Same! Dog mom for life! But man am I enjoying planning and learning for an imaginary kid that will never happen.

SAME!! I don't even plan on EVER having kids, yet i'm still fascinated in the video

… and I’m at the other end! I’ve had my children & I’m a Nanna now…BUT Jessica makes it fascinating again! ( she does have the most delightful voice!)❤️🦋

I feel this! The open and honest conversations surrounding parenting that have been happening more and more makes me feel a lot less negative about raising kids myself one day.

@@Chronicallywitty oops me too...many puppies in my home as well, though i'll never have my own id LOVE to learn how to make these cuties potty train as early as possible !!!! it is why i stopped here to watch, maybe I could use some of the tricks..

*then there's my mildish childhood autism that made me very oblivious to everything around me.* I'll be honest, I wouldn't have probably picked up on anything that wasn't spoken, I sometimes wouldn't even acknowledged when someone called my name.

I try to tell this to parents with kids who don't "like" any vegetables and refuse to eat them. It is inadvertently caused by the parents. I know this because my brother and I grew up loving all veg. It never occurred to us not to love them because our parents loved them. My dad would be happy all afternoon because we were going to have spinach for dinner, lol. My mom called broccoli "trees" and the announcement that "we are eating trees tonight!" made us so excited. It may sound silly now, but it created in my brother and me a love of fresh vegetables, whole foods, etc., because our parents genuinely loved them and demonstrated their enthusiasm for healthy unprocessed foods. Kids pick up on subtle clues and they can see when mom eats a bite of spinach whether she truly likes it. So if you want your kids to love vegetables, all you have to do is love vegetables yourself.

@@mygirldarby I mostly agree, though I feel it’s important to acknowledge there can be other factors at play. For example, I have learned in my adulthood that a lot of the vegetables, fruits and berries I just ”didn’t like” I was actually mildly allergic to and I didn’t like the way they made my throat itch, but I didn’t know how to communicate that and thus, got labled as a picky eater

@@mygirldarby good point! most veggies I eat nowadays I refused to eat as a child because my mum hated them lol

@@kamu6359 a great point too! listening to the child is almost always the way to go :D

One of my coworkers(I work in childcare too) used signs with the nursery aged children when she worked with that age but it isn’t an official thing that our centre does

Awesome! That's so exciting

It is nice,,, of course it's very easy to say... Children are beautiful, but they also can be a surprise and a burden. Parents do the best they can with what they have available (in terms of time, money, energy and other things)

@@fluuufffffy1514 what they’re saying is that people should make an effort to not have a baby if they don’t want one, a lot of the time married couples will have a kid just cuz “they should” and they end up hating being a parent, obviously if it just happens and you don’t want to give it up then yeah you make it work but plenty of people put themselves in the position to become a parent way before they were even wanting to

Both my boys were walking before a year... But had no interest in the potty and I decided for them at age 3 😅 they learned quickly after that though.

Oh i wish i was taught sign. I couldnt talk properly until age 4-5. Before that i always messed the words up like ambulance becomes ee reem neem. But i already understood other people

Every child is different though, it's something important to remember

@@canned_can_chan4590 if babies were taught sign language a lot of kids could be benefited from it! I'm sorry you had this hard time during your childhood, as an autistic person engaged in the community I know that usually the experience of being non-speaking specially as a child is tough. I can only hope in the future no one has to go through that, either by sign language or by an AAC being provided earlier rather than later (which is usually the norm nowadays).

All children develop differently. I have two Sons, my oldest continued to wet his bed until he was around 4-5 years old. My youngest, who is 4 years younger, was completely potty trained with no bed wetting incidents before he turned 1. This was so very difficult for my older Son, he was embarrassed and I had to keep reassuring him. My Pediatrician also explained to both of us that we needed to factor in Bladder size and retention ability.

Bathrooms can be really echoy, or cluttered, or small- many are designed for 1 person to use at a time, so sensory overload in that room totally makes sense. Actually, now that I'm thinking about it, between the 2 we have, my hubs and I both prefer to use the one where the toilet faces a blank wall as opposed to where the toilet faces the sinks/mirror/toiletries/etc. We're both slightly neurodivergent, though he tends to be the one who deals with sensory.

@@TheJoyBinkley another thing for my brother was flushing. He couldn't be in the bathroom when the toilet was flushed (other stuff too, but that was a big thing! He wasn't scared of it, so my parents trying to get him familiar wasn't helping. It was a negative sensory experience that was overwhelming and at a year old he couldn't explain that)

@@littlepixieme1 oh my goodness. I can totally see how neurotypical parents would misinterpret overload for fear. That must have been So frustrating for him.

Very true. Not all neurodiverse people are super comfortable with getting wet or being in a place that the sounds echo as well as usually the most brightly lit room in a house/building.

Oh indeed.... Toddler sitting there watching tv was like.... Tv? Or..... Go poop.... I'm voting tv and crapped his pants sooooo times. It took Daniel Tiger, a song and the desire to be able to go sing a song every time he went to want to go. I swear to God that tiger was a life saver.

@@michimelody4036 I solved this issue as a toddler by dragging my potty into the living room to watch TV while doing my business. I knew what I wanted. Lol

@@littlepixieme1 pure genius right there.

@@michimelody4036 the tiger and that video was a good thing. Has helped more kids.

@@littlepixieme1 having the potty where you need it to go is a great tip for anyone who can't hold it for long.

My understanding with elimination communication is that it’s not entirely like potty training with that actual difference: very young children don’t actually have control, but they will have “tells” just like anyone does, squirming, touching themselves, etc. So elimination communication is the parent being aware of these tells and then putting the child on the potty when the child needs it. Potty training is when a child knows they need to go and can hold it in until they get to a potty, use the potty, etc., more like what we as adults would recognize as “using the bathroom”. Elimination communication is very much on the parent, potty training is very much on the child (though it also begins with watching your kid for their tells and getting them on the potty before they go). Because you’re right, physically and mentally, they generally aren’t developed enough to be responsible for their own potty habits. But, some children do hate being wet and dirty and will immediately cry when they soil their diaper, which is step 1 to potty training: knowing when they’ve peed/pooped. Step 2 is knowing that they are peeing and step 3 is knowing when they need to pee. Edit to add: And for those who wait to potty train more traditionally, my 2.5 year old basically potty trained in a week with only a handful of accidents. Maybe I did a lot more diaper changes leading up to that, but potty training has been a breeze. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yeah, tbh, this is just potty training the parents, not the child.

*not knocking

@@ang_131 I will prefaze my comment by pointing out that I am not comparing babies/toddlers to puppies, but that being said, the toilet training process for a puppy is very similar to what you describe, in terms of spotting the "tells" and then taking the required action (in my case, that was take my puppy outside when he started sniffing in circles) and within a matter of a few days he learnt to go to the back door when he needed to go, rather than me having to take him myself. In the same way that a baby/toddler can learn to communicate their needs (either through offical signing or just personal/family methods), so can puppies/dogs. My dog learnt that when he wanted outside he could go and ring bells (a few bells on a little strap thing that hung over the door handle) and we would let him out. Eventually we stopped using the bells when he was physically bigger (and we could see him beside the door) and now he just goes to the back door and if we don't see/hear him he progressively gets louder in his vocalisation - staring with little tiny "arfs" or yips right up to barking if we don't react. It doesn't matter where we are, as long as we show him where "outside " is, he will ask to out if he needs to go. (Except yesterday he took a massive poopin the vet's exam room we thought his pulling/interest in the door was just him wanting to leave the vet - until he squatted a bit right as the vet walked in. I was mortified) The main difference in babies/toddlers is that they obviously grow up and are able to use the toilet independently, but typically dog's can't really (assuming they live inside the home and toilet outside).

Whilst I agree that full time baby pottying is not practical for everyone and nobody should feel bad for making a different choice, - EC can be done part time. Children are born ready to start learning potty skills and they do in fact begin learning at birth. It's just we teach them to ignore their natural bodily processes and instincts by strapping them into mobile toilets that feel immediately dry after they pee in them. It's no wonder then that when they become toddlers and we decide we are done with nappies that they find it hard to unlearn their whole way of life and learn something new. Using pottying from birth even part time helps them to learn later and in a more gentle way. Finally, I am a children's research nurse who specialises in this subject and there is ZERO credibly evidence that baby pottying causes UTIs. In fact the evidence base shows that using the potty from birth helps bladder and bowel function - the bowel for example can only empty fully if a baby is in a squatting position. Laid down in a nappy does not allow this to happen but sat on a potty does! Baby Pottying helps alleviate colic for this reason. (I feel very passionate about correcting misinformation because there are SO many articles written (who do you think pays for that editorial? Nappy manufacturers!) that parents believe so I hope this is helpful to other parents and carers reading this)

My experience is that it's harder to train a child with such good nappies, because it doesn't feel anything uncomfortable with them. Cloth nappies get wet, so a baby doesn't like that feeling and has an interest in getting changed. But with today's diapers, the only point they get annoyed by it is the weight that comes after around 2-3 times peeing. It's comfortable for them and what they get used to it from the very beginning, so that's imo the real issue, not that they parents are too lazy or uninterested.

My dad is the youngest of three, and he was the only one not toilet trained by his first birthday (he had multiple life-threatening medical emergencies that took precedence). In the 1950s, in a remote northern community in a house with no running water and two wood stoves for cooking/warmth/laundry, my Grandma definitely wanted her boys out of diapers ASAP.

Exactly, agreed

Absolutely this and parents are doing their best. Just need support, love, kindness, and understanding. It’s tough work being a parent and raising little humans.

@@ateol I have found child led is always best! I had an 18 month old train in one sitting because she asked to go after lunch when the other children went. She used the potty and we were all excited! Her mother came in the next day and asked us what we did as her daughter kept asking to use the potty when she needed to go. I told her, it wasn’t us! She did it all on her own.

I wonder how much overlap there is between viewers here and MDJ viewers. 🤣

Mama Dr. Jones! I wondered too!

Really good point, after all, why do babies cry for a change?

Underpants on your head is an excellent way to keep your scalp warm.

Daniel Tiger, bathroom song. Golden key for my stepson. I swear, he got so excited about not only seeing other characters he watched go potty, but the song that went along with it was key cause he got the encouragement to go, then wash his hands and everything.

That moment when you see a KZfaqr you like commenting on another KZfaqr you likes video *Chanting * COLLABORATION 👏

@@InThisEssayIWill... haha our babies are the same age, it would be cool

I was with you on all of it until the stewardship of the Earth - that part i don't get?

@@slowfire2 stewardship - “the conducting, supervising, or managing of something; especially the careful and responsible management of something entrusted to one's care.” The Earth is given to humanity to take care of. We are the only species capable of either maintaining or destroying it. The role of steward, historically, was a person who acted as caretaker of a kingdom while a king was away. I am a person of faith, so believe the earth to be entrusted to the care of humanity by God, but I think the term is effective regardless of that, as the protection of Earth's resources is up to humankind, since I cannot think of any other species that can affect change, globally. I would hardly declare monkeys, penguins or trees capable of fixing/managing climate change. It's really down to people to make it or break it, wouldn't you say? EC by reducing the impact of disposable diapers, is an example of good stewardship. I always dislike the cavalier way we have accepted, as a society, the new default of disposing of 6-12 nonbiodegradable plastic covered balls of human waste per small human per day for....2.5 years? Jessica mentioned the same, and how they worked hard to find a responsible, biodegradable diaper option, which I applaud. I personally used cloth diapers (which certainly looks NOTHING like a big rag with a pin that my parents used on me!) But know that neither of those is an option for everyone. EC is a dramatic reduction in expenditure and effectively, a dramatic reduction in waste, as Jessica exhibited, since Rupert uses only 2 diapers, daily. So, EC is a responsible stewardship of Earth's resources and environment. Hth!👍

I don't remember what age I was, but I remember my parents telling the story of me happily not being fully potty trained. Then when my friends were moving to the "big kids room" at daycare, I all of a sudden potty trained myself within the span of a few days. 😄 Everyone is on their own unique timeline!

Wow, so much info you're giving him! I imagine how this can help him make sense of the world and build msps in his head, at least eventually?

Do you have a book recommendation on the signing part?

@@briena8881 Baby signs is the most common but you can learn a few basic signs yourself and just use them with those concepts or words. We did potty as the letter T (which in American sign is a fist with the thumb between the middle and forefinger) which for the baby is waving the fist in the air at about shoulder level. Time to eat before every meal. The very first signs we taught them were "more" and "all done" with feedings. A lot can be home signs and most really will become that as you and your kids progress. The important thing isn't the perfection of the sign itself. It's just consistent use. Amazon has tons of books. There are some by sesame street that are kid focused. There are just posters of basic signs and laminates you can put on the fridge. It's actually really fun because you can learn as a family and far less complicated than a spoken language. However, there are some signs that look very very similar but mean vastly different things. Keep your eye out for those if you are planning to use it beyond your immediate household.

@@knightmarecityk thank you very much! The poster sounds cool :) I will check Amazon for baby signing.

@@briena8881 I'm happy to be of any help. Have fun with it!

It does!

It's funny because I would eliminate, if I may, solid waste using the potty or toilet since about 1, but I swore to my parents that I would use a diaper to pee until I had to go to preschool at 3. And at 3, I used the toilet for everything 😂 I just decided I wasn't ready hahaha

@@sianmilne4879 my child said "I don't need to use the potty I have a diaper" some kids like to be in control what they are doing and going to the potty is something they can control

@@sianmilne4879 haha! too cute. My son would "choose" who got to change his diaper like it was a prize or something. lol

@@JessFirefox exactly. When my son realized that he could pee in the ditch when we were travelling the highway on Summer Vaca it became very motivating. lol

@@kb9847 Your son sounds like he would be a fun person!

My grandma started shaming my mom for taking too long to toilet train me when I was around 18 months old, so she tried it then but it didn't work. She took a break and then tried again when I was 2, and that time it worked. I started interacting with other kids when I was like 3 or 4 and I was consistently the only one that age who WAS potty-trained.

I'm worried about the preschool requirement. My baby will be just under 3 when he starts a program here and they require potty training. He's only 9 months now, so I can't predict how it's going to go...

Every child is different and you were doing an awesome job! I found your comment very inspiring and overall lovely. :)

@@s.a.w5493 try not to worry and give yourself any more stress! Your child could pick up on it and what it has to do with. Try to communicate and talk to your baby about it and watch for their interest. Jessica said Rupert helped by responding to the signs and speech as to when he would "wee." If you are a stay at home Mom then great! Get the information, the equipment you need, and see jow it goes! But as many parents have pointed out - including Jessica - every child is an individual. No stress! Not about something that hasn't happened yet. Be kind to yourself.

@@StarUnreachable my mother-in-law tried shaming me too when my oldest was 16 months old because "my daughter was potty trained by 16 months so you should have already started Malinda." That was all well and good, but I was going to give birth to child #2 when Malinda was 18 months old and KNEW I wouldn't be up to potty training at the same time as taking care of a newborn. Plus other mothers had told me their children had regressed back to diapers when "new babies" came along if they were new to toilet training. We had bought a potty chair already and introduced it Malinda but she had shown no interest in potty training and once I started training I didn't want to be interrupted. Then I found out my mil was putting Malinda on a potty at HER house if she watched Malinda for me while I was at a Dr's appointment for my new baby. She would leave Malinda on the toilet the entire time I was gone! This only happened once. Obviously this caused my daughter to refuse to sit on the potty chair at home. When she was 2 years and 3 months old she saw some Little Mermaid panties at the store and was pottie trained completely over the next 2 weeks. COULD she have been potty trained earlier? I think certainly under different circumstances. That time was missed in her case then she got the opportunity to train herself. I had 3 daughter in all and will say they were ALL completely different. My second started wearing panties at 12 months - took off her diaper and with help from her sister, put on panties and took my hand and had me help her sit on the potty chair. But she had trouble pooping without having a diaper on - which she always wanted to wear at night. Now - since we KNEW she was able to "hold it" until night time, we weren't sure what the issue was. This went on for YEARS! We did take her to a Dr who told us there was nothing wrong with her and that it was a controll issue and that she would decide when she would "move on." The "issue" was decided when we left the kids with my Mom over night. Sandra was 4 years old and Mom didn't put a diaper on her and she pooped in her underwear and wiped it on the wall. After a good spanking and getting the job of washing the poop off of the wall, Sandra decided to move on, quit wearing a diaper/pullup at night, and use the toilet for all bodily functions. My 3rd daughter was a bed-wetter - as was I and my Dad too. (Yup - it can be hereditary.) She was potty trained by her sister's mostly because she also wanted cute panties but needed diapers at night. Until she was 12. And that's OK! It's fairly common for bedwetting to stop around that age developmentally. There are lots of studies done about bedwetting. I loved this video! I can't wait to see how their next child does. It'll be so interesting to see because life is so different! Each child is so different! Sorry for such a long post.

I so agree with this. When you work with 30 kids a day, and especially when you've worked at several or many different centres, with different catchments of parent types.. The pattern becomes really clear, that for most kids, it's having parents who are confident and willing to try the timing to develop the skills

thank you for the shout out sweetheart.

I think you’re right. I made the mistake of waiting for my second child to figure it out herself as I had heard so many people say that they basically train themselves when they are ready. Regret!! She’s 4 in June and although she’s doing great at home (I finally figured out that she needed me to confidently lead), she will NOT go at school 😩 She was holding it all day (!) so we had to go back to wearing pull ups for school. I feel like if I had started wayyyy earlier, she would have it down by now 🤦🏻‍♀️

That image made me laugh! Thanks!

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That’s completely okay every kiddo and situation is different please don’t beat yourself up.

Ditto x

I got a KiwiCo crate for my daughter after watching Jessica & Claude's Channel for a while (space themed play mat and toys). They aren't cheap but the quality really is excellent. I had only agreed to buy one rather than a subscription and recently got an email saying another is on the way so I have to chase that up, but I'm not really too upset as honestly she loves the play mat and the toys (the shooting star is an excellent teether but it recently went missing 😢).

Same with my son. We did it just the same, but it didn't work at all. He never showed signs, never peed with his diaper off, he just wasn't into it haha At three he decided in a matter of days that he was ready and basically potty trained over night (or so it felt). I think some babies are made for it and others aren't. He spoonfed himself at 10 months without any messes though. Guess he got his independence boost from that haha

Congratulations and as this was posted on here 2 days ago, you may have had your baby by now! If not, obviously it'll be soon. 🎊🥳🎉

@@alicecain4851 not yet but soon! 😂

Each one has their own timeline :) keep doing you! ❤️