My former best friend signed herself up for baby mama hood. She planned a baby with her baby daddy that had FIVE children with THREE WOMEN. She had her 1st, and gave him baby #6. She pregnant with her 2nd, and his 7th child. I had to walk away from our 20yr friend ship. 😢

What’s crazy is I’ve heard people say marriage is too much of a commitment, but then they go and have a child… I just don’t understand this kind of thinking 🫠

Kids having sex it self is pretty disturbing, and teens mom it’s not a good thing guys (unless they are a victim of sa, my hearts goes to you). What’s wrong with Stay in your school and having a hobbies ? Kids should have a childhood, teenage should have a teenage hood, and adult should have an adulthood, and teenage hood does not include being pregnant and having a baby. And by the way kids need stability

I remember commenting on a girls TikTok after they posted them 14 and pregnant & said “without a ring, job or car?!💀” and they said “imagine hating on a kid” like no..imagine having a kid as a kid🤦🏽‍♀️ im not one to be supportive if a child wants to be grown, cause best believe in my island kids don’t act out when adults treat them how they act.

Baby mama culture has been constantly romanticized in the music many teens listen to 🤷‍♀

It's alarming how society has normalized certain behaviors. But what's equally troubling is the normalization of talking negatively about others on social media. Additionally, idolizing influencers and celebrities has led to a concerning obsession.

I say this all the time: BRING BACK TEEN BABYSITTERS. When I was a teen I was constantly babysitting for neighbors, family friends and family members. Most of my little cousins I took care of, anyone we trusted that had a kid I spent at least an afternoon with. Teens now days have very little idea of how much work kids are, and baby sitting only gives them a sliver of that -- and so many times that sliver is enough. Try to do your homework with a tired two year old, or relax and watch tv with a couple of 5 year olds that won't go to bed. Found out about a friend's get together? You already made commitments to babysit. I think so many of these teens haven't experienced that responsibility, so the weight of pregnancy, and taking physical care of a child doesn't weigh on them, let alone the actual raising them part.

The fact these kids these days don't know that free food in a cozy home filled with people you can rely is the most bestest thing being a kid ever! How come they don't get it

Dude i just turned 21 and everyone seems to be having kids and marrying people after only a few months. And look at me wild when I say I don’t want to get married till im closer to 30

Actually the teen pregnancy rate has dropped, and overall many people are postponing or not having kids.

I wish men were held more accountable.. I am 21 and 8 months pregnant, unmarried. When I found out I actually sobbed out of fear that my boyfriend could leave me at any moment. He convinced me we would get married, and that he would be there for me through all of it. I sadly saw life through rose colored glasses and fell for it. I never wanted to be a single mom, never wanted to be called a “baby mama”, but I was in love :/ and I’ll sadly be waiting around for this man to get his shit together and act right, while also being blamed for it all. I guess that’s what happens when you’re selfish and wanted a family for yourself.

"Teen Mom" really glamorized & normalized this trend, social media made it worse. And unfortunately, if you don't have any support system or have a terrible support system, you can be expected to give the child up, while people willing to adopt the baby will never help the teenager who needed the help to begin with. Or, you have to "boss up" somehow, without a partner, supportive parents/friends/or family.

Lucy Lucy lucy!!! I swear I say this all the time. Not only is it the overuse of the words "narcissist" or "toxic" but also the other Mental health diagnoses like "ADHD" and "OCD". So many people throw out those very serious diagnoses by saying, "Oh, I'm ADHD" or "Oh, it's my OCD" ... etc and it is extremely dangerous. As a mental health professional, I couldn't agree more.

YES. My students (11/12 year olds) say qualities they want in a baby dad instead of husband & it’s so sad hearing them talk about marriage being outdated and unrealistic

Hey, gen Z here 🙋🏻‍♀️. I just wanted to talk a bit about the whole chidren having children thing. I know that it's hard from people on the outside looking in to really know what's going on with the younger generations, but since I'm 19, and in my second year of college, I can talk on us. Young people, especially underage people having children is a huge non-issue. Dispite what the older generations might believe, we are not more promicuos than the previous generations, and we have recieved countless sexual education from the time we were 12. Most people I knew in highschool were virgins, all but 2 of my friends are virgins. I also went to a pretty big highschool of about 3000 students, and I only ever saw 2 girls pregnant. Teen pregnancies are a lot more uncommon now than before, and most young people don't want children any time soon or at all. You guys can even look up stats on this, don't get fooled by the few young parents you see on the internet, those are outliers, not even remotely close to the average teenager or young adult.

Not me verbally agreeing while watching 😂😂 we literally hv thesame mindset. Aahhh!!! I swear every point was SPOT ON.

Depression and anxiety has also become a trend

I can barely take care of myself let alone a whole breathing human being, my question is where are the parents who are supposed to be held accountable for not shielding them. I don't have the energy time or energy to be in a relationship, I'm not even allowed to so how are these parents not letting their kids be kids.

Girl! Im actually sick of the naked grwm's too!! its so unnecessary and honestly cringe. Like girl get to the point!

There was a trend on TikTok for teen moms and it was like I may be young but at least I know who my baby daddy is and that’s literally bottom of the barrel, that’s common sense are these teens really sleeping with that many people at a time it’s sad

The big sis we all need ❤❤ and it's like if you as a teen girl have morals and boundaries with certain things they say "you're missing out or you boring" ehhh👀

Love you lucy😢 My lil cousin got pregnant at a very lil age and she comes on social media to caption her post "your fave babyma" damn!

I love that you didn't sugar coat 🩷

Damn sis, you nailed it. This is a sickness, we need healing. Cos what? Kids having kids and the whole baby mama culture is just ridiculous.

Yes! If they want to be loud and proud about the disfunction they're creating, the judgement will also be loud and proud!

25yo and never had a boyfriend. I don't understand how a kid can take care of another kid cause I'm in my "midlife" already but I still can't properly take care of myself

As a 15 year old, I see from the kids around me that the problem starts with the parents. I think the main problem is that parents just don’t parent. Like parents are out here buying their kids vapes and allowing them to just do whatever. It’s honestly so sad. Ik my mom is tough on me but I appreciate it bc wtf do you mean your mom is letting you sleep around and smoke and skip school. The future is so concerning. And don’t even get me started on their spelling, grammar, conversation skills, or critical thinking 🤦🏾‍♀️

I agree that Gen Z act grown asf but I haven’t seen much teen pregnancies being an issue like us millennials. For god sakes 16 & pregnant showed us who the real undercover freaks are.

Finally someone who is seeing the bs that is being normalized. These days shame no longer exists 😅

The summary of it is that shamelessness is the new norm. Nobody has shame anymore. People just go around doing whatever. Thank you for always speaking on unpopular opinions.

How could being a totally unprotected (legally, culturally, etc) Mother be romanticized? And how could a MAN not being willing to commit to fidelity be romanticized? We need to be talking about what we allow men to do, and "absent Father" mentality as well ...

Another sad part about child support is that unless you get a rich dude your child support isn’t gonna be anywhere near enough to raise a child

It's a scary way of thinking there is nothing cool or trendy about being a BABY MOMMA!

We need to bring back those teen pregnancy shows that had the sole purpose of scaring teens into not having sex😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

The cups...Yess ! If you go camping or work at a factory with harsh conditions, I get it, you need the extreme durability. But spending a thousand to but all the colors just to sip your water at home ??😂😂

They normalized so much like not wanting to settle down or be with one person at all. Just die alone and be nothing more. It’s so weird. I don’t wanna sleep around like everyone else all my life. Then just die when it’s all over.

Speak your thoughts Lucy!!…this generation and the normalization of certain things is just mind blowing 😵‍💫

The things I see online always blows my mind. Everything wrong is so hyped now. It’s crazy and sickening!!!! Now suddenly everybody has ADHD, OCD,etc😂Once again you never miss the point! So much love for you!!!❤️❤️❤️🙌🏾

former teenage girl here 🙋🏽‍♀️ i’ve been around a lot of kids at my school including friends who are having sex and getting pregnant at the ages of 12/13/14 and i never realized that people were more okay with that than i thought they were. i’ve seen tiktok’s of 14 year old girls pregnant and having babies and then a person in the comments would be like “that’s embarrassing” or something like that and then the “mother” would be like “okay nobody cares”. or “ don’t blame me blame the father” like WTH. you were the one that opened your legs to him and even though he did take part in it you were the one that could’ve said no.

as someone who’s birth mother was 16 when she had me (I am adopted), unfortunately I’m guessing kids have kids when they’re in horrible environments and/or abusive parents. it’s a problem that needs to be talked about more than it already is

It’s the lack of love from parents that usually create these people and or people just naturally want to become mothers and have someone to love. Not sure what has changed since the 1900’s with the age getting lower and lower buts it’s really interesting.

giving a bf a baby is not casual. parenthood is not causal. having 3 babymamas is not normal.

I seriously hope older gen z (20s) who are having children now are raising the new gen the proper way. No social media, stop giving them devices, make them play with toys and go outside. LET KIDS BE KIDS

Are you sure we are not twins? My big sis we have the same mindset and that's why I am glued to your channel year after year. I am too traditional to relate with so many things happening now. I am happy I wasn't born in this Aesthetic era. Keep rocking with these videos Mme. Much love from Cameroon🇨🇲🇨🇲♈🤍

This video was highly needed. I thank you for being so honest and being a model of what should be normal admist abnormality. This internet thing a lot of things should not be allowed to be shown on there. To add, children under 16 should not have phones or access to the internet except for assignments and they should be supervised by a responsible adult in order to grow up normal and not feel they are yet to achieve anything. Aesthetic is thrown around too much making people feel they have to look or behave in a certain manner to be valid,sis just be neat,modest, confident and live within you means you will be fine. I wish I was a KZfaqr I would have had a lot to add. Thanks again you spoke TRUTH!!!

The teen birth rate has been declining in the US steadily since 2009. Kids are actually having less kids. With social media we just actually do see it when it happens instead of it being a family secret

Most people aren’t narcissistic, they’re just selfish, which also sucks with regards to a relationship, but it’s much easier to realize 😌

First of all !!!! THIS BLUE ON YOU IS AMAZIING😍 !!! But the way you want to fight somebody in this video eehh 😂 I even saw early today a video about this stanley cup and it is incredible to see how people can loose their dignity for that 🙄

A narcissist is someone who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. They typically have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others.

Lucy darling, you always make sense, sticking to your faith, our morals value have been fading everyday. Thank you for this piece. As for me no marriage no child that's on period

Somewhere around the nexus of the rise of Instagram,Kardashian and love and hip hop came the popularisation of stripper culture and the desire for wealth,clout and glamour at any cost.

Mercy! I love the direction you're taking with these bold topics Lucy !

I saw a video on TikTok encouraging kids to have babies and the comment section was full of 13,14,15 year old saying they want to have babies too🤦🏽‍♀️

Can we appreciate the satisfying wig installation before the concerning commentary

This video hit every point that was talked about I’m so glad I found someone talking about these topics !

Nothing but facts! This obsession w aesthetics and influencers is a parasocial behavior

Not you shouting on us😂😂😂 Sorry ma🤲

I've been binge watchings your videos for almost 2weeks now, and this video is going to make me subscribe. Everything said I agree with 110%. I am a young lady and i am very old school with a lot of things and social media is as bad as it is good.

I am blown away by your beauty and your wisdom! Please keep preaching to the younger generations.

THANK YOUUUU TO TALK ABOUT IT !👏🏽👏🏽 This world is CRAZY

Especially the narcissist thing is so true. As someone who recently realized that I kept on being friends or dating the same type of person I can tell you that social media actually slowed down my journey. Seeing videos about narcissistic people and the list of traits confused me even more. I did not realize that I was in a cycle and since my scenarios didn't relate to the signs maybe cause they were very simple guesses and had more to do with bad behavior or a situation taken out of hand, I convinced myself that I was the problem since I could barely relate to the victims. It took me so long to conclude that most narcissists are actually quite enticing and not as plain behavior explained by a top5 list. They are difficult to argue with and cut off, even worse is that if they are on social media they will use mental health buzz words to really sell their story. Anyway, it is not as simple to realize, and even trying to get out of the loop as I also know I play a role in attracting the same people. Either way, these things are best to either avoid or seek professional help.

you give such tough love big sister love and advice, i’m here for it

I agree with you 💯. It's become normal to have no boundaries or respect for yourself. It's considered normal to allow others to treat you as disposable and cheap. How can you feel good about yourself if you constantly commodify yourself and post thirst traps?

The girl in the header is actually married now at 20

queen thank you for bringing awareness❤❤❤

I am so happy Lucy has said the things that are not talked about because of fear of "upsetting" others. So refreshing to hear someone speak the truth

THANK YOU FOR CALLING OUT PEOPLE OVERUSING THE TERM “NARCISSIST”!!!! My aunt is one of those people and it drives me insane! I would actually pay money to see these people encounter a REAL narcissist, just to watch their reaction. I’d be there with a camera and popcorn 😂

May god bless you to be bold enough to say this truth ❤🙏

Seeing u as a young person discuss this with such a grounded mind is beautiful. Keep it up abeg❤

As a middle school teacher, GIRL, I have so much to say. These kids act as if they are grown.. pregnant, dropping out of middle school, making blog channels and all .. parents are nowhere to be seen. Smh!!!

Do what I did: I have 1 teenager and a 3 year old. My 3 year old bangs on my teenagers door at 5 a.m. She wants nothing to do with that life lol 😅

King Solomon in a woman! Wisdom sis! Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽

Shout it sis, this generation is so gone😢 God help us

Where have you been? I just found your video. It is nice to hear someone say my thoughts out loud. I have been saying these things in my circles for years!

What you said about the narcissists was SPOT ON 🙏 Thank you for talking about this

My lil sister been living wit her bf n kids since 14 they got 2 kids together now they r 19 nd both graduated high school. Due to circumstances her living wit him nd his family was better than being home tbh. They still together i feel like she mite b the only one of us to get married 🤷🏾‍♀️ sometime it works out

My thoughts exactly.. I posted this the other day. Love this…

Thank you for this conversation, I agree with everything you said !!😊

I just found your channel and I absolutely love you. You’re gorgeous btw, but also, I’m with you 100%. Love your take on everything. I feel the same way. You’re amazing!

She talked about everything that needed to be said, wow!!! I’m subscribing😍❤️

I KEEP SEEING YOUR BETTER HELP ADDS I’m like who’s this beautiful girl🥺 so glad KZfaq has finally recommended me one of your videos!!!

I agree with you 100%. You snapped with this one!!!!

Girly spoke every thing I wanted to sayyyyy, amen!

Omg you have me captivated! Loved the entire video! Thank you ❤️

I always watch yiur videos for the past 2 years and i sometimes forget to comment. Thank you for reminding the rest of us that being normal is now a luxury. I see a lot of kids have kids and i can't be surprised anymore

You couldn't have said it any better Lucy. The big sister we need! Loving the nails by the way x

Lucy will always be the big Aunty everyone needs. Social media has normalized a lot of wrongs. Thank you for speaking your truth

I was a teen mom , and I think it’s not something that should be normalized,but I have to say that these videos of young moms really helped me through the rough times

Big facts you never lied

Lucy is such an intelligent strong woman and i love your videos so informative ❤❤❤❤

Love You ma... Its really make those young ones who are trying to live life real make them feel they are not doing their better...

For the last part, it’s so true! I’ve experienced things my entire life that I don’t wish upon anyone and lived with a physically and mentally abusive mother. I’m 26 and still trying to figure out how to live a normal life without the past situations affecting my day to day. I’m tired of hearing people use those words for the slightest inconvenience or situation.

You literally said everything I’ve been telling my friends for the past 3 months 😮 I love it here

Finally someone addressed it❤

Thank you sis for talking about these topics the Stanley cups i dont own and i never will be its a waste of product!!

These are the type of videos I admire from you.. THE LOUDER TRUUTTTHHH!!!!! This may not be the case I really relate with everything because of the African upbringing.

Somebody had to talk about these things.. and the talk has been done by my fav big sis.. 👏👏👏👏👏👏

A lot of this comes from older women who really hate us. If you don’t warn your daughter ANYTHING about men, you hate her. A lot of young girls have to figure it out on their own. At 17 my mom told me abortion wasn’t an option I asked her if she would tell my sister the same thing if she got pregnant at 17 she said she don’t know😭 grandmas aunties and older cousins didn’t tell me anything either. I told my sister since she was 13 about men and kids she’s 21 with no kids.

Always spitting fire Lucy❤️❤️❤️

Gen Z here. I had an ex ask me how I felt about having kids before getting married once. I said absolutely not. Post breakup, I don't even know if I want kids. I'm 26 and I'm in a beautiful relationship now with someone who gives me space to make this decisions for myself and he's supportive either way. However, we both agreed that a child wouldn't be on the table until we can financially thrive with a kid.