Healthy relationships vs Narcissistic relationships, personal examples

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Healthy relationships vs Narcissistic relationships, personal examples

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The difference between healthy relationships and toxic or narcissistic relationships. A personal story by someone who has experienced both. Spreading awareness about toxic relationships and narcissistic abuse. Know the difference.
Narcissistic, narcissism, narcissist, gaslighting, manipulation

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@jimtillema3512 Жыл бұрын

Listening to personal examples is very helpful. I appreciate you sharing your stories. Thank you very much.

@nilepearl1997 10 ай бұрын

Listening to you makes me feel normal again after what I went through ... Thank you, that's very helpful & hopeful !

@stellabosibori90 8 ай бұрын

I know. The loneliness in those relationships 😢

@roxanagonzales2244 Ай бұрын

So much ❤ same, thank you ☺️

@motowngirl5891 9 ай бұрын

We need to know these things when we are teenagers, people get married young and know nothing about what a healthy relationship is

@Narcbuster-bm6hm Жыл бұрын

Nobody falls in love faster than a Narcissist needing somewhere to live! Great video. And the full documentary should be shown in high schools worldwide! Imagine how many lives would be saved. Well done. 💖

@ZubaB 8 ай бұрын

Amazing video. Thank you so much Aletta. Best of luck you lovely soul.

@fredericpicher1389 7 ай бұрын

Sun shines, sunshine!

@shafio6641 8 ай бұрын

Love you forever.Thanks for helping ❤

@BeegirlsHoneyHouse Жыл бұрын

You’re a lovely soul. We adults that suffered childhood abuse and neglect are emotionally fragile and usually overly sensitive. We have ourselves not learned healthy ways to manage our emotions, boundaries or healthy communication. The red flags and incongruent aspects of another are apparent from the beginning. That is the point to move on, but our wounded selves put us in defensive denial and naïveté and we double down. Thank you for sharing in hopes of enlightening others. Wishing you good health, wisdom, prosperity and peace. 💙from Texas. 🌎🫶🏼✌🏽

@artifundio1 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful words Joni, I agree with you 100%. Aletta's documentary has been a key part of my healing journey.

@BeegirlsHoneyHouse Жыл бұрын

@@artifundio1 ~ 🌷Thank you for your kindness. Having amazing resources to teach about narcissistic abuse, like Aletta are priceless and there are 100’s if not 1000’s available on YT. In my opinion, it’s also incredibly impactful and healing to give and receive support from our global community of fellow posters. Our residual guilt and shame from abuse makes us isolate and withdraw and sometimes question our own sanity and unworthy ness of better treatment. As an older woman, I wish and grieve that I hadn’t wasted 30 years of my prime of life, on a cold blooded malignant narcissist. Ten years after divorce, I’m very aware and informed but still not healed emotionally. I wish you trust in yourself, hope for a brighter future, peace on your journey, joy in your soul and spirit and healing progress past this destructive experience. 🌎🫶🏼🇺🇸✌🏽💐

@DespinaDimitriadou 7 ай бұрын

Unfortunately the "you get what you're giving" kept me believing I deserve the awful behaviour, that it's my fault the way he would speak or answer to me (cause I must have done something, which would usually be sth really really small and unimportant and COMPLETELY unrelated to him). I had the belief that it's just how the world works (many people advocate for that actually, "respect is earned" and all that kind of bs). But it's just wrong. Plain wrong. Society doesn't teach enough respect (how we deserve it and how we are worthy of it) and if you also live in a country that rudeness is a norm and where you feel like you have to beg for your basic human rights or the right to live with dignity, you can't stand up for yourself easily. Thank you for your videos, I like them a lot.

@brianjones2384 Ай бұрын

My younger brother is aggressive and passive aggressive. He is intolerant of hearing my perspective on politics , even if I'm not speaking to him , but he airs his own opinions as if he is always right. I won't allow him to have an upper hand by silencing my speech because he gets triggered. Whatever rule he makes for me , I will hold it against him.

@user-oq9kb5oi5f 2 ай бұрын

Thank you

@sandrabentley8111 10 ай бұрын

Question? Because of your own narcissistic upbringing and the dysfunctional environment that caused, did you find it hard to have a 'healthy' relationship? Did you find that you were 'satisfied' in these relationships? Obviously we don't know when these took place, before or after the unhealthy ones. But it would be interesting to know how comfortable YOU were in the healthy relationships.

@AlettaMeijer 10 ай бұрын

Hi Sandra, this is a good question! I have really enjoyed these relationships, and these relationships were 'easy' relationships in terms of respect, love and simply getting along. When looking at myself on a deeper level I do feel that there was a part in me that was restless. Not in a way that was noticeable, I didn't act out or anything. But looking back there was something in me that wasn't used to this certain level of stability I guess. In the unhealthy relationships there was always 'work to do' or problems to solve. No stability, as these men were so inconsistent and unpredictable in their behaviour that you're constantly on high alert, checking your own safety. As a child I grew up focussing on the external ("If the other person is in a good mood, then I'll probably be safe today"), and because of this, it was normal for me to keep the focus on the other person in the unhealthy relationships. I'm sure that on an unconscious level I have felt that if I were to 'fix' this person, I would fix my parents, and have peace. Which obviously doesn't work like that. It was very important for me to understand narcissism and to look at my own patterns there. Also in friendships and family, cause the only way to break the pattern is to get rid of this type of energy all together. Cause when you surround yourself with people who are stable, then this 'high alert' in the nervous system gets time to adjust, and from there it becomes easier to get used to the healthy people and relationships. No drama or constant problems in your life. Hope that makes sense? Is this what it was like for you as well?

@MAHAKALAXXXV 8 ай бұрын

if your relationships were truly healthy pertaining to the ones you mentioned , why did you end them ?

@AlettaMeijer 8 ай бұрын

Same reasons other people end relationships, I guess

@jennyk.8349 Жыл бұрын

Super helpful video. I just moved out of our home after 4+ years of mostly everything you described. It’s going to be a long journey for me but will be so worth it in the end ❤️‍🩹

@BeegirlsHoneyHouse Жыл бұрын

Congratulations Jenny and I’m so sorry.. 💔Taking these first huge steps to escape are excruitiating. Build bridges of support and tighten your healthy family and friend relations. Doubting what you now know is true and backsliding will doom you. Two quotes come to mind-when someone shows you who they are-Believe Them. Don’t listen to what they say, watch what they do. Wishing you strength, determination and perseverance as you develop a brighter life for yourself and future. Hugs~🫶🏼💙