Epidural vs unmedicated labor - i have done both!

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3 жыл бұрын

I just had my third baby and my first epidural! This is my positive epidural story and my opinion on having an un-medicated labor versus a medicated one!
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If you are a mom or dad expecting a new baby this video is to help you decide whether or not you want to get an epidural! My two previous births were unmedicated mostly because I was afraid of an epidural and thought it would be cool to do it without meds. My pregnancy with this third baby was entirely different than with my first two kids and I knew I would consider an epidural, especially because I went into preterm labor and wasn't sure what kind of state my baby would be in when she arrived. I ended up getting one for this delivery and loved it. I am so thankful I did, though I also loved my unmedicated labors as well. Hopefully this video will help you feel more prepared! Whether you have an epidural, any other medication, an unmedicated labor, a home-birth, a water-birth, a c-section or anything else just know that you are amazing. Do whatever you need to do to keep you and baby healthy. Whatever story you have it is a success story. Congratulations!
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@jess_hover 3 жыл бұрын

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@autismenlightenment 3 жыл бұрын

Welcome home Jules!

@christian8903 3 жыл бұрын

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@allaveremiy 11 ай бұрын

Pregnant with #4 and due any day now, previous births were all with epidural and I loved it, I enjoyed watching my babies being born and being pain free at the moment, I felt all the pressure of the baby passing through but it was painless. I always say I thank God for those doctors who came up with epidural and made women feel better and fearless. There’s no one to impress with unmediated birth or home birth or any other way, every woman is a hero giving a life to a tiny human, it’s a choice each woman makes if she wants to scream from pain or be pain free and enjoy the birth of your precious child. Each labor is a natural thing and it was given to each woman to experience but we are the ones who chose to have it medicated or not medicated and that’s the only difference.

@wendymtzc 10 ай бұрын

I think those of us who do it unmedicated are not trying to impress anybody, that will just be a natural result of our choices, we do it because we trust our body’s design, we do it because we don’t want drugs pumped into our bodies with our babies still inside, we even do it because we want the whole natural experience.

@CassBlast5 11 ай бұрын

I know this is an older video but still, it helped me! I'm 20 weeks with my first and I can't figure out if I'm more anxious of the pain of natural birth or of the epidural 😂 But your advice of "see how it goes and if you are suffering, go for it and don't shame yourself" is just what I needed to hear.

@melissajohnson1082 8 ай бұрын

Same here I’m 19 weeks today and I’m nervous about both

@nanapelletier4132 7 ай бұрын

If you remove your fear and look up videos on how to relax during labor you can do it unmedicated. If you talk to yourself like “we shall see IF I can” you wont do it. Just because you programmed yourself this way. Your body is perfectly designed and can do amazing things. Labor is one of them. Don’t be afraid. Labor pain is like running a marathon. It starts small and naturally progresses gradually letting you get ready for the next stage physically and mentally. Just don’t let them push pitocin on you for no reason. God bless ❤️

@elyse443 6 ай бұрын

Labor pain will certainly help you decide.😂

@KatherineBierach 3 жыл бұрын

I was going to have an unmedicated labor because not being able to walk felt scary, so I didn’t want an epidural. But then once I went into labor, I couldn’t have walked anyway. I was shaking with pain and had no energy to walk so the epidural was right for me and I’m so thankful I did it!

@tawnytuppence5573 3 жыл бұрын

I’m on both teams too! Every birth is different, so there should never be any shame. If you loved that baby into getting here, you did it right! ❤️

@laurendallas253 3 жыл бұрын

Looovvvveeee my epidurals. No issues with either. Just relief and a happy momma 🙌🏼

@mattcleech 3 жыл бұрын

I lost some of my hearing after my third with an epidural. Wasn't worth it. It's a rare side effect.

@deeedeee553 3 жыл бұрын

@@mattcleech whoa😳 is it??!!😧

@abigailkiana8852 2 жыл бұрын

I am so torn on if I should get one or not 😭😭

@TheBalancedMom 2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree-- due with baby #5 in 2 months and the most memorable and peaceful labor was the one when the epidural worked fully! My non medicated delivery one was super traumatic!

@needyheartsclub5577 2 жыл бұрын

ahhh so torn! I guess getting it is something you know in the moment! Everyones body is different and have heard birth stories go both ways :(

@rachelgrahamforever 3 жыл бұрын

omg when you said you prepared so much..and it "didn't work for me" LOL I was like YES THAT'S THE DAMN TRUTH. OMG I did Hypnobirthing, I had a birthing pool, a playlist, candles, prayer affirmation flags, I watched endless natural birth videos for legit 42 weeks straight. I planned for a home water birth- and had a home on land birth..he was 7 pounds 10 oz. I went into labor at 1am on September 20th and labored alone with my husband in and out of the birthing tub for 13 hours until my midwife arrived. She checked me as soon as she arrived and I was at 10cm dilated and fully effaced. I couldn't believe that I had gone through transition alone without the midwife. Everyone had said that transition was the hardest part- and that the pushing phase was a "relief." Because I was at 10cm, she said I was ready to go- but that my water had not broken. So we waited for another 2 hours for it to break, but it didn't- so they broke it for me. By 4pm I started pushing, and he was born at 6:35pm. MAY I JUST SAY, the pushing phase was THE WORST part of the entire thing. Feeling my vagina stretch and inevitably tear as his head was coming out, was LEGIT INSANE. Most intense pain of my entire existence- like I did not know pain like that was actually possible. SO thank you for your awesome honest videos..and sorry if this was TMI.. but I had to share!

@kaayjane 3 жыл бұрын

Agreed! I don't even remember the pain of the contractions, but the pain of pushing my son out.... unmatched. I actually laboured at home alone for 7 hours before my husband got home, took me to my midwife appointment, found out I was 9cm, drove to the hospital, and pushed for almost 2 hours. I always hear that you forget the pain, but I haven't, and now I'm pregnant with twins! I will most definitely be getting an epidural (at least that's the plan).

@lauradermatis1372 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your honest comment... I’m 8 weeks 3 days and wanted to try for a natural but as I read your comment I was thinking about the pain and I think I just decided to get an epidural😂😂😂😂 I think I could do it but do I want to go through the pain? I dont think so😭Sounds too much!!!

@rachelgrahamforever 3 жыл бұрын

@@kaayjane omg yes! The contractions were nothing compared to pushing him out. Twins!! Omg share your birth story after !! Wishing you all the best :)

@rachelgrahamforever 3 жыл бұрын

@@lauradermatis1372 honestly- the pain was UNREAL.. but I would still do it again. The benefits of having a natural unmedicated birth outweighed the pain, even now looking back at it!! Ultimately you will make the decision that is best for you!! I wish you a wonderful and chill pregnancy!!! :)

@kaayjane 3 жыл бұрын

@@lauradermatis1372 I know many women (my sister and mom included) who have had all unmedicated births and not found it insanely painful at all. I believe there were other factors that played apart in my birthing experience (past sexual trauma, etc.), and my comment wasn't meant to scare others into an epidural, but just to relate to Rachel's experience :)

@samanthab4926 3 жыл бұрын

Currently 7 weeks pregnant with my second and omg, the wave of emotion that overcame me when I saw Juliet home with you.... big old tears. My first was in the NICU and I remember how amazing it was to finally bring him home. So beyond happy for you guys ❤

@erikahall9640 2 жыл бұрын

I just got to 36 wks and I can't tell you how much your videos have helped me. I'm 42 and she is my first child. The information you provide is so unique and detailed. I absolutely love how you break everything down in your own words and experiences. Thank you so much for everything

@monicapuccetti3310 Жыл бұрын

Wow, I just gotta say wow, this is such a wonderful example of non judgmental mothering and women supporting women in all of their diverse choices, you are what is right about the internet, thank you for your honest, helpful words 🙏

@michelleholland1500 3 жыл бұрын

I’m 20 weeks with my first and this was so helpful! I’m the first in my friend group to have a baby too - thank you for being so transparent.

@nicolemarie2633 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kind words in the end of this video! I had an intention/preparation to go unmedicated and, after my water had been broken for 48 hours and I was only 5cm, I was exhausted, falling asleep between intense contraction, and opted for the epidural. It has been challenging to accept the way it went when I had my heart set on a different way, but I like your perspective that there is no shame and instead we can be thankful for healthy babies! Thank you

@tiadavenport5465 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for keeping an open mind and heart to what is best for each pregnancy and stage in your life. I've had seven pregnancies and have six children, so I've experienced it all, I feel. The point is to deliver a healthy child, and you survive to be the best mom you can be-hats off to you and congratulations.

@shaizzz123 Жыл бұрын

What happened to your one child. How all your children born??

@ryanm7249 3 жыл бұрын

So glad to hear Juliet is home now. Praying that everything continues to go smoothly!

@Kate-og3pz 3 жыл бұрын

I am so happy that Juilet is home with you guys now! I still will be praying for you guys! Have a blessed day!:)

@ads112233 3 жыл бұрын

You’re the best! Your relaxed and positive view on birth and planning for your birth experience is so calming for me. My baby is due a month from today and i really have no idea what to expect. I’m high risk so my doctors have talked about possible c section, possible induction, possible preterm labor... so basically anything could happen. And on top of that, I haven’t decided if i want the epidural or not even though everyone in my life is telling me to do it. But surprisingly I’m not too worried. I’m just excited to see how it all turns out and thrilled to meet my little man. Thank you for what you do! I hope you and Jules are feeling fabulously ❤️

@nature.nurture.nirvana Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this!!!! I also had an unmedicated birth with my daughter, and went into it thinking I could “breathe” through my 14 hrs of contractions (as I learned in hypnobirthing) but I will tell you I did a lot more teeth grinding and screaming into the pillow than I did gentle, zen like breathing🤣🤣🤣 I will say, although it was the worst pain of my ENTIRE life, and literally the hardest thing I have ever done, it was the most empowered I have ever felt. An out of body experience that I can only described as….raw, intense and insanely spiritual😭

@lexr6874 3 жыл бұрын

I'm still processing and accepting my birth experience. I went in expecting an unmedicated birth and ended up with both an epidural and a cesarean. Thank you for your healing words. Watching the end of this video, I felt you holding me and telling me it IS ok! 🧡

@sisterfleur7523 3 жыл бұрын

Same. Epidural, episiotomy, then emergency c section

@yichispiritual 2 жыл бұрын

Would a warm and sincere celebration from friends and relatives help processing it?

@nv2781 2 жыл бұрын

I can't accept mine yet, 7 years later every time I remember I just cry. This don't let me have more babies. Sometimes I think I will like to have another one but then this memory come back to hunting me again and again then I just keep telling myself that with one is ok.

@shelly1067 2 жыл бұрын

Same with me, I still feel like crying memorizing that time.

@Marwaislief 7 ай бұрын

@@nv2781 maybe you can go for a c-section by choice?

@jessicahaynes5614 3 жыл бұрын

Im about to have my third and my first two I was unmedicated. I plan on getting the epidural so I am so glad to have found this video!

@chocolatereigns 3 жыл бұрын

I loved, loved, LOVED my unmedicated labor experience. But I'm 21 weeks pregnant with baby #2 and I could absolutely imagine myself getting an epidural this time.

@brilliantbutblue 3 жыл бұрын

The jeggings and the romper are a keeper! May you and Jules always be blessed with health and happiness. 🙏

@user-yk6gx8nv7g 2 жыл бұрын

I just love how you communicate with your audience. I'm pregnant and your video really helped me.

@SOKAD123 3 жыл бұрын

You have such a soft, suiting voice and you seem to be a very gentle and calm person. Thank you for your video :) All the best to you!

@imaybeanidiotbut9338 Жыл бұрын

Coming into this video, I had this mindset that I absolutely did not want any kind of intervention unless there was an emergency. After hearing your perspective and story, I think I’ve come to the conclusion that it will be so much better for me going into labor if I am open to the many different types of labor experiences-including C-section. I’m a Christian and I’m doing Christian hypnobirthing right now in prep for my unmedicated labor. One of the affirmations is “I give this birth over to Our Father, Lord Jesus, and Holy Spirit.” If I truly believe that, I think I need to be open to the process going any number of ways. So your advice to “go into it trying unmedicated and be open to an epidural” has really helped me start this process. I know that if I’m so afraid of interventions that the idea of having them is out of the question, that’s just going to put more pressure on me and make it harder to stay calm. So I think in a roundabout way, being more accepting of other possible outcomes will better help me to achieve the one I would prefer.

@annarocha3254 3 жыл бұрын

I have never in my entire youtube watching career followed someone so closely that I noticed when they didn't post at their usual time. But I have been praying for you all week when you didn't post earlier and it absolutely thrills me to see that beautiful baby girl home with you. I am due TODAY with my little boy and you have helped relax my fears in so many ways. Thank you and God bless you. 💛

@jess_hover 3 жыл бұрын

That is SO nice of you! Thank you! Congratulations on your little boy! I hope you have an amazing delivery! SO excited for you!

@rjahood2473 10 ай бұрын

How did your birth go?!

@annarocha3254 10 ай бұрын

@@rjahood2473 it was my second birth and it went incredibly well. I was so relaxed and peaceful for the entire thing. Pushing was the only thing that hurt like heck but it only lasted about 15 minutes and then my baby was out. :)

@katesansom3841 3 жыл бұрын

I’m glad you had a great & positive epidural experience! That’s really motivating and good to hear. It definitely brings me some relief to hear that. I don’t even know if I’m pregnant or not yet, but I’ve thoroughly enjoyed watching these videos nonetheless.

@ramekinevan 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy to see Juliet home and healthy! What a blessing! Such a cutie 😍

@samanthahannah8 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I have been struggling with my birth experience. This helps. I have a healthy baby and I am healthy that's what matters

@MPaez-lq5ig 3 жыл бұрын

Just had my baby last Saturday. I opted for an epidural (after 27 hours of contractions) which was botched so I had one completely numb dead leg and I felt everything else. The pain was so intense but it was too late to fix it as they broke my water and started pitocin. My baby was delivered within 2 hours of that...INTENSE is an understatement. I told myself I wouldn’t be a drama queen but I couldn’t help from yelling aloud during contractions to the bittersweet end. That day I vowed off having any more children (this is my first). The next day I said “yeah, I’d do that again.” You forget about the pain literally overnight. Anything to bring a beautiful and healthy baby into the world.

@melanieee6 3 жыл бұрын

Your birth experience is like mine, opted after 24hours for an epidural, one leg was dead and still felt everything but I ended up having a C-section after 3 hous of pushing where I was in so much pain, but I could not really push because everything was just so numb. So I would not go for an epidural again....

@suseq949 3 жыл бұрын

A lot depends on the skill of the anesthesiologist. It’s a shame your epidural was not right. No reason to suffer through all of that pain. That’s awful.

@marthak3191 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so happy Jules is home with you 💗

@biancalande5450 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your vid! I’m 21 weeks with my first baby, & been putting off even thinking about it for fear, but this really helps, & striving for your calming vibes. Congrats on your princess❤️👶🏻❤️

@kirsten6377 3 жыл бұрын

Very informative, thank you! There's two points that I describe often to my new-mum friends who ask me about those two experiences. Pro epidural in my opinion is the fact that in case that you need stitches afterwards (which is very common) they can just up the epidural and you don't feel a thing, loved that! Pro unmedicated in my experience is that it's much easier and more intuitive to push, I had real trouble with an epidural even though it was my smaller baby and very intuitive in my other birth. But, yes, totally go with the flow mamas and don't be afraid whatever way you give birth!

@CyborgSlayerNila 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so so happy little one is there with you all now! I'd love to know how the family is getting along❤️ Can we also acknowledge how crappy getting a catheter is??

@jadomonell 3 жыл бұрын

I love this video!! I am terrified of epidurals, refused the offer my first time and totally didn’t even have time for one the second time. I would say if you’re on the fence: try unmedicated and if you can handle the pain and *you are progressing well with dilation* it can be great. I feel more empowered by my unmedicated births. And yes!!!! Cesareans are legitimate ways of having children, ain’t no shame in that game!!! 💜💜💜

@bellajones9323 3 жыл бұрын

I had 2 natural births and the other 2 with epidurals, I fell very empowered by both minus the pain with the he last two 😅

@NiVi192 3 жыл бұрын

There are definitely good arguments on both sides, it really depends on the individual case!

@jjc6775 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve only had one natural birth and plan to do another, but I SO understand all the reasons for getting an epidural in your situation!

@willowgreene1476 3 жыл бұрын

So happy for you ❤️ I had two babies Unmedicated and it was amazing but I’m totally the same - it was very painful!!! Yes it’s possible, beautiful, all the things, including painful!!!!

@Bryce49281 3 жыл бұрын

Eek! Jules is So cute!! I’ve been checking every day for a new video and I’m so excited when you upload! Im 34 weeks pregnant with my second and I love seeing all the newborn videos and pictures

@jess_hover 3 жыл бұрын

Youre so sweet! Thank you!!

@marykmotherhood 3 жыл бұрын

Sorry for this being a random comment but my name is also Mary Rose and i had never seen another person also named it before. Congrats on your pregnancy btw :)

@beautyfarmtas 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Scared of epidurals. Ended up getting one, and the Dr said "wow, you sat so well." I was too terrified to move while he put it in.

@suseq949 3 жыл бұрын

Of course; best to sit still when needles are going into important places. Hope you had good experience with your epidural. I definitely did!

@samanthafranklin9948 2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha me too! And my husband decided to make a joke while I was frozen, thinking he’d help. Literally the only time I got mad with him lol

@KelseyThielmann 3 жыл бұрын

You are so calming. Thank you for another amazing video and sharing your experience!

@etaps14 3 жыл бұрын

My epidural was amazinggggg too! The guy who did it was so awesome. Just from that being my first experience makes me want one for any future children I have! My son was born this June. So glad Jules is home with you!

@roxannebennett5809 3 жыл бұрын

was it painful? :((

@etaps14 3 жыл бұрын

@@roxannebennett5809 not as painful as the contractions. I was in so much pain from labor I would have done anything to have a break. I don’t even remember if it was painful honestly because the labor pains were so memorable

@laurenswartz2688 3 жыл бұрын

I’m with you- I got an epidural after laboring 15 hours !! LIFECHANGING. I agree that it’s a little bizarre that the relaxation feels anticlimactic in a way- but I welcomed that after not having slept !

@krystalb6700 3 жыл бұрын

Jess you’re a joy! Thanks for the video! 👶👶👶

@clarivelm3105 3 жыл бұрын

I was always against epidurals. I was scared of secondary effects some people would say that it causes chronic back pain. I wanted a natural birth but I was induced and decided I didn’t want to last 2days in pain. Best decision I ever made! I was able to sleep and rest at one point and I didn’t get any secondary effects. My friend also said ‘who are you trying to impress’ lol

@suseq949 3 жыл бұрын

Also, in many cases, because the pain is gone, the mother’s body relaxes and releases all the tension. The rest leads to body dilating faster. A win win!

@MedoSunny1 Жыл бұрын

exactly my point - I dont want to impress anyone and no one is gonna give me a medal for doing it naturally.

@alleyj826 Жыл бұрын

I’ll never understand the “who are you trying to impress” or “you don’t get a trophy”…it’s not about that. It’s not about trying to show how tough you are. It’s the exact opposite. It’s a choice of putting yourself through potentially more pain because you feel the medicated birth cons aren’t worth it for you or baby. It’s simply a choice and has nothing to do with ego. Those comments truly baffle me.

@amarillo856 7 ай бұрын

@@alleyj826same. During my labor my doctor said “you don’t get a prize for doing it unmedicated”-I don’t want a prize I just don’t want the severe back pain that comes every day after the fact 😂 I was terrified of getting a catheter too. My prize was my baby 😂

@maryann4451 3 жыл бұрын

Jess thank you SO MUCH for your videos. I want to have a baby soon but am also terrified and your videos inspire me that I can do it!

@wallenka 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad Jules is home now

@letstalkbabywearing 3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!! This is maybe different than many, but I really wish I'd been prepared to possibly absolutely hate the birthing experience and not feel any rush of good feelings after my baby was born. I did both of mine med/epidural free and was left absolutely traumatized after my first. I was completely prepared for pain, but I also was prepared to feel like it was all worth it after having her. I don't know if it was due to the degree of tearing or what, but I felt so angry and unprepared about how I'd feel. It took until after the birth of my second before I finally let go of some of the trauma. My second was much more what you describe. The pain was intense and horrible, but after I held my baby, I overall felt much better. I really wish my first had been like that.

@lylky 3 жыл бұрын

You are really brave, I hope you doing better now and the baby be healthy and happy. I am 23 weeks and this video been helpful and waiting for the coming video you mentioned as well to have a clear overview

@janeleelemos6408 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Jess, this is really helpful. Having my first in a couple of months and have been watching your videos!

@Nicolea89 3 жыл бұрын

I had an epidural and I was so grateful for it. The labor pain was unbearable for me-I’m kind of a wimp when it comes to pain lol BUT I felt like from that point I was really able to enjoy the rest of the experience and be excited for it. Little did I know that I would need an emergency c-section shortly after 🤷🏻‍♀️ baby girl wouldn’t progress any more and my pelvis was too narrow for her to come out through !

@sherylfaith7843 3 жыл бұрын

i just found out im having a baby and have avoided watching such videos but i took the plunge and decided to watch yours... this was sooo helpful... 💜💜💜

@ladyofnoxus6733 3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations Mama!! 🎉🎉🎊

@raegan_price 3 жыл бұрын

I had the same pitocin situation! It was way tooo high and I had nonstop contractions. Love you Jess!

@Cyanopteryx 3 жыл бұрын

I had my son, unmedicated, 5 weeks ago and I regret not getting an epidural. The pain was unbearable and I actually begged them to do an episiotomy because he had been crowning for 30 minutes and wouldn't budge. When he was finally born and they handed him to me, I remember just holding him like a teddy bear feeling traumatized and in shock. I wanted to feel feel joy and excitement in that moment but I just couldn't. If I have a second child I want to actually enjoy their arrival, so I think I would definitely get an epidural.

@suseq949 3 жыл бұрын

That’s what many women say. When they have a good epidural, because they are not in utter agony, they can relax and be present for the experience. See The Doctors Bjorkman birth video. She’s an ob/gyn who just had her first. She describes how nice her experience was with the epidural. She was talking and laughing with her husband, ob ( her good friend ) and one nurse. Happy memories.

@makeupbyjessw 3 жыл бұрын

I watched your video on unmedicated birth to prepare for my first birth and now I've had 2 unmedicated! I'm not opposed to epidurals, and feel similar to you. I would totally get one if that was best for the situation

@laura72339 3 жыл бұрын

Yay she is home!! I bet you are relieved! ❤🙏🏻

@jackycollins9861 3 жыл бұрын

I love all the details! Thank you for sharing 🤗

@StealingSunsets 3 жыл бұрын

Such perfect timing, I’m currently 37 weeks and struggling with this decision! Thank you for sharing ♥️

@jess_hover 3 жыл бұрын

aw yay! you are almost there! Happy to help!!

@nanaronhano337 3 жыл бұрын

Sarah Lavonne on KZfaq is a nurse and fouls and she puts it this way, if you’re coping with the pain, continue unmedicated. If you feel like you’re suffering and REALLY having a hard time handling your contractions, get the epidural to have a positive birth memory. I had an epidural during my preeclampsia induction with my first and it helped TREMENDOUSLY. We still ended up with a cesarean but the pitocin really became unbearable at the highest level. I’m 22 weeks with my second and I really hope I can go into labor naturally this time as I think those contractions I could probably handle unmedicated.

@nanaronhano337 3 жыл бұрын

**doula not fouls 😅

@Rooskwa 3 жыл бұрын

Get the epidural if you want, you don't need to be in unimaginable pain to get one. Also, being able to cope with the pain before you're dilated too much to get an epidural, doesn't mean you'll be able to cope as well after the chance is gone.

@Monica-gu2bg 3 жыл бұрын

Make an informed decision! My sister had epidural and she suffers from headaches and backache from it.

@silverstar003 3 жыл бұрын

I’m 38 weeks pregnant and I want to thank you for sharing an honest and open experience! I was deliberating between the two choices and I’m glad I got to hear your stories. I really like how you ended the video with a positive tone - try the unmedicated labour and if it becomes too much, there is nothing wrong with an epidural. I also liked how you reminded us to ask questions to make an informed decision. Congratulations on your bundle of joy!

@reagananya4276 3 жыл бұрын

I’m nearly 20 weeks and planning on an unmedicated birth but not going to say no to an epidural if I’m too much pain 🥲

@araselimenera1357 3 жыл бұрын

I just had my second baby on Thursday (the 10th) it was my 2nd unmedicated birth. My first was in a hospital I attempted a water birth and my 2nd was in a birth center were I was also supposed to do a water birth (water is a natural pain reliever). My labor progressed way too quickly for me to have a water birth at the birth center by the time I got there I was 10cm. I attribute my quick labors to 3 things and I recommend you give them a try if you’re serious about trying unmedicAted births 1. drink red raspberry leaf tea 2. Eat medjool dates 3. Exercise on a birth ball. Look into all 3 of these and determine if it’s something that could work for you.

@reagananya4276 3 жыл бұрын

@@araselimenera1357 congratulations! Thank you for the advice. I was defo planning on using a ball and the tea one is a good idea so I will defo try that 😁

@mollycule2792 3 жыл бұрын

@@araselimenera1357 I did all 3 also and my labor was 30 hours. Just be prepared!!

@araselimenera1357 3 жыл бұрын

Definitely be prepared because you never know what could happen but I would so do everything you can to attribute to a faster easier labor not everything is in our control but at least try to do what you can control. And more then anything convince your mind that your body was made to birth naturally millions of women have done it before you and millions more will continue to do it. Trust your body sometimes we tense up and we slow down the labor so it’s important you trust what your body is doing. Best of luck to you!

@amandaashly789 3 жыл бұрын

30 wks here, I’m doing the same. My first child. Any tips from anyone?

@Heroes4Hudson 3 жыл бұрын

She looks like an angel 👼 Thanks for making this video!

@yolandiraffray8814 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your videos I'm 7 months pregnant right now and im starting to get so anxious about labor, I really want to do it naturally and im so afraid of getting an epidural, so your videos makes me feel so at ease ❤️

@jcflute 3 жыл бұрын

You are awesome!Love your perspective on this.

@Ashley-h719 3 жыл бұрын

Juilet is home! Thank God! She is beautiful 😍 Congratulations again!

@kassiscc1 3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful video and sentiments! Loved your balanced and mindful way to talk to us mothers about to give birth! Really really helpful! Love the no shame but at the end!

@alisonvazquez1352 3 жыл бұрын

Yay! I’m so glad baby girl is home ♥️

@andreasees6279 3 жыл бұрын

I’m do happy she’s home! ♥️

@danamarie634 2 жыл бұрын

This is the best perspective and exactly how I feel.

@siennakay3922 2 жыл бұрын

yay thank you for this!! I had my first child with no epidural :) hoping to be pregnant soon and thinking i want to try the epidural next time!!

@LexieJaguar69 3 жыл бұрын

Love that pink dress on you jess youre a beautiful mom congrats on your new baby

@Drecto25 3 жыл бұрын

Did you tear with Jules? Can you talk about how different was postpartum recovery this time?

@amberdunn7219 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve been watching you for so long and just saw you on an episode of say yes to the dress!!! I recognized you right away 💓💓

@amberlancaster7055 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve done 2 deliveries with an epidural at 2 different hospitals and it was 2 VERY different experiences. I’ve had 2 of my 3 at the same hospital but 1 was drug fee and my delivery last week was a drug free induction but I did request an epidural.

@mariahfedosov1516 3 жыл бұрын

Love hearing both your experiences! I feel the exact same way :) I would try and labor unmedicated, but if I felt tired or too much pain, I would totally get an epidural. Why not? As long as the baby comes out one way or another! (I have no kids but hoping to)

@TheBalancedMom 2 жыл бұрын

I'd love to hear how you knew that you were in early labor-- I'm 30 weeks pregnant with baby#5 and I started getting back labor :( so I've just been timing them and usually just wait until last minute to go to the hospital. Hoping it all calms down! Glad your little J is healthy!!

@breannaweber9118 3 жыл бұрын

i love your videos and your calming demeanor. cant wait to be a momma

@apj8381 3 жыл бұрын

Just had a baby on Saturday and did It unmediated. Idk If I’d do it again, It was VERY intense! Thank you, Jess, for your helpful info and attitude! Has been very helpful to me leading up to his birth :)

@Kat-qr7hv 3 жыл бұрын

I’m currently in the hospital at 33 weeks because my water began leaking a week and a half ago. They’re trying to get me to 34 weeks before I deliver and this video calmed my nerves so much just to see her home and healthy. 💕 I’m planning to deliver without an epidural but we’ll see how it goes!!

@ei3554 2 жыл бұрын

How did it go?!

@mariafathallah8045 3 жыл бұрын

Yay happy she’s finally home :)

@amberabroad723 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your positive and encouraging attitude! Very comforting to this first-time mom who is surrounded by people who have varying opinions on how my birth story should go. Counting down until March! :) Also.....I've been praying for you and your family during this time; I was so happy to see Jules is home!!!! I know you said you were nervous about her doing well when she came home, so I hope it has been a smooth and peaceful transition for you. :)

@sonnierhea7289 3 жыл бұрын

I go in for my induction at 8pm today with my first son & im so tied between trying unmedicated or getting epidural. This will be my second baby so I'm hoping things go a lot faster than they did with my daughter. I had an epidural for her & the experience was so painless & I loved it! But I do want to try an unmedicated birth so I can experience that as well .. thanks for this awesome video!!! Glad your babygirl is home with you. ❤️

@autismenlightenment 3 жыл бұрын

Bless you and your new child!

@wesurvivedtheday 3 жыл бұрын

So glad you are able to talk about both. My first baby, I had made it to a 10. And was pushing but we had a ton of complications and I wasn’t to push during my contractions until things resolved. I had been laboring for five days and I was tired. So holding back 10 contractions I could t do it anymore. So I got the epidural for the last hour. The rest was needed. I don’t regret it, he needed it and I needed it. Hoping that this pregnancy I can keep from needing an epidural

@shirleypatterson2786 3 жыл бұрын

Best explained Experience. Congrats and very real

@stephanieb3915 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy for you to see that Juliet is home! :)

@agoldsmith6232 2 жыл бұрын

This was super helpful!! Thank you!!

@hw06153 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this shared experience! I am having a baby in May 😁

@danistacy919 3 жыл бұрын

I just had my first baby, she’s almost 3 months old now😁 you look great Jess especially for just having a baby. I was praying for you and your LO❤️ btw I love your style and room. As soon as I found out I was pregnant I found your vids and have been following since. Also I really wanted an unmedicated birth and was scared of the epidural as well but I ended up taking it and I had a great birth with no serious issues. The epidural had worn off by the time I started pushing, so baby girl was out soon after I started pushing. I’m guessing it’s because I could feel the pushing easier since the medication had worn off but it helped so much when I needed it. Still was one of the most painful things I’ve ever been through😂😂

@omshomestead 6 ай бұрын

May i ask. Where did you give birth. I’m looking for the best place. 🙏🙏

@dragonflykites 3 жыл бұрын

im 16 and i dont want kids but im obsessed with your channel keep it up!!

@jenniferbuentello3842 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you I’ve had 4 unmediated births . . . I’ll be having no. 5 in the hospital alone this time and I really just don’t feel like doing all the centering myself alone unmediated

@joanburke5188 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video 💜

@angineering 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Jess, definitely keep the pink dress, you look really nice in it 🤩 Thank you for the video 😘

@andreaks28 3 жыл бұрын

Love love the pink dress 💕 You should definitely keep that one!

@HouseJug 3 жыл бұрын

You look so beautiful in all of the thred up items!

@tiffanyp954 3 жыл бұрын

She's home💓. Yay!

@cyndi.lee. 3 жыл бұрын

I just had my first back in the end of May with the intentions of it being an unmedicated birth experience. When I realized I was still sitting at 4cm for 8 hrs in agonizing pain, I couldn't imagine enduring another 10+hrs in the condition I was in so I took the epidural. I SLEPT LIKE A GOD once it took over 😂 Downside is that by the time my body was ready to push, the epidural wore off and I felt it all. I wasn't screaming btwn pushes but I do remember during the breaks I would apologize to the nurses and beg and bribe them with dinner for them to just get her ass out NOW 😂😂 Good times lol

@CristinasLife 3 жыл бұрын

This video was helpful for future reference. I def have low pain threshold, so I think that when I get pregnant I'm def getting an epidural lol

@hannahfrandsen7893 2 жыл бұрын

My anesthesiologist couldn’t get the epidural between vertebrae. After 26 try’s and 1.5 hours I just took what we got and I could still feel half my body and got all the negative spiral effects of the epidural. I am hoping to do natural with my next because I just mentally can’t go through all that again for no results.

@laure189 4 ай бұрын

I ALWAYS wanted an epidural, which I had with my first, but the second came too fast and they refused to do an epidural. I was not ready for the pain. Really not ready. I'm very happy i experienced it but on the moment i honestly thought i was going to die. I screamed like all hell broke loose, cried, and just was on the verge of passing out. If you plan unmedicated, be really ready.