The "stigmas and taboos" are a byproduct of the culture of psychology. The vocabulary and norms associated with mental health treatment are alienating to many people, especially men.

This is a quote from my favorite KZfaqrs on the importance of mental health: "Think of how many people who've died from a leg injury. Now, think of how many people who have died out of PTSD." The guy that quoted that has been through the military and often talked about how many men left that place filled to the brim with mental health issues, yet they're never given the chance to properly express it, neither do they even realize that they needed help to begin with. A lot of people think that since mental health happens mentally, it can be overcome, but the whole point is that it can't be naturally healed like a physical injury. Sure, it doesn't actually hurt as much as a physical injury - But it isn't as easy as solving that physical injury. What makes mental problems hurt is how complicated and influential it actually is.

At the end of the day, it a footballer injured his knee and had to take time out, no-one (let alone a severely-dyspraxic 14-year-old who couldn’t kick or even straight-walk his way out of a plastic bag) would see him as incapable or incompetent/kick him while he’s already-down because they know he’d spring to agile-action once he was back on his feet. Similar Phoenix-esque analogy for mental illness and eventual recovery. Only a low scumbag with a dead I.Q. was use someone’s bearing during a very low point in their life as indicative of their overall nature and capabilities. Things happen to everyone and anyone can be anything.

We should stop calling it mental health as if it’s a problem that needs to be fixed. It’s really just normal human reactions to a messed up world. Labeling it as a mental health issue is invalidating and the only purpose is to sell you drugs so you don’t demand the world change and be not so messed up.

@@FirstNameLastName-wt5to it’s really not. Psychotic depression, catatonic schizophrenia, trichotillomania and Bell’s mania have existed since the beginning of time and (in some form or-other) across all the world and are not ‘normal reactions to a messed-up world.’ An illness is a sodding illness, whether it’s a general-medical or psychiatric/mental-health one. Don’t be silly.

Ikr lol probably the first and only sponsor segment I've ever watched through in any video haha

He’s the only KZfaqr that I watch the sponsored part of his videos. He always makes it worth it lol

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Fr FJ

100% agreeeeee

This is so relatable and accurate, the exact kind of situation I find myself in when I'm struggling. I recently had a rough patch (at least a week without sleep, and chronic health issues) and was in such a vulnerable and fragile emotional state, I would burst into tears at any little thing. I had to do a chore around the house that took me a long time to start, so my brother told me "go do something else, I'll take care of it." I fell apart. I couldn't stop crying, shaking and blaming myself for being so irresponsible and not helping anyone. He was very confused and just comforted me.

An elderly couple once told me I'm fat and I called my mom, sobbing, and apologized for being a failure at life. 😔

This made me laugh out loud. I'm sorry, it's just I'm an INFP as well and I can absolutely relate to this. I can find this hilarious now but when it's happening I'm "distraught".

Sounds about right. I got a flat tire once and ended up walking in circles for about five minutes until some nice man helped me. And I mean literally walking in circles. And I literally mean 5 minutes.

As an INFP, I would not say that I was stupid. I would just sit on the floor and cry.

This appears to be a sign of struggle.

@@entangledatoms7153 a sign of struggle?

@@omarplayz4454 woah. I wasn’t expecting you to reply to a 1 year old comment. Anyways, that was my poor attempt of a joke.

@@entangledatoms7153 oh ok all good

Can confirm. Me, default: 👁👄👁 Me, struggling: 👁 👄 👁

Also.. hes funny

Same, I was nodding and finished his his sentence when he started saying we have to "find the absolute perfect..." solution . I have to write my problems and solutions out, make pros and cons lists, do research, ask for advice anonymously from strangers online, do more research, etc 😅

Totally! 👌🏻 Today I was writing a list of pros and cons about starting my master's degree rn or next year :p Is such a pain in the head

That intro was hilarious!

Lol.. I just quit my job last month.. without knowing what to do next.. and almost destroyed a long time relationship.. Im supposed to be very stressed out cause I have no income now.. but.. hell, I feel better.. lol

Wow as a 22 yo ENFP, this sounds VERY unlike my parents but kinda like me. I remember once I got really mad at home so I just decided to WALK to the nearest town to us (15 km away) and back. It was pretty fun tbh, I saw some cool spots that I never had seen before!

INTP and same on the scenario to sleep thing. I think it's just a helpful sleep aid? At least that's how I treat it.

Making scenarios in your head before sleep is very common, it’s normal, BUT can become unhealthy if daydreaming begins to inhibit your life, your constantly escaping reality into an idealistic or fun world for hours and hours, you seem to constantly wonder off while doing things your supposed to be doing.

Omg the "create a movie scenario" part is so true! I do it almost everyday (or everyday) to go to sleep!

Omg me too!!! Thanks for making me feel like a little less of a weirdo!

Are you me?!

Have you seen the show "The Mentalist"? I know this might sound stupid, but it has this odd wholesome effect....

Me too😭

I’m ISFP I was born depressed I have autism too

For my latest one, it was Markiplier and his friends. Before that, it was How I Met Your Mother and New Girl, and before that it was Supernatural and Bones. My first ones were Lord of the Rings extended edition, the OG Star Wars trilogy, and Harry Potter. Then I'll sometimes play the same song on repeat for hours. It's a different song almost every time, last time it was "Black Creek" by Brent Cobb. All of my coping content take turns, depending on what time of year it is and what type of thing I'm struggling with. I'm doing ok right now, so I've been branching out watching new things, and getting out of the house more often, but it'll come back around soon enough. 😅

Just broke up with an INFJ. Some of you are super super toxic. 🙄

​@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs Yes there is a difference though it's worth noting that even neurotypical INFPs can be different from each other. I brought up my neurodivergence because I took a very different path to get to the same place. Because of the extreme different ranges in neuro diversity there is no one size fits all, even with folks in the same group. In my case I am a verbal autistic that has gotten really good at masking in public. The biggest struggle for me while typing was figuring out learned traits vs natural traits as I changed so much of myself over the years to fit in. I frequently tried to convince myself that I couldn't be an INFP because of how much I changed myself. An INFP is all about trying to be authentic and staying true to themselves as opposed to me who grew to genuinely not like myself for the longest time because I abandoned everything that made me happy for some validation from other people. I would later learn that this actually helped me be the INFP I am today as I've learned the hard way how bad it feels to be fake and that the common stereotypes you see online are not the ideal I need to live up to. I don't need to be an all loving sunshine child, I just need to find a version of myself that makes me happy. Intuitive vs sensing was the easiest to figure out since sensors tend to be more focused on current matters and are good at doing things as they happen. My mind bounces everywhere and I spend ridiculous amounts of time planning things out only to chicken out at the last moment and wing whatever I was trying to do (do not recommend, it doesn't always work). Judging vs perceiving was a lot harder because it essentially boils down to organization and planning. As an autistic individual, I have a daily routine that keeps me focused which most people would immediately assume makes me a J type. However my routine is born from overstimulation and is a learned habit I began doing as a desperate attempt to have some control over my life. Outside my routine, I'm very disorganized and any plans I make are usually flexible enough to change at a moments notice. I'm an organized chaos type of person. Thinking vs feeling was also a very difficult one to figure out as xNxPs are obsessive learners, always looking for new things research. So simply being into research or learning was not enough to decide. Not helping me was the issue of my routine and overstimulation issues. I have a habit of numbing myself emotionally just so I'm not overwhelmed by every single complicated emotion I come across in the wild. I genuinely wondered for a while if I was an INTP because of how some people in my past have compared me to a robot (something INTPs are unfairly stereotyped as being like). What ultimately sealed me being an F type was the question what matters more in making a decision. A thinker will decide to do something because the facts say this is the best course of action. A feeler decides based on how each options makes them, well, feel. Despite my faith and interests in facts, sometimes taking that approach risks something happening that I would rather not deal with. Of all the choices however, the one that has given me the most sleepless nights was introvert vs extrovert and it all boiled down to how child me was so much more outgoing and hyperactive than present me. That was a serious mistake to do. There's a reason its recommended that children don't bother with MBTI till they are older. A child is still growing and changing. Who they are changes every day. Despite what I tried to convince myself, I was absolutely not an ENFP with anxiety issues. I'm so much an introvert that I actually miss the 2020 quarantine. Anyway, I think I had a point somewhere in this but I think I went on a bit of a tangent. I know you asked specifically about neurodivergence in MBTI and all I did was talk about myself for several paragraphs. It's getting late where I am so I need to stop for now but if you have any further questions I'm open to answer them the best I can later after I've slept. I didn't even get into the cognitive functions this time around. I hope at least something in this huge messy wall of text helped a little.

wow, I so relate to this. -intp

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Sounds like my Mrs.. 😅😭🤣

Same my friend.. I need to get away fr everything and write things down sometimes, it may help

i feel you..

Same honestly, I'm starting to get all my feelings messed up and confused that I myself don't even know how I should feel, so I see how others feel 'bout a situation and just.. feel the same-

@@pinkie547 yes same! I feel like I´m always waiting for other to tell me how I should feel and that´s so strange?

Journaling helps unscramble my mind and to even get anything done at all. I find I can write more honestly than I can share with others. I definitely sympathize with you on feeling others emotions way more clearly than my own; sometimes I feel like the emotions of those around me are my own... Then I get home and pace around for hours until I actually determine how I feel.

Yeah I shut down, that's what I do most. But if I find the right people to talk to, then I'm happy to share.

I think too if you find the right person, sharing does help! most people just try helping or understanding your struggles for you and that's so unhelpful and exhausting but if you have someone who just accepts what's going on and is there for you, it eases the struggle for me at least

Agree, I shut down too. Fortunately I married my conscience (ESFJ) and I tell him everything. But at first I just shut it all down, sometimes it takes me days or weeks before I can discuss the issue without breaking down and crying.

@@AnnieIsaLau Exactly!

@@luminyam6145 It must be a blessing to have someone in your life you can talk things over with.💙

I relate a lot to what you're saying, even down to the progression of a struggle to where eventually you're finally at the end of your rope and you finally realize you really need help. - intp

Yes and no. Believing the world is pointless isn't inherently an INFP thing, that's just your worldview. As an INFP I certainly don't believe that. Everything else though I can relate to

@@soph.b6054 I don't think it's necessarily that the world is pointless so much that you start thinking nothing you do will change the circumstances or outcome, so why try? I related heavily to the op here. One example I can think of is just having friendships. I struggle with them so much, and all I can seem to do is see the negative, and it gets to the point where I sometimes think it isn't worth the effort of trying to figure out friendship because I am doomed to just not find good friends. And on top of that, I think of myself as a failure because it must be me that is causing the search for friends to not succeed. So then I want to stop trying because it just feels easier and less painful than trying. I haven't actually given up on it, and am working very hard at it, trying to recognize triggers that cause me to shut down, and trying to trust myself and others. But I really understand the feeling that my efforts are futile and that I am just destined to never succeed at it. The good news is that I've been taking steps for the past 2.5 years to move away from that kind of thinking, and I'm more conscious of my mental health and recognizing when I'm struggling and trying to make sure I think rationally and take care of myself. I still have moments of doubt and failure, but I'm getting better at recognizing those moments and seeking help during them. I feel like I've made a lot of progress, but I also know it is still going to take time and practice to get myself in a healthier state of mind. And after all that, I am sure I will still come off as moody and depressed 😅 that infp life, hahahaha

@@naginiriddle7091 That's fair- I can also relate to that. I struggle with a sort of toxic perfectionism, where if I feel like a task isn't going to turn out exactly the way I want it to, I don't even attempt to do it. It really sucks honestly. But similar to you, in recent years I've been trying to shut those doubts down, because all it does is to stop me from reaching my potential. I think life as an INFP is a journey of telling our inner critic to shut the hell up 😂

As an INFP i try to enjoy every moment of my life and i mean that quite literally, whenever i have a chance to do smth fun or relaxe i absolutely will i just straight up ignore everything

omg samee

Yes, same! I always daydream when I feel down or depressed.

Same

INFJ also - I paint abstracts - really good to keep me mentally sound.

Also an intj and it's super accurate. You can really tell if I'm struggling or not just by looking at my kitchen. If I'm fine it's going to be clean and tidy everyday, but if I'm struggling you'll see dirty dishes from the whole week laying around everywhere

so we're all just collectively rot in bed when we're struggling

Me too. I overthink

Thanks so much!

it just been a few minutes and you were ready with this already, ufff you're so modest.

New here, what do these abbreviations stand for?

Göd bless you mate!

Thank you pal!

ISTP, I've disappeared more than once for awhile under big stress and only re-emerged when I had new plan worked out - somewhere else. I'm not too good at repairing relationships and situations that go seriously wrong. I prefer to just leave and start over. Therapy doesn't do that mindset much good. If they're taking the house, my old man is crazy, and I got fired, I'm taking my dogs and my truck and getting out of Dodge. That's a really common solution nowadays. And if the problem isn't so serious and is solvable, I'll just solve it. I hate drama, especially my own.

Wait a sensor into mbti

Agreed! I feel like every time I get into the struggle-vision mode, my family and relationships go “out the window” unless I can schedule time for them… this often leads to break-ups and bitter family members. People often feel like I treat them like appointments or items when I’m stressed because I feel like I have to organize all creation just to not be constantly anxious. Considering therapy.-also INTJ

Similar problems....!! 😶

is your cat alright OP?

very well done video.

You sound like a right INFP :)

@@darkestuberwald1725 I am an INFP and I endorse OP's message.

@@darkestuberwald1725 INFJ actually.😊 The fact that I didn't notice I typed "door" instead of "foot" might be proof of that.😆

The female foot had me cracking up!

Yes!

Yep

Sounds indeed more like an ENFJ to me, as ENFP's typically are always happy when someone else does the(ir) tedious work ;-)

@@Dfd_Free_Speech 🎯🤣

ENFP tend to go into full on ESTJ mode when in charge of a project and a group of people. We shut down our Fi in order to focus on Si and use Te to organize the tasks. As a result, we can feel overwhelmed by others not cooperating in accomplishing the goal the way we thought they should, and by factors we didn't anticipate. We guard things that we view as a paramount task to the success of the project and tend to delegate, in a rather bossy manner, the things we don't see as paramount. Since we aren't naturally good at Si, we tend to force ourselves to hard-core focus in these moments. It is utterly draining and overwhelming. At least for me, I find myself snappy, too.

sad, but not true. at least I'm not. people can't even guess that I'm sad without me telling (which is impossible) I wonder why we're different?

@@aMereHooman You're different because the stereotype is *not* true! Of course there *are* sad/depressed INFPs, as there are unhealthy and unhappy people of every type, but that just gets wrongly overgeneralized to INFPs as a whole.

lol

I'm sorry, I know how much that sucks as an intj myself who has to fight to stay out of that place everyday. I hope one day you'll find the strength to pull yourself up. Stay strong friend.

Have you tried not being sad?

@@gentlykim Bruh, wtf? We don't have on-off switch buttons for feelings.

Yes! Believing that you have been the most heartless monster to ever exist because you were having a bad day. No one really cared or noticed, or they understood since who couldn't relate to a bad day? But whoever I mildly lashed out at doesn't know that I also cursed their entire existence in my head, and that's why I feel like a terrible person whenever I am struggling.

Ohw my gosh i feel i am absolutely validated!!!

(INTJ) Do you have any other pursuits that could take you out of that state and re-channel your energies? Have you ever tried drumming? Or rock climbing? I drum almost every day and I'm particularly interested in double-kick drumming and extreme interdependence. Something like Meshuggah will take over your entire brain and can even knock you into a weird zen state just trying to control it.

As fellow infp, reading this makes me simultaneously laugh and sad 🤣🥲

WHY are we like this?!

Same! I have legitimately told someone ‘I’m okay’ with tears pooling in my eyes and a huge smile on my face. Then when the flood gates open I’m just drowning in unstoppable tears. Why are we like this XD

I hope things get better. As a fellow INTJ, I have also been through this.

@@arnavranka4510 Thank you. I got asked to pick up sticks that had fallen in the backyard. I picked up sticks. Mom then yelled at me for not doing what she asked because she has stick radar and notices the least little thing wrong. And I have ever more diminished desire to help her do anything.

@@jenniferhanses7064 Yeah, there are certain phases in life like this. We just need to carry on with our daily routine, and one day it will be over.

♥️

exactly 1000% !!!

Same!!!! I haven't acted on it, because I adore my INTJ husband and know our life is rooted where we are. But, I will say... when we are both stressed, even he likes my suggestions of leaving it all behind and moving somewhere warm to live under a pier by the ocean. 😂

Same :( i hate myself for it, i wish i had nobody, that way no one would get hurt

@@SamKatlein-jd8tmi don't really hate myself for it, I'm normally nice and I hate conflict because I don't know how to handle it in a level-headed, assertive way, it's either avoid it altogether or snap. I just wish I had the skill to handle it better

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OMG yessss...when I'm struggling I'll just stay in my room (even if it two days) and try to heal myself alone. Idk, does that make sense, am I the only enfj who do this?

@@sumlf8832 Makes sense ;-; heal alone so you don't burden others. Part of me does it so others don't see my ugliness but maybe so others want to help me heal even if I won't let them in.

@@Somniatica yeah understandable 🥲..btw, I checked out you channel and wow you have a beautiful voice 🤧 (needed to say this, bcs I really like it)

@@sumlf8832 🥺 jsjdjsoskkw thank you so much!! Made my night

I love your story-infp here by the way

@@daniella4800 thanks! It was awkward afterwards haha I thought to myself, mabey I made it even worse now.. what if he thinks I'm a mental disaster who cry over anything but I got over it eventually and I don't even know why I would make such a big deal about it 😅 but we can't help being sensitive, we care alot but that's also what makes us awesome🥹