Thank you Dr. Fox! No seriously thank you, you are changing my life and therefore the lives of those around me. Your work is so valuable💓 I just got your workbook and I’m excited to see what’s in store! I have BPD and it’s still hard to wrap my head around understanding what’s happening in my mind. I take it in pieces & your work has helped contribute to my growth and my PEACE & JOY immensely❤️ 🙌🏾

Wow.. you've just described perfectly my situation in these last 3 years that I came back to live at my mother's house, luckily I've never suffer too much from my BPD living on my own but since I came back to my parent house, the pattern of being the "invalid son" came back making the Bpd heavier on my shoulders

I feel like emotionally handicapped I was bullied at work (some coworker thought it was okay to shout and call me names on front of my patients. I didn't do anything, just kept listening to her nonsense, she was basically screaming by herself for 15min) oh boy, I manage to kept myself together until I went to my car and got a crisis. One thing is for sure I was angry at myself for not being able to defend myself. BPD is playing with my head now, depression is crashing, but good friends did not leave me straight and helped me today. I am finally reaching for help

Thanks for breaking this all down, change is possible as long as you have the awareness.

I've been studying for a degree for the last 4 years and next july i will have a BA (Hons) in Criminology. In the past i would have given-up and this did occur to me at one point, but ive stuck at it and now im almost there!

​@Dr. Daniel Fox could you please do a video on some of the positive traits that people diagnosed with bpd have, I think this would be nice for people to remember when there is always so much negative stigma and videos of what is "wrong" with us.....be nice to remind us we aren't all just bad or broken 😊 thanks so much for your videos they have really helped me understand my bpd and why I am how i am sometimes... Like u say...Knowledge is power 😁 appreciate you ❤

It's true..100%. Stare down your fears to reach your personal potential and healthy relationships.

You are such a gem to the community...

Hey Dr. Fox, wondeful video! Would love some insight from you on inferiority/superiority complexes, BPD delusions, and PMS for women who have BPD. Thanks as always ☺️

You make things easy to understand.....thank you for all the help you provide...It is you that has helped me the most! ❤

So your beliefs become your lifetime narrative and you need to act and do things to evidence that you can do this, you are capable.

You and only you are the only professional who has helped me. Better understand my BPD. I HOPE THATEAMS SOMETHING TO YOU. KEEP DOING WHAT YOURE DOING. LEASE DONT EVER STOP

Thank you Dr Fox for all that you do !❤

I am so thankful for your channel ❤️

Loved hearing that it's okay to experiment, try new situations and people. No judgement. It is just trying new things. Thanks, Dr. Fox!

Thank you Dr Fox

Thank you, Dr. Fox, your videos and workbook are saving my life! I live somewhere where there is no therapist trained for BPD. I've come a long way with your help. I've worked very hard at it and will not give up! I'm also looking forward to receiving the BPD cards as soon as they are released. Thanks again!

Thank you dr fox you are making a difference in the world , very appreciated

This makes so much sense. Thanks as always Dr. Fox. We appreciate all you do. 💜 from Malaysia

This is a really insightful video, thank you Dr. Fox.

Your KZfaq reward on your wall confused me, i thought it was a real play button and that my youtube was glitching out. Anyway, i love this video and i've subscibred. I think i have BPD after many self-assessments but i will talk to my psych doc to be sure

Core content is where it's at, imo. Thank you, Dr. Fox, for this great content. "The inner story drives the external behavior, I believe. Fill yourself with Competent Content!" - Dan Staub, Lynn Toy Train Museum 🚂

DR FOX.. THANK YOU!

once agen an awesome video ..... ive been trying to remind other of this concept a lot on this BPD supourt group on facebook as i truly belive some of us with BPD forget the thought disorder aspect of BPD and think its souly about emotional self control ... and then end up feeling worse cuz they haven't changed or gained control ....... but with your videos I've been able to recognize the thought disorder aspect more ......and your right our beliefs are most the time at the core of our reactions .....and it can be many number of them ..... this video points out something I've beafly been able to grasp or even attempt to change ..... that self view thing you talk about the end of this video ..... this core belief that things go smoother a long as i ...... compromise myself ..... its probably the one core belief that's the ahrdest to change as it been my role since my family and the more i go back to visit them the more i realize how much i just accept it as the only way to be ....... i love my fam but sometimes (not all had t change that one but is eazyer to change that then the other ) sometimes ill always be asked to quite my wants or beliefs to make sure my someone in the fam doesn't have an meltdown .... expecully when my mom asked me too..... i was super sick when i went to visit them for my g mas funeral and the night after my eldest sister talked my parents into going gambling though i couldtn do to being sick .... her response when my dad said i was to sick to go was .... i don't understand (shes low cognitive as this hasbeen the core reason me and my middle sister have been thaught to down our needs to make sure she doesn't have an outburst ) so they all went expect my middle sister and when they came home my eldest sister still had an outburst up there gambling on my parents ....... this happened the last time i went and i ave truly realized that this is a core belief i follow with me to all relationships ....... just lower your needs and beliefs to make sure everything goes ok for others even if it makes me feel bad ... as that doesn't matter (trying to change this has been super hard just barely been able to make sure i keep my boundaries up with my partner and friends without having a panic attack ) i have broken beliefs like if i have a stressful moment i can party or its ok to party and i can due drugs cuz ive earned it ...... this is one i earge others to contemplate on ...... when you leave this beoif so vage you leave yourself open to over indulge ...... destressing at the end of the week or after a stressful moment isent a party and yes for some can include one beer etc .... but we don't say one beer we say party ...... once i started putting the self boundy of being more exact when i make these choices have made it so i don't over indulge still hard but deff making gead way same with what i accept as proof of cheating or someone up to no good the core belief i had was i can tell when my friend or partner is up to no good ..... such a vage belief left me open to reading the car a/c different as proof my partner snuck out when i didn't have much other proof ..... i had to change my belief to i cant tell when my partner is up to no good i can tel when things are out of place and things being out of place doesn't means there's something up ...... been hard and none of these are easy and sometimes i have to be super stricked with myself and say the new belief out loud not just in my head when my mind jumps back to trying to tell me its proof lol no this is not proof of anything accept its not how i remember it ... awesome video dr fox

Literally the story of my life! So grateful for this video

When I hear Dr. Fox talking it makes me feel super hopeful! I have BPD diagnosed very late 2021 and I am also middle age. A lot of times I feel hopeless, because I have no one by my side, my kids don’t like interact with me, my ex-wife does not want to be my friend, my new partner is already tired, so I feel super down most the time, but when I hear it is possible to change blows a bit of energy to the fire almost gone. Thank you Dr Fox. It is so hard to live with this I did not even realise I was faulty, now I feel people avoid me as if I had Ebola or HIV in the 80s.

You are very very kind and full of hope

Thank you so much DrFox you have save many beautiful soul by your videos 😢 I already ordered your workbook yesterday! Thank you so much for your research and your resources! ❤

Blessings from Peru, doctor

I love you Dr. fox

Totally random but I wonder if you would consider a video about nostalgia and bpd? Not something I hear talked a lot about but I've found myself consumed by nostalgia more than a few times in my life, not sure if it's just part of affect disregulation or something else. Also, though I think it could be considered a bad thing, nostalgia has seemed to help me in some very dark periods of my life, give me something to hold onto and pull myself up. Happy Saturday!

Thank you, this was so helpful

You exude empathy

Dr Fox thank you so much for all the knowledge that you are giving us. This will and is helping me so much, that I can’t even recognize myself. I am dealing with a lot of problems at the moment and I able to have healthy behaviors that is something that I never thought I could do. I feel I am 80% in control of my actions. But my emotions, I still have that same feelings and afraid, and I have no idea how to change this… is it possible to change not just your behavior, but also how you feel? ❤

You described my dad too a T…about how I grew up … but instead of failing…I’d get in trouble for failing … it wasn’t a “good job” it was how come it isn’t higher…? My mom wasn’t like that but that was my dad … 😅

"And comment too, why not?! Well let's get into it"😂😂 You are love!

My daughter’s psychologist’s booted her out of the company and said to her face they can’t help her because of all her complex needs.

I feel like for me the reason i fall so easily for any guy thats nice to me and get easily attached is because my dad was the only safe person in my household as a child since my mother probably has npd,so therefore i only felt safe around men even as an adult i guess i still crave that security from man..At least thats some of the insight i came up with from this video and also it seems like for both my parents 8t triggers them when i behave like an adult and they'd like to keep me as a 12 yr old for ever and under there control.But luckily im healing from all this thanks for your videos💖

Thank you Dr. Fox. One pattern that I have noticed is that I tend to change my mind frequently. It could be about an item that have have purchased or an appointment made or a commitment I made with someone. What is up with this behaviour that I can't seem to break? Thanks again.

I love you Dr fox you the Best!!!!

Hi dr... Can you please do a video on how to regain control of your life....? I feel like im always sabotaging myself doing the same shit that i know will make me feel guilty, sad and anxious in the future. Idk why i still do it....

What are all suitable jobs options that you would suggest for a person with BPD? From my personal experience the IT industry is very competitive and intense to work with and I am trying to figure out employment options for myself. The bad part is since childhood there hasn’t been a single proper interest or training or expertise in anything particular, which makes it difficult as an adult to choose a career path.

Sir I have been diagnosed with BPD in 2014... Since the past two years it's gone worse... I am having tention headaches... My brain has clogged, almost stopped working... I do not have energy to do little things like brushing my teeth... I have come to a point where I feel this darkness inside my head and I no more can track my thoughts or patterns... Is it PTSD? I feel burning sensation over my head and face area...

7:48 to 9:30 is and has always been the basis of my entire life. It’s really hard for me to listen to it.

I has called a crisis line today and they told me bpd people are best to buy a pet because making friends or finding love or working are most likely out of the question because bpd people can't be rehabilitated or be in society. I ended up overdosing after the call..I pretty much have given up and think I will live in isolation the rest of my life, there's nothing I can do to get better.m that's what I feel

If you grew up in a loving home how can you go on to develop BPD and other siblings don’t have the condition?

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I am new to your channel. I need urgent help I have no one to turn to. My daughter has ICD and lots more disorders and she asks me everyday night after night for over two hours is everything off. I am stuck full of tears and I just can’t get her to stop asking over and over again. She has been off methotrexate for 5 weeks now and it has increased her lots of anxiety talking a immune suppressive medication. Please help me Dr Fox.

I have no respect for any clinician who has ever put the label BPD on someone. I know people whose lives have been ruined by having this label. They have been "looked down upon" by medical people, the legal system....the list goes on. That name needs to be changed to something that gives a person a chance in life. I've never met a "therapist" whom I didn't despise because they make people's lives worse, not better.

I'm getting extremely tired of everyone believing that fear is the only fucking emotion that prevents someone from doing things. Because I have no idea what fear is due to a frontal lobe collapse at 2. Shame remorse Greig or a total of 28 emotions that were removed from my reality before I created my emotional map.

😶‍🌫️ thank you doctor Seriouslyv you doing videos really help I mean living like this is so irritating especially never changing I wish to adapt and learn to concentrate on myself Thank you again🪄💛 PS I'm so focused on what others think or if they need help or comfort they cry I cry they laugh full of happiness I get those feelings I take everyone feelings like a sponge leaving no time for my feelings and freeze I've never not had a partner WHO WASN'T A NARCISSIST(/ WHERE ARE THESE NON NARCISSISTIC HUMANS AT ?I WOULD LIKE TO SEE ONE just one PS I DO Believe I can I will conquer my demons AND NOT WORRY TO MUCH of others but only myself People have always told me this I forget to take care myself I'm always pleasing others Or I freeze for days afraid to do me