You gave him the best avenue there is, your personal number! His loss!

I agree. I’m Old School too . Wasting time is useless. Meet for coffee. Check out a museum together.

How could anyone resist that NY accent and the way your voice goes up on words like “Vocalize”.

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You're allowed to set boundaries with people, especially with new people.

Keven... this is a part of the drama or scene. I do understand as you want to connect with people in person. This has been a problem since the pandemic ended and not just in the gay world. In my career I deal with students who are quick to email instead of coming in person to resolve something. People lack the social skills sadly. It can be frustrating. I will say this too I would not want people looking up stuff on me either and I have nothing to hide. I have expressed the same thoughts on that matter. I do not use social media. I value my privacy. I totally understand where you are coming from. You want to meet someone. You do not want to keep a conversation going through social media or devices.

You are 💯 percent correct. It’s not as much about the phone number, as the lack of communication. If he had said hey I’m not comfortable with giving out my phone number and this is why, I’ve had a bad experience in the past. But I am interested, can we schedule a date or something to that effect, you wouldn’t even be making this video. But when you people show you who they are believe them the first time!

From my experiences on the Gay dating apps… I absolutely agree with you!

Some people see IG as another level of communication a stage before texting which I think to some people represents another level of intimacy there are people that unconsciously want to just engage in endless chat and never want to meet.

After I get a good feel for someone I quickly switch to phone and real life meetings. If you stay in the online world things tend to take on a life of their own in your head, not a good thing.

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Agree 100%!!

Literally just had this same convo with someone just met! I just find it weird to exchange social media with a potential one night stand kind of situation but it made the convo awkward as it did for you

It’s interesting because with a number you don’t have to give your full name or give away your job info etc but with social media it gives all info easier so I feel like number is less invasive to random person and I think you agree. On an app it’s different but why do you think random people interested in you would prefer getting social? I almost feel like some people think like leaving a number on receipt and getting rejected?

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For me, it’s worst… they ask for my number, only for them to ghost me. I know… my fault.

You did the right thing Keven, I would invited him to FaceTime on my phone. I suspect that he may been a catfish and I don’t understand the idea behind false advertising, they’re eventually gonna find out so why bother in the first place. My two cents.

I'm the same way, but I prefer Whatsap messaging, because you can not answer it if you want to. Text messaging requires more of a response.

Hi Keven, interesting Dating App Story with texting. 48 years old is still fairly young and they should definitely be comfortable with the texting world. The only thing I thought about is maybe they have a flip phone were texting is just not very convenient to do. Even though Smart phones are so common some people still use the old Flip Phones. With your phone number they could just call as well. With Instagram people without a Smart Phone could easily create an Instagram account on a Desktop computer with Internet access. You have a great gift to connect with your audience so your stories are captivating to hear.

It’s normal if someone doesn’t want to give out their phone number so soon. You’ve known him two days on an app! Phone numbers are sold by companies every day. Putting your number out there to a stranger so soon is crazy. It’s also fine if you don’t want to talk on social media. I don’t get the problem here. Why is it so hard to just keep chatting on the app? Isn’t that the app’s purpose? Don’t you get those messages as fast as you get text messages? And don’t those messages still come through your phone? It’s too demanding to want a phone number so soon. Plus, maybe he simply missed your message with the number if you two were messaging a lot back and forth. Happens to me all of the time.

News flash..... Red flag warning! Did you ask if he was married?

First thought at 2:25 - he's married..

One day, you seriously need to dedicate a chair and a corner in your home strictly for KZfaq recording. What happened to sitting on the sofa. It was a secluded unidentifiable location. Is it uncomfortable recording that way? Just curious.

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Hey, Keven: I have to admit that I have been kind of binge watching your videos about gay dating, and I must say that I really enjoy the way you express yourself: you seem sensitive, thoughtful and completely aware of the reality (even if that “reality“ is, in most cases, purely virtual) that us, gay boys and men, have to go through almost everyday. I can relate to most experiences you share, and the truth is that I am trying so hard to go off the apps, where I keep on making the same mistakes, “meeting“ the same kind of people and ruining my self-esteem, which was not bad at all before entering that world. But, as you know, it is not an easy goal to achieve, since whenever I stay off them for a while I feel disconnected, as you said in another video of yours. That makes me wonder what the solution is, if there is really a solution to this huge community problem, of course… Anyway, I just wanted to thank you, because your words make me feel more understood, less isolated in this internal fight of mine, so I really appreciate your dedication to this channel. Keep it up, we’ll stay tuned! 🫶