How I process very painful conflicts

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Today, I discuss my method for emotion processing and coping after a difficult interpersonal experience.
Intro music: Smooth and Cool by Nico Staf
Outro music: Lensko Let’s Go
Time Stamps:
0:00 Intro
0:46 Take the time to process
2:03 Clear out your environment
3:04 Journal, journal, journal
5:11 Therapy
5:40 Lean on social supports
6:11 Take care of your body

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@danielbautista7 Ай бұрын

People have different reasons for why cleaning and tidying the room has a positive effect. For me it’s that life is messy, and having a clean room is a way of reminding yourself how something unexpectedly orderly and beautiful can exist in all that mess. It boosts your mood and inspires you. The way the world is isn’t tidy or even fair, but having a clean room or a peace of art around is like an invitation to see how things can be. It’s a mood booster and I think people underestimate how powerful mood boosters are

@rebekahnewman3876 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much. Recently on a community post I requested the topic of how to heal from bosses abusing you in the workplace. I think this video will offer me a lot of tangible ideas and I’m excited to get into it

@AnaPsychology Ай бұрын

Noted! This is more on the emotion regulation front than the interpersonal navigation front, but I still hope it helped

@aesara4036 Ай бұрын

@@AnaPsychologygoing through the same thing T_T very interested in what kind of emotional regulation you're recommending, and if you have any videos on it! Thank you!!

@jenni.getstrongxo Ай бұрын

GIRL SAME

@mallyb132 Ай бұрын

Last week was a doozy for me and between two heavy events, plus work, I’m so exhausted. Tomorrow I’m taking a much needed half day to decompress.

@megs5395 Ай бұрын

The other day all I wanted to do was find a corner and hide from the world. I sobbed for hours. My Dad and I had a pretty big fall out after a discussion went sideways. We talked about some very personal issues that me and him havent seen eye to eye on most of my life. He was the one that brought it up as he often does. I thought maybe if i tried to be more vulnerable and honest about how i feel that hed finally understand this time and we could resolve everything. But all that did was make things worse. It ended badly. I finally came to the realization that things will probably never change and im just going to have to learn to adjust. Also im going to need to set better boundaries with him which includes maybe letting him know id rather not discuss those subjects anymore. This information helps so much! Ill definitely be ordering the journal to help process everything.

@tinymegazell6060 Ай бұрын

That's really relatable

@Redvibes020 Ай бұрын

Someone at work who I grew very comfortable around because i felt we had a lot in common in our personality, which is rare for me, jumped down my throat a couple days ago and called me rude and a liar and it really threw me so off guard. I was emotional the whole rest of the day holding back tears because it triggered me. Had to power through the day till i got home. These tips are really helpful. Thank you 💓

@Hannah-hr6rz Ай бұрын

This coincidentally came right when I started having my first big interpersonal conflict with my best friend. These are good reminders and tips, thanks Ana!

@toohak2782 Ай бұрын

Thank you for making this video.

@Ttangko_ Ай бұрын

thanks for the time stamps and the digestable size. these videos are very important for many I'd guess (besides my self confirmation bias) and lowering the commitment barrier like this is very helpful. educative videos off main topic over 8-9 minutes tend to dust in my watch later

@alicexiao1003 Ай бұрын

I agree with coming out of therapy with more clarity, and the emphasis on journaling to let out my feelings as well as reflect on what happened and moving forward.

@Virgo_Moon_77 Ай бұрын

Nice channel Dr. Ana👍

@agucci 26 күн бұрын

I think the conflicts of the Law are not the same as the conflicts of the Times. Each type should have its own path of resolution, its own bucket of snowy mountains and green hills.

@Maincourse19 Ай бұрын

Could we get a topic about self esteem? I never got much when I was young; extrinsically. It’s very challenging to give it to myself intrinsically. I find myself doing things for some attention like: getting up from my cubicle to walk around (needing that attention), sometimes downloading dating apps for some attention, being funny to draw that dopamine from others. It feels a little narcissistic but I don’t know what is healthy and how to approach this. If I don’t get it, I feel very negative about myself. Are you able to do a topic on this? This is something I’m touching on with my therapist but this is def a challenge in my life right now.

@susans3996 Ай бұрын

I learn so much from your videos

@nihalhathaway4089 Ай бұрын

If I feel very hurt, tbh the last thing I want to do is tidy my room...

@Masterofallytps Ай бұрын

Dr. Ana is so beautiful 😍

@thegiftofguidance Ай бұрын

This reminded me of “cleaning up your mental mess” by Dr Caroline Leaf. Dis is very good stuff

@AnaPsychology Ай бұрын

I’ll have to check it out!

@rachelharris1216 Ай бұрын

Fabulous video. Also, I need to know where you got that blanket.

@kabilanbaskaran6813 Ай бұрын

Can you please upload a detailed guide to journaling (without prompts)?

@steff420 Ай бұрын

nice timing. since my gf broke up with me Ive been the most depressed I have ever been

@mallyb132 Ай бұрын

These times can be so difficult. What has helped me with break ups is self improvement and taking the time to recognize my emotions. Take it day by day

@steff420 Ай бұрын

@@mallyb132 thats helpful, ty. Im gonna try to do that

@skeleton1765 Ай бұрын

Can you do a video on how to move in if you get no closure from a relationship ending. I had a 6 year relationship end and it was basically “I should have everything but I’m just not happy. Bye.” If I was doing something wrong I could at least know what to blame it on. Not having a diagnosis is the worst part

@juliathedestroyer5582 Ай бұрын

THIS CAME AT THE RIGHT TIME

@marcogutierrez2688 Ай бұрын

🙌🏼🙌🏼

@Star-dj1kw Ай бұрын

✅

@nimics Ай бұрын

How do u convince people to try therapy? I know some people who have some distrust in therapists or think that it wouldn’t work for them even though they never tried. They’re kinda emotionally walled off and overplay the stoicism which I feel harms them in the long run

@wannabehuman Ай бұрын

Not a therapist but these are my two cents. People are going to do things that work for them or that they get value out of. Maybe try to find out why they’re resistant to therapy and address those things, show them that it is compatible with their priorities, or find alternative options for better emotional health (especially if they’re not ready for therapy but might be ready for smaller steps!) If they are the kind of person who undervalues emotional health and processing, they won’t see the importance of therapy in the first place, so you may have to give more practical or individualized reasons for valuing emotional health. Maybe show how it has helped you or others, without making them feel judged. To a certain degree though, you can’t make people try therapy until they’re ready I think you can help steer them towards it, plant the idea in their mind, be supportive, etc. but you can’t make the choice for them. There are other things they can try more independently if they’re not ready for therapy, which can still help.

@benduncan4027 Ай бұрын

Intro music changed

@SageGrove Ай бұрын

Do most therapists go to therapy themselves?

@PeppiCry Ай бұрын

well at least in some countries they have to do it to have an opportunity to work since they mustn't project their own trauma on a client no matter how small it is

@mallyb132 Ай бұрын

Yes a lot of them do and are open about it

@amitshridhar Ай бұрын

@gothboschincarnate3931 Ай бұрын

Well you didn't teach me anything new. its taken me 6 years to meditate, connect to Karra, Donna Douglas and Heather O'Rourke, process past, present and future. You call yourself a Dr. ...but your missing a few elements.