If someones absence bring you peace, you didn’t lose anything.

How to know you were cheated on by a narcissist: A narcissist will cheat on you and then tell you it was your fault.

Narcissist's cheating is the next level of cheating. They will actually give you hints that they are cheating just to mess up with you!

What amazes me is how QUICKLY the narcissist can respond with gaslighting. It's like an instant reflex.

Being cheated on by a narc is being cheated on at another level and their cheating is justified & always YOUR fault.

"I said I was sorry! Now get over it!" Yes. I'm lucky to be away from that narcissist.

It's harder to tell when a narcissist is cheating bc they're always emotionally distant and treat you the same shitty way. Even more so when cheating I guess

"I can't be truthful with you because you would act crazy if I did." THANK YOU! This is exactly it.

My ex blamed his cheating on me... every time. He would say things like "if you were meeting my needs I wouldn't have been talking to anyone else" or "She's just a friend!" I'd say "If she's just a friend, why are you hiding it?" He'd say "because you're such a jealous person!" Always turned it back on me!

Rejection is God's redirection. It's a blessing to be rid of these callous souls! They are not people of light.

I found out 4 wks ago that I had been cheated on during my entire 13 yrs relationship...I thought I was gonna die of heartache....2 wks ago I discovered I was with a textbook narcissist for 13 yrs and it completely changed my perspective on being cheated on..... at first I was devasted thinking how could he cheated on me when even told by him we were 1000% compatible sexually and never deprived eachother.....but finding out he is a narcissist....It didn't feel as an attack on me as a person as a woman...I just saw it as this is what he does, he is gonna do it to anyone who is at the wrong place and the wrong time, like I was....I no longer saw it as a personal betrayal towards me...and THIS CHANGE OF THOUGHT HAS MADE MY HEALING MUCH EASIER.

Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator Metaspyhub@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...

Both ex-boyfriends cheated and still, to this day, said they never did, even in the face of evidence. I often think that they believe their own lies after awhile.

"See? this is why i didn't tell you about it. I knew you would react this way" - precisely!

What's really disgusting is the person that they are cheating with and how that person becomes their partner in crime...

' Remember that when someone cheats on you, it' s not because you're not enough, it has nothing to do with you, it has to do with the person who is making that choice. ' For some reason I really needed to hear that, thank you so much for your videos.

"If you were enough..I wouldn't have cheated." I finally realized there NEVER WAS anything wrong with ME

I'm wanna write a book on my experiences. It sounds screwed up, but had he not cheated on me, I would still probably be with him trying to bend and contort myself into something acceptable to him until I was completely broken.

My ex husband denied he cheated even though I'd SEEN his emails! Still denies to this day and trying to worm his way back. Jog on buddy 🤣

A narcissist will always make sure that it's with someone you know personally or have heard them speak about in the past like a coworker. I think they get more supply from thrill of cheating with someone who you're aware of.

I’ve been cheated on by both. Equally as terrible when you find out, but at least the non-narcissist allowed me a little bit of closure. The narcissist never even acknowledged he did anything wrong.

Every single manipulation tactic all but implies the use of the lying tactic and the gaslighting tactic. I actually dislike it a little calling out gaslighting as a manipulation tactic as it's actually an effect. All manipulation tactics will contribute to it by nature of what manipulation is. Some tactics however certainly take the gaslighting effect to a whole different level. Blatant lies that are so bad they insult your intelligence is one of them. That kind of shit will make you feel like you are in the twilight zone after a while. Here are some of the reasons they do this: To test their control. To feel superior and/or entertainment. This proves to themselves how much control they have over you. In the end, you will give up and you will not leave (trauma bonded). In the process of getting to the giving up stage, you will go through some pretty nasty emotional states ending in massive amounts of cognitive dissonance to swallow all of that. Cognitive dissonance is a trauma defense mechanism where you essentially lie to yourself in various ways so that you can bring back some semblance of equilibrium to the insanity you find yourself unable to escape from. As part of the ‘backing you into an emotional corner’ tactic. This is a tactic where you are manipulated into being emotionally unstable inevitably leading to you losing your shit. This gives the narcissist a big dopamine burst, they feel powerful and superior having so deftly controlled you and manipulated into this emotional state. To finish the little game they play, they make sure to point out how unhinged and unstable you are and suggest that perhaps you need help or medication. Of course, you will internalize all that shame and guilt and the million other raging emotions they have created and swallow all that essentially allowing them to scapegoat their blame and accountability onto you. Bring on some more cognitive dissonance and gaslighting effects. To condition you to expect less respect, and ultimately put up with more abuse. You will tire of the inevitable circular argument trying to convince the narcissist of the blatantly obvious lie and eventually find yourself challenging them less and less as you subconsciously accept the fact that if you do it will just make your life and emotional state more miserable and you will be denied the satisfaction of any kind of ‘win’ even if it is easy to disprove. This is part of the domination process and makes sure all the power in the relationship ends up with them by the end. To turn your mind to mush as the gaslighting effect takes hold more and more over time. This makes you even easier to control. Many times while easy to disprove it requires some kind of concession of some obvious truth that the narcissist can just doggedly refuse to agree with or remember (‘the intentional forgetting’ tactic and the ‘feigned confusion or ignorance’ tactics are often employed for this). So, in fact, it is not so easy to prove when the narcissist refuses to correctly remember what happened 10 min ago or accept sound logic or reasoning. You will just turn blue in the face trying. Of course, in some cases it is indisputable. A phone log or something. My experience is when this kind of stuff happens it wasn’t their intention typically, although sometimes it was. But in these scenarios, you will typically get some sort of angry ‘invalidating’ tactic, with some good old ‘manufactured rage’ and ‘intimidation’ tactics to ‘put you on the defensive’ and get you more susceptible to further manipulation. Maybe something like: “Get over yourself already” followed up by some ‘blame-shifting’ tactics with some good old ‘guilt’ and ‘shame’ tactics, like “Why the hell are you spying on my phone records anyway? What kind of relationship is this? I don’t have any privacy? I don’t know if I can do this anymore! You have major jealousy issues! You need help!” You will walk away as the loser either way. There are resistance tactics that can be used but this is a very difficult tactic to deal with and it is one of their favorites. I won’t get into the counter-tactics here though. The only way to really win in a relationship with a narcissist is to leave them and go no contact. Moreover, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you I genuinely appreciate how incredible you are and your work! Thank you for a job well done Metaspyhub@gmail. com,,

Cheating is evil. It happened to me once and was life changing. I got rid of the "cheater"!

I eventually felt grateful that I was cheated on by a narcissist. - I got to learn the tricks, lies and excuses people make while cheating - I got to practice approaching and catching cheaters and the people they cheated with - I experienced pure evil, which made me appreciate every single good person I knew even more The great thing is, when a narc cheats on you, it's not a surprise. It should be expected/predicted. Cheating for them is as normal as not cheating is for sane people. It would have been much worse if I'd been in a happy loving relationship for many years to then find out that my partner was a cheat.

Married to a covert narcissist for 30 yrs, heard him talking on the phone with a woman about their relationship and how they're going meet again. Left me in shocked and devastated and to this day traumatized. When I told him about what I heard, his answer was " my fault, I talk loudly", not even a hint of shame, not an ounce of respect for what I could feel. Even that he felt entitled. I filed for divorce.

I’ve found you can confront a narcissist all you want they will make up any lie they can and will NEVER admit that they did it or say it wasn’t their intentions. You will never get an I’m sorry I messed up because that would mean they would have to take accountability

18 years and a divorce from a cheating narcissist... and this video made me sob. It hit home... and so validated my pain and sense of betrayal. Thank you Dr Ramani from the bottom of my heart for being a voice for my feelings.

My ex literally said after we broke up because I had a feeling he was cheating on me (he later told me he was): “maybe I just kind of lost interest in you because you don’t like watching horror movies with me” wow... literally something an actual child would say

"I didn't want to tell you because I didn't want you to be upset"

I had one who couldn't admit it even though it was clear. No remorse, no apology no guilty at all. Denial denial denial......

That’s why I left 1 year no contact and no longer looking back I own my worth my dignity and self respect I love me in a healthy relationship with myself

It scares me how accurately this describes my exact situation. Like every single word is spot on.

If you don't get the apology, if you don't get the vulnerability, if you don't get the wanting to work on the relationship after cheating is exposed then you're sadly with a narcissist. They feel entitled and you finding out is a major inconvenience to their needs. Don't give them a second thought, they never did about you. Don't try and save your relationship, they never gave a damn about you or your hurt. Heal your inner critic (super ego), set your boundaries and disentangle from them. Everything they say from now on is for their benefit not yours.

My relationship with my narcissist ex ended due to cheating. I felt like there were multiple times where there was emotional cheating, but I was always treated like I was crazy. I would be upset and he would pretend to not know why or treat me like I was being too emotional/crazy (basically gaslighting me). I found out that he had sex with someone two after he came to visit me at my apartment. I asked him why and he said it was an impulse and a plethora of other excuses. I am an empath, so you can imagine how traumatic that was for me. It has been 4 months since it has happened. I am healed a lot, but my heart is definitely still raw regarding how things ended and the horrible decision he made that ultimately ended our relationship. I hate him for it, and I am working on that. Cut him out of my life and working on myself.

I laughed when I saw this and thought surely Dr Ramani would talk about the serious gaslighting situation where he tries to convince you, YOU are the one cheating! Now that shit messes with your mind! You really have the feeling in fact you Know they are cheating, but they are starting abusive arguments regarding YOUR infidelity... Knowing it's not even possible. Crazy😨 If any of that sounded familiar to you, RUN, RUN Away from that person and FREE yourself!

My first, narcissistic husband SCREAMED at me for "being nosy" when I found love letters from his girlfriend. Ah, only a narcissist can be that cruel.

"You weren't supposed to find out....I'm so sorry". Instead of saying I'm sorry I lied and cheated, I should have never done it. I didn't feel bad or guilty while doing it because I loved every minute of it. I would have never have told you if you didn't find out. I won't do it for a few months until I earn your trust and then when you're happy and enjoying life again that will be my cue to do it all again....and again...again because I'm entitled to. And the cycle continues......

Mine never admitted it.... he’d scream at me how I didn’t trust him and was paranoid. He’d get mad at make me feel bad. Still I almost felt like maybe I was wrong. It went on for yrs.... but there were so many clues.

10 years of marriage... and this brings me to tears because this is EXACTLY what Im going through. Just trying to end all ties at this point

This is exactly what my ex-fiancé would do! Also, I always felt like I was worth nothing due to all his flirting, attention seeking, and micro-betrayals with other girls! Thank God I was able to see the truth and get out, 26 days away from my wedding I left. He said he didn’t even care..... all those “I love you more than anyone else in the world” meant nothing! It all makes sense now because narcissists can’t love anyone or anything over themselves. I feel bad for narcissists, what an empty shell of a life they live, crippled by low self esteem under all the false pride and ago.

"Remember its nothing to do with you " :) Yes. Thanks doc.

"I didn't tell you [that I was cheating] because you get so crazy and I feared you would hurt yourself or worse, commit suicide" I'm sorry, what? So going behind my back and accepting the risk and the inevitable consequences makes it any better? I wish I knew sooner, I'm so glad he is out of my life.

This is exactly what I experienced. He was exposed and he wouldn’t allow me to be hurt and wanted me to just get over it and never speak of it again. My feelings weren’t validated and it was ALL about him!

I just want to be with a normal person..

My wife has gaslighted me so terribly that I has doubted my own reality. She never has admitted even though I seen her at his house. She went at me told me I was hallucinating and I’m crazy and how my kids are asking is dad going crazy are we going to have live somewhere else. She pushed literally to the brink and acted like she’s done nothing wrong. It’s pure misery

Marriage just seems like a narcissistic prison sentence lol no thanks 😂

My ex narc was caught texting her ex bf from our own bed. She changed his contact info, thinking I wouldn’t recognize his initials if I saw them. I also know that she initiated the contact because he was blocked for a long time prior. When I asked her why she reached out to him, she said “I missed his friendship.” I told her “well I think it’s time you missed mine for a while.”

I reflected so much on this and that's why I'm no longer a supply...discarded yet again for the third time because he refused to acknowledge that he cheated, I found out and I was hurt. I cannot begin to mention a million mistakes made in the past that he used to justify it. It was exhausting and even more painful.

I wish I had a dime for every time he told me- OMG!! GET OVER IT ALREADY!! It wasnt THAT bad!! Its not like she meant anything to me!

because of the emotional abuse followed by the cheating, I honestly have no desire to endure another human relationship. yes, there may be loneliness, but being alone feels so much better than the emotional torture I endure with the a-hole narc.

This is a really excellent contrast. Cheating is a deep wound by itself in a relationship. Add in the narcissistic pattern of invalidation, control, possessiveness, rage and treating their partner like a transaction, and you're talking about relational trauma that takes years to heal from. Dr. Ramani, your videos are a gift to the world!

One thing I have learned from all the narcissist I have been involved with throughout my whole life is that I will NEVER trust another man as long as I live

“Look anyone is better than you. I never said I was dating you. You’re crazy and I want nothing to do with you!” - what my Narcissist told me when being confronted.

A narcissist would say: "I cheated on you because she is more beautiful, more hot, more experienced than you are." He would say this right in your face and then sit back and observe every little sign of pain he can notice. He will see you as weak for being this hurt, and he will inform you that after all it is your fault anyway: you should have tried harder to keep HIM around. And he will take pleasure of feeling his strength and how well he has managed as your world falls apart. -

I think a major difference is that a regular cheater will give you the “it’s not you, it’s me” speech. A narcissist will NEVER blame themselves, it’s always going to be your fault.

If anyone is wondering if a narcissist feels remorse or guilt for betraying you the answer is NO. They have been doing this their entire life in every relationship they have been in. It’s second nature to them

I found out my narc cheated on me a week before Christmas. He ended up telling me that it was my fault he cheated. It was my fault because he wanted a baby and I didn't, so he was gonna go get a baby somewhere else. If I just got pregnant he wouldn't have strayed. Though it hurt at the time and I still think about it from time to time, I'm grateful I never had children with him. I don't think a baby would've stopped his cheating.

Is it me or has narcissism become more pervasive over the past fifteen years?

Nailed it 100%. He said, “You didn’t provide an atmosphere for me to be honest.” Blames me for his cheating. “You don’t handle the truth well. You need live in a way that inspires me.” Once I educated myself through these videos, I realize how absolutely unbelievable it is! Oh, and you’re right about the difference. Genuine apology VS what I got, which was, “I might cheat again if God doesn’t do a work.” I can’t even imagine a real apology. Hard to believe it’s real.

It's not only me going through this. Oh gosh......I'm a person who got lost in all these kind of gaslightings. Confused, lost my whole self,and gladly found this channel. Thank you Dr Ramani.

It’s the gaslighting that takes place with the Narc cheating that’s the worst

Omgoodnesss! The excuses of the narc are EXACTLY things I have heard! "it's in the past. I dont do that anymore." Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight..... Dr Ramani, it is as if you were telling the story I have been living. They TRULY do not care how they hurt others, especially their partners. It is sick and they need help. They do not think so, but they really do.

Normal cheaters come clean, narcissists gaslight you and say it’s all in your head.

Omg. Everything you said was on-point. It’s like every narc uses the same playbook. Verbatim, step-by-step, all the boxes checked. It’s sickening.

“It was only once” hahaha said the serial cheater

My ex never cut off the best friend of her's who had a crush on her. Instead, I was made to watch a play where they kissed while she wore a wedding dress, she then put more effort into their friendship than our relationship, then she left the country with him to London, Canada and New York for a university trip, while I just had to sit and watch as they posted photos together. While she barely called and would hang up on me to go hang out with him... Finally, I broke up with her. Months later I asked if she slept with him at all, she said yes... Because "I left her"... She left me long before I broke up with her... GASLIGHTING ON STEROIDS

Very true --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------I have been here for quite a while and it’s safe to say cognitivehacks@yahoo.com can be trusted when it comes to getting things like this , I’m not sure I want to share what he helped me with to the public but take it from me , it came out way better than I was expecting. Very resourceful and confident and trustworthy , I owe a lot to him to be honest.

Thank you Dr Rahmani for explaining the difference between a regular person who cheats & a narcissist who cheats. This helped alot. The narcissist will try to destroy you & not think twice about it. They have no sympathy for hurt they have caused you & what makes it worse..they will turn it around & make it your fault. Absolutely insane. God bless you for exposing the narcissist & helping us to understand that this is their problem.

Where as a narc-hole will say things like why are you so jealous of "insert the other persons name" and put you down, while building them up all while calling you crazy for accusing them of cheating.

My BPD Covert Narcissist said "You asked me, and now you throw it back in my face."

The week my ex’s emotional affair became a physical affair, I was going to be out of town. He told me his ‘friend’ would be in town and that they were thinking about having lunch together and ASKED me what I thought. I knew they had been texting a lot and it was a pretty big red flag, so I told him lunch didn’t seem like a good idea. So he did it anyways. They spent the whole weekend together. Even after I discovered the affair, he refused to cut off contact with her and defended it all of the way to our divorce.

I understood what kind of marriage relationship I was losing when my husband, who was then with the previously married woman he had been cheating on me with, came over to the house to get some of his stuff. We have a son and were working out the details of our legal separation. I told him that the cottage that we had owned when we first married had gone up for sale. "Oh, maybe I'll buy it," he said. "I don't think she'll appreciate living in our first home with you," I countered. "Well," he said, What she doesn't know won't hurt her." It was then that I realized that I had been that "she" for the last thirteen years, and now it was someone else's turn.

Thank you. I feel so validated just hearing this. When I was a child my father cheated on my mother and she used me as a confidant. Later, when my narcissistic boyfriend cheated on me it was very traumatic for me and I scolded myself for my extreme reaction. Just now I really realized that it had opened this old childhood wound and my feelings aren't that abnormal at all. So again, thank you. You're really making a difference.

I had some early red flags and I tried to break up with my partner and leave her in a positive light. But she would draw me close and saying things like “just trust me!” I fell for the manipulations and crocodile tears and trusted her over my own gut feelings. Eventually it got to the point where I was feeling like “no this is all bullshit” and I caught her out. I know it sounds strange but I don’t see anything wrong with not trusting woman anymore. I trust my own gut inclinations and feel that trust isn’t just granted but has to be earned.

I love how you mentioned Friends. I'm trying to keep my distance from people who love that show. Two narcissists I know were watching it repeatedly over and over and I think they love that show to convince themselves that their behaviour is acceptable.

Getting cheated on by a narcissist is more pathological

I was cheated on by A Narcissist boyfriend. I found evidence of the cheating, which a normal person couldn't deny. He continued to lie to me about cheating. Eventually, he became more sneaky about his habits.

My ex was a narcissist, but he would tell me when he had cheated, over and over again. I never showed any feelings, not in front of him.

This is exactly what happened in my last relationship. He never truly apologized. And blamed me for bringing it up again and again, and that we should move on ( it was never healed or truly dealt with, he basically never took responsibility... And looked for a reason outside himself that it happened). Finally one day, I understood everything and left. He tried to hook me in again with some sort of contact, but I have been persistent. I clearly told that this was it and goodbye. This was 6 month ago now.

I was HORRIFIED when I found out not just about the cheating but the extreme gross ways they acted. The things they said. I have no idea who that person was. This person was not a person the represented themselves to me vs others. They lie about EVERYTHING. They were anything the other person wanted them to be. It’s so sad that you have to completely change yourself to be liked. I refused to take on anything negative. I’m a kind patient person. I will contribute to be a nice, kind and patient person always. That’s their baggage. The self hate is also something I can’t understand. Now they are fat and old. LOL. I’m in my physical peak and I’m making 10 times more money. I took the time to work on me while they are the same person. I now know how to understand and read red flags. They will always be the same. Take all that motivation and work on YOU. Get out when your ready and you can be happy. Yeah yeah I know you saw yourself with them forever but you create your own future. I wish you all the best. You are worth it!!!

My narcissistic husband would say"that's the past ! " Can't you quit living in the past and move forward !?" Uggggg

One of my favorite lines after I found out decades of horrible betrayals on every level: “What are you not getting!?!??? YOU weren’t supposed to KNOW!!!” Classic. Sadly not surprising though. Painful and bizarre as usual, but I love it because it’s one of those times I saw clearly how deeply entrenched he is in his own self-serving, false reality and distorted “reasoning” and pushed me to finally leave him.

Narcissists will even cheat on you with your best friend in front of you. I think they do it because they know it will hurt you to your core, and they like inflicting that pain (at least mine did). They enjoy knowing they’re destroying your relationship with your friend. It’s like taking everything away from you. I wouldn’t ever stay with a cheater again, not even if it was only one time.

He actually tried to apologize when the girl he cheated on me with cheated on him. Saying he realized how I felt- no, I doubt he could understand.

This is the most appropriate video I have seen. Thank you for clarifying and making me feel like I’m not crazy

I don’t want to be with a cheater. It’s a deal breaker. The other stuff is bad, it’s annoying, but it’s tolerable in comparison to cheating.

My ex didn't cheat on me but he used to tell me how easy it would be to do so but that he only wanted me. He said this often as if it was a compliment rather than just another way to build himself up and say how wonderful he was.

I’m in love with and trying to leave an abusive narcissist and I grew up with an abusive narcissist parent and I wish I would have known I was more susceptible. The lying but masking it as love is crazy they are so smart. You feel guilty wanting to be enough for them and sometimes enjoying them and just loving them so much, but they will put themselves first every time. I started therapy yesterday this video is validating thank you for putting this out there 💗

When I called my wife out she went wild sent me a text saying “ came to the realization that I never really ever loved you” so 14 years was one huge big lie! Cut deep and still does

Thank you so much. I never knew my ex was a narcissist, because it was 40 years ago and I am just learning about this now. But, like my father, my ex was a cheating, gaslighting narc. I spoke with him recently (after many years of estrangement) and he said he has never done anything in his life that he feels bad about. Wow!! Knowing just some of the things he did, I began to get a clue about who he is. Now I know - he's a venture capitalist narc. He was horrible to me. He can be extremely charming and charismatic, and he cheated with ALL my friends to the point where I didn't feel I could have any friends, all the while gaslighting and denying and making ME wrong. His favorite phrase was "Don't make such a big deal". Thank you Dr Ramani for saying that my feelings are important and valid. Having grown up with a narc father who despised me and wanted to kill me, followed by my first romance with my narc ex husband, I have never been able to trust a man again... or anyone for that matter. I can't imagine what it would be like to be with an honest, loving, supportive man - that is a total non-compute for me. Actually, I can't imagine they even exist.

When I can't get to therapy, I have Dr. Ramani❤I can't wait for the Toronto date.🤗

Thank you so much for this! Betrayal is so shocking and damaging to self-esteem.

Dr. Ramani, Each and every single video you uploaded I listen to it everyday until I feel better. I’m fresh out of a narcissistic relationship and it felt like I was fighting for my life. A long a hard fight that I know and am confident I am going to win even pushing out the self doubt. I love how you give insight and make me feel comfortable and aware that I am not the one that is crazy. You are a life saver literally. Thank you so much for your hard work. These videos will always be my holy grail. ❤️

This is so painfully accurate. Thank you

Even today I feel it was all my fault why he left me.. that's what narcs do. Make u question your own soul!

Watching this was like a free therapy session. Thank you Dr.!

Thank you so much for outlining this very real distinction. The cheating was bad enough, but the gaslighting and denial (even in the face of the evidence) was even more frustrating. The lack of remorse was plausible. AND he had an incredible porn addiction - I'm off to your next video on this very subject!

Just hearing “you’re hurt and you do deserve to talk about it” was like a big hug. It’s hard to get over the past when they have so many triggers and always schedule an unnecessary fight or silent treatment through the week. Brings you right back.

My narcissistic ex husband, after I managed to get him to admit that he cheated on me, said... she was the love of his life... while I was JUST his wife...😶

Not sure if my boyfriend is a narcissist or just have narcissistic traits, but this describes 100% how I felt when he cheated on me. I thought my experience was the normal one. I still struggle after almost a year and he has no remorse, no guilty conscience, nothing. The fact that smiled when he told our friends he cheated and he doesn't feel bad about it, made all of them soooo uncomfortable.