That's partially true, we all need external validation from people, we are social beings not lone wolfs. Human beings are not like cats, you need a pack at the very least if not a love interest, your pack being your family and friends for instance(those still give you validation and positive reinforcement.)

To: "He's not necessarily lonely, just alone" My Question: Who is he? Every person feels differently...... However, being alone can feel lonely at some point because we are human-social beings, whose brains naturally need healthy commection and also touch, tenderness, exchange, security, closeness and appreciation. Saying: Alone is not lonely is - sorry - a no-brainer/rationalization 🙂

Know thyself. That's all we need.

you try that 6 years straight.... your shit is lonely

On point. But people get the wrong impression and think you are a loner when you just want to be alone

My story is quite similar, I was an obese kid and got to the hot guy patamar to get judged all around. Quite ironic right??

Same for me bro. People are insecure and good aesthetics brings that out in them. Not much we can do.

100%. When you become a better version of yourself, good looking and successful in business, be prepared to “lose” 70-80% of your normal surroundings and situations. Envy and resentment in a form of phenomenon called schadenfreude will develop. Stay strong, keep your boundaries, don’t change the course. It always gets worse before it gets better.

It's like when David Goggins said: "They had sh*t to say when I was fat, and now they have sh*t to say when I got in shape.

Spot on, got a very similar story. I keep meeting some old co-workers at the gym, some of them straight up ignore me, some of them frown at me, guess who actually had a good talk with me? Another good looking guy lmao.

exactly bro, this !!!

wow very true!

F’ng aye accurate.

Just be what they can’t have 😁

Yes, they like their traumatised slaves. They hare "equals" who see no reason to submit and therefore won't. Useless to them. They want to someone to boss around and psychologically abuse who won't leave the second he realises how much of a self loathing, self destructive, weird and creepy liability she is.

Just live life on ghost mode

@@jaacripKna don’t. Looks can get you far if you have charisma along side of it.

I go incognito ​@@jaacripK

Very true

​@@jackward770that's actually part of the problem here and why a lot of people don't like those who are very attractive. I don't respect anyone who just expects to get whatever they want because they're good looking. You have to have personality. Otherwise you're just a mannequin with a pulse.

Few will understand this

Have always done this. Almost purposely maintained a low key oblivious nature to women’s interactions. I never saw the point in doing some jester dance approach to women. I just treat people as people. I think it throws women off because they think I’m flirting or expect flirting when I’m just chilling

Great Insight

There are definitely some better than others......alexander the great types of course

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16

I'm particularly annoyed at how the average guy looks at you, even ppl u'd think friends. It's especially an issue if you're a pretty "bro" type and and seek to get-along & cooperate rather than compete over women ( I hate this behavior so much, idc how natural in the animal world it is, we CAN and SHOULD be better) , heck some gaming sessions on a night with the boys is still one of my fav activities now in my early 30s ~ it's like sacred to me, hah, but there's the odd out-of-place jab related to physique or even typical gay-jokes towards a straight guy because he tries to maintain stay fit & healthy. I just try to mildly laugh it off but my god, is it eye-roll inducing. One of the worst things for me is seeing a guy, whom you've been seemingly on pretty good terms with, and you even talked about the issues with relationships nowadays, even agreed on the vanity of a lot of women, will quickly sell you under the rug the 1st chance he gets if a situation ever arises where u'r having an argument with some woman he's into and take her side in the hopes of getting some ~ doesn't even matter if he fails or only gets something short term, he's willing to break a friendship with you just for the chance. Then I'm left sitting there dumbfounded, one more layer of innocence regarding how I view the world being peeled, and realizing these guys too, are as shallow & vane as the women I mentioned. What makes it the worse is that you thought you came to a common understanding, and you'll not fall for simply tricks and sell your bro for a slight chance for some puss, not even great puss, but pretty MID one to boot, and yet White Knighting & Simping rules supreme - as a result, it also further servers to overinflate the ego of these women. And with women yea, it's exactly as you said. They want to be the priority, so while yea, they'll be more attracted to you if you're attractive, it seems as if it's like a cardinal sin if you ever dedicate more, or even an equal amount of time to maintaining yourself rather than making sure she's getting her needs & wants.

Holy shit you just described my life. It’s as if I turned 20 and suddenly turned from Prince Charming into a goblin in terms of female interest. I always see them staring with a blank look on their faces. Plain fucking weird. And then if a approach which I don’t do often as I’ve lost confidence in it, suddenly the interest is gone and my back starts to hurt from carrying the convo

be my friend lol, 28, tech engineer. I've settled w/ just being by my puppy lol

same here, except that ugly/fat/old/drunken/slutty women are totally into me without any shame. I get my butt grabbed and asked for a dance by them all the time. however, the hot ones are usually acting really hostile towards me (with rare exceptions). it's like they feel ashamed to admit what they really feel so they over compensate by treating me like I was nothing to them.

lol bro you aren’t handsome, women would be nicer to you. You were staring at them like a creep. Big ego dork 😂

When you are chasing success, you have a tendency to have a super small circle of freinds!

What happens is you end up on dating apps, you set up dates then you cancel on them, because it wastes too much time, you just wanted to know if you can still swing, if you can still pull

Great undiscused topic, and very true. It happens !!

Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose. -Yoda

Basedus Aurelius

Yeah gotta ditch those losers.

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16

@@paulbrolly5421I appreciate these comments, I’m going through this now with two former friends that always try to bring me down, talk about “money” and mock me it’s funny honestly but it’s hurtful how they have switched up. Luckily I have other friends and parents that are very confident as well and aren’t toxic af

And most of it is subconsciously while u re conscious

SPOT ON!

Beautiful women hate handsome men even though they have a pretty similar experience

100%.

Preach brother.

All thanks to social media

Yeah..

I agree born 1985 😜

Good one :)

Notorious female insanity. Don't even ask for explanations because they don't even know.

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16

@@Eunjiiimo2 Amen Brother. I repent from my last comment I’m a sinner. God decides for us we have corage and will. He is lighting us the way all the time. But we do not have the courage sometimes to do what has to be done. The world needs to get closer to God. God is the answer.

This comment is cringe. Do not waste your life in trying to seduce or whatever. Just have courage and be honest in your words. Amen

Bro you are cringe

The grass ain’t always greener my boy.

@@r.i.proach7135 are you saying you’re ugly and being ugly isn’t great? Sure, I’ll grant that, being ugly isn’t fun. But hey at least ugly people can gripe about it without sounding like a narcissist. There’s even a whole genre of content made to help ugly people feel validated, it’s called black pill

Wow, that is interesting

Actually, I can relate and I'm 57 now. Maybe I should just accept it all and get laid.

Agreed, except... you may never find your own tribe. You may just have to go it alone. And learn to relish being hated.

Well said

Be comfortable being uncomfortable.

When you are very good looking man, you will never have a tribe. Your only tribe could be your own family (wife and kids).

im in that boat. ive dumbed myself down to gain acceptance from ppl. but i need to get better friends. tnx for the reminder

@@sumgi1537 Its not worth it. You need to find better friends that will value you. they are out there. Stay Smart!

I am guilty of doing that. Especially at work. I am decent looking, intelligent, and introspective. My idea of interesting topics would be religion or philosophy, or books that I have read. But usually my male coworkers are just into the predictable stuff, like sports or movies or video games. Or they just spend a lot of time goofing off. I sometimes feel that if I don't dumb myself down, people will judge me as being too serious or quiet, or of not wanting to associate with them. But then once I dumb myself down, I end up overdoing it, and then people no longer take me seriously.

110% not worth it. Currently recovering from 2+ years of that bs. May you strive on your journey brother. God bless

@@TONYACEB CHEERS brother! Cheers to us waking up and knowing we are just built different!

Hi Dan I just wanted you to know that women also feel lonely, thanks for your input I found it to be very helpful, I’m not sure of how easy it maybe to remind oneself,but U R right at times God keeping others away is helpful.✌️🦋

Seems to be how it is.. would like to find a calm woman not in a hurry.

@@alexgramm5170 hi Alex just got your text, u R sooo right! Taking time is everything, when we rush things many times it don’t work out right ✌️🦋

Other men shit on you cuz deep down they’re worried you can steal their girl.

So true bro, we can’t help how we look.

Word up bro, just keep moving.

It’s why I have one close friend who is also attractive, it means we really relate and just help each other out.

​we CAN control how we look. We could easily stop eating healthy, exercising and dressing well and be losers like the rest of them. That's why they try to shame us, to keep us from shining so bright.

I'm simple. If I see a tall jacked dude entering my friend group, I will fight him, even if I lose multiple times.

I can help you get uglier, bro. Buy my course on Getting Ugly for only $6969!

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One thing I don't understand is how can a guy as tall as you be that lousy at basketball?

​@@Craigshaw497 im 6'6" and it aint easy lol.

Dating is too much fucked up nowadays anyway

You should get to know Coach Corey Wayne’s work that will help you understand why they say that.

Bro u have too make comfortable reassure them that ur really interested in them

Nah, Corey Wayne got all of his stuff from Patrice O'Neal and still isn't as good. Patrice is the king of understanding women and relationships.​@@ralf4k

Less attractive people love searching for & pointing out any minor flaws that a G/L man might have. Once I had some cuts & scratches on my hands & arms from doing some yard work, the first thing this cow who I thought was my friend said to me was “not so perfect now are you?” WTF! - needless to say, I don’t waste my time doing anything for her any more.

In order to be successful at something, you need to be disciplined. Which means using your time wisely. Which means spending less time with friends or staying out late. Which means being alone more often. Yes, it is a lonely path, because very few people are disciplined, or are able to appreciate the amount of work required to achieve goals.

Took the words right out of my mouth!

even your family, its really sad but seen it too much

It's kind of crazy because i feel like most of the women I come in contact with are always so standoffish. Most of the time I find myself sitting alone in crowded places with women only staring at me awkwardly

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16

U R so right! We all have problems,but those we can try to find a solution to. Feeing human this U can try to fix, do U like pets?cats, dogs 👍 they R great companions plus soothing of your soul ✌️🦋

@@thegoddamnkash so sorry to hear! im sure if U try to approach 1 that U like with a smile & a hello they should reciprocate. Don’t allow yourself to give up on love, ✌️🦋

This indeed. Everything he says is so fucking accurate, it should be a crime really.

@@tbbb-rh7mui swear , especially the part about us being logical so we are extra confused by women not giving us the time of day

Lol

yes but better than being in a toxic relationship with a narcissist! I learnt the hard way.

Give Jesus a try, brother

You have a weak mentality if feeling lonely makes you feel pain. It’s better to be lonely than be with toxic people

😂story of my life, might as well change my name. All you needed to add was how they add a derogatory term at the end of telling you to remain silent such as 'buddy, mate or pal'

@@noglobo haha yea

That goes both ways. I've tried chatting up guys who are really attractive and they've acted like they would have preferred I not done that. Nothing at all weird on my part either, just general hey how's it going stuff. And I know it's just tribalism stuff on their part, because I wasn't on their level.

@@BigBadJerryRogers I think that most of the differences are differences in common interests or a common approach. You may be handsome, but all you have is your appearance as a status to benefit from, but the meetings remain superficial, while the majority get to know each other easily, as if they had a common code. ... I always see people laughing and getting to know each other. Most of them are normal in appearance, sometimes less so. When I talk to them, I feel like I have entered a room full of shy women, due to the extreme silence and pretense. Some of them are very nice and pretend, but as you said, they act as if they wish you had not spoken to them. ... To add, in recent times I have begun to notice that the secret to belonging is sometimes the lifting of formalities, and I personally set limits with my seriousness in dealing.

@@yvesalya3914 well that's part of what I was referring to, you have to be easy going if you want anyone to respond to you and be willing to engage with you any further, that goes for everyone regardless of looks. Nobody wants to have to work to talk to someone, so if you are humorless, give nothing back in trying to be easy to talk with, people are going to not bother. Never be too serious unless it's required.

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16

I don’t think this matter or implies to women. If you are a beautiful woman, no way men will ignore your especially rich men. Unless you have a bad attitude(excuse me for this ). Men really experience this. I’m a good looking guy and I relate to this. I don’t know if it’s because I have a sigma personality.

I have never related more to a comment in my entire life. Recently went on a date after almost a year of isolation, girl tried to come onto me and I stopped her because I like to go slow (we met legit 2 hours prior) she got mad and had me take her home. I’m pretty sure she wanted to smash and then ditch me. Sounds optimal to some dudes but I genuinely hate that and just want a good girl friend that I can enjoy life with. Almost every girlfriend I’ve had has been shocked of my interest, and then extremely jealous, distrusting of my intentions, and overall belittling because they think I’m on some high horse. I constantly feel the need to belittle myself before others can get the chance to. It’s honestly miserable at times.

Im the most attractive i’ve ever been in my whole 22 years…random girls compliment me alot,something that never happened in highschool,only towards the end when i started really being into self improvement and girls will be like “u look like you have hoes”…that time im so alone😢

Too relatable minus me working with the normies

I understand the struggle, man. Can't talk to anyone without them thinking I'm sleeping with a bunch of other people at the same time. The intimidation of showing the "I don't care vibe" really resonates as well. Hang in there.

​@@jefferyepstein399A girl left me because I wouldn't be official or forthright in asking her out, cos I said I wanted to get to know her over 6 months.

I am ridiculously handsome, a decent looking coworker just told me out of nowhere that i would be too short for her to date me. I am 6’2 by the way. Its like they know that they have no chance so they are coming up with excuses for themselves.

I think we need proof you are ridiculously handsome. Just typing it on KZfaq doesn't prove it. Not wishing to be harsh but anyone can claim anything online. Doesn't make it true. And the number of men that would be considered ridiculously handsome by both men and women is, in my opinion, a very small amount. The world is not full of ridiculously handsome men. They're probably less than 5 percent of the entire male global population. Maybe smaller than 5 percent (depending how good looking - for example 9 out of 10).

@@YTguySmithy-lk6go You are right, just changed my profile pic. Also got a modeling contract, but have to make weight since i am walking around 215lbs.

@@Isikkkcan I’ve had that one too, bitches who don’t even know me or anything about me, approaching me out of the blue & telling me that they wouldn’t date a tall/v.attractive/muscular man. Wtf? I tell them that I wouldn’t date anyone who is totally insecure about themselves.

@@Isikkkcan Women also use excuses to not date when they aren't attracted. Saying you are too short is obviously a lie. I see many chubby and average looking women with handsome guys

I think we feel lonely because we think, since we are good looking, our significant other has to be at least as good looking as us. But good looking women are really hard to get. At least a quality one. Which means we have to either settle or be alone.

@@nerychristiannot just lonely in dating, but socially in general. It's hard to create friendships at least for me

@@VisceralCarbon Well, men tend to be solitary creatures. We tend to not have many friends. Just a few close ones. But I think it's normal for it to be more difficult to make friends once you get older.

@@nerychristianwell said.

@@nerychristian facts

Harsh truth

I personally get a lot of women that are just trying to just fuck. As long as I have her in my presence alone, it’s already going down. Keeping the women around long term is where the challenge comes in.

Hi there Michael, I just wanted to reach out to let U know that it’s probably because U R a very nice looking young man. U look like my son, stay true to U the right girl will come✌️🦋

same here bro 27 and it's been the most lonely

You’re not that handsome

@@smartwater598 oh brother I wish, at least I’d had no problem with blaming myself for not using my potential

Adapt or die.

@@DechessPlayurrrwholly fuck that’s legit.

well if she implied that maybe she wanted you to do that and start a harem? anyways you guys dont realize the power you have over women always can get another woman

Hello there, as I scrolled through many quotes I found yours and interesting enough my attention was caught by the statement of being U being some sort of freak! I just wanted to let u know to please

Ooops sorry please don’t feel this way; as a woman who has been through much of what u have been through as well,if U can get pets & also try to volunteer some of your time at pet shelters or other places it may help soothe the feelings if u need to reach out like this platform it’s ok to allow others to care 4 U ✌️🦋

Groups of young men always harass me, whether I'm walking or cycling. But when I walk straight through their groups, like cut through them instead of going around, they say less or nothing.

I had one actually end it with me because she said she thought I had in her words a “haram” Truth was I was only seeing her

Dosent seem like they are that independent strong women end of the day, if they cant stay with you. I thought everybody were more into having good looking partner. I wouldnt get no insecurities for having good looking partner, when if its average looking. I wont even be that intrested on her. Funny how women make fun off ugly guys, but at the same time too insecure to be with preatty guys. Kind of ironic.😂🤦‍♂️

Well it also could be that these women only see you as a ken doll and nothing more. A lot of men don't want some relationship with the girl they see at the strip club either.

@@richardince2129Harem*

it's because you date down

Totally! It took me forever to get there but now there agree

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16

THIS!

Dude stop that. You 'people pleasing'. You don't have to do shit! Fck those people who go against you because you just exist. How are you to entitle yourself that YOU have to lead anyone? Just do what you love to do and don't give a damn about what any sheep thinks about you. I can just tell you out kg experience. I'm a very attractive man myself and what you say reminded me on myself years ago. It is better that nobody likes you, BUT respects (and fears) you. When you look good they gonna like you anyways. Remember that!

Please stop doing that as a guy in 2024

he's just being kind

Hahahahah women are so complicated i swear

The code to women’s psychology will never be solved. It is an irreconcilable paradox men will have to live with forever

LMFAO! THIS IS CRAZY.

Similar issue here, women 20-35 do not even look, but outside those boundaries I get heaps of looks. Something happens to women after school and university, they lose all sense of reality and are hyper focused on a particular type of man only. This man will be dressed in athletic clothing, talking loudly to his equally attractive male friend and that's what they want.

I don't .....they stare at me and give me convo and play . But I learned to tone it down and I still get the same results . I don't approach either they come to me. I just pay them no mind when I'm out

I don't know about co-workers but what might work apart from that is changing your image. You can't change your looks but you can change your appearance.

Same here something I didn’t see you mention but I’ve also experienced is when you walk in a store where people are talking, your presence is felt and then all of the sudden dead silence.. or the guy who is clearly analyzing you , you make eye contact with him but he won’t look away trying to intimidate you. I always smirk like yeah I know you see this greatness and I know u hate me. On the flip side I really don’t like it because I would like to connect but tend to feel my attractiveness is a barrier for some which causes me to be in my head a bit. I catch myself having some form of anxiety at times before I step into public because I’m aware of what I will run into. A bunch of insecure goobers. I always try to remind myself “look the only reason they act like this is because they aren’t you. “ So I hold my head higher. Still is tough at times. The only great conversations I’ve had are with people who are secure within themselves otherwise it’s some goober who acts like I’m not there or is trying to speak negatively on my life and who I am as a person TO OTHER PEOPLE but it’s hilarious because they have the slightest clue who I am. it’s all based on inferences they’ve assumed onto me , which is based on first impression, which is usually based on appearance (clothes, face, body) just crazy how some people treat you even when they don’t know you or so called “friends” in secret competition with you. It’s tough but on everything I love I wouldn’t trade it for anything else. Glad I’m not the only one.

Exactly 💯

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16

I get the head turns, only from women tho. With men they consistently want ALL THE eye contact, very sus btw. But I know what you mean the attention is annoying AF 😡

Interesting, the other situation I had was during the pandemic because I didn't wear a mask, so many people talked to me compared to normal. It's like they couldn't decide who was average to talk to cos their face was covered.

Man I feel you wish people would conquer insecurities or get a healthy perspective on them

Respect

I’m in the same boat and it’s really starting to mess with my head.

@@monta269 indeed, the world would be a better place if envy didn’t change the way we treated eachother..

if u dont mind whats your penis length

Counselor is full of shit. Women try to date up. And of course they blame men again. Your counselor is blue-pilled as fuck.

Yeah im the same i know i am women check me out but ignore my approach and men just stare to intimidate me, i dont react im now confident in myself but it is hard.

It might have been easier in the past to get away with looks only, but now you're income is visible by online social verification. If you don't have money to match, it's transient friendships only. I have plenty of fun with the young women at work, but I am not even in their consideration for a future due to obvious income failings. However that is also my choice to live at the minimum.

This! You nailed it with the gregariousness thing. People assume that a tall handsome guy MUST surely happy, secure & confident. They therefore expect him to be open and warm, because he’s seemingly got it all. When he isn’t warm and gregarious, they assume he’s arrogant, conceited or vain. It’s hard to have this gregarious mindset when you’re feeling isolated and shunned by others, wondering if there’s something wrong with you, and having your guard up.

lol you are so full of shit it’s literally seeping between the characters

and most girls fall for the loudness and then cry that he didn't live up to it... who knew.

When you’re a very good looking man, everyone (except perhaps close family members) is threatened by your looks for some reason. It’s mostly their own insecurities. They instantly make a lot of assumptions about you & you end up spending half your time trying to prove to them that you are actually a nice person as well. This is why g/l men usually end up hanging out only with other g/l friends who understand & experience the same treatment from people.

The aggressive mid women are the worst lmao. Then the hot ones act like angels…

@@NoobyNick0710 I am 39 and just realized this. I rarely talk to hot girls (kind of the same reason as this in this vid, just seeems like they get bothered all the time and i feel like they have huge egos) and they always seem to give me the time of day. It's the 5-7s that really give me the brutal bitch treatment.

​@@NoobyNick0710 🤯🤯...the hot ones are nice asf me, wait wdf?

​@@pinnacle1717you know, the reason why a lot of people don't gravitate to great looking guys is because those were the popular kids who probably excluded the ones who weren't so good looking. Especially in groups. The popular kids vs the others. A lot of adults can't get past that feeling from childhood. That's your explanation for a lot of this. Can you understand that?

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16

Bro did you listen to the video?

Maybe you're not as good looking as you think or rather women don't think you're as good looking as you think. Maybe you lack sufficient social skills, you're shy or anxious. Could be many reasons. Not just your looks.

@@YTguySmithy-lk6gowhy did you feel the need to tear the man down even further? You’re wrong for that.

@@seneca1932that’s what weak insecure people do, try to make others as miserable as themselves.

Definitely very attractive. I did male modeling for a bit, I was a tall, slim prettyboy, long red hair and green eyes. I'd have beautiful women just take me home after class in college. I was hooking up with sorority girls, women on the soccer team, volleyball, etc. I'm 44 now, and look 31 or so. Metabolic age is 33. I have 9% body fat, and have very good muscular genetics. It's not my looks at all. I'm better at social skills than I was. I think it's the city I'm in, never had a problem other than here.

Happens every day I work at a restaurant

They get nervous when their around their own girl?

i feel this brother, you speak my truth. feels good to feel human for a bit. the rejection of pure kindness fucks with my head.

Idk about hyper judgemental but definitely on guard