Examples of Unintentional Gaslighting, What To Say Instead

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Gaslighting, a term rooted in manipulation and psychological control, has gained widespread recognition in discussions about relationships and mental health. It is a term that's been making waves in discussions about relationships and mental health. But what about unintentional gaslighting?
Gaslighting, at its core, involves undermining someone's reality or perceptions, leading them to doubt their own sanity or experiences. From subtle invalidation to unintentional manipulation tactics, let's explore scenarios where gaslighting can sneak into everyday conversations without us even realizing it.
#gaslight #manipulation
Writer: Clarisse Delos Reyes (new writer)
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO:Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animation: Naphia
KZfaq Manager: Cindy Cheong
DISCLAIMER: If any of these examples sound familiar to you, don't feel like this feedback is a personal attack. This video is here to help guide you in your self-improvement journey if you've been feeling a bit stuck.

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@Psych2go Ай бұрын

Happy May, it's Mental Health Awareness Month! We're dedicated continue to share educational and wellness content all year long. We are appreciated for all of love and support when you comment, watch and share our videos

@Moonlight-su6kl Ай бұрын

Well Happy Mental Health Awareness Month 🎉🎉🎉 Psych2Go. 😊

@EmbraceTheStruggle24 Ай бұрын

Ok then .....

@imarobot2415 Ай бұрын

posting bullcrap just to get views ain't educational bro

@jackiecastillo2484 Ай бұрын

Happy mental health awareness month!

@arjaymartin0701 Ай бұрын

I like you your video I thanks for you

@ashleydragon1448 Ай бұрын

I have a friend who has had people saying these kinds of things to him nearly his whole life, and now when upset he'll sometimes say these kinds of things about himself: "it's my fault I feel this way." I always try to make him realize his feelings are valid and that he has every right to feel the way he does. He has made progress and I see him blaming and gaslighting himself less and less as time goes on.

@EmbraceTheStruggle24 Ай бұрын

It happens. All the more the reason to be kind to ourselves. Easier said than done ...... but I speak from the ❤

@QuantumPrecision Ай бұрын

You are a good friend.

@NarcSurvivor Ай бұрын

“I didn’t mean to”. When really you did mean to do or say something.. and they know that you did 😋

@Sage_BM_6467 Ай бұрын

wouldn't that be intentional?

@rnbsteenstar Ай бұрын

Yes, I think so too. You can have intention behind your actions, while not having intentions behind the impact of them too.@@Sage_BM_6467

@danystyle6665 Ай бұрын

I feel bad for you limiting your life to being a narcissist victim and living every day with the past trauma and preventing yourself from the brightness of the future

@NarcSurvivor Ай бұрын

@@danystyle6665 Everyone in this world has experienced trauma and victimhood. Many people live their entire lives without developing the awareness of it. Which means they’re never fully conscious and awake.

@danystyle6665 Ай бұрын

@@NarcSurvivor so you can't do anything other than accepting it and instead of self detrimenting yourself by fixating your life with it

@legofriendsplay2338 Ай бұрын

My friend did not realize she was gaslighting me until i told her about it. Ever since then, she has been really sensitive about it.

@A55a551n Ай бұрын

Timestamps 1). You're making a big deal out of nothing 0:45 2). I'm only doing this because I care about you 1:24 3). You're too sensitive 2:16 4). It's your fault you feel that way 3:00 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

@ErnestineM. Ай бұрын

Thank you!!

@honor9lite1337 Ай бұрын

Than

@liamdylan_yw8rv7 Ай бұрын

Thank you.

@Gaminghj Ай бұрын

That first one is so real. A lot of the parents of friends I have don't realize the value of things to their children and minimize them. Making their children begin to despise them as they feel devalued and stupid. And maybe what they care about literally is that. But you should never invalidate what or who someone loves and cares about. No matter how awful, bad, dumb, or pointless they may seem. As you don't know their side of the story or the bond they've gained with that

@EmbraceTheStruggle24 Ай бұрын

It's an epidemic that definitely gets swept under the rug more than it should.

@notproductiveproductions3504 Ай бұрын

Another sigh of relief for the realization my friends couldn’t gaslight if they wanted to

@area52ron Ай бұрын

Using mother Gothal and Rapunzel was not a good choice as Mother Gothal gaslighted Rapunzel on purpose

@Tagging_Swag Ай бұрын

I think it was more like “what not to do” lol (And what SHOULD be said instead)

@nemo.777 Ай бұрын

Yeeeeeah I think you focused on the wrong part of the video

@ImTheHermit._. Ай бұрын

@masteel35-xinsecto81 Ай бұрын

William Afton: Both (80% Pure Evil, 20% Broken) 20% Broken: He lost his beloved son Evan, and he probavly loved Elizabeth too... 80% Pure Evil: For obvious reasons and its like blud caused massive ripple damage for decades just because lost 2 kids💀💀💀💀

@boomgirlbucko Ай бұрын

Okay??

@gaming_cookie_fox_6390 Ай бұрын

@LuigiBoi87 Ай бұрын

I feel like you submitted this comment to the wrong video. I’m just a touch confused

@masteel35-xinsecto81 Ай бұрын

@@LuigiBoi87 Ah yes my phone got lagged and somehow the comment gets into here. I was used to comment this on a FNAF characters pure evil vs broken video but I opened this video just right after I sent the comment there💀💀💀💀

@xethrion4758 Ай бұрын

@@masteel35-xinsecto81Makes sense like sometime I open a new video but the comment section still showed the previous video one XD

@MxPotato84 Ай бұрын

Definitely going to share this with my dad. Sometimes he unintentionally says things that are considered as gaslighting, and im trying to teach him that gaslighting is a form of manipulation that is not healthy for any relationship. My dad is all i have and i want our relationship to stay strong.

@ikergonzalez4222 Ай бұрын

This has been words Ive grown with. Infact, every relationship I got were like this. My actual friend group, the first I got ever and have lasted two years is the only exception. Thought I feel it's just because I havent deepen the relationship nor opened myself about too much with anyone in the group. Because I have the trauma, that everytime I show myself vulnerable, everyone will use it at their advantage. It's a thing I'm trinna fix.

@Flaudient_ Ай бұрын

hi, i’d just like to say, thank you so much, you helped me through times when i felt upset, had bad friends, and now i’m past that. thank you so much, i wouldn’t be the same without your content, i have real friends now, not fake, and i feel happy. thank you, so, so much. 💞

@lotuscroak4268 Ай бұрын

Mental health month,woo! Hope everyone is doing great.

@KenotheWolf Ай бұрын

I feel like my parents unintentionally gaslighted me, but I thought it could only be intentional. For me, the „too sensitive“ is true. Or my parents denying things they said because they dont wanna believe what they said or know it was bad and try to gaslight me that im making things up. Everything was coming from a place where therapy was needed. They loved me to bits, but they hurt my soul so much and didnt even notice how sick i got. When I said „im not ok, i think im traumatized“ my mom said „no, youre not“. Or theyd blame me for my good hearing, my sensitive taste and so on. „You are a picky eater, maybe its just you who hears everything…“. My Dad recently said something positive about my sensetive taste, that was the only thing I never heard anything good of and it almost made me cry. My Dad tries so hard to do better.

@lagnugg Ай бұрын

the whole concept of "gaslighting" relies on concious and consistent way of saying things, so either they do gaslight you or they are just bad with wording their opinion. "unintentional gaslighting" seems like a made up on the spot concept for gaining a bit of attention

@EmbraceTheStruggle24 Ай бұрын

@@lagnugga lot of it is rooted in knowledge, bias, and beliefs.

@genealotech Ай бұрын

This has been very helpful, thank you.

@noobzito2 Ай бұрын

HOW DO YOU DO TO HAVE SUCH A GOOD TIMING?

@Psych2go Ай бұрын

Have you been experiencing this lately?

@noobzito2 Ай бұрын

Experiencing what? I don't, if what you are saying is gaslighting :)

@EmbraceTheStruggle24 Ай бұрын

Ok .....

@marianogigahertz9212 Ай бұрын

@@noobzito2 How is it a good timing for you if you are not experiencing it? 🤔

@noobzito2 Ай бұрын

@@marianogigahertz9212 what do you mean? My friends aren't liars. It was just because the timing of the video was perfect (for me) Edit: and to be honest I really don't want them to be liars though because we already slap each other everyday (playfully) Just friend things Edit2: Or maybe I've been but with people I don't really know nowadays so I mostly don't care

@theshowplayz_ Ай бұрын

14 SECONDS AGO??? ANYWAYS MY FAV HEALTH CHANNEL POSTEDXD I love the content, like ALL the content you guys make in general❤❤ i might suggest this channel to my health tchr tbh:)

@Psych2go Ай бұрын

thank you for your love and support in our work!

@AC-ni4gt Ай бұрын

1) I spy a few anime and movie refs. Love that. 2) ...I have a lot to still learn so I can move on from my own trauma.... I've been gaslit before.

@Dfayethegay9 Ай бұрын

Unintentional gaslighter here. I would only really use it on my mom, since I hate her winning arguments (she’s abusive) but try to be patient with us. If we can’t change, it’s okay to leave. It is yes matter what. But it’s a good idea to help them work things out by forming a true bond with them. If they are over toxic run away asap. It is only good to stay if it’s small things.

@Twekion Ай бұрын

Dang, just realised I say "it's your fault you feel that way" and "you're making a big deal out of nothing" to my little sister, mainly because every morning she has a hard time waking up, because she's tired, so I usually say it's her fault because she sleeps late, and I usually say something like "yeah I agree school isn't fun, but nothing we can do" I'm gonna try to be better, any tips? (Also someone in the comments said they have a friend who says this stuff to themselves, and I kinda relate honestly)

@BreuBusho 12 күн бұрын

Aww it's nice to see that you are wanting to change, as your the elder sister let me tell you ( being the younger sister) our big sister words impact us way more then you might realize Try to empathize with her, why she sleeps late to begin with, is she anxious? Stressed? Understanding is the key, let her know the way she feels is valid and you guys can work out a way together. Show her love and care, give her a reason to wake up Early morning. You never know what she's dealing with all alone I don't know how young you guys are but truly sorting it out together is best with love and understanding

@BreuBusho 12 күн бұрын

You relating to that friends doubting themselves is highly bc you yourself were gaslighted. I wish the best for both sisters and I hope you both can heal together, as being the younger sister and a big victim of extreme gaslighting I suffer alot mentally, so hehe I hope things can work out with you sister best if luck ❤

@Twekion 12 күн бұрын

@@BreuBusho Thank you for the advice, I'm 15 and she's 11, I'm actually the older brother though

@anthonyross966 Ай бұрын

Question: so I clearly understand that sometimes the things we/people say can have a “gaslighting” effect, but I always thought that gaslighting had a specific meaning, in which intentionality was a prerequisite/part of what makes it actual gaslighting. Is this not the case?

@mobile-ip1vl Ай бұрын

I always thought it was

@lagnugg Ай бұрын

yeah, the main theme of this video makes no sense to me too. it basically teaches therapist language, and "unintentional gaslighting" sounds just like a buzzword to sell it

@anthonyross966 Ай бұрын

@@lagnugg ok, glad I’m not alone in that

@EmbraceTheStruggle24 Ай бұрын

Ambiguity

@clareoreilly7187 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this video.

@carlacortez8217 Ай бұрын

Everyone needs to watch this at least once

@BladeOfTheHero Ай бұрын

"You're too sensitive." What ways can I help my boss see what I'm saying isn't an emotional outburst, but the pain I feel from my co-worker is real and needs to be addressed?

@janiahperez713 Ай бұрын

I’m now learning that a lot of the things that happen 2 me aren’t normal. thank u.

@CalebShutt Ай бұрын

Omg, I kinda do this 😢. Thank you so much for helping me realize this. Keep it up everyone

@therandomstickman4835 Ай бұрын

hey, i really want pysch2go to read this comment, i used to love your channel, your videos, your thumbnails, but now i dont, because of one thing, the thumbnails, the old thumbnails used to be calming and kind of cute ngl, but now it's just anime with text over it, it looks, well, kind of weird, and i miss the old thumbnails, and thats not say the content is getting worse, im just saying that the the thumbnails make me kinda comfortable as opposed to the old ones, idk, maybe this channel just isnt for me anymore, idk, but keep doing your thing, keep making this content! i just wanted to say this because i used to be a huge fan and i wanted to tell you this right when you changed the thumbnail style, and now i am, hope you dont get offended or annoyed by this comment, anyways i love your content and keep doing your thing! love yall! edit: just found out you always did this type of thing, maybe i just watched the videos where the thumbnails we're the ones i liked, sorry for misinfo ;)

@mariasahar2788 Ай бұрын

Thanks ❤

@handyhacker11 Ай бұрын

This is the episode for me

@NotKeremAlp Ай бұрын

Yes

@lagnugg Ай бұрын

yep

@vas-poenitentiae-08 Ай бұрын

I’m bookmarking this video for when I write an obsessive character.

@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 Ай бұрын

Psych2go, could you please make a video about what causes daytime sleepiness and how to avoid? You may include what goes beyond the psychological reasons. What I noted is, 1. I don't have diabetes. 2. I don't suffer from depression. 3. I take an antipsychotic medication for Schizophrenia but it's aripiprazole which doctor mentioned as a one which could almost not affect my sleep. 4. My sleep doesn't get disrupted very often. I mean, I can go to bed and fall into a sleep without any trouble. 5. I suffered from OCD but now it's way better and I can avoid compulsions even though obsessions although they come into my mind.

@aaronlindsey2219 Ай бұрын

It’s so funny, I literally approached these changes just by trial and error with my wife. Using these phrases at first.. it was absolutely unintentional. I noticed that if I phrased things more directly instead of implying intentions, that I got a more positive response. I acknowledge the difference between these phrases

@hicknopunk Ай бұрын

Do a video on accidentally incepting thoughts into someone and the life altering consequences of merely saying something to them. I hope I don't get Cox an armless pilot killed by offhand mentioning that she should try paramotoring. I saw gears turn in her head when I mentioned it. This was unintentional.

@elfodelputoinfierno Ай бұрын

Me realizing my ex did a whole "you need to open up about your feelings more!" act to then tell me I was too sensitive for... Opening up as she asked me to, repeatedly. She'd get angry if I didn't, and was completely dismissive of me having ADHD and therefore difficulty talking about stuff whenever I was overwhelmed

@Rebbecca-mv3io Ай бұрын

My mom says this and i always believe it

@ShaggyZoinks Ай бұрын

OK, fine, I'll try not to next time...

@TheSpooniest Ай бұрын

While this is a valuable resource, we also need the opposite. What do you do when someone really IS making a big deal out of nothing, or really does require a harsher approach, or really has brought their feelings upon themselves? These things do happen from time to time: not all feelings are valid. How do you deal with someone who well and truly is too sensitive?

@imarobot2415 Ай бұрын

apparently you let them screw up until their life is in danger

@BasedAcoustic Ай бұрын

I'm glad Psi is here to help us think what we think we think 😊

@RainSwan Ай бұрын

Hello Im a 12 yr old girl that has been going through many of your videos because I can see myself that Im not okay. I really have not found a thing about depression and anxiety on your chanel yet I dont have. My mom is very strict and I fell like I cant tell her anything and I havent had any friends for 2 years. Im sorry if this vent disturb you in any way I guess I just wanna say you are a big inspiration for me and I wanna thank you for that❤

@zeekyl.r Ай бұрын

wait, I WAS GASLIGHTING MYSELF ALL ALONG?!

@lagnugg Ай бұрын

"unintentional gaslighting" makes no sense, since the whole concept of "gaslighting" is about concious and methodical actions. you're not as bad as you think you are. i hope that helps :)

@user-sx5lb3gd7o Ай бұрын

Your voice is beautiful

@XanDLight Ай бұрын

YOUR BACCCCCCCK 🎉🎉🎉🎉

@NanaNano-fm4zd Ай бұрын

What ever she said in unintentional, I say it all in my mind especially "it's ur fault for feeling this way" . But it's all internal monologue, I say what she suggested to say.😅😅

@davids2096 Ай бұрын

I'm a long time viewer and sub, and I'd like to make a special request for a future story! Can you please do a segment on Cheslie Kryst, the 2019 Miss USA winner? I feel that this story would be helpful for people who suffer from mental and emotional challenges! Especially people who feel they have no way out of their darkness and agony! It would also raise compassion and empathy for people whose loved ones may be suffering from these debilitating challenges! As you know, we all need understanding and compassion! Bye everyone! Be kind, be safe and take care! Sorry, I totally forgot you did a live segment with Michelle Rivas and Cheslie's mom a few months ago! It totally slipped my mind! I hope you bring back Amanda on a more full time basis! Goodbye and take care!

@vikybz Ай бұрын

Psych2go is cooking with that upload schedule

@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 Ай бұрын

Normally, these aren't being the phrases used by me. I don't say it as someone who has overcome those but someone who's not so capable of giving advices to others. Especially about the life.

@SourCube-ko4ls Ай бұрын

I don't say any of these but I have a deep anxiety of saying these I think it might be from my childhood but I don't have distinctive memories of anyone saying these to me

@hohohyhy7722 Ай бұрын

Am I the only one here that misunderstood because their over think because you think about details maybe no one thinks about it.. please tell me that I am not the only one ..😢

@Apeiron242 Ай бұрын

Gaslighting is intentional BY DEFINITION. If it's not intentional it is not gaslighting.

@BladeOfTheHero Ай бұрын

I wonder if what is meant by unintentional is more about a reactional tactic that normally works, so it's intentional, but the motive is for purer reasons, rather than a manipulator who gaslights for personal gain?

@oklol3461 Ай бұрын

examples of unintentional manipulation 1. breathing me: 😥

@1980aphillips Ай бұрын

Well, it's good for myself to know that I haven't gaslit the gaslighter or anyone back. Constantly on the receiving end. Which he ALWAYS, and that's not exaggeration, turns around onto me.

@LegalPoison Ай бұрын

Ah, yes... my mother's favourite sentences.

@arjaymartin0701 Ай бұрын

Is like feel for i appreciate of you i hope good time

@_mikanna Ай бұрын

My mother does this and when I try expressing my feelings and I get meltdowns, she calls me sensitive and a lot of those things 🫠 (keep in mind that I'm an autistic 12 year old whos still growing up)

@oneredshu Ай бұрын

🥴 the first one is my mom's go-to

@LilFoxyCosplay Ай бұрын

An employer told me it was my fault i was doing it that way as i was being hard on myself After refusing to give me autism support

@DesiRhythm6 Ай бұрын

As an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person), I get the "You're too sensitive" a lot. That is still gaslighting, though, as it invalidates emotions. A better way to go about it would be to describe the actual intent of whatever it was to cause the feeling while acknowledging the feeling, clearing up misunderstandings.

@ehT_selimS_ylimaF Ай бұрын

nice

@gianar6653 24 күн бұрын

What if someone was trying to understand but the other person, feel guilty for being there?

@user-cb8sr6fl5v Ай бұрын

My sister told me a couple of years ago, that when we used to fight as kids and I would say "Whatever helps you sleep at night" it was me gaslighting her. I would say it when - in a conversation I felt not heard and just wanted to break off the conversation - trying to acknowledge that maybe my thoughts would not enter the other person's brain and that's ok. I've been thinking for a long time about how my phrase was gaslighting. Any thoughts guys?

@legofriendsplay2338 Ай бұрын

My other friends do not listen to that friend and i am one of the few people who do listen

@meaningfulnihilist2928 Ай бұрын

Would you consider philosophizing, like in the academic sense, a form of gaslighting?

@Beekid._5 Ай бұрын

Am sorry but i have question: my grandma who is taking care of me since i was born (because my mom was on drugs and couldn't take care of me) my grandma was hurting me Psychically and mentally to the point when i was scared to tell her my problems at school or anything bad because she would alwayse hit me or yell at me or hit me and when i stared crying she would alwayse hit me more or yell at me more not to cry that's when i became scared to cry infront of people and i Don't even know how to talk about my emotions and when she told me she loved me i never felt that way so was it abuse or something else or me just being a dramatic or me being the bad kid?

@leesangpayab29 Ай бұрын

Go talk to a therapiste or someone who have a medical or educatif background. Internet is not "the place" to get advice about you'r case. Hope you got better

@AndreMalaca72122 Ай бұрын

Heyyyyy you're the one talking again 🫶

@bjchorny Ай бұрын

Avoid gaslighters

@phillistine Ай бұрын

This behavior is typical of how teenagers treat their parents. In friendships and romantic relationships this is toxic behavior, but is it "normal " for teenagers to do this? Within that dynamic between parent and adolescent child, is the unintentional gas lighting part of the process of finding Independence from the parent? I'd love to see some videos about how parents should navigate adolescent behavior such as this.

@laurelsilberman5705 Ай бұрын

I love your “cartoon angel” is still and adorable, innocent-looking chibi, but still has the biblically accurate six wings😂

@niasiamack9333 Ай бұрын

Hi psych2go hope you have a great day

@KiallVunMyeret Ай бұрын

Can't unintentionally gaslight someone if you never talk to anyone

@roadkillsarny8045 Ай бұрын

I am WAY too familiar with the first and third phrases. People use them on me WAY to liberally...

@TanjinaIslam-kc6my Ай бұрын

....I think I got gaslighted alot.. A LOT

@G.E-47 Ай бұрын

1:03 poor anya

@keip4568 Ай бұрын

Wasn't this uploaded before?

@ChocoParfaitFra Ай бұрын

I think so, other videos are being uploaded again

@nicknameduong4459 Ай бұрын

woa new vido

@Psych2go Ай бұрын

wooo!

@lagnugg Ай бұрын

isn't "gaslighting" by definition done with malicious intent? i usually like videos from this channel and agree with information here, but "unintentional gaslighting" seems like a made up on the spot concept

@dantethepunk6932 Ай бұрын

When you realize you've done all of these💀

@hobocraft0 Ай бұрын

Some of these are okay, but this wasn't written by a turned gaslighter. "You're too sensitive." is a phrase that's used to control an interaction. "It's okay to have feelings" is a true opposite, but doesn't redirect energy. The replacement should be functionally equivalent to it's source. "You're too sensitive" = "You are nothing." + "Do my thing instead." might be replaced with "It's okay to feel the way you do. Can we focus on this right now?" = "You are something" + "I need to do this, please help?". Every manipulation tactic is a way of getting something, somebody can't just abandon all their tactics without replacing it with a positive constructive alternate way of getting the same thing.

@keip4568 Ай бұрын

It is much worse when the gaslighting is intentionally from others.

@lagnugg Ай бұрын

gaslighting by definition is intentional, so dw you can call it as it is

@user-hz1fu3ip1o Ай бұрын

I don't do it unintentionaly tho, don't worry.

@iantheduellist 25 күн бұрын

My aspergers really dosen't help me here... 😑

@mobile-ip1vl Ай бұрын

These all sound intentional

@lagnugg Ай бұрын

a person can tell these things to sell positivity agenda, so in this case it's just bad wording. gaslighting, on the other hand, is by definition done with malicious intent, so here i'd not believe in the concept of "unintentional gaslighting"

@pick.n.pay.baggie Ай бұрын

im glad i dont do any of these

@TheChainTV Ай бұрын

somesay Gaslighting is just Puppetry but I say Gas Lighting is a Stage Play

@braxtonhostetter1069 Ай бұрын

Face reveal 😚😇

@calvin8513 Ай бұрын

it is not gaslighting if it is truly unintentional. that is like the whole definition of gaslighting: a form of psychological manipulation with the express goal of making someone question their own sanity and mental wellbeing.

@linkq657 Ай бұрын

Let's talk. You have made it very clear that you don't believe a Christian has to repent to be cleared of their sins. You have also replied to weak arguments against your point. However, you haven't properly argued against any comment using Bible verses. You haven't touched on the good arguments on your belief, only the bad ones, and it is pretty apparent why. You know you are going against the scriptures and His word, which is why you are avoiding anyone who makes a good point against you, and only take apart weak arguments to make your points seem more reasonable than they are. You can reply if you want, but you most likely won't, and that's okay. That's not the point, anyway. The point is for you to see this, as well as others, so you realize that your claims are very apparently false to anyone who questions them adequately.

@jessicahay9305 Ай бұрын

Ok, but youre making a big deal out of nothing and im only doing this bc i care about you isnt gaslighting when youre trying to help someone who is killing themselves with drugs and regularly going into psychosis and flipping out over things that are only happening in their minds. My person has recently been watching hundreds of videos on gaslighting and has decided that things like me telling him there is no one watching the house, this is in your head, please stop nailing all the doors and windows shut, is gaslighting, as is me breaking all the needles i could find the second time i found him blacked out. It is apparently also gaslighting to point out when an issue hes having is because of the drugs.