Shopping is a diversion. Love the saying’ One isn’t enough, but two is too many’♥️

A cozy corner of conscious consuming! Or an elegant entertainment that's exactly everyone's epiphany! 😎

I like the idea of thinking about the final destination of any thing I introduce to my life. If I am not confident to love a particular item for at least five years, I won’t buy it.

This type of video is so refreshing. I am a shopaholic, and at this point, I am disgusted with the amount of stuff that I have and the constant buy/ declutter cycles and organizing. I just want to stop organizing as much and to live life. ❤❤❤❤

To add on to what you've said about "ask yourself before you buy" I now ask myself everytime I buy anything non-consumable "do I want this for life?" and the answer is frequently "no." I'm now so selective about what I bring into my life because of this. No buy truly rewired my brain and for me it was a muscle that got better with more practice and use!

Agree with how fast it turns into “making excess”. I also noticed that I approached what I own with a feeling of “lack”, and naturally, nothing was ever enough if you see things that way. Now I try to see it through the idea of “having just enough”.

I am 48 years old and only just started thinking about ysing up things and the impact Our consumption has on Our World, about 6-7 years ago. I am not a big makeup person, but i do wear it every day. I have one of each thing that i use, exept for lipsticks, for some reason i bought way to many, i decided a few years ago to maximum have 4 and yesterday i just finished my first lipstick in my entire life. That i insane, i do not even want to think about how many lipsticks i have thrown away in the last 30 years. I now have 3 and i am not going to bye a new one umtil i am down to 2. Love your content ❤. Love from switzerland ❤

I came to similar conclusions about makeup. It’s one of the areas I got influenced heavily by KZfaq. I had a similar journey from more artistic makeup to more utilitarian. It takes me probably 5 years to use a blush at this point lol. No longer buying eyeshadow palettes. I’m really upset with myself for buying 8 lipsticks in search of a dupe for a particular MAC one. I’m about to go into my makeup drawer again and declutter today after seeing this. Like many people, Covid changed my makeup habits. I’m embarrassed that I have stuff in this drawer from 2020.

Excellent points all around. When you were discussing “making excess” - I suddenly realized how perfect the timing was: I was in the process of mending a favorite 25 year old (acrylic!) sweater. (Trying to get to the bottom of my mending basket. Very satisfying!) I have a pretty considerable (but curated) wardrobe, but I will never let go of my favorites - even if they are only fit to wear around the house. I love your intelligent, thought-provoking content. Thank you 😊

I can literally see the glossy shelves of Marshall’s/homesence looks a lot like the chaotic shelves of goodwill now.

You made excellent points! Yesterday I went to the mall to suss out a store I never even went into because it seemed "everybody" was talking about its annual sale. The products were not cheap by any means, but I guess I was drawn to it because of the fantasy self. Going to the physical store turned out to be a great idea because I could try the products and realize I wasn't really missing out. Plus, I felt so out of place I realized that even if I could buy the whole store, I wouldn't become a different person all of a sudden. And you're absolutely right about how little it takes for something to become excess. I never thought about it like that and wish I had!

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My weaknesses are clothes, shoes/boots, and make up, in that order. The problem with make up (mostly lipstick) is that some of my "colors for life" get discontinued. Oh, the angst! I have even resorted to finding them on ebay and paying a lot more than they were retail. Sooo, I have very often bought multiples of the new ones I find and fall in love with. Some of these just don't work out, some break, some get lost, but at least I always have my back up stash. 😁

I enjoyed hearing your thoughts! Thank you for sharing ❤From my own journey of intentional purchases and decluttering, I now think that the search for the "Holy Grail" item or "the ultimate, perfect" item could often lead to dissatisfaction and trapping myself into a never-ending search (which inevitably entails waste of time, energy, and money). So now I stop myself from buying excess whenever I almost fall into that trap.

This is a fun discussion. I like this line of thinking quite a bit. When it comes to clothes I definitely have an epic collection, but I think of stuff I bring into my closet as part of personal branding. "Do I like it? Does it fit into the Jacqueline Decker brand?" Because if it's part of the brand it should be there consistently for the next 10 years, since I'm now 29 and looking at having kids.

"Use value" is a term used often in Marx's Capital to describe the value of a tool or good as consumed/used and to differentiate it from market value or trade value. (In volume 1, which is the only one he actually wrote fully, that wasn't pieced together by Engels). He had to be atomistic about that definition because he was not dealing with diversification of labor skill, individual means of making money as a business, or elasticity of demand in creation of his ideas around 'use value'. The reason I bring this up is because I am highlighting that there is support for the idea that "use value", which Marx assumed was the full life of a pick axe a miner bought, for example, could be a much shorter window in the mind of a consumer buying a product today. The "use value" for the buyer could be trying the makeup a couple times, or filling out a collection--which is also probably why in a true Marxist economy makeup would be unlikely to exist as it is not utilitarian. Edit: at this point I think the use value of influenced shopping is to make the influencer money 😂

You inspired me to do a No buy July. It is going well, and I may continue it through September. I'm going on vacation in October, and I will definitely be making purchases then.

I saw a forum thread on contentedness, linked from a WSJ post last year, and while the discussion itself is on fashion and consumption habits, the idea to step away from shopping towards appreciation, or contentedness for the things we own already, was insightful. While I am also working on my own insecurities and developing other hobbies, I also needed to reframe that shopping itch. And that was: maybe the new (or thrifted) thing doesn’t have that different of an effect, from what I already have. And that there’s also a certain pride from using a bag or garment for x amount of years. Another thing that’s helped me is to realize that I was spending more time than I’d like thinking about aesthetics and design elements, in clothing and decor. And it can get overwhelming when I’m doing that, as if on autopilot! So it’s been helpful for me to be aware of that habit and stepping back when I can.

Amazing chat! Loved it!

The trend of body styles is brutal. If you grew up with low ride jeans in the heroine chic days or the kardasians years it’s detrimental to our self esteem

Again a bit of devil's advocacy: I recently bought a summer shirt at a resale store and it is now my very favorite piece of clothing! It was probably too expensive when new for me to have considered so beautifully made of great material. Sometimes it's just time for a new piece. But caution and control need to be part ( an important part as you remind us!) of the equation

Haha I do hate grocery shopping but love every other shopping 😂 I like the idea of visualizing a product’s end of life to understand where ultimately this item will end up. I have never done that but I think it will be helpful. I’m with you on viral products, that is my weak spot and social media capitalizes on this insecurity in me. I love to try the best products but now it does seem like the whole viral label doesn’t mean anything anymore. Influencers claim everything is the best thing ever but I know now they just want to sell something and get paid 😅 and since starting a short term no buy, I have found myself enjoying the stuff I currently have so I hope I can continue to stay strong! As I mentioned in my last video, I went through the devastation of hurricane beryl in Houston this week and that really taught me how important savings are (especially in Texas). I have power now but some people are still without and not everyone necessarily has the funds to book a hotel or extra cash to go out every day for fresh food. It has been a hellish week but the city is slowly coming out the other side but the lessons is to always have an emergency fund.

Thank you for this video! You are kind of right, shopping is not the real world, it’s made to be fun, maybe we should go back to being children with real time consuming hobbies.

Thank you so much for this video, I have always gotten compliments on how I spend my money and my frugalness but it seems I still have some stuff to work on after watching this video Tiffany Phlanx's Marketing Specialist

New subscriber! Great video ❤

I am new to your channel. I wish you would do a segment on skincare. I just used up last of my eye cream. I suspect my regular moisturizer does the same thing under the eye but told by cosmetics people no. Am I simply throwing away my money?!

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