If thats true then I will choose the tranquility.

​@@xLukySame.

agree

i mean even with that messed up definition people cant survive living a "regular" life, so regardless people will suffer because to make money, you have to (a lot of time) give up your own wellbeing nowadays, its a messed up system.

Success means doing the right kind of work consistently. It should be goal oriented instead of work oriented.

"You cant always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you just might find you get what you need"

my version of success is to lead a fulfilling life, fulfillment in my own definition which never will i let others define so.

Yes it is, the one where he talked with Emily

😅 if only, my demons just take a break, do some recon and find new ways to torture me

Long version? That's what she said.

KZfaq shorts actually have a description, accessible through the 3-dot menu. (Unobvious!) And that very often has a link to the full video, which is the case with this short too. (Though here the full video link is to Twitch, not KZfaq.)

@@JayOhm Thank you for this. I didn't know those existed.

I am trying to define mine. It is about freedom of choice and purpose.

@@ElMeach Have you looked at Stoicism and Ikigai? I'm still new to it, but I see its value when it comes to the topic of choice and purpose

I think trying to be successful by aiming (just) for what others define as success is pretty dumb anyway

@@theblinkingbrownie4654 agreed we’re not all the same. We’re all different. Therefore, logically it only makes sense that success is gonna differ person to person.

Mhm for me life lasting satisfaction is just living. Why bother with things that could make me unhappy if I could be happy all the time.

​@@Darko807You can't be happy all the time because it's a fleeting emotion that comes and goes. If you just live, then your life is going to be pretty average, 9 - 5 job, 24% bodyfat. I think I would rather be a little stressed out but actually experience a life. Where I get an income doing something I enjoy, where I have good fitness, joining a martial arts club, etc. And it's a stronger purpose than happiness because if you aren't happy, somethings wrong. Making your purpose happiness is kinda torture because it's something out of control, and when you're not happy, you're doing something wrong, but happiness was an emotional outside your control. It's like saying if the weather is snowing, then I'm doing well, if it's sunny, then I'm not doing well. But you couldn't even control the weather, so if progress is defined by something you can't control, then that's an L, imo. Progress in life should be measured by the progress towards the tangible goals you set for yourself.

Its a delicate balance!

success is the top level need of self actualization, and it is worthless if you don't have every single one of the building blocks It's like a secret special karate move, it's worthless if you don't know how to throw a basic punch or kick

You have to be successful at something to be happy that’s sort of the thing. Accept less happiness in the moment for more happiness and success down the line.

I don’t know you or anything about you but I’d suggest some thinking about this. You can’t be happy. It’s an emotion that comes and goes. You can’t be any emotions. Only experience them. You are something that can feel many things, think about many things, dream about things. But you are none of it. You are the thing that threads and connects through such things. And one day you too will pass.

Unfortunately yes, if you aim for happiness you will miss everything. That's not to say you give up everything that you like and enjoy either, but there is an interesting phenomenon where you have to be prepared to let go of something to enjoy it fully.

@@MarthMain i feel like you’re seriously overanalyzing their comment. when people say they just want to be happy, they probably just mean that they want to live a content life that’s not overflowing with misery because they feel like they have to strive for what society tells us is success, like a great career and a big family or whatever. obviously life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows and we all have to face certain hardships, but it’s not a bad thing to want to live a life that predominantly makes us feel content.

@@theinacircleoftheancientpu492 I disagree. I think you can want something to last forever yet still fully enjoy it, its just that it might have some unwanted consequences down the road.

Agree. People should read Outliers by Malcom Gladwell. It helped me stop beating myself up after I had done all that I could have done and still not succeed, because at the end of the day what matters more is dumb luck

The one where he talked with Emily. The VOD's on youtube and twitch

Common mistake: while success guarantees some degree of unhappiness, unhappiness does not guarantee success.

I get ya i just quit my job. I cant seem to go get another job because i feel like its going to be the same thing. 😮‍💨

Quiet quitting all the way! 🎉

It is hard to tell when it is worthwhile to put in grueling hours for our future selves. And it is hard to stay content (not complacent) with where we are now.

Plot twist: he has dementia

That old man was Chrischan's father, who died from a bedbug infestation lol

On point

I think he meant flagellate, but I'm not sure

A nice sentiment, but think about their perspective. Will it not weigh on their own internal well being to see you suffer for their sake? I know I'm wracked with guilt when someone suffers on my behalf.

So what is most important?

@@Spiney09 that all depends on if you're religious, but overall I think his concept of pursuing fulfillment is much better than what people currently strive towards

@@ccrox83 in this video he’s clearly not pushing for success alone, given how the video ends.

@@Spiney09 I said fulfillment

@@F33bs what is wrong with void ?

I think it’s supposed to be ‘flagellate’ but the ‘f’ got cut off. It would make sense in this context since it means to discipline or punish yourself.

Hmmm yeah I watched it again and the word spoken definitely led with an L now I will be wondering if it is possible the F got cut off or if he really was just mispronouncing the word-then I will ponder how it’s possible I took the time to care enough to write this lmao😂

From what ive seen, and my own experience, I dont think people can go back to any original peace or contentment once they achieve something worth while, for one because success requires change. Anything thats hard to achieve requires constant effort to achieve and to maintain and to build. One thing ive learned is that there is no such thing as putting in the work now, so I can then relax and do all the things I currently want. We are very good at adapting to new success, and so over some time, your new success will just feel like baseline again, except you now have much more responsibilities, and old problems and anxieties easily get replaced by new updated ones. Thats a huge caveat that people find themselves in all the time. I believe the most powerful thing for people pursuing something hard to attain, is to choose the right thing that youre most comfortable in constantly doing, because then the process itself can be a source of contentment if youre living a high effort life that youre naturally inclined for. But long term, being picky with the things you do and dont do, and cut off the fat so that you can maintain your success in a way that is the least harsh on you. I think to be content whilst living a high achievement lifestyle, you need to really put the effort into, and strategise being content. You can absolutely be content and happy whilst maintaining big success, but only if the goal itself isnt what youre looking to give it to you.

@@Jake-nb2en I agree.

@@Jervin-Music oh really? Okay. I may have misunderstood your comment, I thought I was opposing it.

@@Jake-nb2en well you’re really correct, though the goal is driving me forwards, the doing of the goal is just as satisfying as the completing, that the doing is just as much success as the actual completion. and I do agree with the other main point. Once you reach it, there will be another goal and more problems and things will adapt. I also totally agree with putting effort and intention into contentedness on the way to the previously mentioned goal.

@@Jervin-Music ah okay thats awesome!