Abhilash Maurya couldn't agree more

@Liberal Larry - One thing I've discovered is that typical affirmations and that countering technique you describe, are not very effective for those of us with PTSD (either simple or complex). That is because the oppositional dynamic of "no I'm not!" / "yes you are!" is acutely familiar to anyone who's been traumatized by gaslighting. So for example, my personality disordered relatives have a tendency to alter recollections of past events to suit an agenda, usually to not make them look bad and avoid admitting some shitty behavior. So it can take the form of them just changing some not so important details at first, like what time you ate at, and then before you know it, they've just completely altered the whole chronology of events! This is important, because especially when trying to untangle the kinds of bizarre arguments one gets into with Cluster B personality disorder people, the exact sequence of what occurred is absolutely crucial. So, I've spent a lot of my time (until I stopped bothering) having insane arguments with relatives insisting on some dumb detail of an event that they're getting wrong, because I never know where it's going to lead. I know that I can't give an inch and must refuse to even consider that I might have been wearing green shoes or whatever, because it's a slippery slope and ultimately their objective is to get me to agree to a falsehood. So my point is that if my interior dialogue says something negative like "I'm an idiot" and then my affirmation training chips in with "no I'm not! I'm great!" or whatever this is a recreation of that denial / insistence endless circle I experienced when resisting gaslighting attempts. When you said "it is a constant battle", that is exactly right. However, it's very exhausting to engage in that back and forth. My research led me to Neuro Linguistic Programming and how people with (C)PTSD have to be a bit craftier with the affirmations and trick their mind by using very convoluted syntax that disengages that argumentative thing. Example: Inner voice say's "I'm an idiot!". Response goes: "I know that I know that that negative thought is just an old reflex habit that stems from my trauma and lack of self-belief and I know that I know that I can change that self-belief" - and so on. For some reason just that phrase "I know that I know" does something to the brain where it de-personalizes it and then when you go on to dissect what is actually happening cognitively it dis-empowers the negative thought and you stop going round and round. I'm probably not explaining it very well but Richard Grannon (the Spartan Life Coach) has some videos on it if you search him plus "blue belt affirmations" or you can write to his channel. I have tried it and it is amazing how quickly it diffuses the negative thought that usually I would just be getting into an argument with myself over and exhausting myself with the battle. So, I have no idea what your background is or if you would have a reason to have PTSD, which could be from family of origin, or military service, or surviving an intense accident, or witnessing a suicide or any number of things. Being a child or parent of of or in romantic relationships with someone with Cluster B personality disorders can definitely create Complex PTSD. If any of this "shoe" fits, then maybe check out the NLP style affirmations and definitely give Richard Grannon a look in. Best of luck!

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