This WORKS all the time with an avoidant!

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Alex Cormont - The French Relationship Expert

2 жыл бұрын

This WORKS all the time with an avoidant!
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@peachwedding 2 жыл бұрын

As soon as you realize he has an avoidant attachment style... Run girl.

@amytiffanyhemingway 2 жыл бұрын

well rationally speaking yes, but logic does not often come in when you fall in love with someone. It's often too late to go 'I can do better or much easier relationship.' Life is not meant to be easy necessarily - we are meant to learn things and well if you look at Jesus for example we are meant to love even our enemies, not judge them but see that we are all flawed and all deserve love.

@rebeccajones8628 2 жыл бұрын

Oh yes. He was a VERY bad boy. He told me he has the black sheep of the family. Bye, bye....

@anupamaraianvirai1183 2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@dijonvolner6024 2 жыл бұрын

I have avoidant attachment and I'm a woman 💕

@Cathy-ux9xd 2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🙌🙌

@cherrylane79 Жыл бұрын

When I'm stressed out because he makes me insecure by avoiding me, I don't feel like flirting or inventing jokes.

@whitneymiller5139 2 жыл бұрын

Avoid the avoidant more than he avoids you and he’s all yours 😂

@sarahsummers4093 2 жыл бұрын

So true!!

@GaisSacredCreations 2 жыл бұрын

Love this! Priceless!

@shaleceelynne6504 2 жыл бұрын

Made me laugh out loud! Truth!

@Dolly22229 2 жыл бұрын

does it works?

@amytiffanyhemingway 2 жыл бұрын

@@Dolly22229 I should add a caveat. It works if he does actually love you. If he doesn't actually love or care about you at all it was just casual, he may well just bugger off and mean it. But if deep down he does actually want the stable loving relationship with you and just can't 'do' it very well, he will always come back when you back off. I think I am coming up to being his longest relationship now - all the rest were very short lived because presumably they didn't know how to handle it, didn't put up with it, gave up. I love him so I watch these videos to understand the issue and try and work on myself in order to make him feel safe being with me. Avoidants feel safe so long as they feel they can cut and run if they need to, and still be independent and do what they want to. If you can allow that space and still be happy in yourself, they won't have a reason to leave you.

@GTO.007 2 жыл бұрын

Just run away when you notice a dude is an avoidant. Your time is precious and life is too short to bear the pain to be with them, constantly fight for reciprocation and attention.

@Vixinaful 2 жыл бұрын

This is my exoerience aswell. His ex also left. Je has beeen chasing us both for 6 amd 8 years now.. These fudes are sevetely disturbed and he also fits covert narcissism.

@jenniferlorence1950 7 ай бұрын

@@Vixinaful Correct.

@jenniferlorence1950 7 ай бұрын

@GTO.007; Correct.

@jenniferlorence1950 7 ай бұрын

Matthew 7:6 6 “Do not give that which is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, for they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces."

@TheCoffeeCat 2 жыл бұрын

So basically, with an avoidant, accept that you won't ever have a full fledged grown up relationship, just a fling. And then you'll be okay. Maybe have a serious grown up relationship on the side with someone else in the meantime.

@sylviam.castillo9931 Жыл бұрын

Comment of the CENTURY. 💯💥🌋🌪🌊

@onestarfillednight Жыл бұрын

Hahahahahahaha !!!!! Thank you Coffee Cat for the super good laugh. So right !!!

@Virvepaulina Жыл бұрын

Yep!

@ash00001 Жыл бұрын

Lol

@sage2181 Жыл бұрын

Run! And then work on your own self esteem regarding why you would accept so little from a partner. I ran and I'd rather be alone than dealing with that sort of toxic crap

@artisnotaboutart7832 11 ай бұрын

I have an idea. Let’s heal our wounds so we’re no longer attracted to these types of people and let avoidants date each other.

@Ramanhere468 3 ай бұрын

I dont want them either!!! 😂😂😂 says the fearful avoidant.

@iamaliveyoucantstopnow 5 ай бұрын

I am exhausted just listening to this. 🤣

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 4 ай бұрын

Lol I understand why... So don't go with an avoidant :-)

@goodvibes7424 Ай бұрын

😂😅

@Michelle-qq4sd 2 жыл бұрын

Nothing works with an avoidant. You will begin to feel empty like them.

@erib156 2 жыл бұрын

so true!

@amytiffanyhemingway 2 жыл бұрын

I was at this stage and get that feeling a lot when it is bad. But..... with anything it's about understanding what is actually going on. Try to focus on the good things, like wow he actually showed me his emotions DESPITE being an avoidant. That means so much more than it would if he were secure/ stable. So see the blessings and focus on those wins, rather than the bad elements which you know are always going to come up.

@TheCoffeeCat 2 жыл бұрын

@@amytiffanyhemingway I understand where you're coming from, but I've come to the conclusion that thinking that way is to view crumbs of love as if they were a banquet and denying that you're still hungry.

@financeMR Жыл бұрын

Yea it's conditioning women to accept crumbs. An be happy with it

@ash00001 Жыл бұрын

@@financeMR why can’t women give crumbs also? We do have all the power.

@yogawithkaya Жыл бұрын

How about avoidant men actually doing the inner work to heal rather than us having to play games and manipulate them in order to be with them !!!!!!

@Ytdeletesallmycomments Жыл бұрын

They wont. They like being the victim and stay 2 years old 😂😂

@FriendMariaAdrianna 4 ай бұрын

Yeooooouuup. Even when they're 50.

@Ytdeletesallmycomments 4 ай бұрын

@@FriendMariaAdriannamine was 60 😂😂😂😂 And the other indeed 50 Both diagnosed. The older the crazier 😂😂

@DrSoapp 3 ай бұрын

"WHY DON'T THEY HEAL???" *has a picture of herself in a bikini*

@vernedaadele 3 ай бұрын

@@DrSoapplet's stay on topic 😅

@vp5134 2 жыл бұрын

The truth is if he's avoidant, you're in for a lifetime of needing to be "playful". Exhausting.

@vjcarter4657 Жыл бұрын

It is exhausting.

@ash00001 Жыл бұрын

Just cheat.

@MIMIDSH Жыл бұрын

Yep. Gotta act like you're always on a first date or something

@guchavela4721 Жыл бұрын

Yeah this works till a certain extent. I actually did this just out of intuition and yes it worked until it didn’t. Eventually you’ll have relationships demands and/or life circumstances that you need him to step up for you like illness. Then they withdraw again. They’re exhausting. You never win with them no matter what. Just move on to someone normal that values you.

@jhlfsc 8 ай бұрын

"Normal" is a loaded word. Clearly you aren't or you wouldn't have gotten into a relationship with him to begin with. 🤷‍♂️

@jenniferlorence1950 7 ай бұрын

Matthew 7:6 6 “Do not give that which is holy to [a]dogs, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, for they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces."

@jhlfsc 6 ай бұрын

@@jenniferlorence1950 Americans always put dogs 1st.

@miladyfeliciano801 2 жыл бұрын

Say goodbye 👋🏽 do not waste your time or energy if he is avoidant he is avoiding you. Move on ! Doesn’t not want you

@1224polo Жыл бұрын

You have to ask yourself why do you want to be with a person like this? A person who loves to be alone, who doesnt share feelings, who is distanced, who cant give yo the warmth, love, and affection. Its like dating a rock with a difference that the rock will not leave you out of the blue

@peachwedding 4 ай бұрын

lmao so true.

@kkdream99 3 ай бұрын

Well said.

@lynnlombardo9087 Жыл бұрын

Who the hell wants this? It’s so hard and heartbreaking

@JB-zc6ov Жыл бұрын

Let him swim in silence | go and flash your flirty smile to the next fellow..

@stormvet3806 11 ай бұрын

Running as far as you can and leaving them the f*** alone works wonders.

@yvonnelygo681 Ай бұрын

I spent 20 years with a guy. Deffo avoidant. He had a home office. And worked all weekend. When relaxed took out the kids while I did DIY. He spent evenings in his home office. Never come out. We slept in separate rooms.

@heatheran4783 5 ай бұрын

I was trying to avoid narcissists and fell for an avoidant.

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 4 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear about this!

@aying809 4 ай бұрын

I divorced a narcissist, and fell for a avoidant

@rhe8053 Ай бұрын

Same

@DroitMaritimeDZ Ай бұрын

Same..

@CorvidLove 3 күн бұрын

Sorry to hear Heather. I hope you will find someone who isn't an avoidant or a narcissist.

@MIMIDSH Жыл бұрын

We have awesone chemistry together but as soon as we start getting emotionally connected, he pushes me out. He needs a huge amount of distance and space and I've been very accepting of that. We got together last night, and I told him I'll be busy for a couple of weeks. When I'm a little distant and detached, he's more attentive. But as soon as I show loving behavior, he goes cold. I've started casually dating other men to keep me feeling desirable and flirty.

@KereolaPatunia 5 ай бұрын

I've been dealing with the exact same issue. Once it feels too "relationship-y" he ignores me or finds a stupid reason to be mad at me. Hes also a Taurus and he's stubborn as Hell.

@simpleliving4205 Ай бұрын

Exactly

@sage2181 Жыл бұрын

Run. Run away and never look back. I miss the possibilities of my partner but it's so toxic and you will never have your emotional needs met with an avoidant. Run. I've had to question my own self esteem spending months trying to build a relationship with an avoidant until I finally had enough and got out

@shekar222 5 ай бұрын

Many avoidants get bored once they know everything there is to know about you. So, even if you use all known tactics to get them back, you'll constantly live with the risk of them wanting to avoid you again--not worth it. Give the avoidant the space they need, eternally.

@aying809 4 ай бұрын

his ex is addicted to plastic surgery, makes me wonder now

@yvhishiryo 3 ай бұрын

eternally .... hahahahahahahaaah

@fidelismaina7700 Жыл бұрын

Look for a person who is secure. Especially, if you are anxious. It will save you a lot of hurt. Only stay unless he is willing to work on his attachment style to meet you somewhere.

@MichelleECKHU8 9 ай бұрын

In all honesty I won’t date an avoidant man again. ❤

@CorvidLove 3 күн бұрын

The problem is that you will not know the first months... :(

@breemds Жыл бұрын

If he’s great sexually. It’s basically friends with benefits. But if he thinks you’re using him. He will be offended. 😂 LMFAO

@Ytdeletesallmycomments 10 ай бұрын

This 😂😂

@marioct130 5 ай бұрын

An avoidant partner needs too much work and attention, while you do not receive the same attention from him. It's a very unsatisfying, sad relationship. Run.

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 5 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear about this!

@lisafoster3494 Ай бұрын

Im thinking Im dating an avoidant one minute we are talking about getting a house together the next he is mad out of nowhere and leaving or hanging up on me...just yesterday he asked my opinion on what he should do about working extra and I gave my opinion then today he said hes working thIs weekend so of course I was excited and asked where and he told me it was none of my business and why did I need to know? I have gained weight feel the lonliest ever lately...he just told me we shouldnt be in a relationship if I need to know everything..My head is spinning its makes no sense at all????

@ChristineNaibei-eb6vs Ай бұрын

,😂😂😂@@FrenchRelationshipExpert

@auemmjee Ай бұрын

@@lisafoster3494unless you are in his will as the sole heir of that house, it's very unwise to purchase a house with someone you're dating. If he dies his next-of-kin will become co-owner of that house.

@ivy3839 2 жыл бұрын

Yes don’t be too available to Avoidants, speaking from experience as I am one ☝️

@kjshow4173 29 күн бұрын

It was heartbreaking 💔 I love her unconditionally. She did help me discover self-love, self-respect respect, and self care. Now, I'm alone. And I really don't care anymore.

@CorvidLove 3 күн бұрын

Get help please. It's not healthy to be an avoidant. If you cannot get help or you don't want to. Buy a book about the subject. You hurt people around you by being like this.

@zeldapowers8094 2 жыл бұрын

Those types will continue to disappoint with the come and go as they please. Unfortunately women get so worked up to hear from him when he invites her out, after not hearing from him for 2 weeks, they just brush it off and think if they try harder this time, he might just commit. No! The hell he won't! He sees it as an easy target

@brigittebieber7132 Жыл бұрын

Very true!

@Ytdeletesallmycomments Жыл бұрын

They are toxic

@aliyaalqureshi549 2 жыл бұрын

This video came right on time! I literally disappear from his life, when he becomes distant. I let him taste his own medicine! He needs to learn that others come with feelings too! This small smack on his hand makes him behave well!

@amytiffanyhemingway 10 ай бұрын

I do that too but sometimes you have stuff you need to actually plan and it's very infuriating.

@CorvidLove 3 күн бұрын

That was two years ago. Are you still playing this game with him or did you leave him? I couldn't stand such a relationship where you have to hide who you really are.

@vjcarter4657 Жыл бұрын

One thing that I’m noticing is a lot of “I’m busy” or “I’m distracted”, “Ill text you when the kids are asleep”- Lately I’ve been thinking, “Well, I might not be available when the kids are asleep”. Like, MY TIME is precious too

@Ytdeletesallmycomments Жыл бұрын

@@radianceactivations888 Nah parents also have time to send a quick message. Even on the toilet. 😂

@aying809 4 ай бұрын

yes, I get that all the time too -- only his time matters, not mine! Im taking a break from him: no contact till April fools day, not too sure what happens then ( its only been 3 days, I already miss him, but trying hard to hold my ground)

@kkdream99 3 ай бұрын

@@aying809update?

@laurelbeyer8553 2 жыл бұрын

I don't know I have the energy for that. 🤣 I think find someone who is secure

@beyondher 10 ай бұрын

Great advice - yes you can get him to chase you - but the problem is these cycles will continue for the rest of the relationship. He will break up with you and stonewall you every time he’s overwhelmed. The only way to make this work is by getting the man to heal his attachment trauma, which could be impossible in some cases. It’s impossible when it’s at the level of narcissism. They can be so dead inside their heart that nothing will ever awaken the life force. Women can spend their entire lives trying to change these men. It’s best to focus on our creative passions and friendships. And the best solution is to just be friends with these men. So don’t give your power away by having sex with them.

@waterlilynymph 8 ай бұрын

Learn to give time and space to them. Don’t push for communication or double text. Just let it go ladies, and focus on yourself while he is.

@Sarajb517 3 ай бұрын

Or focus on other people. These people are boring as fuck

@CorvidLove 3 күн бұрын

Do you think that is a good solution? You then show him that his behaviour is acceptable?

@taylorlane6289 2 жыл бұрын

My guy is avoidant and it’s so frustrating the only time he shows emotion is when I’m distant but then I eventually give in and come towards him which builds resentment lol

@celestialhappiness 2 жыл бұрын

Oh gosh. It's so exhausting I've experienced this . JUST LEAVE your mental and emotional health will thank you

@FM-zg5hz 2 жыл бұрын

Please leave! Don’t waste your life.

@whoosh_angel Жыл бұрын

I haven’t watched this yet but I can say with 100% certainty the only way to resolve being with an avoidant is to become secure yourself. Secure attachment heals anxious attachment wounds, nothing else. 💞

@laurabeigh283 Жыл бұрын

Yesssss! A secure person will not be interested in such an unhealthy person.

@cookiecatz3227 Жыл бұрын

Avoidants can make securely attached people insecurely attached. Has happened to me in the past. It's called abuse and manipulation

@beccf.s.8012 Жыл бұрын

@@laurabeigh283 lol indeed I am starting to question myself for liking this avoidant so much.

@Ytdeletesallmycomments Жыл бұрын

@@laurabeigh283exactly. 😂

@faithrance941 10 ай бұрын

Funny how l was secure until l met him.

@BryBee4 4 ай бұрын

Love is actions and the avoidants actions are very selfish. They only care about their own feelings Do not waste your time walking on eggshells trying to love someone who puts no effort into doing the same for you. Avoidance turn secures into anxious.

@rachelatkinson525 Ай бұрын

True story!! It’s so exhausting. And when I complained about the emotional chaos, he had no clue what I was talking about. Bruh… 🤦‍♀️

@mariqueflores6815 2 жыл бұрын

Everything you are saying is true, I realized he is an avoidant. The number one thing he says is that he “doesn’t have the energy for a relationship.” But yet he misses me and always wants to see me!!! I’m frustrated and don’t know what to do. I’m tired of the one putting in the effort.

@arnzgel 2 жыл бұрын

Any updates ?

@eileenbeckett4253 2 жыл бұрын

Listen to his actions and his words. If they aren’t both a yes, then it’s a no.

@ak-47intelligence75 2 жыл бұрын

Stop putting in effort. Let him be the one who invests. Otherwise, bye!

@amytiffanyhemingway 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes they push you away BECAUSE they love you. They feel bad because they know but won't ever admit that they can't really fulfil your needs and so feel crap about themselves as a partner and think you deserve better. So when you stop needing so much from them, and just appreciate well whatever they ARE able to give you, then he feels better and more sure of himself and will slowly be able to open up and trust the relationship more and more. One analogy I saw is like fishing. Don't pull the fish in on the rod straight away. Do it gently and slowly, reel it in, let it loose a bit, reel it in again or the line will snap and you lose the fish.

@anitarogers2877 2 жыл бұрын

@@amytiffanyhemingway : Don't you want to live with a man, have stability, a home together, family, children? I was in a similar situation: he said I was "too much, too full-on, " he "needed his space," etc., yet remarkably he flitted around casually seeing other women, yet would loop back around to me..... I do want foundation and stability with a man, a proper relationship. I am perfectly happy single, but I know being in a decent, loving, reciprocated relationship will fulfill me. Being around an avoidant is a challenge I no longer need to experience. It's made me realise all the more what I do deserve, and what I don't!

@Aussie.in.America 8 ай бұрын

As an avoidant - if my energy isn’t matched in the friendship stage, or any stage for that matter, I disconnect and am out faster than you can blink.

@waynejenner3635 8 ай бұрын

You're in a Rinse repeat cycle

@hotpink3459 Ай бұрын

I tried to match my avoidant's energy--he would barely initiate texting so I did the same. :(

@northshorelight35 Жыл бұрын

To get the avoidant to commit is all about timing. Get him during his "needy" stage. That's why they are not good for long-term relationships.

@PiscesSun24 29 күн бұрын

Why do you want this guy? Run!!!!

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 28 күн бұрын

Thanks for your insight!

@aqua6613 Жыл бұрын

My avoidant was pretty much up front about needing space. It fits in with my busy schedule. I know I'm a hyper active ball of energy and I'm not easy to absorb for most, I am overwhelming and sometimes even to myself, so I don't take someone distancing themselves from me as a rejection. When we're together it's really good and somehow he calms me down and I perk him up and inspire him to do more. I guess my favourite playground toy was always the sea saw. It's no fun when you try to play it yourself and you need the right partner that doesn't leave you up in the air too long and pushes off to bring you down and vice versa. When you find a rhythm and understanding it can be the most fun way to play.

@Addease Жыл бұрын

Dang well said

@loristromski1334 Жыл бұрын

Great analogy

@ingrained2train 11 ай бұрын

I think this is ultimately how my relationship will wind up My girlfriend is currently showing signs of avoidant attachment and its so interesting because She communicates with me very well, we talk about everything, and even though she was saying she feels overwhelmed and pressured Now that I give her space, she’s regularly contacting me with sweet messages, very affectionate when around each other Shes an amazing woman and honestly the see saw dynamic as you described sounds like it would be a perfect dynamic for us

@jenniferlorence1950 7 ай бұрын

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@jenniferlorence1950 7 ай бұрын

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@Meeks_Beats Жыл бұрын

Things take time.. it is up to you to decide what’s worth it and if your heart can bare mixed signals in love

@karenhowe3695 10 ай бұрын

This is spot on. 2 years. Hes chased me until i fell in love with him. Then out if the blue, I have no feelings for you. Youre nothing but a friend with benifits 🤬💔

@breefabulous 2 жыл бұрын

This actually makes perfect sense. It’s natural to set the pace when you have your own life and have established boundaries. I just tried this and it sent my* avoidant squirming. It felt great 😌

@XFalcon_GamingX 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Mr. Alex! This is very excellent advice I heard... I learnt so much from this topic. Great knowledge...thank you for this knowledge. God bless you more and more wisdom👍

@patience857 2 жыл бұрын

You arr truly a genius... I needed to hear this this minute.

@hillsgoodson8480 2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I have been wanting to hear,,thank you so much Alex,,

@carmelthormeyer381 Жыл бұрын

This makes total sense thank you

@pinkrose5833 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Alex for some advice I'm always watching you here, God bless you

@nipaparekh1678 2 жыл бұрын

Set boundaries and expectations

@mbakuanuh7074 2 жыл бұрын

My favorite French relationship coach,you have said it all

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your support Mbaku!

@maricelgund 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent advice Alex. Thank you. 😊🤍🌸🎀

@margaretabuandaway6234 2 жыл бұрын

Deeply grateful for this timely counsel Alex! You do care for us women with your inspiring and enriching sessions! Cheering you on! One of your best episodes ever! Yey!

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your support Margaret!

@margaretabuandaway6234 2 жыл бұрын

@@FrenchRelationshipExpert Cheering you on from the Philippines. Yey!

@daphnen5296 2 жыл бұрын

Love your work.

@BGivka 2 жыл бұрын

Very true about the way he just stops. This has happened to me, with the same man, a few times. I was never serious about him, and he kept returning eventually. Now this time, I am giving him space but not sure If I want to go on and on.

@hifiunicorn 5 ай бұрын

My strategy is to just be myself and that level of transparency and intimacy scares them away by and this saves me the trouble of having to keep them around 😂 Avoidant men are good for a fling and nothing more.

@LejlaEnigma91-oy1mj 2 жыл бұрын

Oh i needed this really ❤️🙌

@Callie0818 Жыл бұрын

I wish I had seen this months ago! Now I realized this is how he is. I noticed that when I ignore him he gets intense. Now it makes sense

@vanithabalaji6284 Жыл бұрын

Well said , amazing Alex 💕💕💕💕

@tizianadicastri7151 2 жыл бұрын

This puts a lot into perspective.

@deondrah7992 Жыл бұрын

I understand you perfectly! Thank you so much! However, My question is how do you get rid of a narcissist! I avoid him but yet he still want to argue with me! So I ignore him more! The more I ignore him he gets upset and mad then ignores me until he can't take it anymore then try to be nice just to want to argue again! I can't play this game! I need & and a Real Man not a boy! So how I get rid of him! I've even stop calling, texting and told him to loose my number!

@Asgvu 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Alex, this helped a lot ❤️

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching Alwina!

@therightchick 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Alex! Love from India, your words are so good to hear at these moments in our lives 😊

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your support!

@ginadiodati1965 11 ай бұрын

Omg you're incredible!!

@bettinaschlechmair9531 Жыл бұрын

Really worked out for me 😂

@angelheart408 2 жыл бұрын

Alex your English may not be perfect but when you say when you will be live at ‘ Easter time ‘ it makes me smile and I just want to squeeze your cheeks because it is so cute 🥰 I love your French accent so please never change!

@PriscillasWorld 2 жыл бұрын

Respectfully, he may have an accent like everyone does but his English is perfect.

@GaisSacredCreations 2 жыл бұрын

@@PriscillasWorld I agree, his English is better than most English speaking people I know and I speak both English and French perfectly!

@tj4787 9 ай бұрын

Thank you makes total sense we tend to forget about flirting ❤

@feebsfilms 2 жыл бұрын

Great advice! Men need us to set the PACE. If we don't, many men burn out and pull away.

@pascalinegentille8237 2 жыл бұрын

Your telling the truth on that point

@Bianca-sw5id Жыл бұрын

So true 100% , Alex 🥰

@dimashapi5194 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Alex this is excellent advice really appreciate

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 2 жыл бұрын

I'm always happy to help Dima!

@titinagancheva7741 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Alex ❤

@Twighlight333 8 ай бұрын

This is true! I was always saying yes to our hang outs then recently there was a few times where i genuinely busy and i had to pass up on a few of our hang outs and all of sudden he had all the time in the world to txt me, however i dont know if this is with all avoidant but in my case making him wait made him upset so he plays the game of revenge, although he would be more persistent he would still make sure he got the "last laugh" at the end... im a FA sooo i pick up on small changed behaviors i ignore them like children's tantrums though because he has something im benefitting from as well so i just dont discuss these things with him

@vhayashi7369 Жыл бұрын

We have to care less than him. That's the key.

@tsegeredatesfaye735 Жыл бұрын

Dear Alex thank you for this education

@FrenchRelationshipExpert Жыл бұрын

You're always welcome!

@tobiased5642 2 жыл бұрын

This is absolutely the best advice. I will let you know how it works. My guy is this guy to a t

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching!

@hennabypankti6746 2 жыл бұрын

Very helpful.

@boitumelomoshugi2710 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video, very informative. Love your channel 😄✨

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching!

@carolebitz3207 2 жыл бұрын

He texted me but I turned him down feeling like I should have let him come over...ahh I don't know what to do ...

@carolebitz3207 2 жыл бұрын

If he contacted but I turned him down Could I text to reply to his contact.. Saying how well I'm doing etc

@suzansuzan9372 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you alex!!

@Leighsha7 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 2 жыл бұрын

You're always welcome Wynter!

@Anetekonjo Жыл бұрын

It’s a waste of time, and it’s like a cat and mouse chase. It’s painful!

@melpita92 Жыл бұрын

yes it make sense 👍this is helpful :) thank you

@BlueRaySoda 7 күн бұрын

Thank you 🙏 that was really helpful!!! Love the accent- my Australian twang would never measure up! 😂

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 7 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for watching! I hope this video was able to help you!

@Dreamweaver777 Жыл бұрын

OMGosh you are so sweet, this was a lovely video.

@FrenchRelationshipExpert Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

@susanlawton5848 Жыл бұрын

So true Alex ❤️

@ActivateDivineDNA Жыл бұрын

A million thanks and dollars to you!! Your amazing I will do this ♾🙏🏼✨🎁💯❣️

@FrenchRelationshipExpert Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching! I greatly appreciate this!

@milliycheby4372 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you soo much Alex 🙏 be blessed ,good work,👍please this will work in LDR ??

@timelesswords6826 Жыл бұрын

Mirroring them behavior is the best you can do. We don't care about a narcissist ex partner. We didn't deserve a handsome animal. They don't deserve to be happy and feed their ego💪

@ginnybenett428 5 ай бұрын

Yes, just went through this with someone I met online. We had great connection through long phone calls but after a couple of weeks he didn't want to meet and said he wants to take it slow although he is the one who suggested meeting for coffee. I'm secure attachment ready to give but he is avoidant not ready to receive. I ended it because I don't want to invest the time but I left it open for him to reach out to me. Meanwhile I'm going to live my life. I will take your advice if he does reach out and not be so readily available. We are both older (I"m 62 and he is 73). I admit I'm not good at flirting.

@juliekaloki6195 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Alex

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 2 жыл бұрын

You're always welcome Julie!

@juliekaloki6195 2 жыл бұрын

@@FrenchRelationshipExpert Alex have this guy we online Dec late we didn't meet because he had already left Poland where i live back to US he has some investments in Poland so we have been chatting so today he said he will be coming to Poland this Dec.so we can meet .He actually asked me how i thought about it if it was too far but because i didn't want to show him that i love him much i said its ok i can wait but honestly it's not ok i still think it's rather to far what should i do

@JessiesFamily 2 жыл бұрын

Omg I believe I'm I'm this situation. Fuck that I'm out!!! Done!

@ivla871 2 жыл бұрын

Love this

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching!

@CorvidLove 3 күн бұрын

I am 47 now. I got in a relationship with an avoidant. After a few months the fights started. I got upset because she was gone drom the planet most of the days. At first I thought it was me being too needy because she told me this. And now I would have to play games in stead of listen to my heart, just to have a relationship with her? I can't do that. I dont play games. I will have to look for a new person that will be happy with my love 24/7 and that is willing to give me love 24/7. If you are out there, find me.. I need you..

@hillsgoodson8480 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Mr Alex,,,

@MM-iy7xm 2 жыл бұрын

He’s an old friend but we do connect. He says he’s broken and needs to work on himself. I understand that as I’ve been there before. He calls everyday, but we don’t get to see each other because of his work…

@sedakuday610 2 жыл бұрын

He s keeping you in the loop ; just to make sure you re sticking around at his absence: sorry but this looked like a bit manipulation. It's great he is thoughtful enough to call everyday but there might be altering motives , beware

@akeishaharris Жыл бұрын

Yeah, I'd rather be by myself. I don't have time to play games with wanna be grown ass man. I'm engaged to him right now and it's unhealthy for me. I'm about to call it quits..

@arieljingjingsun 8 ай бұрын

I love your French accent!!!!

@FrenchRelationshipExpert 8 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@kariencoetzee8439 5 ай бұрын

So, basically I'm up a creek without a paddle!! I have to do all the work (set the pace, be fun and flirt) and he gets to do whatever the hell he wants. And when he is always in a downcast mood because he thinks only about himself and his problems, it would seem very exhausting I'm afraid.