It is the big difference between being in your 20s and your 40s+, regarding validation. It is definitely a learning curve. Thats why aging is so great. You stop caring as much because, with time, you realize that validation is irrelevant. Good feedback can be as toxic as bad feedback. Because you rely on others to define who you are. And you need that in you 20s because you dont know yourself yet. The 20s are sooo hard. We have sooo much to figure out and learn and we are sooo impatient. We cant rush the process.

5:19 "Life actually doesn't just have to be about success and failure. It can simply be a serious of experiences to be had."

"Be a fool. You will come out the other side knowing something new." I literally wrote this for myself just a few weeks ago. I've started a new job that often leaves me feeling silly and useless. It takes so much effort to even ask a question- I'm so terrified of being dumb. But that's the only way any of this will be worth it. Thank you for a stellar video

Pure magic. Nathaniel, you are the wisest 25-year-old I've ever seen. Please, keep up your work. - 48 year old fool

“Do not harden your heart, your heart needs no protection!” Ahh loved it this so much! That poem was incredible so much wisdom inside it

Validation is a tricky part of our life. Having none of it or depending too much on it can be damaging for our mental health. But, having some of it is needed for our mental survival. It is indeed a double edge sword.

Can we just admire how vulnerable he is being, infront of thousands of people. I wish I had that courage!

This video. Is honestly. A piece of art. Please never stop making videos on such topics. The whole topic resonated with me. Even the comment section is so interesting to read because you get to know everyone's different interpretations.

"The fool didn't know it was impossible, so he did it." It has been my favourite quote ever since I came across it.

I read Tarot and have a few decks. Everyday I pull one card for guidance. This morning I pulled the fool card. And now I see your video talking about the fool archetype. I just love when synchronicities like this happen.

Social media has given us access to instant validation from people we’ve never met, it can get addicting. I’m trying to switch my mindset to chase deeper community connections online rather than just validation from numbers.

2:27 If someone ridicules you for being wrong, ask them why they ridicule, you think when I admit I am wrong this is something I feel negatively about? It is a development, the fact they see it as anything else tells a lot more about them and their fear of failure then it does mean, tell them to look within themselves - they're revealing their failures and their veiw on them - shame.

Nathaniel. In sobriety we learn the hard way that "What people think of us is NONE of our business !!"

There is a saying, people in their 20-30"s care what people think, people in their 40's realize that it isn't important to care what people think, and people in their 50's and beyond realize that nobody really cared about them to begin with.

00:40 THANK YOU. This is so rare for people in the media to actually admit. It's always "I went through this, but I´m over it now", which defeats the purpose of trying to level with someone and connect with your audience. Being vulnerable in the present moment is what makes a good role model in my opinion.

You are one of the few people on the whole web who touches my soul and my priorities in life, thank you for your content, we need more of the down to earth contents!

The production quality Nathaniel has in his videos take his story telling to a whole new level. Thank you for being the life coach/big brother we all need

Needing people's validation has been an internal struggle for me. I realized that whether or not I get the validation I was looking for, I feel heavy on the inside. My happiness depended on how other people react. It is impossible for us to control others' judgements and reactions toward us. So, when I try to orchestrate getting approval from people, it feels draining. I have been reminding myself that people's opinions are not my responsibility, and I now put my focus on living my life the way I prefer, moment by moment.

As someone wise once said : “I’m not what I think I am, I’m not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.”

"The fool is unafraid to aim high. To face the unknown. To try new things AND THEREFORE THEY ARE DESERVING OF CHANGE." This lives rent free in my head.

Everyone is spitting wisdom here and there!!! Ok!!! The misery goes on and on! The suffering goes on and on! Just try to reduce it often! Hypotheses won’t fix anything! And yea it’s just an exaggerated, ignorant hypotheses mostly!!!! All the talkings! Shit won’t stop! The inevitable and the uncontrolled (which is most of life) won’t stop to affect us………!!! Difficulties, complication, oppression, pain, enslaving!!! Most things do that hardly!!!

"Life is an open world game. Make the most out of it. Explore the unknowns and Thrive my friend" I am putting this here as this is the reminder we need to not let ourselves sink into the compulsive thought patterns we usually do. More power to you. ❤💪

Thanks so much for this video! This exact day I'm watching it I had a therapy session about the way I see failure and how I end up being extremely hard on myself just for being afraid of others' opinions and criticisms. Please continue doing what you do, you are certainly helping thousands of people in their self-awareness journey...me included. Ps: this is the first comment on a KZfaq video in ages, maybe that's me starting to be a fool!!

To be the fool deal with pain is needed. Deal with harm thrown at you. Not everyone will but some so so a great inner strength needs to be developed. That strength is the one that keeps you bigger than the haters. You allow yourself to be a fool when you can love yours self and know how to push yourself up no matter what happens around you.

Joey from Better Ideas: You are ruining your life. Nathaniel Drew: I am ruining my life. Edit: He changed the title so I guess my comment is no longer relevant.

seriously!! how could such a young have so much wisdom????

Dude. I've watched you for a long time. Your most recent videos are speaking to my soul. So appreciative to you and for your willingness to share.

The way you talk and articulate yourself to your audience is truly a gift. this is what you were put on this earth to do. thank you for sharing!!

“The fool does not wait for permission” might be one of the greatest insights I’ve ever heard

Took a listen to this while waking up this morning with a heavy heart, feeling like a failure. Grateful I'm not the only one!

I think anytime we play a fool in our life, we are actually showing the most authentic version of ourselves. It's never easy, but we always seem to grow the most and become a fuller version of who we already are. Thank you for sharing and shining light!!

Nathaniel, as a fellow human being struggling to find my way in this world, I really needed to hear this. Thank you. 🙏🏻

This was a a massive help. All my girlfriends abandoned me and criticized me and put names on me in this last year of college. I do not know their reasons, but I have no hate for no one. And thanks this was a beautiful reminder. A big fan of u I am it's been years. You never fail to inspire and help my little world. Much love .

I have been feeling down lately with chasing my dreams. I finish my service in the Army and people judged me for getting out and chasing a dream :/ thank you. Nathaniel again for these great videos.

I'm in my 40s now and while I definitely still need validation it's lessemed drastically from my earlier years. "I used to walk into a room and wonder if they would like me. Now I walk into a room and wonder if I will like them."

life would be so boring if everything went well with no hardships 😃 the tough part is LIVING through the failure in the moment but once you overcome it, you feel good and grateful for the journey

It is impossible not to care what other people think! We are a social species. We are wired to crave to be liked as our survival depends on it

Just as you said it, now be the fool, who stops you,...he gives hope and energy of liberty

Life is just a long journey of multiple existences where we collectively thrive to learn and expand. Without failure, you can’t grow. Everyone has to go through the whole cycle in order to advance, we all start as fools, some may still be stuck t at the start while others will start head on and embrace it. I was stuck for so many years, but at some point I decided not to be a voluntary prisoner of others.

The thing is that when you’re a father and a husband, your failures have implications towards the ones you love

I like the poem in the final part. It’s beautiful and empowering. Also like the idea of “fool” by Jung, very vivid and useful concept to see failure

Wow man you deserve to have the brightest future for speaking to the souls of so many

So you were in the Netherlands . I recognized my old street and the river Vecht near Breukelen. Amazing choice for a powerfull message.

It's a perspective shift with age. First you care about your image, then you don't and later yet, you understand that nobody really cared, cause everybody is thinking about themselves most of the time.

..but you will be free" That was beautiful Nathaniel

Made my day ❤️ Steve jobs once said : stay hungry stay foolish

I love how you always post a video of exactly what's been on my mind lately. Thanks for being you Nathaniel, you've been one of my greatest inspirations to put myself out there. Perhaps the "need for validation" is actually a good thing in moderation because it gives us the drive to keep putting ourselves out into the world, hence inspiring others around us to rise up into our highest potential. 🤔

Beautiful Nathaniel! You Dare to be a Creator and a Maverick! Takes guts man, takes guts!! Critic's often are found sitting in the armchair!

“A few words on God” is your best video. I jus had to say it.

Seeking Validation sometimes comes from a deep sense of insecurity.. when we know our potential we no longer need acceptance or validation from others…❤

You're fortunate to be figuring this out at a young age. Too many people spend their whole life worrying about what others think, when in reality most of them are thinking about themselves and not about you. Be who you are and follow your own path; the people who truly do care will respect you for it.

As with most ideas there is a downside. Only narcissists and sociopaths completely disregard what others think of them. It’s dangerous to go to far in the direction of not caring what others think of you. That said, most of us care too much.

This interpretation of Tarot has completely changed how I see it, I always avoided it as 'silly magic cards'

This beautiful video reminds me of my favorite quote: "Often times, a person will think they know you by piecing together tiny facts and arranging those pieces into a puzzle that makes sense to them. If we don’t know ourselves very well, we’ll mistakenly believe them, and drift toward where they tell us to swim, only to drown in our own confusion. Here’s the truth: it’s important to take the necessary steps to find out who you are. Because you hold endless depths below the surface of a few facts and pieces and past decisions. You aren’t only the ripples others can see. You are made of oceans.” - Victoria Erickson

Not being dependent on validation is like a muscle that needs constant training. It’s funny you say you care a lot about validation but the evolution of your work is proof that you keep pushing through it. By fearlessly filming outside, sharing quotes, music, inner fears. Sometimes we have to look back to see how far we’ve come

The last part left me in tears. Thank you.

Thank you, Nathaniel

I absolutely needed this. Thank you.

Thank you for your closing words 🥺❤️

THIS. VIDEO. I don’t know if this is just a “right place, right time” coincidence, but I haven’t loved a video like this in a long, long time.

This is just art. Thanks❤️

Thanks so much for this video! I can totally relate to how you feel like you need validation

Another fantastic video

your videos are so inspiring man, keep doing what you’re doing.

What a beautiful poet Nathaniel is! 💖

My god, your work is so goooood !!!

Beautifully done, Nathaniel.

Great video! The fool is an explorer or an adventurer. He or she is extremely curious and doesn’t care what others think. The fool is basically unstoppable.

There's something so beautiful and captivating about the way you share your content, it speak to the deepest parts of me, entertains me, teaches me..... I could watch u for hours and not get bored!

Nathan, this video is gold. Thank you.

Thank you for the important message.

So so impactful. Thank you Nathaniel ❤

“You can’t win against fools.” from the end of Princess Mononoke :) iykyk

This came at the perfect time! Thank you, Nathaniel!

This reminds me of the audition song from La La Land, which I absolutely love. It is my anthem. Here’s to the ones who dream, foolish as they may seem

Nathan, thank you so much ❤

This was layered, deep, and creative. One of your best.

He’s a good soul. Bless him !

Nathaniel thank you for being you!

I've never heard Tarot pronounced that way, with the emphasis on the first syllable. Interesting... ☘💪🏽👀👍🏽☘

So great perspective - life doesn't actually have to be about success and failure rather it can be a series of experiences❤ thank you!

The poem at the end is absolutely incredible. Please release this online somewhere so we can read it again and again!

Thank you Nathan. This came to me right on time

Always spitting facts! Loved the video Nathaniel 😊

Great video! I definitely needed this at this time. I'm delt with this for years and this puts a different perspective on it. Thanks

Dude, your videos ❤ they save me, every time.

Beautiful work! I love your videos! For better or for worse, you have my validation!

This is one of my favorite videos! Will definitely save for later

You are terrify of ridicule and rejection and you have an youtube channel? You are strong

This video is definitely a masterpiece, so poetic and talked so much with my soul, thank you for it! really

the last scene gave me chills, it's art, thank you

Thank you. And such beautiful words at the end

Best video I've seen on your channel, love the energy you're bringing!

I really needed this today. I truly appreciate your work. Thank you!

You are brilliant. Thank you for this ❤

Your videos are so interesting. Thank you.

Incredible quality and very thought provoking, thank you.

Needing validation is what we learn as a child. Becoming a mature adult relieves us of that burden. As we are all ignorant about so many things all our lives, let me share two of my favorite quotes about fools with you. First from Kenny Loggins and Michael McDonald (The Doobie Brothers): “What a fool believes he sees, no wiseman has the power to reason away.” Second: “Only fools and dead men never change their minds. Fools won’t. Dead men can’t.” John Henry Patterson It’s fun watching you evolve in ways I did around your age. There is so much more exciting stuff to experience, both happy and painful that will come your way. Just try to remember, if you wake up in the morning, it’s a great day. Happy New Year

You made me cry! Thank you for the kind and true words at the end!

Wowwwww i was not expecting u to go that route and im so happy you have shared this to a bigger audience than those who talk about tarot do!