My husband died a few weeks ago, he meant the world to me. He started some building work on our house but got too sick to finish it. Like I say, it's only been a few weeks and I have decided to finish what he started, I'm no builder, I am in my 60's, a rather round woman and not in the best of health but I need to do this, I watched a lot of How To videos and I'm starting the work today all on my own which is what I want to give me time to think and time to do. Thank you for these inspiring monologues.

My father committed suicide more than a year ago, and it is just destroyed me. Even after a year i felt like I'm living the life in the wrong way. That's me who find him in a rope, and i accepted it. Rationally i know it, but my heart was feeling different. After that, my grandma died. Almost a year since the death of my father i broke up with my girlfriend. A lot of things happened in such a small amount of time, i can't even describe it all. But, what does not kill you, makes you stronger. Listen to your mind, listen to your heart, listen to your feelings. Learn to deal with problems, not to avoid them by being attracted(in easy ways: phone, procrastinating and so on). Thank you for your beautiful message Dee. It's a nice experience for me, to find out the person like you. Because, I'm from different country, with different culture and it is interesting to listen

If we knew how normal it is to feel like this we wouldn't feel so alone, or ashamed. We think there's something wrong with us and that no one else feels like we do. I've learned I need to intentionally create balance, it doesn't just happen. When we're struggling mentally we believe we don't deserve self care, I was never taught how to look after myself and my mother didn't model self care either so I had no way of learning how. Nature is medicine. I sit for at least 30 minutes every day listening to the birds and the trees. Magic! ✨✨✨

I love hearing your messages sweet lady. I recently bought a bike with a basket for me and my little terrier, we’ve been enjoying our rides at the park in the evenings after our work day at the computer inside, it is nice to get out in nature.

Thank you for being you, ma'am...with helpful motivational support. CBF.. Brandy, DE

“Live in the moment and allow yourself to be”. Such good encouragement!

I recently lost a friend and I repeatedly ask myself what I could have done differently and my daily routine and chores have been thrown off quite a bit. It’s taken a little while but I’m seeming to finally let go and get back to stability. Your videos Dee are so very encouraging and you somehow always have a piece of insight when I need it. Don’t ever stop updating the channel Love you Dee

Hamster in a Wheel,love it,exactly…inner anxiety and panic attacks need to be resolved

Grounding ourselves is so, so important. You are so right!

My dear, I accidentally came across your video about a week ago. I was immediately impressed by you. Your voice was very soothing. I decided to follow you. In the last few weeks, I have been feeling very bad in my body, more precisely in my head. I felt like I wasn't doing anything well, like I was standing still, in some vicious circle. Constantly dissatisfied with myself. Tired and exhausted all the time. Everything you just said in this video has been running through my head for the past few hours. An hour ago I decided to change many things in my life, to put myself in focus, not my obligations. Because I can't go on like this and I don't feel well anymore. Physically and mentally. After a long shower, thinking, and crying, I sat down at my desk and went to KZfaq to play some light music for the rest of the evening, and the first thing I came across was this very video, which was published just 15 hours ago. Thank you. This is a wonderful sign to me that I have made a good decision and that this is how it should be. God bless you, dear. I will remember you and I will pray for you.

Thank you Dee for balancing my skew-wiffery for today. 🦋I will get back to a bit of my crafting today 🌺🌼🌸x

We say skew whiff....and we're London born. I wish I'd learnt about balance earlier in my life. Feet on the ground. Hands in the soil. Fresh air. Be beside (or in) any body of natural water. Animals. Laughter. Singing. Any creative activity. Meditate. ❤❤❤❤

Thank you so much Dee for your helpful advice on self care and balance! You do make me smile! 💚🙏🙌🍀

I love listening to your talks! May you Always be blessed. 🌹🌿

Thank you Dee, I love your helpful comments. My favourite old saying from my Mum is, “ Oh don’t be a ninconpoop “ love it.

I love dragonflies. I recently found out that they eat mosquitoes. How wonderful is that?!!! I, at this moment am doing a balancing act. My little furbaby of 14 yrs is feeling really awful today. After her little walk this morning, I found her just laying in the floor. That is not her way. She is a very active little Chipin. My tears have been nonstop. I feel like this video gave me a bit of strength and comfort. Thank you so very much Dee.

Thanks. My dad recently got a diagnosis of lewy body dementia and it's rocked my world off kilter. Meanwhile it's valid to be saddened by the news it's also important to try and retain some sort of balance.

Thank You for the reminder Dee❤ Working on and allowing for balance helps me be a Thoughtful gardener, joyful crafter, thankful birdwatcher, and a peaceful painter.

Hey Dee, I really appreciate your videos🤗 As a guy in his early 30s this is so valuable❤

I love to be out in my garden communing with our Creator and His creation but sometimes when Ive had a bad blow I just like to let myself go and rest a day or 2 and recharge before I can get back up and rebalance. I used to stay down for long periods of time. I used to shame myself for letting myself stay down at all. Now I know it is important to allow myself a bit of melloncholy and a small period of time to feel my true feelings and not just pop back up and dismiss myself and act like its all ok when its not. I no longer care what others may or may not think about my doing this. For me it is an act of self care and love that only I can give myself. After doing so, I am able to return to my happy, peaceful self and continue on in my life even though the problem may still be there . I know I have a choice to say " You can't make me happy, and you can't make me sad, you don't have that much power ". Only I do and I choose to make myself happy . Thanks again for sharing your thoughts !

What a delightful way to demonstrate balance. Thank you

Wonderful advice! Love hearing from you today. Sometimes good advice is good to hear over and over again lol. I think getting out into nature is always a great reminder when everything is going off kilter ❤

I really needed a beautiful message like this today. I appreciate your gentle and kind words.

…ilay here listenin 2 your sweet messages, nd ifeel ok! lately jus feel rushed,anxious, kinda unsure about what I’m doin n life, icame across ya channel few weeks ago nd when idid all types of thoughts about da beauty of growin older, thank u 4 your encouraging words, ur very soothin 🙏🏾💜

Just what i needed Dee! Thank you.

Thank you so much Dee for this video, this is exactly what I needed to hear today, I'm physically and mentally ill, I'm in therapy but it looks like is not working for me. You made it so simple for me to understand what I need to do, and I'll do it for sure, thank you for sharing your wisdom with us, you must know that all of us appreciate you so much. I'll be waiting for your next video, you're helping me very much ❤

Skew wiffery is a very apt term. I've been there too. And that hamster wheel only looks like a career ladder from inside ❤

You look great. I love listening to you. I just turned 80 and I am still learning.

Amen and bless you, dear lady!!! ❤

144k ❤ that number! Thank you 🙏🏾

Wise words Dee. My garden is my sanctuary and I surround myself with plants and flowers, so calming and relaxing. Thank you for sharing ❤

Good Afternoon Dee, You are a Ray Of Sunshine ,Thank-You for being you, 💐💐💐Mike

Morning Dee you are a ray of sunshine ❤ My life is “ askew “ at the moment. Thank you for your words of comfort. Have a blessed day. 🙏🏻❤️xxx

really this video found me at the right time, Thanks a lot Dee💖💖

Lovely shirt!

Thank you.. found it uplifting listening to you today…have felt myself spiralling down today..so this has helped xx

Dee, greetings from New Zealand. I'm new to your channel. Thank you for passing on your wisdom. Today's message is apt for me at this time. Cheers.

I love all the Cheshire / NW England sayings it makes me think of home and my mum and dad ❤

Thanks Dee 🩷

Sometimes using our tool kit seems like too much effort…but it’s then that we need it most! Thank you as ever Dee for your kind reminders.

You are the best ❤ thank you for your message

Thank you x

I love dragonflies 🥰

Thank you sweet Dee. Really needed that. A couple days ago I noticed that I was really mentally exhausted and was feeling angry and tired all the time. I decided to have a little “rest for the mind” and boom, you post this. Thank again, keep making your videos. Sending love. Любовь!

I been looking at your videos since last night and love it, it has help me think about my life and I want to thank you for it. I just subscribed to your channel to GROW more and be a better person for my self. Thank you again and God bless you .

I live in the South of England and I use "skew wiff" and "colly wobbles" too! ❤

A very interesting video indeed, Dee. Just been out for a walk and noticed many things that I wouldn’t have done before. Thank you. ❤❤❤ Did have a little giggle when you had to clasp your hands 😊

Oh dear Dee. I believe you’re a bit psychic. I was outside watering my plants around my deck area at dusk today. Today was an ok day. Paying lots of medical bills is exhausting. Paying all bills is exhausting when I’m running very low on funds. But…fed all my cats…inside and out. Accomplished a few things. Back to the watering of plants. I looked up saw a bunch of dragon flies flying around up high. About 5 or 6. Maybe a family night out for them. Just zooming around. As if they didn’t have a care in the world. I was mesmerized watching them..then they all kind of took off in another direction so I couldn’t see them. It’s amazing, to me, that you’re showing those beautiful dragonflies..and talking about balancing (with which I seem to have a slight problem doing). Btw…someone on another KZfaq channel is feeling a bit down. I told her the name of your channel. Hope that’s ok. Your gentle way..your wise words…your calm, lighthearted aura…..I think she might benefit from watching your channel..as I and so many others are benefitting. Thank you. So very much. I simply adore listening to you and watching you. You radiate peace, light, gratitude and love, in my opinion. And we need more of those qualities radiating in this weary world. So thank you again. 🫶💫✌🏻❤️❤️❤️

You look lovely today Dee. ❤🎉

thank you

Thank you Dee

Oh my gosh - I'm so happy I clicked to watch this morning - my father who passed away in 2020 gave me one of those wooden dragonflies, he got it at a garage sale - I cherish it now! To see you pull one out seems so serendipitous! and your words of wisdom on balance and the hamster wheel ...so timely for me - thank you - . I wish you the best.

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I have not heard about left hand writing before. I may try that as I constantly feel stuck on the past and become very easily upset.

So helpful thank you

Beautiful bird 🐦😍and wonderful balance talk🙏🤩

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I'm American, and I had a funny grandmother who used the word "collymobblus" as a catchall word for any minor illness. I think her ancestors were English, so maybe there's a connection to "collywobbles" there.

Catch it while you can. Awareness:) Unfortunately my challenge was about decluttering but I am sure my recovery is under way. I go to the race tracks and volunteer in a wide open park with others . Next time I get the sheep of fortune, I will think about having to declutter later and that’s my change and direction:)

cheers DEE 🥰

Dee, could you possibly do a video on how to make amends and let go of the outcome?

You always seem to be on a topic I need help with:))).

U r awesome dear❤❤❤❤

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A light hearted comment: Going with the flow and ride with the tide... I do believe one must continue to strive for what it is that propels you forward in a positive way... Balance if defined would encounter many strong points of interest all leading to how you apply it... some moments of the day you may accept the sunshine and the rainbows, I must also accept the thunder and the lightening.... Sorta the mantra turn that frown upside down... can create harmony of great blessings the words of encouragement like 🎶 musical notes dancing on the page...Your flower arrangement are always quite lovely on display...Cheers! From me to you. 🌬️🌹🕊️🌟💌

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I love being in private 😢

Speaking of crafting (and unlike you, I no longer like it but…) how does one make those dragonflies? Am going to google and try to find but if you have a link and would be willing to share. .

I noticed you said 'clients.' Do uou mind me asking what you did?

It's to bad you probably don't live anywhere close to me. I'd cut your firewood. It's a different muscle group than the one I usually use. I could probably do that for a good long while. My legs have the scewwiffery. I walk too much. That's why it's hard to get to the store. As for Ballance, I could work in an office but I don't know anyone in their right mind who would hire me. It's really too bad cause I am very good with computers. Or maybe the recycling center. I can still stand I just don't want to go on long marches.

What's your advice if you cant find more happiness.

Good morning✨have a nice Friday ı am glad knowing you 💐You help people who need it🤍

thank you