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INFP: feels their own emotions so strongly they sometimes mistake them for other people’s. INFJ: feels other people’s emotions so strongly they sometimes mistake them for their own.

As an INFP, I sometimes get upset when people offer logical solutions to get me out of a funk, because it makes me feel that they're downplaying the depth of my feelings. I have to constantly force myself to remember that someone might really care about me and want me to feel better.

as an infp i’m already betting it’s me 💀

As an INFP, empathy often puts me in emotionally stressed situations, sometimes i feel like i can "see" everyone. Have you ever looked at a stranger and thought _"im going to smile and be kind to that person today because i feel like she needs it, nobody appreciates what she does but i do"_ and then overthinking the possible negative consequences of it and do nothing... kill me.

Fi: when you use selfcontrol until you explode. Fe: when you can't stop talking until you regret what you said.

Ugh worst part about being an INFP is feeling everything but nobody knowing so they never know how much they hurt you.

Finally someone broke the "emotionless" INTJ myth! I felt so misunderstood 😭

As an INTJ, I agree with this. I myself am very emotional under my exterior appearance but I choose to keep them to myself and sort of hone them by myself. Because I have a cynical feeling that by telling them to people, they'll just make it worse if they even understand them at all to begin with.

I'm INFP, husband is INFJ. I found that he's quite emotionally 'needy' and wants validation for his emotions. However, he's quicker to 'get over' things (kinda) and while he can move on after an argument, I'm more like, 'Uhh, no... I'm not ready to dig myself out of this emotional well I've got for myself here.' He wants to talk, I'm more the suffer in silence type. To our credit, we don't play emotional blackmail with each other and drudge up things from the past as ammo.

"These feelings don't make sense, I have to stop/change this." Basically this throughout my entire life. - INTP

I'm an INFP and sometimes i wish someone could just get inside of my head to fully understand my feelings, as i often can't even describe them myself

Fi is a lot more similar to Ti than people realise. It's not just mapping emotions, it's connecting them to values, to interests, to relationships, to philosophy, theology etc. It takes the facts into account as well. It's literally scientifically analysing things from all angles in order to come up with the best solution - just like Ti does. Only difference (regarding this perfect solution): the focus lies more on the values (values are much more important than feelings to introverted feelers!) and feelings involved in the decision than the plain logic of it. Also: the most important feeling of the Fi-user is whether or not something feels 'right'. I'm kind of tired of this narrative of the INFP thinking about their emotions all the time. We're deeply rational thinkers as well, and being called emotional is near an insult to me (I feel like I'm not being taken seriously with the arguments I bring to the table if I'm just the 'emotional' one. No, my main focus is not what I feel, my main focus is what is right!)

As an INTP, this video captured my experiences with emotion so accurately. My inferior Fe makes it very difficult to understand my emotions, especially when my Ti decides they aren't logical. This actually causes me to talk about my emotions more than some of my Fi dom and aux friends because I need them to validate how I feel. My INFP friend actually talks about her emotions the least of our friends. Kinda scary how accurate this video was...

Wow, yes. As an INTJ, I cry over incidents in books in seclusion but I've never been sensitive to day-to-day emotions. I have brutally deep emotions about books, movies and TV series but I keep them in check too. As a result my friends never tell me about their problems because they think I have the emotional capacity of a bug. Win-win anyway 🙂

As an ISFP I have to admit that getting stuck in Fi is so hard. It's so unbelievably overwhelming I feel like no one could possibly understand, even if I tried to explain it.

Great video! As an INFP this is very recognizable. It isn't just that I want to process my emotions before I talk to anyone about what I'm feeling, it is also that the language to describe what I'm feeling doesn't seem to exist, making it very complicated to explain what I feel exactly

I'm not sure with other INTJs but I personally don't express my emotions because it would put me in a vulnerable situation. I had a bad experience in childhood where someone took mental notes on my emotional expressions towards certain things and used it to guilt trip or manipulate me. There was also a time when I was younger where my mother would force me to open up so she could "help" with my problem, but once I do, I tend be such a mess since all the emotions are just pouring out, it also doesn't help that my mother would then trample on my emotions making me feel bad for ever feeling those things in the first place. Which is why fast forward to today in my early 20s, I tend to keep multiple layers of doors that are guarding my emotions and feelings. I'll definitely express happiness and joy, but the more vulnerable emotions like anger and sadness, I keep them to myself. I only ever am open to expressing them to someone once I trust them enough, that they're a good humam being who won't take advantage of me.

As an INTP I can confirm that I barely perceive my emotions. The only emotional states I find myself in are normal and mildly happy.

I'm an INFP and I agreed when you said we won't change our feelings for you, but we won't tell you that. What's funny is a lot of people seem to think I'm spacey and that I don't feel very much. What people don't know is I feel incredibly deeply and I will not make an important decision until I'm positive it's the right thing for me. But most people don't know that, because I don't want to overwhelm others with my deep thoughts lol. People have no idea how complex my inner world is.

the vomiting thing 😭 I'm an INFJ and I ALWAYS think sharing feelings is so important for the comfort of everyone else (ironic now that I learned it can make people LESS comfortable 😭 lmao what have I been doing) I just think that if I share my most embarrassing or shameful feeling, I'm going to make people feel better about theirs and maybe they are going to feel safe to share which is going to make us ALL feel okay because we're just humans after all. like it doesn't even matter if they share it or not. All I want is that just in case someone is feeling bad about how they're feeling, they'll feel okay about it.

That INFP struggle with getting "stuck" in emotions and normal interventions like "hey buddy let's talk this out!" not working is frustrating because I always wanna help. I wonder if there could be a video in "What do the 16 personalities need the most in a friend?"

Infp- I’m wayy too overwhelmed to the point that I don’t know exactly how I perceive things. No one understands and it’s so difficult. It’s to the point where I imagine my dream life where I don’t suffer-

hey frank! i have some ideas for future videos: 16 personalities in their wedding 16 personalities interacting with their extroverted type for example, INTJ interacting with ENTJ 16 personalities interacting with their ideal type, for example, ISTP interacting with ESTJ or ENTJ 16 personalities as superheroes and super villains, like the hero is one type and the villain is its opposite type. for example ESTP is the villain so INFJ would be the hero 16 personalities watching anime 16 personalities playing minecraft 16 personalities interacting with each other on discord 16 personalities as spies idk how good or bad these are, but they sound like they'll be fun to watch

Being an INFJ, I always love to talk people through their feelings. I feel privileged when they come to me to talk about their emotions especially if it's one on one but when it comes to my own feelings, I feel so lost. It's like I don't even have feelings to begin with, though I'm very well aware that it's so not true. Or maybe it is because INFJs are so focused on others' feelings that they tend to avoid elephant in the room i.e their own feelings. But how come someone who can feel deeply for others, doesn't even know a thing about how to put their own emotions into words? What kind of cruel joke is this that I can understand people even better than they do themselves but know nothing about my ownself? I mean I know when I'm happy or sad but sometimes I can't pinpoint where these emotions are coming from. Sometimes I will just brush them away and other times I will spend days processing them till the point that my head hurts. Sometimes I question myself and live in fear that I will never know what I need from life and other times I'm so sure of it but question my capability to actually get it for myself.

As an ISTP, I don't understand my emotions. When my grandfather died, my mom was crying but I was getting aggravated by her crying. Yes, I was sad over him dying, but I didn't know how to control it. I try my best to avoid anyone getting emotional because it's so awkward for me

As an INTJ psychiatrist, I am always aware of other people’s feelings but the majority of the time I just don’t care. The most important thing is what you do with with your feelings; one needs to decide how their feelings motivate them to behave in specific ways and if they want to change those behaviors.

Yep, as an INFP, that's why I got to “hibernate” for an entire day, minimum, upto weeks or months. To hibernate is to cut myself from social connections and activities, and cherish the me-time. To explore what I could “hypothetically” be doing to get through my feelings. Feelings that you can't just pass around. Because you got your wall up to your sides and your back, that you can only either move or not move your soles. You gotta contemplate about drawing, writing, acting out or just generally expressing your feelings. But you won't necessarily act on them. Rather, you just try and find books to read or films to watch that could help you deeply understand what you're feeling. Which may or may not include thinking about the causes of those extreme feelings. And then, when I come out of my nest and re-socialize, will just summarize to people what just happened in the entirety of the period I'm gone, to conclude the extensive emotional journey. My small but deeply cherished circle of friends have been used to this cycle. They don't go wild looking for me anymore as much compared to when they first “adopted” me. --- Edit: I want to equally express my feedback to this vid from observing my INFJ, INTP and ENFP friends, but at this point, Ne kicked in so wildly. I wrote too much and got invested with my feelings that I got too lazy about writing them anymore. Typing those few paragraphs above have drained my energy more than I expected it to be. 🥴😂

Can you do this with Ti and Te aswell? I’d love to understand more about cognitive functions ☺️

I’m an ENFP (bordering on I) with ADHD and sometimes I feel like I’m the most emotional human on the planet. My emotions are extremely deep and I share them with everyone all of the time. 😂

enfj here (chronic depression and other mental illness). Its kinda tricky personality-wise grappling between “what is my emotions” and “what is the emotions i read on others” when everything (especially my own) emotion-wise is so dulled. Honestly y depression has gotten me more introverted reads on some certain personality tests, although I know im still an extrovert. Anyhow, great vid!

I know an INTJ, and it's definitely true. My first interactions with him gave me the vibe that he doesn't seem emotional, but as time passed, I definitely saw layers of emotion under the surface, and eventually, he did share some of it, and they were a lot deeper than you would expect from someone who's always talking logic and practicality and such. This was a really accurate video XD --INFP

As an INFP, I actually also try to guess how other people feel based on how I perceive myself when I am feeling a certain way. Like if I see someone staring into space on the verge of crying(exaggeration of course, it’s usually more subtle than this), I assume something tragic happened to them. I usually get it right, and so it is kind of beneficial to feel that deeply. I can’t comfort them of course because I will often begin feeling the emotion they’re feeling, so I usually provide a course of action since I’ve been through it myself, but i find it very strange when people say that INFPs don’t care about what other people are feeling or aren’t aware of them. Maybe it’s a contextual thing?

As an ISTP, this is so true. I know I 'feel' things,just don't know what those things are which makes it even harder to tell anyone.

as an INFJ, i’m extremely emotional and spurt out my emotions accidentally to literally anyone who listens, i feel so deeply but i always shift my emotions based on how everyone else is acting. if everyone’s happy, i’ll be happy too, if the mood is sadder then i’ll shift in to that mod. my emotions aren’t private to me, i need people to understand me and know me and love me. it may be unhealthy, but it’s just how i am. like i don’t feel i have any right to be angry or hate anyone because other people don’t hate said person. it’s really conflicting never knowing if it’s my authentic emotions or the emotions everybody else wants me to feel. i’m very open about my life and my trauma and it does probably make people feel awkward, but it’s because i want to create a comforting environment for others to be able to vent to me. i wear my emotions on my sleeve before i’m even aware i’m feeling that way. i mean i also have anxiety and probably depression according to my therapist, but idk

My mother's an INFP and if she feels like she has to focus on something she won't see or hear anything else. Must be her Fi. People who don't know her if ever come across this side of hers they think she's faking it but it's actually completely true and even I find it unbelievable sometimes. She's like a tap flowing with her emotions and as an INFJ I'm more like a sponge absorbing emotions.

As an INFP I can easily say I’m very emotional but I contain it. I feel so much which makes me exhausted sometimes. What has really helped me is sometimes taking a CBD gummy once a day. Not everyday, because it seems to affect my thyroid a bit BUT it REALLY helps with not taking things personally and actually detaching from so much emotion. It’s kinda glorious because for a short while you get to experience things like everyone else 😂 not as deeply. I’ve noticed it also helps me enjoy music a lot 🥰

As an ENFP, I can totally tell you even though Fi is second on my function stack, that deep narrow hole Frank speaks of is real! My Ne is usually going: "Dude, you're hanging down there too long, let's go do something!"

I am an ISTP so i don't really understand emotions. After 5 years of knowing each other my INFP friend one day started talking about his feelings and boy... i was shocked, i didn't know what to say, i tried to approach it logically but i ended up just listening to what he had to say, it was like an explosion that lasted like an hour full of what was inside of his mind. That's the only time he has done something like that and i hope he didn't feel bad because of me not understanding him.

Ah, the INFP life. Where our reality is just too darn emotional, so we sink into the fantasy world, only to make it just as emotional. Like, you'd think I would make my fantasies be sunshine and roses, but no, I gotta make 'em cloudy with possible hints of rainbows.

As an INTJ, I was a bit surprised to not find our staring at the wall, wearing black, unemotionally voiced selves considered least emotional. And it was very nice to have a deeper explanation of Fe. Though as someone who is Fi-Te, I still have trouble even grasping the concept of an inappropriate emotion. It isn't the emotion that is wrong. You feel what you feel. It is what you DO about that emotion that matters. And its here that the Te cuts in with manners and culturally appropriate moves and consideration of what is just being more important than what I personally feel, etc. If you can just go "Oh, that's inappropriate" and stop feeling that way, then was the emotion even real and honest? I also found the standard "Does not notice what others are feeling" line amusing, because often the truth is that I'm actually pretty good at realizing what people are feeling (can't manipulate them otherwise, as INTJs are known to do) . The thing is, I may not care. I realize this sounds cold, so I'm going to try to put it into a better context. The lynch mob is riled up and looking for someone to blame and I think the right thing to do is give sanctuary to the accused? I don't care what they feel. I don't care that they're probably going to kill me to get at someone else. I'm going to do what I believe is right, and if group think is to hate me for it, then fine. I do not care.

I'm an ISTJ, and I find that, with Te and Fi so close together (but just barely preferring Te), I'm at war with myself a lot. I have very intense emotions and a strong need to feel them, yet I keep THINKING that I shouldn't feel that way (especially in the case of negative/harmful emotions, like anger). It's like my Te and Fi are pulling my psyche in different directions, and sometimes I feel like it's on the brink of being ripped apart

And that's why you don't see us ISFP's on the internet all that much and our reddit is dead most of the time, we're pretty focused on ourselves and don't really share our thoughts very often (I don't know about other ISFP's, but when I write a comment I'm like 'Why do I even struggle writing this, no one cares anyway' and delete everything I wrote and I kinda feel the urge to do this right now but oh well today I feel like going against myself, deal with it me)

I’m ENFP and I find when I get very emotional, I’m in my own head a lot, think scenarios over and over again, and try to strategize and structure what I’m gonna say, how to say it. Those are the times I’ve probably ever made any kind of plan and went through with it.😂 When I’m angry with someone, I find I do better showing a solution through my actions instead of speaking with them because I hate confrontation, and because I don’t want to completely break down in gibberish in front of the person, I want to communicate clearly and calmly when I’m ready. I just wish it wasn’t as long as it usually takes for me to get a grip.😅 I also realized now as I’ve grown up, that a full day apart from the person I’m mad at, is enough time to dissipate the anger.

As an INFP, I always hate it when they say that INFPs are unaware of other people's emotions or don't care about them. It makes us sound like we're self-centered and lack empathy. I've encountered that being in tune with your emotions actually helps you understand other people better. Not by thinking how you'd feel in their situation, but rather understanding how emotions can be different for everyone on a personal level. We can listen to their personal experience and build upon that. Because we are different people and we do feel differently. As Fi dominants who are often misunderstood, we get it, we get you. We just feel like people don't get us. Our emotions seem to stray from the spectrum they work with and we're often disregarded for that as merely hypersensitive people who should work on themselves.

I read this one debate where Introverted feelers and extroverted feelers were calling each other selfish and fake respectively. I think it doesn't matter if your own feeling is the only thing that affects you or you get overwhelmed by other people's emotion, I think what matters is that the feeling authentically affects you in that time space and how you process it. I envy INFJs on so many levels and I think we can learn so much from them. Which is also why I think INFJ and INFP friendships usually have that balance of learning from each other. We are so opposite but we are so same.

I'm an ISFP and you're right. My Fi is extremely dominant that I feel overwhelmed by almost everything, like human relationships, socializing because I'm too stuck in my emotions processing them, constantly working on them to survive. I realized I isolate myself a lot because of it.

As an ENTJ, I now know what I do with my feelings, and I like to keep them out of my social circle and workflow AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE

I'm an INFJ therapist, and I absolutely know I was called to help people process their feelings, which I can viscerally FEEL. I can contain my own, but it's like strumming a chord, and the harmonic vibrates when I recognize the feeling. But then I HAVE to process my own stuff to someone and never feel heard or understood. I am constantly thinking, "Am I rambling? Are they getting bored? I need to not talk so much and make sure they feel heard, I don't want to be selfish and make it all about me." But if I try to do this, especially with my E friends or family, my stuff gets pushed away and I end up doing therapy for the other person. It becomes all about them. I feel like a jerk even saying all this, but I just want to be heard out so I can understand my own feelings and be real about what it says about me as a person. It can be very lonely.

The other day was a perfect example of how I don’t process my emotions before. I mean I’m not exposing all the time I used to more until I found you but honestly if I hadn’t said what I had things wouldn’t be as good as they are becoming I needed to be honest and let this person know how I truly felt si it all worked out in the end! This can go the other way too sometimes I get an overwhelming feeling of joy or gratitude or just any powtoive emporium it really just depends! I love this video! Thank you for all the advise you always give it truly helps me tremendously!

oh also, love this deep dive into the indiv functions! 👏 cant always find good examples online so this is helpful!

As a person with both INFP and INFJ traits, I think I'm quite a lot more emotional than I'd like to be 😅 Btw, I'm in love with you and your channel 😍 You're always so funny and accurate. Love and care from Spain 😘

In a INFP & INFJ relationship. It gets interesting and intense trying to understand where we are coming from and coming out with it in the first place. But I think these opposing ways have helped both of us grow so much as individuals. I love it 😀 Thanks for the video Frank 👍👏

I'm an INFP and when you talked about Fi, I've never felt more understood. Everything is just so true! It's like a sign of trust when I talk to someone about my feelings, but it's always that I need to understand it first. I think about my feelings a lot and I write them down in a poetic way and I draw. When you're lucky I might tell you about it but only if I want to. It's confusing.

I'm so glad when there is no background music and I can fully pay attention to what you say. Great content!

Hiii .. I just wanna say thank you Frank for bringing MBTI personality type to my life .. after I found my personality type it really helped me to grow as a person.. it really helped me understand myself and also understand others .. and reacting in situations.. so thank you your videos really helped me .. thank you so much ...

Thank you so much for this video, Frank. I'm an INFP and my roommate is an INFJ and I've tried explaining my emotional thought process to her a few times but could never say it in a way that made her understand that just because I don't talk out my feelings like she does doesn't mean I'm silently suffering, I'm just processing it in my own way. She had multiple epiphanies watching this about me as well as the way she processes her own emotions. So much covered in so little time, and still entertaining, honestly, perfection.

As an emotional intj I will have to let my excessive amounts of personal feelings out every once in a while, but only sometimes would do it at an inappropriate time like enfps often do. I'm very private about my feelings and yet am very aware of them and actually don't mind sharing them sometimes. And when I feel, I feel very very deeply. Goodluck to whoever would then unfortunately have to listen to me describing my feelings for the next 3 hrs

I'm an ENFJ, and I LOVED how you broke this down. Yes. And I also appreciated how you tied in how Ti works in with this. I definitely feel I am very in tune with my Ti even if it is not my strongest, and that notion of "How am I ~supposed~ to feel?" is very resonating. I also appreciate the clarification that as an Fe user, we often know what is appropriate and what is not. So, therefore, we won't just vomit emotions on people if we foresee it rubbing them the wrong way (which is part of Fe--knowing how it will affect others).

I am so glad that when you talked about intj, you said that they may not share what they're feeling, but the depth of their feeling is pretty intense! My husband is an intj, and while it took a while for him to become comfortable enough with me to trust me to shows his emotion, his emotions are quite vast! And he can articulate them so well. As an infj, and especially being 7 months pregnant now lol, my emotions do kind of come out like vomit as you said sometimes! My husband is so incredibly patient about helping me work through what I'm feeling and why. It used to be, early in our relationship, that I would get worked up over something and try to talk it out, but he didn't really understand I was working through it and thought that the emotions I was expressing were the final conclusion, so it took a bit of communication to work that out, but now we have a wonderful system of communication and sharing and expressing our emotions. Like for example, I got up yesterday and our kiddo was jumping on my bladder, my ribs hurt from expanding, my hips hurt because I'm only allowed to sleep in my sides now, and I felt all around like a giant round seal. I was very quietly trying to keep my emotions in because I wasn't sure what I was feeling, and this wonderful, wonderful man of mine just comes up and hugs me and says, "I'm not sure what's wrong, but I love you and you can let me know when you want to talk." I let him know that I wasn't sure what I was feeling, but I told him the things that weren't feeling good in the moment, and he helped me to process it and just say that I was having a crummy morning solely because I'm pregnant 😅 and I hope that I help him to express his emotions more, it definitely seems like it the further we get into a relationship! 5 years gone and now he talks to me about things I never thought he would ❤️

i have been in such turmoil over this for the past few weeks about introverted vs extraverted feeling and i convinced myself that i was an infp but i definitely have more extraverted feeling!! thank you so much for this frank, this put my mind at ease. you explain things so well also that makes so much more sense to my brain. im shocked i just found out that other people dont think to themselves whether their feelings are correct for a certain situation :O

It's hard to come by descriptions of Fi that are not caricaturish and misleading. Here's some clarifications. 1. Fi has nothing to do with whether or not you care about other people's feelings. Many Fi types care deeply about other people's feelings and well-being. But their identity and personal choices will always primarily be driven from within, they'll always be clear on their own independent feelings about things, and they'll be choosy about who or what they're willing to be influenced by. 2. If you do get really stuck in your own feelings, then yes, sometimes, it can create a bit of tunnel vision and make you a bit oblivious to the world and people around you. This is more likely to happen with young people who are intensely focused on their Fi self-development or unhealthy people who have a lot of mess inside to work through (ideally - the worst-case scenario is not working through it but just endlessly dwelling unconstructively). 3. Getting stuck in a feeling for a long time is not inevitable. Mainly, we just want to let ourselves feel whatever we feel, fully process our feelings, and give things time to evolve naturally. This doesn't always take long. 4. There are many cases where Fi types will change emotional states more easily than Fe types. The propensity of many Fi types for acting is an obvious example of that. It's more that Fe feelings are more easily swayed by the external social environment and Fi feelings are changed more through internal calibration. But even for Fi types, if there's something in our environment that speaks to us or moves us, that can sometimes have a quick emotional impact! 5. The deep emotional awareness and processing that high Fi types do is very foundational for mental health. Many people have to be taught those skills in therapy. The same goes for having a strong sense of self, having an intrinsic (rather than extrinsic) sense of self-worth, and having healthy boundaries between ourselves and others while still being very capable of empathy and meaningful connections. Theoretically, we have the raw materials to be some of the most mentally healthy people. But it all depends on how constructively we use them.

I used to think that I don't like to go to the "emotions land" because it makes me feel weak, and I really didn't have the luxury of being weak or vulnerable for legitimate reasons ( I'm not gonna overshare). It never occurred to me that this is because of some personality type, which makes a lot of sense when I look at it now. But that was in the past. But I still wonder if this is my real functions or a rule I was forced to play? Anyway, sometimes I think it doesn't matter anymore because I'm already working on my personal growth for years now, without putting any personality type or zodiac sign or whatever suggestion in my head. I saw what I can't do and where I'm not functioning very well, and worked on it ( and it's more than just emotions), still working though. Thank you, Frank. It's always pleasure to join your classes. Keep that white board, and keep Robert hydrated, he's giving a good vibe to the room.

Thank you for explaining in words what I know about myself and others that I couldn't explain to myself or others, and for being there for all of us in understanding ourselves better.

This is definitely the most helpful video I've watched about Fi vs Fe. While researching these functions in the past I had some trouble grasping the idea, but you put things so clearly! I hope that anyone newly interested in MBTI finds your channel because I know that it'll help them! I've been watching for a while and I know that it's helped me. And if I ever need any refreshers or new info on MBTI, I can always count on here to find it.💯 Keep it up, Frank!

As an ISFP it is pretty difficult to share my negative emotions. When I'm really down bad I have to write it out. Though it's difficult to explain it to someone else when I'm writing I'm explaining to myself. It helps to realize what's really going on. Putting the words on paper makes it feel real and if it's not real I don't want to write it down. And if I write it anyway I'll cross it out.✌

As an INTP I feel like I am two persons when I feel/don’t feel emotions. I am much more attuned to interests/fun/belief than emotions/values, though the former probably come across as “feelings” to other people.

Thanks Frank, this video certainly has made me understand myself a little better…For years in my life I’ve been wondering why I’ve been behaving like the way I am…I never realized it until my friend started pointing out my comparing behaviour and I was like “was I too inconsiderate?” I thought I was being too selfish and keep dismissing others’ feelings too much…plus people’s words of comfort never really comfort me tbh when I feel down…and I have always felt like I’m pushing them away and it has always been driving me crazy not being able to interact like my other friends do…thanks to those insights about cognitive functions, I won’t have to worry guilt-tripping myself for not interacting much with the people around me (cuz I’m an INFP so I’m Fi dominant) and for the first time in my life I have a sigh of relief for knowing there’s actually nothing wrong with me and it never has been… Can’t wait to binge in your channel content more often, FJ 🌷🌹✨

This is well explained. Very Insightful. Thanks.

This is such a great video. I love the way deep concepts were explained with simplicity. As an INFP, I definitely understand why it can be said we are highly emotional. However, a lot of INFPs are highly aware of how the people around them are feeling. Not all INFPs, of course, but a lot of us are. It's to the point that it can be emotionally draining. We're dealing with our own deep feelings while overanalyzing the feelings of those around us.

I don't think INTP is the most emotional but they often are yet they show it the less which I feel is very interesting

Definitely one of the most intriguing and interesting videos I’ve seen! Loved this one!

Wow, fascinating and perfectly explained. I can see this playing out IRL and yeah, everything in this video is so true.

Love that every week I watch your videos, you've got a thousand more subscribers. I'm so excited for you. You totally deserve this.

I'm a mix of ISFP & INFP I *never* *ever* express my feelings to someone who I feel isn't going to understand my feelings exactly the way I do. If I ever decide to be vulnerable infront of someone and i don't get the desired reaction I get offended and shut myself off from that person. In matters of love I get obsessed by guys who show a lot of interest in me even after a while they ghost me......until i find a new suitor 😂 then I've moved on completely

Thank you for this!! This is the best explanation I’ve ever heard!!!

I love this kind of explanatory video! Good stuff!

"Emotionally attached to their emotions" its so true x.x thank you for saying all this!!

ENFP here, emotions are so complicated lol Sometimes I have random bursts of just feeling SOMETHING and it makes me unable to fuction for days because I'm so caught up in it (Usually triggered by series/books I really enjoy, some especially intense ones were after Banana Fish and Song of Achilles). Then other times again I'm just chilling without experiencing any specific feelings. What you said about making our decisions with our emotions but not telling anyone really made me think, but I think it's true. When I need to make decisions I often already lean into one specific direction, but kinda suppress that feeling and try to think about the best solution instead. If I can't come up with good arguments to support my decision I'll most likely drop it again, although coming up with good arguments is usually not hard...

Your content is amazing! jaw dropping the way you broke down ESFJ Fe and Ti cause that is so true for me.

Thank you, professor FJ. I learned a lot.

One of my favorites from you so far - such a nice explanation! If people ask me about Fi/Fe, I’ll just send them this video. Also, thanks for pointing out that INTJs aren’t emotionless evil masterminds 😄

I'm a 40ish ESFJ and have worked hard to master the emotional vomit. My big struggle now is my unwillingness you share my thoughts. I'm on a couple of public committees and I'm internally enraged but staying cool every.single.time it's my turn to share my thoughts on a topic. How I feel about topics often doesn't match what I think about them. Also guilty of never telling anyone what I actually think in my personal life. Working on integrating that. Great video, FJ

This is the BEST channel! I have learned so much from watching these videos! Learning about the 16 Personalities has really helped me not to take certain social interactions so personally and to realize that everyone is responding because of what their personality is. Thank you for teaching us this FJ!

You are so spot on with this. I'm an INFP and I'm married to an ENFJ and he is always trying to talk out how I feel about something and how he feels about it before I've properly processed it. Then he moves on and I'm still stuck trying to process my stuff, and he can't work out why I'm still stuck. Love your videos! They resonate so much and give me so much more insight into my own and other's behaviour.

* waves Hi to Robert * Also, bristle

I almost never manage to find other ENFJs here and I think it's not because we aren't watching, but because we usually like to just read and observe everything without publicly adding our input - writing this comment now is super uncharacteristic haha. I really enjoy the more mbti nerd-ish videos about the functions and I think it's great that they are becoming more known, beyond the 16p website. Although I don't always agree with the ENFJ portrayals, I do commend you for your work and great videos! :)

Okay so im definitely infp, your description of fi resonates so much with me ! Its truely incredible 🤩

OMG this is just so accurate！！！Best description of Fi ever !

Stuck Ni here. Great explanation, thank you Also: Fe-Ti-connection: Sometimes when I am emotionally in a bad place for some stuff, I stop, think and tell myself: "so, you have felt bad enough. Stop it." And it works.

INFP here. "...emotions are their jam..." Yup, and they never stop. Having to process first...yup, it never stops. It takes way too long...yup, and it never stops. I do tend to care about others' feelings, but let's chalk that up to being an empath which also never stops. It did come in super handy when I had an ENFJ boss with a need to talk his life out. Not going to change how I feel for other people...couldn't if I wanted to and I don't anyway. Never telling you how I really feel (unless it's deemed necessary)...yup. Having to get out of it on my own...yup. Not always seeing a way out...thank God for meds and therapy. Robert...Plant. Nicely done...all of it, but especially the botanical name.

really informative video to explain emotion access/processing, thank you. you're very good at breaking down what each function does in each position and how that manifests.

You just blew my mind. You have no idea- I have friends who can’t handle it so I only try to now just with my assistant I have to go over my anger or frustrations with the egomaniacal personalities I have to deal with in my work- but really any emotion I have to discuss with someone and ask if what I’m feeling is right- am I right to be offended or angry, but I do it with love too. I check that my responses I also put others feelings first most of the time unless someone has crossed a line. INFJ can be very cold. But this was super informative & helpful thank you!

as an esfp (with burnout/mild depression) i always think about what i feel and about what others think of me, but i never show my real emotions. the thing is that i feel like most of my friends wouldn't care or would be bored if i don't show my goofy and funny personality and instead talk about my deep iceberg of feelings. so yeah everything is spot on

Frank, you are a natural teacher. I can see you being a college professor. Anyway, I am an infj and I feel like I swim in a warm pond of thoughts and emotions constantly. I don't think anyone would ever understand me so, I'm constantly trying to figure out how to help myself. Enough time goes by and I have not resolved my feelings especially if I'm traumatized, it will all come flowing out. It could be an avalanche, an earthquake, unceasing lava spewing all over everything and everyone. And, the only relief I get is the fact that I finally let go of something I've been holding onto for a long long time. Immediately I feel guilty and ashamed because I'm here to serve other people. Not to worry about myself. Take care, Frank James. Sincerely, Carly💙💙💙

I absolutely love this Sunday edutainment!

I just love this video so freaking much!

I (ENFP) have an ESFJ mom and an ENFJ dad and can confirm everything Frank said. My parents are more emotional than me (behavioural-wise) and my dad can be pretty hot-headed. And because they’re both judgers, they want to know about everything I do and don’t do, and everything about what others do and don’t do and should’ve done. They are also prone to criticising others even if they really care about people.

Ok so I'm an infj, my sister is an infp and I have to say this is so true, like..you understand me better than I myself 😂

Nice! Thanks FJ🙂🙏