They should of double released this movie one with summers pov. would of been brilliant

Tom’s little sister was the most mature person in this movie.

I love how he breaks plates in response. Totally stable.

Relationships are only bound to work when both partners are willing to do everything to be together and make it through, he was too caught up in the honeymoon phase he didn't realize she wasn't ready to make that kind of commitment, sometimes when you fall in love, you don't notice how unhappy your significant other is because you want to believe that you make them happy the way they do for you

I finally realized mostly everything showed in the movie was Tom's point of view.

They are lying, Just because there are plenty of fish in the sea doesn't mean that they're all emotionally available.

Chloe Moretz was already showing what a great actress she is. She was so great in this film.

“You’re still my best friend!” I felt that man

Tom says the same things that summer says when they're in the car and Tom asks what their relationship is. I don't know if its intentional I just noticed it after watching this movie like 12 times If u wanna know in the car tom asks "what are we doing" and summer answers "I don't know, I don't care, I'm happy aren't you happy?" And tom says it again in this scene except a lot sadder lol

1:38 “Aren’t you happy?” “You’re happy?” “You’re not?” “Well all we do is argue.” “That is Bullshit!” 😂

i like how they showed how it was weeks in a relationship then months later they were arguing & just done i felt that.

after reading about attachment theory I think tom was more a anxious type and summer an avoidant so it's hard to get along when they love in different ways. My point is it's nobody's fault it didn't work, it's just their needs were different.

I personally love how the friends are so supportive and there for Tom. So wholesome 👏

In my early 20s, i empathized with Tom. But now, being 26, I would hate to date a man like Tom. He put way too much pressure on Summer to be this perfect partner he idealized her to be when all she did was made it clear she didn’t want a relationship ...where’s the logic? lol

2:54 Whoever came up with the saying "There's plenty of other fish in the sea" had no idea how it feels to have your heart broken.

I only got around to watching this movie recently, but I'll bring up a point that nobody else seems to have made. Namely, that Summer seems to lose respect for Tom as their relationship develops (or fails to). Others have brought up how Tom fell in love with the idea of Summer and apparently never made any effort to get to know her better, and everything is told through his perspective. Maybe so. But when so much is left out (we don't see what the extent of their interactions in the park, in bed, etc. are based on) then it's hard to say anything with certainty (those points should be made very clearly in the film, not left to the audience's guessing). And after all, this is a movie, so it's somebody's idea to sell a product and an image to a wide audience and make money. What stuck out to me most, however, is how little confidence Tom has in himself. He has a background in architecture and yet he's designing greeting cards for a living. A dead-end job that brings him no contentness in life. His friends are not the modestly ambitious or aspiring types. Tom seems to lose himself in their relationship. His interests become hers without there being the reciprocity on her end (he doesn't seem like a very interesting guy). Tom is even publicly self-deprecating about his career prospects at her birthday party (a very bad move) and Summer brings this up a number of times, too. Realistically, despite all her cynicism, Summer wanted to connect with a partner, and in Tom she found someone who was shallow, had low self-esteem, and not attentive to her wants and needs. And that is why I think she then is able to make the commitment to marry toward the end - she's sure about her partner and knows he's not the unreliable, wishy-washy type. That's I think the most generous and realistic evaluation of their relationship we can make.

She loves the pancake, but not him

She just didn’t love him. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Some people say Summer is a bitch for leading Tom on, and some people say Tom is just idealizing Summer as something more than who she is. In my opinion, both happen throughout the film. It is natural human error to go believe someone who makes you feel special and gets very intimate with you despite them claiming they have no true feelings for you. People that are in this spot more often than not become attached and believe that there are true feelings underneath because of the love they hold for a particular person. And you cannot blame a person who gets strung along like that, it really is a painful experience that is not entirely their fault. On the other hand, you cannot blame someone who gives someone a shot at love despite not being sure of the idea at the beginning of its conception. I do side more with Tom since I’ve been in his boat a few times and have never been in Summer’a position, that being said I can see the flaws in both perspectives.

this movie is so realistic. I don't hate summer that much because i know she's been very vocal about not getting into a serious relationship. but i kinda don't like how she acts the night they met again in millie's wedding. she acted like she wanted tom again in her life and made him believe there's a chance for them without telling him that she's already engaged! dude that hurts i think she took advantage on tom's.

Look at chloe she's so small

“i don’t believe in love” “i love these pancakes 😋”

Yet, in reality, things were not going so well.. he just remembered different. I love Tom, and i understand Summer, Yet I think he left tom in order to stay with the other guy and not hurt him.

I'm glad they broke up so tom can man himself up just for a change for himself and thats why summer broke up with him but that line "You're still my bestfriend" hits me to my very soul 😭💀

I love how Tom's sister was called in when he was at crisis point ❤ that's so cool. "You did the right thing"

i know the new cool opinion to have is that tom is completely in the wrong and summer did nothing, but you have to admit, immediately eating pancakes like nothing happened after breaking up with someone is very mean

15 Year old me ..... Girls like Summer are Bit-ches!!! 30 Year old me ...... So I've been a deluded self-Infatuated Tom all these years.

I met a boy 15 years ago who fell hard for me. I treated him kinda badly. I didnt want anything serious (i made that clear) and he fell super hard within the first few weeks and scared me off. We carried on occasionally hooking up for a year until i said no more. We lost contact. Fast forward 15 years later and we bumped into each other at a gig... And this week i moved in with him and ive fallen just as hard this time. Right person, wrong time.

This movie is literally my life

The game is the game. And just like any game, it sucks to be the loser.

Wouldn’t it be funny , if Summer was sitting around talking to all of her friends about the exact same situation? I would love a movie from her point of view. She was right though she was kinda acting like Sid Vicious because she wasn’t upfront with her feelings and she knew it too and then out of nowhere she kinda just stabs him ha ha.

Such a great movie. Recall at beginning of movie "how easily she could cut off her hair and feel nothing" and at karaoke bar when Tom discloses his idea of love and Summer says "you really don't believe that?" "Love, what does that even mean?"

I watched the movie for the first time around the time it was released in 2009. Back then, I was in my early 20s, and I really empathized with Tom. I’m a girl, and while I was probably less extreme in getting obsessed over guys I fancied, I could relate to his feelings on some level. Now, being over 35 and having been through multiple long-term relationships, I can say that: 1. Tom is needy and not very mature. He ignores the evidence that’s right in front of him. 2. Summer is not someone I would ever date, even in the short term, but she does have her integrity. I wish I had been more like Summer in my twenties. Overall, the movie is a piece of art from a great era. I was somewhat of a hipster myself (I totally loved The Smiths :)), so aesthetically, the movie brings up a lot of warm nostalgia for me.

Tom, dont go. You're still my best friend 😑😑

setting was LA, shot in LA but felt more like NYC

According to me either they're both wrong or none of them are. Summer was clear she didn't want relationship Tom wasn't honest with his feelings from the start (Toms fault: he shouldn't have agreed something he didn't want, he was just delusional) summer might've thought he'd be okay with fwb because he doesn't have "feelings for her" when she asked him if he likes her (summers fault: shouldn't have kissed him if they aren't dating) So you see things just kept going until they realized "what are we doing?" This is all about lack of communication and this has become so common that we all relate now (I've been thru this too)

Can we just for a moment ignore the story and look at the beauty of zooey eyes 😍

“I ‘love’ these pancakes” and that did it. lol

1:53 my body when it eventually breaks down from years of inhaling jelly powder

I would immediately start doing some serious self reflection If a partner tells me that I’m the Nancy spungen in the relationship .

"You're still my best friend!" they both sucked, but if you know it's gonna twist the knife, just let them walk away. She didn't owe him a relationship, that's a hard lesson to learn in life, but damn that was salt in the proverbial wound.

Something many don’t realize is Tom’s lack of maturity & focus on his own life, his own goals and aspirations and growth as a human was the main reason Summer moved on. When she mentions finding “something she never was sure about (in Tom)” it was his obsession with her to the point he put his entire life as a 2nd priority and placed her on a pedestal, as the center of his happiness. When you pay attention to her description of the guy she ended up with, he walked up to her and made the first move. Something Tom was incapable of doing at the beginning of the film because he was still a boy and hadn’t been placed into a spot in his life where he had to grow into a man (until she leaves him & he finally steps it up.) Everyone thought Summer was a b*tch when in reality she was just looking for a man, not a b*tch boy.

You are still my best friend

Instead of “We’ll talk about it later” it should have been “we’ll figure it out.” and that is what Autumn had to offer to Tom at the end of the movie.

Rachel always was my favourite character. She's cool and she has common sense. But is it me (and I know this isn't the point of the scene) or does Tom not know anything about his sisters personal life? Over the years it's just seemed to me that Tom has a very one-sided relationship with most people - all I've ever seen him talk about with his friends and his sister is himself.

Summer is in the end, just another flawed human. Yeah she did say she only wanted a casual relationship but the human side of her had trouble keeping things crystal clear cut. She probably got swept up in the honeymoon phase herself, and naturally her mind started to conflict with her initial proclamation. How many times have we said “we will do this” only for us to lose fortitude over time? But in the end, she realized she’s gotten too deep and extricating herself was bound to be a painful, rough event.

How the world has changed, eh? Falling in love with a coworker, meeting IRL, imperfect people with needs and misunderstood feelings. Kissing in the copy room? People actually going to see each other. People who are not totally cynical. Yeah, its like a throwback to the 1980's.

This is my comfort movie. It’s heartbreaking but beautiful. I love it so much 💖

It makes so much sense now.I went through this recently just like what Tom did😢😢😞😞

Here's something that no one really talks about here. There are no real bad guys in this narrative, in fact, who you see as the supreme bad guy is a reflection of your views. But they both are not innocent and both could have handled situations better. The thing is and in a big pictures sense: their relationship was the most important to the both, up until that time. She learned from him that it was possible to find true love, he challenged her on it; There were other flaws in him: lacked ambition, not honest with himself, denial, manipulative (although subtly and well-intended) that didn't make him a good fit for her...He learned to see things how they are, not how he wanted them to be, and to relax and not be such a control freak, and find his purpose in life.

2:32 tom, don't go, you're still my best friend. bhoooom

Summers POV : she wanted a rich stable guy , she didnt find it in him, end of story

Am I the only one worried about a literal child riding her bike on the street in a big city at night?

I love how tom was like an average delusional mc about love and thinks he is superior than his friends but summer tried to gave him many chances to get him out of his delusional world he is in because he was forcing his world on her and when summer left tom he basically turned from a boy to a man this movie was great even tho summer and tom didnt work out

*He should have been rich. Simple as that.*

This is why one mustn’t put all their eggs in one basket

Love this movie, seen it probably 20 times or more

Just like that...

I don't wanna get over her.

The part when Tom says, "I wanna get her back." No, you can't!

NEVER EVER allow another human being have this kind of power over you. You destroy your soul.

"Oh so im Nancy..." God such a fuckin deadly line.

ah that limbo between being more than best friends but less than a committed relationship..

Joseph Gordon-Levitt and Matthew Gray Gubler in the same movie was too much to handle!

I do fine that line funny . Summer- All do is argue. Tom- that is bullshit! (in aggressive tone)

im sorry i know that this isnt about him but.. I LOVE MATTHEW GRAY GUBLER HE LOOKS SO GOOD WITH LONG HAIR

Movie aside, his apartment is sick af

She’s the dream girl?? Shit I must be in a nightmare

Your first time viewing this movie, you probably think Summer is a manipulative bitch and completely took advantage of Tom. Your fifth time viewing this movie, you probably realize that Tom is projecting way too much onto Summer who tried to tell him that she wasn’t looking for anything serious. Your tenth time viewing this movie, you realize both are incredibly flawed people who got caught up in something, didn’t recognize what the other was going through, and left a lot of damage in their wake.

He’s a Virgo and she’s a Leo. It’s written in the stars.

2:08 literally me and my friend with benefits if we ever dated😂

Get her back. But he never had her...

you know the guy is inlove when he looks a mess after a break up or something like this.

I can't really blame him for getting up and walking away she did just compare herself to Sid Vicious while comparing their relationship to Sid and Nancy's. I mean comparing your relationship to something as negative as that it gives off negative vibes and tends to rub off. If you don't want the relationship that's fine, but don't expect to be friends if you give off negativity.

So sad how she moved on to someone else and he was left alone

This is so funny 🤣🤣🤣 when she said, you still my best friend

First 0.20 seconds. Two men in their late 20s early 30s just randomly ringing a little girl to come over to their apartment in the middle of the night

I don't know why some people call Summer a bitch. Karaoke night she said she didn't want to be anybody's girlfriend. She started hooking up with Tom, she said that she wasn't looking for anything serious and that it'd just be like they were hanging out. Tom shouts at her "And I say we're a couple damn it!" she comes back the next day saying that he deserves some clarity on their relationship but that even though she could be sure about how she felt about him that night she couldn't promise him that she'd feel the same way the next day or the next week or anytime in the future. She tries having a committed relationship with him, acting like boyfriend and girlfriend. They hang out, they mostly have fun, but she's not really happy with the relationship. And when she breaks up with him, she doesn't say anything like 'by the way I'm breaking up with you and I've been sleeping with the guy from the mail room', she says "I think we should stop seeing each other" and says that she doesn't think they're relationship is healthy because they keep fighting and she says that she's like Sid in the 'Sid and Nancy' relationship which means she's basically saying that she thinks that she keeps attacking Tom and that that's why she thinks their relationship should stop. She never really did anything bitchy.

Chloe grace moretz is so good i loved her in this movie. She made good comedic relief.

Tom Didn't Paid the Bill that's Why She Said That

Her character and personality was so cringe lmao but I agree with the fact that he shouldn’t have idealized her he put her in a pedestal when in reality she was a regular person with emotions and stuff. Personally I do don’t like her character but I also didn’t like toms behavior

The thing with men is that some never care to notice what's wrong in the relationship thinking their partners are happy yet be faced with the reality of us bottling up all those things and disappointments for months only to figure out later that our reality is different than theirs

Doctor Reid WTF I just realize it now

From personal experience though, it’s probably not the best idea to go the classic “there are many other fish in the sea” to somebody suffering attachment issues in general. I don’t think Tom doesn’t know that the statement is technically true. But to someone like Tom, while he could very well find someone new and love them a whole lot, the Summer he knows is irreplaceable. It’s almost like losing a loved one in a way. Although, I’m not sure what I’d say either

People talk a lot about nuances, but it's basically natural selection. And of course, it sucks to not be selected.

This movie clip popped up in my feed only to remind me that I never liked this movie. I've been utterly heartbroken, but I don't relate to him. I've been slightly apathetic at the end of a relationship, but I can't relate to her either. They just fit into their stereotypical characters so dramatically that they don't even seem human.

How HelloFresh responded when I cancelled my subscription after the free trial

2:33 that broke me when I watched I hated Zoey for a long time just for that

After trying all the jerks, getting dumped by, in 40s, with 50 cats ''where are all the good guys''

“Oh, so I’m Nancy. 😨”

2:33 tune mere jaana kabhi nahi Jaana Ishq mera dard mera ❤

Who said, “Well, they’re lying”? No one’s mouth was moving.

believe it or not but i've been in a tom's situation, like 99% exactly same

Dude...

he shoud've kept being friends with her, i mean... while they were just being best friends he was going to be able to give himself a try and discover who he really is. learn to love himself and then... he was going to be able to give love to her as well, therefore, she would be able to give love to him too. But then again... we learn from our mistakes... NEVER BRAK THE MOST SPECIAL BOND YOU HAVE, AKA FRIENDSHIP!

what a movie!!

Guys like him will always get dumped. Women LOVE guys like this...in the friend zone.

I didn’t realize Matthew Gray Gubler was in this.

This movie is just painful...

That's why as a guy act like you couldn't care less, then she will attach to you