The Frame Game: How To Outsmart Anyone In An Argument

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Game of Thrones: How Power Really Works
Game of Thrones is all about power games. What many people don't realize is that behind those power games are clashes of the way people see the world. There are clashes of frames. The people who can control these frames (like Tyrion Lannister and Tywin Lannister) tend to win over the Game of Thrones people who struggle more often (like Robb Stark).
There are tons of ways you can use this understanding of frames in your normal life. We'll look at three in this video
Note: the spoilers go up only through season 4, so if you haven't seen all the way to season 6, you are still good to watch
1) Breaking frames for persuasion (Tyrion vs. Shagga)
2) Frames in insults (Tyrion vs Robb Stark and Robb Stark vs. Jaime Lannister)
3) Frames to create options (Tyrion vs. Tywin and Tyrion vs. Lysa Arryn)
Let me know how you feel about these fictional breakdowns! I have never done one in the past and would love your feedback. Especially let me know if you like Game of Thrones related breakdowns, because there is a lot more I could potentially cover (like Tyrion's charisma and persuasive abilities)
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@TheSilverstryker 8 жыл бұрын

Tyrion Lannister survival guide: 1. Offer gold 2. Offer more gold

@Crick1952 8 жыл бұрын

3. Tell a joke

@Baalaaxa 5 жыл бұрын

4. Demand trial by combat

@nakiaudaku8691 5 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@ZaWarudo0316 5 жыл бұрын

5. Use crossbow

@lagroad 5 жыл бұрын

6. Get someone else to fight for you

@gsimon123 8 жыл бұрын

"Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you." - Tyrion Lannister

@TheGuardian163 8 жыл бұрын

+gsimon123 do you remember which episode? I use this everyday of my life. I tell girls I'm an asshole. I didn't get it from Game of Thrones however

@gsimon123 8 жыл бұрын

TheGuardian163 I think it was episode 1 actually

@TheGuardian163 8 жыл бұрын

gsimon123 Don't say that, you'll make me fall in love with the show a second time and I'll have to watch it all over again hahaha

@PrincessLioness 7 жыл бұрын

Like fat Amy.

@RileyElite11 5 жыл бұрын

Please explain this quote

@DiMono 5 жыл бұрын

"You fight like my sister!" "I've fought your sister, that's a compliment!"

@marsonsaturn 4 жыл бұрын

@Lok Mickson yep!

@The_Jolly_Jackass 3 жыл бұрын

I know that sentence from somewhere... But where is it from?

@DiMono 3 жыл бұрын

@@The_Jolly_Jackass The Road To El Dorado

@tfaber9394 2 жыл бұрын

Don't ever think a woman can't fight. Co-ed MMA. They can do everything a guy can do, but it is so much hotter. Men will pull the punches a little. Women don't. Not even in sparring. It's awesome.

@miriamceraman4932 2 жыл бұрын

yesssssssssss El Doradooooo :D

@funthirstictm3098 7 жыл бұрын

when you see you are losing in school debate..."I demand trial by combat "

@g.g3205 5 жыл бұрын

Alpha Zey haha that’d be actually pretty funny 😄

@kamuelalee 4 жыл бұрын

Private detective quotes work too: "You're dumber than you think I think you are." -- JJ Gittes, Chinatown.

@Justin-xd7zj 4 жыл бұрын

Aka meet me behind the school at 4

@Random-sk6hm 2 жыл бұрын

Judge: we have video footage of you committing a triple homicide Me: I demand trial by combat

@utsavdhyani8839 2 жыл бұрын

School chooses your bully as opponent

@Violent2aShadow 8 жыл бұрын

Next time in traffic court: Judge: "Your options are either pay the fine or go to traffic school." Me: "I DEMAND A TRIAL BY COMBAT!!!!!"

@TribalKatz 8 жыл бұрын

I did not speed down the freeway. BUT I WISH THAT I DID!

@markhenry2186 8 жыл бұрын

@HiMyNameIsSander 8 жыл бұрын

+Violent2aShadow I demand trial by drag race!

@mattarcher7919 8 жыл бұрын

+Violent2aShadow There was a case were an old man demanded his ancient right of trial by combat because he didn't want to pay for a minor parking offence. xD www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1416262/Court-refuses-trial-by-combat.html

@brcha 8 жыл бұрын

+Matt Archer Lol, that guy is a king :)

@wastagwaga 8 жыл бұрын

Tyrion Lannister - He puts the "imp" in "Pimp".

@user-ef3om4jb6s 7 жыл бұрын

ohh OHHH I GOT IT

@BasileusRex 7 жыл бұрын

wastagwaga 'impin ain't easy

@thewhitewolf3089 6 жыл бұрын

Xohetzal damn. I was gonna say that lol

@AJKecsk 5 жыл бұрын

Tyrion Lannister - He takes the "I win" right out of Tywin.

@Harshhaze 5 жыл бұрын

"Everything that is possible changes based on your creativity" Fuck, that's a good quote

@joshuahiemenz4857 Жыл бұрын

Everything is always possible, regardless of your mindstate. Mindset doesn't change reality. It's just changes your emotions and makes you see the same things differently without actually changing anything. It's just feels different cause you have different chemicals running through your brain

@aronhighgrove4100 Жыл бұрын

@@joshuahiemenz4857 It's much more than that. Change of perspective can be as simple as walking around an object and seeing parts that were invisible before. You can always say, but they were there already, but it's meaningless if you don't know how to switch to that different perspective. Also in quantum mechanics, interaction changes the outcome, so you don't know the result before you have it. Not all reality is deterministic and you don't just pick a state from a state space.

@phattjohnson 11 ай бұрын

@@joshuahiemenz4857 I tried willing an ice cold can of Coke into existence. I'm still sitting here thirsty and with a (lack of) caffeine headache.. So, at the very least, it seems willing crap into existence through sheer thought alone is currently impossible :P

@jimmymcguire8217 Күн бұрын

@@phattjohnsonor is it??? ...yeah it is

@shaleensharma4157 6 жыл бұрын

Turning the tables on an insult: Oh I'm a monster, you should talkto me more softly then. Monsters are dangerous, and right now kings are dying like flies.

@lambycorn5253 4 жыл бұрын

Wtf

@1636276 4 жыл бұрын

@@lambycorn5253 I think it's a skit of game of thrones. One was called a monster, and he said watch your tone with me, allot of hierarchy are dying(assasination) you dont know what i can do to you. Basically

@jsmithmultimediatech 4 жыл бұрын

The whole series is loosely based on the War of the Roses a civil war about who was had the right to sit on the throne in England prior to the Tudors that Edward IV was illegitimate and every monarch since has been, there's others but the main jist of its based on the War of the Roses, largely the Plantagenets (Houses of Lancaster thats now belonging to the Crown to this very day (is with that and the Crown estate that for the vast majority financially supports the Monarchy only costs the British taxpayer 70p approx each year to fund it) vs the Tudors sort of.....

@lswilcoxon 4 жыл бұрын

That was ONE OF THE BEST LINES IN THIS ENTIRE SERIES

@inspectorjavert8443 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah but that line came back to haunt him

@dispatchforthwith 8 жыл бұрын

You forget one VERY important thing... Some men can't be bought, bullied, reasoned or negotiated with. Some men just want to watch the world burn.

@Worldtimes1 8 жыл бұрын

+Turk E. Man You should tell that to Ramsey Bolton

@trielt1 8 жыл бұрын

+Jhony S Well, some men just want to watch the world get flayed.

@Whiteroca 8 жыл бұрын

+Turk E. Man Oh then, Mr Charisma should do a Batman Vs Joker breakdown.

@Sebastianek1990 8 жыл бұрын

+Jhony S Roose actually bought Ramsey... for a while, but still.

@seamovies7406 7 жыл бұрын

Turk E. Man so says alfred

@daddy4sharx 8 жыл бұрын

I can't tell you how many times I've gotten myself into trouble by trying to add humor to a serious situation.

@daddy4sharx 8 жыл бұрын

hohoho XD holy shit owch. I remember there was this one time I was at work, I had just gotten a flu shot or something, so I had one of those little circle band-aids on my arm. My boss said something like "Ohhh~! did you get a shot?" and I said "Nah, I was just shooting up before work." and she goes off on me for being inappropriate. Later that day, she was joking with some employees about her period.

@daddy4sharx 8 жыл бұрын

Everyone tells me that there's a time and place for my humor. I just wish they didn't take everything so seriously

@sainttom6785 8 жыл бұрын

+Michael Morgan did you tell her heroin takes the edge off pms

@MiidoKinGs 7 жыл бұрын

well the manner u told ur joke made her think that u'r saying to her that her question is stupid and u'r making fun of her.

@daddy4sharx 7 жыл бұрын

Miido KinG That's a fair guess, but I've known her for a while, long enough to know that she just doesn't like me and that was good enough reason for her to come down on me whenever she felt like. If I explained why you'd think I was crazy.

@PiggyXMalone 4 жыл бұрын

I was once teased by the school bully for wearing an unfashionable brand of jeans. I said to him, "It's true. I've never really cared much about following fashion trends. I always thought it more the sort of thing girls worry about." It did the trick. 1. I showed him I wasn't hurt or intimidated by his teasing (which leaves a bully without his main weapon) and 2. Left him either having to abandon the fashion concern or acknowledge that he was focussing on something that tends to be more of a concern for girls (which it was and probably still is), thus impugning his masculinity. He walked away without a word.

@reycesarcarino4653 3 жыл бұрын

Weird no ever used that tactic For the "what are those" sneaker brand insult. Pretty good way of turning their insult against them

@derrickckt8024 3 жыл бұрын

@@reycesarcarino4653 he can say "those are called shoes"

@bobbieschroder6231 3 жыл бұрын

At a former job, there was a female coworker who was a huge busybody.. at least toward me, as she began vocally policing my every move. It then occurred to me to blurt out to her (with a surprised look on my face), "I didn't know that you were so fascinated by my comings and goings!" That threw her for a loop, which totally shifted her attitude, and she never bothered me again. LOL!

@thelastkage646 3 жыл бұрын

@@bobbieschroder6231 you think maybe she was attracted to you?😏

@bobbieschroder6231 3 жыл бұрын

@@thelastkage646 Ha! No, I promise you, that was not the case. As I said, she was simply a problematic "busybody" who decided to pick on me because she didn't like me. And, since people like that don't have a decent life of their own, they have to nose and meddle into other people's affairs and cause trouble. I was never one to belong to any workplace cliques. People who belong to them usually have a low regard for an independent person who doesn't join up and fit in with their little cookie-cutter gang. Sometimes they have a tendency to be sort of like "office gangsters", so to speak. Believe me, I would've known if she'd been attracted to me. Although I'm heterosexual, I _have_ had some women to make passes at me (outside of work). While I admit to having been tempted by it, I haven't (yet) followed through on it. 😉

@sameersinghnarayan 4 жыл бұрын

Tyrion was completely something else. If Tyrion had the chance to face The Night King, he would have convinced him to build the wall and go back.😂😂

@iad.s.8256 Жыл бұрын

Yes lol 😂

@herculesmclovin Жыл бұрын

That 👆 comment is so underrated 👏 😂

@callum7081 8 жыл бұрын

So watching game of thrones is literally part of your job now? I am insanely jealous :)

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+Hubert cumberdale Hahahaha, I am living the dream :-)

@caramullen9186 8 жыл бұрын

SALAD FINGERS LOL yay.

@fatjimmyfm5447 8 жыл бұрын

+Charisma on Command do milo yiannopoulos

@JC-yl5qh 8 жыл бұрын

+Charisma on Command Do you have any videos breaking down the King of Charisma Harvey Specter from Suits

@ANeonSkinJoke 8 жыл бұрын

+Charisma on Command These breakdowns are great, really good channel you have. Have you thought about breaking down Marlon Brando's legendary charisma? For example, how he leads this interview? / watch?v=LAPDQ5MlLxE

@BFP2021 7 жыл бұрын

Humor is a powerful weapon...should never be under estimated.

@TomahawksNShotShells 4 жыл бұрын

Had a girl tell me that. I knew I wasnt overly attractive or intelligent but I knew I was funny. Once I got her laughing, the victory was mine lol she told me she had no intention of going home with me but after a few jokes, well she didn't know what happened until the next morning 😏

@dynamo5326 3 жыл бұрын

Its the hardest weapon to use

@derrickckt8024 3 жыл бұрын

@@TomahawksNShotShells guess she was laughing at you not with you

@Mr3DLC 3 жыл бұрын

@@derrickckt8024 who cares, per se? Apparently laughing at him or with him still got him results:)

@McCRBen 3 жыл бұрын

The art of Presidential debate is to ensure your opponent can’t talk to the electorate by non stop talking. The art of being a President is based on listening to experts.

@NorthernKitty Жыл бұрын

I remember being with a friend who some class bully got upset at over something petty and ridiculous and felt he needed to assert his image in front of others with violence. He began to charge my friend with raised fist, clearly intending to start fighting. The bully was large and almost certainly a cinch to win the fight. My friend calmly and without any sign of fear said "well, this doesn't bode well for my recent dental work, wish I had put that off for a month." The bully hesitated and laughed, and my friend immediately followed up with, "I'm honestly confused, what are you angry about?" which forced the bully to then talk about it. Within minutes my friend had the bully convinced it was a simple misunderstanding, apologized to the bully for it and diffused the situation entirely, letting the bully walk away with his ego intact (and my friend with his teeth intact). Everyone who witnessed the interaction knew who really "won the fight".

@elvisvan 10 ай бұрын

clever, what's your friend's name and at what tone did he friend speak the sentence?

@aluhutmann4622 5 ай бұрын

yeah the bully lol

@porpus99 5 жыл бұрын

Tyrion has shown himself to be clever, intelligent, charismatic, and off an on a leader. When the King fled the battlements, he stood and took command. Rallied the men and lead them into battle. It was a hopeless battle, but he showed himself to be someone that others could look to. He gets what he wants by asking what others want. In this way he gets loyalty. My all time favorite character in the show.

@Alpha-Andromeda 10 ай бұрын

Yeah that’s what makes him so compelling, that he would be a natural king but instead he is turned into the eccentric half-man. Best character for sure.

@sisterspooky 10 ай бұрын

@@Alpha-Andromeda- Tyrion was my absolute favorite. He and Bronn were such a great duo. lol Tyrion’s “confessions” at the Eyre were hilarious. That still remains one of my favorite Tyrion moments. 😂

@Railstarfish 8 жыл бұрын

Another aspect of Tyrion's approach of demanding a trial is he puts the other person on the spot - in the Vale, to deny him a trial is to openly admit that what they're doing is unjust, which undermines the legitimacy of the titles that give them social power.

@cattfishing Жыл бұрын

@@pamelascarpenter5208 lol I was going to say, isn't that what was explained in the video? Lol

@sirtko Жыл бұрын

Excellent point

@UNcommonSenseAUS Жыл бұрын

It's a scripted propaganda piece you fool.

@masonkane5884 8 жыл бұрын

Next time I get hauled in to traffic court, I'm gonna ask for trial by combat.

@farmerboy916 8 жыл бұрын

It is TECHNICALLY legal in the US, iirc. I mean, you'll never get it, but it's in the common law adopted from Britain. It was outlawed completely there a while after the War of Independence, but never was in the US.

@Jikester82 8 жыл бұрын

Haha I just did that a few months back when I got popped for having a glass smoking pipe with weed residue. The looks on the faces of the judge, DA and officers was priceless, but the prohibited acts charge was reduced to a disorderly conduct and a $300 fine.

@95TurboSol 8 жыл бұрын

Brilliant

@michelleschreiner6418 8 жыл бұрын

It is not possible now since King Tommen of the House Baratheon the First of His Name abolished trial by combat.

@cestarianinhabitant5898 8 жыл бұрын

Woah it really is technically legal, but I guess for any truly serious cases it's always gonna be rejected. Wish it was the same here hehe, would be pretty funny. You might actually be able to pull it off though if you have a weird tough nut case where there's enough lack of evidence I guess. But how that combat would be done is another deal, I mean dueling is illegalso it'd probably have to be like a ring fight.

@xxxfirehuunterxxx 7 жыл бұрын

Jesus man, your videos are just at Aristotle levels. I could never think of these, and how they're explained is just wonderful. You guys up there are some real professionals!

@Charismaoncommand 7 жыл бұрын

Glad you're digging it

@abhayc4428 7 жыл бұрын

Ur videos are simply mind blowing...Are u a student in psychology or philosophy??

@UNcommonSenseAUS Жыл бұрын

This is the worst kind of garbage. F this kid, get a life & learn your own way.

@sid2112 Жыл бұрын

Philosophers are tourists.

@myselfme767 Жыл бұрын

The "create options" one helped me tremendously in life! Tyrion is extremely well written character and your break downs are the best thing on the internet! As a person who's on the spectrum human interaction is challenging for me, I don't understand it and it would never come to me about this 3rd way, but since I watched this video I remembered this and used it multiple times when people were trying to take advantage of me. This and "no matter what, you'll be OK" really helped me. Thank you!

@Noobly533 11 ай бұрын

Just don't go demanding trial by combat everytime someone proposes only 2 options to you!

@phattjohnson 11 ай бұрын

@@Noobly533 Not EVERY time.. but some times I'm sure it's the most socially acceptable option :)

@lolwhatidk 8 жыл бұрын

And what happens when someone pulls a Cersei and says "fuck your frames" and orders your execution?

@dimitryhazel 8 жыл бұрын

"Power is power." - Cersei Lannister

@dweliq2993 8 жыл бұрын

+idk Thats the problem with persuasion, it doesnt work against enraged, insane, determined, fanatical or otherwise persuasion resistant targets.

@edi9892 8 жыл бұрын

+Dweliq If you show their hypocrisy in front of their own men, you may die, but it harms them too.

@dweliq2993 8 жыл бұрын

edi No, actually the underlings mostly only care about money, so everything youd achieve is dying for nothing.

@XYxTheOppxJX 8 жыл бұрын

+idk its called suicide

@LeonLush 8 жыл бұрын

Dude, you crush these videos. You get my full watch time everytime, which is a high compliment in the days of wavering attention.

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+Leon Lush awesome compliment, thank you!

@jsmith8391 6 жыл бұрын

I love you Leon.

@DeJake 6 жыл бұрын

Lol yeah no considering me and everyone I know it's really not a 'high compliment.' Your audience must be pretty bored ;)

@noisaidgetlost9448 5 жыл бұрын

Woah, dad used to watch them charisma vids?

@LittleFabulousMe 5 жыл бұрын

Papa Lush!

@host_theghost507 Жыл бұрын

This is one of the rare occasions when I'm happy when a title turns out to be inaccurate... this isn't about outsmarting people, it's about persuading them. Which is a lost art and seriously necessary. Thanks for opening up new options.

@adairia4300 7 жыл бұрын

Apparently I've been watching your videos for a couple of hours now... This is yummy stuff to a writer's mind. :D

@belha1075 7 жыл бұрын

this is exactly what i was thinking ! can't stop devouring this :D

@adilsoncamacho6378 3 жыл бұрын

Exatcly. Good material to build characthers

@baahcusegamer4530 3 жыл бұрын

Read this as I have my 3rd novel's manuscript open in Scrivener.

@haleffect9011 8 жыл бұрын

Please Please Please make a full list of Tyrion's persuasion techniques

@TheRastyPasty 8 жыл бұрын

Please please please answer this guy

@HasinArefinKhan 8 жыл бұрын

+rasti pasti please please please listen to her.

@AlbinosaurusR3X 8 жыл бұрын

+Hal Effect (Grand Admiral) That would be an extremely interesting video.

@FocusMrbjarke 8 жыл бұрын

+Hal Effect (Grand Admiral) do this please

@kebman 8 жыл бұрын

+Hasin Arefin Khan please please please listen to the guy who want you to listen to the girl that wants to listen to Hal!

@jamesallen74 8 жыл бұрын

I second another comment made here. A full list of persuasion tactics Tyrion uses sounds very interesting. Please do this. And please discuss sales tactics used in "Boiler Room". Excellent movie.

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+James Allen Oh my god - I love those clips. Thanks for reminding me :-)

@andrewa2646 8 жыл бұрын

Boiler Room group interview scene. Awesome.

@LUXAETERNA6603 7 жыл бұрын

You should put a review of your main points up on the screen at the end of every video so it's easier to retain. Otherwise it's just passing eye candy that your audience will ultimately forget.

@b.melakail 7 жыл бұрын

Scarecrow: "Death or exile?" Tyrion: "I demand a trial by combat!"

@mikamiteru3281 6 жыл бұрын

Teacher: ''Leave the classroom at once.'' Me: ''I don't think so. I DEMAND A TRIAL BY COMBAT. ''

@TheGuardian163 8 жыл бұрын

I did this before. The girl was mad at me because I texted her in the middle of the night, I was learning about sales at the time. She said "You can't text me after midnight! If I want to talk to you, I will contact you! I have a husband! What do you think he would say if he saw that text!? What do I say to him?" "Tell him I have some products to sell"

@Mr11kankan 8 жыл бұрын

+TheGuardian163 What the fuck did i read?

@caelvanir8557 8 жыл бұрын

We got a badass over here!

@glutegains3656 8 жыл бұрын

+TheGuardian163 Ohhh shit watch out now you do not want to fuck with TheGuardian163

@TheGuardian163 8 жыл бұрын

Jor Zap Not really. It didn't work she just kept yelling hahaha

@ankitsaikumar6866 5 жыл бұрын

madlad

@Evija3000 8 жыл бұрын

Creating the third option... Reminds me of how Daenerys got her army of the Unnsullied. It was set up perfectly there. She had two advisors, one said to sell the dragon for the army the other to not do it, they had several discussions about it. In the end she made the third option - Drakarys. Again, one of the most famous scenes of the show. She also made her own options when she decided to act like a real wife to Drogo, to walk into the flames with the dragon eggs, and I'm sure other times as well. She's a creative girl. And turning an insult around reminds me of Lord Snow :)

@matheusb.dambrowski4639 8 жыл бұрын

@DoReMeDesign 8 жыл бұрын

+ReptilianIlluminatti BD15Cthulu How is it being an 11 year old in today's society?

@matheusb.dambrowski4639 8 жыл бұрын

Oscar Brogden Actually im 15

@matheusb.dambrowski4639 8 жыл бұрын

Oscar Brogden And I live in Brazil. I wake up at 5:30 A.M. everyday, I dress up, eat, the bus picks me up at 6:30. I sleep in the bus. I get to school at 7:40 A.M. My normal classes end at 11:45 am. I have lunch at school. I start my eletroeletronics classes at 13:00 PM. At 5 pm they end. I hang out with my friends. At 6pm The bus picks me up. I get home at 7pm. I do my homework, study and then go play some games.

@DoReMeDesign 8 жыл бұрын

ReptilianIlluminatti BD15Cthulu Sounds like you've got your process down.

@ojasvsingh5142 6 жыл бұрын

"if you don't like the options on the table, turn the goddamn table about"- Frank Underwood (House Of Cards)

@oleggeraschenko4932 3 жыл бұрын

notice how Tyrion's face changes through the seasons: from a likable mostly smiling face in season 1 to an always not smiling bearded face nobody would have loved if they had started with it

@shashanklaur507 7 жыл бұрын

Explain that to The Mountain's face

@dominikhameder629 6 жыл бұрын

What face?

@sghosh1615 6 жыл бұрын

MrLegaropex 😂😂

@octavian3287 6 жыл бұрын

The Mountain never had any real power. Political power. He was always subservient to those who did.

@alexsm3882 5 жыл бұрын

@@octavian3287 But had the mountain been a smart/smarter man, he could have taken the world over. But he ends up being a grunt, thankfully...

@PrettyBoyKii 3 жыл бұрын

Funny enough, # 1 actually works very well for children in a tantrum. The best way to break it is to disrupt the tantrum by changing the site of the tantrum by moving them to another room. It allows them to disassociate with possible triggers or whatever it is that they are holding onto in that state. And then you can begin to talk to them about what their needs are.

@Sionnach1601 Жыл бұрын

Good point 👍

@ChitChat 3 жыл бұрын

I first learned about frames years ago after reading one of Friedrich Nietzsche's quotes: "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at any given time is a result of power, not truth." Though I have much experience with frames I still learned a lot from this video. Great vid.

@gaillouise8310 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the Nietzsche quote....was just having a conversation with my son last night about power and I will be able to relay this to him because I don't think he's heard it.

@trowawayacc 11 ай бұрын

In a world of lies there is nothing more powerfull than truth.

@ChitChat 11 ай бұрын

@@trowawayacc Everyone has their own truth. Books are written just on the elusiveness of truth and what it means.

@thefuturist8864 4 ай бұрын

@@gaillouise8310Be aware that Nietzsche wasn’t necessarily talking about power in the sense of ‘might’, and that he was likely taking critical aim at philosophers who wrote about human freedom as being the central animating force. Nietzsche liked to take ideas that seem inarguably true and turn them upside down. The appearance of control is not control.

@thefuturist8864 4 ай бұрын

@@ChitChatIt’s very easy to say that we all have our own truths, but if that is ‘true’ then it undermines itself. In order for the statement ‘everyone has their own truth’ to be true, it would have to be correct no matter what people believe.

@animeisdope5264 4 жыл бұрын

Me: *messing with friends* Friend: so you have chosen death Me: I have chosen trial by combat Friend: oh so who will be your champion? Me: for my champion I have chosen your mother Friend: SON OF A-

@Gina-xt5jc 7 жыл бұрын

Your Tyrion videos gave me a great boost against my fear of conversations. There are tons of videos about how to start small talk, but very few about how the game of communication may actually work. Finally something that actually helps me feel less lost! Keep it up :D

@Charismaoncommand 7 жыл бұрын

That's awesome to hear - glad you're digging it!

@smr144 8 жыл бұрын

best definition of frame I have ever seen

@icantguardz 5 жыл бұрын

A lot of people don’t say this but thank you for the videos. They’re actually pretty well done. Charisma/personality behavior videos interest me a lot, but I can’t spend a whole day listening to people teach me about how I could act in certain situations.. you on the other hand mixed my favorite tv show w my favorite characters (Tyrion, Jon, Varys, Tywin) & held my attention all day lol so thank you:)

@sudhim9240 Жыл бұрын

Anyone who liked or subscribed have in one way expressed their gratitude

@phattjohnson 11 ай бұрын

@@sudhim9240 But bots also like and subscribe.. can AI articulate a response capturing the nuance of human culture and emotion so aptly? No.

@afrosymphony8207 6 жыл бұрын

As a screenwriter this is GOLD!!

@manan0603 8 жыл бұрын

Best Frame changer was George Costanza: "The Jerk store called. They ran out of you"

@jasse85 8 жыл бұрын

I prefeer the hounds way of handling "frames", he rarely argues with anyone and when he does 90% of those people die by his hand.

@deusvult980 2 жыл бұрын

Difficult in medieval times Useless nowadays

@valentinaespinosa7894 4 жыл бұрын

Your deepest confidence isbno based in controling the perceptions of others but embracing the truth of who you are

@josephboxmeyer5730 Жыл бұрын

One of my brothers, John or Paul, tells the story of his confrontation by a school bully. My brother drew a line to separate them and then challenged the large fellow to "Cross that line." When the bully had stepped across, my brother then greeted him with the exclamation, "Now you're on my side!" The confrontation now having been surprisingly reframed, the unprepared bully then simply agreed.

@calebfuller4713 11 ай бұрын

That is brilliant.

@cerebrumexcrement 8 жыл бұрын

I found this vid by accident and learned how to be more like Tyrion. Cool.

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+thenotorious ong > Glad you like it! :)

@RobertoBlake 8 жыл бұрын

This was an excellent video and a great breakdown, excellent points, well researched and thought out. Congrats on your channel growth as well.

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+Roberto Blake Thank you! I really appreciate the feedback. Will definitely make more videos like this.

@Archie6666 3 жыл бұрын

Love this - since I’ve used framing my arguments/debates have become more effective. Nothing like watching someone burn knowing they have not affected you like they desire.

@sheryllafferty2255 Жыл бұрын

"Whoever controls the options has the power." That is profound. You can see that as a parent I can say to my toddler "do you want to wear the red shirt or the blue shirt?" But it's obvious I am the one with the power....because I controlled the options. So simple but amazing to have it explained like you did.

@2211gk 8 жыл бұрын

I am a bit disappointed that you did not put Tyrion's "Never forget what you are... wear it like armor" speech to Jon Snow in the part of the video with Rob Stark fending off the insults... Anyway, GREAT Stuff and VERY interesting angle... enjoyed quite a lot... Subbed

@neuralmute 8 жыл бұрын

+Giorgi Kelbakiani Tell me about it - that's practically my life's philosophy! I'm a tiny, female nerd, and I know that I will be constantly underestimated by nearly everyone... until I've already run circles around them. ;)

@simplyvlogging6940 8 жыл бұрын

Definitely would appreciate you going deeper on frame. Great video

@sebbe3391 6 жыл бұрын

"Power resides where men believe it resides" - Varys

@Mr3DLC 3 жыл бұрын

Control is illusion What would it matter whp is president if everyone said no?

@explainedwithallenderick4979 4 жыл бұрын

This is one of my favorite videos on charisma. Framing is so powerful and really has helped me a bunch. Thanks for the video Charlie!

@sanaldbz 8 жыл бұрын

This was great. I think you should do one using 'House Of Cards'.

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+Sanal Das thanks. I've had quite a few suggestions on that so definitely keeping that in mind! :)

@ev4rcroft 6 жыл бұрын

Charisma on Command Please make breakdowns of Frank & Claire Underwood.

@MeshPlus 4 жыл бұрын

@@Charismaoncommand When ?????

@sancrosanct5070 3 жыл бұрын

@@Charismaoncommand this probably isn't happening is it?

@TheFinalGirly 8 жыл бұрын

This was a really interesting video, very well analyzed!

@obradinn7491 8 жыл бұрын

+GirlDoesRant You're a GoT fan? o.o Dayum.

@Ironeyes128 8 жыл бұрын

+GirlDoesRant The books are awesome I'm on feast for crows now and I guarantee there's more fucking, violence, epic charecters and more fucking

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+GirlDoesRant > Awesome feedback! Thanks for watching. :)

@MrSsb2000 6 жыл бұрын

I have done this with bullies in school without even realising till I saw this clip. Lovely analysis. Humour and calmness are quite useful.

@GalinasBooksEnglish 5 жыл бұрын

In my life, when facing a door that will take me to the past, or a window that provides a dim future, I tend to plow through the wall; fully knowing the cost this damage will do, but also willing to put in the work to harvest a new option others were not granting me.

@Legatus 8 жыл бұрын

9:12, isn't that what frank underwood says all the time, if you don't like how the table is set turn over the table.

@m.c.m2689 8 жыл бұрын

i love these kind of videos! its so clearer and you explain it so clearly and by using game of thrones as reference its nice to see how it works.

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+M.C.M glad you love them! :)

@mexiCANgurl28 23 күн бұрын

I stumbled upon your channel and can't stop watching. I love how you incorporate the various film clips which instantly connects the viewers to the point you are making. Great content. Well done.

@dofri8373 2 жыл бұрын

I had a talk with my boss. He gave me 2 options: I could work only part time at my current position or search for a job in a different company. I presented him some options that he wasn't happy about so i directed the conversation by listing some of the problems in a different part of the company. He then had the idea (or atleast he thinks its his own) to create a position in the company especially for me to solve the problems using my experience it that field. Saved my butt there 😅

@icawn 11 ай бұрын

I was in this situation recently and tried to present other options, because I have other related skills. It became apparant that my boss simply wanted me gone, whether it would be bad for the company or not. I'm not sure how to get out of that one. But, what I did do before losing facility access is have 1on1 conversations with the other managers in the facility and presented the option of contract work. What I really wanted to understand is if the decision to eliminate my position was mutual among managers, or an isolated decision by my boss. It was clearly isolated, which I guess might mean I have the potential to apply for other positions in which my particular manager has no jurisdiction. The only caveat is that, if I do turn in this severance agreement offered, I cannot work for the company for at least 6 months. 15 years of service reduced to nothing.

@nonmihiseddeo4181 8 жыл бұрын

You've never used fiction to make your points before, but you're very good at it.I understand and can immediately apply the concepts to my everyday life. Plus, I enjoy watching and learning. Bravo!

@evequeen8282 Жыл бұрын

I have never seen a KZfaq channel with so much content packed into such an efficient time frame. Keep it up!!!

@Rob-wy7ro Жыл бұрын

Only 6 years later I discovered this gem of video and yes please more videos on tyrion persuasion techniques would be GREAT!!!!!

@PeaceEpieces 8 жыл бұрын

This is brilliant mate, never seen an analysis of anything quite like this. I wasn't expecting this when i clicked the vid.. I was looking for some interesting game of thrones talk and you didn't offer that. Instead you broke my frame and made me interested in this new pattern of thinking for when I watch the show.. Im going to keep this in mind when i see season six, subbed. Thanks alot

@TheNightcrawler1993 8 жыл бұрын

+Sam Schutte Exact same thoughts brother. I never knew a single shot could hold so much meaning to it until now, my perspective has been shifted.

@Anthony_in_Bloomington_Indiana 8 жыл бұрын

This video is brilliant and insightful and educational! It is really about social interaction and dealing with people who try to have power over you. It is not about power on a large scale, say, for example, how Apple abuses and mistreats workers at their factories in China.

@WYalmicW 6 жыл бұрын

*Posted from Iphone 6*

@angelmaravilla4708 6 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true; the people who is able to develop and manage a different think pattern, along the history have had and will have an advantage in this social world.

@sookiebyun4260 6 жыл бұрын

Using Game of Thrones to teach is BRILLIANT!!! Keep it up!

@heroicmuffin9972 8 жыл бұрын

Damn man.. Your explanations are so on point, and i'm really persuaded. My problem is applying all of them, as my social anxiety makes it so hard to do so..

@sagara4e 7 жыл бұрын

Please keep making these videos! By combining these two dimentions: popular movie and self improvement, you´re the most orininal guy on youtube.. haven´t seen anyone doing it.. Good intuition :)

@Charismaoncommand 7 жыл бұрын

Will definitely keep going :-)

@marcinskibinski8263 5 жыл бұрын

Its amazing how accesible this powerful knowledge is these days, i mean it takes someone like you Charisma on Demand to translate your knowledge, the way you look at the world to someone who never paid any attention to the concept of charisma - me. After watching this video it really struck me how any personality trait can become dominant when practiced to an absolute perfection. Great job

@alexanderhilary 11 ай бұрын

Y’all are killin it! I came across the channel like a month ago and it quickly became a favorite!

@Ahmedbohamad 8 жыл бұрын

Your advise is great, but in order for them t work, you have to have an actual power "leverage". In the case of game of thrones, no matter how smart and well spoken you are, if you were a poor commoner with no good poition, you will be stepped on.

@alexbroderick5213 8 жыл бұрын

+AHMED ALBOHAMAD 100% agree.

@kadmonzohar2 8 жыл бұрын

+AHMED ALBOHAMAD ...pretty much...I would just be as nice as I could to Khaleesi. That might be one exception where money or birth parents wont matter but integrity. You could always go guard the wall but you really can't talk your way out of a situation with White Walkers. But the Wall it seems everyone starts from scratch.

@K4113B4113 8 жыл бұрын

Well you could, as a poor commoner, reframe yourself as someone important by speaking and dressing like one

@kingharry3260 8 жыл бұрын

That's what I was thinking watching this. Tyrion always gets out of trouble with promise of money and his reputation for being rich. Without that leverage none of this will work.

@kingharry3260 8 жыл бұрын

+K4113B4113 This is underhanded but works. I have a friend who picks up women this way. He's not great looking and only makes around $30,000 a year but he bought one expensive outfit and fake gold jewelry and watch and goes out and tells women he works for a modeling agency. He even has fake business cards.

@mythologic 7 жыл бұрын

Charisma on Command ... great presentation. This is truly power. One of these days you should have a presentation on how good people can overcome bad, manipulators in the workplace, school, and anywhere in the most emotionally intelligent and of course neurolinguistic way possible. Peace! Keep you work coming. It is simple, but brilliant.

@mythologic 7 жыл бұрын

One thing that is most powerful in your presentation is your acknowledgment of options and understanding what you can do to survive.

@Charismaoncommand 7 жыл бұрын

Appreciate the feedback. Always open to what you think we're doing right and what we can improve.

@mythologic 7 жыл бұрын

Charisma on Command ... thank you! I am just inspired to speak my mind here and to point out things the very best I can. Like I have said on your other posts I have had the honor and blessing to have worked with someone to notice and work out these things too, so I get it. I just hope my comments are pertinent and that any suggestions makes the grade so you can modify anything you plan to present in the future. Peace!

@Marzeliax 6 жыл бұрын

Moar Game of Thrones related analysis videos! I'm having a marathon of them. This has consumed my evening. Seven blessings!

@matthewkevinobispo6582 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for having these videos. You connect fictitious characters' behaviors and relate them in real life... Well done

@kauiahsing-gray8550 8 жыл бұрын

Great video, great channel in general. Teaching people to interact thoughtfully... Arguably the best use of KZfaq I've seen to date, and some of the best work I've come across in terms of breaking these concepts down into basic terms. Respect.

@RainAngel111 8 жыл бұрын

This channel is pretty amazing... These are lots of things that I sort of recognized on my own but it's cool to see them put into words in a more understandable way.

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+RainAngel111 > glad you think so! Thank you for watching

@mistyculous9644 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, using an author to illustrate your points makes sense. Have you read Maria Konnikova's book: "Mastermind- How to Think like Sherlock Holmes?" She shows brilliant problem solving mastery level tactics and how to embody them as you seem to be teaching here. Highly recommended author.

@JC-ks3yk 2 жыл бұрын

My favorite, snarky rejoinder to an insult is, "I've been called worse by better." It disrupts, flips, and may even elicit a chuckle.

@cakewatcher 5 жыл бұрын

I LOVE this channel and your videos! You could give lectures! This information should be...commonplace. This particular video is vital for people in oppressive or controlling relationships... I know most people would say to just get out of those relationships. However, many teens have controlling parents or teachers, employees controlling employers, or a new marriage where you're learning and choose to work through problems together. Someone can be a naturally controlling individual and not necessarily someone you should run from. I fully appreciate your continued presented options to stand your ground in a constructive, consistent and confident way. Truly, I thank you.

@paxpacis2 8 жыл бұрын

Well it also helped that Rob's Wolf wasn't a little puppy anymore

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+paxpacis2 Yeah, I think his handling of insults really shows how he matured as a character

@RyanSaplanPT 8 жыл бұрын

Informative and entertaining

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+Ryan Saplan Fat Loss Strength Coach > Thanks for your awesome feedback! :)

@MegaInitiative 5 жыл бұрын

A frame is a pattern formed and established by a particular sequence of an experience. One needs to be creative and think outside of the box to break out from these patterns. Creativity is the key.

@0ctatr0n 11 ай бұрын

Good advice that segues smoothly into the "click here now" pyramid scheme at the end

@matthewbittenbender9191 4 жыл бұрын

“I drink and I know things.” Tyrion is the man!

@DreamerEternal 7 жыл бұрын

Great video. When it comes to any literature really, including sci fi and fantasy, they are all based on human experiences and interactions. They can all be symbolic for things we can recognize in our lives. So yes, please continue making these videos. They are very enjoyable :)

@tomdmann 2 жыл бұрын

This is the channel I've wanted my whole life, loving this content!

@leahrose5425 3 жыл бұрын

In my opinion this is no question the best video on this channel. I have used what is taught here several times over the past few years to my benefit.

@buckluster 8 жыл бұрын

I wish Charisma on Command would do a video on successful sarcasm. Sarcasm can be a huge turn off and super charismatic types like Will Smith and Dwayne Johnson are never sarcastic. But others - Kathy Griffin or Chris Rock or Amy Schumer, for example - can pull it off.

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+buckluster > Thanks for the suggestion. We'll keep that in mind! :)

@InevitableTruthTeller 4 жыл бұрын

I utilize many of these techniques by instinct. I fear learning them, as I will then start to think about it too much, and possibly falter. I think I developed my instincts by being raised in a household of temperamental bullshitters. I was always on my toes. I feared angering people and had to appear as though I bought into their lies. I would then, by necessity, have to unravel some of those lies, while allowing the bullshitter to feel as though they were still in power. It was a horrible childhood, in most respects, but a hell of a street wise education.

@qwerty1994ize 3 жыл бұрын

Perfectly said. Bravo.

@mistyculous9644 2 жыл бұрын

I've heard it said that brilliant, creative problem solvers are created from people who had thorny issues in childhood. Just so you don't go seeking out people who treat you badly, because it feels familiar!

@ericrood4100 2 жыл бұрын

I've seen many examples of this, but never became aware of it until this video. Thank you so much for the analysis

@owayneorlando104 Жыл бұрын

It’s absolutely Amazing the way you break it down

@lollynone1108 Жыл бұрын

Yes, I love these videos, and thank you for them! I know you as a brilliant writer, and value your views here. As a thrones geek, Ive seen and enjoyed these segments without articulating why. So cool!

@alexandru2882 8 жыл бұрын

Yes, please make a list of persuasion tactics with contra-arguments and resolutions.

@Charismaoncommand 8 жыл бұрын

+Alex > thanks for the suggestion. Will keep that in mind! :)

@nguyennguyencuunguyen4544 5 жыл бұрын

Wow...I’ve never commented on any KZfaq video but I MUST with this video. The nuances and subtitles that you have amazingly articulated are super helpful as well as enlightening. Aaaand subscribed!