Funny fact, there was this hottie in my gym, she was a stunner for sure. I was so into her but she didnt send any choosing signals ( yeah i used to be that guy) And one day i grabbed my balls and approached her, and everything worked perfectly fine, and she became my girlfriend eventually. For my surprise she said “ i have a crush in you too, i was just waiting you to approach me”.

If men weren’t simps this wouldn’t be an issue. But there are too many simps that make women feel more than they really are.

women can not handle rejection, that is way most will not initiate a conversation. as a man all you have to do is to create an environment where a conversation can happen, that is why preselection is very powerful too.

Very true. I got a girl from my gym by simply giving her a high 5 as I walked past her. She gave me a nice smile because she wasn't expecting it and I got her number before I left.

The thing is they (women) want leverage because everything is like a game to them. When you go up to them and ask them out, they have the power now to do what they want with you. And if you have a relationship, that power carries on with them into the relationship. You will find you losing yourself as the relationship goes on. It’s all about power bro. Not because they’re shy or scared. The other content creators emphasize on this power dynamics more then the approach.

Eye contact is an automatic response to stimuli. They don’t consciously decide to make eye contact. If they find you pleasant to look at, their attention lands on you without any conscious thought. However, they can also feel intimidated by your attractiveness and if it’s intense enough they will not make eye contact because of subconscious feelings of unworthiness. Proximity or constantly putting themselves in your sphere of observation is also an indicator of attraction and them wanting to grab your attention, and communicating their attraction in nonverbal ways.

I get your point, it makes a lot of sense, given that at a certain level of beauty, women become extremely demanding. However let's get into the philosophical and self-loving aspect of this whole point you made. If you don't care about any flirting signals from women, then I ask you - What about your uniqueness? if a woman won't show any specific interest in you, that means she's just expecting any Handsome guy with confidence to approach her, therefore it's all about ego and looks other than "hey I gave you signals because I want you and not Any guy, I like your smile, the way you talk to people at the gym, your charisma and I wanna get to know you better". So accepting women who won't flirt specifically with you, it is accepting that there's nothing genuine and unique about yourself, you're just another gym dude that she just wants to pair her look with. Doing that aren't you jumping head-one into the superficiality, inflating even more their egos and perpetuating a nonsense and egoistic one sided mating dynamic?

Wow I love the perspective of this. Often would feel down on myself if I wouldn’t get any signals when I went out despite the fact that people would call me handsome or attractive. Thank you for this explanation bro love the videos

It's been a loooong since I saw so real-life and down-to-earth advices on this topic.

My point is that there aren't many attractive woman around. today they have to many options so when she gets bored of you she just has to open her phone and go through her list... getting with woman is easy but finding a good looking woman with morals and values who is interested is like winning the lottery nowadays

Ive never had to pursue a woman and never would. Remember WE are the prize.

Honestly, I only do warm approaches. I think choosing signals occur subconsciously and therefore, difficult to hide. I get looks and smiles everyday. Obviously you still have to approach, and two of my ex gf I met at the gym. Different rules for different men

At the gym, I have a mind frame where I'm there to workout so I'll ignore everything going on and focus on my workout. What I noticed by ignoring women is it just makes them want to get your attention even more. The gym is a risk if you decide to hit up a female because of society nowadays, people right away will think you're a creep and there's cameras everywhere & people love to put everything on social media so beware.

Very good video. I've always waited for choosing signals so i "don't waste my time." You make very good points on why that statement is bullshit. I've been called handsome all my life & probably missed out on a shit ton of opportunities because of that mindset. Great work.

OMGGGGG I knew I could not be the only one experienced this

True. Yet unbelievable - how grown ass adult women still behave like school girls and rather pass up "the love of her life" than at least give clear signals. And they vote! And we're supposed to take them seriously? 🤦‍♂️

Extremely quality video man. You earned a sub

Haven’t finished this video but I just finished another. No ads or pushing anything in my face. Honest channel

At the park the other day, a woman I found very attractive came near to sit on the grass in the shade. She sat in such a way that exposed the bottom of her thighs up to her glutes while wearing a dress with a long slit. Legs Towards me and a group of strangers near me. I looked at those guys thinking "do you guys see this?!". Both her and I were wearing sunglasses so no eye contact was possible so I didn't think it was for me and attempted to act nonchalant while facing away. Then, she got up and walked away. about 50 feet away she turned to glance at me and i was pissed at myself. It had been a loooong dry spell and I wasn't on the lookout for chicks and wasn't expecting it by now. I realized I was wearing my flashy but cheap Armani watch with an expensive pair of sunglasses and that's what probably did it. 😢

Needed this. Recently did a couple cold approaches in the new year after never trying them before (clearer choosing signals like eye contact and proximity) and even though nothing aside from conversations came from them they’ve made nights out more fun. Your videos have been great motivators man thanks and keep it up

Thank you for this information and great content 🙏

Thanks Danny, you have a fresh point of view at many things...i would suggest you talk about pre-selection in future vids. Looking forwrd to it.

my brooo your content is spot on all this is real life

So Danny, I’ve always had an above average dating life. And I’ve always had girls waiting for me when I wanted them. And given the success I’ve already had, you still teach me things. Your advice is sound and I think you are the future of this type of content, and that great things are waiting for you in this way.

You have keen insight and interesting thoughts on the issues.

Bro speaks facts! Thanks for your video!

You've such a charisma

Yeah. I’ve had multiple women do the weirdest shit in the gym. Ive had two girls dance/pose in front of me and they’ve given each other piggy back rides while looking over at me. I’ve had some follow and stare at me like a creep. While my brother has had multiple women talk to him first. (Not the most attractive, but definitely bold). But yes you need to talk to them. Nothing will happen unless you talk to them first. Most women are not risk takers and cannot take rejections.

Great content

Your content is very well done. 💪🏻

Her eyes will always tell right away. You want to see what her eyes are saying. Vital communication.

Great, intellectual content, no cocky bs. Greetings

Sometimes when I think about pursuing a woman I remind myself that I am not done with the body yet, loneliness is bad, but not reaching your goals is even worse 😊

you know it brother

This is a interesting thought and it really makes sense. As a handsome man I know I intimidate most people both women and men. I have just walked up to women without any signals and actually pulled her I expected to get her that was my mind set. Thanks for the reminder

Excellent

What you told me about the girl in the gym working out around you and walking across the gym and back to you reminded me of something that happened to me at a gym in Kiev a couple months ago. A girl was sitting down taking a rest between sets, and she was a good distance from me. I was on the lat pulldown, and a few times I caught her looking at me from the corner of my eye. But the main give away was she was a good distance from me, and she had at least 180 deg to face her body while sitting, but she was facing directly towards me. That's a sign-her body pointed towards you or leaning towards you.

Thanks for your wise words. It's very true. maybe we are the actual 'prize'.

Choosing signals appears to be safer for men and will prevent them from getting into uncomfortable situations!😮

Do explain the approach!

the fact that there is 76 likes, makes me question life.

Quality content

I'm really confused about where I stand in the attractiveness scale, but I really like these videos. The thing you said about women you are not that interested in saying all this stuff about you being attractive is true for me with older women. They're always all over me and saying that I must pull like crazy and all this stuff. Oftentimes I can see how some girls trip over themselves when interacting with me like this one time I just said hi to a girl at work and she was super taken aback lol. Or other times when girls get really shy (I think) and look like they're not that interested but I feel like they just get nervous, especially not so traditionally good looking or hot girls which I sometimes find very attractive. I think the not waiting for choosing signals thing is spot on. You have to make the first move.

It is time for the FRAME video that you mentioned a couple of times!

Yeah but here’s the thing I don’t care about their beauty it doesn’t affect me.

This is why I don’t cold approach girls anymore I used to do this whenever I saw a cute girl that I found attractive didn’t wait for the right moment or perfect thing to say to her I just made my move right away before it was too late

Looks are subjective anyway and waiting for choosing signals makes you a passive man with little to no experience with women . A lot of guys dont know that when a woman gives a guy choosing signals that actually her cold approach figuratively so if you dont approach her she takes it as rejection , so sometimes women try not to look at you as because they trying protect their ego .

This is true especially for Latino and Middle eastern guys because we are so used to signals due to how our women take a look or smile across the bar. In US women don’t show any signals at all. But then after the first date they always say things like, “when I first saw you I found you very attractive” which is still crazy to me. So I always assume attraction even tho sometimes I’m wrong.

I approach hot women. I understand the choosing signals as a way to determine genuine desire. Not about confidence or game playing. Either way relationships are risk, and men make the biggest sacrifice. You miss every shot you don't take!

Content is gas def going to blow up

Dang ppl are actually intimidated by me. This is still growing on me, this realization based on a lot of the things you said and others on here. That's why having sensory acuity and good verbal skills and intellect are essential to navigating confusing situations and playing out the highly positive traits you are expected to have w/o anyone making mention of it at all.

yes. They look for validation. I discipline myself to not look @ or give any compliments to good looking women. They keep crossing and walking back into my path and looking into glass windows or looking back to see if I checked them out. It's funny.

My experience thought and reality of on this bro if you see a girl you like you want go approach her you can't wait for choosing signals. But guys don't go out there just approaching any random women u appear needy weak ect. If u like her go for it but you're a prize men after working on yourself girls are naturally throw themselves at you

Their idea of an extremely bold obvious move is to stand near you at a bar with their back turned, hoping that you will start trying to talk to her. Grow up ladies, seriously

Yup. Its always the 5s-7s that make the first move if that. Never the 8s and 9s. They wont show interest first until you do. Hit the head of the nail with this one

There were those women for real who look from distance,but when its close neither looking and smiling regularly nor nothing, BUT in real life having children or boyfriend, hell even some of them had a fuckboy. And for women who dont do 50 % of the work which is the reality not to blame themselves for being single and leftovers. Both happened in work environment and in gym. And thats the thing they think if they simple give you few lookings from long distance, theyve done their job while the reality is they have done nothing. The positioning herself happened as well but as said when you make your research and there were never smiles,direct looks at the same time having a kid or boyfriend,or just a fuckboy worst of the worst thing youd want to find out, shit aint happening when no effort is being put. Gladly ive met a girl who wasnt from the types above,never been happier nor regretting anything and when it comes to past its easily being burnt just like that without looking back. At most to burst out in laugh.

lol yes. This is true. I remember I was called a "Well-rounded d**khead" by a girl before, who thought I was a player and wanted to play her.

I get that choosing signals is a waste of time. But once you get it before you approach someone, that is going to last longer than the one you approach first. Because a lot of women want to be chased for life.

Back in the 90s I see your point, but with all them feminist we have now, mostly here in sweden. There no idea doing it

I'm apparently attractive, but I don't like talking to people I don't know. I've been approached by attractive women before, but I'm so annoyed by it that they pick up on it and don't try long. The only way I've been able to meet women is when it's kind of a situational conversation.

You right they wonder why you talking to them and perceive you going pump n dump them , that hate, but keep getting rejected is what I discovered the main thing that destroys man confidence is rejection.but you right it’s a numbers game . But I also seen guys who don’t try and get them and they not even trying to get chicks , I know females smell east pray

Just for context, women before this shitty era used to put a lot on their part and actually had 'game'. Not to say the advice isn't good here, but let's not give them such a free pass pretending we just have to work around any crappy behavior they dish out.

you are going to blow up, keep working sir

Men are the prize

I disagree the hottest girl I ever had a chance with dm’d me on instagram after taking it off tinder to make sure she matched with me. Like you said they will think in their head your levels above them and some of them will find ways to slide in your dm to get you to notice them. I will agree tho most if not all the times they will do the least possible to let you know. I stopped caring about them tho so unless she makes it obvious or i really have an interest in her i move on not wasting my time

I think I am giving that thirsty aura with respect to comments of my last gf and I dont have any other girls that want me. What should I do in general ?

Problem with no waiting for signals is that you might face consequences, even as an attractive guy, there are no universal chance that every woman is into you. Would most women be into you if you have classic good looks as a man (tall over 6 feet, not fat, good looking facial structure, deep voice, charisma/charm and good personal grooming and hygine), yes but it is no guarantee. Most woman that dident like you would probaby still let you down easy because you are attractive universally but some might actually see it as a chance to really fuck with you, for that reason alone. Calling the cops on you for sexual harassment, filming you and making a fool out of you online (i've seen this happend to many I would consider highly attractive men). Thoughts?

Be interested to hear your opinion on older guys and younger women, just for casual. I get a lot of significantly younger women eyeballing me at the gym but I dont want to be the creepy older guy

Its also hard to be friends with girls their bf seems always uncomftable his gf being with you as their gf have a romantic feeling for you

If you go for the girl who is in the gym with basically no clothes and a full face of makeup, you're in for a life of misery

I honestly wouldn’t make the first move if she has not giving me choosing signals or any indication signs or signals she has not given me i personally would wait if shes given me choosing signals if she has not even bothered looking at me I take that as a sign ok this girl is not interested in me

Truth is, if you WOMEN want a man you're looking at... ..do NOT give "subtle hints". Just talk him up. It isnt worth it for a man to take a chance with you, especially if his gym membership or his job is at risk by you gossiping about turning him down.

I fear we are delusional.

Doesn’t work for me. Hasn’t and won’t work. I’ve always made the first move and got rejected. Never waited.

But these things you were often describing are choosing signals, bro. Any guy with experience with women will know their choosing signals are minimal and barely nothing. You have to have the knowledge to interpret what is what. As you said, especially if you're remotely attractive, you'll experience these things. Though these are not NO signal at all. And occasionally, it's even okay to just go, but in that case, you also do a small choosing signal, and wait for hers. If you throw the first move... in a light manner, and see nothing in return, then you know.

I'm not saying i'm wild handsome, but with choosing signals it seems like you're more likely to get them from lower value women "on average," but since I'm not getting them from higher value women it makes me think i'm lower value, I don't necessarily believe that but it can be a good excuse for yourself to not engage. I know that's the art of approach anxiety, hvm, riz, etc. & kind of what helps girls filter through the cowards to find the masculine, damn it's confusing tho.

I have a near total rejection rate. And I’ve approached countless women. I eventually stopped approaching and guess what happened ? Nothing. Nothing changed.

yup, there will always be more male wizards than female wizards because how the state of affairs have always been like this

Where TF were you in 1978 when I noticed this trend of girls coming up and loitering near me, then after a while getting really visibly PO'd before storming off. *sigh* So many times. I figured they were just freaking nuts. I'm joking of course. You're a young guy. IOI's are a valuable tool but as you point out they do have limitations. However, even hott girls are prey to their impulses sometimes. One very interesting thing I've noticed: The Head Snap. If you're looking away from them they'll sometimes take a good long look. Then when you turn your head towards them they'll quick look away, way away from you. But usually about 90 degrees. That does 2 things. Gives them cover for their embarrassment, BUT also allow them to see if you actually look at them in return. I have NEVER seen a woman turn completely away in these cases. I have experienced both of these literally thousands of times. If it happens to you too, you're handsome. Internalize it.

Danny ‘hairline like Lebron’ Vera

This has not been my experience. The more attractive you are the more choosing signals you get and the nicer women are to you in all environments. Intimidation is only potentially a factor if its a sub 7 woman, youre not going for them anyway

Women automatically assume im a player. But its easy to get 1 night stands, or hookups but some girls are insecure around you. If your an attractive fit man

I get choosing signals and looks all the time it is just the hotter the girl the more they try to hide it 😂 The hottest ladies in the gym in my area

Lota dudes here with profile picture apparently identifying as attractive. Gents, some of you will have to face reality: This video is not about you. You are not handsome and it doesn't help denying that.

This Advice is literally for everyman In summary men Approach every woman you want and don’t want for choosing signals

even the most beautiful women have extreme insecurities.

I hate simps, but I will stand out myself. I'll try my best to not be like them.

Or, they just don't like what they see. Just as I, and I'd guess everyone else, do not keep eye contact with women I don't find attractive, I do not look at them at all and if my gaze happens to meet them I keep on looking past them, I do not keep my gaze on them instinctively, so do women. Why would a woman who doesn't like what she sees look at me for any amount of time longer than the time it would take to recognize what she sees? And to reference situation from another one of your videos I saw earlier today, if you get compliments from people you know but they aren't consistent with what you see from strangers, I'll disagree with you and say it's probably because the people you know give empty compliments to make you feel better and not because they mean it. Any compliment that comes from a friend or relative has no real value, they're just being nice because they know me, if it's a guy they're just trying to hype me up and if it's a woman she's just being nice from a safe distance because she believes I won't turn around and show interest in her. Basically, any friend of mine telling me I look good is as accurate as my grandma telling me all the girls must be chasing after me...

im 19.Should i chase girls?

I want to give this advice some interest but it’s tough coming from a guy who’s not objectively attractive. Idk if he’s 6’4” or something but his face is not attractive so idk how much of this is bs

Attractive guys can also pull the no-effort card when they find a way to release more pheromones.

Yeah, pretty women have confidence problems too.

This is all pure cope. As a handsome men, you don't have to do anything. This guy thinks he's chad, but he's far from chad. And women are NOT intimidated in 2024 lol. You really need to be almost perfect for women to be intimidated.

Dont know what youre talking about. It happens quite often, that a girl approaches a guy that is hot, not only for me, but you see it in public places too somewhere, you see it in the gym, you see it in a café, you see it in a bar. If youre grown adults, as society calls it, I would rather say, "ready", yeah, it shouldn´t really matter who does what. Idk this dating advice is pretty childish, no?

Remember this is only for handsome guys the 9s and 10s (that is why he keeps repeating that)anything below that is,well go approach,the girl's expression of disgust will tell u all about it.

4:20, 6:00, 6:50, 9:20

Females b suppressing guys confidence in the approach field most time

i subscribed since I wish this video exited a decade ago.

If she likes you she will get into your orbit

Frame what a stupid thing.