40 min in it came to me that for forgiveness I first have to neutralise the belief that the wounding is in some way, MY FAULT. And then forgive and soothe the child and the present part of me that has that belief. Thanks for dedicating the effort to look at this piece.

I do recommend having strepsills and halls handy for scratchy throat. When i work as a translator on a health and safety courses i consider those tablets as essential for myself

Thank you 🤗

I don’t know if forgiveness is necessary. My adopted father molested me and when I confronted him as an adult he never was sorry. All he could say was that “now that you’re a parent you’ll make mistakes too. I replied that what he did was on purpose not a mistake. After I started talking to my sisters about our father and his disgusting behavior my oldest sister reached out to me to tell me she too was molested by our father. Her exit strategy to get away from him was to get pregnant in high school by a marine. They got married and 6 months later had a baby. My adopted father also pretty much had affairs with my mom’s best friends and also his best friends repeatedly meaning multiple best friends. wives too. He was a hot mess and never felt bad about what he did. I literally watched him takes his last breath alongside his best friends wife whom he had been having an affair with while my mother was alive. I only know because I found a tape he had recorded for her( my moms best friend) before be died and let’s just say it was totally inappropriate! So some people don’t need or deserve forgiveness because they didn’t care who they hurt as long as their needs were being met. In my opinion forgiveness is earned not an entitlement.