Yes girl!! They don't respect your boundaries and will try pull you over to their side.... at that point it's up to you to decide that you won't let them. It's give and take... not give and give more and give more. Accept them as they are, or WALK AWAY...

Coercing you to change your personality, interests and dress sense by going into a rage to belittle and ridicule you - a character assassination. I was accused of being an illiterate shallow, superficial and pretentious person who uses books as a throw-down and who dresses like a student to attract women. Essentially calling me a player even though I had not cheated or even looked at another woman. I'm a loyal and monogamous person who just could not even dare. It turns out she was seeing three other guys - she was projecting her infidelity. The real problem was she wanted to keep me down (not to do a BA Degree and then MA in economics), this is a narcissist and psychopath trait. In a normal relationship, both partners would encourage each other to better themselves or celebrate each others achievements.

People always tell me to"tone it down""".......my comments are also being deleted......

Empath is another word for Codependent.

soo true. very good explained. thank you for the video. there are three more things that I experienced: no one it's the feeling of losing your capabilities in a way - mentally and physically. like you are no longer able to do certain things or thinkings you are normal capable to do. it is like an alien took over and is limiting you. no two is, it feels like you re next to a black hole that sucks off all your energy and you are exhausted. no matter what you do, anything positive will be sucked up. no three: you turn into a person that is getting "harder" in order to survive the company, as if you constantly have to stand up for yourself instead of just being yourself.

Ty❤❤ i fled 5 yrs ago from one. 24 yrs of abuse.

I needed to hear #3 & #4 so much right now.....I thought this was only happening to me, You described perfectly behavior I have been experiencing. Thank YOU. I a not crazy!

Watching this, I can see these characteristics in a guy that I have a crush on. I hate that.

I feel tense and anxious around a narcissist. I go inside myself and become silent, carefully measuring my words before I speak. And my Adhd becmes worse

does narcisist run in families.

Spot on. Narcissistic people have a way of making us feel less important than they are. We have to give up our friends…and ONLY hang around with people the narcissist chooses. We are pressured to give up our hobbies…and again, replace them with things of the narcissists choosing. We can not simply be ourselves, because narcissists are super critical, and without even saying a word…are very good at shooting looks which make you feel embarrassed at almost everything you say or do, in public and even more-so in private. And let’s be real…the only reason we would feel that we can not be ourselves when around certain people…is because THEY are not being ‘themselves’…and it creates a tension that equates to an unspoken need to ‘walk around on eggshells’ and be compliant whenever we are in their company. Red flags galore. 🚩🚩🚩

I felt judged and was walking on eggshells even though he was nice to me.✔️

True.

My ADHD starts to act up. I am clumsy & start misplacing or losing things. I get rattled easily. My insomnia returns. I feel charged or run down. Lately I find that I am sweaty, my internal temperature rises & I kick into people pleasing mode. I drink more. Talk faster. Feel dizzy. Or compelled to be agreeable, perfect, or perform.

1) narcissists have a very subtle way of putting you down and making you feel very small. They don’t respect you. You end up feeling like you need to justify yourself

Omg ! That's exactly how i felt around him 😮... i felt lost ,dumb ,small, nit me at all.. .. you just neiled it !

I very much appreciate your analysis on those subtle body signals when meeting a narcissist! They add beautifully to a few warning signs I have recently discovered that my body sends me when I am with a person with strong narcissistic traits:

Every single point hit home so hard, this video is so helpful that I downloaded it for recaps in future. This is how I felt throughout my most recent relationship, it lasted all of three months but the amount of damage I sustained far exceeded any from longer relationships.

Also, being afraid to leave the relationship. This video just convinced me I need to end a very one-sided friendship ASAP.

Thank you for putting the feelings into words.