+Amilie Dechanelle They took "going steady" very seriously back then. You dated a lot of people and then settled on one only.

I cant imagine knowing somebody well enough to make a big commitment in two freaking months, but couples did it back then. I think my parents had only been dating a few months when they got engaged. They stayed married too and after dad died Mom was not interested in ever dating anyone else.

yootuba, My dad was handsome ,charming, charismatic and hung like a mule . Why on earth my mom felt I needed to know that last 1 ? I have no idea .they didn't know eachother very long when they ran off to get married having to lie about mom's age because she wasn't legal. They stayed married till he died 15 years later . He was fun to be around . Gamma was pissed when he ran off with my mom & tried to have dad arrested . He had a thing for underage girls , 3 Statutory warrants over 3 different, willing underage girls at the time of his death . Had been described as the kind of man who could " Fall into a pile of Sh*t and come out smelling like a rose " When i was 18 I laughed when I saw their marriage license for the 1st time because I knew that neither of them were as old as it said they were .I'm not even convinced that dad was legally divorced from his 1st wife when he married my mom I know he left that woman while she was pregnant with his 3rd child & he was only 15 when he married her Heck he was only 19 when he married my 16 year old mom. I'm the youngest of his 6 kids, he had by age 25 .

That makes you a Christian by dipstick.

All the more so because he accepted this role.

Electric Sutando My parents weren't very helpful, I went to a concert with 80,000 fans at 10 years old, bye the way my first music was Partridge Family, they let a babysitter through a party at our house. We were 1 big Irish Family 6 kids. I loved going to Concerts Stones, Zeppelin, Allman Brothers, Lynyrd Skynyrd before plane crash, I nicknamed Mick Jagger ( A ROOSTER ON ACID ) cause of his energy on stage. I also was a big Nascar fan, crazy those drivers go 2 miles in 48 seconds. I am proud knew my limits with Alcohol. Always loved that Quote ( FRIENDS ARE THE SIBLINGS GOD FORGOT TO GIVE US ) ERIN GO BRAGH means IRELAND FOREVER

It confused me so much

Electric Sutando I’m your 1000th like and I’m proud of it

That's how the script was written.

I guess your mom has been working like a real slave and there is no time to talk about good advices. Yes, that is in general.

I wish I would have known this, before breaking up with my girlfriend lol

​@@jah-marii8230 That's...not a lol.

And you were really in love with Mary, and Betty, and Dallas... I hope he didn't get any tattoos.

Aka have fun and figure out the rest lmao

If only what i would say was the love of my life, when we were both young had this apporach, maybe we could have grown together and had real love as we matured, I do believe we could have. But it was supposedly unfair that i wasn't ready for real love and 100% verbal commitment, i was scared to verbally make rhat commitment, .but i was basically committed in my actions, i was loyal, obsessed, adored her, homest, everything, just was afraid to commit at such a young age, is it my fault or was it unfair of her to give me an ultimatum like that? Supposedly i had "committed issues", i think its deeper than that. Any one relate? And now, she has been through hell with relationships for the last 10/15 years, ended up taking drugs all the time, she still beautifull in all ways, but she's trapped in a lifestyle, i want to try and help her and she also wants that, but she might fuck my life up now, everythimg i have worked for 😂 Its risky as fu#k, what does anyone think? Please help 😂

It can turn into love as the times goes by.

Virtual ViVi People are always people, no matter the time. Society thinks it’s better as times advance but people stay the same.

Sirama it’s only gonna get worse

August Humphrey oh please

lol

true

Dayum, are you ever correct! I remember back in 1994 when I was 26 raising some eyebrows at my fourth attempt at a committed relationship.. A male friend who had known m since I was 18 said “On the surface it may seem like opposites attracting and two people on the rebound but underneath they have a lot in common. This’ll work.” I wish I hadn’t lost touch with him so I could tell him he was right.

Kat g FACTS 💯 like a boss 💪

there is a difference between being IN love and being someone WITH love

Or being in lust

"Love takes time, and love takes work." - Garnet

I agree. They became more compatible and mindful of each other. They’re not in love yet but they can be in time.

John Rex Calunsag I don’t think it’s mature to be submissive and only being with someone with the exact same background; Why don’t you marry your siblings? wanting unconditional love is not immature Especially when you’ve had it on a mutual level. As a Venus in Scorpio in the tenth house I think I could never forget AIK or RLS

@@nadiashireensiddiqi I believe you have yet to reach a point of knowing true, mature love if that is your takeaway....

Yup. Stop this culture of hating someone or talking shit, being shady about them bc they rejected you or was your ex.

Yes, I agree.

Back when pollution and climate change didn't exist

IKRRR

Meanwhile most of the women today sound like brats 😅

Yeah why is that? Why did all the women back then speak so strangely.

That's just course if that Hollywood accent that was really popular then:)

This is what real love means🩷

was looking for this...

This! ❤❤❤

Time helps because most put on good behavior at 1st. Observe how they handle isappointment, failure, money, how they treat others, what their parents are like. Know at least a year before marriage

poetcomic1 👄👄👄👄👄 😄😄😄😄😄

Oh wow lol

🤣🤣🤣

when u get burried in the same grave....... or get cremated together

poetcomic1 yuck no

Where the comments at?

@@juliancummings8436 idk, weird

Its pretty quiet in here. . . .

Oof

If women express their opinion, they are seen as forceful and domineering. A lot of men these days have no self esteem and can’t handle that.

Matthew Luttrell your really fuckin right especially before you get married. it could save a lot of heart ache.

seriously!

Na. Watching a video about "what's ___" is like being programmed to do something. I rather things happen naturally and develope and people

We need to teach lots of stuff more explicitly... Relationship skills, finance, cooking, housekeeping, child-rearing...

There are films like this. They’re dumb and inaccurate to our actual lives and when school tries to push them down our throat we laugh and joke about them. These were inaccurate to Actual 50s teens lives too.

Where is this part ?

That boy just got swiped left in the 1950s!

Clearly, she says "I think so."

"I don't know. . .I'll have to think about it." is woman speak for "How fat is your wallet"

AHappy Goth that’s my bf

My grandma would be in her late teens. My grandma is beautifull tooo like snow white. Dem lucky grampa

wise words from Biggie Cheese

Beekah I

They had a lot of emotional sophistication we don't value or nurture as much now

Beekah in the end though, doesn’t all love start from infatuation, and either ends there or develops into love

Yeah how do my parents turn out to be such idiotic fucktards along with the rest of the boomers

AJBeetle1 maybe camera film and photos were expensive and the mother didn’t want her daughter’s carelessness to be a total waste. Or they’re just weirdos xD

People take photos of people without them knowing it, then post it online now a days. So maybe this isn't as weird as it looks for the time.

I think they were her friends. Mug shot.

Plot device 😉

The parents are pervy. Plot twist.

We all knew the '50s were racist, sexist, homophobic. Who‘d’ve thought they also _knew_ things?

@@BlackCover95 Well weren't they racist,sexist and homophobic? Ofcourse they knew things and they didn't deny them,instead looking them head on and providing solutions

Well, people communication basics haven't changed, no matter what media tells you

Human nature doesnt change

Olive B. that's really fucked up on the girls part

back then that’s how it was. you could date multiple people at a time, and it was okay because it was only getting to know the people without commitment. once they went steady, that’s when there was commitment and you realize you really like the person. plus, teens went on dates like every weekend.

Lol

@@l3xsterz298 That sounds better than what we have today. People don't take the time to know each other.

As long as they didnt sleep with each other it's all kushti

Purity culture on KZfaq 😑

Maybe you need it. Maybe we all do.

It was enlightening

Same

Lol. Same. The universe brings to us what we need. I am hooked to the charisma videos that were being recommended to me. It's helped me improve how I relate to people and eye contact... (3 seconds with each person in the group)

Pass it on! ❤

Yes! That’s so true! And isn’t it so nice to read a great book and feel like somebody so wise, thoughtful and mature is talking to you?

Well when you are cool and have great hair, you have to make some sacrifices. You can't just put your cool out there all over the place.

Bob is proposed to a woman he doesn't live with...

@@Tzara86 this is the 50s you did not live with your fiancee then, duh

@@Tzara86 also it's engaged not proposed, speak english much?

Back then there was nothing weird there.

I like how the mother didn't answer straight away and said that she needed to think about it. Good advice for parents.

Well it was acting, TV doesn’t reflect reality, even back then

This was not how people where This is how they are acting

She's lucky to have a mature mother.

Warren Cotton indeed.

. k. I did meth in inner city crack houses for a few years. I learned less than you'll ever remember.

Exactly what I was thinking. How can one spend their entire teenage life without listening to the brahms violin concerto

@@hopelessviolin4690 Well your comment is dripping with sarcasm but I invite you to take 40 minutes out of your life to listen to it. It will change your life forever and your problems will melt away. And BTW it's Brahms not brahms.

... Look at my username. I'm a college-level violinist. My comment was half joking but I regularly listen to the Brahms violin concerto especially the recording by Ginette Neveu. @@Bob31415

PontiCat72 Her mom was like, “Oh how nice dear. You took a picture of your friends getting busy in a car. Dear memories for our family album.”

Oh right...like the stuff people record for KZfaq is better.

@@lw1343 yes so right!.

@@zirko23 🤣🤣🤣🤣

She had it all planned out hahaha

Best comment ever, thanks for sharing your knowledge!

I would like an agape type of love

Agape is the highest love.

This comment is the best one I've seen.!

Agape is the greatest love of in my opinion. Jesus' love is Agape.

I'm picturing "Ted" from the movie

+Joe Yes, me too, now i know what i already suspected...love is a choice of responsibility, admiring each other and helping each other out. To say someone is sexy or you like her kisses is not enough, we have to know who we are in the overall mature personality, dreams, interests, and responsibility. Love is not forced it's relaxed. There is no sexual tension, cause love is peace with one another. Love is not one sided or mystery. Love is to be ourselves. Don't marry someone unless you agree on the fundamental things.

man of the year xD

Then you'll have to wash it; it won't wash itself

Gotta be the 667th commentor

Deb Carsey Even bad parents have nothing but possessive love, sadly...

you are beautiful and unique i admire you for that.

Ie: controlling "love" , not good

This movie is 71 years old now. 1950 - 2021.

Hello

MariChe MMIV times have changed lol

Mi_ DUONG Love that Quote ( FRIENDS ARE THE SIBLINGS GOD FORGOT TO GIVE US )

It's still a movie ... acting.

me: a middle child *cant relate*

I've never done that

DrHPotter ... what did they think of them?

DrHPotter what a cool class

That’s a wonderful idea! What did they think of them?

You should make KZfaq videos and show us how and what teens think of these videos today please!

Good common sense, kindness, cleanliness, organization, respect are always a good way to live.

+poetcomic1 So cute, I saw them at Bob Evans the other day.

at Bob Evans...ordering the faux Chinese entree

Where do they live?

cryslala03 lol

cryslala03 oh my goodness, i’m crying. that’s so sweet, i want that one day :(

+Veronica Walton See? It's the message of the story that matters and people complain about too much CGI and that the acting was cheesy and another deserved the Oscar and don't focus on the bigger picture. A lot of people are so spoiled and have so much short attention span, all they want is explosions and don't care about the human connection. This film is a work of art.

William Faulkner fell on hard times in the 1950s and had to write the scripts for these films for drinking money. It's true.

Right!

The mom actually did pretty good

Lol....Well you do know she's going to dump him right? She came to that conclusion at dinner. Just want to get a few dates out of him while she looks.

+Lola B and don't get married unless you haven't been with anyone else in 2 months lol

Children and money are definitely things that should be agreed upon. If one wants children and the other doesn’t attitudes concerning that rarely change. Even if the latter agrees to having children eventually they usually make for a terrible, hesitant parent anyway. Most people get divorced over differences in financial decisions. Spenders rarely become savers and vice versa. Religion, on the other hand, is highly subjective... Some people change their religion 20 years down the road, don’t have one anymore, or didn’t have one and then pick one up. Some people require church attendance with their spouse while others are ok practicing their religion on their own. It’s all about finding someone that’s compatible with you. Some differing religious or non-religious people work better together than others. I would know, I’ve been in a relationship with my husband for four years and been married to him for two. We agree on children and money but I’m a Christian and he’s non-religious. The fact that we don’t agree on religion has no negative impact on our marriage. Rather, we view religion as a VERY personal choice and respect each other’s opinions. Just as it will be our son’s personal choice when he’s old enough to understand things like that (he’s currently 14 months old). So, I guess you could say that although we don’t agree *on* religion we agree *concerning* religion... And that’s what makes us compatible.

@CBS 70sfan I am sorry, but the reptile thing in the middle of responsibility and morality had me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Agreed. Also there is major difference between loving someone and being in love.

@CBS 70sfan no, just that you threw reptiles in there. Seriously, what was it about the reptiles that was a red flag? I am sorry you lost those years; I was in a relationship way too long myself and should have ended it much sooner.

Do we both enjoy.....well, you know....

@@PutDownTheBunny eating food? 😆 yes bc some ppl only have protein shakes and water so this is important.

They couldn't do it today, because behind what their doing in this film is a rock solid sense the actors and actresses have that there is a firm reality and truth about life. Look at the love (not romantic love) these characters have for each other wanting to teach and help. This was before post-modernism made a hash of everything. People today mostly cannot even believe. This common belief in decency and the vision for how things out to be has gone out of the culture like a soul that has left the body. We have the body now only laying on floor rotting. This film is pretend on only one level. Actors and actresses today would first have to pretend a reality they do not believe in exists at all, then they would have to do their play inside their pretending of that reality, and that is why the whole attempt would be not only pretend but a fraud. Few possess the vision of the world that these folks did in 1950, and that is why this culture lies now at heII's door.

They used to.

+Kitty Well yeah haha

Being a highschooler(going on to 9th) myself I agree

Mira-Kale Schmeade same

We saw some of these type of movies in the early 80s... in jr high, I am sure. Course, most of my teachers were teaching there when my mom was there 22 years b4 me....🤣🤣🤣

Dirk Diggler i don’t think it’s corny they just used to speak more mature and acting is still kinda like this they lowkey exaggerate

That’s a very good question. Every time I am on a date, i will float that question in my head.

The Pregnant Doula . Joei Gowing this wasnt real

Gruffin Waldrom But it might have been!

It's fake.

When parents actually cared about their kids and spent time with them instead of being self-involved and trying to look and act like teenagers themselves.

I agree. I don't even talk to my parents at all anymore, and I'm 13.

Ofcourse people back than always had a good advice

What is surprising is how comfortable the mother was in answering her daughter's question about love. Most parents today would probably stammer through it because they assume their child is having sex or planning to have sex.

14 year old children's psychology

Hello How're you doing?

hhhhh same! my ma would never talk 2 me like this..... hahaah :D

Morwenna16 My parents weren't very helpful, they let me go to a Led Zeppelin concert with 80,000 fans at 10 years old, my first music was Partridge Family, My parents were crazy having 8 kids, we were cute with Irish Freckels on our face. Because we were Irish our Neighbors paid us with Beer to cut there lawns. Im not lying mom side us kids had 16 first cousins. ERIN GO BRAGH means IRELAND FOREVER

Sometimes love is blind but friends can see if your lover is selfish or jealous & warn you. Parents are way more experienced & know their children well. Its wise to listen to your parents & not think you know it all. Parents live you, desire your hapoiness, success & well being so it isnt like they want to ruin your future.

@@barbaraedgley2634 true but my parents didn’t approve of my choice….now they think the world of him and love him so much. We’ve been together for over 32 years!

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yo, me too m8 💀💀

Sometimes the old wisdom is right

Just cause it’s old doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Love hasn’t changed since the 50’s, so the advice is still rock solid. Sad that so many people have to learn this on their own and their parents never tell them. What happened to parents being moral guidance?

Good advice is ageless.

I noticed that too!!!

My husband opens doors and the car door for me.

Janine Dear Barlow ok

It's part of his job profile

Janine Dear Barlow wierd flex but ok

It actually wasn't too far off in describing characteristics of love that current relationship research has shown to correlate well with successful and satisfying relationships. However, it was a little off in calling love to be mature versus developing. They're simply different types of love that exist throughout your life, but may be more or less dominant depending on your stage of life.

littlery will find this helpful

Beanyhead shockingly I have to admit it did in a much bigger way than I expected

Not so much stilted acting but that that was how oeople actually spoke & acted back then. I remember. Language & styles change with the decades. Young people nowdays talk like Valley girls in the movies. Watch moviesfrom the 1930s vs movies from 2020s & notice how inflections are different

It's never to late to just start over. :) One baby step at a time.

Unless you're currently on death row after committing first degree, your life isn't over and can easily get better :)

TheMightyWill honestly, I found this reply just scrolling through and your little reply really helped me right now and that is exactly what I needed thank you so much ^-^

Chin up, princess

Yep, me too.

My grandparents use those words

I mean, we say “like” and “so yeah”.... so yeah...

The truth is in the middle. Older people talk like that somewhat, but it was definitely exaggerated for dramatic effect.

It's a word whisker.

@@janinedear-barlow what a cute phrase 😊

B R I C K. Van Halen!! Woohoo!!

When you care as much about their wellfare as your own. When you are aware of their strengths & weaknesses & can accept them. In the 1st bloom of infatuation they will seem perfect (but aren't).

I think if your a mom/dad now you should talk to your kids about this.

Because you needed to experience first hand. I even received some advice regarding friendship and spiritual teachers and love, and I still had the urge to crash and burn. Then you remember and store the memory for lifetimes.

skyejacques Lol this was 5 years ago

Her mum follows the script

You'll get there, man. All things worthwhile takes time.

"Is he at ease with you?" "No" "does he agree about the important things with you?" "No" "is he proud of you?" "No.... fuck.. excuse me while I reevaluate my life 🤣😭"

what's to say you werent in love with her? maybe you were

It's an old saying, son: "You live and learn.". And you are. Don't give up.

Yearly updates kindly

Instagram didn't exist in the early 1950s.

Yes

Armory Brunot,Jr. That was a joke haha

Why instagram tho? To be updated to that person?

@@armorybrunotjr.3204 r/wooshhh

Depends what crowd you are hanging with...

I'm sorry to hear about your mistreatment. Don't give up hope in finding a virtuous man as mature as you. Think about what you would like out of life, the kind of man that can help you, how you might help him, and likely places where you might meet him.

Same 😢

I here for u bby

Don't settle for boys like that and watch out for ones that only say what they think you want to hear. Make them answer first.

Bingo! That's the answer to "how do you know it's real love?" When you can't imagine growing old with anyone else, when their happiness and well being is more important than your own and they feel the same way about you, when you protect each other by not taking advantage of each other's weaknesses, when you forgive each other's shortcomings, when you realize that you're not just marrying your spouse, but their family too ... yes, these are the signs of mature love.