Thank you for sharing.

Thanks for sharing.

Is the goal to appear socially as the other sex or just to have a few elements to express yourself and feel more comfortable with who you are.

this sounds like swim. driven. like the moon was doing it.

@@johnwang9914 This is a good question. It depends on the individual. In my case, since I am a binary trans woman, this was part of the whole process of becoming truly authentic and passing. It was important to me not just for my own peace of mind but to be accepted by a sometimes ignorant society around me. The way to make life easier is to fit in. The way to feel authentic is to look like the person you know yourself to be. Others have different needs. Some just feel better pretending femme. This can be because they are mere cross dressers or find that cross dressing greatly reduces their dysphoria. I was not one of those people. Dressing was not particularly important to me. It was merely one piece of the whole package to become authentically female.

@@DeVoe86 A good analogy I think. One of the things I have learned over time, and it is now a year later than my original comment, is that I have instinctively been doing things and acting in ways that society would consider more typical of women. There is a difference between the male and female brain. Having a female brain, it would be reasonable that I would automatically do things in the same way as women, not men. To use your analogy, it means that I have always known that I should swim up a different river or find a different beach than the male crowd I spent most of my life among.

Thanks for sharing! and so glad to hear!

Thank you for sharing and I am glad you are on your personal path.

That's one thing I'm struggling with right now. What if I tell the person I trust most with knowing my true identity and it turns out that trust was misguided?

@@veganarchistcommunist3051 Looking back I would've braced myself for the unexpected and laid out plan A, B and C before proceeding. I didn't and hit the family wall like a crash car on March 15th of 2012. It took a few months for things to settle down. The years since have been the happiest of my life. I think Dr Z has some of the best advice and then there's the support of other trans people who have been through this. Good luck on your journey Claire. It's worth it. : )

I am so happy for you and glad the videos are helpful.

@@gwendolinegoetz9224 You are absolutely correct. I just referred to it as a real life test because it is a requirement by WPATH. You must live in your desired gender for one year to qualify for bottom surgery.

Hi and thank you for comment! Yes social transition is a great way to explore and a safe one as well! I wish you the best on your exploration.

Sounds smart and prudent.

Thanks for sharing!!

Im going for a similar strategy, going for androgyny first, as it seems to be more socially accepted, and when I’m in a safer situation to come out as a woman, then a lot of the obstacles will be already solved. I know someone who did the same and apparently it worked just fine. Hope you’re doing great!

Thank you for sharing! Ohh neat I am originally from Pacific Northwest :)

Glad to see it resonates with you.

Thanks for sharing.

Thank you for sharing and I am sorry to hear of your frustrations.

You are so welcome!

That’s great that you found a safe way to express yourself!

Experiences on WoW were some of the clues that helped me crack my egg. I always played fem avatars and would consistently get butterflies whenever someone assumed _I_ was female, too. Definitely a great space to explore gender identity.

Thank you!

Thank you for sharing and glad to hear you have such great support.

That’s so great to hear! Excited for your progress!

Thank you.

Thank you.

So well said thank you.

You are welcome.

So sorry to hear that.

Whatever company you worked for didn't deserve you. Fact is that your talents have nothing to do with appearance or gender. Short sighted of them.

Sorry about that

Btw my chosen name is Veronica

Hi Veronica thanks for sharing and yes, college settings are great for self expression.

Thanks for sharing and I am so sorry to hear. I find it funny that many claim "delusion" as defense as that leaves a huge portion of population delusional.

The sour ending made it hard to remember why I wanted to like your concise abbreviated journey

Glad it was helpful! And congrats!

The support you give us is makes easier to make the transition thaxxxxxx!

I wish you all the best.

Thank you for sharing and I wish you all the best with your move to Oregon.

Thank you for sharing! I am so glad things went well for you and I love your name so much! Have you seen Killing Eve?

@@DRZPHD I have seen it. It's one of my favorite shows, actually. Funny thing is, I've always been a fan of Villanelles (Sylvia Plath, etc.) and only started watching Killing Eve because of that character and thought to myself "Damn. That's it! That's the last name I've been searching for!!!" Olivia came from a Barista that mistook my saying "Billie" when she asked my name for "Lilly" and I was mulling that name over, kind of liking it, while waiting for my order and the order before me was for "Olivia" and when she called out for Olivia I just gravitated, to it. Bam! I have my name that I was so trying to find, for almost 2 years! Sorry for the long response. Lol.

Your name is beautiful and every time I see it I drool!

@@DRZPHD You're sweet. Thank you :-)

Thanks for sharing. Planned parenthood in your area may have an affordable hormone option.

I am so sorry to hear of your experience. It is best to ease slowly into social transition in terms of presenting in public. First with more gender neutral presentation. However, some parts of US and other countries may always be not safe to express yourself.

@@DRZPHD thankyou so much Doctor

Hi. I would recommend www.youtube.com/@TransVoiceLessons

I am sorry to hear of your relationship ending. I wish you all the best.

Thanks for sharing.

Thanks for sharing and I wish you all the best.

Best to contact therapist in your area who can help you with this questions or a LGBTQ center medical service.

Hi and thanks for sharing. If you are not sure, it is best to seek support of a local therapist to help you.

Hi. Yes, doctors can at least add preferred name on the forms without legally changing your name. I would say absolutely people are more accommodating today than 10 years ago.

@@DRZPHD Dr Z -- Thank you for confirming you can change your title (Mr, Mrs, Miss) without legal documents. Even though some people may be more amenable to the trans community, there is still hostility out there, some of which, shows itself as acts of violence. Whilst trans women should not put themselves in needless danger, neither should they allow sexual bigots to attack them for no reason without putting up a good crushing defence.

Square ones are Celine. Originally made for sunglasses but I converted to eyeglasses. Round black are Tom Ford also originally sunglasses. Seems all large frames are sunglasses.

@@DRZPHD We can see those caring eyes better through those large frames.

There are treatments that can stop hair loss and can aid in some hard growth but you need to speak to good hear specialist to get an idea what will work best for you.

Thank you for sharing.

HI. I am so sorry to hear about your wife struggle with cancer. I will add your question to my Monday Q&A series as it is such a good one and many can relate.

Being married and older is a challenge when coming out as trans. Also, dealing with illness is another thing that complicates transitioning. The most important thing is to accept that you are trans. For me, that goes a long way in sustaining my well being. As far as the other challenges, I take one day at a time and am thankful I am now a better person.

@@marti7343 thank you Marti . I do accept being trans woman. Not problem there. Just getting wife to accept would solve many of my troubles.

That is what I am in the process of doing now.

@@daisyb5646 good look and enjoy been you.

Is that a question? Sorry not sure what are trying to ask?

sorry i was asking if u were transgender

Ohh I see. Thanks for clarifying. No I am not.

@@gwendolinegoetz9224 you aren't a woman, you are a man in a dress

@@gwendolinegoetz9224 lol what are you talking about?

@@gwendolinegoetz9224 the constant imposing of the trans narrative onto the general public who are forced under threat of imprisonment to pretend they believe that a man is a woman because he "feels" like one even when he is raping women in prison or breaking their skulls in mma matches where the women they are beating wasn't even told they'd be fighting a male.. Or the children who are given damaging treatments so that they will "pass better" ... That's why I have an "intrest". You are a danger to women and to women's safety in day to day life if men like you had your way their would be no female spaces that's women need to feel safe in like changing rooms, sports etc you are a sick delusional sociopath who doesn't care about the effects of your sad delusion has on others as long as you get to maintain your fantasy which you know is a lie.... Does that answer your question

@@truthheals3152 Probably not, but it does say a lot about you and your massively misinformed bigotry and lack of tolerance or empathy.

@@truthheals3152 you do realize that biological sex and gender are not directly related lmaooo ur just brainwashed to think boys like blue girls like pink blah blah blah all of that is BS n means nothing...the biological differences between sexes do not define gender and ways of perceiving oneself or one's interests for example...like just cuz a woman is biologically female for example does not mean she innately like certain clothes or makeup or 'feminine' things n vice versa for males besides technically EVERYONE is nonbinary cuz literally NO ONE adheres 100% to what society considers masculine or feminine plus it changes between countries and cultures and across time....people living today are just far beyond brainwashed to conform n become basic bitches or douchebag bros such as urself lmaoooo get rekt mate n rethink ur existence n stop judging others that arent harming you n get a real life that isnt made for u from what u have been taught in cookie cutter school bullshit lol how pathetic can people like u get thinking u can tell someone how to live THEIR life haha trash like u oughta be incinerated oh wait clearly ur brain already is fried dead n dumbed down from watching the media n mainstream brainwash ur whole life without ever realizing u have the ability to think for urself lol too late for u i guess have fun with ur mundane "life" or should I say drone robot hateful existence jeez heteronormative religious people truly are the insane ones and pure EVIL if it exists lol have fun with the coronavirus news ill bet u watch literally every day cuz ur being spoon fed fear btw but i doubt u would figure that out if i didnt tell u...

Hi. Please see if there is planned parenthood around your area as they have affordable trans care.

@@DRZPHD ok