Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail.com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...

You know what sucks? Is when you're breaking up with these people and you can't have anyone around to help you because you're so isolated from being with the narc in the first place (5 years of isolation). I feel like this is why some people stay.

It's getting so difficult to live in this world.

Their vindictiveness can show up even when something good happens. Your success is going to trigger them, and they'll take that out on you too.

1. Set boundaries 2. Support network 3. Restraining order

Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail.com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.

I can not tell you how important it was that I had informed my employer when a man I had dated started stalking me after we broke up. When he began lodging anonymous and impersonated complaints to my employer, it helped in defending myself. My (former) employer was wholy unhelpful and even victim blaming, but at least my career wasn't ruined. Do not underestimate how sick these people are or what lengths they'll go to to harm you.

It escalates. The somatic fatigue is real. The patterns can make you feel like you are back at square one. Believe what you see and know it's not you.

"I don't get mad, I get even," is an enormous red flag.

The worst part is that they mostv often than not , they use their flying monkeys for their dirty work, as they tend to be master manipulators. For the narcissist you are either a tool for them to use or the enemy, thats why awareness is so important. Love you Dr Ramani, keep doing God`s work, the more ppeople know about these sick evil and sadistic iegomaniacs the better the world becomes. ♥

I warned my family about the narcissist sister in law for years, only to be totally gaslit by them. Then she showed her true vindictive colours, including emotional abuse, lies, smear campaigns and verbal assaults, so my family finally saw who she is. Super sad as it’s caused a lot of damage to me and my family. Lots of grief. Not letting the enablers minimize it. It is exhausting. Protecting my health safety and well being. Leaning on my safe supports. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

Yes!! The exhaustion. I have been made tired to the bottom of my soul.

I had to go no contact with my mother because with her I couldn't grow as a person. But after I left a lot of untrue rumours were spread about me.

If a lawsuit happens - get a lawyer who is experienced with narcissists - that lawyer will make sure the narcissist is exposed in their workplace with their employer and also destroy the major source of supply of that narcissist too - to stop the civil law suit from going to court Narcissists DREAD exposure and DREAD loss of major narcissistic supply - the 2 things to defeat ALL narcissists

1/ Limit Your Interaction With The Narcissist 2/ Avoid Sharing Personal Or Sensitive Information. 3/ Don’t Fall For There Manipulations 4/ Be Polite/ Distant. 5/Set Firm Boundaries. 6/ (Importantly.)Use Leverage To Protect Yourself….

I have such terror of my husbands vindictiveness it keeps me from leaving. He has "hoped "I "starve to death ", end up with nothing and that my children "hate me." This has been said to my face anytime I stand up for myself for years. I feel like people trivialize these threats of getting even or hurting you as the narc doesn't really mean it. But they do.thank you Dr Ramani for bringing the seriousness of this to life. It is real and it is frightening .

The narcissist will never ask, "How are you?" Or say excuse me, sorry, or please

The fact I’m here 39 minutes after posting, I think you would be amazed at the situation I’m in. I think it needs to be researched and used to help people. I’m not ashamed. I don’t know how I have survived this long. But I am here.

The problem is when children are in the situation and it goes for years...

My siblings are very vindictive. They will go full on revenge. Stalking and spreading vicious rumors. Distance is eminent.

Again a made-to-order vide! Thank you dr Ramani😊❤ My narcissistic mother decided to disinherit me because I no longer allow myself to be exploited by her and I do not allow her to use violence against me. Yesterday she literally went crazy and wanted to... beat me. Yes, yes: a weak and disabled pensioner wants to use physical violence on an able-bodied adult! Of course, I will use self-defense if she attacks me seriously. I've been through so much that I don't care that she's my biological mother. Because of this, she has already done so much harm to me that I could put her in prison for it. This woman has gone completely crazy since she realized that I went to therapy, I am using legal help and she will no longer have me as a victim. The better I get, the worse her condition gets. It seems that narcissistic people are addicted to their victims.

I need to say this. You have saved my life. I saw you 2 years ago talking narcissist. New word for me. Omg! How stupid was I. I was dealing with 3 of them. 3 suicide attempts because of it. 2 restraining orders. Fighting like hell to get my life back now. Thank you. Should of learned all this in school but you said it's a new thing, I think. You are Awesome

I have PTSD from my mother's abuse and consider myself to be lucky. I didn't know that standing up to her for the first time would result in her lying to the police, committing defamation, initiating a smear campaign, kicking me out of the house during the pandemic, killing my pet and putting my life at risk more than once. At which point I went to court to get an order protection and that just fueled her rage.

I am under a horrible smear campaign. I am now a pariah. I don’t have thick skin. I am being shunned. I want to run so far away.

What sucks is when they do the reverse psychological maneuver and say oh no, it’s not me it’s you!

The vindictiveness is very real, my brothers ex wife targeted me after the divorce and is still targeting me up until today. It’s been more than 7 years she feels I broke her marriage. Got thugs to nail scratch my car, puncture my tyres. She finally got my car stolen, hired private investigators to stalk me constantly.Hired creeps and criminals to follow me around to all my locations. Harassing me while shopping, at church etc.I was driven off the road many times by “random” people. Bribed every person on the planet to get information on me and more. My country doesn’t have much help against this sort of thing and the local police told me I need hard evidence to make a case. The only thing that’s helping me now is working from home. The best part was my own family including my brother blamed me for everything that happened and said it was all my fault and wasn’t his ex wife at all, classic. You definitely learn who your people really are after this type of abuse. Thanks Dr Ramani, another great and informative video 🙏

He has threatened my life, our pets’ lives, damage to property, and that he’s going to make my life a living hell! Now he’s requesting for our separation to be “amicable”. A little late for that, after the authorities had to be called to the house 3 times over 48 hrs. I cannot trust him and have a safety plan in place. The hardest thing is people’s minimizing, including some friends AND my therapist!

I constantly had to deal with smear campaigns by my parents to relatives and the small community we lived in. It took me years of confusion and hurt not knowing why people shunned me or were outright rude. I overheard my mother slagging me off to my father and telling him absolute lies and again another time my father lying. I was always confused by people's reactions to me and thought why is this happening so when I looked into Narcissists and watched your videos everything growing up and in adulthood started to make sense. It makes so much sense that I can predict my father's next moves and, now I have realised I'm not going crazy, it is good to be able to know what he will do next so there are now very few horrible surprises. The people who still believe him, my mother is dead now, I have no time for and have stopped trying to convince them otherwise as I am just wasting my breath.

No contact is the only true cure. I like to think of narcissists as tree sap. It's nothing you want to touch or have anything to do with. And if you do touch the sap it can be quite an endeavor to clean it off. In fact, "cleaning" it can just spread it to more places. It makes everything sticky and horrible and it's best just not to go near it in the first place.

Parental Alienation is Narcissistic Vindictiveness

It is presently happening.My brother & sister in law tried to hit me with their car 3 times & since I am caretaker to our parents, they reported me to APS. Thankfully they declared my parents are receiving outstanding care. All of this because my parents made me executor of their trust & are leaving me more than they are my brother. He never asked why there is a difference in the amounts, he just turned on me with pure, evil hatred.

Thank you Dr Ramani. It is so necessary to be prepared for the narcissist tornado. Mentally, physically, paperwork, monetary and safety. When it hits your bunker will be ready.

One of the things you need to be aware of is that the narcissist will talk to all the best divorce attorneys in town so you can't hire them. An attorney told me that narcs will consult with attorneys and those attorneys cannot speak to the spouse, even though the narc didn't hire them,for ethical reasons. Don't tell them you want a divorce and see some attorneys before the narc even knows what is coming.

I warned my job when I left my abusive husband, it got so bad they had to place a restraining order on him from the premises. It’s all true.

Their vindictiveness reminds me of the kinds of things you see in movies - where someone goes to an extreme length - even harming themselves in the process to get revenge for a perceived wrong. I used to think, well that's ridiculous, no one would harm themselves just to get back at someone else - and then it happened to me. I've had someone sabotage my work, when I worked for them, when someone outside the group gave me a compliment. They had to put me in my place and show everyone that they were more skilled than me. I just kept thinking, "This is completely illogical. We're not supposed to be competing, we're on the same team." Unfortunately, one of my brothers has now become the primary target of my narcissistic siblings since I went minimal contact. I am trying to support him as he goes through the shock of seeing how vindictive they can be. I already went through this with them, but, while my brother always supported me, he has been holding out hope that he can reason with them and build a relationship built on trust and caring. It is really hard watching him go through this, because he is such a kind and loving person, he keeps trying to find compassion where it doesn't exist.

3 hours after I broke away from the narcissist I called our rental office and told them that I had made another tenant mad at me, for them to be prepared for phone calls. Didn't say the persons name. The woman at the office asked me if it was the narcissist name. I said yes. In other words this person had already called.

Happy weekend everyone. Thanks Dr Ramani for all you do!

I never unblock vindictive people. 📵

Speak softly and carry a BIG STICK.

3 hoover attempts this week ! I blocked each phone call ! 4 years “ no contact “ next month ! Malignant Narc has a history of physical violence! Being vigilant but not hyper !! Why now ? It’s my late Dads 4th year anniversary in June ! Keeping up appearances ! It took years to break free I ain’t going back ! ❤

It is that capacity for vengeful behaviour that seperates the the ugly from the dangerous. Unless you've experienced it you don't know, the normalcy bias will kill you 🙏🏻

Back when we were dating the malignant narcissist kept saying that I was vindictive. Now I realize that it was a projection!

I have always been stunned by the users in the world--folks who expend vast amounts of energy trying to buck the system, con others, and win at any cost. Such a waste. It's heartbreaking. If I dwell on these very real facts, I am reduced to tears, unable to find hope or enjoy much of anything.

Absolutely everything you said is dead on. I would tell folks to pay special attention to the part on Smear Campaigns. It can get so, much, worse. To the point where you would scoff at the absurdity of it. But, that's narcissists. Anything, absolutely anything and everyone is in play when their ego is hurt and they must crush you to prop up their tiny, shriveled ego. Just be aware.

I try to avoid them. When they ask what I've been doing I say boring things like dusting, mopping or getting groceries. I try to avoid anything important. I go no contact for weeks to let my family know they can't yell and swear because they don't agree with the most tiny thing I say. I also don't listen to what they tell me to do. Who wants to listen to crazy ass people.

I thought I could distance myself from my narcissistic abuser and we would be on good terms more or less. Oh how naive I was. He decided to nuke our relationship from orbit and weeks later started trying to hoover me back in. Had to go no contact with him for my own well-being.

Hell hath no fury like a vindictive narcissistic boss...they will not stop until they railroad your career. It is best to count your losses move on and do not tell them where your new job is.

And it is all true from the petty to the financial ! They are sick ! Run

The best way to separate is to move to another state. Live in a hotel for a while, so you don't have to put the utilities in your name, which makes it harder to track you. Get a new cell phone from the state you just left, so your phone is tied to that area code. Throw your old phone away so he can't track you. Never ever respond to them again. In fact, delete your old email account etc and get new ones. Good luck. PS be aware of spy ware (on phones and computers) and air tags (on your belongings) that would allow them to track you.

Oof, so true that the gaslighting and disbelief from others is part of what makes narc vindictiveness so destabilizing.👺😰 I've lost jobs, close friendships, and even my self-worth for a time because of narc smear campaigns. It took a LONG time to realize I was better off without the narcs AND the enablers. Now I see it's THEIR loss. 💖😃💐

What she said, all true. Be prepared, brace yourself

After a 2 year relationship, I have finally blocked him today and walked away. He's been so awful I'm exhausted and I hope he leaves me alone. I immediately felt lighter not having to deal with his abuse. And I pray I have the strength to help me through the next few weeks and months. Its been a long time coming so I hope he will leave me alone, I am prepared 🙏

Thank you Dr. Ramani! You are a warrior for so many of us who have experienced this and know it can be hell on earth to deal with and navigate. We must make it harder for the abuser and not the victim who has already endured so much trauma. Our system is backwards aiding the narcissist and not the one's they are harming. When you have children together it is almost impossible in our current system to get away. This needs to change.

The crazy thing is, I went through this in the late 80’s with my ex husband. I could spot a narcissist quickly after I went to counseling, found my way back to me, all of the things we do to recover & be strong. I have kept my brother at a distance for 35 years and was great with that. My parents moved to NC and live on the same street as my brother. My parents needed me to come to NC & take care of them and that’s when I was around my brother more. And now he is vicious to me. I know it’s on him. He is responsible for his own emotions, feelings & actions. I know all of this intellectually. I am hurting emotionally to know a brother could treat a sister this way. That blows my mind.

I am experiencing this from an in-law-so painful. I have chosen to just stay away, after all, can’t fix crazy, at least not narcissistic crazy!

I fear for my life😨 He is a malignant one and has been smear campaigning. I have cut off from all my friends. But i still fear that he would come after me..

14 years of a horrible smear campaign by my ex and my mother. I just figured it all out. But theore I try to convince people I not crazy the more they think I am. My mother diagnosed me as having Bi-polar 2. When this started. Well she lied and told my New Doctor this when she turned on me. I just learned this. No I know why my Doctors don't believe my physical issues. Just crazy.. Lawyer time now. Should I forget getting my reputation and move away as I start the process of taking them to court?

My sister stopped me from seeing my nephew- she knew how much it would hurt me. I used to spend hours trying to work out what I had done- but I realise I didn’t do anything, it’s was just my sister’s way to punish me. But my nephew still greets me with a hug and we talk about how we will always be friends. He is a teenager now- so I will just wait and see what happens- thanks Dr Ramani for helping me to understand

It’s heartbreaking when they are vindictive at your children to hurt you.

Dr Ramani, it’s rare you mention vindictive behavior and I’m glad you did. Could you elaborate on why narcissists have this particular behavior? It’s not considered a mental illness, correct? They know they’re doing a bad thing and still do it. My question is why?

When it comes to a smear campaign. Your true friends know better. End of story..

Thanks for validating this behavior! Its very clear to me but my son thinks I'm paranoid.

This video is right on the money I can’t help but think of O.J. Simpson. Keep away from all narcissists no exceptions. Learn that disorder and make sure you can identify it. Be very careful who you let into your life take it slow never rush anything I broke up with my narcissist girlfriend after nine months realizing something is terribly wrong with her and yes she seeked dirty gossip from my narcissist ex friends and then rubbed it in my face until I eventually went no contact

You are so smart, Dr. Ramani. You understand these people to their very core.

I went through the smear and aftermath. It was hard (very) but I want those facing this to know two things: 1. You will find out who are true friends and it may surprise you that you discover true friends in unexpected places. 2. The truth WILL out. In my case, it took years but suddenly people’s view of me changed. I had moved on by then but their support became loud and clear. I did not dwell on that. If they felt guilty, so be it.

Thanks for explaining it is an ego injury & shame. I have the neighbours from hell in my apartment complex. I asked for an apology from a lonely neighbour i had been nice to for years after he bellowed in my face- i wanted us to work together on caring for the complex. He instead got all his flying monkeys to yell at me instead, badmouthing me to all new neighbours, throw things at my window, tyres let down... They will never stop, the two worst are miserable older people whose hobby is to run vendettas. They also sabotage and damage the building because they lost power on the Committee to harass people, helps themselves & mates to money & favours. They hate me because i go about fixing stuff & trying to improve the building value. They're completely consumed by their own viciousness.

Boooy, i wont lie…. My narcissist used me, his best friends were his flying monkeys, and they all made a fool out of me in the end, part of me wants to get them back so bad and the anger builds up really bad sometimes, but I’m starting to learn that in the end I will heal, And they will always be narcissist so they can never change and we always live in misery. So that is my victory! But to be naïve and say you don’t want to get back at these people for using you and dragging you through the dirt it’s not very honest.

So true. How did I find you- to validate my experience. The sad truth of my experience was so little support or recognition of my truth. That hurt even more….

The problem is with these Narcs is they are very sneaky and covert. They will literally smile sweetly to your face whilst taking you down piece by piece behind your back. When the smear campaign begins and you start to notice people turning against you, the more you try to explain things to them the crazier you look. It's happening to me right now and it's horrific. I am scared to tell my Coworkers the truth because it will aggravate her further and they likely won't even believe me at this point. She is now playing the victim and making me out to be the bad Guy. She basically turned the whole team against me and told them I did everything that SHE actually did. I quit, but I fear she will still find ways to get to me outside of work if I tell anyone the truth. She has a pattern of trying to destroy other coworkers and her Neighbors by accusing them of things. So now I wait and see if anything happens further. It's horrific.

Thanx doc this came up in the exact right time.🌹

My only deliverance from this vindictiveness behavior...all my siblings (sisters) was go NO CONTACT. It's been 8 blissful years and time to ponder how I was to blame for everything all the time. You not only become leather skinned to the lies but also well-versed in forecasting the worst. By premeditating the possibilities eliminates the surprises, and I will not be reactive but proactive in my responses when it happens. The question never leaves, no contact doesn't mean we don't want to know "Why" Why did this even happen? It's been a "work in progress" healing from such. Thanks, Dr. Ramani, your videos have been essential in helping me sort all this out.

Distancing yourself from them does sometimes work. They are so self obsessed, that finding new planets to orbit the sun that is them, takes precedence over revenge. Sure it happens no doubt. But if you take space and return with the knowledge of what they are. Interactions on a surface level are possible. Im not talking about relationships of an intimate nature. but if you do have to spend some time with them for life purposes, being aware and staying detached is the best way. Getting a lawyer just adds fuel to the drama fire. I find laughing at the situation helps. Two of them tried to falsely destroy my reputation at the same time. It hurt but i simply showed up to life with love and a friendly nature. Waking up in the morning and knowing your on the right side of something, is a very wholesome feeling. You cant buy that feeling. God knows the truth of it all. (Not a religious god). All personality disorders are very predictable, repetitive and boring. Experience is so vital. Its depressing when you realise the behaviour will keep happening. But once you know, you can do something about it. Personality disorders are like a tape that restarts over and over. They return fresh faced and ready to dance that same song. The key is not to dance. Martin Luther king said it best. I have decided to stick to love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.

You probably just saved my life.

This is a great topic and very validating to those experiencing this. The many ways narcs. are vindictive could fill up hours of content. Just yesterday, I was at a public event with my narc where several people lended me a helping hand or offered me praise. Even though it was extremely nice and refreshing, now all I can think about is what he is going to do to retaliate and punish me.

Thank you for helping is (abused ones) in this world. This kind of abuse can almost ruin your life, but this help you are giving is beyond price!❤

Thank you for covering this. The divorce was over 18 years ago; He has no further claims to my money or time. I blocked him entirely two years ago; I hear he's living in another country now. I know he's ever looking for another opportunity to get at me, somehow. I'm researching the benefits of a restraining order, meanwhile.

I have so much I could share about narcissistic vindictiveness, too much! I had a few very kind loving friends and family members who understood and supported me when I experienced this abuse. It kept me sane and able to start healing. Thank you Dr. Ramini, you are my healing therapist, even though we may never meet. ❤

There definitely vindictive! As someone who has experienced narcissistic abuse her entire life by family! it has been so difficult to confront these narcissists I've somehow attracted, When I need to break up and confront them, I would use my rational thinking over my empathy since they feel nothing for me. Their cold individuals who only care about themselves and will NEVER change!!

The worst narcissistic vindictiveness I ever experienced was with a next door neighbor who I allowed to use my washer and dryer. Then one day she asked me to finish her laundry for her. That's when I realized she was a narcissist and told her she needed to find another arrangement. She then proceeded to curse me (nightly spells in the wee hours of the morning). She'd stand right against my bedroom wall, saying her spells loudly, and knocking occasionally on the wall. That went on for nine months until she finally was served an eviction notice just last week. While the eviction process is proceeding, she is going around to all the neighbors and doing a smear campaign against me. Luckily, she is not very likable, and I am, so the smear campaign isn't going very well for her. I'm not sure she is sensitive enough to notice though.

Yep, in small and large ways!

Having to convince your own family that another member is a Narc is the worse nightmare to be the only one who recognizes it. Even after years and getting a TRO and distancing myself from this person, you never really feel safe. I make sure no one knows where I live unless I trust them fully. I don't care if my reputation is on blast. People know who I am. You can never be sure to let your guard down.

I think my first husband is/was a narcissist(vulnerable), I left him after he said why don’t you get pregnant, there’s when my love for him was gone. I blocked him on my phone(at this point in time everyone had a mobile phone, but the Internet wasn’t that popular). After a few months I called him at wanted to know about him(he couldn’t see my number) we talked a little bit, and after that, he said I was at fault for not getting pregnant. What he didn’t know, I was already pregnant at this point….

I worked on a Late-Night talk show when my boss got fired. Months later, the asshole literally called the producer and got ME fired (despite my helping HIM out and having nothing to do with his getting fired).

oh, it's a thing. and they can be sneaky about it, too. my narc sib did their best to sabotage me throughout high school by telling the teachers i was "weird" and god only knows what else behind my back. they all bought into it. my mom figured it out years into it, as did some of the smarter teachers who finally figured out that i wasn't so bad--just a smart, awkward kid (who's autistic, but we didn't know that). my narc ex would have been vindictive af, but i kept throwing them incentives and goodies to be nice, so since they wanted the incentives and goodies, like staying on my health insurance, they limited the vindictiveness to verbally abusing me to my face rather than doing anything awful to sabotage me behind my back--a huge win. "oh, i'm sure you're right," i'd say (of course they weren't!)..."i'm sure i could have handled that better" (nope, i handled it perfectly--my mom coached me, thank god).

What a spot on video! When my narc husband passed away, his malignant mom decided that his estate belonged to her. I was left with three children to raise and had been out of the workforce for years. Knowing her evil tendencies, I found the Will and marched to the local courthouse to file it. Then I got an attorney to help with the transferring of assets that weren’t named in the Will. Did the MIL stop her pursuit? Nope. She continued to spread her victim rumors that I had withheld assets that she was owed. I lost “friends” and some family members because of her lying mouth. In the end, I prevailed and became a much stronger person as a result of the battles. Thank you, Dr R, for a thousand helpful insights!

I am currently going through that. 😢 I just want this to end. My self righteous narcissist tortures me by not eating food. Whatever I do doesn't work. If I say something she will start a fight, talk like a victim, blame me I dont respect elders. If I keep quiet she will say I am ignoring her.

37 weeks pregnant & have been going thru narc abuse for yrs & I hadn’t even realized that was what it was until recently stumbling upon your videos!!! Physical, mental, emotional , verbal abuse etc etc! The repeated cycles & so on… I have walked away AGAIN & now experiencing the “love bombing” stage AGAIN!

Excellent info❤thank you😊

1. Pretend you are listening to them. 2. Don't show emotions. Don't tell about your A+ diplomas and grades. 3. Change number or archieve their spamming contact.

Once again thank you for helping to clear some of this (hellish) mystery up. When things went terribly bad and some of the men that had been threatening me were ded on the ground - it was much more of a surprise to them than to me! The hard part to figure out or handle was how ALL law enfarcement at all levels, local, county, state and federal were made to stand back, not allow me to even report anything that had happened, actually hung up on me! {most of this was during the Bush/Chainey admin. so we all know about their sadism- yet some of the worst things done to people that tried to make it all public, Robin, "Seemore" prince, my late mother Shirley etc. was under Obama & Biden - so even more reason than ever to silence me} Yet I now see they were loath to have any of this come into a courtroom - NOT a word in the media, the plan was to send more covert "gang stalking" agents to take me out. AND IT IS NOT OVER - assaulted and or thrown out of every place i go, like restaurant, I can never go out to eat anywhere ever agian.

Tick all those boxes of vindictiveness. Had it all.

My narc (relative) hasn't been feeling well lately. Emotionally. So she's been baiting me into a fight for a few days, and the more I resist the worse she feels; she might resort to breaking or stealing my stuff and I can't say anything then because she says "It wasn't on purpose!!" and starts screaming about a bunch of things that other people did.

This is exactly my life 💔

Vindictiveness of the narcissist. He killed my cat.

Thanks to and thanks to all the people who take care of maintaining and uploading the content on the page🙏🏻 I am experiencing the last points Unfortunately, a month ago I was violently attacked without any warning or reason, From whom I thought the world would not hurt me like this (close friend) A day later the "friend" tried to stab me in the throat with a screwdriver and without success!! He is currently in prison under indictment for attempted murder and aggravated assault and threats to murder and everything I recorded and saved and documented ☆thanks to you☆ I have no fear and the police and the court and the prosecutor in Tick within 5 days have already filed a serious indictment!! He is in custody until the end of the proceedings and I will not exist for him forever as he tried to cause my death I choose to delete him Karma has finally arrived.

Ha! Right before my nephew’s birthday party to which i decided not to attend, first in an decade or more, i am doomed, right? But i am so tired to throw myself in an environment where everyone is a narcissist, hurting me in various ways. Let them do their stuff, I will place my hope in God.

My neighbor is the narcissist. She has now taken to - yes - shooting at me. Vindictive? Yes indeed.

My ex used to say, "I don't get even, I get ahead." He said this even before we were married. I didn't understand the underlying menace behind those words.

Extremely Doctor Ramani Thank you 🤍 UK

Now I’m crying