people now can live in hedonism without any short-term consequence. The only thing that opposes to all of this is morality.

@shtwayft6448 10 ай бұрын

It's important to to realise that the people who are avoiding sex are very different from people that can't have sex. There is no glory or pride in refusing something you can't get.

@shawtyx812 10 ай бұрын

@marsstoearth 8 ай бұрын

I'm 19 years old and I'm a virgin, and a couple months ago I had this urge to have sex, as if my life wasn't started because I haven't had sex, I've now realized it wasn't because I wanted sex, but because I wanted to get that weight off my shoulders. I actually don't think I'm ready to have this kind of intimacy with another person, I haven't done it because I still don't feel ready. It's not that I don't ever want to have sex, it's just that I don't want it to happen yet, and I think that's ok, I don't want to force myself, so I'll do it whenever I feel ready and I have no shame about it.

@riley1774 8 ай бұрын

i’m turning 19 next month, and i feel exactly the same! its good to know that there’s people my age going through the same thing as me.

@ElineTekenaar 6 ай бұрын

Because of the social stigma I lost my virginity at 17 while I wasn’t ready nor was I with a partner I loved. It was horrible and it really messed up my view on sex. Now, three years later, I am thinking more about my choices involving sex. It’s really important to only do it when it feels right and with a person you care about.

@Rainedropsss 5 ай бұрын

Same here you’re not alone ❤️

@papabear6364 2 жыл бұрын

The best sex I ever had was when I was in love. Lustful one night stands or fwb never satisfied me the way it did when I was in a relationship. Messing around alot is not fun but damaging. It's better to find that special one to share that energy with .

@myrnabryant7992 2 жыл бұрын

Good for you ✨

@Haru-uj7hk 2 жыл бұрын

True.

@Spvrdx 2 жыл бұрын

Truth as you become an adult i agree but teenage yrs nah i like the variety the universe makes so mny different shapes, sizes, colors and styles we didn’t come to experience one

@insanoibro6331 2 жыл бұрын

what does "in love" mean?

@misstigerbubbles 2 жыл бұрын

@@Spvrdx nah, that's just being immature

@TheGabrielPT 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 23 and I've never had any kind of intimacy with a person of the opposite sex, not even holding hands, and I've been depressed because of it for many years. Thanks for the video, it made me feel a little better

@interman7715 2 жыл бұрын

😟😟😟😟

@kiraghost1502 2 жыл бұрын

same here bro

@MrJypsye 2 жыл бұрын

Go to Amsterdam

@amadiohastruck4331 2 жыл бұрын

Pay a hooker, sex is overrated

@TheGabrielPT 2 жыл бұрын

@@amadiohastruck4331 I'm not talking about sex. Actually, I rephrase, I'm not talking only about sex. I'm talking about emotional affection

@SamoSamo7s7 8 ай бұрын

For over 6 years, I deliberately chose not to engage in sexual intercourse or relationships, and it has truly been the most fulfilling period of my life. During this time, I successfully earned my Doctoral degree, made significant gains in the crypto market, and relocated my work to a city of my preference. I discovered genuine happiness when I intentionally shifted my focus away from sex, intimacy, and emotional connections with the opposite gender. This redirection of my energy allowed me to achieve important milestones in my life. It has also granted me the freedom to dress and style my hair and beard in a way that makes me feel comfortable, without the pressure of impressing others with my appearance. For me, being in any form of a relationship feels vulnerable and limiting, while embracing singledom embodies true freedom, creativity, reflection and accomplishment.

@BallouneGomme 9 ай бұрын

As a 30 year old asexual and virgin, thank you for this ❤

@abduwalimuse7482 9 ай бұрын

wow i love you

@entelektuel.yolculuk 9 ай бұрын

@@abduwalimuse7482why? See I don't like peoples like ye

@moneywolf2344 9 ай бұрын

Brake your virginity

@theoxymoron8793 8 ай бұрын

Respect bro. 👊

@ayalewbedada7309 5 ай бұрын

Great, i am 32 no yet.

@alluringbliss4165 2 жыл бұрын

I've been a virgin all my life due to trauma. After trying so many times and becoming more and more frustrated as well as disappointed, I decided to stay single and keep being a virgin in my late 30s.

@youngflashy7181 2 жыл бұрын

I'm sort of in similar shoes minus the trauma and age difference (19) but I've been a virgin for other performance issues and decided to stay that way to keep me sane

@jamiedyer7782 2 жыл бұрын

@@youngflashy7181 what are your issues bro. I had some growing up with left me with PTSD

@UniqueGeekFreak 2 жыл бұрын

@alluring bliss same story friend same age :,) I started to clean even deeper what is making me stay in a poor mentality & not good enough or not feeling of value/worth. It was a very hard truth to swallow, but my own family has bern spilling poison in my ears that made me feel even smaller, i realized them being in my way, ive known for 20-30 years, but since they were my family & i depended on their help because the traumas caused physical illnesses in my stomach. Aporox 3 weeks ago i decided to cut ties with everyone who diminishes me, yes i could not care about what they say. But seeing how my entire life & view of myself has been coloured by them & other naysayers, i felt this is my life and i'll go on alone now, or at least put rocus on getting my life together. I also understand putting boundaries is the key & say & do whatever you feel & mean without caring what others will feel or think about you. Let them have their opinions. Being real & authentic=freedom You sift the timewasters from those who vibe with you, by being oneself

@tirasgo 2 жыл бұрын

You're a winner in my eyes

@tougeruzbay 2 жыл бұрын

For me I'm still a virgin at 29 because of sexual awkwardness and just don't know how to go about it so I'm just content with myself and going at my own pace of being a man in progress

@peter_mitch1880 Жыл бұрын

No Sex = No STD , unplanned pregnancies , promiscuity , extra marital affairs

@Alexsolotov-tg2bk 9 ай бұрын

You must be a woman

@101kickart 9 ай бұрын

Just use the protector lmfao 😂😂

@Atom9855_asdf 9 ай бұрын

no head = no headaches strokes or negative emotions, just because something has negative effects doesnt mean its bad, we must weigh both the negative and positive effects of each. everyone has their own reasons to have or not have sex ranging from enjoying intimate time with partner creating a stronger bond, just plain fun or procreation, your case seems more like the fable of the fox who said "the grapes were sour anyway"

@user-my5wy2eo8g 9 ай бұрын

Exactly 😊

@kawaiiamarii2240 9 ай бұрын

@@Atom9855_asdf people can live without sex; haven't heard of people that can live without their heads, though. It's true that we have to weigh pros and cons, which is why your comparison makes no sense. The difference between the pros and cons of cutting your head off is much larger than the difference between the pros and cons of engaging in sex.

@trudyramgren8817 9 ай бұрын

This is an interesting and debatable subject but my story is that im an older woman and before i met this guy who I thought i was in love with, i was celibate for 20 yrs. It just happened after a breakup with another guy. I found being celibate was easy for me. I had a fulfilling life, didn't crave intimacy and found it somehow freeing. Ive chosen to go back to being celibate. I find it not to be a priority nor crave it. I think one learns alot about themselves by being celibate but i must say that the best reason now for me is my relationship with my higher power. Im not religious per se but highly spiritual. I would rather be in a loving marriage first if i were to break my celibacy. By the way, the most recent relationship i left was because he adamantly told me he did not love me. He just wanted sex. My integrity and self worth was challenged. This will not happen again!!! I choose celibacy. Thank you for sharing this!

@SM_MEX 11 ай бұрын

Im only 14 but already people at my age put WAY too much pressure on doing things such as finding a girlfriend, hooking up, and a lot more. I dont see the point yet. Everyone thats doing all that is still a kid and I feel like theyre wasting theyre time as a kid just to feel some kind of satisfaction.

@the_viper_mc4404 2 ай бұрын

sex is just a stupid pleasure act. We don't need girls I don't care if it's not Alpha or some crap.

@dalitm7315 2 жыл бұрын

This video is life changing. It makes you realise you’re not just a slave to your evolutionary inclinations - you actually have options…

@gameaddictgonewild4391 2 жыл бұрын

meh

@featherwar1703 2 жыл бұрын

This! This is exactly what i thought watching the video!!

@dragoncat5767 Жыл бұрын

In a way,there is nothing wrong with having sexual attraction if you are not being controlled by it and doing it with the other person for self desires for both sides

@bawbbie7875 2 жыл бұрын

that's how i quit smoking cigarettes... i was like if I can make it through the peak of my youth without sex I sure as hell can make it without cigarettes

@emello4you 2 жыл бұрын

And sweets, candy, soda, all that crap.

@arkieologist 2 жыл бұрын

That's awesome. 😆 Bravo.

@JEs-rr1yu 2 жыл бұрын

Lol this comment is the funniest so far. Respect anyway💪

@playboymac 2 жыл бұрын

Nobody likes a quitter

@hritikkamble7260 2 жыл бұрын

Good job 👍

@lesles910 9 ай бұрын

I’m 15 and people go crazy when they find out I’ve never had sx or had a boyfriend. It kind of makes me sick, I know it’s not normal to have it so young and it makes me grossed out many people around me think it’s crazy to have not

@vonnimcc-_-- 9 ай бұрын

Same situation here. I'm also 15 turning 16 next month and a few of my friends have had sex or they have at least done something sexual in the past but I haven't tho. One of my friends keeps asking me basically every day if I still haven't had sex yet, and sometimes he offers me a girl to hook up with (which I don't want cuz I want a girl I actually love). I mean, yea I want sex and a girlfriend but I'm not at that age yet. He pisses me off when he does that shit

@lesles910 9 ай бұрын

@@vonnimcc-_-- no Fr my friend keeps offering to hook me up with one of her friends and I’m like ew no. And same I do think it would be cool to have a relationship but I know myself and I know I’m not ready at all for a relationship and even less sx or anything sexual. We need to keep our self respect even if we’re in a world who thinks it doesn’t matter🫡. We only really know ourselves

@littlebillygoat 9 ай бұрын

@elpapu3870 9 ай бұрын

Youre with the wrong people… i mean kids …

@dietlindvonhohenwald448 9 ай бұрын

@@vonnimcc-_-- That’s crazy. Tell him to stop bugging and pressuring you about it and if he doesn’t, you have to take a brake from him. This sounds more like psychological bullying than a friendship. Your friend needs to take a chill pill.

@kamilavazquez1035 8 ай бұрын

For whoever is reading this, It is VERY important to understand that this video is talking about hookups. NOT normal intercourse with a consensual and loving partner.

@Mango-zz3vt 8 ай бұрын

Thank you, Most of these people in this comment section, I feel like, think it's just talking about it in-general

@frisianwarrior2295 4 ай бұрын

Not true. It is also about celibacy and how sex takes away energy, time and potential genius from creators. And I can 100% subscribe to that.

@kamilavazquez1035 4 ай бұрын

@@frisianwarrior2295 you might want to look into asexuality

@jamaisvu7196 3 ай бұрын

sex takes away energy, it’s not good to have sex constantly, loving partner or not. the only reason why we have sex is to reproduce, to produce is to use energy/resources

@Andrea-xs4ny 2 жыл бұрын

I spent 40 years trying to satisfy an itch that could not be scratched, no matter how hard I tried. I think about the time, energy, money, and pieces of my soul I threw away and wasted. Before you say it wasn't a waste, or not as bad as I imagine, you had to be in my shoes to know all the details. If I'd had the ability to channel it, or have the focus to be celibate, I feel that my life would look quite different now. At any rate, this video sure made me see things in a different light. I always wondered why anyone would choose to be celibate and I see it now as the freedom it can give, not an unthinkable sacrifice, assuming you do it for the right reasons and with a healthy frame of mind.

@vaibhavkothari8240 2 жыл бұрын

underrated comment.

@MarkNOTW 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing and I think a lot of people agree if they’re being honest.

@nowanobady 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. I'm wondering how your life would be different now if your choose to be celibate ? What are the probable changes?

@jacobjacob4139 2 жыл бұрын

@@nowanobady Could have a lot of implications, one of them being divorce, and divorce itself has a lot of implications that could drive one mental & suicidal. Meaning not pursuing "celibacy" could be the best thing he can do now, based on the cards on the table.

@lifefan9790 2 жыл бұрын

But it's too hard it's the strongest desire we have and life without it is just too boring

@aigerimsam3523 2 жыл бұрын

I had my first sex a few months ago with a close friend (also a virgin at the time), and we planned it to make everything memorable. We rented a place far away from the city in a winter forest. Initially, both of us were excited about the sexual adventures we were gonna have, but then sex became just one of the pleasant memories we from the trip. It wasn't better than everything else we did on the trip -- the walks in the forest, stargazing, philosophical talks till dawn, cooking, -- it was just part of it. Honestly, waiting for what a lot of people would consider a long time was one of the best decisions for me. A lot of people used to ask me why I was a virgin, that I'm missing out or just to get over with it, and that's the main problem in my opinion. I don't think that sex should be something sacred, but it's not something you just get into simply because everyone does.

@africakalahari4477 Жыл бұрын

According to your story the whole experience seems divinely sacred to you...

@stankssmile5865 Жыл бұрын

@@africakalahari4477 not like a guilty remorseful story of loosing it at the back of a Camry which is 70% of us

@antonigrzmichuj5402 Жыл бұрын

Cooking what?

@aigerimsam3523 Жыл бұрын

@@africakalahari4477 I wouldn't say it's sacred, it's just precious to me. I think back to it fondly, like remembering a childhood memory. My friend and I still joke a lot about the silly things we did back then, and it just adds sort of a homey feeling to the whole experience.

@aigerimsam3523 Жыл бұрын

@@antonigrzmichuj5402 all sorts of things.

@fido139 9 ай бұрын

It's very simple. DO NOT have sex without love, both parties.

@innz18 8 ай бұрын

I’m a 29yr old virgin female and I’ve looked into so many things that have unknowingly been resonating with me since I’ve been incidentally practising them : Brahmacharya is one and then, there’s the concept of purity and chastity as put forward by Rabia al Basri. I have to say that I am indeed so centered around ascending spiritually and I am naturally inclined to it. Chastity/celibacy/abstinence is the best thing ever : it really does bring you closer to the Divine. I’ve always taken the saying : ‘treat your body as a temple’ very seriously.

@ashtoncasedy3237 4 ай бұрын

This is the best comment that I have read 2 mins into this video. Not because of the religious aspects, but because of the mental intimacy that one shall not have after significant body count.

@innz18 3 ай бұрын

@@ashtoncasedy3237 Thank you🙏🏼

@Chrysaetos11 3 ай бұрын

I totally agree.

@aarong1092 Жыл бұрын

I'm a 22 year old virgin and I'm honestly fine with it. Sure, the stigma sucks, but romantic relationships have never really been a priority for me, let alone sex. I'm not asexual since I do hope to find a special someone one day, but I just don't have the desire to have sex with anyone I don't view as a potential partner (demisexual, if you prefer that term).

@barrytelesford5265 10 ай бұрын

if you have hope then it is not fine. its bothering you but you've found a way to suppress.

@aarong1092 10 ай бұрын

@barrytelesford5265 Being a virgin does not bother me. As I've stated, I'm demisexual, which means it's near impossible for me to feel sexual attraction without forming a deep connection with someone first. As for the "hope", I've struggled with interpersonal relationships my whole life. I hope to find some good friends and a life long companion, not get laid. If I wanted to do that, Tinder and Grindr make it trivial to do so. Not having sex is totally fine, but loneliness is not.

@LegendaryITA 10 ай бұрын

That's not asexual or anything, you are patient, nothing else

@aarong1092 10 ай бұрын

@LegendaryITA please educate yourself on demisexuality lol. I'm not waiting patiently for sex, I literally do not want it. The only acception would be with someone I knew for a decent amount of time on a very deep level. It's about intimacy for me, not the act or the result.

@LegendaryITA 10 ай бұрын

@@aarong1092 patient for an ideal partner

@kglistless 2 жыл бұрын

I think that some people who look at sex as an itch to scratch (based on my experience with an ex who described it as exactly that), are people who barely enjoy sex at all or use it as a means of self-service, rather than lovemaking. There's nothing wrong with choosing to be celibate. I think people should figure out what's right for them, so long as they aren't hurting anyone. I think someone like Tesla would agree with the concept of experimentation being necessary to understand anything. That applies to the self as well.

@lioneldemun6033 Жыл бұрын

If it's only an " itch to scratch" they should simply masturbate and not get involved in a relationship.

@firewolf9493 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, i agree, and it is part of the problem, of course you will have an problematic relation with sex if you see it only as an urge, an desire that needs to be fulfilled, and not as an opportunity to connect with another human being.

@Vaidiss 10 ай бұрын

i havent done it since i got broken up with, and i found that finding hobbies such as games or crafts when i dont wanna play games, fullfills it as a replacment of happiness and a reason to move on.

@gowtham8909 10 ай бұрын

If you have sex with someone that you don't intend to marry, you may just be setting the bar high for the next person that would fall in love with the person u slept with. so even if the person u slept with finds a better person, if they fail to get the experience they got before (in sex), they may (sometimes) not be satisfied with their relationship. so don't get laid any chance u get, learn to say no.

@chad1542 2 жыл бұрын

Not having sex or having it doesn't make you a better person. It all depends on how much value you give into it and why you chose it.

@wrathbeatbox8177 Жыл бұрын

Exactly, it's rather subjective. It depends on one's views, opinions and choices and how one wishes to live. Having sex or abstaining from it, doesn't make you better than others in any way.

@JellyOnAPancakeAyyyy Жыл бұрын

Exactly! Said and done. End of conversation

@maryhughie4070 9 ай бұрын

Whatever makes you sleep at night

@princess_siren_96 9 ай бұрын

Exactly. However it should always be special and valued. Not passed around like a newborn

@entelektuel.yolculuk 9 ай бұрын

@@wrathbeatbox8177no, having sexuality outside marriage is very haram in İslam.., Thus, waiting till marriage is the key to happiness and ultimate sexual satisfaction.

@ZxZ239 2 жыл бұрын

Just as everything in life, moderation is the key. 3 times a day is enough.

@maqsabre 2 жыл бұрын

lol wut?

@KingKae7 2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@Xscape128 2 жыл бұрын

Wat??? That's rookie numbers

@kayosensei 2 жыл бұрын

You're right tho. Everyone has their own definition of "moderation" XD

@billshepherd8401 2 жыл бұрын

Are you talking bout porking or dessert?

@danskretteburg4110 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this video. Made me self aware that I can be myself without question

@kidgabe8614 11 ай бұрын

As a Christian I'm glad to know that I want to keep my v Card until marriage. It's a big decision after all. And I stopped worrying of not having my first time as a teenager because there are things which are more important. So lay back enjoy your life and don't forget God's plan over yours!🙏🏾❤️

@pinknintendoswitch5907 8 ай бұрын

beautiful!!

@carolmarques22 2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful to see someone who also thinks it's not worth it.

@Keallei 2 жыл бұрын

I’m also really happy to see such a wholesome comment section.

@Aethelhadas 2 жыл бұрын

I’m shocked as an asexual, people tell us we’re missing out and whatnot so this is new

@emmaphilo4049 2 жыл бұрын

@@Aethelhadas people don't understand there are many ways to enjoy life, not only sex🤷‍♀️ everyone is different

@asso9203 2 жыл бұрын

I had numerous hook ups, and while I thought to be cool because I could literally have sex with anyone,I felt deeply alone and it hurts a lot because people would only view me sexually and use me that way. I often had sex prematurely with potential partners which ruined our relationship and my trust for intimacy since they would often initiate the act without consent. Sex with time became empty and more hurting. I felt alone even during the act. The desire for sex is rooted in our desire to be loved and I'm currently waiting for that person who would embrace me like that, and no longer use me sexually

@itsmesuper4403 Жыл бұрын

Seems like you had your fun and now looking for a nerd to settle with. And yes i am sadistic. Dont have to point it out.

@adesamivictor3269 Жыл бұрын

@@itsmesuper4403 you've said it as it should be. No regret 😂

@itsmesuper4403 Жыл бұрын

@@adesamivictor3269 You not the one complaining though. Actions have consequences.simple

@TutuOfAfrica Жыл бұрын

Hey, thank you for putting it in this perspective, it does happen, and nobody can judge you. You could have been in a different mind state when you were having casual sex and that’s okay. Now that you are in a different mind state, I hope you find someone who holds you, loved you and blows your back out in the way you desire to be loved. It’s not for anyone to judge you, you are human after all and like Eizen said, this desire is rooted in our nature as humans so we should extend that grace to ourselves and not put ourselves under unnecessary pressure… I wish you all the love you deserve dear ❤

@andreamuhlbacher9613 Жыл бұрын

Good luck

@Deniz-Alberta 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for the research and wisdom

@kdud2799 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for a great video. I'm really a fan of your channel, mostly because you keep things real and unbiased. Can you make similar video on romantic relationship and intimacy? I would love to hear the arguments for and against their values just the way you present them in your videos.

@joepittssavedmusic Жыл бұрын

I've NEVER been so proud of my v card. I'm a 28 year old asexual man. People used to say I was less than or their eyes would pop out of their head when I said it doesn't interest me. To get out of people trying to set me up with girls all the time telling me I shouldn't be alone my whole life, I'm ashamed to say I would say I was gay just to be left the heck alone. I hide nothing now. No setups please. I'm a very proud hermit. I'm good for population control LOL

@TheStealthyOne6 Жыл бұрын

HELL YEAH BROTHER! FIGHT THOSE JERKS WHO DENY YOU! this isn’t satire, i’m completely serious. I’m so sorry people tried to set you up with girls despite your wishes, i couldn’t even imagine that. stand strong, brother. stand strong and proud.

@DEE-qu5mc Жыл бұрын

Good on you, just be yourself and respect yourself, regardless of what people say or think. People don't understand that some people are different. I find being asexual fascinating, I guess because I'm highly sexual myself, not being attracted to anyone, or these days 'anything' lol, and not having any sexual desires. If I may ask, why do you think that is the case with you personally? There are those who believe that is the denial of one's own natural sexuality, while others think it's a disorder caused by shame of sexuality, anxiety or sexual abuse.

@davidhauton7643 Жыл бұрын

Works for me too, 53years and counting.... gets easier too!

@NickGreiner1988 Жыл бұрын

@@DEE-qu5mc that guy didn't reply, but I will, when you say Shane, I think shame in myself, self esteem so low that I feel like I am actually doing women a favour by considering myself a non-sexual person, this, my horrible, ugly, weird self can never be a threat to them as "some guy who thinks they can get with her"... I can't imagine myself having sex, I can't imagine anyone would want to with me and I can't imagine myself having sex with someone in the normal voluntary sense. I see myself as someone nobody would want to, therefore I am doing the right thing by others in thinking of myself so negatively in that regard. People can't tell me I'm undesirable if I show them that I already know I'm undesirable and wouldn't bother them in the first place thinking I have a chance.

@Bubble23428 Жыл бұрын

@@TheStealthyOne6 I hope those jerks get falsely accused of sexual assault one day because when they want to have sex with random people there is a chance that someone will falsely accuse them of sexual assault

@co2_os 2 жыл бұрын

Oh boy what a relatable topic, exciting.

@_mantis 2 жыл бұрын

bruh lol

@akshaym.2854 2 жыл бұрын

@@_mantis tomorrow tomorrow afternoon evening evening works mr

@Bluemoneystar 4 ай бұрын

People, if you really wanna have sex, it's not a shame. Not every aspect of life needs to be overthought. If you feel the urge just do it. Don't take this video as justification or selfconfirmation, that you got none and why it should be so good to be so.

@goldendiamon 4 ай бұрын

But you should never do it if a person says no and decides they don't want to.Because if you violent their consent,you're a r*pist....And not being careful when and who you have s*x will cause STDs

@goldendiamon 4 ай бұрын

But you should never do it if a person says no and decides they don't want to.Ask them first if they want to or not.Because if you violate someone's consent,you're a r*pist....And not being careful when and who you have s*x will cause STDs

@anskubansku5614 11 ай бұрын

As someone who has been virgin my whole life, sex feels like an unknown path not to step in. And it's weird to be the inexperienced one in this society and it's people, where having sex has become pretty normalized. I personally think that there's no need to rush things. That's why I would say that waiting until u find it comfortable to get intimate with someone is the best possible decision for anyone that's not ready yet. Also, the whole idea of sex has become some enjoyable act, when sex was originally very intimate union between two people where they become one flesh sharing one's feeling and traumas. It was only meant for two people who are willing to be there for each other, so anything else like sharing it and making it gross is just ridiculous. Of course people are different, but spreading it all over the internet has already done its bad influence to collective and more younger people get harmed by certain type of sexual content. The society won't teach us the importance of love and respect during sex. It will only make sure most of us knows how important is the protection during sex to avoid any mistakes. Not going to forget about letting every single man know how to waste their time watching sexual content while satisfying themselves instead of actually doing something important and meaningful in this lifetime.

@sameer.757 4 ай бұрын

You're totally right. I'm a man and agree with what you've said about men watching sexual content. I myself had watched such stuff just for knowledge and sometimes because of the urge. But now l know that its made to be addictive and restrain from such things.

@fmaximo1979 2 жыл бұрын

If I had seen a video like this 20 years ago, how many problems and disappointments would I have avoided, how much maturity would I have achieved. How much precious energy of mine I wasted during most of these years. Being in love or sexually attracted to someone is pleasurable, no doubt, but I feel much happier when I go a long time without falling in love or being sexually interested in someone. I feel freer and more myself. Now I have been for over 2 years without any intimate contact with anyone. When I spend a long period like this without anyone, I sometimes feel guilty, because society (the family included, obviously) incessantly demands that we are with someone (even my mother went over her own homophobia and asked me to even be with a man, since I'm not interested in women), but thanks to a video like this I'm reflecting better on it and not I see more why I feel guilty about not meeting the expectations of others when I should focus on meeting my own expectations of myself. Thanks to you for reading this.

@purpleleaf9122 2 жыл бұрын

I agree, I have also noticed that I'm much happier being single and spending more energy to the right direction than being with someone feels often like loosing myself.

@Cub__ 2 жыл бұрын

What the hell your own mother made a suggestion for you to "Try being with a man" and your not even homosexual? Lol that's very weird.

@mabd7340 2 жыл бұрын

OK even if u had saved all your energy time and money in pursuing sekc what would u do? Nothing. Work eat sleep workout then u die

@fmaximo1979 2 жыл бұрын

@@Cub__ I am what's called a 'homosexual' man (I don't like to use sexual orientation labels, but I am a man who is exclusively attracted to other men).

@fmaximo1979 2 жыл бұрын

@@mabd7340 We will all die, what matters is how you live your life until then.

@user-je6ck8pz4f 2 жыл бұрын

This was pretty deep. When you seek physical pleasure, you are allowing your nonintelligent mind to take over your thoughts. It focuses your mind on pleasurable things rather than things that are more substantial to you. I just realized how much brain capacity I was wasting thinking about pleasure. It disables your logical thinking.

@dragoncat5767 Жыл бұрын

It's only when you keep it at top priority It's nothing bad if you keep it under control I never had sex with anyone but yeah i had thought about having and masturbated multiple times,while thinking about it the whole day But now I can keep it under control and do it only only sometimes (And i mean masturbation,not sex)

@twerkingfish4029 4 ай бұрын

I think we don't need to reject these desires entirely, just re-evaluate our relationship with these desires, and how much we value them.

@cbron23 4 ай бұрын

I totally agree. it's all about balance. To completely reject your desires and deep rooted wants is denying a part of yourself. This really is cope from not getting any attention from the opposite sex.

@strashinsky 9 ай бұрын

I'm 44 and still haven't done it. I've always been a loner as I can't trust anyone. I am attracted to women, I just don't care to pursue them. I do what I want and don't have to answer to anyone. I lost all my friends because they wanted to run off for women and sex. Now they're divorced with child support payments, broke, sad hollow shells of men, and I have money, (not a lot lol) but more than they do. I'm not saying love and relationships are bad in any way, it's just not for me. (Whispers) *stay single guys*.

@kroenkeout708 Ай бұрын

😂👏🏾

@Cherrycreamsoda1 Жыл бұрын

I'm asexual, which means I have no sexual interest in anyone, but having watched friends go through hookups and dangerous situations and the inevitable drama that follows, I'm glad not to have any desire for it. I've heard many people say that is it 'hard' to go without, and causes sexual frustration etc which I acknowledge as valid, and although us asexuals have to deal with discrimination, invalidation and being told we're 'broken', the majority of the time it seems to have made my life easier. What you say about romance, though - I do experience romantic attraction, and it is indeed very distracting to have a crush or fall in love with someone, and as long as I'm around people that aren't my family that will always be the case, but I agree with what Tesla says about romantic passion being a form of fuel for one's creativity - provided one doesn't allow it to take over your life. Great video ❣

@sg9099 Жыл бұрын

I honestly relate to this and its really frustrating because I have friends who dont believe me because i had crushes/romantic interests in the past. I wish that people would understand that we are not broken, especially in a sex driven generation like this

@kevinbautsch Жыл бұрын

I sincerely hope that you find from life all that is comforting. Maybe comforting isn't the right word, but for lack, anyway I hope you know what I mean.

@pilipollo6193 Жыл бұрын

@@pierre-yveschauvet5136 you dont "become" ace

@pilipollo6193 Жыл бұрын

if society had better sexual ed, those things would not happen so often

@ayuanabradford3206 Жыл бұрын

@@sg9099 yeah i get that I’m just shy and need to be more open and maybe I’ll like it

@BizzeeB Жыл бұрын

This channel makes me feel so good about not doing anything with my life...

@barb2793 Жыл бұрын

Best comment ever. LOL

@wahyuuherlambang 10 ай бұрын

real

@TurtleTrader 9 ай бұрын

fr fr! :D

@dontpanicchild 9 ай бұрын

That's...not a good thing.

@TheRgirl597 9 ай бұрын

lol

@deborahcecil200 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for your work. A needed story you tell.

@abebammydheley5704 4 ай бұрын

The voice is so soothing and sound frequency is just perfect... Great content... I love it..

@arebolar Жыл бұрын

The pleasure of all pleasures is eating, not having sex

@neosrdjan671 Жыл бұрын

wow, good for you!

@The1stHomosapien Жыл бұрын

yes i suspectthis too, every single life form eats, and gets a reward clearly.

@RobertTencer Жыл бұрын

Probably you have never had sex with an attractive partner if you compare this two things

@morgancatherwood5665 Жыл бұрын

said a fat guy

@soniamo4139 Жыл бұрын

Don't forget cardio.

@aceknowledgable9403 Жыл бұрын

I've been celibate ALL my life. Videos like this and listening to other people's experiences satisfy me to a great degree.

@wrathbeatbox8177 Жыл бұрын

I am not saying you are wrong in being celibate but seeking 'validation' from people with similar opinions isn't good. Ofc, birds of a feather flock together but doing that is like stroking one's ego.

@Enderkiller77 Жыл бұрын

I wouldn't view it like this...

@agustin5650 Жыл бұрын

@@Enderkiller77 why? it is a style of life

@agustin5650 Жыл бұрын

@@wrathbeatbox8177 yeah I totally agree with you

@Enderkiller77 Жыл бұрын

@@agustin5650 What? I'm not responding to Wrath. I just don't believe you should find validation in others.

@aleerastgar 5 ай бұрын

I think brute abstinence and celibacy is just another way of scratching the itch. Maybe we shouldn't make a big deal out of it. It's a pleasure among other pleasures in life. It comes and goes, it has benefits and drawbacks and it doesn't tremendously make your life better. Not yearning for romantic love and sex while not prohibiting ourselves from it might be a better piece of advice. As Kierkegaard says:"Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way." (sorry if my english is not the best. I'm not a native.)❤

@ghostwriter5383 11 ай бұрын

Finally something motivating and calming

@FutureMindset 2 жыл бұрын

This video seems to be more of a critique of casual sex and/or a dependency on sex. Personally, the way I see it, sex, just like any other desire can be used and abused and an unhealthy relationship with it can affect your mental health negatively. Sexual repression is of course not good either. It really is all about balance.

@Caktusdud. 2 жыл бұрын

For what I've seen it's a powerful thing. One doesn't need much for it take effect. However, it's one of those things that people do too much of. Too easily. It's also one of things that have been weaponized. Throughout history and even now and inevitably into the future; it's been weaponized. Used by people to get things. Anything. From status, money, attention etc. I think that's it's worsed nature.

@memesmojo5622 2 жыл бұрын

no, only reason for sex is reproduction. Not having it any other time than that isn't sexual repression.

@MrKentakie 2 жыл бұрын

It's not about repression but letting it go. If it happens, good. If it doesn't, still good.

@christopherlin4706 2 жыл бұрын

The Buddha was married. Look sex is good, but it has to be something that should be done with complete respect and commitment of the senses

@nvmffs 2 жыл бұрын

How is it "not good"?

@zackgeldhof1206 2 жыл бұрын

I've been married for 15 years, and have known my partner for 19. We've had sex maybe a handful of times, but it just wasn't a big thing for us. Physical intimacy can be met in far more ways than just sex. I'm fine, my partner is fine. We're both okay with not being sexual.

@BlackestEyes709 Жыл бұрын

She just needs a Man who can actually satisfy her, not a simp lol Giggity

@SaintFort Жыл бұрын

She's definitely having sex with someone else behind your back.

@felmargego2534 Жыл бұрын

@@BlackestEyes709 obvious troll lmao

@AR-kl7nv Жыл бұрын

@@BlackestEyes709 out of these two men, one has a real life partner

@BlackestEyes709 Жыл бұрын

@A R LMAO I’ll give you that, yeah I’m single lol

@user-fo9xl1gb8h 5 ай бұрын

A partner accused me of giving him scabies. I was celibate before I met him. We broke up after I went to the doctor, and proved that I didn’t have it. What a depressing situation. Definitely more peaceful, going back to celibacy, and I will remain so for the rest of my life.

@salzlord 4 ай бұрын

I had my first time and many others with a girl I now despise to the fullest. She was a horrible person and I feel disgusted knowing I was intimate with her. She abused and harassed me so much to the point I got a mental disorder because my body just shut down due to the stress she caused me. I still live with that disorder one year later. My advice: don’t rush it! And if you do then think about the consequences and if it is worth for you to do it with that person.

@Iamsoul00 2 жыл бұрын

I go through periods of not wanting to share my body with anyone and it feels amazing. Nowadays I hardly have any interest in it and I’m only 30, but I have a very fulfilling life. So many other ways to spend your time.

@Helaw0lf 2 жыл бұрын

True!

@hobimin3091 2 жыл бұрын

I'm gonna be 20 this year and never felt the need to have sex to have a fullfilling life. I've awesome friends, I love spending time by myself and chasing my dreams. You can have a happy fullfilling life even without sex. Finding your true self and your true potential in life is the best joy ever in my opinion.

@jesseyaddoamponsah1924 2 жыл бұрын

Instagram handle

@anamaria-db7pq 2 жыл бұрын

The sexual transmutation is also a thing in Freud‘s psychoanalysis theory: the libido is nothing else but life energy. We can use our libido for sex but also for „higher“ purposes, something that we love to do. When we are passionate about something, that is where our libido is going.

@dofek-piano 2 жыл бұрын

Right 🙂

@cnzaqdfrut9661 2 жыл бұрын

Well said, better paraphrazed.

@maurice5726 2 жыл бұрын

I spend my libido in video games

@clickbaitpolice1750 2 жыл бұрын

This is one of my favorite comments

@mofvcknprodigy 2 жыл бұрын

Wish I lived with you. I really need a you

@mariea82 4 ай бұрын

Haven’t had sex for 4 years. My longest drought was 7 years so currently on track to beat it

@mean10102 5 ай бұрын

because they made this video. i will say he is correct. after i stopped celibacy i faced many challenges. life was much better before i stopped. i am finding my way back to were i was. i want to be there again and i think about it all the time. this video is a good reminder to me of were i want to be. and how to get there. nice work.

@cupcakeinlondon 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video! I've been 13+ years single (I'll be turning 36 in a few weeks) and without sex for the same period of time. Sex is a form of bonding for me hence I couldn't have casual sex (been there, done that, hated it). Haven't met anyone all these years who would want to explore a relationship with me, so I'll remain single and celibate until I perhaps meet that special person one day. For now I have accepted my solitude and do enjoy my single life.

@pzg2008 2 жыл бұрын

how in the hell did you not find a guy to want a relationship with you ? are you morbid obese or something ?

@aapp953 2 жыл бұрын

Same here it will happen

@kevinucount8686 2 жыл бұрын

Yes please explain

@isegard2957 2 жыл бұрын

@@pzg2008 probably more like they didn't meet anyone they feel connect enough to want to start a relationship with. That's my case, I wouldn't tell myself beautiful but I'm not ugly either and I'm not even slightly obese. I just never find anyone I want start a relationship with until last year and I'm 32. I was happy being single and celibate all those time but I finally meet someone that make me want to love and be loved for the first time in my life. Not everyone see sex the same way, I also see it as a form of bonding so I refuse to do it with someone I don't love, it makes me feel sex is cheap and not special at all if i do it with anyone else

@pzg2008 2 жыл бұрын

@@isegard2957 I'm a guy and I feel the same way about sex. My mates make fun of me but I'm just not interested in sex with a girl i dont care about. it's strange really.

@Mariamaija 2 жыл бұрын

You can easily have sex without experiencing the feeling of intimacy. My most intimate moments have rarely been experienced while having sex, but instead in meatings and conversations with people where a connection was felt so deeply the encounter became unforgettable

@timetoreason181 2 жыл бұрын

Agree! But most ask for it, and they say they need it. I am a man telling you.

@tvbuu 10 ай бұрын

One good reason is just that giving yourself to people who don't actually care about you is a waste of time and can really fk you up.

@Ocsmanyremix 9 ай бұрын

For me sex is...Pain. Nothing, but strong pain. I can't stand it, even if I want to. I hope to find someone like me, because they will understand what my body can't do.

@XenoTronusWeePoo850 8 ай бұрын

Have you tried going to a doctor

@MaraXipe 2 жыл бұрын

Well, I'm asexual and this is my experience. I can't feel any pleasure or curiosity about sex, when I was younger I thought I was born broken because of my lack of motivation about sex. Then, I just stopped thinking about it and I began to practice Buddhism. Now I feel better about myself and I think this is the best decision of my life!

@Tahani2006 2 жыл бұрын

Good for you!

@theoxymoron8793 8 ай бұрын

Cool

@user-rp6ll3uu7y 5 ай бұрын

Try to practice Islam as Jesus Christ did.

@Piotr-ug8xn 5 ай бұрын

Try to practice Christianity.

@DominusAlbaniae 5 ай бұрын

Well, you are a geek

@yared8771 2 жыл бұрын

Don't know anything about the reasons but I'm pretty sure I'm a pioneer

@LouAnnBagnall 4 ай бұрын

Ive never seen a video that even suggested this. Ive been single and celibate after a divorce 25+ years ago. I still had a longing to be married , but my life has been very full and blessed. I thought i was quite rare in my beliefs, but i feel a bit validated , but surprised to see so many agree that monogamy and true love are so important and feel completely turned off by causal sex.

@FB-fm3ub 4 ай бұрын

Great video! Thank you so much!🙏

@noname-by3qz 2 жыл бұрын

This is good. The thing is, many babies are unplanned. The child may suffer from this their whole life. Most parents have had some serious trauma and are not mentally heathy enough to be parents. It just keeps getting passed down.

@THEINFERNOKID 2 жыл бұрын

Its a cycle that goes round and round Hoardly.

@noname-by3qz 2 жыл бұрын

@@THEINFERNOKID hoardly ?

@LordNuDTru Жыл бұрын

Indeed...so in the B.O.R. it states clearly that parenting classes will be the order of the day!

@Ehden322 2 жыл бұрын

Personally, I feel like denying an entire part of my humanity isn't something I wish to do, however in essence, what I got from this video is to take things in moderation and that it should be the case for every aspect of our lives. Through seeing the anecdotes of people that go to the extreme ends of pleasure, spirituality, studies, etc., I personally conclude that we just need to find a healthy balance, that solitude, spirituality, sexual desires, entertainment and social interactions should all coexist in harmony. Though that's a lot harder said than done.

@LordNuDTru Жыл бұрын

Sexual control is needed badly not sexual ELIMINATION only from the public sphere...It should be private in all its exhibitions/parlances.

@clivegable9387 Жыл бұрын

You are a very wize person 🙏

@rkhmnarf Жыл бұрын

Yeah, that's what I think about this too

@stephenhughes5156 Жыл бұрын

I haven't had sex for the last 3 years (except for 1 time), but that's not because I'm against it- I'm just not that bothered about it and happy just living my life. Of course, things could change, and I am open to that. But that's they key. Not getting caught up in dogma. Being willing to change with the seasons of life etc. Nothing wrong with sex, in fact in can be a Beautiful experience- much like reading a good book, or listening to music, or watching a sunset can be. But it's not something you NEED, and certainly not something you need every single day like most people think.

@VaronPlateando 8 ай бұрын

the ‚middle way‘.

@nomad1517 2 ай бұрын

Very few people have what it takes to maintain a romantic relationship for more than 10 years. Those who make it to 60 years probably have a different mindset all together. I used to have an issue with people who where showing off their love in public and valentines day when I never had that luxury. I realized true happiness comes from the long term. Relationships take a lot of work, and most people just want the comfy image of a fantasy, not the work. To me, a relationship is a luxury, I can live without it, it is nice to have somebody show you they love you. But it is not essential.

@alejandrojosespinamendez5668 11 ай бұрын

I am a 34 years old virgin, Ive had two suicide attempts because of not being able to have sex, to all teenagers and young adults here, PLEASE, do not trust this kind of videos, have a healthy sexual life as you want and like without harming anyone, sex is absolutly necessary

@jorgeandresortizrodriguez368 2 жыл бұрын

I find quite funny that I'm in a point of my life that engaging in celibacy is waaaay easier than looking for sex, and I can't picture how hard it could be for most people, allegedlly.

@KneeCapHill 2 жыл бұрын

If you are a guy it's autopilot to be celibate

@reynaldobaca3403 2 жыл бұрын

As a sex fiend lol im adopting celibacy and I think it's tough because my whole life had been centered around banging chick's, so much so that I failed to realize how much it impacted my life in a negative way, now that I'm 30 I'm trying to live in a different way

@mich5131 Жыл бұрын

@Sean Brogan As a girl I’d like to confirm I don’t engage in sex everyday 😐

@rainershea3880 2 жыл бұрын

Russell Brand overcame sexual addiction, and now he’s functioning on a whole other level.

@domihase8148 2 жыл бұрын

Not only sexual addiction. For me he is a hero at some level. ^^

@lisarochwarg4707 2 жыл бұрын

Brand is a nut.

@jimb3093 9 ай бұрын

I have this covered lol! When donating platelets or blood they always ask the sex question. Nope no sex here, we good haha!

@dianaaddison1 5 ай бұрын

33years 10 years no sex 10 years single am proud of myself, am just protecting myself, I don’t sleep with just anyone, I want a commitment and long time partner whom I can grow old with… May God be with me 😂😂

@staceysneed9928 2 жыл бұрын

I have enough to fix within myself without introducing more unstable energy into the mix. Nor do I need someone to complete me

@joannagipson12 2 жыл бұрын

Same here 💯

@jasontaylor404 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being responsible. Far too many are dating when they shouldn't.

@404NotFoundIDontCare Жыл бұрын

this is exactly where I am at, and I will choose to be responsible and wait until I am stable... i told myself at least wait until 25... thats 2 more years

@404NotFoundIDontCare Жыл бұрын

@@jasontaylor404 you are right and i was one of them. Made a conscious choice no dating for next 2 years till i hit 25. I am simply not ready if i am brutally honest

@amalsvijay6684 2 жыл бұрын

One of my friends always says, it's better to control emotions and do it in the right time, the urges is innate, and the sexual energy is one of the power energy, if we can divert this energy to something else , it really makes great sense. Semen retention is no joke, I myself experiencing. It makes me do work outs with passion, no laziness in life, effective socialization, I feel like I am a beast. Sex is awesome only when you think it is. Whoever reading this all I have to say is *Where Focus goes the energy flows*.

@emmanuelimumolen8660 2 жыл бұрын

When you lose your self-control everything crumbled

@master-of-mind5881 2 жыл бұрын

Aha hear we have another philosophical genius in the making. I like this logic.

@gavabundo_0072 2 жыл бұрын

Semen retention is real. I can socialize with women better without thinking about them on sexual ways, and the best part is the clearer mind without the brain fog.

@06eyM3 2 жыл бұрын

Then take care of your 'retention' into the toilet like a big boy. You don't need help to poop, you don't need help to defecate your semen either. Please don't harass women to help you poop or deal with your jizzzzum

@badbadrobotrobot959 2 жыл бұрын

Retention is no joke - I try this once in a few years (when feeling motivated) but after a few days, the retention fails when sleeping. Does it mean you've to start over again from the next morning?

@user-yi5ny5jg5i 8 ай бұрын

Having sex is nothing when i grew up as adult and did learn how to control myself. I used to think as very important things. Now, i am thinking in different way. I will pay all cost to keep my health safe.Not having sex is very safe. No worries about deadly STI at all including hepatitis B virus. So, i am safe and no more worries being free of any sexual contact with anyone.

@Lucas-gm3bv 5 ай бұрын

Grow up!

@SpacePellets 2 жыл бұрын

I waited until 26 and went after the right one. I learned through other people's mistakes and held on to my stubborn beliefs and never compromised for anything less than what I expect from myself. Then again I had a little bit of help with my intuition to not only predict my future partner but also who to stay away from.

@SuperAnimecity Жыл бұрын

Are you the future version of me. I'm going to be 24 soon lol