Everybody We Call A Friend Isn't One //Framework For Friendships Pt. 1

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There are practical steps we take in business to be successful, like planning, organizational structure, staffing, etc. But one of the biggest keys to being successful in ALL areas of your life is directly (and indirectly) impacted by WHO you choose to keep close, not just WHAT you choose to do. Dr. Dharius is here to talk about how friendships can positively and negatively affect our lives and goals!
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@GlendaJPhotography Жыл бұрын

I’m Trusting God. I’m learning to stop talking & be an active listener.

@tinymenace9765 20 күн бұрын

Facts I’m letting go of a friendship that doesn’t serve me any longer there is no benefit I can gain from her spiritually, mentally nor emotionally. Thank you for all your wisdom

@ledonnathompson-cheek9540 22 күн бұрын

Whewww...This is an ON TIME word! Recently "AGAIN" God by His spirit through prayer told me to let a friend go...I tried to hold on to her for 18+ years. It hurts, but I know that it's necessary. I'm expecting God to place me around like-minded Christian believing women where we all LOVE Jesus for REAL! Thanks. so much for this video ❤❤❤

@ladybug0908 Жыл бұрын

Your friends charter can be your crisis. 🙏🏾 Amen

@umohvictoria1834 Жыл бұрын

Ran here as soon as my legs could carry me

@nicdpowell Жыл бұрын

I've been burned too many times by folks I called friend. God taught me to forget all of that. People are mostly transactional. They will surely go once they get what they want.

@abeekuworldchanger380 Жыл бұрын

This is true. The percentage of.real friendships is small anyways, but how God reveals that clarity to us is so amazing

@tisha7252 Жыл бұрын

Unshakeable Character - It's so important. Friends basically become the everyday therapist for our lives and the trials we undergo. It's important that we keep those around us who are not afraid to hold us accountable and not just tickle our ears and life with nothing but fluff. It is disastrous and we cannot grow that way. The last thing you want is to have people around encouraging you to continue on in your mess. No.

@Adrienne.Michelle91 Жыл бұрын

Making/Keeping friendships is probably one of the most stressful things about being an adult, especially as a woman. This message came right on time for me

@abeekuworldchanger380 Жыл бұрын

It's hard for guys too. But I agree. Harder to maintain too as people are so different. The amount of people that have walked out of my life, but the Lord has protected me from. Thankful for his love that friends can't really fulfill.

@Empowercircle. Жыл бұрын

I been on this a lot lately. Relationships influence your character while making decisions, growing in ministry, and simply growing as a person & living out your calling and purpose. In this season I’m praying for discernment, so I will not be deceived and stagnant.

@abeekuworldchanger380 Жыл бұрын

This has to be confirmation in my life without a doubt. Yesterday, I was listening to a message by Dr. Charles Stanley on the importance of building wise friendships. Today, the Lord brought me here on knowing that people we are calling friends aren't one. Furthermore, In prayer yesterday, I asked the Lord to send me people who are for me, and to release friendships that aren't, and be at peace with both decisions. The Christian life is the best with endless amounts of wisdom and spiritual growth. I'd never turn back to live in the world whatsoever. I'm glad to be living for Jesus, and being reminded of the importance of having good friendships in life. Like Dr. Dharius Daniels said. Friendships are either making deposits or withdrawals in our lives.

@essenceofqueens 6 ай бұрын

Man if I would of had this 8 year ago! Jesus!!!!!!!!! But hey lesson learned I will be better today on who I allow in my circle. Thank You Dr. D

@emmathiongo2844 4 күн бұрын

Emma is the best because he’s so

@fletcherandharris8558 Жыл бұрын

There is no one good but God gotta remember that. But I hear you. 😊

@GodsSolutions Жыл бұрын

Yes relationship are a major part ..

@mlungisitheoderecade-mnisi1522 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much this was so helpful!!

@therongarcia6988 Жыл бұрын

Great tips on friendships!

@MyPerfectWellnessChannel Ай бұрын

Thank you Brother for a good word. I needed this.

@alaynamckenzi-kw1eo 11 ай бұрын

Plz pray for me am currently going through this

@glendanesmith Жыл бұрын

I love that sweater Pastor Daniels

@thedamwoman8739 Жыл бұрын

This was good! I’m looking for part 2

@joycefredrick2414 6 ай бұрын

Great message.

@omarflores1 Жыл бұрын

Bomb teaching!! Thank you Dr./ Pastor/ Coach!. 🦁

@chevy6947 11 ай бұрын

I needed this 🥹

@joyouswentzel9429 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful encouragement!!! So insightful!!! Thank you Sir🙏

@chelseascott8488 Жыл бұрын

I BeCome like who I walk with! Unshakable Character 💪🏽👊🏽❤💞 (Consistency in who they are)

@katrinasmith6135 Жыл бұрын

Quick and powerful pastor 🔥

@silouanos7398 Жыл бұрын

💥💥💥💥YES ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! IT IS THE BIGGEST KEY. EXTREMELY POWERFUL TRUTH ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !💥💥💥💥

@erekalvin Жыл бұрын

if I was in this city I would 100 percent be going here. I’ve learned so much from pastor

@renadasoul Жыл бұрын

Thank you yet again for covering, guiding, and loving us, Lord. Thank you, sir, for this word. Thank you for yesterday, today, and tomorrow.

@bjloggins5790 6 ай бұрын

So deep

@karenadebrow7070 6 ай бұрын

I so so love this

@brittanyl6348 Жыл бұрын

Thanks Pastor

@GodsSolutions Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this word Pastor Daniels.

@Watashiwaa Жыл бұрын

I think I kind of learned the hard way. I lost a friend due to moving away starting a new job in another state. We were supposed to meet up when I tried to visit but he was busy. Years later he was on the bad end of a business deal and got burned badly. I still keep in touch with this person by text but I feel for his well being. He never elaborates on whats hes been doing like he used. I think he now suffers from severe PTSD due to this bad business deal. Hes now more an acquaintance than a friend you can call for a party. I keep telling myself I've moved past him, but keep feeling a sense of shame for what could have been if he had not engaged in that bad deal.

@neba_heals Жыл бұрын

Thank you teacher🙌🏾

@emmathiongo2844 4 күн бұрын

Mussa is the best making videos

@eltonmack7455 6 ай бұрын

👀.....🔥🔥🔥Great Teaching

@sobrinataylor3028 Жыл бұрын

I have a really tender heart and so I care about the broken-hearted. These facts have been taken for granted. Sometimes the heart of people who develop friendships is beyond the care factor. I am guarded now and will be extra careful who I allow into my space. Motives are real!

@jkenne28 Жыл бұрын

Speak Holy Spirit!!🔥♥️🙏🏼

@umohvictoria1834 Жыл бұрын

Pastor Dharius! Thank you! Thank you so muchhhh

@GodsSolutions Жыл бұрын

Yesss

@ingridwoode Жыл бұрын

The audio is a little low. Great message on friends.

@cpittman1527 Жыл бұрын

Oh soooo real......teachhhh pastor teachhhhh! #unshakableCharacter

@helenarmstrong8725 Жыл бұрын

Some people character is toxic people pastor you telling the truth you are so telling the truth had a lot of friends go

@abeekuworldchanger380 Жыл бұрын

Yes, let them. It's so funny I should add how God moves. Someone earlier last year tried to come back into my life after removing me from social media. 5+ years later. Forgiveness is important, but you don't forget these things, and I simply denied. The Bible reminds us to walk in wisdom. And when we do, it makes our lives way easier.

@rochelle7166 Жыл бұрын

This was so good! Thank You so much

@pinkbutterfly213 Жыл бұрын

Your spiritual life is definitely affected by your friendships. You have to be aware of the company you keep. Friendships can either drain you or further help you grow.

@abeekuworldchanger380 Жыл бұрын

YES. Say it lounder for the people in the back. That's GOOD. We often try to over exert ourselves in those instances when simeti, you have a better opportunity to Love them from a distance, spend less time with those people, not release them if it's in God's will.

@SJsRedemption Жыл бұрын

Great message but please level the audio from beginning to end. Dr. Dharius vocals are too low

@maishaalexander9892 Жыл бұрын

Excellent teaching Pastor! Thank you so much for this on time word! I’m having trouble in this exact area of my life. Good food for thought and action.

@deatriaharris1191 Жыл бұрын

This was an excellent video on friendship 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

@laquitadeshaallison72177 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this teaching. Very important considerations.

@Ivee_Ivana Жыл бұрын

I listened to this message 3 time already within the last 30mins. Although pasterD where did you get your shirt from? I love it.

@malijengnyaphisi-makhesi2466 Жыл бұрын

im glad someone mentioned the sweater, was afraid to ask. its beautiful

@botanicagravez Жыл бұрын

YES, THANK YOU PASTOR! No sugar coat straight reality.

@jessicaminor5763 Жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏

@womensupportministrymentor5761 Жыл бұрын

Confirmation

@Ivee_Ivana Жыл бұрын

Also I am coming home to Ewing nj for Christmas with the family, I will be coming to kingdom. I pray and hope you will be speaking the word on Sunday at kingdom. I look forward to next Sunday.

@nondumisomadlala1692 Жыл бұрын

On Sunday, Pastor DD said the service will be on Saturday evening/ Christmas Eve… please check their websites.

@GodsSolutions Жыл бұрын

🔥🔥🔥🔥

@ingridwoode Жыл бұрын

The audio level is a little too low. Great message on friends!

@praisechinonye1320 Жыл бұрын

Hmmmm,investing wrong people,a friend should be there all the time

@justjess8250 Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

@Breeandfree Жыл бұрын

When is part 2?!

@toyesunday2650 Жыл бұрын

I love your videos bro but please can you sort out the audio difference between the meat of the video and the intro- I nearly lost an ear drum with my headphones in! ❤️

@OVERCOMER72 Жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏🏾 “Making deposits or withdrawals” Friendships are tough you really don’t know who to trust, I tend to keep a side eye with everyone 🙏🏾

@abeekuworldchanger380 Жыл бұрын

Walk with the wise and become wise. Walk with fools and get.in trouble/suffer harm. Gotta love the Bible. It's true what you're saying. I've always pictured it that you never know who will walk out of your life tomorrow, so it's good to endlessly remember your foundation in Jesus and be reminded of who he says we are . The rights ones for our lives will come. Otherwise, some can drift be loved from a distance and be blessed.

@Nasart7 Жыл бұрын

Excelent teaching Specially for times to face, also important Discernemt Than You very much GOD FATHER BLESS YOU 🙏🏽

@frances7839 Жыл бұрын

💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

@ebonieyes34 Жыл бұрын

This a powerful word!!!

@praisechinonye1320 Жыл бұрын

Unshake character

@DevotedLady53 Жыл бұрын

Amen ❤️❤️❤️🙏

@mercysmartt9765 Жыл бұрын

Please no one come for me... I'm not hating on this video at all but the sound levels really need to be adjusted. The music is way too loud compared to the actual message and as someone with sensory issues it really threw me off and made it harder for me to engage with the rest of the video. I know not much can be done about it now it's been posted, but please bear in mind for future content. I had to turn the sound up because the level on the recording was too low but then the music came in blaring 😩🙉

@nathaniel4869 3 ай бұрын

Good word. If i may make a suggestion: your voice is really quiet, but the intro music is really loud by comparison. I had to turn it waaay up to hear. you, then the intro nearly made my eardrums bleed so i turned it back down. Then you came back on and I couldn't hear you!

@carlah8814 Жыл бұрын

Amen 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@denisethornton7245 Жыл бұрын

The message speaks volume. However we can dive deeper. We’re calling it deposits and withdrawals when it comes to so called friendships but what is it called when your own grown children that you raised by yourself and in the Lord’s house behaves or communicates the same way as these so called friends. You can pick and choose friends but when it comes down to your own children they were given and assigned to you….

@NavyVetE5 2 ай бұрын

You pray for them. You "cast your care" on the Lord, but you don't enable family. Let your NO be NO and your YES be YES.

@e.q.k.vision294 Жыл бұрын

Everyone Grows in this state of intelligence different stages

@tashaross3360 Жыл бұрын

Friendships are so important. Good friends are rare. & its kool to find ppl who are truthful & don’t try to diminish your light in any way!

@abeekuworldchanger380 Жыл бұрын

Yes. That's why I love the Bible and even apps like youversion. I've read so many Devotionals on friendships and one that got me recently was really asking people to discern the kind of friendships people have in their lives. Longevity isn't enough in friendships these days. Who cares if one has been friends with someone since kindergarten, or University. Let alone High School. At the end of the day, if they're diminishing your light, and rebuking the favor of God over our lives, then we seriously need to tread carefully with those people we spend time with, or love them from a distance.

@pretinaj.phoenix6532 Жыл бұрын

I totally agree...we can't have the same relationship with the janitor as we do the lady in human resources. To call someone your friend starts with being a friend to yourself. A true friend will tell you when you smell good and when your attitude stinks.

@lisaperdue8033 Жыл бұрын

Somebody going to say they say you talking with lines of cocaine because of all white background. I believe someone in cullman county predominantly white saw two of my friends enter our friend's house that's white. But she is rarely there anymore and studies s in different school from her siblings. She raised a black child from infant. They burned a cross in her family house yard only 20 years ago in 2003 not 1950s. I was telling my coworkers about her and they ohhhh we thoughtvyou meant somebody black. I never said that

@finnianfinnian8359 Жыл бұрын

💖🙏blessings & gratitude Pastor Darius Such an annointed message

@lr5637 Жыл бұрын

Their character can become my crisis. Word up!!!

@JayDub2000 Жыл бұрын

Friendship starts with being a friend to yourself first. The only way to set expectations for friendship is knowing your inner self and who God says I am. Once you know that, it becomes easier to decipher one’s true character. This practice will not happen overnight, so pray for discernment/wisdom and God will show you things. God showed me betrayal of a friendship behind my back the next day after I prayed about it that night. He showed me through a dream and brought forth a credible source a month after having the dream. Thus, it was all true at the end. Also, What I learn this year is when someone shows your their true character believe them! Don’t think you can change that person especially in a relationship.

@adrienstegall Жыл бұрын

Yessss God told me I had to be a friend to myself first

@abeekuworldchanger380 Жыл бұрын

Everything you said is so good. I wj say though that we shouldn't discount that people can change but I get what you're saying and I'm in full agreement. I asked the Lord to expose my friendships, and exciting enough, there are people the Lord told me to remove, and exposed people. Just because they're saved or unsaved doesn't mean that they're for you. Some people come with hidden motives and as I've realized, especially in the age of social media, we need to endlessly discern the people in our lives. That's why his book Relational Intelligence helped me so much in addition to Dr. Henry Cloud's book on Boundaries because the Lord can answer our prayers in these moments when we invite him in.

@amybienert1112 Жыл бұрын

so good I agree