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When it comes to narcissistic abuse, it's crucial to focus on understanding the dynamics of the abusive relationship and the impact it has on the victim, rather than making assumptions or generalizations about their behavior. Narcissistic abuse can have a profound and complex effect on victims, often leading to emotional trauma, low self-esteem, and a distorted sense of self-worth. It can erode trust, create feelings of isolation, and manipulate the victim's perception of reality. Some victims of narcissistic abuse may struggle with maintaining healthy boundaries, trusting others, or recognizing their own value. In some cases, individuals who have experienced narcissistic abuse may engage in behaviors that are out of character, including cheating or seeking validation outside the relationship. These behaviors can be a response to the emotional turmoil and manipulation they have endured. It's important to approach this with compassion and understand that these actions may stem from a desire for validation, escape, or a misguided attempt to regain a sense of control or self-worth. However, it's essential to note that not all victims of narcissistic abuse engage in infidelity or seek external validation. Each individual responds to abuse differently, and their actions may vary depending on their coping mechanisms, personal values, and circumstances. If you or someone you know has experienced narcissistic abuse, it is crucial to seek support from professionals such as therapists or counselors who specialize in trauma and relationship dynamics. They can provide guidance, healing strategies, and help rebuild a healthy sense of self-worth and trust. Remember, the effects of narcissistic abuse are complex, and the healing process is unique to each individual. Judgment and assumptions can hinder the understanding and support that victims need. Providing empathy, compassion, and access to appropriate resources can contribute to the healing journey and empower survivors to rebuild their lives. Additionally, If you need to find out about a cheating narcissist; send a request to: MetaspyHub@gmail. com

Some even copy you. Not only your style of clothes etc but they will steal your jokes, sense of humour, favourite quotes, hobbies, interests. Basically they are identity theives because they are a false self

What annoys me is when the narcissist knows you can't stand another person and even witnessed the other person offend you in some way, and yet put this person who harmed you on a pedestal

Thanks Michele. I'm now six months separated from my wife of 32 years. I spent most of that time assuming that the weird behaviours were all my fault. About two years ago I stumbled upon an online article about NPD and she ticked all the boxes. It took me a long time to actually leave her. I've now had 19 hours of counselling and my counsellor says I still have a long way to go. Particularly when the NPD is covert it is such a cruel and damaging disorder. My wife is now doing a massive smear campaign and doing her best to ruin me financially. She tormented me until I had to leave. Now she's punishing me for leaving. And, yes, she used all ten of the things you described in this video.

My mother does the _inadvertently you don't matter_ thing all the time. I wrote a screenplay a few years ago and when I tried to talk about it with family members, they would go silent and turn away. _ I knew she had gotten to them. Damn flying monkeys will never have a mind of there own...

Can't tell you how much of a struggle it is to have a conversation with my narcissist mother. I have to repeat my question up to 3 times before I get an answer to a simple question. But if I ask her about her soap opera The Young And The Restless, She instantly has laser focus. Ya gotta love the constant gaslighting when you ask a specific question and they reply with something totally unrelated. (Q ) - How'd ya make out at the doctors today? ( A ) - Look at the shirt I picked up at the thrift store ???????????? Not once does she ever ask, " How you feeling?, Did you sleep ok last night? It's all carefully orchestrated to send a subtle subliminal message that YOU DON'T MATTER.

I got the bad habit to space out In conversations. when l I know I'm not included. But when I'm included I take part. Only a very few times is to be rude. Lol

I can relate to so many of the comments. I'm glad more and more people are starting to feel comfortable discussing their feelings and sharing their experiences.

My whole life. Just the past 15 months knowing about this has helped with what is C-PTSD I still feel crap.

I have been on the receiving end of this for 25 years. My kids think I’m an abusive nut-job because I blow up a couple of times a month. I never understood anything until she called me the Narc…..now I wish I never met her.

The yawning and falling asleep when you talk to them is so true. I laugh at it now. When I laugh at it they immediately 'wake up', stop yawning and then they just start ranting insults for no reason.🙄😆

That one about being bored when you speak....While it can definitely be a tactic to bring your self esteem down a notch...it can also sometimes be that they just simply aren't interested in any topic but themselves...or topics in which they can flaunt their knowledge or expertise...or topics they can easily steer back to the topic of themselves.

Backhanded compliments

If you’re damaged, another narcissist will see blood in the water and attack. You are more messed up than you think.

It took me a long time to realize these things but now that I can see them I'm like how I did I not catch on to this sooner. great breakdown Michelle thank you for sharing.😋

Omg!!!!!! Every single time I speak with my mom which is rare as I gray rock and just keep contact for special occasions and a few phone calls a year but every time I speak w her it’s GUARANTEED that a piece of my self esteem is (tried to be) taken. The only cards she can play are so obvious so I literally set her up as a psychological experiment and she takes the bait every time. Examples: I give her a special gift she says it’s a bad gift or refuses it. My teeth are crooked, I don’t look good with my glasses off, I need to put more make up on, I’m lying or exaggerating when I tell a story, my weight is higher than she remembers, I spend $ like a fool, I’m a job hopper, I’m reckless. If i ask her a question she won’t answer it. She can remember conversations precisely from 30 years ago but constantly pretends to forget the simplest, recent things I’ve told her about my life. Occasionally I will tell her fake stories just to see what she will do. 😂😂😂you have to laugh

This video has opened up so much of my self about the self and how in almost every contact with other, I play the roll of the me I deeply don't want to be, it has only served outwards and never the inwards...... From the bottom of my heart, thank you for this video. It's brought me much need clarity!! ❤❤

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This weird narcissist started staring at me when I was fixing his car And I could just feel the negativity..... It was a very simple repair that I've done hundreds of times and this guy was making me feel like a beginner...... Put a picture of his car online and warns the other mobile mechanics.... really creepy staring

I literally dealt with this my whole child hood and still dealing with it and its from my mother she has literally done just about all of these through the years im a lot better now but now that me and my husband are expecting our first child she is already pushing a rule i just talked to her about over the phone which she agreed on i simply asked no one kiss my son on his face hands or feet and she literally just made a post the other day saying about kissing his face i got mad and put a comment on her post saying yes but pls pls no one kiss him on his face hands or feet. Which i did that purposely so everyone on her page can see it.well she purposely reacted to every other comment but mine and thats alright but i have a feeling im going to get the silent treatment soon bc im not letting her do what she wants anymore and i hate to be this way bc it is my own mother but enough is enough

All 10 in a 20 year marriage with 3 children

Wow these have been so helpful thank you dearly

When attempting to use conditional logic based on someone's words and behavior, it becomes evident that it is ineffective due to their deliberate avoidance of accountability. Although this approach aims to hold them accountable, they consistently demonstrate denial and even delusional behavior when faced with the prospect of being held responsible.

I’m starting to think I feel exhausted and sick on a daily basis due to the relationship I’m in .. I always end up looking sick too and my body cannot gain or maintain weight

Its definitely harder to detect omissions and the level of knowledge needed makes it even harder! I think you would make an amazing hypno-therapist ever explored it?

I don't want to fix it tho

What did I do wrong to raise a narcissistic child? How did I mess her up?