Extraordinary societal problems we are facing because of the lack of Fathers in the home.

It's not just the absence of a father or male influence. It's also a mother saying that the mother is the only one who should be involved, especially if trained.

Random tid bit: I am the maintenance manager over a couple apartment complexes in Rexburg Idaho. The majority of our tennants are young families. Being so close to BYUI we of course have many newlyweds in their first 5 or so years. Accross 300 units we have on average 24 divorces a year, that we know about. One of them will come in to have the other removed off the lease and go over their options and sometimes have us change their locks. Some of these young girls have a baby or two. I can usually tell whos struggling by the spirit i feel in their place when im fixing something. That or the noise complaints from they yelling, or seeing the husband sitting playing video games all day ignoring his young wife whom many times ive seen cry in embarrassment that he kept sitting there playing instead of getting up and taking care of the fact that someone just walked into him home. For reals. Many of our apartments are of a couple divorced guys, playing games on their computers or tv. They did the song and dance, got married in the temple, all to sleep with these amazing young ladies who had morals, then just to ignore them after they got what they wanted. Over and over and over and over again. Its not an isolated event, its a trend thats increasing.

I think the reason why there’s a lower out of wedlock childbirth rate among college educated women is because they’re having more abortions, not because they’re more “disciplined” and aren’t getting pregnant. They ARE, they’re just more likely to get an abortion. They don’t want the “interference” during their education and starting their career. Teenagers are more likely than single college students to continue the pregnancy.

Captain America was right though!!! Also stoicism as a philosophy is not toxic, but pop culture stoicism is unhealthy.

My dad taught me to have a sense of humor as well as help me with my mental disability to prepare me to take on the world. I don't think I'd be the girl I am today if it wasn't for him.

The consequences are the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets, just like the Proclamation on the Family says. The cure - the law of chastity.

All our children suffer from abuse and neglect. I suffer from the same abuse and neglect. We didn't deserve it and we are worth more than this. I feel so heartsick for my children. My question is because my family is suffering from generational abuse. I want my family to heal so much. Question ❓ What happens to a boy who has abusive and neglectful parents? Parents in the home, but absent, abusive, and neglectful.

Tim was one of my professors. I loved learning from him. Great to see him on the show!

The consequences of fatherlessness is found in Malachi's prophecy in 4:6. He tells us that if the hearts of the fathers don't turn to their children... the earth will be smitten with a curse.

A girl gets her identity from her father. As a doula I have seen again and again how babies of both sexes immediately looks around for Dad. If he is absent, they both keep looking...all their lives. Tim , you are right, and it breaks.my heart to counsel with a Sister in distress because the male world has hurt her heart ....a hurt that often started at birth.

OK I have a REAL example: my husband and I have a yours, mine, ours family of 13 children. I have noticed over the years that his children having had a loving dad really made a difference in his children's stability. AND his influence upon my children after we married was such a help to them to see what a real loving man was like as they grew up without that kind of solid influence. Then take our last child.....the OURS in this family.....wow.......a solid loving wise son for certain, because of the influence of his very good father. So YES a good father makes so much difference in the lives of his children.

There’s nothing toxic about being stoic, seeking high level careers, or gaining muscles. Being competitive is not toxic. The definition given before those descriptors was more correct. Great topic and guest though. This is such a critical discussion that isn’t happening enough today.

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I'm 82 years of age and grew up without my father in our home. I can probably count on my two hands how many times I spent time with my dad. As I listen to this and think how strange life's view has changed. Here is my life's impact living without a father in the home. My mother sent one of my brothers to live with dad. My parents were alcoholics. My brother, as an adult, told me how dad used to beat him often. He was married 3 times before finding the women who truly loved him and worked to help him realize his worth. The 3 of us left in my mother's care had interesting lives. My youngest brother followed the alcoholic path, like my mother, father, and older siblings from mothers' first marriage. His second marriage has lasted for many years but has no substance. My sister, 11 months older than me, from my mother's first marriage? (Not so sure this is true) She and I have always been very close. We love each other (not physically) but her life was so different than mine. She was married 4 times and never found that one true love... she was always looking. She, like me, chose not to follow the alcoholic life. Her life has not been ideal. I don't know if my mindset was strong in knowing I wanted for my life, and I settled for nothing less. Not only did I choose not to have alcohol as part of my life, but I said it would not be a part of my marriage. I know your talk is mostly about sex appeal as a part of life and how it is changing. With alcohol a big part of my life, so was a mother and oldest sister who had a sexual drive that we, as children, had to watch some traumatic events! These experiences I had to deal with left me with horrible images that I sometimes have to deal with event at my age! Despite all of this, I was blessed and protected and guided from a desire within to have a normal life. I think the giving-in to the media pressure has caused a lot of what you are talking about today! I didn't grow up with the gospel in my life as a family, but the few times I was exposed to a church environment, I remembered what touched my heart! One big message that has stayed with me since junior high evolve...JOY JESUS FIRST OTHERS SECOND YOURSELF LAST This little phrase was a God sent message directly to my heart! My heart goes out to those who struggle and feel like they have no other path to follow than the lies the media (for the most part) tell us!

Great discussion. It amazes me how the points Tim brought up is difficult for some people to except for people the think and believe differently then themselves. This is a great topic and is scary as a father I always wonder if I am doing enough and if I am a good example for my children, both my daughters and my son. Today it feels difficult to explain to them how they can be strong and independent and still have a great respectful relationship with their future spouse. It is also scary watching them choose a spouse, hoping the person they choose will treat them with respect and love. Great topic and discussion love it Greg keep up the great work.

Anecdotally I witnessed many girls on my mission in Colombia hitting puberty at ages 10 and 11. They didn't have fathers in the home

as an animator by trade... I appreciate the Pixar quotes, this is great!

Extremely interesting and informative in a blessed way.

Unfortunately, I am still in the LDS Midsingle scene. This attitude of the strong-independent woman is sooooo prevalent among single members of The Church. In the past women were looking for a "Worthy Priesthood holder." Now that takes a backseat to wealth and social status. You can have all the desirable physical and spiritual attributes, but if you're below a woman's socio-economic status, it's a no go on a first or second date. In my experience this is worse within The Church. There are more people outside of The Church that make the qualities a person has a higher priority than their socio-economic status.

I served a mission in a country where 75 percent of kids were raised without a father in the home and saw many of the problems related to the culture. In the United States, fatherless society has contributed to higher crime, mental and health issues, and a welfare state that is getting out of control. I consider this the most serious problem in our society. There are definately times because of personal choices, that the father needs to be removed. There are also cases where the father dies, leaving a grieving family. In the vast majority of cases, parents need to fight together and work out their differences for their children because every child needs a mother and a father. The youth should be taught to wait until marriage to start a family. It seems so simple, but seems to be the bane of our society. When I think of advanced civilizations, I think of societies with very strong nuclear families. I don’t know why we would want to stray from that.

I’m a southerner and I’m sad to say none of my Christian friends have kids (I’m 30) The only people I know who have kids my age are members of the church. This is bad for society- albeit a positive for the church. It means we will hopefully grow as a people in a crumbling society. And be one of the cultures that gives men structure and purpose. Perhaps this is what will lead to the priesthood saving the constitution

Great figure on this topic is Warren Farrell, particularly his book “The Boy Crisis”

Thank you. Great discussion.

Interesting discussion. I'd love to hear more

This is so good. We need more than just Fathers in the home, we need engaged and intentional Fathers

Which is worse… the absence of an abusive father or keeping that father in the home ?

47:30 - 47:47 - I can't quite nail it down, but I don't believe this line of argument is correct. I think if a woman is really into to what she needs, she would ask for it. She would invite her husband to see her perspective through dialogue and actions, instead of trying to manipulate and control him to the point where he chooses to hangout on the rooftop (Proverbs 21:9) and she gets bored, depressed, etc. and leaves, chasing something somewhere else, kids in tow (no father in the home), and repeating the cycle. Sorry for the run on sentence. Unless she really married a seriously toxic guy, he probably wants to do stuff to please her. If she's really tune, why can't she adhere to D&C 121:41-42 as well? His argument gives wives too much of an excuse to blame the husband.

We are taught empowerment and rugged individualism, but I have found that a degree of interdependence is a big key to a successful marriage. It's probably an unpopular take, but having a level of trust and dependance (as vulnerability) will strengthen the relationship.

Regnerus is awesome, I encourage everyone to study his published research

I blame the education system. Taught without moral compasses in place.

Ethic of Autonomy seems to be the reason I just can't quite call myself a libertarian.

Can you do a video about fatherlessness for boys

College educated women are in a better position financially to leave a bad marriage.

For a while I have been awakened to the consequences of earlier sexual maturation (puberty) because the body is outpacing the moral and neurological development. But what is also interesting is that most of the change of the age of puberty has occurred since the industrial revolution, and is mostly caused by a change in diet. You can get animals to develop and reproduce faster by giving them more food, and more calorie dense food. In nature, all the extra energy from food goes into reproduction, such as when you have a bloom of mice because of a corn harvest. Super-availability of food causes animals to go into a hyper-reproductive mode. And now, the abundance of food, especially processed food, has caused people to hit puberty several years earlier than was typical in the past. And specifically, studies have shown that dairy induces rapid growth and maturation, which is one reason why people hit maturity here faster than they do in asian countries. The fact that the school system has become propaganda for the dairy industry, pumping kids full of milk, should make you wonder.

Maternal feminist - big ocean women

I wonder about the Adam and Eve story, Eve partook of the fruit and Adam(me) thinking you messed up…. Now I’m going to have to either be alone or I’m going to descend to endure to be one(whole) with its consequences. I think people are choosing the first, they rather be alone….

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