If the frame you are currently in is one of pursuit. One of chasing or begging them, or even WAITING for them to come back, you are agreeing to a frame that puts them above you. How can they ever realize what they lost, when you never stopped being an option.
@natebyrd5107Ай бұрын
No sir
@patchris1994Ай бұрын
@blacademic your dead right I am opinion I must let her go with new man I did send her photo of me with beautiful lady way better looking than my ex and way younger that will show her I have life also my ex adored me minute she went on holidays to France she found a man with money of she went thanks for ur advice I am keep fit gent her men are over weight ugly but there bank balance more important to her
@patchris1994Ай бұрын
@blacademic she with another man now after telling me she adored me i think she has screw lose
@katwomaneyestarot19 күн бұрын
Is it not impossible to exit pursuit mindset when one still wants them?? That’s quite a conundrum. So consider it a relationship loss and they’ll return??
@kiyaahrendt13182 ай бұрын
9 months of no contact, and he has come back telling me he’s sorry for hurting me and that he’s been wanting to reach out for a long time but he didn’t have the words and was afraid I would reject him. He told me that leaving me was the worst thing he could’ve ever done…you guys, focus on you, get in the gym, become the best version of yourselves! They’ll be back…and when they return, you may not even want them anymore! But no contact is a WIN, even if they don’t reach out. It allows you to heal and Level up!!! Trust me.
@Whatupcoach2 ай бұрын
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@wc65412 ай бұрын
The healing process is the key. #newmode
@Omnitrix82 ай бұрын
Sounds like he went into the world and found out the grass ain't greener on the other side. typical 😒
@kiyaahrendt13182 ай бұрын
That’s exactly what happened! He doesn’t know I know but I know he was seeing someone…word got back to me that the girl he left me for turned out to be one big illusion…smh now he thinks he can run back to me! Not gonna happen!
@alfredobermudez64302 ай бұрын
9 months is too long
@yann64012 ай бұрын
Man I remember months back when I was watching your videos stressing out about getting her back. Now I don’t care to do that anymore. Such a good feeling. Appreciate you coach, if it wasn’t for your content, I still would of been stuck. To anyone reading this, DONT BOTHER GETTING YOUR EX BACK. You only want them because there’s a sense of attachment….once you detach, you’ll see how easy it is to start moving on.
@Layla-hg4uxАй бұрын
How did you keep yourself motivated and strong not to break no contact or move on completely?
@user-zo1zg5yt1yАй бұрын
what if you have kids. ? reunite the family worth it
@yann6401Ай бұрын
@@Layla-hg4ux Deleted her number, blocked her on IG, got rid of every gift, every photo on my gallery and so forth. Hell I even made it a rule to not even say her name. Out of sight, out of mind. I promise you’ll feel stronger when you do that. That’s gonna motivate you to move forward. I still miss her sometimes but I’ve built enough pride and self respect to miss her with no intention of texting her again. She’s come back about 6 times over a course of a year tryna rekindle and sh*t. When you truly leave people alone, they come back. Go MIA and work on your healing, you got this.
@benstevens216428 күн бұрын
Same @@user-zo1zg5yt1y
@RG-8822924 күн бұрын
Thank you for this update, and encouragement,it helps.
@Jiggy4262 ай бұрын
Had the woman of my dreams walk out on me and my son and moved 1700 miles away overnight to start over with her ex. I have been in NC for a month now, and it’s very hard. I lost 62 pounds thanks to dieting and being dedicated to the gym, getting ready to build a new custom home, saving money and getting ready for my future with my son. I was destroyed and broken, but I’m pushing forward. It’s very hard, but it can be done. Focus on yourself and your goals everyone
@Jiggy4262 ай бұрын
@@XxAXELxXYT I couldn’t call her a bitch because I still love her brotha but karma is going to take care of that for me. She made a poor decision and ima let life show her that
@Freudster212 ай бұрын
Her ex must have been in no contact to get her back. Ironic. But Sorry to hear, you’re better without her
@vesrt4032 ай бұрын
They had been split up for a couple years but she was still dating him when we met so who knows. It’s ironic but it’s all good man. It’s her loss at the end of the day. I will say I had a one on one with coach and he changes the game. It’s her loss at the end of the day.
@Freudster212 ай бұрын
@@vesrt403 Yea, you meeting when they were still together screams monkey branching, even if you didn’t cheat together. I’m sure you now know is a major red flag and even someone freshly out of a long relationship within past couple months is a no go for a LTR also. Cuz is a rebound scenario for them. We live and learn
@vesrt4032 ай бұрын
Your 100% right
@MightyIntellectual2 ай бұрын
Almost 3mo’s I haven’t reached out because there’s no need in my mind. I don’t want to just be friends, but I do miss him. No one ever discusses the difficulty of the grief you feel from making the right decision. Whew! I don’t want to ever feel this again.
@nikvh4372 ай бұрын
I had the same discussion with my ex three months ago. We were never platonic and I don't ever want to be. All or nothing. Don't close your heart though you're strong!
@Omnitrix82 ай бұрын
Had the same thing happen to me in April. She broke up with me, but requested that we become friends. I politely declined her goodwill offer. Why? The offer to remain friends translates to keeping you in a corner in case her other ventures don't work.
@tonjagee112 ай бұрын
Me either because feels terrible and hurt too bad because I loved him and was loyal to him whole 15 yrs I walked away because he wouldn’t stop drunk and disrespecting me in front our son..so I moved out thinking maybe he will change but I started missing him and thought we could wrk it out he came back but I knew something was different way acted with his phone and he in btwn time start dating someone at his job while I was on my no contact hoping he change😢I’m still trying move on with the hurt each day.
@nikvh4372 ай бұрын
@@tonjagee11 stay strong. You sound like a good person you’ll be okay
@quetayukАй бұрын
@@tonjagee11❤ It is well
@Rambo4President2 ай бұрын
If you are struggling with NC, just imagine this situation: After a few days or even weeks of NC, you decide to text them. The moment you’ve sent the message, you have a weird feeling about it. Was it right to break NC? It felt right before, but now it’s kind of different. Your ex doesn’t answer as fast as they usually did. Still no answer after 1 hour. Or maybe they are busy? Your feeling gets worse. It seems like you just ruined your NC strategy and hope things don’t get worse. You can’t delete the message anymore because if they have seen it, they have seen it. You feel needy, like all the pain during NC was for nothing. Maybe you pushed them even further away, because you’ve interrupted their relief phase. If only you didn’t text them. But since this was just your imagination and you haven’t actually texted them, just keep it this way. Breathe! It didn’t happen. You haven’t broken the NC rule, and you never want to experience that feeling that you have just imagined.
@t.m.65792 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@daniellelanouette6003Ай бұрын
Genius!
@narcfreekeekee9168Ай бұрын
Thank you
@Freudster21Ай бұрын
It’s been a 5 weeks since it ended officially, and a month since she came and got her things, then no contact since then. I was creeping (she didn’t see) and saw she posted on her story some song that I looked up about not needing a man and being independent. Then she unfriended me on FB the same day. This was a couple days ago, almost 1 month after no contact. I’m sure this is her expressing her mood and feeling at the moment, which leads me to believe I’m still on her mind. There was no big blowout, just a breakup. Is it really best to just wait? I know NC is for me, myself, and I’ve been working out, dieting, paying down debt crazily and doing all the right things to become the best version of myself. But I still think about her everyday. Is there ever a situation where I should reach out, that they would be stubborn and waiting for me to fight for her? I’m just so confused and don’t want to lose her. NC is counterintuitive to me, that maybe she will get over me overtime and move on.
@Freudster21Ай бұрын
@@t.m.6579Lol what..This is rambo4presidents comment thread and the comment I was replying to. What are you talking about?
@alliecat63422 ай бұрын
I’m the best he can do for sure. He’s going to regret choosing the downgrade rebound over me.
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
Stay strong then, and never forget your worth
@user-dw2gh3bj7o2 ай бұрын
@@blacademichi Coach , I set boundaries Telling her NO Male friends and demand her stop act single in the gym.she Said I stress her out.she reluctantly agreed but I guess she think I am Controlling and Insecure!? What should I do...she ghosting me and flakes our Sunday outing plan
@user-dw2gh3bj7o2 ай бұрын
@@blacademichi Coach I need your advice if can help me out. I caught my girlfriend sit into another man car. I did No Contact 4 months ..I guess she felt guilty, she blow up my phone but I didn't want to reply to her 250 text .. Last Saturday she came to my house with a gift. I thought I got the Upper hand I told her I don't want a Cheating Girlfriend she said She Didn't Cheat because NO Sex...if I take her back am I a Cuck? She will cheat again ?
@II-kd1gi2 ай бұрын
I doubt it…u sound toxic, kiss that victim goodbye and watch him be happy with someone else now
@user-dw2gh3bj7o2 ай бұрын
@@II-kd1gi need your advice what should I do ..I caught her sit into another man car
@sandymcpherson4972 ай бұрын
Stay strong. I'm going through the same thing. I have been no contact. July 2, 2024, will be three months. It's hard, but Im standing my ground.
@Whoisthatgirl-gj8uw2 ай бұрын
Trying to show an ex what they lost is crazy to me. Yall better start feeling yourselves out there. Screw your ex, they know what they had. Move on, access denied
@lakeshiacarr707719 күн бұрын
“Who’s at the bottom” hit me like a ton of bricks. This was gold. I was going to text him for his birthday, but not anymore lol.
@BrokenheartsSinging12 күн бұрын
I remember when I was going through the breakup phase 😂 always use to watch your videos cause I gave me hope but as time went on I realised she ain’t coming back and I slowly grew to accept that , it’s been 11 months still no contact. I’ve moved on and finally found peace and happiness but I sometimes find myself thinking of her and it does hurt me but it’s okay , it’s life , things happen . I’m in a new relationship but my feelings are numb and I’m trying my best to forget the past and live happily.❤ but all I wanna say is thank you for your videos 🙏🏾❤️. The harsh truth I learnt is you don’t heal , you just learn to live with it cause thats just life . Whoever is reading this just know you gonna be okay ❤ trust me .
@GodHelpMe3692 ай бұрын
It’s hard to explain. It’s almost like Stockholm Syndrome (where the captive ends up loving their captor). The difference is... In the beginning the avoidant love bombs and says things to reel you into them... It’s a subtle knowledge in your gut that something is wrong with them, but... The more fun adventures and the more affection and the more quality time spent... You get blinded...
@ivanafrisa4520Ай бұрын
This is the best response and explanation. You absolutely nailed it. You literally described my relationship. Thank you❤
@terrell55352 ай бұрын
i listen to this to calm my nerves and realize im finally in control again so once i decide to let her back in i've perfected my approach and control on my emotions
@TheDarthpaully2 ай бұрын
Love your channel brother. Thanks for all the great wisdom. It gets easier every day. No contact 6 weeks and not looking back. If she wants to reach out that’s on her.
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
That’s the mindset bro! If you have been solid in no contact, she will either come back chasing. Or you will move on to a healthier relationship
@Greenie42 ай бұрын
I’m a month no contact. We broke up nearly 2 months ago. It’s comforting to hear that someone else is in the same boat as me. It does get easier everyday. But you still feel that love there.
@MonishaJefferson2 ай бұрын
@@blacademici lost my ex for the second time cause he cheated once again after I gave him a second chance he told me we would never get back together im so hurt I real so lost
@TheDarthpaully2 ай бұрын
@@MonishaJefferson The hurt is so bad. Can’t eat or sleep. I did everything right. I feel for you and hope you get to healing soon. Sending you love and hugs. We’ll both find healthy people that won’t treat us like this. I promise. We have to have that mindset like Coach Blac says. It sucks so bad but we can only control ourselves and not bleed out. We got this!
@MonishaJefferson2 ай бұрын
@@TheDarthpaully thank you so much for the encouragement I really needed it I never thought I would feel pain like this by him again I thought he would've change since we're older but I guess not
@LeenotpassingАй бұрын
my boyfriend of 11 months left and it’s been 2 weeks NC. he’s a virgo and i don’t think im ever getting him back. heard he has a rebound and it hurts. i treated him so good and i love him. it hurts to see his love for me wasn’t the same.
@narcfreekeekee9168Ай бұрын
If you lost a Virgo man be glad. I just broke up with my Virgo. He’s a cheater and liar. Let him go. Rebound relationships never last.
@Jose-lz6cw2 ай бұрын
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
@MoloSaidu2 ай бұрын
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
@Jose-lz6cw2 ай бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?
@MoloSaidu2 ай бұрын
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@Jose-lz6cw2 ай бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@yann64012 ай бұрын
You’re attached bro, you wanting her back tells me you still are. How do I know this? Coz I went through the same process you’re going through right now. You don’t see your life with anyone else coz you don’t value yourself enough. I went through a 4 year relationship, completely heartbroken I decided to chase and chase but nothing came out of it. The moment I moved on, I’ve gotten over 50 calls, some “I regret my decision” and a couple of “I miss you”. The only thing need you need to focus on is getting your power back. I still think about her and miss her but my mind is stronger than my heart due to detaching from her which enables me and hopefully you too, to make the decision that only benefits your wellbeing and not hers.
@juliuskuntu9972 ай бұрын
I’ve been watching a lot of videos but this one. Hit different. I feel it. Down to earth. Direct like words can’t explain. Thank Coach Blac. Needed that new insight. Don’t worry about her/him coming. They come when they come. If not it’s okay. Just keep doing you and excel in life! You got this love y’all
@1life2life2 ай бұрын
Force or manipulate is exactly what they are doing. Amazing video. Thanks coach.
@imbookedandverybusyhoney2 ай бұрын
The best option is free on your phone 📱 block 🚫 and delete! Learn the power of walking away, your thoughts will be clear, and your head will be above water! Thank me later ❤
@Omnitrix82 ай бұрын
Yeah, if you absolutely want nothing to do with him and couldn’t care less if he kicked to rocks, then block. If you want to leave an avenue for a reach out, then don’t block. Walk away, but don’t block.
@dougedoug21052 ай бұрын
I wouldn’t say block anyone because you might one day miss out on your healing. Don’t wait on it, but it could happen. Blocking is reserved for those who aren’t completely over someone because it’s easier to fool themselves into believing they have some iota of control. Negative. You’ll truly know you’re over someone not when you are able to block them but rather whenever you think about them and you feel absolutely numb/nothing. In my experience, indifference hurts an ex lover who wronged you more than anything because it renders them powerless. Moreover ignoring someone psychologically analogous to real actual physical pain because they perceive it as rejection which reverses the pain dynamic. I’ve dated a lot of narcs in my day and what I can say is that all exes, especially those who hurt you, eventually come back. And whenever they do, I never send them to voicemail. I don’t reply to texts, I do nothing and believe you me it humbles them and puts them back into their place a heck of a lot quicker than hearing my voicemail and automatically knowing it’s because they’re blocked. Try it, trust me it works. You think they show their asses when they believe they have power over you, then just wait and see how much they show it when a bitch realizes they now don’t. That’s what you call getting the last laugh 😂😂😂
@ZEROCOOLAGEАй бұрын
That's easier said than done. 😢
@sadiqua72 ай бұрын
@coachblac I had a reach out a couple weeks ago from my ex. It pissed me off..but surprised me. I didn’t reply until the next day and only said, it’s not ok (him reaching out to apologize after 3 months!) he didn’t reply. So it was a temp check. Few days ago, I told him to stop playing games, you wanted me gone, I’m gone. He replied an hour later (it was early) saying he doesn’t want me gone. I replied, actions say diff and left it at that. Of course he hasn’t responded lol. I feel so good that I no longer am triggered by his avoidant immaturity. Thank you for your videos! One live you advised me to not go to an event he was posting he’d be at near my gym. I lost who I was for a second with his confusing behavior.. I’m back to being me but with more insight and accountability of my past avoidant behavior with other people.
@Omnitrix82 ай бұрын
He was bread-crumbing you. He wanted to confirm your interest level in him. Judging from the conversation you had, It seems like you still have feelings for him. Personally, I wouldn’t have engaged in such a conversation whereby I had to tell him to stop playing games. You should have kept it simple and casual, Like he was a normal friend. If he says hi, say hey. If he says he doesn’t want you gone, simply type ‘awwwwwwww these things happen’ and leave it at that! He sounds like a narcissist! Well done for not giving in!! 👏
@brendaeberhardt3739Ай бұрын
It sounds like he just wanted to make sure you’d still reply and you confirmed it.
@sholomobenyosef96592 ай бұрын
This just saved me… I still live with my ex wife and we’ve been in and out for the past few years… she just told me she is ready for us to move forward with our lives.. and I agreed… but when I see her she doesn’t talk like she’s moving out, nor does she talk about how we’re going to manage our 3 children… I was just about to ask her to chill with me until I seen this video… thanks
@tubesurf172 ай бұрын
This should play every other Day for those just starting and then you can explain. That it's why it's so important to take no contact time to build yourself up to the best. You can be because it backs up what you're saying now and they back each other up actually, and that's the way it's gotta be, you know, it's gotta be that way. I have much love for everybody. Much respect for everybody and I hope everybody's pain brings them a lot of strength and a lot of joy and they make babies, families, picnics and their heart's desire comes back. You all can be loved. You all can love 'and you are love, remember. God is there and God is good,God is good, he is merciful.And good thanks, coach.Thanks big dog
@asdfxcvbn7462 ай бұрын
Coach Blac in the hood with the letterman jacket. lookin' good, I see u brotha 👀
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
Haha never hood, but if you watch most of my older videos I rocked this style a lot. Just depends on the mood
@alexsandramelinasmk75422 ай бұрын
I really enjoy watching all your videos. It really gives me strength and positivity. I have really started doing no contact, and it really made me value myself more, so thank you for all the advices, the videos u did. God bless u.
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching! And I wish you Good luck! You will come out on the other side better off
@SkylerhoramАй бұрын
It's been for 7 month with no contect for me and I realized that if she truly love me care about me she won't do this I have experienced with my previous relationship so she didn't deserve me when we are together she fell like my soulmate and I thought that she will be the one send by God but it didn't work its a lesson for me now I'm a better person☺
@seancampbell338623 күн бұрын
It's over boss
@romo34182 ай бұрын
Met with my ex the other night after not seeing her for 7 months. It was going well until it wasn’t. Her avoidance was triggered and she became extremely cruel. Tried to stay strong but I did become a bit emotional. For some reason my heart is still open to her but I can’t wait like I was. Really closing the door. No contact does work and keep focusing on yourself!!
@romo34182 ай бұрын
If anyone cares.. she was putting out feelers.. playing the little games.. eventually she asked to get drinks, I said yes.. it was going very well.. too much alcohol was involved. She ended up at my place and it went sour. She made moves on me then ended up being very cruel. This time back to no contact truly with the mindset of forever. I would need to see big changes. I’ve put in the work.. better mindset, less anxious.. ripped up body.. new car.. new job.. new apartment.. feeling like him. The past two days have been extremely painful. I won’t let her take me back to a dark place though. I think she saw me doing well (IG) and got curious.. maybe even wanted to spoil it. Childish. Be someone YOU will be proud of.. not anyone else. Someone great will accept all of you and it won’t have to be so difficult. Haven’t even watched the video but thanks coach.
@arth.3899Ай бұрын
I really do not know what my ex-wife thinks. She will contact me then vanish again. In January, she contacted me, but I have changed throughout the years. I exercise and learned to love myself. I have learned the only person that will be there for me, is me. Not my ex-wife. She wanted a picture, and I sent her one. She was impressed. My ex is very pretty, but she knows I won't jump through hoops for her anymore. I feel the gym saved my life. I was in a huge depression for many years. It takes a long time, but the human body is amazing and will get stronger with exercise. My goal is to lose a total of 60 pounds by December. I can do it. Life is good.
@derencebailey2 ай бұрын
Coach couldn’t wait to wear that Celtics jacket 😂😅
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
lol I’ve had it for a while… today just happened to be a good day to pull it out. Thanks for watching bro
@robbello10002 ай бұрын
You are the best coach Blac your advice is exactly correct, you are a king of philosophy in my life, keep it going Coach!
@tanishamcdonala31812 ай бұрын
good evening. been done it. thanks for all the advice. i appreciate God for healing. bless all us here locked in with God amen
@cadesmith65352 ай бұрын
No contact and just focus on myself? I just have doubts. Yes I still want them. I just need to know that this is the right thing.
@starlight15142 ай бұрын
Thank you for your help. This didn't work for me in getting my ex but it did help me to get better for myself. I am ready to date again.
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
Then that’s awesome and I’m proud of you. Everything is happening for your highest good
@starlight15142 ай бұрын
@@blacademic Thank you. Blessings for you too.
@Freudster212 ай бұрын
@@starlight1514If they leave and it’s not like a couple months (3 max I would say) or less, then they are not worth it. If they’ve slept with someone else within that 3 months and try to come back, then they are also disqualified, do not take em back. They will never respect you and always think about doing it again. In reality no contact is really for yourself most of the time.
@user-bz9se3dv3rАй бұрын
These words are Gold.!!!
@SparkySteve.16 күн бұрын
I got 3 kids with my ex, married and separated for 5months now. Moved out. Went no contact as much as possible with 3 kids, and she rang flipping out crying, emotional....it works man I've since slipped back to the needy and can work things out phase as my birthday just passed and meant regular contact and high emotions, but going no contact again for my own mental health and to build for me It works but it's not easy with 3 kids man
@bipbop72312 ай бұрын
Hi Coach. Cool jacket. The colors look great on you.🔥💚 Thank you for all your hard work. You’re appreciated.☺️
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
Thank you! I always see you in the comments and I appreciate you. Hope you are doing well on
@bipbop72312 ай бұрын
@@blacademic doing fantastic, thank you.
@petrabuschhausen31292 ай бұрын
Oh my i lost my Son 2 years ago and Celtics is his favorite team ..on top of that going through a heartbreak 😢 i don't think my ex will ever come back i tried and tried nothing 😢
@Omnitrix82 ай бұрын
My apologies for the loss. With regards to your ex, move on and don't look back!
@heatherkennedy82132 ай бұрын
firstly, please accept my condolences for the loss of your son. Although my daugther and I are estranged, it's a severe loss for me. As for the ex, stop trying to get someone back who obviously can't understand grief and loss. What a horrible person. You deserve support, not further heartbreak. Grief is not linear. Be gentle with you. Be loving to yourself. Be kind to you. Lord knows the world needs more love and compassion now.
@Ivy892612 ай бұрын
For me it's been a year and a half. Through children you always have contact and you always hope and it is precisely this hope that kills you inside. Whenever he comes to pick up the child you think "maybe he'll say something today" but it doesn't happen. I try to be as passive as possible but I feel trapped
@boo21902 ай бұрын
Thank you I am high vibe but he’s tried to bring down my vibration, I manifested a new car for free, he wasn’t happy, I bought a caravan, wasn’t happy, bought another puppy, wasn’t happy, it goes on and now he’s ignoring me, if the script was flipped I’d be delighted I love seeing people get what they set out to get, love from the Emerald Isle ☘️
@WhoCaresWhatIThink23 күн бұрын
Coach Blac is one of the best at this game. Has helped me, even though im in a good place, these videos keep me on my toes.
@00damyАй бұрын
I own up to my mistakes and wish I could change some things. Almost a year ago, I vowed to grow better for you, or who’s gonna be in my life . Forgive what happened in the past There actually no excuses why we couldn’t be together . You know that I am not sacrificial , I been there in the worse moments all my life and when you were down I still didn’t give up. I still believe in what I told you all my feelings . but I must respect and love my myself and my progress, not get stepped on my face by nobody or would be like I did nothing, I'm proud of my growth and the battles I've won, I will live freely with who deserves it. I'm second to no one, but first in my love for you, yes many ideas but you know when I say something I’ll do it , we need goals in life ... If you choose to stay away, that's okay. I need someone who shares my values and commitment to growth. To be clear, I'm not desperate for anyone love, be with somebody is a choice I'm in love, maybe I am humble but I am all about respect. I respect your decision and wish you well.
@toddtaylor61962 ай бұрын
In my experience: When we say they “come back “ we refer to back to the relationship we have had before… i have an ex now that has “came back” for a day or two.. but it always turns out the same way…me wanting us back in a relationship, them making me feel even though they may show up sometimes, they are still looking for the greener grass…leavening you feel wiener even when they may spend “some” time with you… they walked out on you…they look down on you….them “coming back” for a day or two doesn’t change anything…they left you!!!! And even when they come back for dates…they will keep leaving you !!!
@Zari_Niya_and_Haven_Mama13 күн бұрын
My ex and I broke up 6 days ago, and we texted for a few days afterwards. Started with no contact 3 days ago, and I'm hurting tremendously, but watching videos like this helps quite a bit. Hoping to get stronger by the day, thank you for your content. 🙏🏾
@aBLA9102 ай бұрын
My ex and I had a very strict frame out of respect for each other that went both ways. From the very beginning and for THREE years. When he dumped me and wanted to relieve himself of guilt he threw it all back in my face and said I was strangling him and controlling him. Ridiculous. We both were jealous and sensitive and always protected each other. That is until he cheated on me and I stayed LOL
@its_eVa_ief1980Ай бұрын
I know that feeling.. throw things in my face iv never heared before till the break up.. just to hold his feet down that iam the part also
@KMariah3172 ай бұрын
Love the jacket Coach Blac!
@thesdotspot31432 ай бұрын
It really sucks that my ex is from Boston🙄. Nice jacket though
@vindhya60532 ай бұрын
Been about 7 months since my avoidant ex walks out of the relationship.. would I ever hear from him? it’s not like I’m still anxiously waiting for him .. but it’s the little ego factor that makes him say he regretted letting me go because of everything I had to go through and how he completely broke me ruthlessly..
@CatwalkPurz2 ай бұрын
Thank you for PAYING IT FORWARD, from your relationship experiences and insight. Your advice are pearls of wisdom on human dynamics and relationships. 🙏🙌
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
I appreciate the kind words. It’s truly a blessing to have a platform to help people. I’m really the lucky one. Thanks for watching
@annsumrall25932 ай бұрын
Its been 7 weeks no contact. This is the second time he walked away. Its so devastating. I dont think i can ever trust him again. He came back last time at 7 weeks. I am trying to move on but hes still in my mind. Better off without him thats for sure
@hopelessromantic17632 ай бұрын
Same here..but I'm not letting him back. I know he's with the dusties..and he can have them. Don't let nobody save u on a shelf. They don't change
@shawny9792 ай бұрын
Me Too! Made that mistake taking him back. Never again. I told him off with every word!! I'll doubt if he'll come back.
@erinmonte3032 ай бұрын
My boyfriend of 4yrs just broke up with me tonight. He said, WE were just friends. That shattered me. I just responded with Thank You and left it there. But cried my eyes out behind closed doors. 💔😢
@Omnitrix82 ай бұрын
That's the spirit. PLEASE DO NOT CONTACT HIM! I love the fact you left it on a high. The moment he realises you have not been in contact, it will hit his reset button.
@preciousoteng16472 ай бұрын
You have started off well, cry but don't make him know you are hurting
@preciousoteng16472 ай бұрын
Don't beg him ever, it will inflate his ego
@jeaneengant67712 ай бұрын
He will be back
@HomeSpaAllure2 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I had a similar situation and months later when he happened to see me by chance, he apologized but I didn’t linger to talk, all I said was, that’s alright, and walked away but it hurt to do it. It was the most painful thing I had to do, but I figured if he couldn’t say more to me than 2 words upon seeing me by circumstance, why should I say or do more? It’s not like he made an effort to call or come to see me to talk to me, oh no, he took the easy way out when he happened to see me after 6 months,; he wouldn’t have apologized yet if he hadn’t run into me that day. The same will happen to you, he’ll be back if you stay away, but you might find it difficult to do anything if he acts like my ex and doesn’t make a special deliberate effort to contact you and then apologize to you. My ex had a half smile as he said it, maybe as an unsaid hello, but it was weird and hurtful at the same time. I’m hearing he’s regretting having walked out on me for no reason, he just disappeared on me, there was no argument or signs of anything wrong. Hugs to you, you’ll get through this. Remember to be gentle on yourself as you heal.
@geraldinecupido9852Ай бұрын
Listening to you everything you said is true. If loving a person takes so much effort one can let go of that love for good. To me it means my ex is not the one for me. In my opinion love needs to be effortless and not feel like alot of rules and extreme hard work to get your ex to love you back and respect you. Listening to you make me realize this isn't what I want and my ex fall short in many ways to really satisfy me. I need to work on me and make myself a priority and also change the frame in my new journey.
@rodzillarox48822 ай бұрын
Coach that jacket is 🔥 Love it!!
@zakbmusic21942 ай бұрын
That's jacket is cold 🥶
@amymitchell10542 ай бұрын
Awesome jacket! Another banner!!!
@MarcusJ.Hastings2 ай бұрын
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
@DanielA.Slayton2 ай бұрын
i have been in such a situation. i love my woman and unfortunately we separated about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
@MarcusJ.Hastings2 ай бұрын
wow, please how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach him?
@DanielA.Slayton2 ай бұрын
Dr Ben Spell Castle is the advisor I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with to set up an appointment
@DanielA.Slayton2 ай бұрын
you can look his name up online and you will find all you need.
@MarcusJ.Hastings2 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing. I curiously searched for his full name and his website popped up after scrolling a bit.
@silverdragon56122 ай бұрын
Love the jacket. Huge Boston fan here! Go Celtics! Plus, I watch a lot of your videos. Learned a lot from you! Ty
@MonishaJefferson2 ай бұрын
I'm hurting soo bad 😢
@adgrizzard86Ай бұрын
Im feeling the same way
@MonishaJeffersonАй бұрын
@@adgrizzard86 we gonna get through this
@mralexandernino2 ай бұрын
As a Raptors fan I cannot watch this. But I will close my eyes and listen.
@mcostilla760325 күн бұрын
He made me feel so low and so unworthy. I will never see things like how I did before in a relationship again .
@valeriia13922 ай бұрын
Your videos help o lot. Thank you so much ❤❤❤
@Capricorn-mt1keАй бұрын
It's crazy how much the majority of men play mind games I really just don't have time it's absolutely ridiculous
@kikilee71622 ай бұрын
I'm from Boston ❤ love the jacket. 😅
@timothytrinidad78012 ай бұрын
This came right on time 💯
@cnic772 ай бұрын
This was an amazing breakdown! Thanks
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching! I appreciate the feedback
@JeffreyGordon-ux4jr2 ай бұрын
This video came right on TIME
@robinebneth1946Ай бұрын
Absolutely right again❤ Thank you very much for great inspirations again. My situation actually changed, l am doing well now
@ntswakimashabela10022 ай бұрын
Dope dope jacket coach
@MoreMopar2 ай бұрын
I love your videos. Can you please do a video on how to get over an ex? I know the fastest way isn’t always the best way. Thanks!
@aronchas2 ай бұрын
Could not stop thinking about Larry the whole video 😂
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
Wait what Larry?
@CWillAzena2 ай бұрын
@@blacademicLarry Bird
@daughterofakingnarcfree7355Ай бұрын
Your voice is so humble i receive it ❤ thank you
@Mitzhe_882 ай бұрын
It's been 2weeks since split & no contact and having a 2yr old makes it difficult... i also listen to you to calm nerves as well ... thanks
@brianbondy566723 күн бұрын
That jacket is DOPE!
@hollydoran74412 ай бұрын
Love the jacket btw!
@Kelllllyyyy.2 ай бұрын
Love your videos! And glad to see you are a fellow Celtics fan!! - viewer from CA
@juancarlosrodriguez506418 күн бұрын
The goat of advice
@scorpiored38712 ай бұрын
So accurate! Thank you 🌹 ❤
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
🙏
@taylorgordon49202 ай бұрын
My ex was hitting up krazy recently and watching my stories on snap Now she not texting again and just watching my stories I’m Fuking sick of it
@yolandabarnum403614 күн бұрын
GOD GOT YOU🎉
@ADayInTheLifeOfJames2 ай бұрын
Digging that Boston fit coach 🔥 Celtics 24 🙌
@lorl618724 күн бұрын
This VIDEO IS ON POINT!!! Please listen to this advice as I will do the same
@hollydoran74412 ай бұрын
This truly tells my story. It's been two years he would show up drunk to sleep together, total avoidant. He would come around here and there. Would reply to messages when it was convenient. I tried no contact. Sent mean gifts to him about his private parts and apologized. Now hes with someone else as of about three months and claims she's pregnant that long. Seems super fast. Who knows the truth about that or if that was just to get me to leave them alone. I've actually been trying to date.
@NordDeutscher_040Ай бұрын
Greetings from germany Bro 🤝❤️🇩🇪
@MichaelHenryGomes12 ай бұрын
Coach Blac! My man!
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
Shout out to you brother 🙏
@dantenewyork73802 ай бұрын
for a minute i thought Jalen Brown was doing a guest appearance : )
@annetteglover2926Ай бұрын
Thank you so much AMEN AND AMEN
@omkzion13532 ай бұрын
Wat does it mean if my baby momma told me “she don’t wanna be with me rn or do things together?” Is it like a gently way of saying no or wat.. confused
@marciaigarcia616716 күн бұрын
My situationship ghosted me, so did no contact My friend said usually all her friends make excuses to want to contact, not me what I'm fighting to get less, anywho I did flip script, he texting asking to hang out, I say no cuz he hasn't stepped up on a nice date, it hang out stuff. But he is calling like crazy now & texting I've been nice I don't HATE ANYONE but for sure I have to decide if I want back. Long story No contact works
@commiezombie24772 ай бұрын
Whatchu mean Blacademic, you pay for groceries when you go to the store.... Cause I shole dont I just fill up my cart and walk out the store with it. Guess I been doin wrong all this time. Maybe I should find a job too! 😎
@babydii34876 күн бұрын
Yeah if you have the ability to disrespect and discard me ..... I'm good 👍🏽
@EJspeaks2uАй бұрын
Good advice
@tsdy86802 ай бұрын
Thank u coach ❤❤❤
@BarryWilliams-s6h25 күн бұрын
Were together 5 years i couldnt commit threw child hood truma, she broke it off cos she wants kids n a family, i am going to therapy for it ahe rwached out said she is proud of me n we could meet soon, then next week saying she has moved on, i went in no contact 2 weeks ago n she has reached out to my best frined to say she has met some one, broke down say she loves me n will always care but i wasnt giving her what she wanted in life, 2 weeks of no contact and going strong
@selfmade82382 ай бұрын
@908 send them gifts coach😂😂😂 your right can’t buy love
@blacademic2 ай бұрын
Yep, money can’t buy love… and it never will
@juancarlosrodriguez5064Ай бұрын
Hoping someone good listens!
@Tone-km6bq2 ай бұрын
My ex doesn’t want me and left me for a new guy while we were on a break. She talks to the other guy still but calls me sometimes? Should I ignore the calls ? I told her before I talk to her about anything I expect her to not be talking to the new guy. Got me confused i don’t understand it
@enice61712 күн бұрын
Let’s fucking go Celtics baby!!!!!
@aarthym45772 ай бұрын
Coach 68 days of nc..feeling hopeless
@kittykaysworld2 ай бұрын
Ya’ll they long gone, if they’re not gonna say it, i will. move on.
@daddibg2 ай бұрын
I need your help badly I'm here in Houston
@loubnahamdaoui36442 ай бұрын
Can this still be effective if I said I would wait for him? It’s been 5 months and have been reaching out every 2 months, I realized what I was doing and stopped
@enriqueinLA2 ай бұрын
She threw a flying monkey today she gave a friend my number asking for a favor for her friend which met I never it’s weird 😮 Is that her trying to break no contact ?