I hear you. It can be hard. And often the stressed out thing you are talking about is way harder through time than the short term pain of letting go

Right on!

They don't know which way to be.

Exactly!

I hear you!! And I agree that is generally doesn't get better so better to be sober earlier.

Happy that you got a laugh from that 😆

Me too! I love when Jack gets sarcastic.

Hahhhaaa 😀 It was good and gave the real image how you certainly DO NOT want that!

Awesome - happy you're doing that work and finding insight here!

Jack Butler yes! I’ve told a few of my friends who are in different stages, one completely frustrated with dating. I listened to you while grocery shopping yesterday lol I think your advice is great! I will be watching you and Clayton sometime this week, busy getting my house ready to sell. Thank so much and I look forward to continuing to listen to all of your videos.

Yeah I hear you, this can be really hard. Maybe realizing that it's also a loving thing for BOTH of you - most guys aren't at their best when they are saying one thing and doing another.

Yay 🙏

You're welcome, thanks!

Totally disagree. Some men need guidance and need a woman to let them know what may be making her unhappy. I married a man that seemed hot and cold. Basically, he was unaware and was relieved I let him know my feelings. We were engaged about a month later. Never assume. 🌹

Great talk, as usual! 🌹

Happy to hear this was what you needed and I hear you've been doing some good work on honoring yourself, onwards!

Same here...it's the only men I seem to like...

Take care...probably will find another one and will be harder than now

Try research on Avoidant attachment styles (The Personal Development School is awesome). Either he could be an Avoidant... or/and he could just be a grown boy, eventually not ready skilled to love, eventually not mature enough to know how to "spiritually" see *you*, appreciate you and respect you. I guess that in relationships, Guys do have their milestones of thinking, processing something, whether it is you and your match, or it is something completely external in his mission (social circle, career, self). It could also be just the way he is,... deeply thinking, processing... It might not have anything to do with you. Attention the whole time should not be required for equal true love. 🌼♥️

Good luck 💖 your basic needs (standards) comes first. Go for your preferences. Passion is meanwhile. Love is enduring.

Good you are paying attention to your gut feeling! Vital to qualify a man 💃💭 I learned from Jack and his companion, that a man look for consistent signs that the woman he is dating is 1) able to be healthily vulnerable with him. Showing him, with compatible love languages, that you are authentically the right woman and person for him (depends alot on his current personal development stage and his emotional attachment style, ie. his subconsciousness 🧐). (2) able to be healthily depending on him, not clinging emotionally, be a medium maintenance woman, who (3) trusts his lead and gets extra soothed be his Divine Masculine partner acts (extra mening, you can self-soothe and be a whole person and keep you attractive authentic female energy / vibrance 🌼💃) + while yet also, any authentic shadow side he shows, is not going to let you loose too much trust in his ability to lead you as a couple. It's all a process and communication is the petrol. Don't be his emotional gas station. Be his vacation destination ♥️

Sure - that time can be important. Just don't date him during it ideally.

That really put things in perspective 😂

Thanks! Hopefully one of the healthier things in life to gorge on!

Jack Butler I’ll say this and then I’ll shut up. I lived in London for 27 years and now live in stunning Australia. So happy here. But I think the British have a love of the English language as we invested a lot of our time indoors( too cold to go out) and expected high standards of debates and discussions as well as entertainment. Where you are is spectacular too. We are lucky to have the best of both worlds ✅

If a guy doesn't know what he wants, best he figures it out on his own time IMO.

@@thejackbutler I agree, thanks Jack!

Glad you have your clarity 🙏

Sounds like what Im dealing with now smh I guess some men don't know what they want I always say there are so many options out here so It can be they got their eye on the prize who they really want that's why we become an option & not a priority or already In a so called relationship he can also be a married man..!.INCONSISTENCY

run. you know when guys are interested

I asked my ex after 1.5 months of dating, he said he really likes me, but his gut told him I’m not the one, he wish he knew why. Then he recognized a pattern: he’s backing off when things are getting meaningful. So I’m still confused was it me or just his att. style 🤷‍♀️

I think your intuition will be more powerful than my concretizing timelines. I think you can ask what his intention is for relationship pretty early. What's his intention for you? 1-6 months depending on rate of contact and deepening? Ask it more than once.

Jessica Smith Have you checked out Enneagram type 2?

Yes...& what are the reasons why you ask?

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Yes, it's hard if you're chasing the guy. That might be the piece you can control, if you're having to chase it's not the right guy.

When you chase a dog they run x stop initiating see what he does

I think when you explain you basically say 'this is what I want / am up for'. Then anyone is at choice whether they want to play with you. I don't think that means trying to make someone love you. Thanks for applying.

After lots of research, I can confirm it's also true of subarus...

Time to reclaim your power?

That sounds right!

Marisam Lovendino You could ask him if he has feelings for you more than a friend?

@@thejackbutlerthanks for your reply,I think that is the right questions I needed to ask him❤️👍

@@marisamlovendino9670 🙏🙏

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Thank you :) Your English is great!

Im from spain Jack!! Nothing as you in spanish!!!

@@maryflower6665 Aw thanks - wish my Spanish were better!

More inconsistent than consistent. So you say ‘I am having a hard day’ and you don’t get a reply til days later. Or saying on Friday shall we make a plan for weekend and not hearing til Sunday that they can’t.

@@thejackbutler niceeee example ~ so appreciate you taking the time to do this 💕

​@@thejackbutlerwhy do they do that? Make a plan for a date and then just taper off communication and not bother confirming the date or saying I can't make it. It's just rude. I'm assuming it's due to a sudden lack of interest.

@@naomideegan9527 It could be that. Could be they are not really dating with intention. Could be the overstimulation of many apps. Ultimately if you don’t need to know, there’s freedom in that

Sounds like it

Good question. I am not specifically versed in that though anecdotally guys I know with it are not hot and cold in intimate relationships

No